11 Ngā Tohu Hae Paitini i roto i te Hononga, me pēhea te Whakatau i a rātou

He rite tonu te hae ki tētahi kare ā-tangata, engari he kare ā-roto kua kino te ingoa, nā te mea ka taea e ia te huri haere i waho o te mana whakahaere, ka huri hei āhua kino. Ina tupu tēnā, ka kino pea ki ngā whanaungatanga kaha rawa atu, tino hihiri, ka whakakore i te pai, ka whakakapia ki tētahi kare ā-roto kino, kino rawa atu. Kāore pea ngā tohu hae kino e kitea wawetia, engari mā te āta haere, ka whakaiti i tō hononga kia noho hei anga kau o tētahi whanaungatanga.

Haunga tēnā, ko te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga e ki ana i te hae ka pā kino ki tō hauora hinengaro, ki tō oranga ngākau, me tō whakaaro nui ki a koe anō. Ki te mea kei te mahi tahi koe me tētahi hoa hae, kua tae ki te wā ki te kite i ā rātou whanonga whanaungatanga kino mō te āhua o aua whanonga, ā, kati te whakaaro he whakaaturanga aroha, he whakamātau rānei i a koe anō kia whakamārama i ā rātou whanonga mā te pātai pēnei, he tohu aroha te hae?

Ki te hiahia koe kia angitu tō whanaungatanga, me aro atu ki te hae, me te whakakore i te hae i te taumata taketake. Heoi, i te mea ka hae, ka hae, ka pupuri rānei tātou katoa i ō tātou hoa aroha i tētahi wā, me tīmata te tukanga mā te mōhio ki ngā tohu o te hae kino.

Hae Hauora me te Hae Kino

He rite tonu ki te harikoa, te riri, me te wehi, he kare ā-tangata te hae. Nō reira, he mea noa te hae o te tangata. Tērā pea ka hae te hoa e aroha ana ki a koe, e aroha ana ki a koe, ki te kite ia i a koe e aro atu ana ki tētahi atu, e aro nui ana rānei ki te mahi, ki te oranga pāpori, ki te wā "mōku" rānei i a rātou. Ahakoa te āhua tamariki, he mea mārama, he mea noa hoki. 

Heoi, ki te tīmata tō hoa rangatira ki te whakahaere i ō nekehanga katoa, ki te whakapae i a koe, ki te whakapae teka rānei i a koe mō te tinihanga, mō te tinihanga rānei, ka nui rawa te mana pupuri, ā, ka waiho koe kia pōuri, koinā kei te whakaatu ia i ngā āhuatanga kino e puta mai ana i te hae kino. Kia pai ake ai te mārama ki tēnei, me titiro tātou ki hae hauora te rerekētanga o te hae kino me te hae kino:  

He mea noa te hae

Ka hae tātou katoa i ētahi wā. Hei tauira, ki te whiwhi tō hoa i tētahi mahi tino pai i a koe e rapu tonu ana i tētahi, tera pea ka pōuri koe. Ehara i te mea kāore koe i te harikoa mōna. Ehara hoki i te mea he tangata kino koe. He mea noa te hae; ka hanga i a tātou hei tangata. Ka meinga tātou kia hiahia ki te pupuri i ā tātou mea me ā tātou tāngata tino pai, ā, kaua rawa e tohatoha.

I ngā wāhi e arohaina ana, ka tata tonu te hae me te hiahia ki te pupuri i te tangata e arohaina ana ki a koe anake. Ko te mea e kino ai, e raruraru ai taua kare ā-roto noa, ko te wā e whakatau ana koe ki te mahi i tēnā. Nō reira, ahakoa he mea mārama te hiahia kia kaua e aro atu ki tō hoa, he mea kino te ngana ki te aukati i a rātou kia tūtaki me te taunekeneke ki ētahi atu tāngata.

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Nā, āhea te wā e kino ai te hae?

Ko te rerekētanga i waenganui i te hae hauora me te hae kino, ko te momo hae kino me te paitini e ahu mai ana i te koretake me te mana pupuri. Ka taea e ia te ārahi i te tangata ki te whakahaere i ngā kākahu o tā rātou hoa, te wāhi e haere ana rātou, ko wai ka tūtaki rātou, me ētahi atu. Ā, kāore rawa tēnā i te pai. Ahakoa te nui o te aroha o te tokorua tetahi ki tetahi, ka whakaaetia kia whai oranga motuhake rāua.

Ahakoa he pai ngā mahi tahi, kāore e hiahiatia kia mahi tahi kōrua i ngā mea katoa. Ahakoa te pō whakangahau a ngā tama, a ngā kōtiro rānei, ehara i te mea kua memeha te aroha i waenganui i te tokorua. Inaa, he mea hauora mō ngā hoa te noho ko rātou anake, me te noho tahi me ētahi atu hoa.

Engari ka ngana tonu ētahi hoa ki te haere ki ngā wāhi katoa, ki te mahi i ngā mea katoa me koe. Ka riri rātou ina pai te tangata e hae ana ki a rātou ki tō pou hou i runga i te Instagram. Ka pātai atu rātou he aha te take i tuku karere mai ai te kōtiro o tō akomanga ki a koe kia tono āwhina mō te mahi, kaua ki tētahi atu. Ka ngana rātou kia mutu tō mau i ngā kākahu e whakaaro ana rātou he nui rawa te whakaatu i ō rātou kanohi. Me ērā atu mea anō.

Nō reira, ahakoa he mea noa te hae – ina taurite – he mea hauora, engari ko te momo hae e hiahia ana koe ki te whakahaere i tō hoa, ehara i te mea pera. Ka taea e ēnei tohu hae paitini te whakaputa take whakawhirinaki, ka wehe i ngā hoa, ka waiho ngā patunga kare ā-roto, ā, i te mutunga, ka whakangaro rawa i te whanaungatanga.

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11 Ngā Tohu Hae Paitini Kaua e Whakakahoretia e Koe

Kāore e taea te whakakore he kino te hae nui rawa. E ai ki tā tātou i mōhio ai, ahakoa he mea kāore e taea te karo i te hae, ina kore e taea te whakahaere, ka waiho pea koe kia raru ki te te whanau paitiniKo te rongo pai, ehara i te mea ka whakamanawanui koe ki tēnei āhuatanga, ko te haere atu anake te huarahi kē atu. 

Ka taea te kimi i tētahi otinga mō ēnei whanonga kino o te whanaungatanga, mena ka hiahia ngā hoa e rua ki te mahi i te mahi ki te tautuhi me te tango i ngā take o te hae i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. I te nuinga o te wā, me rapu koe i ngā tohu whanonga kia mōhio ai koe he aha te take o te hae. Anei ngā tohu 11 o te hoa hae ka kino pea mō tō whanaungatanga:

1. Te whakapae kāore he taunakitanga

Ki te ruarua tō hoa i tō whakapau kaha me tō pono ki a rātou me ō taumata whakapae teka Ahakoa kāore he taunakitanga, he take rānei, ko tētahi o ngā tohu hae kino rawa atu tēnei e whakatūpato ana kei te raru koe i te pararaiha. E ai ki te tohunga hinengaro rongonui me te tohunga whanaungatanga, ki a Tākuta John Gottman, "Ko ngā whakapae koretake, inā koa ka maha tonu te mahi, he momo tukino kare ā-roto e whakaiti ana i te whakawhirinaki me te whakaute. He maha ngā wā ka tukuna e te hoa hae ōna ake āwangawanga ki roto i te whanaungatanga." 

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2. Te whanonga piripono me te rapu whakamarie

Ko te hae i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga he tohu i te koretake o te noho tahi. Ka kitea anō hoki tēnei i roto i whanonga pohehe me te hiahia tonu ki te whakamanawa. "Ki te rapu tonu tō hoa i te whakamanawa mai i a koe, he tohu tēnei kei te mataku koe kāore ia i te pai mōu, he mea e hono ana ki te iti o te whakaaro ki a koe anō. Ahakoa he mea noa te rapu whakamana i ētahi wā, ina noho hei tono auau, ka taea e ia te taumaha i te whanaungatanga," te whakamārama a Tākuta Terri Orbuch, he tohunga whanaungatanga. Tērā pea ka hua ake tēnei i tō hoa, 

• E hiahia ana ki te whakapau i ō rātou wā katoa ki a koe
• Ka pātai atu mēnā e aroha ana koe ki a rātou i ngā wā maha i te rā 
• Te tīmata i te whawhai, te puta rānei o te wairua ina kore ēnei hiahia e tutuki

3. Te tirotiro tonu

Mena ka hoki koe ki ngā rā o tō tamarikitanga i te wā i tika ai kia ripoatahia e koe ōu mātua ki tōu wāhi noho i ngā wā katoa, kei te kite koe i tētahi o ngā tohu hae o tō hoa rangatira. Tērā pea ka puta tēnei i roto i tō hoa rangatira, 

• Te aroturuki i ō nekehanga katoa 
• Te tirotiro i tō waea 
• Te whakaū i tō wāhi noho mai i ētahi atu 
• Aroturuki i to mahi pāpāho pāpori

I te whakamāramatanga he aha tēnei tetahi o ngā āhuatanga tino kino e puta mai ana i te hae, e kī ana te tohunga hinengaro haumanu a Tākuta Lisa Firestone, "Ina puta te hae hei hiahia ki te aroturuki i ia nekehanga a tō hoa, he tohu tēnei mō te kore whakawhirinaki. Ka tere te huri o tēnei whanonga hei whakahaere ā-roto, he tohu tēnei mō ngā whanaungatanga kino." 

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4. Te ngana ki te whakahaere i tō wā me tō aro

Ko te whakahaere me te whakawhāiti i te mana motuhake me te mana whakahaere o te tangata tētahi o ngā whanonga whanaungatanga tino kino. Koinei pea te mea ka pā ki a koe mēnā kei te raru tō hoa i te hae kino. Tērā pea ka ngana rātou ki te whakahaere i te tangata e tūtaki ana koe, te wāhi e haere ana koe, me te āhua o tō whakapau i tō wā. 

Ahakoa kāore rātou e aukati ana i a koe i te mahi i tāu ake mahi, kāore rawa rātou e maioha ki tēnā. Ka kitea tēnei ina hoa hae ka tahuri ki te whakama, ki te whakama, ki te ārai rānei i a koe i ia wā ka mahi koe i tētahi mea kāore rātou e hiahia ana kia mahia e koe. He huarahi tino taketake tēnei mō te titiro ki ngā hononga tangata, ā, ka whakama pea koe mō te hiahia noa ki te mahi i ngā mea ko koe anake. 

"He maha ngā wā ka uru te hae kino ki te tono a te hoa kotahi i te wā me te kaha katoa o tetahi atu, ā, he iti noa te wāhi e waiho ana mō te takitahi me te wāhi whaiaro. Ka hangaia he āhuatanga kino e whakaaro ai te hoa hae he tika ki a ia te whakahaere i te oranga o tetahi atu."

— Tākuta Joshua Klapow, tohunga hinengaro haumanu 

5. Te whakaatu i ngā whanonga whaiwhai

Ka taea e te hae nui i roto i te whanaungatanga te whakararuraru i te tangata, ā, ka mutu pea ka whakaatu i ngā āhuatanga kino ka kino ki a rātou me tōna hoa. Ko tētahi tauira matarohia o tēnei ko te tīmatanga o tō hoa ki te whai i a koe nā te mea kāore e taea e ia te whakapono kei te mahi koe i tāu e kī nei. Engari, ko te whai i a koe ehara i te mea me whai puku ia i a koe ki hea koe e haere ana. Tērā pea ka pēnei te āhua: 

• Te puta atu ki tō wāhi mahi i ngā wā katoa, kāore i te whakamōhiotia
• Te tohe kia haria koe ki te wāhi e haere ana koe
• E tū mai ana ki te mihi atu mēnā kei te haere koe me ō hoa.

Ko ēnei momo whaiwhai kei roto i ngā tohu mārama o te hae kino. Kaua e pohehetia he ngā tohu o te aroha ponoKi te hiahia tonu koe kia pai tō whanaungatanga ki tēnei tangata, me mahi e koe ngā mahi whakatika inaianei.

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6. Te wehe i a koe i te hunga e arohaina ana

Kei hea te hae, ngā tohu o te whanaungatanga hauora kore ka tīmata te puta. Ko tētahi tohu rongonui e kore e taea e koe—ā, kaua hoki e tika—te wareware, te wareware rānei, ko te ngana a tō hoa ki te wehe i a koe i ō hoa aroha. Ināianei, he maha ngā wā ka puta mārire tēnei, ā, ka kore te nuinga o te tangata e kite i tētahi mahere tino āta whakaarohia, kino hoki e mahia ana. Mārire engari he pono, tera pea kei te ngana tō hoa ki te motu i a koe i ngā hoa me te whānau e whai tikanga ana ki a koe mā te, 

• Te whakakino i te hunga e noho tahi ana koe 
• Kāore e hoatu he wāhi ki a koe kia taea ai e koe te kōrero noa ki a rātou 
• Te whakahaere i tō whakawhitiwhiti kōrero ki a rātou 
• Ka pōuri koe mō te hiahia ki te noho tahi me rātou 

"Tērā pea ka ngana tētahi hoa hae ki te wehe i a koe i ō hoa, i tō whānau rānei, hei huarahi ki te whakahaere i a koe anō. He tohu tēnei momo noho motuhake mō te whakahaere kare ā-roto, ā, ka pā kino ki te oranga hinengaro," te kī a te kaiwhakaora hinengaro, a Tākuta Beverly Engel.

7. Ngā tauhohenga kore taurite ki ngā āhuatanga

Ko te hae i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga he tohu pinepine mō te kore haumaru me te kore e whakawhirinaki ki tetahi ki tetahi he iti te kiritau. Mā ēnei kare ā-roto o te koretake ka tauhohe tō hoa ki ngā āhuatanga tino māmā noa iho, ahakoa o ia rā. Hei tauira, ki te mea kei te haere koe i tētahi haerenga mahi, ka horomia rātou e te wehi kei te moe tahi koe. Ki te kī atu rānei koe he mahere āu me ō hoa, ka whakaaro tonu rātou kei te tinihanga koe i a rātou. Ka taea e tēnei te waiho i a koe kia hīkoi noa i runga i ngā anga hua manu i te taha o tō hoa. 

E whakamārama ana a Tākuta Jenn Mann, he kaiwhakaora whanaungatanga, "Ka taea e te hae kino te whakaputa i ngā tauhohenga taupatupatu ki ngā taunekeneke harakore, pērā i te kōrero noa ki tētahi hoa mahi. Ko te nuinga o te wā ka puta mai ēnei tauhohenga nui rawa i te koretake me te wehi kei whakarērea." 

8. Te tino āwangawanga

Ehara i te mea ko te koretake o te māia anake te take o te hae nui i roto i te whanaungatanga, engari he tohu nui anō hoki tēnei. I roto i tētahi whanaungatanga kino e kī ana i te hae kino, tera pea ka koretake tō hoa mō tētahi mea, mō tētahi mea rānei e tangohia atu ai tō aro ki a rātou. Tērā pea, 

• Ko to mahi 
• Ko o matua 
• Ō hoa 
• He mōkai 
• He mahi whakangahau 

E mea ana te kaituhi rongonui me te tohunga hinengaro haumanu, a Tākuta Seth Meyers, "Ko te hae paitini e puta pinepine mai ana i te ahua hohonu o te koretake o te haumaru i te wa e mataku ana tetahi hoa i tetahi mea, i tetahi mea ranei e tahuri ke ana i te aro mai i a ia. Ka taea e tenei koretake te arahi ki te whakahaere, ki te ngā whanonga mataku. "

9. Kāore koe e rongo ana i te whakaute

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu o tētahi whanaungatanga hauora kore, e pāngia ana e te taniwha kanohi matomato o te hae, ko te kore e rongo i te whakaute. Ina hiahia tō hoa ki te whakahaere i ngā āhuatanga katoa o tō oranga, ki te whakahē i ō whiringa, me te ruarua i ō nekehanga katoa, he uaua ki te whakapono kei te whakaute rātou i a koe hei tangata takitahi. Ka taea e taua mōhiotanga te tino whakapōrearea. I roto i te wā, ka kino pea tō... kiritau-whaiaro me te mārama ki a koe anō.

Mena kua tīmata ngā whanonga whanaungatanga kino a tō hoa hae ki te pā ki a koe i tēnei taumata, kua tae ki te wā ki te kōrero pono ki a rātou. Whakahokia mai tō mana motuhake, me te whakamōhio atu me whakatika e rātou ā rātou mahi mena e hiahia ana rātou kia pai te whanaungatanga. Ae, ki te hiahia tō hoa ki te whakapau kaha ki te huri, whakamanahia rātou mō tō tautoko.

10. Te whakamahi i te hara hei whakahaere i a koe

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu tino kitea o te hae kino ko te te whakama i roto i te whanaungatangaMai i te whakama i a koe mō te kore e aro nui ki a rātou ki te kōrero whakatoi, ki te takaro rānei i te kāri a te patunga, ka whakamahia pea e tō hoa he whānuitanga o ngā rautaki tinihanga hei whakama i a koe mō te mahi i tetahi mea. Ko te whāinga matua i konei ko te whakamahi i te hara me te whakama hei taputapu hei whakahaere i ō whanonga me ō mahi.   

"Tērā pea ka whakamahia e te hoa hae te hara hei whakahaere i a koe kia rite ki ō rātou hiahia. Mā tēnei whakatoi kare ā-roto ka mau te tangata kē atu kia whakaaro ai ia he kawenga mō ngā āwangawanga o tōna hoa, he tohu tawhito tēnei o te hae paitini." 

– Tākuta Sherry Gaba, kaiwhakaora hinengaro

11. Te whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto 

E mea ana te tohunga hinengaro, a Tākuta Harriet Lerner, "He maha ngā wā ka hunaia e te hae ngā take hohonu o te mana whakahaere me te raweke. Tērā pea ka takaro te hoa hae ki ō kare ā-roto, ka meinga koe kia whakaaro he kawenga tō rātou mō tō rātou pouri, he tohu whakatūpato nui tēnei mō te tukino kare ā-roto." Kei te whakaatu tō hoa i ngā tohu hae paitini mēnā ka ngana rātou ki te whakahaere i a koe i roto i ngā kare ā-roto na:

• Te pupuri aroha 
• Te tahuri ki te maimoatanga wahangu 
• gaslighting 
• Te kawe mai i tētahi atu tangata hei whakararuraru i a koe
• Te mahi whakawehi mārire, māhorahora rānei 

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Kāore e tika kia whai wāhi tēnei momo hae kino ki roto i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora. Ki te kite koe kei te raru koe i tētahi hoa hae, he mea nui kia whakaae koe ki te raruraru, kaua e tuku noa hei tohu i te nui o tō rātou aroha ki a koe. Mēnā rānei, me huna ngā tohu kino ki ngā pātai pēnei, he tohu aroha rānei te hae? 

Mai i konei, ka taea e koe te āwhina i tō hoa ki te wikitoria i ōna āhuatanga hae, ki te wehe atu rānei. Kāore he huarahi tuatoru. Heoi, kia mōhio koe ka taea anake te mahi i te kōwhiringa tuatahi mēnā ka mōhio tō hoa ki te raruraru, ā, ka pai ki te mahi i tā rātou mahi hei whakatika. Ki te u tonu tō whakaaro ka pai rātou ki te mahi i a rātou anō, ā, whakaora i te hononga, ka āwhina ēnei tohutohu a ngā tohunga mō te whakatau i te hae:  

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1. Tukuna he whakamarie engari kaua e nui rawa te utu

Ina whakaatu tō hoa i ngā tohu hae kino, tera pea te āhua nei mā te tuku whakamarie me te aro nui atu ki a rātou ka taea ai te whanonga kino. Heoi, he mea nui kia mahara ki tēnā te hae i roto i te whanaungatanga he tohu pinepine te kore haumaru me te ngoikore rawa. Nō reira, ahakoa kāore koe i te tino mārama he aha rātou i manukanuka ai, i pōuri ai, ngana ki te tautoko i a rātou i roto i taua āhuatanga.

• Whakapaua he wā atu ki a rātou
• Pā atu ki a rātou
• Whakamaharatia te nui o tō aroha ki a rātou

I taua wā anō, kaua e whakahōnore nui rawa. Ahakoa ka taea e te whakaatu aroha te āwhina i tō hoa ki te aro atu ki ō rātou wehi, kia mahara kaua e atawhai, kaua hoki e whakakaha i a rātou. Kia aroha engari kaua e whakapōrearea i a rātou. Kāore e tika ana te hae kino, ā, kaua rātou e meinga kia rerekē te āhua, ki te kore ka ārahi noa iho rātou ki te ngana ki te whakahaere i a koe. "Ahakoa he mea nui kia whakamarietia tō hoa, kia tūpato kei whakahōnore nui rawa mō ō rātou hae. Mā te whakahōnore nui rawa i ō rātou wehi ka kaha ake pea te whanonga, kaua e āwhina i a rātou ki te aro atu me te whakahaere," te tohutohu a Tākuta Orbuch.

2. Kōrerohia ō rātou manukanuka

Ki te whakaaro koe kua tino āwangawanga, kua māharahara hoki tō hoa mōu me tō kōrua whanaungatanga i ngā wā tata nei, ā, kei te whakaatu hoki i ētahi tohu o te hae kino, kua tae ki te wā kia noho tahi tātou, kia kōrero mai i te ngākau ki te ngākau. Pātai atu ki a rātou he aha te āhua. 

• He aha te mea e pēnei ai ō rātou whakaaro? 
• Kua puta ake ēnei āwangawanga i roto i tētahi o āu mahi, i ō whanonga rānei? 
• Nō tētahi whanaungatanga o mua rānei tēnei? 
• Nō tētahi tangata motuhake rānei te pūtake o tō rātou hae, he momo hae whānui rānei? 

Kaua e ngana ki te whakahē i a rātou. Kaua e tautohetohe, kaua hoki e ngana ki te whakatika i tētahi mea. Whakarongo mai. "He mea nui kia waihangahia he wāhi haumaru e pai ai tō hoa ki te kōrero mō ō rāua hae me te kore e whakahē." Te tuwhera whakawhiti korero "ka āwhina ki te hura i ngā āwangawanga huna, me te poipoi i te māramatanga," te kī a Tākuta Gottman. 

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3. Ngāna kia mārama, kaua e ārai

Ngāna kia mārama ki tā rātou e kōrero nei, me te aha hoki e pēnei ai ō rātou whakaaro. Tērā pea he uaua ki te kore e riri, ina koa mēnā ka tohu mai rātou i tētahi mea ehara i a koe te he. Engari, kaua e noho hei ātete, e hamama, e mimiti ki roto i te... taua whawhai anō, whakarongo ki tā rātou e kōrero ana, kātahi ka whakamārama i tō taha ki a rātou.

Kaua e whakaroa i a koe e mahi ana i tēnei. Mena he tangata whakaaro nui tō hoa, me kite wawe tonu rātou i tō taha, ā, ka mōhio he koretake ngā wehi. I tētahi atu taha, ki te mea kei te ngana tonu rātou ki te whakapae i a koe, ā, ka kore e whakapono ki āu kōrero, kua tae pea te wā ki te arotake anō i te whanaungatanga katoa.

4. Āwhina i a rātou ki te hanga i tō rātou whakaaro nui ki a rātou anō

E ai ki tā tātou i kōrero ai, ko te hae e ahu mai ana i te koretake me te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō. "He maha ngā wā, ko te hae e ahu mai ana i te koretake hohonu. Mā te whakatenatena i tō hoa ki te whakapai ake i a ia anō me te arotahi ki ōna kaha whaiaro ka āwhina i a ia kia noho haumaru ake, ka whakaiti i te ia o te hae," te kī a Tākuta Meyers. 

Nō reira, ko te rauemi pai rawa atu hei whakatau i te hae ko te aro atu ki ēnei take matua. Whakatenatenahia tō hoa rangatira kia mahi i a ia anō, ā, ki te tika, rapua he āwhina ngaio hei whakatau i ēnei take e puta mai ana hei tohu o te hae i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Mena kei te whakaaro koe ki te tiki āwhina engari kāore koe e mōhio ki hea e titiro ai, me rapu he kaiārahi mohio, mātau hoki. Te rōpū a Bonobology kei konei mo koe. 

5. Whakaritea nga rohe hauora

Ahakoa he mea nui te tautoko i tō hoa i roto i tēnei haerenga, he mea nui anō hoki te whakatakoto i ētahi rohe mō rātou me koe anō. Kōrerotia ki a rātou ngā mea kāore e tika ana. Me ata riri atu ina whakaatu ana rātou i ngā tohu o te hae kino. Kāore tetahi o kōrua e taea te kī atu ki tētahi atu he aha ngā kākahu ka taea e rātou te mau, kei hea rātou e taea ai te haere tahi, me wai hoki e taea ai e rātou te noho tahi.

"Te whakatakoto rohenga "He mea nui te whanaungatanga ina mahi tahi me tētahi hoa hae. Mā ēnei rohe ka noho whakaute, ka noho ora hoki te whanaungatanga, ka ārai i te piki haere o te whanonga whakahaere, te whanonga pupuri rānei," te tohutohu a Tākuta Mann.

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Thoughts Final

Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakatau i te hae o te hoa. Engari, i te mea kāore anō tō hoa kia tino huri ki ngā rohe kino, tae atu ki te tutu, mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero me te whakapau kaha tika ka āwhina i a kōrua kia puta mai i te whakamātautau hei tāngata pumau, haumaru hoki. Inaa, nā te mea i whiriwhiri koe ki te aroha me te tautoko i a rātou i ngā wā ngoikore, tera pea ka kitea e koe kei te whakawhirinaki atu rātou ki a koe, ka tata atu ai i mua.

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Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.