Kua pātai katoa ngā tāne ki a rātou anō, 'He uaua ki te tiki i a ia?' Hei tāne, he mea nui kia mōhio tātou mēnā kei te aro atu tētahi wahine ki a koe. He mea noa rawa te whakangao a tētahi tāne i tōna wā me tōna kaha ki tētahi hoa aroha, ā, i muri mai ka kitea kua hē tana pānui i te āhuatanga, ā, kāore rawa taua wahine i aro atu ki a ia.
He aha ngā Kōtiro e takaro uaua ai ki te tiki i a rātou?
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He maha ngā take hinengaro, kare ā-roto, me te pāpori e uaua ai te tākaro a ngā kōtiro, ehara i te mea nā te kore hiahia noa iho.
- I ngā wā maha, ka mahi ngā kōtiro i tēnei hei tiaki i a rātou anō whakaraeraetanga aronganui; ina koa kua whara rātou i mua, kua wehi rānei kei whakakahoretia rātou
- Ko te tākaro uaua ki te whiwhi ka taea hoki te waiho hei huarahi ki te tātari i te hiahia pono, te auau, me te kaha, hei āwhina i a rātou kia kite i waenga i te aro poto me te ngākau pono.
- He pānga anō hoki tō te āhua o te noho tahi me te tangata. He maha ngā wāhine e tipu ake ana me te whakaaro ko te "wātea rawa" ka āhua pōuriuri, ka whakaiti rānei i tō rātou "mana", ka ārahi i a rātou ki te mahi tawhiti ahakoa e kukumehia ana rātou.
- Waihoki, i ētahi wā, ka taea e te koretake o te whakaipoipo te whakaputa i ngā kare ā-roto kaha ake nā te hua o te koretake, ka nui ake te whakahihiri o te tawhiti.
- I ētahi wā, e whakaata ana i te pakanga ā-roto; e hiahia ana ki te hononga engari me te hiahia hoki ki te whakahaere, ki te whakamanawa, ki te wā rānei kia noho haumaru ai te hinengaro
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Ehara i te mea he mea nui te mōhio ki ngā tohu e whakaatu ana kei te takaro uaua te wahine ki te whiwhi i tētahi mea hei karo i tētahi āhuatanga whakamā pēnei, engari hei karo hoki i te kiia he tangata whakarihariha mō ngā wā katoa. te whai i tētahi wahine kāore e aro atu ana ki a koe. Nō reira, anei ētahi huarahi hei mōhio māu mēnā kei te uaua ia ki te kukume i a koe, kāore rānei ia e aro atu ana ki a koe.
1. Kāore ia e kī 'kāo'
Me tīmata tātou ki te tohu māmā rawa atu e pai ana te kōtiro ki a koe engari e takaro uaua ana ki te tiki. Ki te kore te wahine e aro ki a koe, ka kī noa atu ia, ahakoa he atawhai, he aha rānei. E kore ia e tuku i a koe kia pātai mēnā e pai ana ia ki a koe, engari, ka whakamārama ia kāore ia e aro ki a koe.
- Heoi, ki te mea kei te uaua ia ki te whiwhi i a koe, e kore ia e whakakahore ki ō mahi ki te whakapau i te wā ki a koe anō.
- Kāore pea ia e whakaae ki te tūtaki i te wā tuatahi ka karanga atu koe i a ia kia haere tahi, ā, ka whakatau ia ki te whakaroa.
- Ki te mea kei te uaua ia ki te tiki i a koe, e kore ia e aukati i a koe, engari ka mea ia kia whaia koe e ia
Ka rongo koe i ngā tohu e e hiahia ana ia hei hoa wahine māu...
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
Ki te hīkoi haere ia me te kī āe, te whakakore tika rānei i ana mahere, te kī rānei "Kāore au e hiahia ana ki te whakaipoipo i tēnei wā," he kore noa iho ia e aro, ehara i te mea kei te mahi pukumahi noa ia.
2. E ai ki a ia he pukumahi tana kaupapa mahi
Ko ngā wā tuatahi ka tono koe i tētahi wahine kia haere tahi, ko te tikanga ka mea ia i tērā
- He pukumahi ia i taua rā
- Kua whakaritea kētia e ia ngā mahere me tētahi atu hoa
- Kua karangatia rānei ia ki tētahi pāti i whakaaro ia ki te haere atu
Te āhua nei kei te pukumahi tonu ia, ā, te āhua nei kei te ngana ia ki te karo i a koe.
E rua ngā take nui e mahi ai ngā wāhine i tēnei.
- Ko tētahi, kāore rātou e hiahia kia āhua pōuri rawa atu
- Tuarua, e hiahia ana rātou kia tino pai koe ki a rātou kia manawanui ai, ā, kaua e rapu noa i tētahi hoa rangatira, i tētahi mea koretake rānei.
E hiahia ana rātou kia mōhio kei te rapu koe i tētahi whanaungatanga pono.
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
Ki te kore ia e whakawātea i te wā māu ahakoa kua kī ia kei te wātea ia i muri mai, kāore rānei ia e whakarerekē i tana wā, tera pea kāore ia e aro mai.
3. E whakaaro ana ia mō ngā whakaaro mō te rā
He mahi mārire tāna. E kore rawa e kitea pēnei i te, "E hiahia ana ahau ki te haere tahi me koe." Engari, ka kōrero mārire ia ki a koe i ngā mea e hiahia ana ia ki te mahi i tētahi rā whakatā.
- Tērā pea ka mea ia kei te whakaaro ia ki te toro atu ki tētahi hakari, ki tētahi wharekai rānei.
- Tērā pea ka mea ia kei te hoha ia, ā, kei te miharo ia ki te āhua o te tāone.
Āe, koinei te mea hoatu whakaaro koe tērā pea he rite te tangi, kāore?
He rau ngā mea ka taea e ia te kōrero, ko te mea nui kia tirohia ko tana whakaaro hehe mahi ka taea e kōrua te mahi tahi, engari kei a koe te tikanga ki te whakaaro kia haere tahi tātou
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
Ki te kōrero ia mō ngā mahi whānui engari kāore rawa e kī ana kia mahia ngātahitia, ahakoa he kōrero whakakatakata, he tangata hoahoa noa iho pea ia.
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4. Ka karohia koe e ia i ōna rā kino
Ka taea e te nuinga o ngā tāne te whakaae ki te meka ka whakakorehia e ngā wāhine ngā mahere i whakaritea e kōrua. Ko te take he take hauora, he whara tetahi hoa, ā, me haere rātou ki te tākuta, me ētahi atu. Tērā pea he pono tēnei, engari kāore pea. Ki te mea he uaua te mahi a te kōtiro ki te tiki i a koe, ka ngana ia ki te karo i a koe i ngā rā e whakaaro ana ia kāore ia i te tino pai. Tērā pea he mea iti noa iho pēnei i tā rātou whakaaro:
- He rā makawe kino tō rātou
- Kāore rānei rātou e pai hei hoa mō taua rā
Ki te pai tetahi kotiro ki a koe, ka ngana ia ki te whakaatu i tōna pai katoa, ā, ka whakakorea e ia āna mahere mēnā kāore i te pai te ahua.
Ehara tēnei i te kī he wahine ia hoa wahine hiahia, engari ko tana hiahia kia ataahua ia ina noho tahi koe.
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
Ki te karo tonu ia i te whakapā atu ki a koe, ahakoa kei te pai ia, ā, kāore hoki e ngana ki te hono anō ki a koe i muri i te whakakorenga i te hononga, tērā pea kāore ia e hiahia.
5. Te āhua nei he rerekē ngā tāngata e rua
He tino pōhēhē tēnei i ētahi wā.
- I tētahi rā ka mahana, ka takaro hoki ia ki a koe
- Engari i te aonga ake kare ia e tino mōhio ki tō aroaro
- Ka whakaaro koe mēnā he tino pai ia ki a koe, kāore rānei
- Ko koe rānei ia mahere tārua he aha ranei
Tērā pea te āhua nei kei te kōrero koe ki tētahi atu tangata. Mēnā he rite tonu tana whakawhiti i waenga i ēnei āhua e rua, he tūponotanga kei te pai ia ki a koe, ā, kei te kaha ia ki te pupuri i tō hiahia.
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
Mena he tino onge te whanonga atawhai, he āhua ātaahua noa iho rānei te āhua, kaua ki te whakawai, ki te whaiaro rānei, tera pea he koretake noa iho ia, ā, kāore i te āta takaro noa iho.
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6. Ka kōrero ia ki a koe mō ētahi atu tāne e hiahia ana ki a ia
Ki te mea he uaua te kimi i tētahi wahine, tera pea ka kōrero ia ki a koe mō ētahi atu tāne kei roto i tōna ao. Ka mahi rātou i tēnei hei whakapataritari i a koe, hei whakaoho rānei i a koe kia hae ai. whakapataritari i a koeHe āhua rerekē tēnei i te whakaaro noa, engari he whanonga tino noa i waenga i ngā wāhine.
- Ki te mea he hoa noa iho koe e whakaarohia ana e ia, kāore rawa he take hei whakaatu atu i te tokomaha o ngā tāne e aroha ana ki a ia.
- Ka kōrero noa ia mō ētahi atu tāne ki a koe kia kite ai koe i tō urupare, kia akiaki ai hoki i a koe kia neke i mua i te mahi a tētahi atu.
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
Ki te mea ko ētahi atu hoa aroha anake āna e kōrero ana, kāore rawa mōu i tua atu i aua whakatauritenga, e kite ana ia i a koe hei hoa noa iho.
7. Ka whai wā ia ki te whakaatu i a ia anō
Ki te whakapau kaha te wahine ki te kukume i a ia, ka ngana ia ki te ātaahua i a ia ina tata ia ki te tangata e pai ana ki a ia.
- Kei tua atu tēnei i ā rātou paerewa whakapaipai whaiaro
- Ki te whakaaro rātou ka tūtaki pea rātou ki te tangata e pai ana ki a rātou, ka nui ake te wā e pau ana i ngā wāhine ki te whakaatu i a rātou anō i tō rātou tikanga.
- Arā, he nui ake te wā e pau ana ki te makawe me te hanga-ake, me ētahi atu.
Ki te mea he ātaahua tonu te wahine ina kite koe i a ia, ā, kāore anō kia kite i a ia i ōna rā hararei, he tūponotanga kei te uaua ia ki te tiki atu.
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
Ahakoa he ataahua tō āhua i roto i ngā huihuinga pāpori, ehara i te mea ka kukume mai i a koe te āhua, ina koa mēnā kāore ia e hiahia ana kia noho tahi tāua.
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8. He roa te wā e whakautu mai ai ia
He mea tino kitea tēnei i waenga i ngā tāne; kei te tuku karere koe ki tētahi wahine engari ka roa rawa tana whakautu mai, ā, kāore koe i te tino mōhio mēnā kei te whakararuraru koe i a ia, kei te takaro noa rānei ia ki te tiki i a ia. Tuku karere takirua Kāore pea i te tika i ngā wā katoa. Engari, ko te roa o te wā whakautu ka whai tikanga pea ki tētahi o aua mea. Waimarie, anei te huarahi e taea ai e koe te wehewehe.
- Ki te whakautu mai te wahine i muri i te wā roa, ā, he poto, he hoha rānei āna whakautu, ehara ia i te mea e takaro uaua ana ki te whakarongo, engari e tumanako ana ia ka hoha koe, ā, ka waiho ko ia anake.
- Ki te mea he uaua tana takaro ki te whakarongo, ka kata ana whakautu, ā, ka ngana pono ia ki te whai wāhi atu ki te kōrero.
Me pupuri hoki e koe ināianei kōrero whakamere ā, he mea whakahihiri. Mena he tohu taki matomato tēnei, ka rere te kōrero.
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
Mena he maroke, he whakahāwea, he kotahi noa te kupu, he kore rānei e aro ki ngā whakautu e whiwhihia ana e koe, kāore ia e hiahia ki te kōrero ki a koe.
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9. E ngana ana ia ki te pupuri i tētahi mea ngaro
Ki te pai te wahine ki tētahi, kāore ia e hiahia kia āhua hoha rawa, nō reira, ka ngana ia ki te pupuri i te tāne e pai ana ki a ia kia whakaaro noa.
- Ka hoatu e ia ngā whakautu ngaro
- Me te whakahua mārire rānei i ana mea e pai ana ki a ia me te kore e kī atu ki a koe te nui o tōna pai ki a ia
- Ka kitea pea tēnei i roto i ngā whanonga iti, i ngā kōrerorero rānei
E mārama ana te take e pēnei ai rātou, engari tera pea he mea whakakorikori i te mea ka āhua koretake ia i ētahi wā. Ko te mea pai ko te manawanui, ki te mea kei te huna tonu ia i a koe, ehara ia i te mea kei te uaua ki te tiki atu.
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
Mena he koretake noa iho āna whakautu, kāore he pātai whai muri, he taipitopito whaiaro rānei, ko te tikanga kāore ia e aro, ā, he rerekē te āhua o ō mōhiti whero.
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10. Kāore ia e whakaae ki tāu āwhina
Koinei tētahi o ngā tohu kāore i te tino mōhiotia whānuitia e whakaatu ana kei te uaua ia ki te hono atu ki a koe, engari me pēhea hoki e mōhio ai koe mēnā e kite ana ia i a koe he tangata aroha, he hoa rānei.
- Ki te mea he hoa noa iho tōu tirohanga ki a ia, kāore ia e āwangawanga mēnā ka mahi koe i ngā mea iti māna, pērā i te kawe mai i ētahi tauera kakahu, te kawe rānei i tētahi mea taumaha.
- Heoi, ki te hiahia ia ki a koe, e kore ia e tuku i te whai wāhi ki a koe ki te mahi i ēnei mea, engari ka whiriwhiria e ia māna ake e mahi.
E mea ana rātou i tēnei hei whakaatu i tā rātou āheinga ki te mahi motuhake, me te whakatū hoki i a rātou anō hei takitahi.
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
He rerekē te tū motuhake hauora i te karo i te tautoko. Ki te kore ia e tono i ō whakaaro, i tō tautoko rānei ahakoa i roto i ngā horopaki whai tikanga, tera pea ka kore ia e aro.
11. He aroha ia
He tino uaua tēnei ki te ngaro. Ki te mea he wahine hiahia ki a koe Ka atawhai, ka mahana hoki tana whanonga me tōna waiaro ki a koe.
- Ka aroha ki tāu e kī ana
- Ka whakakorekore i ngā mahi whakarihariha, i ngā mahi kuware rānei e mahia ana e koe
- Ā, ka whakapau kaha ia ki te mea kia harikoa koe ki te noho tahi me ia
He mārama noa iho tēnei engari ki te mea kei te āwangawanga tonu koe kei te tinihanga koe i te kōrero, tirohia ngā tohu mō te pā atu ki te tinana.
- E pā ana ia ki ō ringaringa?
- Ka māia ia i a koe, ka whakatata atu rānei?
Ki te tukua koe e ia kia tata ki a ia, kei te hiahia ia ki a koe.
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
Kaua e tangohia te aroha e herea ana ki te atawhai me te atawhai, pērā i te menemene atawhai, ngā mahi atawhai rānei kāore he mahana, hei tohu aroha. Ā, ki te whakatau koe ki te mahi pēnā, ā, ka hē koe i muri mai, kaua e whakapae i a ia mō te 'ārahi i a koe'.
"He tino mārama te aroha o ngā kōtiro ki a koe. Ka meinga e rātou kia kore e taea te whakakore. Ko te titiro kanohi tonu he tohu. He nui te menemene. Te hiahia ki te pā. Te mana pupuri. Te whakapuaki i ngā taitara. Te matapae i tō taenga mai, i ō hiahia rānei."
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12. He mea whakakatakata koe ki a ia
Tērā pea he nui tāu tikanga whakakatakata ā, tera pea he tino pai koe ki te kōrero katakata, engari ahakoa koe e mōhio ana he maha āu katakata kāore i te tino pai. Ki te kata tonu ia ki āu katakata, he tohu pai tēnā e pai ana ia ki a koe engari he uaua ki te whakarongo.
- Whakamātauria ētahi kōrero whakakatakata korekore
- Ki te kata ia ki te nuinga o aua mea, he tino hiahia ia ki a koe
- Kia maumahara ehara i te mea he katakata katoa āna, engari kāore ia e hiahia kia pōuri koe.
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
Ko te kata hei whakaatu i te ngākau māhaki, i te ngākau atawhai rānei, ina koa mēnā kāore he hononga hohonu atu i tēnā, ehara i te mea he kukume.
13. E mōhio ana ōna hoa ki a koe
Āe, he rerekē paku tēnei. Mena kei te ruarua tonu mēnā he kōtiro te tākaro uaua ki te tiki, ka taea e koe te ngana tonu ki te rapu mēnā e mōhio ana ōna hoa ki a koe.
- Ki te mea kei te hiahia ia ki a koe, kua tino kōrero ia ki ōna hoa tata mōu.
- Ki te whai wāhi koe ki te kōrero ki ōna hoa, ngana ki te kite mēnā kei te whakaatu mai ōna hoa kei te kōrero ia mōu.
- Ki te mea kāore ia i kōrero ki ana hoa mōu, tera pea kāore ia e aro nui ana ki a koe.
Ina ko te tikanga kāore ia e hiahia ana
Ki te mōhio ana ōna hoa ki a koe i roto i ngā kōrerorero noa iho, ehara i te kōrero aroha, ā, kāore rawa e tohu ana kei te kōrero ia mōu me te hiahia, tera pea ka kite noa ia i a koe he hoa noa iho.
FAQs
Ko te kotiro e kaha ana ki te tiki i te tangata, he maha tonu ngā wā e whakaatu ana i te wātea tonu engari he hiahia tonu; ko ia:
Ka whakautu whakaaro nui
Ka haere tonu ngā kōrero
Ā, e whakaatu ana i te whai wāhi atu ina taunekeneke koe
Ko te kore aro, i tetahi atu taha, he rite ki:
Te karo i ngā wā katoa
Te kore o te whai
Ā, he iti noa iho te kaha i roto i te wā
Ko te rerekētanga matua ko te tauutuutu: kei roto tonu i ngā whanonga uaua ki te mārama te hiahia me te urupare kare ā-roto, ahakoa he mea here.
Ko te takaro uaua ki te whiwhi ka tohu pea i te kukume, ina koa ka honoa ki ngā tohu ngawari pēnei i te takaro pōrearea, te titiro tonu ki ngā kanohi, te kōrero tonu rānei. Heoi, ehara i te tohu pono o te hiahia. Ka whakamahia e ētahi tāngata te tawhiti hei tiaki i a rātou anō, nā te mea rānei kāore rātou i te tino mōhio. Ko te horopaki, te auau, me te whakapau kaha te mea nui atu i tētahi whanonga kotahi ina whakamāramahia te kukume.
Me whai noa koe i tētahi mena he mārama, he whakaute te whanaungatanga. Ki te aro atu ia, ki te whakautu mai, ki te whakaatu hoki i tōna hiahia ahakoa tōna tūpato, he pai pea te tohe mārie. Heoi, ki te mea he taha kotahi tonu te whakapau kaha, he pōhēhē rānei koe, he ngoikore rānei ō kare ā-roto, he pai ake te hoki whakamuri. Me whakatenatena te kukume, kaua e ngenge, e kore rānei e tino mōhiotia mō ngā wā roa.
Tohutohu Matua
- He maha ngā take e kaha ai te takaro a ngā kōtiro kia whiwhi ai rātou, pērā i te wehi kei whakakahoretia, te hiahia kia kite i ngā mahi tūturu, te kore rānei e tino mōhio ki ō rātou kare ā-roto.
- Ko te takaro uaua ki te whiwhi ka rite ki te whakakore i ngā mahere me te tomuri i ngā whakautu, engari he tohu aroha me te hiahia anō hoki
- Ki te hiahia ia, ka aro tonu ia ki ā kōrua kōrero, ka kata ki ā kōrua katakata, ā, ka whakapau kaha kia ātaahua ki a kōrua.
- Ka ngāwari te whakamāori he i tētahi o ēnei tohu, nō reira kia tūpato. Tērā pea he ātaahua noa iho ia, kāore hoki e aro mai.
Thoughts Final
Ko te tumanako, kua mārama ake koe ki ngā tohu e uaua ana te kimi a te wahine. Akohia te mōhio ki ēnei tohu, ā, ka māmā ake te mōhio mēnā he hoa aroha tō te wahine ki a koe, kāore rānei.
Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
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