Indlela Yokunqoba Izinkinga Zokwethenjwa - Umelaphi Uhlanganyela Amathiphu angu-9

Njengoba u-Ernest Hemingway asho, “Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuthola ukuthi ungamethemba yini umuntu othile ukumethemba.” Kodwa ingabe kulula ngaleyo ndlela ngempela ukwethemba abantu, ikakhulukazi uma uye wakhashelwa esikhathini esidlule? Ukuthembela akuzi kalula kanjalo. Kudingeka izinyembezi eziningi, izingxabano, nokuthula phakathi kwabashadile ukuze bafinyelele izinga lokwethembana elingenakunyakaziswa. Kungase kube nezikhathi lapho ungase uzithole ukhungathekile ngempilo yakho yothando kuyilapho uthola ukuthi ungazixazulula kanjani izinkinga zokwethembana. 

Kulesi sihloko, sizokunikeza okuphansi ezindabeni zokwethembana nokuthi zingabuthinta kanjani ubuhlobo bakho, ngosizo lwemininingwane yochwepheshe evela kudokotela wezengqondo ozinze e-California kanye nomelaphi wokuziphatha kwengqondo. UDkt. Shefali Batra (MD in Psychiatry), osebenza ngokukhethekile ekululekeni ngokwehlukana nesehlukaniso, ukuhlukana nokuphola, kanye nezinkinga zokufanelana ngaphambi komshado. 

Ziyini Izinkinga Zokuthembela?

Ngaphambi kokuthi siqhubekele phambili, ake siqale sibheke izincazelo zezindaba zokwethenjwa. Ngabe ukudideka nje ukuthi ngabe isithandwa sakho sithembekile noma sikhona obala ebudlelwaneni bakho? Noma icala elinzima kakhulu lokungathembeki elingonakalisa isibopho sakho? UDkt. Batra uthi, “Indaba yokumethemba iwukungakwazi ukubeka ukholo kumlingani wakho ukuthi uthembekile kuwe, uzokusekela, futhi uyokwethembeka kuwe ngesikhathi esinzima lapho umdinga.” Izinkinga zokwethembana zingasukela ezintweni eziningi. Konke lokhu kumayelana nomsebenzi othile noma umcabango wozakwenu okubeka eceleni noma okwenza uqaphe. 

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UDkt. Batra uyanezela, “Izindaba zokwethembana azikona nje ukungabaza amazwi noma izenzo zabo, kodwa imayelana nokuzizwa ungaphansi kokukhathazeka nokusola okungase kubangele, imibono yabanye abantu noma imithombo yezindaba, ngisho nalapho bezama ngobuqotho ukubeka izinto obala.”

Izinhlobo zezinkinga zokwethenjwa

Ngaphambi kokuthi siqhubeke nendlela yokuxazulula izinkinga zokwethembeka, ake sibheke izinhlobo ezimbalwa zezinkinga zokwethenjwa. UDkt. Batra ubala izinkinga ezimbalwa ezinjalo ezingase zikuxazulule ukuthula kwengqondo noma zikwenze ukhathazeke:

Ukwesaba ukungathembeki

Cabanga ngalokhu: uhlezi ubhekene nophathina wakho, nixoxa ngezinhlelo zangempelasonto. Basho ukuthi banohambo lomsebenzi oluzayo, kodwa kukhona okungahambi kahle. Ukhumbula indaba umngane wakho ayixoxela yona ekuqaleni kwalolo suku mayelana nozakwabo owayenebhadi owathi waqhathwa ngenkathi umlingani wakhe ekulokho okubizwa ngokuthi 'uhambo lomsebenzi'. Lokhu kubeka ithunzi lokungabaza ngalokho umlingani wakho asanda kukusho. Lena inkinga enkulu yokwethenjwa ehlobene nokwethembeka. 

Nakhu umfundi asixoxele ngakho: “Ngangicabanga ukuthi ngahlangana nomuntu engithandana naye ngesikhathi ngihlangana naye. Izinto zazizinhle kakhulu ekuqaleni. Ngangimthanda ngamandla ami onke. Futhi ngangicabanga ukuthi naye ungithanda ngendlela efanayo. Kodwa wabuye waphenduka umkhohlisi. Unenye intombi engumakhelwane wakhe, futhi wayehlale engifihlela yona. Wayefuna ngiyeke umsebenzi ngoba ezizwa engavikelekile futhi engakwazi ukungabaza ozakwethu. kusiphathe kabi sobabili, sihlala sibuzana njalo sicabanga ukuthi omunye uyakopela.” Ungafunda indaba yabo ephelele lapha.

Ukukhathazeka ngokwethembeka kwezezimali

Olunye lwezinhlobo zezindaba zokwethenjwa lubandakanya ukwesaba ukungathembeki ngokwezimali. Lokhu kungase kuqhamuke lapho umlingani engazi kahle kakhulu ngezimali bese eshiya komunye. Futhi ngokuvamile, ngabesifazane abangazazi kahle izindaba zemali. A cwaningo kufakazele ukuthi abantu besifazane basasilela emuva kwabesilisa uma kukhulunywa ngezezimali. Nokho, ngemva kwesikhashana ukungazi akusabonakali njengenjabulo futhi ngokuzumayo omunye unomuzwa wokuthi omunye angase abadukise ngokwezimali. Lo muzwa uba namandla kakhulu lapho ezinye izinkinga zingena ebudlelwaneni.

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yokungazethembi

Ungakwazi yini ukuthanda umuntu futhi ungamethembi? Ukwethembana kuyisisekelo sanoma yibuphi ubuhlobo, ikakhulukazi ubudlelwano bothando. Ngaphandle kwakho, yonke incazelo noma ukuzibophezela okuvela kumlingani wakho kungazwakala njengokukhaphela okungaba khona. Ukwakha ukwethembana nokungafihli lutho ebudlelwaneni kuthatha isikhathi nesineke. Olunye uhlobo lwendaba yokwethembana olungase luhlasele ezigabeni zokuqala zobudlelwano udaba lobungane.

Uma uthola ongase ube umlingani wakho/intshisekelo yothando uchitha isikhathi nabangane abaningi bobulili obuhlukile (noma ubulili ababufisayo), noma ukuthumela imiyalezo/ubashayela usuku lonke, nakanjani uzosola imisebenzi yabo ngemuva kwakho. Kungase kungabi ngokungathembeki ngokuqondile, kodwa umlingani wakho angase adalule izimfihlo zakho kubangani bakhe. 

Isambulo sezimfihlo

Izinkinga zokwethembana mayelana nokwambulwa kwezimfihlo zingonakalisa nobudlelwano. Ngokwesibonelo, umngane wami, u-Ashley, wayemethemba umyeni wakhe ngazo zonke izimfihlo zakhe. Waze wamtshela nangezindaba zakhe ezedlule. Kodwa lapho udadewabo kadadewabo eke wamthuka, ebalula ukuthi zingaki izindaba ayenazo ngaphambi komshado, u-Ashley waqala ukubona ukuthi wayengenakumethemba umyeni wakhe ngezimfihlo zakhe. Wabona ukuthi ukuxhumana komyeni wakhe cishe babezazi zonke izimfihlo zakhe manje. Lokhu kwambangela ukukhathazeka okujulile, njengoba ezwa ukuthi izimfihlo zakhe manje zase zingaphumela obala, naphakathi komakhelwane bakhe.

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Imikhuba emibi kanye nokulutheka

Ukwethembana kungaphazanyiswa imikhuba emibi yomlingani wakho, engaholela kwezinye izinkinga, njengokungathembeki noma ukulahlekelwa yimali. Isibonelo, umlingani wakho angase abe semgqeni wokugembula noma angase abe umlutha wezidakamizwa noma utshwala. Kungenzeka ukuthi bavame ukuqamba amanga kuwe ngokuthi bakuphi, uma kunjalo, ukuze nje bafihle abakwenzayo, ukugwema ukungqubuzana. Futhi uma uthola lokhu, ubophekile ukuthi ungabe usabethemba futhi. Okufanayo kuya imikhuba efana ukucupha abesifazane online nokuthumela imiyalezo noma ukudlala ngothando nabo futhi. Ukwethemba uma sekulahlekile, ezimeni ezinjalo, akukwazi ukubuyela esimeni.

Yini Edala Izinkinga Zokuthembana?

Ungase uzithole uzibuza ukuthi kungani unezinkinga zokwethembana ezijulile ebudlelwaneni bakho bothando. Izinkinga zokuthembela aziveli nje ngaphandle kwesizathu. Kunokukhathazeka okumbalwa okungase kubangele izinkinga zokwethenjwa. UDkt. Batra ukhuluma ngendaba ayebhekene nayo: “Ngikhumbula indaba yombhangqwana lapho owesifazane, u-Angela, ayefuna ukumodela khona ngesikhathi umyeni wakhe, uJohn, ephethe indawo yemidlalo ye-video.” Ngokusobala, ukungathembani kwakuvela ohlangothini lukaJohn, lapho ayengakhululeki khona ngokuhlanganyela kwakhe ekuthwebuleni izithombe, ezikhangisweni nakumabhayisikobho amafushane. 

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"Ubekhathazekile ngokusondelana kwakhe namanye amadoda futhi wayeya ngokuya ekhathazeka futhi engakhululekile. Wathi wayemethemba ukuthi angeke amkhohlise, kodwa imicabango ekhathazayo okungenzeka ukuthi angaba nayo ayizange iyeke ukumhlupha futhi yayibuthinta kakhulu ubuhlobo." Ngakho, uyabona, a ukungathembeki ebudlelwaneni kungaba yingozi kakhulu. Kodwa ukuze uthole ukuthi ungazixazulula kanjani izinkinga zokwethembana, udinga ukufinyelela ekujuleni kwezizathu zezinkinga ezinjalo. Nakhu okubangela izinkinga zokwethenjwa, ngokusho kukaDkt. Batra:

1. Umlingani wakho uyakudumaza

Awu, ake ucabange lokhu: uke waba sebudlelwaneni lapho ozakwenu bethembise ukuthi bazohlala bekulungele. Kodwa-ke, bavame ukukudumaza ngezikhathi ezibalulekile. Nazi izibonelo:

• Bakhansele izinhlelo ngomzuzu wokugcina ukuze bachithe isikhathi nabangane
• 'Bakhohliwe' benza amacebo nawe
• Abakwazanga ukuphumelela lapho kufanele ulalise umama wakho esibhedlela

UDkt. Batra uthi, “Isikhathi ngasinye lapho kwenzeka okuthile okufana nalokhu, izenzo zabo ziphazamisa lokho obukulindele futhi kukushiye uzizwa ulahliwe futhi ungalondekile.”

2. Ukuxhaphaza imizwelo

UDkt. Batra ucaphuna esinye isenzakalo esinjalo: “Mhlawumbe wake waba sezimweni lapho uthulule khona isifuba kumngane wakho womshado mayelana nokwesaba okujulile noma amaphupho akho, wabe esesebenzisa lokho kwaziswa ngokumelene nawe lapho nixabana kamuva.” Lokhu kufana noku ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo, okungalimaza kakhulu ikhono lakho lokuthembela ebudlelwaneni obuseduze.

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3. Ukukhaphela

Uma ungazi ukuthi umethemba kanjani umlingani wakho, ukukhaphela kungaba esinye sezizathu zakho. Ngakho-ke, kwenzekani lapho uthola ukuthi umlingani wakho ubekwenza okuthile ngemuva kwakho ngaphandle kokukutshela, azi ukuthi izenzo zabo zingalimaza ubuhlobo bakho ngokuhle? 

Nokho, okokuqala, ukushaqeka kokuthola ukukhaphela ebudlelwaneni kungaqeda ukwethemba kwakho kumlingani wakho kuphela kodwa nasebudlelwaneni obuzayo. Ukukhaphela kuza ngezindlela eziningi. Izinkinga zokwethenjwa zingasukela ezinhlotsheni ezilandelayo zokukhaphela:

• Ukungathembeki kwezezimali: Cabanga nje uthola ukuthi umlingani wakho ubefihle izikweletu ezinkulu noma enze izinqumo ezinkulu zezimali ngaphandle kokwazi kwakho
• Ukunganaki ngokomzwelo: Umlingani wakho angase futhi athembise ukuthi uzoba khona ngezikhathi zesidingo, avele anyamalale lapho umdinga kakhulu
• Ukukhuluma ne-ex ngemuva kwakho: Umlingani wakho kungenzeka ukuthi uthembise ukuthi uzohlala ethembekile futhi ethembekile. Kodwa uthole ukuthi bebekhuluma ngasese nomuntu othandana naye ngemuva kwakho

4. Ukudumala okuvamile noma ukuhlukumezeka okwedlule

UDkt. Batra uthi, “Izinkinga zokwethembana ngokuvamile zivela ezimweni eziphindaphindiwe zokudumazeka nokukhashelwa ebuhlotsheni bothando. Okuhlangenwe nakho ngakunye okulimazayo kwakha izindonga ezizungezile inhliziyo yakho, kwenze kube nzima ngokwengeziwe ukuvumela abanye ukuba bangene noma ukukholelwa ubuqotho bamazwi nezenzo zabo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ungase uzithole ulindele okubi kakhulu, wesaba ukuthi ukuba sengozini kuyoholela ebuhlungwini obengeziwe.” Uma uhlangana nabantu abakuphoxile noma abakukhaphele esikhathini esidlule, kulapho izindaba zakho zokwethenjwa ziba zimbi nakakhulu.

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UDkt. Batra uthi, “Ukuphulukiswa ezindabeni zokwethenjwa kudinga ukubhekana nalezi zinhlungu ezedlule ngokuqondile, ukukhuthaza ukuxhumana okuvulekile, futhi wakhe kabusha umuzwa wokulondeka nokwethembeka kuwena nozakwenu.” Nansi indlela azama ngayo ukusiza umbhangqwana (okukhulunywe ngawo esihlokweni) ukuthi ukhiphe izinkinga zawo zokwethembana Uthi, “Ngathatha udaba luka-Angela ngokwelashwa okuhleliwe kweCognitive Behavior . Ngabanika imisebenzi ethile. Ngokwesibonelo, kwakudingeka bakhulume izikhathi ezimbili kuya kwezi-3 ngosuku ukuze bacobelelane amaphuzu ngendlela ababezizwa ngayo, ukuthi luhamba kanjani usuku lwabo, nokuthi yini ababengase bathande ukuyenza bebodwa ebusuku lapho befika ekhaya. 

"Ngesinye isikhathi, ngaphakamisa ukuthi angamfonela azothatha isithombe uma enesikhathi nokuthambekela. Ngabanikeza amathiphu namasu okugcina inhlansi yobudlelwano babo iphila. Waqinisekisa ukuthi ibhizinisi laliyibhizinisi elimsulwa. Lokhu kucaca, ukwethembeka nokuvuleleka, nokubonisa ukukhathazeka nokwesaba, kusize ekudambiseni ukukhathazeka. Baphinde bahlela imisebenzi efana nobumba, ukudweba, ukupheka kanye nokupheka ndawonye ngosuku oluthile." Ngokufanayo, uDkt. Batra lapha ubala amathiphu anjalo ayi-9, uma uzibuza ukuthi ungazinqoba kanjani izinkinga zokwethembana ebudlelwaneni:

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1. Ungavumeli ukuziphatha kozakwenu ku-inthanethi kukudle

UDkt. Batra uthi, “Akufanele uvumele izenzo zomlingani wakho ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, izinhlelo zokusebenza zezingxoxo, noma i-inthanethi zikudle noma zilawule izenzo zakho. Ngisho noma ungabethembi ngokuphelele, lungisa izinto ngokukhuluma hhayi ngokusabela ngokushesha.” Isibonelo, nansi indlela yokubuyisa ukwethembana okuthile:

• Bona ukuthi ubudlelwano bangempela buba nezikhathi ezinhle nezimbi. Yeka ukuqhathanisa ubudlelwano bakho nokuvezwa okungenangqondo ubudlelwano ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Baphathe ukungezwani kwakho nokungqubuzana 
• Yeka ukudideka ngenxa yezinketho eziningi u-bae wakho angaba nazo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Khumbula ukuthi bakukhethe ngesizathu, futhi bangahle bangakuvumeli uhambe ngenxa yezinketho ezintekenteke ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.
• Yeka ukuhlola amafoni omlingani wakho noma ubabuze amaphasiwedi abo ezinkundla zokuxhumana. Zama ukuba nengxoxo evulekile esikhundleni salokho

2. Beka imingcele futhi ugcine ubumfihlo obunempilo

Uma kwenzeka uzibuza ukuthi ungazinqoba kanjani izinkinga zokwethembana ebudlelwaneni, khumbula, imingcele ibaluleke kakhulu ekugcineni ukwethembana. UDkt. Batra uthi, “Ukumisa imingcele mayelana nobumfihlo kungakha ukwethembana.” Ngokwesibonelo, xoxani ngokuthi yiluphi ulwazi olulungele ukwabelana nabangane nomndeni. Uma ulinyazwe uzakwenu ukwabelana ngemininingwane yomuntu siqu ngaphandle kwemvume yakho, ekhuluma nawe ngokukhululekile imingcele ebuhlotsheni ingavimbela ukungezwani kwesikhathi esizayo futhi yakhe umuzwa wokulondeka. 

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3. Yenza ukuthula nesikhathi sakho esidlule 

Uyazibuza ukuthi ungamethemba kanjani umlingani wakho ngokuphelele? Ungavumeli eyakho ubudlelwano obudlule khubaza isipho sakho. UDkt. Batra uyeluleka, “Bheka izinto owake wabhekana nazo esikhathini esidlule. Ngokwesibonelo, uma umlingani wangaphambili ekukopela, ukulungisa indlela okubuthinta ngayo ubuhlobo bakho bamanje kungakuvimbela ekubekeni icala ngokungafanele umlingani wakho wamanje.” Lena enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu uma ungazi ukuthi ungazixazulula kanjani izinkinga zokwethenjwa.

Ukwelashwa noma ukuzindla kuyadingeka ukuze ukusize ucubungule le mizwa futhi uyivimbele ekubhidlizeni ubudlelwano bakho bamanje. Lena indlela engcono kakhulu uma ungazi ukuthi ungazixazulula kanjani izinkinga zokwethenjwa.

4. Zibekele imigomo yobudlelwano bakho

Ukubeka imigomo yobudlelwano kuyindlela engcono kakhulu uma uzibuza ukuthi ungazixazulula kanjani izinkinga zokwethembana. Lokho kungenxa yokuthi imigomo ikusiza ukuthi uqondise izindlela zakho futhi nisebenze ndawonye njengeqembu. UDkt. Batra uthi, “Kudingeka ube nemigomo ecacile ngekusasa.” Ngokwesibonelo:

• Imigomo yokuphila: Xoxa nomlingani wakho mayelana nokuthi ubudlelwano benu buyaphi nokuthi nobabili nifunani esikhathini eside 
• Imigomo yokwethembeka: Uma uke wakungabaza ukuzibophezela komlingani wakho esikhathini esedlule, xoxa ngalokho okulindele futhi wakhe ukwethembana
• Imigomo yezezimali: Setha okuthile okubambekayo imigomo yemali futhi, njengokuthi ubani ochitha malini, yikuphi ukuthenga okukhulu okudingeka nixoxe ngakho, ubani onikela ngemali engakanani, njll. Lokhu kulahla ithuba lokungathembani ngokwezimali.

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5. Xoxisana nomlingani wakho

Uma uvame ukuzibuza ukuthi umethemba kanjani umlingani wakho, kahle, zibandakanye ekukhulumeni ngokukhululekile ngemizwa yakho. Isibonelo, uma uzizwa usola ngobungane bomlingani wakho, khuluma ngomoya ophansi futhi ulalele umbono wabo ukuze uvimbele ukungezwani. UDkt. Batra uthi, “Ukuxhumana okuvamile kuyakhuthaza ukusondelana ngokomzwelo futhi kunciphisa izinsolo ezingenasisekelo.” Lena enye yezindlela zokubhekana nenkinga 'yokunqoba ukuthembana ebudlelwaneni'. 

6. Zimele

Lena enye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokubhekana nesimo lapho ungazi ukuthi ungazixazulula kanjani izinkinga zokwethenjwa. Kubalulekile ukuba neyakho impilo, ngaphandle kobudlelwano bakho. Lokhu kuzimela kungadlulela kokuthi:

• Ukuba nesethi yakho yabangane
• Ukuhlakulela izinto zakho zokuzilibazisa
• Ukuba neyakho imali

UDkt. Batra uyachaza, “Ukulondoloza ukuzimela kuthuthukisa ukwethenjwa nokuzithemba.” Ngokwesibonelo, uma uke wazizwa uncike kumlingani wakho ukuze aqinisekiswe noma asekelwe ngokwezimali esikhathini esidlule, ukuhlakulela izithakazelo zomuntu ngamunye nobungane thuthukisa ukuzethemba. Ukuba nemali ehlukene nendawo yomuntu siqu kuqinisa ukuzimela futhi kunciphisa izinkinga ezihlobene nokuncika.”

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7. Yeka ukuveza ukungazethembi

Manje, lesi esinye sezixazululo ezingcono kakhulu zokubuyisa ukwethembana ebudlelwaneni. UDkt. Batra uthi, “Ukubona nokubhekana nokungazethembi kuvimbela ukuzifaka kumlingani wakho. Ngokwesibonelo, uma uke waqanjelwa amanga uphathina wakho wangaphambili, futhi umlingani wakho wamanje esho ukuthi unomcimbi wokusebenza ofika sekwephuzile, ungase uzithole ucabanga izimo lapho ekhona. ukudlala ngothando nomunye umuntu esikhundleni sokusebenza.” Ukuqagela okunjalo kokungavikeleki kungaholela kulokhu:

• Elokhu ebabuza njalo
• Ukuhlola imiyalezo noma amakholi ocingweni lwabo
• Ukubasola ngaphandle kobufakazi obuqinile

8. Gcina inhlansi yothando iphila

UDkt. Batra uthi, “Ukulondoloza ukusondelana ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo kuqinisa ukwethembana. Ngokwesibonelo, uma uke washikashikeka nomuzwa wokuthi awuxhunyiwe kumuntu othandana naye, ukubeka izinsuku zezinsuku zokulala kuqala noma ukwenza izinto enihlanganyela ngazo kungavuselela ukusondelana.” Nawa amanye amathiphu okuthi ungamngenisa kanjani umuntu ngaphandle kokuthemba:

• Yenza izimpawu ezincane zothando nokwazisa, njengenothi elibhalwe ngesandla noma ikhadi lokubonga. Baqinisa izibopho ezingokomzwelo futhi bakhe ukwethembana ngokuhamba kwesikhathi
• Phatha ubudlelwano bakho njenge-rom-com, ngezimanga ezinhle nezinsuku zedina
• Ziqhole embhedeni. Thatha ilivu yaphakathi neviki emsebenzini futhi ugone futhi wenze uthando usuku lonke

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9. Khuluma nomngane noma uchwepheshe

Lo msebenzi uyazibuza uma uzibuza ukuthi umngenisa kanjani umuntu, ngaphandle kokungathembani. Lapho uqala ukuntula ukwethenjwa, awukwazi ukubona izinto ngendlela efanele. Uqala ukucabanga ngendlela eyinhlekelele futhi ungase ungakwazi ukwenza ukwahlulela okufanele. UDkt. Batra uthi, “Ezikhathini ezinjengalezi, ungase ukhulume nelungu lomkhaya eliphezulu, umngane, noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo.” Zizwe ukhululekile ukuxhumana naye Iphaneli ye-Bonobology yabeluleki abanelayisensi.

Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ubheke izinto ngendlela efanele nangendlela ephusile yokubuka izinto. Lokhu kungenye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokubuyisa ukwethembana ebudlelwaneni. Ungavumeli ukungathembani kuphazamise ubuhlobo benu.

Infographic On Kungani Ukwethemba Kubalulekile Ebudlelwaneni

Manje njengoba sesazi ukuthi izindaba zokuthembana zibuthiya kanjani ubudlelwano, ake siqonde ukuthi kungani kuyisihloko esibucayi kangaka. Kungani ucabanga ukuthi ukugcina ukwethembana kubalulekile ebudlelwaneni? Nalu uhlu lwezizathu zokuthi kungani:

imibuzo ejwayelekile ukubuzwa

Imicabango Final

Ungakwazi yini ukuthanda umuntu futhi ungamethembi? Hhayi-ke, akunjalo, ngoba ukwethembana kuyinsika eyinhloko lapho ubuhlobo buzilinganisela khona. Ngakho-ke, 'akuxoxiswana' kubo bonke ubudlelwano nobambiswano. Futhi manje uyazi ukuthi kungani ukwethembana kubalulekile ebudlelwaneni nokuthi ungazixazulula kanjani izinkinga zokwethembana. Sithemba ukuthi uzoqeda ukungathembani ebudlelwaneni bakho futhi awungabazi ukuthi ungazinqoba kanjani izinkinga zokwethembana ebudlelwaneni. Qhubeka futhi ukhulume nomlingani wakho uma izenzo zakhe zikukhathaza. 

Inkululeko Ebudlelwaneni - Lokho Ekushoyo Nokungakwenzi

Izisekelo Eziyisi-7 Zokusekela Ebudlelwaneni

Izindlela Eziyisi-7 Zokwakha Ubuqotho Ebudlelwaneni

Umnikelo wakho awuhlanganisi inhlangano esiza abantulayo umnikelo. Izovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolwakamuva emzamweni wethu wokusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.

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