Kāore ōku hiahia moepuku, ā, kua riri taku tāne: He tohutohu nā te tohunga me aha ahau

"E whā tau māua ko taku tāne e marena ana, ā, ahakoa kei te pai ngā mea katoa o tō māua whanaungatanga, kua piki haere te raruraru o te whanaungatanga piripono. Ko te pono, kāore he hiahia moepuku i roto i ahau, ā, kei te riri taku tāne. Ehara i te mea kāore au i te aroha ki a ia, kāore hoki au i te kite i a ia he ātaahua—engari. Engari mō te whanaungatanga tinana, kāore au i te rongo i tetahi mea. Kua ngana ahau ki te whakamārama ehara i te mea i āta whakaarohia, kāore au e pupuri ana i te aroha hei whiu i a ia, engari e whakaaro ana ia he whaiaro. Engari kāore au i te hiahia ki te moepuku, me aha ahau? Kei te kī tonu ia kāore te marena kāore he whanaungatanga piripono e pumau, e whakaaro ana ia kāore e hiahiatia ana, e whakakahoretia ana. Ko te nui ake o tana pēhi i ahau, ko te nui ake o taku manukanuka, ā, ko te iti iho o taku hiahia ki te whakamātau. E whakaaro ana ia kei te hanga kōrero whakamāori ahau, engari kāore au i te tino mōhio he aha ahau i pēnei ai. Kāore au i te mōhio mēnā he homoni, he kare ā-roto, he mea hohonu ake rānei, ā, e wehi ana ahau mēnā kāore e taea e au te whakatau, ka ngaro ia i ahau."

E mea ana ia kāore ia e hiahia ki te noho i roto i te marena kore ira tangata mō te toenga o tōna oranga, ā, he pono, kāore au e whakapae i a ia. Engari me aha ahau? Me akiaki ahau i ahau anō? He rūpahu? He ahua tinihanga, he mamae hoki tēnā i tōna ake ara. Kei te hiahia tonu ahau ki te piripono, ki te hoa, me te aroha, engari e kite ana ia i taku kore hiahia he whakakorenga taketake ki a ia. Kāore au i te mōhio. Me pēhea taku whakamārama i a ia ehara tēnei i te mea mōna? He he kei ahau? He mea tēnei ka taea e au te whakatika, kua mate rānei māua nā te mea?

I tukuna mai tēnei pātai ki a mātou e tētahi kaipānui, ā, i roto i tēnei tuhinga, kua kawea mai e mātou ngā whakautu ki ēnei pātai katoa, i roto i te hui tahi me tētahi tohunga hinengaro me tētahi kaiwhakaora whanonga hinengaro nō California. Tākuta Shefali Batra (MD i roto i te hinengaro), he tohunga ki te tohutohu mō te wehenga me te whakarere, te wehenga me te whakaipoipo, me ngā take hototahi i mua i te marena. 

Ehara i te mea onge te kite i a koe anō i roto i tētahi āhuatanga kāore tō hiahia moepuku e ōrite ki tō tō hoa—ā, ina pāpouri tō tāne, ka tino pāpouri. "Kāore ōku hiahia moepuku, ā, kei te riri taku tāne. He aha ahau te kore ai e hiahia ki te moe tahi me taku tāne?" ka whakaaro pea koe. Kei te whakaaro pea koe, "Kāore ōku hiahia moepuku, ā, kei te whakangaro i taku whanaungatanga. Me aha ahau?" 

Mā te manawa hōhonu: he wero ngā hiahia taikaha kāore i te ōrite, engari ehara i te mea kāore e taea te wikitoria. Mā te manawanui, te pono, me te hiahia ki te mahi tahi, ka taea e kōrua ko tō tāne te wikitoria i tēnei korenga o te taatai ​​i roto i te whanaungatanga, ā, ka puta kaha ake.

He aha ahau kāore ai e hiahia ki te moe tahi me taku tāne—7 ngā take

Ahakoa kua heke te hiahia moepuku, ehara i te mea he hapa kei roto i a koe, i tō whanaungatanga rānei. He maha ngā take e kore ai ngā wāhine e hono atu ki ō rātou ake hiahia moepuku, he maha o ēnei e pā ana ki ngā tono nui o te ao, ki ngā kaupapa matua e neke haere ana, ki ngā huringa rānei o te whanaungatanga. 

Mena kei te whakaaro koe, "He aha ahau i pōuri ai ki taku tāne?", kei te whakama rānei koe mō te kore hiahia, kua tae ki te wā ki te keri hohonu. He maha ngā wā, ka mārama katoa ngā take, ā, ko te mea nui, ka taea te whakatika mā te huarahi tika. Nō reira, i mua i te ruku ki te whakaaro me pēhea te whakatau i tētahi te marena kore Hei wahine, me tūhura tātou i ngā take e whitu e whai wāhi ana ki te iti o tō hiahia moepuku.

1. Kua ngenge koe, ehara i te mea kāore koe i te hiahia

E mea ana a Tākuta Batra, "Ko te ngenge tetahi o ngā mea tino whakamate i te hiahia moepuku. I waenganui i ngā kawenga mahi, te whakahaere i te whare, me te whakatipu tamariki pea, kua iti haere ō pūngao. I te wā e ngoki ana koe ki te moenga, ko te moe te mea nui ki a koe, ehara i te whanaungatanga." Ko tētahi kupu e kīia ana e ngā wāhine i roto i tēnei āhuatanga, "Ehara i te mea kāore he hiahia mōku ki taku tāne; he tino ngenge noa ahau, kāore e taea e au te whakaaro ki tētahi atu mea." 

Hei whawhai i tēnei, me mahi te tiaki i a koe anō me te oranga tinana he mea nui. Tīmata mā te whakarite wā hei okioki me te whakaora i te tinana. Ahakoa ngā huringa iti, pērā i te tuku mahi, te moe wawe rānei, ka taea te hanga anō i te kaha e hiahiatia ana mō te whanaungatanga piripono.

2. Me whai mura te hononga

I roto i te wā, ka ngaro pea te harikoa me te harikoa o ngā whanaungatanga. Mena ka huri ō taunekeneke ki tāu tāne i ngā mahi whakahaere pēnei i ngā pire me ngā kai, kāore he mea miharo he pai ake te āhua o tō hononga i te ngākau nui. E kī ana a Susan, he kaikaute, "I taku noho ki te whakaaroaro, ka kite ahau kāore he hiahia mōku ki taku tāne nā te mea kua tino noa rawa tā māua mahi."

Hei whakaara anō i taua mura, arotahi ki te hanga hononga ā-hinengaroWhakamaherehia ngā rā, miharohia tetahi ki tetahi mā te whakamahi i ngā mahi iti, uru atu rānei ki ngā mahi e pai ana ki a kōrua. Kia maumahara ki ngā mea i hono ai kōrua i te tuatahi, ā, rapua he huarahi hei kimi anō i taua mahi makutu.

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3. Te kore whakapono ki te tinana 

Ka pā kino te uaua ki te whakaaro nui ki tō tinana ki tō hiahia mō te whanaungatanga piripono. Ki te whakama koe ki tō āhua, he ngāwari ki te hoki whakamuri i te noho piripono ā-tinana. Heoi, tera pea ka titiro tō hoa ki a koe mā te tirohanga atawhai. 

E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Ngāna kia arotahi ki te whakaae ki a koe anō, me te whakanui i ngā mahi a tō tinana māu. Mā te whakakakahu i ngā kākahu e pai ai tō wairua, mā te whakaū rānei i a koe anō ka āwhina i te huri i tō tirohanga. Kia maumahara, he maha ngā wā he mea ātaahua ake te maia i tētahi atu āhua tinana."

4. Kua tae mai te ahotea ki tō rūma moe

Ka pāngia pea koe e te ahotea i ngā āhuatanga katoa o tō oranga, tae atu ki tō hiahia taikaha. Ina pukumahi tō hinengaro ki ngā rā mahi, ki ngā herenga whānau, ki ngā mea rānei taumahatanga pūtea, he uaua ki te whakangāwari kia puta ai te hiahia. Tērā pea ka riri koe ki tō hoa mō te hiahia ki te whanaungatanga piripono. Engari whakaarohia: He he te pouri mō te kore moe tāne mēnā kei te whakahē tonu koe i a ia? Ki te kore koe e moe tāne mō te wā roa, tera pea ka pōuri ia.

E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Whakaarohia te mahi i te aroātahi, te whai wāhi ki te yoga, te whakarite rānei i tētahi wā "kore ahotea" mā kōrua ko tō tāne kia pai ai te noho tahi me te kore he mea hei whakararuraru."

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5. Kāore e whakahihiri ana te moepuku noa

Ki te kore koe e moe tahi me te momo rerekē, ka taea te whakarite i te whanaungatanga, ka rite ki te mahi uaua, kaua ki te ahuareka. Whakamutua te mahi mā te whakamātau tahi i ngā wheako hou. Ahakoa he whakamātautau i ngā wāhi hou, he whakauru i ngā mea takaro pēnei i te kākahu o roto, he whakatata noa rānei ki te whanaungatanga me te hiahia, ka taea e te iti o te momo rerekētanga te hanga i tētahi rerekētanga nui.

6. He kaipatu ngākau nui te mauahara

Kaore i whakaotihia ngā pakanga marena Ka taea rānei e ngā amuamu kāore i te kōrerotia te hanga i te tawhiti kare ā-roto, ka kore ai e tino pai te noho tata tinana. Ahakoa he mahi ā-whare, he kaupapa kua warewarehia, he kore rānei e maiohahia, he maha ngā wā ka puta te riri hei kore hiahia. I kōrero mai a Emily ki a mātou, "Kāore au i te pai mō te wā roa. I taku rapunga āwhina ngaio, ka pātai atu, "Kāore he hiahia moepuku i ahau, ā, kei te whakangaro i taku whanaungatanga. He aha ahau i tino whakarihariha ai ki taku tāne?" I kitea e au kua huna e au te riri ki a ia nā te kore taurite o ngā kawenga."

Hei neke atu i tēnā, me whakapuaki ō kare ā-roto i roto i te huarahi whai hua. Mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero whai hua ka āwhina i te whakamārama i te āhua, ka wātea hoki he wāhi mō te hononga pono.

7. Tērā pea ka uru atu ngā homoni

E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Ka pā kino ngā huringa homoni nā te whakaoranga i muri i te whānautanga, te ārai whānau, te menopause rānei ki tō hiahia moepuku. He mea tūturu ēnei huringa engari he uaua ki te whakahaere." Ki te whakapae koe kei te whai wāhi ngā huringa homoni ki te iti o tō hiahia moepuku tarai wahine, kōrero ki tētahi tohunga hauora. Ka taea e rātou te tuku tohutohu, maimoatanga, whakarerekētanga rānei i tō āhua noho hei āwhina i a koe kia taurite ake.

E kī ana a Sam, he wahine noho kāinga 50-tau te pakeke, "Kāore au i te mārama he aha ahau te kore ai e hiahia ki te moe tahi me taku tāne tae noa ki te korenga o taku paheketanga. Ko te taniwha o te wā menopause tēnei e whakangaro ana i tō māua oranga moepuku."

Kāore he Hiahia āku ki te Ira Tangata, ā, kei te Porangi taku Tāne—15 Ngā Huarahi hei Whakahaere i te Āhuatanga

Ki te mau koe i roto i te āhuatanga whakarihariha o ngā hiahia taikaha kāore i te ōrite, ka rite pea ki te taumahatanga nui ki tō whanaungatanga. Tērā pea kei te whakaaro koe, "Me pēhea te whakahaere i te marena kore ira tangata hei wahine?" kei te pātai rānei koe ki a koe anō, "He hē te pouri mō te kore moe tāne?" Ko te pono, ko te whakatere i ēnei wero me whai korero tuwhera, te māramatanga o te katoa, me te hiahia ki te tūhura ngātahi i ngā otinga. Kia tūhuratia e tātou ngā huarahi mahi e 15 hei whakatau i te korenga o te taatai ​​i roto i te whanaungatanga.

1. Whakatuwheratia ngā arai whakawhitiwhiti kōrero

Tīmatahia he kōrero pono, tuwhera hoki ki tāu tāne. E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "A faaite i to mau mana'o mārire, me te kore e whakapae, ā, whakatenatenahia ia kia whakapuaki i ana ake. Mā ngā kīanga pēnei i te, "E whakanui ana ahau i tā tāua hononga, ā, e hiahia ana ahau ki te whakaoti i tēnei raruraru," ka taea te whakatakoto i te reo tika." Mā ngā kōrero pono ka āwhina i te whakamārama i ngā māramatanga kore, ka whakatakoto hoki i te ara mō ngā otinga.

E kī ana a Nora, he kaiwhakahaere 34-tau te pakeke i tētahi MNC, "I rongo ahau mō te pānga o te marena kore-ira ki ngā tāne, ā, i tino manukanuka ahau i te whakaaro, "Kāore he hiahia moepuku i ahau, ā, kei te riri taku tāne." Ahakoa kāore anō ia kia kōrero mai ki ahau. I taku kōrerotanga atu ki taku tāne mō te ahotea o taku hinengaro, i rite ki tētahi taumaha kua tangohia. I whakaae ia i whakaaro ia kāore au i te aro atu ki a ia. Nā te kōrero i te take i tata ai māua."

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2. Kimihia te whanaungatanga kore-ira

Kāore te piripono ā-tinana e arahi tonu ki te moe tāne. Mā ngā mahi ngāwari pēnei i te awhi, te pupuri ringa, te mirimiri rānei tetahi ki tetahi ka kaha ake te whakapakari. whakawhanaungatanga kare-a-roto me te whakamahara ki a kōrua ko te hononga he mea nui atu i ngā mahi ā-tinana anake.
E kōrero ana a Zoey, he kaiwhakawhanake tukutuku kei roto i ōna tau 30, "I taku pātai atu ki tētahi hoa, 'Kāore au i te hiahia ki te taatai, me aha ahau?' I kī mai ia me tīmata tāua ki te mirimiri waewae 10 meneti i mua i te moe. He mea whakamiharo te āhua o te hononga o tētahi mea iti nei ki a tāua."

3. Whakamaherehia ngā rā moe tāne

Ahakoa te āhua kāore i te aroha te whakarite i te whanaungatanga piripono, ka taea e ia te āwhina i te whakataurite i ngā tumanakohanga me te waihanga i te tumanako. Whakaarohia ēnei wā kua whakaritea hei whai wāhitanga ki te hono anō i te whanaungatanga, kaua hei mahi uaua. Tāpirihia ngā mea takaro pērā i ngā waehere huna, te whakatakoto rānei i te wairua ki te puoro kia ngahau ai.

tenei Reddit kaiwhakamahi e whakapuaki ana i ngā tohutohu whānui mō te take, "E mōhio ana ahau ko te whakaaro ki te whakarite i te taatai ​​te mea tino kore e tino whakahihiri engari i ētahi wā ko te tumanako atu ki tēnei ka nui ake te whakahihiri o te whakarite katoa."

4. Tirohia ngā mea whakakaha i te hiahia

Ka pā pai pea ngā panonitanga o te āhua noho pēnei i te whakaiti i te ahotea, te whakapai ake i te moe, te whakarerekē rānei i tō kai ki tō hiahia moepuku. te whakakorikori tinana tahi te whakamātau rānei i ngā tikanga whakangā hei poipoi i te oranga tinana me te oranga hinengaro. I kōrero a Sabrina, he wahine noho whare, e ono tau te roa o tana marena, "I tīmata māua ki te hikoi tahi i ia ahiahi. Ehara i te mea i āwhina noa i ōku taumata pūngao, engari i homai hoki he wā ki a māua ki te kōrero me te hono atu."

tenei Reddit kaiwhakamahi i whakarārangihia ētahi rongoā whakakaha hiahia i āwhina i a rātou, "Me tīmata kōrua ko tō tāne ki te whakakorikori tinana tahi, mā tēnā ka hoki anō te "whakaahua" o kōrua."

5. Whakamātauria ētahi atu mea ahuareka

Nekehia te arotahi mai i te taatai, ka tūhura i ētahi atu huarahi hei hono atu, hei pārekareka hoki ki te noho tahi. Ngā mahi pēnei i te 

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ka taea te whakaora anō i te hononga, me te waihanga i tētahi āhuarangi marino mō te whanaungatanga piripono.

6. Whakamahia te katakata

He tino pai te kata hei whakamama i te ahotea. Whakakatakatahia te āhuatanga hei whakamama i te whakama. Hei tauira, ki te kōrero ia mō te te kore whakawhanaungatanga, ka kata pea koe, "Kei te penapena noa māua mō tētahi pō pakaru rekoata!" Mā te whakakatakata ka māmā ake ngā mea, ā, ka āwhina i a kōrua kia iti ake te pehanga.

7. Kōrero ki te arewhana homoni i roto i te rūma

Mena kei te whakapaehia he kore taurite o ngā homoni, rapua he tohutohu hauora. Ka taea e te kaiwhakarato hauora te āwhina ki te tautuhi i ngā take matua me te tuku tohutohu maimoatanga, whakarerekētanga rānei mō te noho hei tautoko i te hiahia hauora. Reddit kaiwhakamahi i tohaina ngā tohutohu taipitopito mō te hauora homoni me te hiahia taikaha, "Te āhua nei kei te iti pea ētahi o ō homoni pēnei i te estrogen me te progesterone, tae atu pea ki te testosterone (me te oxytocin)"

8. Kia whakaipoipo, kaua e herea

Mā te takaro pōwhiri ka maumahara ki tō tāne kei te hiahia tonu koe ki a ia, ahakoa kāore anō koe kia rite mō te whanaungatanga piripono. Mā ngā karere takaro, ngā mihi, tae noa ki te kimo mai i te taha o te rūma ka taea kia ora tonu te mura me te kore he pēhanga tāpiri.
E kī ana a Zara, he kaitoi, "I tīmata ahau ki te waiho i ngā reta piri iti me ngā karere whakakatakata i roto i tana pouaka tina. He mea iti noa iho, engari ka tiaho ia i ia wā."

9. Tūtaki ki waenganui

E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Kimihia he tikanga e pai ana mō kōrua. Ki te mea he nui rawa te aroha o ia rā, whakaaetia he auau e pai ana, e whai hua ana hoki mō ngā hoa tokorua." Ka tupu pai ngā whanaungatanga i runga i te taurite me te māramatanga. Ki te mea he nui ake te hiahia o tētahi hoa mō te aroha tinana i tētahi atu, he mea nui kia whai kōrero tuwhera, pono mō ngā tumanakohanga. Me arotahi tēnei kōrero ki ngā matea kare ā-roto me te tinana, me te kore he pēhanga, he hara rānei.

• Kōrerohia ngā mea e pai ana ki a kōrua, ā, whakatakotoria he tumanakohanga pono.
• Ki te hiahia tētahi hoa kia piri atu, tūhuratia ngā huarahi hei hanga i te piripono i waho atu i te moe tāne, pērā i te awhi, te mirimiri, ngā tohu aroha rānei.
• Ki te mea kei te pāngia tētahi o ngā hoa e te ahotea, te ngenge, te taumaha rānei, me whakarite te hononga kare ā-roto i te auau tinana.

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10. Rapua te rongoā tahi

Ka taea e te whakaora hinengaro mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te whakarato i tētahi wāhi tautoko, ā, he wāhi tautoko hoki hei tūhura i ngā āwangawanga matua, ahakoa he āwangawanga kare ā-roto, he ā-hinengaro, he ā-whanaungatanga rānei. Ka taea e tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro whakangungu te āwhina i te tautuhi me te whakatika i ngā mea e aukati ana i te whanaungatanga, pērā i te whara o mua, te hiahia taikaha kāore i te ōrite, te pakaru rānei o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero.

• Ka taea e te tohunga te tūtohu i ngā mahi hei whakapai ake i te hononga kare ā-roto me te whakaoho anō i te hiahia.
• Ka taea e te rongoā hinengaro te āwhina i ngā hoa mahi kia noho haumaru ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou āwangawanga me te kore e wehi kei whakahengia rātou
• I ētahi wā, ka pāngia te whanaungatanga piripono e ngā take pēnei i te ahotea, te manukanuka, te āhua o te tinana rānei. Ka taea e te kaiwhakaora hinengaro te āwhina i a koe ki te whakatere i ēnei wero.

Te rōpū tohunga o Bonobology ka āwhina i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki te hono anō me te whakapakari i tō rāua hononga mā te tautoko a te kaiārahi.

11. Whakaritea he wa mo koe

He mea nui te tiaki i a koe anō hei pupuri i te taurite o ngā kare ā-roto me te oranga whānui. Ina ngenge te kare ā-roto, te tinana rānei o tētahi hoa, ka pā ki te whanaungatanga me te whanaungatanga. Ko te whai wā ki te whakahou i te wairua takitahi ka arahi ki tētahi whanaungatanga hauora ake, whai hua ake.

• Ahakoa he yoga, he whakakori tinana, he tuhi pukapuka, he mahi whakangahau rānei, mā te mahi i ngā mea e hari ai ka taea te whakarei ake i te wairua me te kaha whānui.
• Ki te tīmata te ahua taumaha o tētahi whanaungatanga, mā te whai wāhi iti ka taea e ngā hoa te whakanui ake i te maioha o tētahi ki tētahi.
• Ina manaaki ngā hoa tokorua i a rāua anō, ka nui ake te pai me te whakatutukitanga o te whanaungatanga.

12. Tirohia anō ngā mea i whakaoho i a koe i mua

I roto i te wā, ka ngaro pea te harikoa o ngā whanaungatanga i te tīmatanga. Nō reira, whakaarohia ngā wā o mua ngā wāhanga o tō whanaungatangaHe aha te mea i whakahihiri ai koe i taua wā? Mā te hoki anō ki aua wā, mā te hanga anō rānei i aua wheako ka taea te whakaoho anō i ngā kare ā-roto o te kukume me te piripono.

• He aha ngā mahi i whakatata atu ai koe? He pō whakaipoipo ohorere, he kōrero hōhonu, he mahi takaro rānei?
• Tirohia anō ngā wāhi motuhake, whakakakahuria mō tētahi rā, miharotia rānei tetahi ki tetahi mā ngā mahi iti i whakaohooho i a kōrua i mua.
• Mā te whakamātau tahi i tētahi mea hou, pērā i te akomanga kanikani, i te hararei mutunga wiki rānei, ka taea te whakaoho i te hiahia hou.

13. Whakaritea nga rohenga marama

Kia mārama te kōrero mō te wā kāore koe e wātea ana mō te whanaungatanga piripono. Mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero mārama mō ngā rohe ka whakaiti i ngā māramatanga, ā, ka āwhina i tō tāne kia whakautehia. Mā te kī atu, "Kaua e noho i tēnei pō, engari me whakarite tāua mō te Paraire." ka whakaiti i te pēhanga i a koe, engari ka hoatu hoki he mea hei tumanako māna.

14. Whakahāngaihia ō reo aroha

Mā te mārama ki ngā reo aroha o tētahi ki tētahi ka taea te whakakī i te āputa. E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Mēnā he rite tana reo aroha ki pa tinana, kimihia he huarahi hei whakaatu i te aroha, me te kore e arahi ki te moepuku, pērā i te awhi, te mirimiri rānei i te tuara.” Waihoki, ki te whakaaro koe kāore ia e tutuki i tō reo aroha nā te mea kāore ia e tutuki ana i tō reo aroha, kōrerotia ki a ia, me te whakapuaki mārama hoki i ō hiahia.

15. Whakanuia ngā wikitoria iti

He mea tika kia whakanuia ia taahiraa ki te hanga anō i te whanaungatanga piripono. Ahakoa he kōrero pono, he kata tahi, he wā rānei e piri tahi ai te tinana, mā te whakaae ki te ahunga whakamua ka whakakaha ake i te kaha me te whakapau kaha o kōrua tokorua.

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Thoughts Final

Kāore ngā hiahia taikaha e rite ana e tohu ana i te mutunga o te whanaungatanga piripono, te hononga rānei i roto i tō marena. Mā te tango i ngā mahi iti, me te whakatairanga i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera, ka taea e koe te hanga anō i te whakawhirinaki, te ngākau nui, me te māramatanga. Kia maumahara, ehara te whanaungatanga piripono i te moepuku anake; engari he hononga e whakapakari ana i tō kōrua hononga. Mā te manawanui me te kaha, ka taea e kōrua ko tō tāne te wikitoria i tēnei wero, ā, ka tata atu i mua.

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