Ukwelashwa kuvame ukubhekwa njengendlela yokugcina yobudlelwano obusenkingeni enkulu. Umbhangqwana ungase ulinde kuze kube yilapho izingxabano seziyinto evamile, ukwethembana sekubuthakathaka, noma ukuqhelelana ngokomzwelo kuzwakala kungenakwenzeka ukungakunaki ngaphambi kokucabangela ukwesekwa kochwepheshe.
Kodwa ukwelashwa kungafeza injongo ehluke kakhulu. Imibhangqwana akudingeki ibe senkingeni ukuze izuze ekufundeni indlela yokukhulumisana, yokusingatha ukungezwani, nokuqondana ngokucacile.
Izinkinga eziningi zobudlelwano ziqala buthule. Umlingani uzizwa engazwakali ngesikhathi sengxoxo. Ukungavumelani ngemali kuyaqhubeka nokuvela. Izingcindezi zomsebenzi zinciphisa isikhathi esihle ndawonye. Akekho umuntu ongase abone lezi zikhathi njengezingathi sína ngokwanele ukuze elulekwe, kodwa amaphethini aphindaphindwayo angakha kancane kancane indlela abalingani abaxhumana ngayo.
Ukufuna ukwesekwa kusenesikhathi kunikeza imibhangqwana ithuba lokubhekana nalezo zindlela ngenkathi kusekhona isifiso esihle sokusebenza nabo.
Ukwelapha Kungasiza Imibhangqwana Ukubona Amaphethini Ngaphambili
Enye yezinzuzo ezinkulu zokwelapha umbono oqondile. Uma abantu ababili bebambeke ekungavumelanini okufanayo, kungaba nzima ukubona iphethini eyisisekelo.
Isibonelo, omunye umlingani angase aphakamise ukukhathazeka, kuyilapho omunye ezivikela noma ehoxa. Umlingani wokuqala ube esecindezela kakhulu ukuze azwiwe, okwenza umuntu wesibili ahlehle kakhulu. Kungakabiphi, umbhangqwana uphikisana ngendlela abaphikisana ngayo kunokuxazulula inkinga yokuqala.
Udokotela wezifo zengqondo angasiza ekuboneni le mijikelezo futhi aqondise bobabili abalingani empendulweni ehlukile. Umgomo awukona ukunquma ukuthi ubani olungile. Ukusiza umuntu ngamunye aqonde ukuthi kwenzekani ngezikhathi ezinzima nokuthi yini engenza lokho kuxhumana kube ngcono.
Ukuthola usizo kusenesikhathi nakho kungenza ukwelulekwa kuzwakale kungesabisi kangako. Izinketho ezifana nokwelashwa okungabizi zingenza ukwesekwa kochwepheshe kube lula ukuhambisana nokuphila kwansuku zonke, kunokulinda kuze kube yilapho ubuhlobo bufika eqophelweni lokuphuka.
Ukwelashwa kusenesikhathi kungaba usizo ikakhulukazi uma abalingani bebona izimpawu ezifana nalezi:
- Ukungavumelani okufanayo kuyaqhubeka nokubuya ngaphandle kwesixazululo
- Umuntu oyedwa noma bobabili bagwema izingxoxo ezinzima
- Ukukhungatheka okuncane kuba ukugxekwa komuntu siqu ngokushesha
- Ozakwethu benza izibikezelo esikhundleni sokubuza ukuthi omunye umuntu usho ukuthini
- Umsebenzi, ukukhulisa izingane, ezezimali, noma imithwalo yemfanelo yomndeni idala ukucindezeleka
- Ukusondelana ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba sekuqalile ukushabalala
Akukho nokukodwa kwalokhu okubonisa ngokuzenzakalelayo ukuthi ubudlelwano buyaphela. Kungamane kubonise ukuthi umbhangqwana udinga indlela engcono yokuphatha izimo ezishintshayo.
Ubudlelwano Obuqinile Busadinga Amakhono Okuxhumana
Uthando alufundisi abantu ngokuzenzakalelayo indlela yokukhulumisana.
Abalingani bangena ebudlelwaneni benemilando ehlukene yemindeni, okulindelwe, imikhuba yokubhekana nesimo, kanye nemibono mayelana nokungqubuzana. Umuntu oyedwa angase afune ukuxoxa ngenkinga ngokushesha. Omunye angase adinge isikhathi eyedwa ngaphambi kokukhuluma. Ngaphandle kokuqonda lokho kungafani, impendulo ngayinye ingazwakala sengathi yenqatshwa noma ayihloniphi.
Ukwelashwa kudala indawo ehlelekile lapho abalingani banganciphisa khona lokho kusebenzisana.
Esikhundleni sokulungiselela impendulo ngenkathi omunye umuntu ekhuluma, imibhangqwana ingazijwayeza ukulalela ukukhathazeka okungaphansi kwamagama. Isikhalo ngemisebenzi yasekhaya, isibonelo, singase sibonise umuzwa wokungasekelwa. Impikiswano mayelana nokusebenzisa imali ingase ihilele ukwesaba mayelana nokuvikeleka, ukuzimela, noma ubulungisa.
Ukuqonda inkinga ejulile kungenza ingxoxo ibe nezithelo kakhulu.
Ukwelashwa kungasiza futhi imibhangqwana ukuthi ikhululeke kakhudlwana ekuxoxeni ngezihloko evame ukuzigwema. Ubulili, imali, ukukhulisa izingane, imingcele nezihlobo, imigomo yomsebenzi, kanye nezinhlelo konke kungadala ukungezwani lapho okulindelwe kungakhulunywa.
Ukukhuluma ngalezi zindawo ngaphambi kokuba intukuthelo yakheke kunikeza bobabili abalingani ithuba elengeziwe lokuxoxisana nokulungisa.
Ingxabano enempilo ingenye ikhono elingathuthukiswa. Ukungavumelani ngokwako akukubi ngempela. Okubalulekile ukuthi abalingani baziphatha kanjani phakathi nakho. Ukulalela, ukuhlala behloniphana, ukuma kancane lapho imizwa iba namandla, nokubuyela endabeni kamuva kungavimbela ukungezwani ukuthi kube ukuhlasela.
I-American Psychological Association yeluleka imibhangqwana ukuba ikhulume ngokukhululekile futhi iphawula ukuthi ukuziphatha okulimazayo njengokuklabalasa, ukugxeka umuntu, noma ukuhoxa ngesikhathi sengxabano kungalimaza ubudlelwano. Izindlela ezakhayo zigxila ekuqondeni umbono womlingani ngamunye kanye nokusebenzela ikhambi.
Yakha Ubuhlobo Ngaphambi Kokuba Budinge Ukulungiswa
Ukwelashwa akusho ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngokuphelele. Kungaba uhlobo lokulondoloza ubuhlobo, njengokuchitha isikhathi sokuqomisana, ukuxoxa ngemigomo efanayo, noma ukuhlola ukuthi umlingani ngamunye uzizwa kanjani.
Imibhangqwana ingasebenzisa ukwelashwa ukulungiselela umshado, ukujwayela ukuhlala ndawonye, ukusingatha ushintsho olukhulu lomsebenzi, ukuba abazali, ukuhlanganisa imindeni, noma ukucabanga kabusha ngemithwalo yemfanelo njengoba impilo ishintsha. Ukusekelwa phakathi nalezi zinguquko kungasiza ekuvimbeleni ukucindezeleka ukuthi kuphenduke inzondo.
Isikhathi esiwusizo kakhulu sokuqinisa ukuxhumana ngokuvamile ngaphambi kokuba abalingani bazizwe behlukene.
Lokho akusho ukuthi konke ukungavumelani kudinga ukwelulekwa kochwepheshe. Imibhangqwana isazoxazulula izinkinga eziningi yodwa. Ukwelashwa kuyafaneleka ukucatshangelwa lapho izindlela ezifanayo zibangela ukukhungatheka ngokuphindaphindiwe, izingxoxo ezibalulekile zigwenywa, noma abalingani bafuna nje amathuluzi aqinile okuhlala bexhumene.
Ukuqala ngokushesha nakho kungashintsha injongo yokwelapha. Esikhundleni sokuchitha isikhathi ngasinye uzama ukulungisa ubuhlungu obuqongelelekile, abalingani bangase babe nesikhala esiningi sokufundana, ukuqinisa imikhuba ekhona, nokulungiselela izinselele abangakabhekana nazo okwamanje.
Ubudlelwano obuqinile abulona obungenazo izingxabano. Buyibo lapho bobabili abantu benezindlela zokubhekana nezingxabano ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa umbono wokuxhumana okungaphansi kwazo. Ukwelapha kungasiza ekwakheni lawo makhono ngenkathi ubudlelwano busesesisekelweni esiqinile, kunikeze imibhangqwana izinketho ezengeziwe lapho kufika izikhathi ezicindezelayo ekugcineni.
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