Idivosi iletha izikhathi ezinzima kubo bobabili abalingani. Ubhekana nokucindezeleka okukhulu ngokomzwelo ukuze uzame ukuhlukana nomshado ngokomthetho futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo uqinisekise ukuthi naphezu kokuhlukana uvikelekile ngokwezimali esikhathini esizayo. Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uyakuthola okufunayo, indima yommeli wedivosi osezingeni eliphezulu ibaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuthi ukhethe ukungenela umncintiswano noma ufuna ukwehlukana ngokuvumelana ngokuthatha iseluleko sommeli omuhle wedivosi kuhlale kusebenza.
Uma usuthathe isinqumo sokuhlukanisa, isinyathelo esilandelayo ukuthola ummeli wedivosi omuhle. Manje lokhu kungase kube inselele enkulu, njengoba ukuthola ummeli wedivosi omuhle eNdiya kungase kubonakale kuwumsebenzi onzima. Ufuna abe njani ummeli wakho wedivosi? Ufuna ukuthola ummeli wesahlukaniso othembekile, ongakunikeza isikhathi nokunaka ukuze uqonde izindaba zakho.
Abesifazane bavame ukufuna ummeli wesehlukaniso ozobasiza bathole isixazululo esingcono kakhulu se-alimony. Iningi labesilisa nabesifazane abakhetha isehlukaniso bafuna ummeli ongeke angene empini ende, ongathanda ukubanika impumuzo esheshayo futhi ukuxhaphaza amakhasimende abo kungaba yinto yokugcina engqondweni yabo.
Ummeli uSiddhartha Mishra uthi, "Ummeli omuhle wezehlukaniso uzoba ohlakaniphile futhi ovuthiwe futhi ozwela ezindabeni zabo bobabili abathintekayo. Kudingeka abe nezinga elithile lobuqotho ukuze aqonde ukuthi amaklayenti abhekene nani futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo awabonise isithombe esingokoqobo."
Kodwa bewazi yini, uma ungamtholi ummeli ofanele, ungase ulahlekelwe yimali eningi nesikhathi futhi wenze inqubo ibe nzima nakakhulu? Ngisho noma bobabili abalingani benquma ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo zedivosi, okuhlanganisa ukugodlwa kwengane kanye nokuhlukaniswa kwempahla, kuwumqondo omuhle ukubonisana nommeli wedivosi onekhono.
Indlela ekahle yokuphuma kulesi simo esiwubuqili ukuthola ummeli wesahlukaniso ofanele eNdiya, ekuqaleni. Ngakho-ke manje kufanele ukuthi uyazibuza ukuthi yiziphi izinto okudingeka uzikhumbule ngokuqasha ummeli wesahlukaniso.
Ungase ungabi sesimeni sezimali ukuze uqashe ummeli obizayo, empeleni ukhokhe izindleko zommeli nhlobo. Uma kunjalo ungakhetha ummeli we-pro bono ozohlinzeka ngemisebenzi yakhe mahhala kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi bazokwenza noma yimuphi umsebenzi omncane. Ake sihlolisise inqubo iphuzu nephuzu.
Ulilungiselela Kanjani Icala Lakho Lesehlukaniso
Okuqukethwe
Lapho ukhetha ummeli, qala uqonde izinto eziyisisekelo. Ukwenza isehlukaniso kuyisinqumo sakho futhi ummeli uzovele akweseke kulolu hlelo. Uma ucabanga ukuthi uzohola ekuhlakazweni komshado kusho ukuthi unephutha. Ummeli uzovele asekele izinqumo zakho ngobuhlakani bakhe obusebenzayo nobuhlakani bomthetho obusebenzayo.
Ngaphambi kokuqasha noma yimuphi ummeli, qala uhlaziye isimo esikhona, okuhlanganisa nobukhulu bomehluko emshadweni. Ummeli noma ngisho nezinkantolo zingakutshela ukuthi ukhethe ukwelulekwa ngomshado bese ubona ukuthi ukungezwani kwakho kungaxazululwa yini.
Ngokuvamile abantu bagcina sebefuna isehlukaniso bethukuthele begane unwabu noma ngenxa yezindaba ezingathi shu njengokuhona noma ukungakwazi komkakhe ukupheka kahle. Uma kunjalo ukwelulekwa kwabashadile kuyasiza. Ummeli onekhono uzocela ukuthi ukhethe ukwelulekwa kuqala futhi ungafaki isehlukaniso ngokushesha.
Ukuze ulungiselele isehlukaniso into yokuqala okufanele uyilungiselele uhlu lokuhlola isehlukaniso. Uzoqonda kahle ukuthi kungani ufuna isehlukaniso nokuthi yiziphi izinyathelo okudingeka uzithathe ukuze usilungiselele.
E-India udinga ukuhlala ngokwehlukana okungenani izinyanga eziyi-6. Kuleso sigaba sokuhlukana kufanele uzame ukuhlanganisa ukungezwani kwakho ngokwelulekwa. Uma lokho kungenzeki ungafaka isehlukaniso.
Uke wazama ukuhlanganisa ukungezwani kwakho nomlingani wakho?
Ucwaningo mayelana necala lakho ku-inthanethi, okuhlanganisa nemithetho yesehlukaniso lapho 'iZenzo Zomshado' ezifanele ezisemthethweni, ezifana ne-Hindu Marriage Act 1955, Special Marriage Act 1954, Muslim Personal Law in India.
Amaphuzu Okufanele Acatshangelwe Lapho Ukhetha Ummeli Wecala Lesehlukaniso
Kunezinto eziningi okufanele zicatshangelwe lapho ukhetha ummeli. Kwesinye isikhathi okudingayo umbhangqwana umuntu ozobaqondisa futhi abasekele kulolu hlelo. Njengoba usulilungiselele icala lakho, 'okulindelekile okucacile ecaleni' kungenza izinto zibe lula ngenkathi ukhetha ummeli ofanele.
Ufuna ummeli wakho wesehlukaniso abe njani? Uma ufuna nje ukuqedwa okuqinile ngaphandle kokuphikisana nanoma yiliphi icala, khona-ke ummeli ongakwazi ukusiza ukulamula kanye nokulamula uyisisetshenziswa esingcono kakhulu.
Kodwa-ke, uma bobabili abalingani bengakwazi ukufinyelela ukuvumelana ngesehlukaniso, khona-ke ukuphikisana necala ukuphela kwesixazululo esisele.
Izindaba ezinjengokuhlukaniswa kwempahla, isondlo sesondlo noma ilungelo lokuhlala nengane zingase zidinge ukuthi ukhethe umuntu osebenza kahle ezindabeni zezezimali eziyinkimbinkimbi.
Ucwaningo lwangaphambili, ukuhlaziya kanye nokucabangisisa ngesehlukaniso kungakusiza ukuthi wethule udaba lwakho kummeli ngokucacile nangokukhalipha okukhulu.
1. Sesha ezindaweni ezifanele
Qala ngokuthumela okuvela emndenini, abangani, nozakwenu. Lokhu kuzoba yindlela enhle yokwenza uhlu lwabameli abangaba abameli. Yenza ucwaningo lwakho, futhi uthole umuntu ongamethemba futhi ongamkhokhela. Ungase futhi 'u-Google' ngendlela yakho ngenkathi ucinga ummeli ofanele endaweni yakini futhi uhlole ukubuyekezwa kwabo ku-inthanethi noma izilinganiso.
Ezinsukwini zamanje, ezinye izinhlelo zokusebenza zeselula (i-Divorcikart) nazo zizama ukusula uthuli mayelana nezehlukaniso e-India ngohlu lwabameli bezehlukaniso endaweni yangakini. Uma usunohlu lwakho lwabameli bezehlukaniso abangaba khona, qala ngezingxoxo.
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2. Yazi ukuthi yimiphi imibuzo okufanele uyibuze lapho ukhetha ummeli wesahlukaniso
Umbono ofanele ngecala lakho unikeza ukucaciseleka okukhulu ngenkathi ukhuluma nabameli abaseduze kwakho. Ekhanda lakho, uyakwazi okulindele esahlukaniso futhi udinga ukusekelwa kwezomthetho kochwepheshe ngendlela yommeli wakho wesehlukaniso.
Ngakho, ukukhetha ummeli wesahlukaniso kuyisinqumo esibaluleke kakhulu. Yingakho udinga ukwazi imibuzo efanele okufanele uyibuze. Ungabuza mayelana nolwazi, okuhlanganisa ukuzizwisa kwesilingo sangempela. Imibuzo ebalulwe ngezansi ingakusiza futhi ukuthi uqonde ubuchwepheshe bommeli:
- Mingaki iminyaka usebenza njengommeli wesehlukaniso?
- Lingakanani izinga lakho lempumelelo, okungukuthi, irekhodi lakho lomkhondo ekusingatheni izehlukaniso?
- Mangaki amacala oke wawaphikisa/walamula/walamula kuze kube manje?
- Njengommeli, mingaki iminyaka yesipiliyoni sangempela sokuqulwa kwecala onamacala okuphikisa enkantolo?
- Ingabe unalo iqembu elenza amaphepha amaningi? Noma uzobe uphethe amaphepha amaningi wedwa?
- Ungalixazulula ngokushesha kangakanani icala? Uzosisingatha kanjani isimo, uma kukhona izinkinga ezingafuneki ezivela ngakolunye uhlangothi?
3. Bheka ukulalelisisa
Uma unethuba lokuhlangana nommeli wakho mathupha, ngaphambi kokuba umqashe, bheka izimpawu ezingase zibukeke njengamafulegi abomvu.
Qaphela ukuthi bayabachitha yini abanye abameli bezehlukaniso, badalula imininingwane eyimfihlo mayelana namanye amakhasimende, noma baphazamiseka kalula. Uma bebonisa amathonya amabi ekuqaleni, gwema ukubaqasha.
Ummeli omuhle wezehlukaniso uzophendula yonke imibuzo yakho ngesineke, ngeke afune ukukusheshisa esimisweni futhi ngolwazi lwakhe angakwazi ukukhomba izintuba endabeni yakho lapho izinto zingabambeka khona uma uhlela ukungenela umncintiswano.
Lokhu kusho ukuthi banikeze ukunakwa kwakho ngokushesha. Bazokwazi futhi ukukhomba konke okuhle nokubi kwecala emhlanganweni wokuqala kuphela, futhi bakuqondise endleleni efanele.
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4. Bheka izimali zommeli
Uthi bewazi? Izehlukaniso eNdiya zingaqhubeka iminyaka neminyaka. Izinqubo ezinwetshiwe zingakufaka isibojana ephaketheni lakho mayelana nezimali zommeli wesehlukaniso.
Ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuqasha ummeli, thola okwengeziwe ngokubonisana kwakhe kokuqala kanye nezimali eziphindaphindwayo. Ungaphuthelwa ukufuna ulwazi mayelana namaphepha engeziwe. Lesi yiseluleko esihle kakhulu sesehlukaniso esingasinika abesifazane . Ngoba ngowesifazane ovame ukuhanjiswa.
Ngokuvamile, abameli abanolwazi oluthe xaxa banamasheke okuhola amafutha. Ngakho, ngaphambi kokuqasha ummeli wesahlukaniso, nquma uhlaka 'lwemali' lwenqubo yesehlukaniso engenazihibe.
Futhi uma ungathola komunye umuntu ukuthi wake wazisebenzisa yini izinkonzo zakhe ngaphambili nokuthi uma ummeli wesahlukaniso efaka izindleko ezingalindelekile. Udinga ukukucabangela lokho futhi.
5. Ivumelana ngokushintshashintsha ngokuya ngezidingo zesehlukaniso
Uma uqasha ummeli wesahlukaniso, udinga ukubheka umuntu oqeqeshiwe futhi ongazami ukuba ngumelaphi wakho noma umeluleki wakho ukuze akukhokhele isikweletu sakho.
Ngokusekelwe emibuzweni eshiwo ngenhla, ungakhetha ummeli osebenzisa ingqondo futhi ovumelana nezimo ngokuvumelana nezidingo zecala.
Kungase kube nezimo ezingafuneki, endabeni yedivosi ephikiswayo. Ngakho-ke, ngenkathi ukhetha ummeli ongcono kakhulu endaweni yangakini, kufanele ukwazi 'ukumethemba' ngokuphelele.
6. Ungaqashi ummeli obiza kakhulu
Khetha ummeli ofinyeleleka kalula futhi oyisilaleli esihle. Ungamane uqashe ummeli onerekhodi lempumelelo elimangalisayo, kodwa onesikhathi esincane kakhulu sokukulalela.
Abameli abanjalo bangase badlulisele icala kwabancane benkampani yabo. Ngenxa yalokho, ungase ukhononde ngokuthi akalinaki ngokwanele icala lakho.
Abantu abaningi asebezakhele igama baqale bayaxhumana ezimisweni ezimbili zokuqala kodwa bagcine bengatholakali ngenxa yokuthi bakhulu kakhulu, bamatasatasa futhi usale ubhekana nabancane. Kugweme lokho.
7. Yiba obala kummeli wesahlukaniso
Ungamfihli lutho ummeli wakho. Khuluma ngezinkinga obunazo emshadweni, okuhlanganisa ukuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi, emoyeni noma ngokomzimba. Ummeli wakho kumele athembeke nakuwe akutshele ngokungananazi ukuthi umi kuphi ecaleni futhi angakukhombisi ithemba elingamanga.
Lokhu kucaciseleka kuzokusiza wena nommeli wakho nethule ingqikithi yecala eliphikisayo enkantolo ngamasu. Kungase futhi kuqinise icala lakho lesehlukaniso kumyeni/umkakho.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwethembeka kummeli wakho ngayo yonke imininingwane. Ummeli wakho kufanele futhi akwenze ukhululeke (athi ungowesifazane okhuluma ngokuhlukunyezwa kwakho ngokocansi nommeli wesilisa) futhi akuqinisekise izinga eliphezulu lobumfihlo.
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8. Ukhululeke ekuxoxiseni udaba lwakho
Ummeli wedivosi akayena umngane wakho, kodwa kufanele ukhululeke naye ngenkathi nixoxa ngemininingwane eyinkimbinkimbi yempilo yakho yomuntu siqu. Abameli abanozwela abangabalaleli abakhulu bangaqonda izinkinga obhekene nazo futhi bangakweseka ngezeluleko zabo zezomthetho ezisebenzayo.
Kodwa uma unomuzwa wokuthi ummeli uqeqeshekile kakhulu futhi unesimilo futhi awukhululekile ukuba nabo, ungahambi nabo. Lokhu kungase kukwenze uzizwe ungabaza ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi icala lakho lingase lihlupheke kakhulu.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nezinga lokunethezeka nommeli wakho. Eqinisweni, ummeli omuhle wedivosi uzophuma endleleni ukuze aqinisekise lokho.
Ingabe ngidinga ummeli wesehlukaniso uma sivumelana ngakho konke? Inkantolo yomndeni izokusiza ukuthi uthole isehlukaniso sakho ngesivumelwano sokubambisana kuleso simo futhi ungase ungadingi ummeli. Kodwa ukudlulisa konke ngommeli wesehlukaniso omuhle kuwumqondo omuhle ngoba ngeke kudingeke ubhekane nanoma yiziphi izinkinga zomthetho esikhathini esizayo ngoba bazokulungisa lokho ngaso leso sikhathi.
Ummeli omuhle wedivosi wendlalela inqubo yesehlukaniso engenamthungo kwabashadile. Kodwa isinqumo sokukhetha ummeli ongcono kakhulu sikuwe kuphela.
Ochwepheshe bethu bobudlelwano be -Bonobology banomuzwa wokuthi isehlukaniso singaba nzima kunoma yimuphi umuntu, futhi ummeli ongalungile angaphazamisa yonke inqubo yesehlukaniso.
Ngokufanelekile, kufanele ulandele intuition yakho kanye nezinyathelo ezibalulwe ngenhla zezinqubo zesehlukaniso ezibushelelezi ezizayo. Uma unokungabaza, ungaxhumana nochwepheshe bethu bobudlelwano ukuze uthole isiqondiso esiqondene nawe ngemithetho yesehlukaniso e-India.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
1. Ngimthola kanjani ummeli wedivosi eduze kwami?
Ungakwazi ukusesha ku-inthanethi abameli bezehlukaniso edolobheni lakho noma esifundeni sakho. Ungaphinda ucele izincomo kubangani, umndeni, noma abanye ochwepheshe.
2. Yini okufanele ngiyibheke kummeli wesahlukaniso?
Isipiliyoni, ubuchwepheshe, amakhono okuxhumana, ukuhambisana, kanye nezindleko ezizwakalayo.
3. Ubiza malini ummeli wesahlukaniso eNdiya?
Izindleko zommeli wesahlukaniso e-India zingahluka kuye ngobunkimbinkimbi becala lakho kanye nolwazi lommeli. Kubalulekile ukuthola izingcaphuno kubameli abambalwa ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo.
Imicabango Final
Ukukhetha ummeli omuhle wedivosi kuyisinqumo esibalulekile esingaba nomthelela omkhulu emphumeleni wecala lakho. Ngokwenza ucwaningo lwakho, ucabangele izidingo zakho nezinto ozikhethayo, futhi ukhulume ngokukhululekile nommeli wakho, ungathola ukumeleleka okungcono kakhulu kwesimo sakho.
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Umnikelo wakho awuyona iminikelo yokusiza . Kuzovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolusesikhathini njengoba sifuna ukusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.
Ngilwazisa kakhulu lolu lwazi. Izindaba ezingokomthetho eziphathelene nobuhlobo bomndeni, njengokutholwa, isehlukaniso, nelungelo lokukhulisa ingane, zisingathwa ummeli womndeni e-Bangalore. Abameli abenza umthetho womndeni bangamela amakhasimende abo ezinkantolo zomndeni noma ezingxoxweni ezihlobene nawo.
Ummeli womndeni e-Bangalore usingatha izindaba ezingokomthetho eziphathelene nobuhlobo bomndeni, njengokutholwa, isehlukaniso, kanye nelungelo lokugcina ingane. Abameli abasebenzisa umthetho womndeni bangamela amakhasimende abo ezinkantolo zomndeni noma ezingxoxweni ezihlobene nawo. Ukwengeza, bangabhala imibhalo yezomthetho ebalulekile njengezikhalazo zasenkantolo nezivumelwano zezakhiwo. Umkhakha wezomthetho womndeni uhlanganisa izinhlobonhlobo zezindaba, okuhlanganisa lezo eziphathelene nokunakekelwa kwengane ekungeyona eyakho kanye namalungelo okuzala. Kubalulekile ukuba nochwepheshe wezomthetho omethembayo eceleni kwakho uma kuziwa emthethweni womndeni ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi obathandayo bavikelekile futhi bayamelwa ngendlela efanele. Abameli bomndeni abahamba phambili base-Bangalore nguSonia nethimba lakhe. Unolwazi oluningi, ikhono, kanye nethalente.