Ndenza Njani Ukuba Umntu endisebenza Naye Ayeke Ukudlala Ngam? — Ibali Eliyinyaniso

Mna noMelissa besisebenza kwiofisi enye malunga neminyaka emithandathu ngoku. Njengomhlobo wakhe osenyongweni (ndingathanda ukucinga ukuba yinyaniso leyo) , ndisoloko ndingumfana oza kuye ukuze afumane iingcebiso ngezinto avakalelwa kukuba ziya kumkhathaza ngokungeyomfuneko umyeni wakhe. Ngoko, ngenye imini xa wandibuza ukuba “Ndingenza njani ukuba umntu endisebenza naye ayeke ukundincwasa?”, ndamangaliswa kuba yayiyinto endandingayilindelanga.

Kodwa, njengomhlobo wakhe osenyongweni emsebenzini, ndandifuna azive ngathi ukwindawo ekhuselekileyo. Ngaphezu koko, ndandimazi kakuhle umyeni wakhe yaye ndandingafuni ukuba esi sibini sihle sityhubele kwinto enje. Kodwa, ngenye imini entle, wathi kum “Umhlobo wam oyindoda uhlala endibetha!” kwaye, xa ndambuza ukuba ngubani, yayingumntu ovela kwiofisi yethu.

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Ndikhumbula usuku lomtshato wabo ngathi bekuyizolo. Wayenxibe igawuni yomtshato yepesika engu-A ehambelana nesimbo sakhe kakuhle. Umtshato wawuyindibano elula yabahlobo abasenyongweni kunye nosapho kuphela. Ebezama ukwehlisa iinyembezi xa bendiqala ngqa ukubona umsesane wakhe. Yayingumsesane ogqibeleleyo wosuku olugqibeleleyo. I-solitaire enkulu emnyama emenyezelayo kwiminwe yakhe ethambileyo emide. Kangangeveki, seva amabali eringi nendlela eyayimvuyisa ngayo.

“Indikhumbuza ngaye qho xa ndijonga iringi sisikweko sethu uthando lokwenyaniso endinxiba njengelitye elinqabileyo. Kodwa ngokucacileyo ngaphezu kweqhekeza lezacholo kum. Ichaza umtshato wethu, owaqala ngomtshato olula”, watsho kum ejonge phantsi.

Sele kudlule iminyaka emithathu ukususela kusuku lomtshato wabo. Usawuphethe lo msesane entliziyweni nasemnweni. Namhlanje ukudibana kwam naye, kule mizuzu ilishumi idlulileyo ebefaka umsesane ewukhupha umnwe. Ndaqonda ukuba ikhona into emphazamisayo. Emva kwemizuzu embalwa, andizange ndikwazi ukumelana nokumbuza ukuba yonke into yayilungile na ebomini bakhe bomtshato. Ndiyazi ukuba kukho into ekukhathazayo, aninonwabanga na?

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Waphendula wathi yonke into ihamba kakuhle emtshatweni wakhe, kwaye akukho ngxaki apho. Kodwa ndandisazi ukuba kukho enye into eyayisenzeka yaye ndandifuna ukwazi.

Ndamcinezela ukuba andixelele ukuba kwenzeka ntoni

Ndanyanzelisa kwaye ekugqibeleni, wathetha, “Umyeni wam yindoda enobubele nethobekileyo kwaye ndikwimeko umtshato owonwabileyo. Undithanda njengoko wandenza ngosuku lokuqala sigqibe ekubeni sibe kunye. Ndiyazibuza ukuba ingaba bonke abantu banokufana kusini na. Undixelele ukuba kukho umntu asebenza naye osebenza kwelinye isebe lemfundo yethu.

“Kuthekani ngaye?” Waphendula wathi, “Sekudlule unyaka ngoku sazana, undazi ngaphakathi, ndandicinga ukuba yinto nje yakhe yokuhlekisa kodwa ngoku iya isiba mandundu kule mihla. Ndifuna ayeke ukundincwasa.”

Ndiye ndanqanda, “Yintoni le undongameleyo?

“Ewe, unguye! Uyayazi indlela endimthanda ngayo umyeni wam nendlela endiziva ndingakhululekanga ngayo xa amanye amadoda edlala ngothando nangokuthetha ngam.

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Ndamcebisa ukuba angqale

Ndabuza, “Kutheni ungazange umxelele ngokuphandle nje?”

Wathi, “Ngumntu osele ekhulile noyena ubalaseleyo kwiziko lemfundo. Nawe uyayazi loo nto. Ndimhlonela ngokunyanisekileyo ngomsebenzi wakhe namandla akhe. Andifuni kuthetha nantoni na eza kumenzakalisa okanye ndisebenzise nayiphi na imiphumo ekrwada ngokudlala ngothando. isikhumbuzo sozuko lwakhe kodwa akayeki ukundilandela.”

Ngaba ukhe wayonwabela? ukudlala ngothando okunempilo?” Ndibuzile.

Uye wothuka xa ndisitsho kuye. “Ndikubuza ukuba ungamenza njani umfana ayeke ukukuncwasa kanti ulapha undixelela ukuba ayinabungozi?Ndiyawazi umahluko phakathi kwento engenabungozi nengeyiyo”, watsho ngelizwi elicaphukayo.

Wahlabela mgama esithi: “Ngubani ongayifuniyo ingqalelo kancinane? Kodwa andizange ndiqonde ukuba ukunikela ingqalelo encinane kunokujika kube ngumtsalane oyingozi.” Ekuqaleni, andizange ndikuthabathe nzulu oko.

Wayengayazi indlela yokujongana nomntu odlala ngothando waza wammemela kwisidlo sangokuhlwa

“Umemile, yintoni!” Ndasabela. Melissa, awuyazi indlela yokujongana nomntu odlala ngothando. Kwakutheni ukuze wenze loo nto?

“Ewe, ndiyazisola ngoku, akwaba ebebona nje ukuba akukho umtsalane omnye komnye Apha. Kodwa phulaphula ngenyameko ngoku. Ndammemela kwisidlo sangokuhlwa ngobunye ubusuku. Wayenobubele kakhulu kwaye esesikweni ngobo busuku. Ebethetha nomyeni wam ngokungathi ngumntu osebenza naye onobuhlobo. Ndandiqala ukumbona ephucuke ngolu hlobo. Ngalo lonke elo xesha, wayeme umgama omalunga neemitha ezimbalwa kum. Wakhetha isitulo kwelinye icala letafile yokutyela endaweni yokungcungcuthekisa ecaleni kwam njengoko ebesoloko esenza kwindawo yokutyela.

“Umyeni wam wayechukumiseke gqitha yindlela awayeziphethe ngayo nentlonelo awayenayo kumphathi nabafazi asebenza nabo. Ngobo busuku, ndaqonda ukuba uziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo kum xa sisemsebenzini. Uqhula iziqhulo ezingcolileyo maxa wambi ezikrwada nezingenamda. Ngoko ndandisazi ukuba akusekho ukudlala ngothando.”

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Akazange avume ukumxelela waza waba nenye imbono

Oko bekuya kulonakalisa igama lam mhlawumbi nobomi bomtshato.

“Ucinga ntoni ke wena?Uzomphepha?Nokuba ebengakuncwasanga ndingathi nguye. uhlobo lwendoda ekufuneka uyiphephe.” Ndacebisa.

“Ndiyitshintshile iscreensaver seselfowuni yam ndayifaka umfanekiso womyeni wam, ndiza kuyigcina imowudi yescreensaver ngalo lonke ixesha sihleli phantsi ukuze sithethe, mhlawumbi loo nto ingamnqanda,” utshilo.

Ucinga ukuba ingaba luncedo njani loo msesane xa umsesane wakho omenyezelayo ungenalo neqhinga? Ndafinga intshiya.

"Awusoze wazi. Ngamanye amaxesha amadoda angamadoda nje. Abakuhoyanga ukubaluleka kweringi kwaye bacinge ukuba liqhekeza lezacholo. Mhlawumbi isidenge sesixhobo sokukhusela isixhobo singasindisa uxolo lwam," wanyusa amagxa.

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