Izinto Eziyi-10 Okufanele Uzenze Uma Ucabanga Ngesehlukaniso

Uma ucabanga ngesehlukaniso, cishe ugcwele ukudideka futhi uguquguquka ngokungakhethi. Noma ukuphithizela phakathi kwemicabango ethi, “Ngifuna isehlukaniso” kanye nokuthi “Angazi nokuthi ngingayicabanga kanjani impilo ngaphandle komngane wami womshado”. Phela, isehlukaniso siyisinqumo esishintsha ukuphila, futhi nakanjani akufanele sithathwe kalula noma sisekelwe ekuthandeni. Ukucabanga ngesehlukaniso kungavusa imicabango eminingi evame ukungqubuzana.

Uma ucabanga ukuhlukanisa, ungase uzithole uhlukene phakathi kokuthi ifs and buts, whys, and maybes. Uyazi ukuthi udinga isehlukaniso. Sekunesikhathi eside umshado umile. Kodwa kuthiwani ngezingane, umkhaya wakho, ukuphila ozakhele kona, nokucwaswa emphakathini okungenzeka ubhekane nakho? Ingasaphathwa eyethusayo ithemba lokuhlukanisa impilo yakho neyowakwakho futhi uqale phansi. Kuvamile ukuthi labo abacabangela ukuqeda umshado bacashe ngemicabango enjalo futhi baqhubeke behlala emshadweni ongajabulisi.

Yiqiniso, kunohlu olude lwezinto okufanele uzicabangele lapho ucabanga ukuthi uzosihlukanisa nini futhi nini. Phakathi kwazo kukhona neqiniso elingephikwe lokuthi impi ethathe isikhathi eside ingakuqeda amandla ngokomzimba, ngokwezimali, ngokwengqondo, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ngokomzwelo. Ukusiza ukwenza isinqumo sibe lula kakhulu, silapha ukuze sikutshele ukuthi wenzeni uma ucabanga ngokudivosa ngokubonisana nommeli. Siddhartha Mishra (BA, LLB), ummeli osebenza eNkantolo Ephakeme yaseNdiya.

Kunini Isehlukaniso Siyimpendulo Elungile?

Uma umyeni wakho noma unkosikazi uyahlukumeza noma omunye wabangane bomshado uyakopela, kunesizathu esizwakalayo sokuqeda umshado. Ngokufanayo, uma oshade naye enenkinga yokulutheka futhi enqaba ukuthola usizo, isehlukaniso singase sibe yimfuneko ukuze uzivikele. Ezimweni ezinjengalezi, ukucabanga ngesehlukaniso kuyaqondakala ngokuphelele futhi kuyathetheleleka, futhi cishe uzothola ukwesekwa kubangani bakho, umndeni, kanye nobathandayo ukuze uqhubeke nesinqumo sakho.

Kodwa-ke, ukuguquguquka kobudlelwano akuhlali kumnyama nokumhlophe. Futhi ukuhlukumeza, ukulutheka, nokungathembeki akuzona kuphela izizathu ezenza abantu bakhethe ukuqeda imishado yabo. Kusukela ekucasukeni kuya ezidingweni ezingahlangatshezwana nazo, ukukhula ngokwehlukana, nokuwa othandweni, kungase kube nezinye izici eziningi ezingenza isehlukaniso sibonakale siyisiphakamiso esingcono kunokuhlala unamathele ebuhlotsheni obungafezisi.

Nokho, into ewubuqili kungase kube nzima ukuthola ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuqeda ubuhlobo bakho noma kukhona okwengeziwe ongakwenza ukuze uphumelele umshado wakho. Uma ubuzibuza ukuthi, “Ingabe kufanele ngihlukanise?” Nazi izeluleko ezimbili ezibalulekile esikuphathele zona:

Ungamane ugijimele kuyo

Uma oshade naye enze okuthile okukuzwise ubuhlungu ngokujulile - ngokwesibonelo, ukukopela noma ukufihla imininingwane ebalulekile ngempilo yakhe, kukushiya unomuzwa wokuthi awumazi nhlobo umuntu oshade naye - ukuhamba kude nomshado kungase kubonakale kuwukuphela kwendlela yokubhekana nesivunguvungu semizwa esisanda kukushaya.

Nokho, ukuthola isehlukaniso akufanele kube yisinqumo esingokomzwelo, kodwa kube isinqumo esinengqondo. Kungakho kuhle ukuthi ungaxhamazeli uthathe leso sinqumo lapho imizwa ishuba. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isimo sibi kangakanani, zinike isikhathi sokubamba imizwa yakho ngaphambi kokwenza lesi sinqumo esishintsha ukuphila. Ngaphambi kokuba ubize umqeqeshi wedivosi noma ummeli wesahlukaniso, cabanga isikhathi eside futhi kanzima mayelana nokuthi ufuna ngempela ukuhlukana nomngane wakho womshado, umshado wakho, nempilo enayakhe ndawonye.

Cabangela ukwelulekwa kwabashadile kuqala

Ngaphandle uma uyisisulu sokunukubezwa ngokomzimba, ngokocansi, noma ngokomzwelo, isehlukaniso kufanele kube yisinyathelo sokugcina - ocabanga ukuthi ususebenzise zonke izindlela zokuhlenga umshado wakho. Enye yezindlela ezinjalo ukufuna ukwelulekwa kwabashadile. USiddhartha uthi, “Njengoba isehlukaniso singasenandaba, inani lemibhangqwana elephula izifungo zalo zomshado liye landa.Nakuba imibhangqwana eminingi esemasha izimisele ukulungisa ubuhlobo bayo, kusenenani elikhulu labantu abalahla imishado yabo ngaphandle kokucabangela ukuthola usizo oludingekayo ukuze baxazulule izinkinga zabo.

“Lapho ucabanga ukuqeda umshado, khumbula ukuthi ayikho into okuthiwa isehlukaniso esingenabuhlungu. Njengommeli, ngeluleka imibhangqwana ukuba ingangeni odabeni olubuhlungu noluqeda amandla lokuhlukana. Kodwa okungimangazayo, ezikhathini eziningi, inhloso kuwukuthola amandla ngaphezu komngane womshado, ngenxa yokuthi imibhangqwana ivame ukuhileleka ezinsolweni nasezindabeni eziphikisayo.”

Lapho ucabanga ngakho ukuyibiza kuyaphela emshadweni wakho, qiniseka ukuthi uqiniseka ngo-100% futhi uyaqiniseka ukuthi lena inketho ekulungele wena. Futhi ungalokothi usebenzise i-D-igama njengosongo olungenalutho ukuze wenze umlingani wakho ashaye ulayini bese ebuyela ezingalweni zakhe ngokushesha nje lapho ethobela. Ilulaza yonke indaba kakhulu. Futhi-ke, kulimaza impilo yengqondo yawo wonke umuntu ohilelekile.

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Ungayithola Nini Imibuzo Yesehlukaniso

Ngaphambi kokuthi singene enkingeni yenqubo yesehlukaniso, kubalulekile ukucacisa ukuthi ngabe yisinqumo esilungile yini kuwe. Nini ukuthola isehlukaniso, kuya ngokuthi ukuliphi iphuzu ebudlelwaneni benu. Ingabe yiphuzu lapho izinto zisengalungiswa khona? Noma ingabe usesigabeni lapho umonakalo ongenakulungiseka owenziwe khona? Thatha le mibuzo ukuze uqonde kangcono:

1. Ingabe uyaqiniseka ukuthi owakwakho akasakuthandi? Yebo Cha
2. Ingabe ubusuku bezinsuku nesikhathi sekhwalithi sekuyizinto zesikhathi esidlule ebudlelwaneni bakho? Yebo Cha
3. Ingabe usesigabeni sokukhohlwa imigubho nezinsuku zokuzalwa? Yebo Cha
4. Wake wazizwa sengathi umngane wakho womshado ukuxhaphaza ngokomzwelo? Yebo Cha
5. Ingabe owakwakho wake wakuhlukumeza ngokomzimba? Yebo Cha
6. Ingabe uzinzile ngokwezimali futhi uvikelekile ngaphandle komlingani wakho? Yebo Cha
7. Ingabe umlingani wakho uyazitika ngotshwala noma izidakamizwa? Yebo Cha
8. Ingabe wena nomngane wakho womshado nisahlanganyela ukusondelana ngokobuhlakani? Yebo Cha
9. Ingabe umlingani wakho wake wakukhohlisa? Yebo Cha
10. Uke wamkhohlisa umlingani wakho? Yebo Cha

Ukuhlolwa kwale mibuzo kulula kakhulu. Uma uphendula ngokuvumayo, kulapho ubuhlobo benu buba senkingeni ejulile. Manje njengoba sesidlulile ukuthi kufanele ucabange nini ngokudivosa emshadweni wakho wesikhathi eside kanye izizathu zokuhlukanisa, ake siqhubeke siqonde ukuthi leyo nqubo injani ngempela.

Izinto Eziyi-10 Okufanele Uzenze Uma Ucabanga Ngesehlukaniso

Asikwazi ukukutshela ukuthi yikuphi okulungile noma okungalungile kuwe, kodwa singakusondeza ekuqondeni ongase ukufune. Uma ungeke ukwazi ukususa umcabango wokuthi udinga ukudivosa kodwa wesaba ukuthatha isinyathelo kulowo mcabango, landela lezi zinyathelo ezingu-10 ukuze uthole ukucaciseleka mayelana nokuthi kufanele kube yini inkambo yakho yesikhathi esizayo:

1. Ingabe ikhona indlela yokusindisa umshado?

Umshado wakho ungase ube isiphithiphithi nganoma yisiphi isizathu. Yingakho usucabanga nokuhlukana nomuntu osuhlale naye iminyaka. Kodwa akwenzekanga ngosuku olulodwa. Uma uke wabona iphethini yokungaphenduleki kwezezimali kowakwakho noma ukungathembeki noma nje ukuthi anisathandani, ingabe isehlukaniso ukuphela kwempendulo yakho?

Uma ucabanga ngokuqeda izinto nomngane wakho womshado, phinde ucabange: Ingabe uke wakuveza okukukhathazayo koshade naye? Uke wabatshela ukuthi ukuziphatha/izenzo ezithile ziyithinta kanjani impilo yakho yengqondo? Ingabe uke wacabanga ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe noma ukuya ekwelashweni njengombhangqwana? Nakhu okungenzeka uma ungacabangi lezi zinto:

• Icala: Ukufaka isehlukaniso ngaphambi kokuzama lungisa umshado wakho izokushiya ugcwele umuzwa wecala onganyakazi ozofika ukuphathe kabi ekugcineni
• Ukuzisola: Uma ukuphila kwakho ngemva kwesehlukaniso kungabi kuhle njengoba ubucabanga, kuzodingeka uphile ngokuzisola ngokudedela ingxenye ebalulekile yempilo yakho inqobo nje uma usaphefumula.
• Akukho ukuvalwa: Ungase ubhajwe ku-loop yokuwafuna bese uwashiya futhi. Okubi nakakhulu, ungase ufune ukubuyelana nabo futhi bangase bangasakufuni, okungase kuphazamise kakhulu ukuzethemba kwakho nempilo yengqondo.

Uma ufuna ukuhlukanisa nalo muntu kodwa wesaba kakhulu ukugxuma, kuyithuba elihle lokuzikhumbuza ukuthi ukuqeda umshado kufanele KUHLALE kuyisinyathelo sokugcina. Ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokufonela lowo mqeqeshi wedivosi, cabanga isikhathi eside futhi kanzima ngalokho okufunayo.

2. Ufuna ukudivosa? Khuluma nothile

“Umyeni wami ucabanga ukungishiya futhi nami ngicabanga ukuthi iyona ndlela engcono kakhulu kithi.” “Ngiyesaba ukutshela umyeni wami ukuthi ngifuna isehlukaniso.” “Ngifuna isehlukaniso kodwa umkami akakwazi ukuzondla, kusho ukuthi kufanele ngihlale emshadweni ongajabulisi?” Imicabango eminingi edidayo njengale ingase ifiphaze ukwahlulela kwakho lapho ususondele ekuhlakazweni komshado. Enye yezindlela ezehlukene zokubhekana nalokhu ukuthulula isifuba kumuntu.

• Khuluma nomuntu onengqondo: Zama ukuvula ngezinkinga zakho kumuntu ongathatha ukuma okungachemi
• Cabangela ukwelashwa: Ukukhuluma nomelaphi kungakusiza ukuthi uxazulule inkinga edidayo yemicabango yakho futhi uthole ukucaciseleka kokuthi yini oyifunayo ngempela
• Iba nengxoxo nabangani bakho: Indlela elula iwukukhuluma nabangani bakho abaseduze. Qaphela ukuthi uhamba bani ngifuna iseluleko kusuka ngoba akuwona wonke umuntu ohlomele ukukunikeza izeluleko ngaphandle kokuchema noma ukwahlulela

“Indlela yakho engcono kakhulu yokufuna umbono kachwepheshe ongaveza izinzuzo nezingozi zesehlukaniso njengoba zinjalo.

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3. Cabanga ngezingane zakho, uma unazo

“Mina nomkami sase sinqume ukuqhubeka nesehlukaniso futhi kakade sase sihlala ngokwehlukana cishe izinyanga ezingu-6. Kwathi ngolunye usuku ngezwa indodana yami eneminyaka engu-7 ibuza umzala wayo, “Ingabe uyazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze uma abazali bakho befuna ukudivosa? Nginovalo lokuthi ubaba angakhohlwa yikho konke ngami.” Khona-ke, saqaphela ukuthi wayeba nenkinga yokungingiza Ukuze simsindise kulo lonke usizi, sanquma ukunikeza umshado elinye ithuba,” kusho uBob, uchwepheshe wezokumaketha ohlala eNew York.

Ububi be izimpi zokugcinwa kanye nokuhlukumezeka okungokomzwelo nangokwengqondo izingane ezibhekana nakho lapho abazali bazo bedivosa kumelwe kucatshangelwe futhi kuxoxwe ngakho ngokufanelekile. “Isehlukaniso asiqedi nje umshado kodwa futhi siwubhidliza umkhaya.” Kukhona ukuhlobana okuqinile phakathi kwesizinda somkhaya nezinkinga ezinjengobugebengu, ukuhlukunyezwa nokunganakwa kanye nokulutheka.

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4. Qala ukonga

Ingabe kufanele ngithole isehlukaniso, uyabuza? Nokho, kuphela uma uzimisele ukubhekana hhayi nje kuphela nesiyaluyalu esingokomzwelo kodwa nobunzima obungokwezimali obuhambisana nakho. Ngaphandle kwezinqubo zomthetho nokuqasha ummeli - kokubili okudinga isamba esikhulu semali - udinga futhi ukuthi uqale ukonga imali ukuze uziphilise ngemva kokuhlukana nowakwakho. Kungase kudingeke nokuba uthole umeluleki wezezimali ukuze alungise izinto.

Ingabe uhlose ukuphuma endlini ohlala kuyo nomngane wakho womshado? Uma kunjalo, udinga ukuthola indawo yokuhlala. Futhi, imali ewuketshezi yokondleka kwansuku zonke. Ukuvula i-akhawunti yokonga ukuze nje isetshenziswe ngemva kwesehlukaniso kuyindlela enhle yokuqala eyakho impilo ngemva kwesehlukaniso. USiddhartha uthi, "Uma ubona izimpawu ezicacile zokuthi usukulungele isehlukaniso ngemva komshado wakho wesikhathi eside, kubalulekile ukuthi uqale ukuhlanganisa izimali zakho ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukucaciseleka ngesimo sakho sezimali nowakwakho. Lokhu kuhlanganisa izikweletu, izimpahla, ukonga, nemali engenayo. "

5. Qala ukufuna ummeli wedivosi

Akubona bonke abameli abazonikeza iseluleko esifanayo. Noma ngabe unommeli womndeni, kuyinto enhle ukuzama ukubavimba ukuthi bangangeni kulo. Uma usacabanga ngesehlukaniso futhi ufuna ukubonana nommeli ukuze nje wazi ukuthi yiziphi izinketho zakho, ukuletha ummeli womndeni wakho kungacisha izinsimbi kungenasidingo.

Uma usabambe ongezansi ngalesi sinqumo futhi ubhekene nezinkinga ezinjengokuthi “Ngiyesaba ukutshela umyeni wami ukuthi ngicabanga ukuthi ngifuna isehlukaniso” noma “Ngicabanga ukuthi ngifuna isehlukaniso kodwa umkami akakwazi ukuzondla, kufanele ngisisingathe kanjani lesi simo?”, kungcono kakhulu ukufuna iseluleko kuchwepheshe ongaxhumene nomndeni wakho nganoma iyiphi indlela.

• Thatha isikhathi sakho ukuthola ummeli wesahlukaniso: Yenza ucwaningo oluphelele uwedwa bese ungena ngemvume kubameli abathathu kuya kwabane abanombono wabo ohambisana kangcono nezidingo kanye nemigomo yakho. Isibonelo, uma ufuna ukuwina okuqinisekile futhi ungenandaba noma owakwakho ulimele ekupheleni kwesikhathi eside, ungaba ngcono ngokukhetha umuntu onerekhodi elihle lokuwina.
• Okubizayo akuhlali kuhle kakhulu: Ukuqasha abameli ababizayo kungase kungabi yisinqumo esingcono kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma isehlukaniso singase sibangele ukushoda kwemali okukhulu
• Ungacabangi nje ngokuwina: Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kufanele ucabange ngempilo yakho ngemuva kwesehlukaniso. Ukuchitha imali kummeli obizayo kungakushiya ungenamali. Kungcono uku khetha ummeli wesahlukaniso efanele izidingo zakho zezezimali, ezingokomthetho, nezomzwelo

6. Yeka noma yiziphi izimemezelo zangaphambi kwesikhathi mayelana nesehlukaniso

Lesi isiphetho somshado. Akudingekile ukusho, impilo yakho izoba isiphithiphithi esiyinkimbinkimbi okungenani ngekusasa elibonakalayo. Ngakho-ke, gwema isilingo sokutshela abangani nomndeni wakho ukuthi ucabanga ngedivosi ngaphambi kokuba konke kulunge. Abantu abaningi bazozama ukuthola imininingwane ngomshado wakho obhidlikayo futhi bawusebenzise njengenhlebo ngesidlo sabo sangeSonto.

Ngisho nabakufisela okuhle ngeke bakwazi ukukusiza wenze isinqumo sakho. Ngakho-ke ungahambi ubuza wonke umuntu ongayedwana omaziyo, “Ingabe kufanele ngihlukanise nomlingani wami?” noma “Mina umfazi akahloniphi kimi, kufanele ngimshiye, akunjalo?" Akuwona wonke umuntu oyoba lapho ngenxa yakho ngendlela okufanele noma aqonde ngayo isimo sakho.

Kodwa khumbula ukuthi awudingi ukuzwelana nanoma ubani. Udinga ukucabanga uqonde futhi uthathe izinyathelo eziqinile. Ngaphandle kwalokho, uma usuneminyaka ufuna ukuhlukanisa nalo muntu futhi ekugcineni usunqume ukuqhubeka nakho, zonke lezi zeluleko ongacelwanga zingakushiya udidekile futhi.

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7. Funda ngayo yonke imithetho yedivosi

Yebo, udinga ukuqonda uhlelo lwezomthetho ukuze uthole umphumela omuhle kakhulu empini yesehlukaniso. Udinga ukufunda ngezizathu zokufuna ukuchithwa komshado, ikakhulukazi uma lokhu kungeke kube umshado. ukwehlukana phakathi. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi uzulazule kangcono kuyo yonke inqubo yesehlukaniso. “Uma umngane womshado kunguye yedwa owondla umndeni futhi omunye edele umsebenzi wakhe ukuze anakekele umndeni, maningi amathuba okuthi ijaji linikeze isondlo nesondlo ezimweni ezinjalo,” kusho uSiddhartha.

Ngokufanayo, uma umngane womshado ephathwa ngonya emshadweni, unelungelo lokuthola imali yesondlo. Ngokunjalo, uma unezingane, kuba semqoka ngokufanayo ukufunda ngamalungelo okugcina izingane kanye nohlelo lwezomthetho uma kuziwa ekuhlukaniseni umuntu othile.

8. Ziqhelelanise nenkundla yezokuxhumana ukuze uthole impilo yakho yengqondo

Lokhu ngeke kugcizelelwe ngokwanele - gwema isilingo sokukhuluma ukhuluma ku-inthanethi noma uhlazeke/ukhulume kabi oshade naye endaweni ebonakalayo. Isehlukaniso kanye nenkundla yezokuxhumana kungaba yingxubevange eguquguqukayo uma ingaphathwa ngokuvuthwa. Khumbula ukuthi izinkundla zokuxhumana akuyona nje indawo yokwazisa noma ubani ngezinkinga zomshado wakho noma iqiniso lokuthi uyabhidlika.

Ukuhambisa ilineni lakho elingcolile esidlangalaleni kungaba nemiphumela engemihle, uma futhi uthatha isinqumo sokuhlukanisa nomlingani wakho futhi ubhajwe empini yezomthetho naye. Kungumqondo omuhle futhi ukuhlanza inkundla yakho yezokuxhumana kunoma yikuphi okuthunyelwe lapho i-optics ingalungile. Kungase kuzwakale njengomsebenzi omningi, kodwa uma ucabangela ukuthi ukugada okuncane kungakubiza malini, kuwufanele kakhulu.

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I-9. Zinakekele

Ukudlula isehlukaniso kuyinto ebuhlungu futhi kungaba esinye sezigaba eziyinselele kakhulu empilweni yakho. Yingakho nje udinga ukubeka phambili ukuzinakekela futhi usebenzele ukugcina okwakho ingqondo ehlanzekile ngesikhathi sesehlukaniso. Nazi ezinye izindlela ongazinakekela ngazo ngenkathi ubhekene nokuhlukumezeka kwesehlukaniso:

• Zibekele isimiso futhi unamathele esimisweni sakho ukuze ugweme ukushibilika kuleyo ndawo eyingozi lapho uvumela usizi ukuba lulawule bese uvele uyeke.
• Zibekele isikhathi sezinto ozijabulelayo - kungaba yinoma yini kusukela ekubhakeni ukuya ekugibeleni ibhayisikili ukuya ekuqwaleni izintaba noma ukumane uzigoqe ngencwadi ekupheleni kosuku olude.
• Ungayeki ukuhlanganyela nabangane bakho kanye nabathandekayo bakho
• Yenza umzamo wokuphinde uxhumane nabangane bakudala nomndeni owandisiwe, njengoba usunesikhathi esengeziwe
• Yakha indawo yokuzivocavoca ohlelweni lwakho - udinga lawo ma-endorphin azizwa emuhle ukuze ulwe nenkinga obhekene nayo.
• Yidla kahle futhi unake inhlalakahle yakho ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo

10. Qala ukucabanga ngempilo yakho ngemva kwesehlukaniso

Ungahlali uphika iqiniso lempilo yakho ngisho usubona izimpawu zokuthi usukulungele ukwehlukanisa. Cabanga ukuthi uzolithenga kanjani ikhaya elisha. Uzothola ukwesekwa kwengane (izingane)? Uzokwazi ukukhulisa ingane uwedwa? Ungakwazi yini ukunakekela igrosa, izikweletu, ukubhanga, ukutshalwa kwezimali, kanye nemfundo yezingane uwedwa?

"Kuwumqondo omuhle ukubhala le micabango bese ulungiselela uhlelo lwempilo oluqinile lwempilo yakho ngemva kwesehlukaniso. Ukuhlola okungokoqobo kokuthi impilo izoba njani ngemva kwesehlukaniso kungakusiza ukuba uhlehlise noma yiziphi izinqumo ezisheshayo," kweluleka uSiddhartha.

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Okufanele Ukwenze Uma Ucabanga Ngesehlukaniso 

Uma ususithathile isinqumo mayelana nokubhekana nesehlukaniso, ungase uzithole usuthola izeluleko eziningi ongazicelanga, eziningi zazo ezingashayisana. Akulula ukuhlunga iseluleko esifanele olwandle lwemibono, imibono, neziphakamiso. Ukusiza ukuhlukanisa ukolweni namakhoba, ummeli uSiddhartha Mishra unikeza amathiphu angasebenza kulabo abacabanga ngesehlukaniso:

1. Ukulamula kwesehlukaniso

Akuwona wonke amadivosi afika ezinkantolo bese kubangwa. Okuphikiswayo kusho ukuvela ezinkantolo njalo kanye nokulahlekelwa izinsiza zezimali futhi kungcono kugwenywe. Zama ukukhetha ukulamula kwesahlukaniso noma isehlukaniso ngokuvumelana ukuze yonke inqubo ibe lula kini nobabili.

2. Lungisa amaphepha akho

Thola amaphepha akho ezezimali nawezomthetho uma ucabanga ngedivosi. Ukuhleleka ngalezi zinto kuzokwenza izinto zibe lula kuwe. Cabanga ngokuthola umeluleki wezezimali futhi, uma ungenalo ulwazi oludingekayo ukuze wenze izinqumo zezezimali ezihlakaniphile.

3. Akekho owinile ocacile

Noma ngabe isehlukaniso esibangwayo noma ngokuvumelana, akekho ophuma engumnqobi ngempela. Ungase ugcine usukhokha imali yesondlo esincane noma yesondlo kodwa, ngesikhathi esifanayo, ube namalungelo alinganiselwe okuvakasha. Uwina okunye, ulahlekelwe okunye.

4. Gcina izingane kude nezinkinga

Ungadonseli izingane empini, ukhulume kabi phambi kwabo noma uqhubeke nokulwa phambi kwabo. Ukungaboni kahle phakathi kwakho nomngane wakho womshado kungase kubhebhethekise isimo esibi imiphumela yesehlukaniso ezinganeni.

I-5. Qiniseka

Isilingo sokufihla ukutshalwa kwezimali noma izimpahla singaba ngokoqobo njengoba uzithola ufisa ukuvikela isithakazelo sakho esingokwezimali ngesehlukaniso. Kodwa-ke, ukunikeza ulwazi olungamanga ngenqubo yezomthetho kungaba nemiphumela emibi futhi kube nemiphumela emibi. Kungcono ukwethembeka kummeli wakho kanye nowakwakho.

6. Ungalawulwa imizwelo

Kungokwemvelo ukuba imizwa yakho igcwale yonke indawo lapho ubhekene nesehlukaniso. Kodwa ungavumeli ubuhlungu, intukuthelo, ubuhlungu, kanye nomuzwa wokulahlekelwa kuvimbele ukuqonda kwakho nokucaca komcabango. Isehlukaniso sizoguqula impilo yakho ibe phansi, futhi awudingi ukuphuphuthekiswa yimizwa ukuze ukwazi ukuqoqa izingcezu futhi uqale kabusha.

7. Gcina umbhalo walokho konke ukuxhumana kwakho nowakwakho

Gcina umkhondo futhi ugcine irekhodi lakho konke ukuxhumana phakathi kwakho nowakwakho ngemva kokuba isinqumo sokuhlukanisa sesiwujuqu. Lokhu kubandakanya izincwadi, izingcingo, ukusebenzelana kwenkundla yezokuxhumana kanye nezingxoxo ezenziwa mathupha. Lezi zingabonakala ziyizikhali ezibalulekile ekuqiniseni icala lakho, ikakhulukazi uma kukhona noma yiluphi uhlobo lokuhlukumeza noma usongo oluhilelekile.

Imithetho yesehlukaniso iyehluka kuye ngamazwe. E-India, ukuhlala ngokwehlukana kuyadingeka ngaphambi kokufaka isehlukaniso. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, emazweni amaningi ase-US, ukwehlukana ngaphambi kwesehlukaniso akudingekile. Kwezinye izindawo, isivumelwano sokuhlukana senziwa kuphela ngemva kokufakwa kwesehlukaniso. Ngakho-ke yazi amalungelo akho angokomthetho futhi uthathe izinyathelo zakho ngokufanele uma ubona izimpawu zedivosi zingenakugwenywa.

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