Ukujongana noKutyumza emsebenzini-Ukuphatha njani Ukutyumza kuMntu osebenza naye

Ngaba uhlala ujikeleza kwigumbi lokuphumla, ngethemba lokuba umntu omnye angangena ukuze ube nencoko? Mhlawumbi uzimisele ukuqhuba iimayile ezi-5 ukusuka kwindlela yakho, ukuze ukwazi ukukhwela imoto ukuze usebenze nalo gxa wakho. Ngaba unxibe iimpahla zakho ezilungileyo ukuze usebenze ngesiquphe? Ukuchukumiseka kumntu osebenza naye kunokukwenza oko kuwe. 

Kwaye ukuba usebenza ekhaya, mna nawe sobabini siyazi ukuba ekuphela komntu omjongileyo kuyo yonke intlanganiso yeZoom ngulo msebenzi unawo. Ngequbuliso, ukuvula iikhamera zakho kwintlanganiso yomsebenzi akubonakali ngathi yeyona nto imbi. Uphando luka-2022 oluvela kuMbutho woLawulo lwezaBasebenzi (i-SHRM) lwafumanisa ukuba ama-33% abasebenzi base-US baxela ukuba babandakanyeka ngoku okanye bebebandakanyeka kuthando emsebenzini - umyinge we-6 ekhulwini ngaphezulu kunangaphambi kobhubhani we-COVID-19 (27%). 

Ke ngaba ukuthanda kwakho umntu osebenza naye kukuqala kwento entsha? Okanye yinto eza kukuthoba? Ukuhamba kumanzi amdaka okukhulisa iimvakalelo kumntu osebenza naye kunokukushiya udidekile. Makhe sijonge into ekufuneka uyenzile, ngoncedo lweengcali ezintathu, ukuze ungagqibi ukufumana ileta evela ku-HR malunga nokungabi namsebenzi.

Iimpawu Zokuba Unengxaki Yomntu Osebenza Naye

Yibambe nje umzuzu. Ngaphambi kokuba sixoxe ngendlela esinokumjika ngayo umamkeli-zindwendwe uPam abe nguPam, kufuneka uqale uqonde ukuba ubuzaza kangakanani lo msebenzi wakho wokutyumza. Kwakhona, ukuqinisekisa ukuba awuwedwa kule nto, ngokutsho a isifundo, abona bantu kujoliswe kubo ngokutyumza amaqela ngamaqela yayingabahlobo, oontangandini basesikolweni, abantu osebenza nabo, nezinto ekujoliswe kuzo njengabantu abadumileyo. 

"Ndinomdla kumntu endisebenza naye, ndicinga ukuba undincumele izolo xa sinqumla iindlela," unokucinga, ukupheka i-rom-com encinci entloko yakho. Nangona ungenguye umntu ofikisayo, intabatheko ayisosifo esichaphazela abaselula kuphela. Mhlawumbi ubukele nje uJim kunye noPam ekugqibeleni bephuzana emva kwamaxesha angenasiphelo entando yabo / abayi kuyenza imeko, kwaye ngoku banqwenela into enye.

Ukutyumza emsebenzini kunokuba yinto oyifumanayo ngokukhawuleza, njengelo xesha ulibale ukudibanisa kwi-imeyile yakho kathathu ngokulandelelana. Okanye, banokuba nzulu ngokwaneleyo ukwenza loo ntlanganiso ibalulekileyo, izayo ibonakale ngathi ayisenamsebenzi; eyona nto ibalulekileyo ngulomntu umngxameleyo. 

Ngokutsho isifundo, Abasebenzi kusenokwenzeka ukuba baxoke, bangathembi, kwaye bafumane oontanga abathandana nabo abaphetheyo abakhathaleli ngaphezu koontanga abathandana nabanye. Ngokucacileyo, 'ngubani' omthandayo okanye othandana naye uphembelela indlela ozibona ngayo izinto emsebenzini. Ke ukuqiniseka ukuba ayisiyiyo intabatheko onayo kwaye eneneni ifanelekile tyumza umntu, makhe sijonge ezinye zeempawu zokuba uyamthanda umntu osebenza naye. 

1. Ayisekelwanga kwizizathu ezibambekayo 

Ukuba ucinga ukuba unochuku kumntu osebenza naye ngenxa yokuba benxiba eso siqholo osithandayo okanye ngenxa yokuba besoloko beneenwele zabo ngendlela ethile, cinga kwakhona. Into eyahlula ukutyumza okudlulayo kwinto enento eninzi yinto oyithandayo ngobuntu bomnye umntu. 

Ukuba kungenxa yokuba zibukeka kakuhle kwaye zinxiba iimpahla ezintle, isenokungabi yeyona nto inamandla. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uthanda iinkalo ezininzi zobuntu babo kunye nothando lokuchitha ixesha kunye nabo, unokuba nento esezandleni zakho.

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2. Ukuba umdla wakho wezesondo wongezwa ngokunqula 

Ewe, uya kuba namaphupha ambalwa malunga nalo mntu ongabandakanyi iimpahla ezininzi. Kodwa ukuba ufuna ukwazi ukuba i-ofisi yakho ityumke ngaphezu kokuba ibonakala, fumanisa ukuba iqhutywa kuphela kukuthanda ukwazi ngesondo okanye ukuba kukho into eyongeziweyo yokunqula. 

Xa unokuthi ngokuzithemba uthi uyabuxabisa kwaye uyabuhlonipha ubuntu balo mntu, ngokuqinisekileyo kukho okungakumbi kuwo onke loo maphupha uhlala unawo. 

3 Ubazi ngokwenene

Ngaba ukhe waba nobudlelwane okanye wathandana nomntu, kuphela ukuba uqaphele kwiinyanga ezintathu kamva ukuba ayinguye ocinga ukuba babekho kwaphela? Ngokufuthi siyakwazi ukwenza ingcamango yokuba abantu banjani ezingqondweni zethu, size siphele sibatyumze ngokupheleleyo. 

Ukuba awukhange uwenze isithixo umfanekiso walo msebenzi utyumke entlokweni yakho kwaye uyazi ngokwenene ukuba banjani, ngokuqinisekileyo kuvakala ngathi yeyona nto iyiyo. Ukuba ufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo nasemva kokwazi ukuba ngamanye amaxesha bacaphuka bahlafuna ukutya bevule umlomo, le ndawo yokusebenzela ilapha ukuhlala. I umahluko phakathi kothando nentabatheko kunokuba lula ukuyibona.

4. Unokucinga ubudlelwane kunye 

Kwaye siqinisekile ukuba sele unayo. Lwalunjani olo hambo lumnandi oluya eVenice nomsebenzi wakho wokutyumza, owenze entlokweni yakho, udlale? Ngaba uphupha ngokulala ecaleni kwalo mntu, ubukele iNetflix ngeCawa emva kwemini? Ubethiwe, kungekhona into eyedlulayo. 

5. Ufuna ingqwalasela yeofisi yakho 

Siqinisekile ukuba uthenge impahla entsha eninzi, izihlangu zakho zicocekile kwaye usoloko unxibe laa perfume/cologne intsha. I-wardrobe yakho ixhamle ngokuqinisekileyo koku kutyumza kumntu osebenza naye (nangona iakhawunti yakho yebhanki isenokungonwabi kakhulu). Usenokuzama ukungena kuloo nto utyumza indawo yakho yokusebenza, ngoko uhlala unento yokuthetha ngayo. Xa uzama ukufumana ingqalelo yabo ngenyameko, ngokuqinisekileyo luphawu ukuba unochuku kumntu osebenza naye. 

Ebalisa usizi lwakhe lokufumanisa iimpawu zomyeni wakhe athandana nomntu asebenza naye, u-Chelsea, umrhwebi we-stock market ovela e-Philadelphia, uthi, "Kwaye kwacaca kakhulu. Iihempe ezintsha, i-cologne entsha, i-hairstyle, imincili eqhubekayo, ukuphepha rhoqo kwexesha losapho kuba "kukho umsebenzi omninzi eofisini".

Enoba akutshatanga okanye utshatile, qiniseka ukuba uvakalelwa njani ngalo mntu kuqala. Nje ukuba uyenzile loo nto, singadlulela kwizinto onokuzenza ngayo. 

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Kulungile, ngoko unochuku kumntu osebenza naye. Siva intlungu ngapha kwesikrini. Ulapha ukuze ufunde indlela yokujongana nokutyumza emsebenzini ngaphandle kokukuvumela ukuba kukuqhubele phambili. Ke masijonge ngqo kuyo: uneendlela ezimbini ongakhetha kuzo. Unokuzama ukulandela oku kutyumza emsebenzini, okanye ungafumana indlela yokuphuma kuyo. Ukwenza isigqibo malunga nento ofuna ukuyenza ukuya phambili, kufuneka uzibuze imibuzo emininzi: 

• Ikhona i umtsalane omnye komnye?
• Ngaba ezi mpawu zingasentla ezibonisa ukuba uyamthanda umntu osebenza naye ziyasebenza kuwe?
• Ngaba uqinisekile ukuba asiyontabatheko yokwexeshana?
• Uthini umgaqo-nkqubo wendawo yakho yokusebenzela kuthando lweofisi?
• Ngaba umsebenzi wakho uya kuba semngciphekweni ukuba uyawusukela?
• Ngaba le ndawo yokusebenzela ichaphazela kakubi imveliso yakho? 
• Ucinga ukuba wena nalo mntu ningafanelana? 
• Ngaba abangatshatanga kwaye bayafumaneka? 
• Ngaba awutshatanga kwaye uyafumaneka? 
• Ngaba niyahambelana? 

Ngokusekelwe kwiimpendulo ozinikezile, mhlawumbi unombono ongcono wento omawuyenze ngokulandelayo. KUKHO umgca wesilivere ophambi kwabo bathanda umntu osebenza naye okuthanda ngokwenene! Kodwa isilumkiso esifanelekileyo: Eli candelo alinalo ithemba. Siza kuthetha ngendlela yokuphelisa iimvakalelo zakho, sigxininise kwisizathu sokuba uthabatheke kumntu osebenza naye kwasekuqaleni, kwaye uqonde kwaye ujongane neemvakalelo ezisemva kwayo, ngakumbi kwimeko ephazamisayo apho unomntu osebenza naye xa utshatile.

Ukunceda koku, sizise kuwe izimvo zeengcaphephe zabasebenzi abathathu bempilo yengqondo kunye nomcebisi wezomthetho. Ngaphambili, kwiincoko kunye ne-Bonobology, babelane ngendlela yokusingatha ukutyumza komsebenzi xa ingasakwazi ukuqhubeka kwindlela yokugula.

Xa uthandana nomntu osebenza naye kodwa utshatile

Ingqondo Gopa Khan wabelana ngeengcamango zakhe ngemeko apho uthabatheke khona kumntu osebenza naye xa nitshatile okanye nithandana: “Xa unxulumano neqabane lakho lusiva, kulapho usenokuba sesichengeni kwaye unokutsaleleka kwelinye ‘elinokuba liqabane.’ Zihlolisiseni ukuba iimfuno zenu ziyahlangatyezwa emtshatweni. 

Kutheni le nto kunzima kangaka ukwahlukana nomntu osebenza naye? Wathi, “Xa usenziwa uzive ‘ulungile’ ngesiqu sakho, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukumjonga ngendlela eyakhayo loo mntu uze uqalise ukuba neemvakalelo ngaye.” Ngaphezu koko, ubabona phantse yonke imihla, kwaye ukuqhelana kuzala uthando. Uphando luyibiza ngokuba yi isiphumo sokusondela njengoko kukho unxibelelwano oluhle phakathi kwexesha elichithwe kunye kunye nomtsalane phakathi kwabantu.

UGopa uthe, "Ukuvuma iimvakalelo zakho kwiqabane lakho kunye nawe linyathelo lokuqala malunga nendlela yokufumana i-crush kumntu osebenza naye. Ukuba ufuna i-crush yam emsebenzini, ngoko umgama yeyona ndlela yokuphelisa ezi mvakalelo. Zoba imida kwaye unciphise ukusebenzisana kwakho nalo mntu. Lumka malunga iimpawu ezixubileyo kwakhona, musa ukuvumela omnye umntu acinge ukuba unomdla. Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka uphephe ukubonakala unomdla ukuba ufuna ukufunda indlela yokujongana nomntu osebenza naye onobudlelwane okanye otshatileyo. "

Ngomyalezo wethemba, wongeze wathi, “Njengalo naluphi na olunye uhlobo lonxibelelwano lomntu, abantu osebenza nabo bayafa ngokuhamba kwexesha ukuba awubahoyi ngenkuthalo. 

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Indlela yokujongana nentloko etyumkileyo

Ngoko ngaba ufanele ungamhoyi ngokupheleleyo umntu xa umbona emsebenzini? Ivakala njengengcebiso evakalayo malunga nendlela yokufumana ngaphezulu kokutyumza kweofisi. Kodwa nali icala le-flip njengoko kwabelwana ngalo ngengcebiso yesayikholoji UMnu Amjad Ali Mohammad. Wathi, “Ukungayihoyi into yokuthabatheka kunokuhamba ngeendlela ezahlukahlukeneyo.

Wongeze wathi, “Nantsi indlela yokufumana i-ofisi: Phucula ubomi bakho kunokuba befuna ukuziphindezela okanye ukuba krakra. Yinyamekele impilo yakho. Zama ukomelela ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo. Cinga ngonyango ukuba ucinga ukuba lunokunceda. Zithembe kwaye ukhumbule ukuba ulunge ngakumbi kunale meko ilucelomngeni.”

Esongeza kwicebiso lakhe elibalulekileyo emsebenzini, uAmjad wathi, “Ukuba nobabini nifuna ukuthandana, kulungile. indlela yokuyeka ukubathanda kodwa nihlale ningabahlobo, okanye kufuneka utshintshe indlela ocinga ngayo uze uhambe.” Sazibuza ukuba, kutheni kunzima kangaka nje ukuphumelela umntu osebenza naye Kuyabonakala ukuba, ukuphupha kakhulu emini ngokutyumza abantu osebenza nabo kwenza kube nzima ngakumbi ukuba uphuphe kwiinjongo zakho zobomi kunye nemisebenzi ebalulekileyo yemihla ngemihla enjengomsebenzi wakho, umsebenzi, imfundo, intsapho, njl.

Jongana nezinto ezisemthethweni zokutyumza kwakho

Ngoku makhe sive ukuba yintoni na Shweta Luthra wayethetha ngemiba esebenzayo yokubathanda abantu osebenza nabo. Ungumcebisi wezomthetho kwimiba yeSexual Harassment kunye nocalucalulo emsebenzini. Uyachaza, "Ukuba uthando / uthando lwezesondo luvela kumntu osebenza naye osebenza naye ngokusondeleyo, kukho uloyiko lwezinto ezinokuthi zibe nzima emsebenzini, kwaye ingcinga eninzi ingena kwindlela engcono yokuthi hayi. Ngoku khawufane ucinge ngemeko apho umphathi wakho okanye umphathi onika ingxelo ekwenza oku kwangaphambili. Ukongeza kubunzima, kukho uloyiko olongezelelekileyo - lokuziphindezela, hayi ukuba uqalise ukucinga ngemeko enjalo emsebenzini. ukwenza, emva koko ungayenza njani ngaphandle kokuchaphazela umsebenzi wakho? " 

Ukunqanda iingxaki ezisemthethweni kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba uzifaka kwi uthando lwemvumelwano emsebenzini, nantsi into eyacetyiswa nguShweta ngendlela yokusingatha ukutyumzwa komsebenzi: “Imvume mayibe cacileyo kwaye ibe nomdla. umbutho ngenxa yenkqubela yakho engamkelekanga efikelela kwi-Sexual Harassment Basenokuthi bathathe amanyathelo asemthethweni ngakuwe.

Ngaba ukuthathele ingqalelo konke oku? Ngaba inkampani yakho iyakuvumela ubudlelwane emsebenzini? Kwakhona, ngaba uqinisekile ukuba awumthandi umntu osebenza naye osebudlelwaneni? Ukuba uziva uzithembile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ulandele oku kutyumza kumlingane wakho, funda uqhubeke.

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Ke, uthathe isigqibo sokuba le ndawo yokusebenzela ayiyonto onokuthi uyifumane ngokukhawuleza. Ufuna ukuthatha umngcipheko kwaye utsibe ngeenyawo zombini. Uza kucela umntu osebenza naye, nokuba kunzima kangakanani na ukuba kunokwenzeka kamva. Kodwa inye ingxaki: awuqinisekanga ukuba leliphi inyathelo lokuqala. 

Ungakhathazeki, kulapho singena khona. Makhe sijonge into ekufuneka uyenzile, ukuze ungabi sizathu sokuba iofisi iphela ichithe emva kwemini ngoMgqibelo kwisemina emalunga nobudlelwane obungafanelekanga emsebenzini. 

1. Zilumkele iimpawu abakuthandayo 

Izinto zokuqala kuqala, zama ukujonga izinto utyikitya osebenza naye ukuba uyakuthanda. Oku akuyi kukunika ingcamango engcono yamathuba akho, kodwa mhlawumbi uya kuziva uzithembe ngakumbi xa usondela kubo kwixesha elizayo. UShania, umhombi waseOhio, ubalisa ngamava akhe okuba nochuku kumntu asebenza naye, “Kwakungafanelanga ndisebenze noDiego kuyo nayiphi na iprojekthi, kodwa ndiye ndafumana utyando kwiprojekthi yam olwalulungelelaniswe nobuchule bakhe. ngaphandle kwakudala!”

Ngoko ngaba bafumana izizathu zokudibana nawe? Mhlawumbi bajongana nawe ixesha elide emehlweni ngoxa ukunye. Ngaba baqalisa incoko baze bacele “ukuzixhoma” kamva? Ukuba iimpendulo zonke zilungile, ukutyumza kwakho umntu osebenza naye kunokuba kunye (iminwe iwele!)

2. Musa ukungena kuyo yonke imipu ivutha 

Intsingiselo, yiba nobuqili kwindlela ojongana ngayo nale nto. Ukuba ugqabhuke kwi-ofisi yabo kwaye ubabuze ngomhla ngaphandle kokuseka ubudlelwane nabo kuqala, yonke into oza kuyifumana yileta yokuphelisa, kungekhona umhla wekofu kunye nomsebenzi wakho wokutyumza. 

Kuninzi okulahlekileyo apha (masingalibali ukuba le ndawo iyakuhlawula, kwaye ufuna imali ukuze uhlale uphila). Ngoko musa ukwenza naziphi na izigqibo ngokukhawuleza; zama ukuseka ubudlelwane nalo mntu kuqala.

3. Misela isiseko kwaye useke unxibelelwano

“Yenza ubudlelwane” kuvakala kulula ephepheni, kodwa kunzima kakhulu xa kusenziwa. Ukuba awukho kwimibandela yokuthetha ngolu hlobo lomsebenzi, kubalulekile ukuba ufike kuqala ngaphambi kokuba uthathe inyathelo elilandelayo. 

Bonisa izinto abanomdla kuzo, kwaye uqalise incoko ngesipholile samanzi. Ngaba ungumlandeli omkhulu we-Star Wars? Uyayazi ngcono imilinganiselo yeNkwenkwezi ngentloko. Ngaba konke malunga noMdlalo weZitrone? Lixesha lokufunda imephu yeWesteros kwaye uyazi ngcono kunedolophu yakho. 

4. Yithethe ngolwimi lwakho lomzimba 

Xa utsaleleka kumntu osebenza naye, umzimba wakho uya kuthetha nawe. Kodwa ukuba ufuna ukuyenza icace ngakumbi, kuninzi onokukwenza ngolwimi lwakho lomzimba. Kunokuba udlale ngothando ngokuphandle, zama ukuyekelela kuko ngokubonisa iimpawu zomzimba ezakhayo. 

Ukudibana kwamehlo okuninzi, uncumo lokwenyani, iingalo ezinganqunyulwanga, kunye nokuma okumemayo kunokwenza lukhulu kuwe kunokuba wazi. Ukuba uhlala umi phambi kwabo ngeengalo ezinqamlezileyo kunye neentshinga ebusweni bakho, masithi awufumani mbhalo emva. 

Zama ukuba ungabi nobuhlobo kakhulu ngaphandle kweblue, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ungabi ngumzimba ngaphandle kokuba ufuna ukuxelwa. Iimpazamo zolwimi lomzimba emsebenzini zinokuba yi-deal-breaker. Qinisekisa ukuba ubonakala ungonwabanga kangangoko kunokwenzeka xa unochuku kumntu osebenza naye.

5. Babuze 

Uye waseka unxibelelwano, ungene kwizinto abazithandayo nabangazithandiyo, ubonise kuphela olona lwimi lungcono lomzimba onokuthi nalo kwaye zonke iimpawu zijongeka zithembisa. Kulungile, inye kuphela into eseleyo yokwenza ngoku: babuze. 

Siyazi, siyazi, kubonakala ngathi yeyona nto inzima emhlabeni. Kwaye ngesizathu esihle, kwakhona. Kuninzi okusemngciphekweni apha, kunikwe indlela izinto ezingathandekiyo ezinokubakho ngayo ukuba umsebenzi wakho wokutyumza uyala unikezelo lwakho. 

Ukuze uzinike elona thuba lifanelekileyo, musa ukubuza lo mntu ngaphambi kwexesha. Zinike ixesha, misela ubudlelwane obuhle - ngaphakathi iziqhulo kunye nazo zonke - kwaye uzame ukubacela ukuba basele isiselo esiqhelekileyo emva komsebenzi ekuqaleni. Ngubani owaziyo, yonke into inokuwela nje endaweni. Kodwa ukuba uthe wagqiba ekubeni uqale ukutyhutyha umntu osebenza naye, funda phambili.

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Ukufumana ngaphezulu kweCrush kuMsebenzi osebenza naye

Ukuba uye wafikelela kwisigqibo sokuba kukho kakhulu emngciphekweni apha kwaye ekuphela kwendlela yokujongana nokutyumza emsebenzini kukufumana phezu kwabo, ukhule ngakumbi kunabaninzi. Kusenokuba imeko yakho kukutyumza icala elinye (njengoko kuqhele ukuba njalo), okanye usenokuba uphuhle ukuthabatheka kugxa wakho osebenza naye kubudlelwane. Makhe sijonge izinto ekufuneka uyenzile ukuze ufunde indlela yokuphelisa ukutyumza umntu osebenza naye: 

1. Yamkela ukuba ayizukwenzeka 

Ukuzixelela ukuba "ayizukwenzeka" ngelixa ujonge ngokupheleleyo lo mntu xa encuma kuwe umzuzwana ayizukukwenza okulungileyo kakhulu. Xa wenze isigqibo sokuba kufuneka uqale ukufumana ngaphezulu kokutyumza kumntu osebenza naye, yamkele loo nyaniso ngokupheleleyo. 

Ngelishwa, awukwazi "ukuvuleleka kuyo nantoni na eyenzekayo." Oko kuya kukushiya ujinga ngelixa utyumza umsebenzi wakho uzama ukufumanisa ukuba kutheni ungaqhelekanga. 

2. Thetha nomhlobo

Ngamanye amaxesha konke okudingayo luthando olunzima. Kwaye ngubani ongcono ukufumana ithamo lothando olunzima ngaphandle komhlobo wakho osenyongweni, obesoloko ekulumkisa ngale crush emsebenzini ukusukela oko wachitha iimbotyi?

Kunzima ukuginya ipilisi xa umhlobo wakho osenyongweni esithi, “Bendikuxelele,” kodwa iya kukunika imbono eyahlukileyo kwizinto. Thetha nabantu abangenayo imbono ecalanye ngale meko, kuya kwenza izinto zibe lula. 

3. Zihlukanise nomsebenzi wakho wokutyumza

Ukuba, ngelishwa, usebenza ngokusondeleyo nalo mntu, ukuba kude naye kunokuba ngumngeni. Nangona kunjalo, zama ukungazibandakanyi kwincoko de kwaye ngaphandle kokuba kufuneka. Yixhathise iminqweno yokuhlala ecaleni kwabo kwindawo yokutyela kwaye ungabathumeleli imiyalezo emva komsebenzi. 

U-Oliver, oneminyaka engama-27 ubudala ofunda eColorado, wabelana ngemeko egqithisileyo yokucaphuka kugxa wakhe. Ukhumbula xa kwafuneka awuyeke umsebenzi wakhe ngenxa yeemvakalelo zakhe ezingayekiyo. "Andizange ndikwazi ukunyamezela, uyazi? Andizange ndigxininise. Wayetshatile kwaye ndandisazi ukuba akukho ndlela eya phambili kuthi. Wayekwiqela lam kwaye kwakufuneka ndimbone yonke imihla. Kwakubuhlungu. Ndaqala ukukhangela omnye umsebenzi, kwaye kwiinyanga ezi-3 ndandiphuma apho. Yayiyinyathelo elihle, ndaziva ndingcono ngokwenene kwinyanga enye. "

4. Gcina ubungcali 

Uyazi ukuba yintoni eshushu? Ukudlala ngothando, mhlawumbi ukuchukumisa okumbalwa kumqolo ongezantsi. Uyayazi into engekho shushu? Molo emva kwemini, Jacob. Ndiyathemba ukuba le imeyile iza kukufumana usempilweni entle. 

Eyona ndlela ilula yokufumana ukutyumza umntu osebenza naye kukuba ngoochwephesha kakhulu kunye nokubangqongileyo. Ekugqibeleni, baya kufumana ingcebiso kwaye baqonde ukuba ulapha nje ngenxa yokunyusa, kungekhona ukwenza abahlobo. 

5. Buyela phaya phandle

Ngaba uyaziqonda indlela yokujongana nokutyumza? Ngaba uyafuna ukudlula kuzo kwaye uqhubeke nobomi bakho? Kukho le nto imangalisayo eyayiyilelwe ukufumana uthando, kodwa idla ngokusetyenziswa ngabantu abafuna i-rebounds kunye neentsuku ezimbalwa ezimbi zokuqala: ii-apps zokuthandana. 

Ukuba unokujongana neefoto zabantu abanezinja ezingezozabo kunye ne-"Hey!" imiyalezo, ukuzibeka ngaphandle kunokuba yindlela enkulu yokujongana nokutyumza umntu osebenza naye. Mhlawumbi uya kufumana umntu ongcono.

Ukutsaleleka kumntu osebenza naye yinto abantu abaninzi abadlula kuyo. Inxalenye enika umdla yile iza emva kokuba beqaphele ukuba bayamtyumza lo mntu. Nokuba ugqibe kwelokuba uyijike kwaye ubabuze okanye uthathe isigqibo sokurhoxa, siyathemba ukuba eli nqaku likuncedile. Sibonane kwakhona, kwixesha elizayo xa uthandana nomntu osebenza naye omtsha.

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