Kuyini I-Narcissistic Ghosting Futhi Ungakuphendula Kanjani?

I-Narcissistic ghosting ayilona igama noma uhlobo lokuhlukumeza esizwa ngalo njalo. I-Narcissism isho umuntu ozithanda kakhulu. Cabanga ngomuntu ohlale efuna ukunakwa futhi engenandaba nemizwa yakho - Lowo ngu-narcissist. I-Ghosting yilapho othile eyeka ukukhuluma nawe kungazelelwe noma anyamalale ngaphandle kwanoma yisiphi isexwayiso.

Ukubhekana nomuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza kuyakhathaza noma kunjalo. Futhi uma ubona ukusondelana kwabo kushabalala kancane kancane noma lapho benyamalala ngokuzumayo, kwenza izinto zibe nzima nakakhulu. Ukubona izimpawu zokuzikhukhumeza kuba yinto ebalulekile kumlingani obhekene nakho. Ukuze sazi kabanzi ngephethini yokuzikhukhumeza komuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nayo, sixoxe nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u- Anita Eliza , (M.Sc. ku-Applied Psychology), ogxile ezindabeni ezifana nokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, ubudlelwano, kanye nokuzethemba.

Iyini i-Narcissistic Ghosting?

Ngaphambi kokuba sikhulume ngamasu okwesabisa abantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza kanye nezizathu ezibangela ukuthi umuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza akukhukhumeze, ake siqonde ukuthi leli gama lisho ukuthini. U-Anita uthi, “Ukuzikhukhumeza kuyisici sobuntu lapho umuntu engenalo uzwela, ebonisa isidingo esiqhubekayo sokunconywa, futhi ezibona ebaluleke kakhulu kunabanye. Ukuzikhukhumeza kwenzeka lapho umuntu eyeka ngokuzumayo ukuxhumana nomunye umuntu ngaphandle kwencazelo. Uma sihlanganisa lezi zimpawu ezimbili, kuvela ukuzikhukhumeza kwabantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza, okusho ukuthi umuntu onemikhuba yokuzikhukhumeza uqeda ubudlelwano ngaphandle kokunaka ukuthi umlingani wakhe uzizwa kanjani.”

Uyachaza, “Zicabange uthandana nomuntu othi:

• Uzicabangela kakhulu
• Kusenjalo kuqhamuke konke ukuxhumana
• Kwenza njengobudlelwano abuzange bube nandaba
• Iqeda ubudlelwano ngaphandle kwesizathu noma ukukunaka

Yilokho kanye okwenziwa ama-narcisists amaningi.” Abantu abasebenzisa i-Narcissistic bangase basebenzise isipoki njengendlela yokukhohlisa ukuze balawule isimo semizwa somlingani wabo futhi bagweme izingxoxo ezinzima noma umthwalo wemfanelo ngezenzo zabo.

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Yini Ebangela I-Narcissist Ikufake Isipoki?

Kungani umuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza ekuphambanisa? Iyini imbangela yalo mjikelezo oqhubekayo wokulahlwa? Abantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza banomuzwa ophakeme wokuzibona bebalulekile kanye nesidingo sokulawula. Futhi lapho benqamula konke ukuxhumana ngokuzumayo, kuba sengathi ususwa ngokuzumayo ezweni labo. Kungani bekwenza? Ngokusho kuka-Anita, kungaba nezizathu eziningana:

1. Ukungabi naluzwelo kungakwenza ube isipoki

U-Anita uthi, “AmaNarcissists angase akuthole kuyinselele ukuqonda indlela ukubhula okungamthinta ngayo omunye umuntu ngokomzwelo.

Uzwela luhilela ukuqaphela nokukhathalela indlela omunye umuntu angase azizwe ngayo, kodwa umuntu ozicabangela ngokweqile, oqhutshwa ukuzicabangela ngokweqile, akaxhumani kalula nemizwa yabanye. Ukuntuleka kozwela kumuntu ozicabangela ngokweqile kusho:

• Ukungakwazi ukuqonda umlingani wabo namalungelo abo phakathi kobudlelwano
• Ukungakwazi ukucabangela umthelela wemibuzo engaphenduleki, ukudideka, nokulimala
• Ukuthola kulula ukuqeda konke kungazelelwe ngaphandle kokunaka umthelela womzwelo kanye nenhlalakahle yomlingani wabo

2. Bangase babe nokwesaba ukungqubuzana

Ama-Narcissists avame ukulwa nokuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngezenzo zawo. U-Anita uthi, “AmaNarcissists angase akhethe ukunyamalala noma abe nesipoki kunokuba abhekane nokuxabana noma izingxoxo ezinzima lapho eqeda ubuhlobo noma echaza izenzo zawo.” Ukungqubuzana kudinga ukuzwelana nokuziphendulela - izici ngokuvamile ezintulekayo kumuntu onganaki.

Umsebenzisi we-Quora uthi, “Abantu abathanda ukuzithanda ngokweqile bayakugwema ukubhekana nezinkinga. Uma bazi ukuthi ufuna izinguquko ebudlelwaneni, bazobaleka esikhundleni sokubhekana nazo. Abakwazi ukubhekana nomzamo odingekayo ukuze kube nobudlelwano obuhle .”

3. Isidingo sabo sokulawula silawula zonke izenzo zabo

Bahlanganyela kusitayela esifihlekile se-narcissist ghosting, esibavumela ukuthi bagomele phezu kozakwethu. U-Anita uthi, “AmaNarcisists afuna ukulawula ebudlelwaneni. I-Ghosting ibanika amandla okugomela nokuqeda izinto ngaphandle kokucabangela imizwa yomunye.” Lolu hlobo lwesipoki se-covert narcissist lubavumela ukuthi:

• Phuma ebudlelwaneni ngemibandela yabo
• Zibandakanye thanda amabhomu okulandelwa ukufiphala kancane kokuzibophezela
• Hamba ngaphandle kokuthi uhlanganyele ezingxoxweni ezinzima
• Ababhekane nanoma yikuphi ukuziphendulela ngezenzo zabo
• Lawula imizwa

Uqhubeka echaza, “Umuntu osebenzisa izidakamizwa ngokuvamile uzama ukugwema ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo ngokubeka icala kwabanye abantu.

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4. I-narcissist ikunika izipoki ukuze ufune ukunakwa nokuqinisekiswa, kungaba kuwe noma komunye umuntu

U-Anita uyachaza, “Abantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza bayakujabulela ukunakwa, ukunconywa, kanye nokuqinisekiswa. Uma ucabanga ngokukhuluma ngemimoya noma ukusungula umthetho wokungathintani nabantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza (ngemva kokuvuselela ukuxhumana), ungacabanga ukuthi ngeke kuhambisane kahle nabo.”

Kungani-ke ama-narcissists eghost abalingani babo? U-Anita uyasitshela, “Ukufiphala kancane kothando, isipoki, noma ukunqamula konke ukuxhumana nomuntu ngaphandle kwesizathu kungasetshenziswa njengamaqhinga okukhohlisa ukwenza omunye umuntu:

• Bajahe
• Funa ukuvala
• Zama ukuzuza futhi umusa wabo

Lokhu kunganikeza i-narcissist umuzwa wamandla nokulawula isimo. "

Uma i-ego ye-narcissist ilinyazwa futhi bathola othile obanaka kakhulu noma oqinisekisa imizwa yabo, bangase bafake umoya kumlingani wabo ngaphandle kokungabaza. Ukuzibona bebalulekile kubenza bakholwe ukuthi bafanelwe okungcono futhi bangalahla kalula noma ubani ongafinyeleli kulokho abakulindele.

Lo msebenzisi we-Quora uyachaza, "Ama-Narcissists anesidingo esinganeliseki sokuqinisekiswa nokulawula. Bayachuma ngokutuswa nokunakwa, besebenzisa abanye njengamathuluzi okuthuthukisa ukuzethemba kwabo okuntekenteke. Nokho, lapho bezwa usongo ekuzifuneni kwabo noma uma sebekhathele ukukusebenzisa ngenxa yakho, bayashesha ukuqhubekela phambili."

5. Isithukuthezi singaholela ekushabalaleni kancane kwesithakazelo sabo kuwe

Kwabanye abantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza, ubuhlobo bufana nomdlalo, futhi kudingeka 'bujabulise.' Bangase bathukuthele kalula lapho ubudlelwano bulahlekelwa ubusha babo . Uma bethola ubuhlobo bungajabulisi noma bethola umthombo omusha wokuzikhukhumeza obonakala ukhanga kakhulu, bangase bafune kalula umlingani wabo wamanje ngaphandle kwesixwayiso futhi bafune lowo mdlandla omusha. Khumbula ukungavumeli abantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza abanjalo bachaze noma babonise ukubaluleka kwakho.

Nakuba lezi zici zingase zibe nomthelela ekuphefumuleni kwe-narcissistic, umuntu ngamunye uhlukile futhi izisusa zokuziphatha kwakhe zingase zibe inhlanganisela yalezi zici nezinye. Ukwengeza, akuwona wonke umuntu oziphatha ngendlela eyisipoki ngempela oyi-narcissist.

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Izimpawu Ezi-3 Ezinkulu Ze-Narcissistic Ghosting

U-Anita uthi, “Nakuba i-narcissistic ghosting ingelona igama eliqashelwa ngokomthetho kwezokusebenza kwengqondo, amasethi athile okuziphatha kubantu angaphakamisa lokhu kuthambekela.” Ukuhlonza isipoki se-narcissistic kungaba inselele empilweni yangempela, kodwa nazi izimpawu ezintathu ezinkulu okufanele uzibheke:

1. Ukubukeka/ukunyamalala okungazelelwe, okungachazeki

Ukuzikhukhumeza kufana nesenzo sokunyamalala ngokuzumayo ebudlelwaneni. Cabanga uxoxa njalo, bese ukhuluma kabi! Akukho miyalezo, akukho ukuvalelisana - ukuthula nje. Ngomzuzu owodwa konke kubonakala kujwayelekile, bese kuthi okulandelayo, kube ukuthula emsakazweni. Okuyinkimbinkimbi ukuthi umuntu ozikhukhumezayo angase angahlali unomphela. Angavela futhi empilweni yakho, ezama ukuxhumana ngemva kokuphathwa buthule ngokuthanda okuthunyelwe kwakho noma ukuthumela umyalezo ongajwayelekile.

Kodwa ungakhohliswa — Akukhona ukulungisa izinto; imayelana nokulawula. Kungenzeka ukuthi badlala ngemizwa yakho noma bavele bakukhumbuze ukuthi baseduze.

2. Ukuntula uzwela nokuqonda

Cabanga ukuthi uthulula isifuba sakho komunye umuntu, kodwa avele ahambe ngaphandle kwezwi, kubanda njengeqhwa. Lolu uphawu olukhulu lwe-narcissistic ghosting. Lokhu kuthula akuwenzi umqondo futhi kukushiya udabukile. Kufana nokuduka ehlathini elimnyama elingenabalazwe, futhi kubuhlungu. Ingxenye embi kakhulu? I-narcissist ephefumula umlingani wayo ibonakala ingaqondi ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngemva kwengxabano (noma ngaphandle kwesizathu). Uzwela luwumuzwa wangaphandle kubo.

U-Anita uyachaza, “Abantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza banenkinga yokuqonda imizwa yabalingani babo. Babeka phambili izidingo zabo ngaphezu kwabanye. Ukuhoxa kungaba yinto ephuthumayo ngoba bangase bangazizwa benesidingo sokunikeza noma iyiphi incazelo noma ukuvala. Lokhu kuntuleka kokuxhumana okuphelele kubonisa ukuthi umuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza akanandaba nomthelela ongokomzwelo wezenzo zakhe komunye umuntu. Bangase bangazizwa bezisola noma baqaphele imiphumela yezenzo zabo.”

3. Uchungechunge lokuziphatha okukhohlisayo

Ingabe i-narcissist ingakuphonsa futhi ngemva kokuxhumana kabusha? U-Anita uyachaza, "Okwamanje, siyazi ukuthi isipoki siyisu ama-narcissists alisebenzisayo ukuze alawule futhi alawule imizwelo. Angase anyamalale ukuze enze umuzwa wemfihlakalo noma enze omunye umuntu abaxoshe. Inhloso yabo eyinhloko ivame ukufisa ukunakwa. Uma bethintana ngemva kokuthula, qaphela. Le phethini ye-narcissist ingaphindelela."

I-Narcissistic ghosting ifana nesiqephu sephazili esithombeni esikhulu sokuziphatha okukhohlisayo kwe-narcissist. Kungenye indlela yokuhlala uphethe futhi ugweme ukuzibophezela ngezenzo zabo. Qaphela izinguquko ezingazelelwe ekuziphatheni kwabo ngaphambi kokuthi bakufake umoya. Uma zibonakala:

• Ukugxeka ngokweqile
• Ukude ngokomzwelo
• Ukugxila kakhulu kokunye
• Ukukhetha ukulwa ngaphandle kwesizathu
• Ukuze kungazelelwe amehlo omuntu omusha

… lezi kungaba izimpawu zokuthi sezizoshabalala empilweni yakho. Kuyindlela yabo yokubeka inkundla yokuphuma kwabo okuhle, bakushiye ngemuva ungenalutho ngaphandle kwemibuzo, ukungabaza, ukudideka, nokudabuka. Lesi sigaba sokulahla singaba nomthelela empilweni yakho yengqondo nokukhula komuntu siqu, sikuvimbele ukuthi uye phambili.

Abantu bayizipoki ngezizathu ezahlukene, kodwa uma ubona lezi zimpawu eziyisixwayiso, kungenzeka ukuthi kuyisimo se-narcissistic ghosting. Uma ubhekene nesimo esifanayo, qhubekela phambili ukuze wazi ukuthi isipoki esifihlekile se-narcissist sibathinta kanjani labo abasesiphethweni saso nokuthi yini ongayenza ukuze uphole kulo mjikelezo wokulahlwa.

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I-Narcissistic Ghosting Imthinta Kanjani Umsulu?

U-Anita uyachaza, “Ukuthola isipoki esingalawuleki kungaba nomthelela omkhulu enhlalakahleni engokomzwelo nempilo yengqondo yomuntu oyisisulu, kushiya umuntu edidekile, edabukile futhi ethukuthele, kuthinte ukuzethemba nokwethenjwa kwakhe.” Nazi izindlela ezimbalwa ezingathinta umuntu ekugcineni kwakho:

1. Ukungabaza nokuzigxeka

“Ukuntuleka kokuvala kuholela ekudidekeni nasekuzisoleni, okuvame ukubangela izinkinga zempilo yengqondo njengokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka,” kuchaza u-Anita. Iphethini 'yokuzikhukhumeza ngemva kokulahlwa' ingenza isisulu sifunde lokho esikubonile futhi sizisole ngokushabalala kobudlelwano. Ukungabikho kwencazelo ecacile kungenza isisulu singabaze ukubaluleka kwaso, ukuziphatha kwaso, kanye nezenzo zaso, okubangela ukungabaza kanye nomuzwa oqhubekayo wokungafaneleki.

Exoxa ngodaba lweklayenti, u-Anita uthi, "USara (igama lishintshiwe), uchwepheshe wezokukhangisa oneminyaka engu-34 weza kimi ezokwelashwa ngemva kokuthola isipoki esidabukisayo esivela kumlingani wakhe ngemva kobudlelwane obubonakala buzibophezele unyaka wonke. Phakathi nokwelashwa, uSara wembula ukuhlukumezeka okukhulu ngokomzwelo okuphawulwa ukudideka, ukukhashelwa, nokucindezeleka. Wayebambene nemizwa yakhe siqu."

2. Ukulahlekelwa ukwethenjwa

Ukukhashelwa okukhona ekuzikhukhumezeni kungabangela ukulahlekelwa okukhulu kokuthembana. Okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu kungenza kube nzima ngesisulu ukwethemba abanye, okuholela ekuzihlukaniseni nasekuzihlukaniseni nabantu. U-Anita uthi, “Ukwakha ubudlelwano obusha kuba yinselele ngenxa yokwesaba ukushiywa , ukwenqatshwa, kanye nokukhashelwa, okungaholela enkingeni yobunikazi lapho isisulu singabaza khona ukubaluleka kwaso kanye nobuqotho bobudlelwano besikhathi esizayo.”

3. Izinkinga zokuzethemba

Iphethini 'ye-narcissist gposting ngemva kokulahla' noma ukuba nesipoki ngemva kwengxabano ngaphandle kwencazelo ingase ibe nomthelela ekuzizweni ungafaneleki. Umhlukumezi angase afake ngaphakathi ukuntula uzwela kwe-narcissist kanye nokugxekwa okushiwo ngokusebenzisa i-ghost, kulimaze ukuzethemba kwabo. Bangase baqale ukungabaza ukubaluleka kwabo futhi bakuthole kunzima ukuhlanganyela ekusebenzelaneni komphakathi ngokuzethemba.

U-Anita uyachaza, “Ngaphandle kokuphulukiswa okufanele, abantu bangase bazithole bebhajwe ebudlelwaneni obuyingozi . Ukufuna ukwelashwa kubalulekile ekucubunguleni imizwa nokuthola ukuqonda okubalulekile kokuphulukiswa nokukhula komuntu siqu.” Umphumela wokuzikhukhumeza uyahlukahluka kuye ngokukhuthazela kwesisulu, uhlelo lokusekela, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwangaphambilini. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukulimala okungaba khona nokufuna ukwesekwa uma kudingeka.

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Izindlela Eziyi-9 Zokuphendula Ku-Narcissistic Ghosting

Nakuba ubuhlungu bokuzikhukhumeza bungaba bukhulu, akudingeki ukuthi ubuvumele bukuchaze noma bukulawule. Kubalulekile ukubeka phambili inhlalakahle yakho kanye nempilo yakho engokomzwelo. Nazi izindlela eziyisishiyagalolunye zokubhekana nezimo ezifanayo ngenkathi unakekela izidingo zakho kanye nemingcele yemizwa :

1. Yamukela imizwa yakho

Kuvamile ukuzwa ubuhlungu, ukudideka, ukuthukuthela, noma ukukhululeka ngemva kokungenwa isipoki. Zivumele ukuthi uvume futhi usebenze le mizwa ngaphandle kokwahlulela. Kwamukele, zizwe, futhi uqinisekise konke. U-Anita ukunika izinto ezintathu okufanele uzikhumbule:

• Zinike isikhathi sokuzwa umthelela ogcwele
• I-Ghosting ayikona ukubaluleka kwakho
• Thatha isikhathi sakho ngaphambi kokunquma ukuthi wenzeni

2. Thatha bonke othintana nabo

U-Gale, umhleli wevidiyo oneminyaka engu-32 ubudala wase-Atlanta, wabelana nathi, “Bengilokhu ngizama ukunambitha umuthi wabo omdala. Hamba ngakho, Gale. Dala ibutho lakho.

Phela, ukuxosha umuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza kuzomnika amandla engeziwe futhi kukhuthaze amaqhinga akhe okukhwabanisa. Misa umthetho wokungathintani . Gwema ukushayela ucingo, ukuthumela imiyalezo, noma ama-imeyili. Hlala kude nabangane abaseduze. Ukubona ukuba khona komuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza ku-inthanethi kungabangela imizwa emibi futhi kuphazamise inqubo yakho yokuphulukiswa. Thatha ikhefu ezinkundleni zokuxhumana noma ubavimbele ngenxa yokuhluzeka kwengqondo. Futhi uma ugcina ubashayela ucingo, usengakwazi ukulungisa izinto — Joyina uGale emsebenzini wakhe “wokubuyisela umuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza.”

3. Shintsha ukulandisa

I-Ghosting ibonisa izinkinga ze-narcissist, hhayi eyakho. Shintshela ukugxila kuwena. Zikhumbuze ngokubaluleka kwakho, ukuzimela, kanye nekhono lokwakha ubudlelwano obunempilo. Zikhumbuze ukuthi ukwenza isipoki kuwukubonakaliswa kokuziphatha kwe-narcissist hhayi ukubaluleka kwakho. Melana nesifiso sokuzigxeka noma ukufaka amazwi nezenzo zabo ngaphakathi.

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4. Beka kuqala ukuzinakekela nokuzihawukela

Ukuzinakekela kubalulekile ekwakheni kabusha ukuqina kwakho ngokomzwelo ngemva kokubhekana nesipoki esizikhukhumezayo — okuhloswe ngaso i-pun. Beka phambili imisebenzi yokuzinakekela ekulethela induduzo nenjabulo, eyondla ingqondo yakho, umzimba nomoya wakho. Nazi izinto eziyisisekelo:

• Ukuzivocavoca njalo
• Yidla ukudla okunempilo
• Bhala kahle
• Zama ukwenza ijenali
• Qhubeka uthintana nabangane obathembayo

U-Anita uthi, “Gxila emisebenzini nasekuzilibaziseni okukulethela injabulo nokuphumula. Ukuzinakekela kubalulekile ezikhathini ezinzima.” Ukusabela ku-narcissistic ghosting kungaba inselele, kodwa kubalulekile ukubeka phambili inhlalakahle yakho futhi uthathe izinyathelo zokulawula impilo yakho yemizwa.

5. Funa ukusekelwa kubangani, umndeni, noma uchwepheshe

Mayelana nendlela yokusabela ku-narcissist ghosts, u-Anita uyeluleka, “Ukufuna ukusekelwa kungasiza. Khuluma nomngane, amalungu omndeni, noma umelaphi ongakunikeza ukusekela futhi akunikeze amasu okubhekana nesimo. Ukwabelana ngemizwa yakho nomuntu omethembayo kungakusiza uqonde izinto kangcono futhi kukhuthaze ukuthi uqhubekele phambili.”

Yabelana ngolwazi lwakho nabantu abangakunikeza uzwela, ukuqonda, kanye nesikhuthazo phakathi nalesi sikhathi esinzima. Uma umthelela ongokomzwelo wemimoya yokuzikhukhumeza ubalulekile, cabanga ngokufuna usizo lochwepheshe. Ungakhetha uchwepheshe wezokwelapha eqenjini lochwepheshe beBonobology ; bangakunikeza ukuqonda okubalulekile ukukusiza ukucubungula imizwa yakho njengoba ululama.

6. Izethulo kuzo zonke izici zokukhula kwakho siqu

Sebenzisa ulwazi lwakho lwalobu budlelwano obungenampilo njengethuba lokufunda nokukhula. Cabanga ngemingcele yakho, izindlela zokuxhumana, kanye nalokho okufunayo ebudlelwaneni besikhathi esizayo. Cabanga ngezinsiza zokuzithuthukisa njengezincwadi, ama-workshop, noma ukwelashwa ukuze utshale imali enhlalakahleni yakho. Chitha isikhathi nabantu obathandayo. Zibandakanye emisebenzini ekhuthaza inhlalakahle yakho yomzimba, ngokomzwelo, nangokwengqondo.

7. Ungafuni ukuziphindiselela noma ukuvala

U-Anita uyachaza, “Ungajahi ukuvala umlomo. Kungase kungasebenzi kuleli cala. Gwema ukwandisa ukukhungatheka kwakho ngokubambelela embonweni wokuvala. Gwema isifiso sokuziphindiselela noma sokuhlazisa lowo muntu esidlangalaleni. Ukugcina ukuzihlonipha kwakho kukusiza ukuba uqhubekele phambili ngomusa.”

Ukuzibandakanya kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lokuziphindiselela kungase kuzwakale kuyisicefe, kodwa kuzokulimaza kakhulu. Kunalokho, funda ukuqhubeka ngaphandle kokuvala noma ukufune ngaphakathi kuwe. Qonda ukuthi kungase kungaveli kumuntu ozicabangela ngokweqile. Cabanga ngobuhlobo, wamukele ukuphela kwabo, bese usebenza ukuze ulahle isidingo sokuqinisekiswa kwabo.

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8. Prakthiza ukucabangela nokwamukela

Yamukela ukuthi lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kubuhlungu kodwa kungokwesikhashana. Zijwayeze amasu okucabanga, njengokuzindla noma ukuphefumula okujulile, ukuze uphathe imicabango ephazamisayo kanye nokusabela ngokomzwelo. Isikhathi kanye nokuzizwela kuyizindlela zokwelapha ezinamandla. Ukufunda ngokuxhashazwa nokuzikhukhumeza kungakunikeza nokuqonda okubalulekile kanye nesiqondiso.

U-Anita uthi, "Funda kokuhlangenwe nakho ukuze wenze ukukhetha okunempilo esikhathini esizayo. Kusebenzise ukuze ubone noma yiziphi izimpawu eziyisixwayiso okungenzeka ukuthi awuzange uziphuthele ebuhlotsheni bakho."

9. Ungasabela kanjani ku-narcissist ghosting: Beka imingcele

Misa futhi usebenzise imingcele ecacile ne-narcissist. Uma bezama ukuxhumana ngemva kokuphathwa buthule, nquma izinga lokuxhumana okhululekile nalo, uma likhona. U-Anita uyachaza, “Kucacise lokho okulindele. Batshele ukuthi izenzo zabo zikuthinte kanjani. Ungaguquki kulokho ozokwamukela esikhathini esizayo.”

Uma ungasafuni ukukhuluma nabo, batshele ngakho ngendlela eqinile neqinile. Bazise ngemiphumela uma bengakuhloniphi wena noma imingcele yakho.

Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukwesekwa, nokuzihawukela, ungaphola ekulimaleni futhi uqhubekele phambili empilweni. Funda mayelana namaqhinga okusabisa ama-narcissist ukuze uthole imininingwane ebalulekile ku-dynamics yobudlelwano obunjalo. I-Ghosting ibonisa isidingo sokulawula i-narcissist kanye nokungakwazi ukubhekana nezinto ngendlela enempilo. Akulona iphutha lakho, ngakho ungazibeki icala. Kunalokho, zizungeze nabantu abakusekelayo futhi usebenzele ukuzelapha.

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