Ngā Tohutohu mō te Whakaipoipo mō te Hunga Tīmata — Kia Mārama te Whai i ēnei!

He hou ki te ao whakaipoipo? Kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te tīmata whakaipoipo mō te wā tuatahi? Whitikihia ō whitiki mō tētahi haerenga whakahihiri ki te ao o ngā mea ka taea! He mea whakahihiri, he mea whakamataku hoki te tīmatanga, engari kaua e mataku - he tīmatanga anō hoki ngā tohunga katoa. Tērā pea he rite te whakaipoipo ki te takahi i ngā wai uaua i te tīmatanga, engari me te whakaaro tika me ngā tohutohu whakaipoipo tika mō ngā tīmatanga, ka tere koe i te ara pērā i te toa.

Ahakoa ngā tohunga whakaipoipo, kāore anō kia mōhio ki ngā āhuatanga o te whakaipoipo, nā te mea mehemea i pērā rātou, kua kore rātou e whai wāhi atu! Mai i te tūnga whakatā ki te noho pōuri me te noho noa iho, he maha ngā wheako whakaiti ka pā ki a koe i tēnei mahi. Waihoki, ko te whakarongo ki ngā wheako mamae o te ao tūturu ka waiho koe me te hiahia kino. Nō reira, i mua i tō urunga atu ki te mahi, akohia ngā taura hei tīmatanga nui. Ka āwhina mātou i a koe me ētahi tohutohu whakaipoipo taketake. Nō reira, pānuihia kia mōhio ai koe ki ētahi tinihanga me ngā mahi mō te 'me pēhea te whakaipoipo' mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine…

15 Ngā Tohutohu mō te Whakaipoipo mō ngā Tīmatanga

Te taatai ​​o naianei He mea whakapoauau pea tēnei, inā koa i te tīmatanga o te whakaipoipo. He maha ngā ture me ngā tohutohu rerekē - ka tono pea ētahi kia tatari koe i mua i te whakatata rawa atu, ko ētahi ka whai tonu. He rite ki te paihere tohu rori e tohu ana i ngā huarahi rerekē. I roto i ō tātou tau 20, he pukumahi tātou, he hanga hoa, he kimi i tō tātou ake ara. Koia te take he pai ki te whai i ētahi tohutohu whakaipoipo mō ngā tīmatanga e arotahi ana ki te whakamarie i a koe me te āwhina i a koe kia tipu i a koe e tūtaki ana ki ngā tāngata hou. 

Tērā pea he maha ngā pātai e ara ake ana i roto i tōu mahunga, pērā i: 

• Me pēhea te whakaatu i a koe anō mō ​​te whakaipoipo?
• He aha ngā mahi e tika ana kia mahia ina whakaipoipo ana koe me tētahi tangata hou?
• Me pēhea te tīmata i te whakaipoipo mena kāore anō kia whai wheako te tangata?

He rerenga pātai mutunga kore tēnei, tika? Kaua e manukanuka, i roto i tēnei tuhinga, ka whakautua katoatia e mātou. Nō reira, ahakoa kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakaipoipo i tētahi tangata hou, me pēhea rānei te mahi a te rārangi wā whakaipoipo, kua whakarārangihia e mātou ngā mea katoa māu.

He Reddit kaiwhakamahi He tino mohio tana tuku i ētahi tohutohu mō te whakaipoipo i kohia mai i ōna ake wheako. E mea ana ia, "Ko te tohutohu pai rawa atu ka taea e au te tuku atu ki a koe mai i tēnei wā ki mua ko te whakarongo ki ngā tohutohu katoa me te kore e manukanuka." He mea nui kia inehia te aratohu mō te hunga tīmata ki te whakaipoipo i runga i te tauine o tō whakamarie me ngā wheako o mua, engari ahakoa tērā, ka taea tonu e koe te hiahia ki ngā tirohanga hou. Ko taku tumanako kua rite koe ki te 'tote' i a tātou e tūhura ana i ngā tohutohu 15 mō te hunga tīmata ki te whakaipoipo.

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1. Kia mōhio he mahi uaua te whakaipoipo — i runga ipurangi, i te kanohi ki te kanohi hoki

Nā, me pēhea te whakaipoipo i a koe anō he tauhou koe i roto i te ao whanaungatanga? Āe, he kuware ahau i tōku ao katoa, ā, kāore au i te mōhio āhea ahau e pāngia ana ki te kore e puta mai tētahi tāne ātaahua ka mea mai, "E pai ana ahau ki a koe. Me inu tāua kia taea ai e au te takaro anō ki a koe." 

He haerenga uaua te whakaipoipo, inā koa mō ngā tīmatanga pēnei i ahau, ā, ka tino whakamataku pea. Kei te whakaaro tonu tātou, "Me pēhea te mahi a te whakaipoipo?" Waihoki, he rerekē te whakaipoipo ipurangi. He rerekē ngā mea e rua mō te kōrero ipurangi, kātahi ka tūtaki kanohi ki te kanohi. He mea maori te noho taumaha i a koe e tīmata ana, ā, tera pea ka whakaaro koe me hiahia koe ki ētahi mea. tohutohu teití ipurangi kia mōhio ai koe he aha tāu mahi e whai ake nei.

Ko te taahiraa tuatahi ki te wikitoria i ō mataku ko te whakaae ki tōna aroaro, tika? He rite tonu te mahi a te whakaipoipo. Ko tētahi o ngā whakaaro rongonui 'Me pēhea te whakaipoipo 101' ko te whakaae he mahi uaua te whakaipoipo. Kei te whakaaro tonu koe he aha ngā mea ka tumanakohia i ngā wiki tuatahi o te whakaipoipo? Anei ētahi mea ka taea e koe te tumanako:

• He maha ngā nganatanga i rahua 
• Nga wheako kino
• Te tūtaki ki ngā momo tāne, ki ngā momo kōtiro rānei i mua i te tūtakitanga ki te kanohi o te puru

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2. Te pono, kaua te āhua 'whakamarie'

I a koe e timata ana a hononga hou, he mea nui te pono. Ki te whakaaro tonu koe he aha ngā mea kāore e tika kia mahia i ngā tīmatanga o te whakaipoipo, āe, kei a mātou te whakautu: kati te takaro mārire. Ahakoa te āhua mārire, ka taea te whakaputa i ngā māramatanga. Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe he 'mea noa' tā rātou e hiahia ana, engari tera pea ka tumanako rātou ki tētahi mea nui. Ko te noho pono ka whakatika i ngā mea mai i te tīmatanga. Mā te whakaari i a koe anō ehara i a koe ka arahi pea ki te whakapoauau me ngā kare ā-roto mamae i te mutunga. Kia noho ko koe anake - koinei te huarahi pai ki te kimi hononga tūturu.

I tūtaki taku hoa pai ki tēnei kōtiro i runga i tētahi pae whakaipoipo ipurangi, ā, ka tīmata rāua te kite tetahi i tetahi i muri i te wiki o te tuku karere kuputuhi. Ahakoa kāore ia i te whanoke, he wera, he makariri hoki i te roanga o te wā. I ētahi rā, ka kōrero rāua i te pō katoa, ā, i ētahi atu rā, ka noho puku te reo irirangi. Ahakoa i pā ki a ia, i roto i tōna kuware, i mahi ia i te āhua marino, kāore i pāngia. I mutu ia i te moumou i ngā marama e toru i roto i taua porangi whakaipoipo ipurangi i mua i te whakaae ki te meka kāore i pai ki a ia. Nō reira, ko ētahi tohutohu pai mō te whakaipoipo ipurangi mō te hunga tīmata ko te ngana ki te hanga māramatanga me te mārama ki ngā mea. 

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3. Whakatairangahia te haumaru

Me pēhea te whakaipoipo i tētahi tangata tauhou mai i tētahi taupānga? A, mēnā ka kitea he kaikōhuru raupapa ia, he kaipahua, he tangata rānei tangata tinihanga arohaKāore he aratohu mō te tīmatanga ki te whakaipoipo e oti me te kore tetahi o ngā tohutohu whakaipoipo tōmua nui, ā, he mea uaua ki te whiriwhiri. Ki te tūtaki koe i roto i tētahi wāhi piripono mō te wā tuatahi, ahakoa i tētahi whakaipoipo tuarua, tuatoru rānei, tera pea he tata rawa mō te whakamarie. 

Haunga tēnā, ki te nui haere ngā āwangawanga moepuku, ka taea e koe te mahi i runga i te hiahia nui, ka eke ki te taumata e whai ake nei i mua i tō rite mōna. Tērā pea ka puta te pouri i muri mai. Nō reira, tiakina koe i ngā wheako kino, ā, kia mōhio pai koe ki tō hoa i mua i tō ekenga ki te taumata e whai ake nei. Koinei tētahi o ngā tohutohu tino nui mō te 'me pēhea te whakaipoipo' mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine.

4. Awhitia ngā ngoikoretanga

Ahakoa he mea nui kia noho haumaru, he maha ngā wā ka pohehe tēnei āwangawanga ki te tino tūpato. Ko tā mātou tohutohu mō te hunga takakau, i te wā e whakaipoipo ana, me awhi i te ngoikore, ko te tikanga hoki kia tuwhera, kia pono hoki koe mō tō tuakiri, ō kare ā-roto, me ō hiahia. Engari kaua e huna i tō āhua tūturu, e huna rānei i tō tuakiri tūturu, tukua koe kia pono, kia whakapuaki hoki i ō whakaaro me ō kare ā-roto. 

Hei tauira, ki te mea kei te mataku koe mō tētahi mea, kei te āwangawanga rānei koe mō tētahi mea ngā āwangawanga whanaungatanga, he tohutohu matua mō te hunga tīmata ki te whakaipoipo ko: kāore he aha te whakapuaki i ō rātou whakaaro. Mā tēnei tuwhera ka hanga he hononga hohonu ake ki tō hoa, ā, ka whakatakoto i te atamira mō tētahi whanaungatanga hou i hangaia i runga i te pono. Mā tēnei whakaaturanga o te ngoikore ka taea e tō hoa te noho haumaru ki te whakaatu i tōna āhua tūturu. Me whai taurite te nui me te auau o tō whakapuakitanga. 

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5. Kia noho ko koe anō, engari kaua e nui rawa

He tata tonu tēnei hei toronga atu i te kōrero o mua. Ko tētahi o ngā tohutohu mō te hunga tīmata ki te whakaipoipo ko te kimi i te taurite uaua i waenga i te noho ko koe anake, engari kaua e nui rawa. He pai te kōrero mō ō wehi me ō āwangawanga, engari he nui rawa pea te whakahua i te kōrero katoa mō te whara o tō hoa o mua i a koe me te maturuturu o ngā roimata i ō kanohi.

Puritia te ture koura o te whakatakoto i tō waewae pai ki mua me te whakaaro tika. Mena kei te rapu koe i ētahi tohutohu 'me pēhea te whakaipoipo 101' ā, ka kitea e koe tētahi whakaaro kia pono koe, kei te huarahi tika koe. Anei ētahi tohutohu whakaipoipo taketake hei maumahara kia kitea ai taua taurite:

• Tohaina ngā taipitopito ponoWhakatuwheratia mārire ngā kōrero mōu ake. Tīmata ki ngā kaupapa māmā ake i mua i te ruku ki ngā take hohonu ake, whaiaro ake. He huarahi pai tēnei hei tīmata i te whakaipoipo
• Whakarongo mai, whakautu mai: Kia aro ki ngā urupare me ngā whakautu a tō hoa. Inehia ō rātou hiahia me te taumata whakamarie. Mēnā kei te ahua whakaae mai rātou, ka taea e koe te kōrero atu. He mea nui kia noho hei whakarongo pai
• Kia tupato ki te wā: Kaua e kōrero wawe rawa. Tukua kia rere noa te kōrero, kia taea ai e ia tangata te whakaatu i ētahi atu mea i te haere tonu o te rā.
• Kia mau tonu te pai: Kia māmā, kia pai hoki te kōrero i te tīmatanga. Kaua e ruku wawe ki ngā kaupapa tautohetohe, uaua rānei, nā te mea he roa te wā e pau ana ki te whakatuwhera.
• Patai nga paatai: Whakaatuhia te hiahia ki tō hoa mā te pātai i ngā pātai mō ō rātou oranga, ngā hiahia, me ngā wheako. Mā te whakarongo kaha, ka whakatenatenahia he kōrero taurite, ka whai wāhi ngā taha e rua ki tētahi whanaungatanga hou.

6. Kia ata haere

Koinei pea te tohutohu tino tawhito mō te whakaipoipo mō ngā tīmatanga. Ina tīmata koe ki te whakaipoipo i tētahi tangata hou, mā te ata haere ka taea e kōrua te noho tahi me tētahi i runga i tō ake tere. Whakaarohia tēnei he ture kore tuhituhi mō te whakaipoipoEngari i te ruku mārire ki ngā herenga nui, ki ngā tumanakohanga nunui rānei, kei te hoatu e koe he wā ki a kōrua anō ki te hanga hononga, ki te tirotiro mēnā ko rātou tō hoa rangatira pea, me te tirotiro mēnā kei te tino pai kōrua ki te noho tahi. 

He Reddit kaiwhakamahi e tuhituhi ana, "Ki ia tangata ka tūtaki koe. Arotahi ki te tukanga taahiraa-i-te-taahiraa, kia ngahau hoki." E whakaae ana ahau ki te tohutohu nā te mea ko te kimi i te aroha me te hanga i tētahi whanaungatanga aroha he mea e pā ana ki te kimi i te harikoa me te whakatutuki. Ina tuwhera te hinengaro o te tangata, ina mārama ki ngā whāinga, ā, ina hiahia nui ki te ngahau, ka tau ngā mea ki tōna wāhi tika.

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7. Kaua e tino piri wawe rawa

Kia aro tātou ki ngā mea kāore e tika kia mahia i ngā tīmatanga o te whakaipoipo. Ko te mea tuatahi, ko te mea nui, kaua e tino piri. Ki te tere rawa te piri i roto i te wā whakaipoipo, ka tino taumaha pea, ā, ka pā pea ki tō tuakiri. Whakaarohia tēnei hei tētahi atu o ngā tohutohu 'Me pēhea te whakaipoipo 101' he mea tino nui. Anei te āwhina i a koe ki te whakatairanga i te mana motuhake i te tīmatanga: 

• Kei te tiaki koe i tō ake harikoa me tō tuakiri 
• Ka āwhina i a koe ki te pupuri i te taurite hauora i waenga i tō oranga whaiaro me te whanaungatanga
• Ka aro atu tēnei wāhi ki tētahi whanaungatanga hauora, ā, ka taea e kōrua te kawe mai i ō kōrua āhua pai rawa atu ki roto i te whanaungatanga. 
• E whakaatu ana kei reira whakaute tahi ā, e mārama ana koe ki tā rātou hiahia mō te tipu whaiaro

8. Whakaute me te whakaū i ngā rohe

He mea nui te whakaute i ngā rohe nā te mea ka whakatakoto i te wairua mō tētahi whanaungatanga hauora, whakamarie, me te whai tikanga. Koinei te tohutohu tino nui mō te hunga takakau, nā te mea mā te whakaae me te whakaute i ngā rohe o tētahi ki tētahi, ka whakatipu i te whakawhirinaki, ka hanga whakaute, ā, ka whakarite kia noho haumaru, kia whai uara hoki ngā hoa tokorua i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ka whakatū hoki i te mana motuhake me te takitahi, ka taea e ia tangata te whakapuaki i ō rātou hiahia me ō rātou manakohanga me te kore e wehi i te whakahē, i te kore whakamarie rānei.

Ko ētahi rohe whānui ka taea e te tangata hou ki te whakaipoipo te whakatū ko:

• Mokowā whaiaro: Ko te ture tuatahi o te whakaipoipo ko te whakaute i te wāhi me te wā o tetahi ki tetahi 
• Manakohanga Whakawhitiwhiti: Whakaaetia te auau me te huarahi e pai ai koe ki te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero
• Ngā rohe ā-tinana: Kōrerohia ngā taumata whakamarie me te aroha tinana me te whanaungatanga piripono
• Tūmataiti: Whakatauhia ngā mōhiohio e whakaaetia ana kia tohaina, me ngā mōhiohio e tika ana kia noho tūmataiti. Kia kotahi te whakaaro mō te tūmataitinga o tētahi ki tētahi.
• Nga rohe kare-a-roto: Kia mārama ki ngā taumata whakamarie o tētahi ki tētahi mā te whakapuaki i ngā kare ā-roto me ngā wheako whaiaro
• Te Tere o te Whakaipoipo: Kōrerohia te tere, te puhoi rānei o te whanaketanga o te whanaungatanga e hiahia ana kōrua kia tupu

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9. Akohia te kī, "kāo!"

Koinei tētahi o ngā tohutohu tino nui mō te tīmatanga o te whakaipoipo mēnā kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakaipoipo i tētahi me te kore he arai. He mea nui kia noho noa te kī "kāo". Kāore te tangata hou i roto i tō ao i te kaipānui hinengaro. Te tuwhera whakawhiti korero me te whakakore mārie hoki, he mea nui kia whanake ai he whanaungatanga hauora. 

I taku tīmatanga ki te whakaipoipo, ka tere taku ako i te hiranga o te whakakore i te tangata. I tētahi wā, ka pēhia ahau kia haere tahi me ngā hoa o taku hoa i muri tonu i tā māua whakaipoipo tuatahi. I whakaae ahau kia pai ai te tangata e mōhio ana ahau, ā, kātahi ka noho māharahara, ka pouri hoki mō te toenga o te pō. 

Engari i kite ahau ko te whakakore i tētahi he mea nui ake te whakaute i aku rohe, kaua ki te whakakore i a rātou. Mā te whakakore me te whakaute, kua kore pea ahau e whai i tētahi āhuatanga kāore i rite ki taku taumata whakamarie, ā, ka taea e au te pupuri i taku ngākau pono.

10. Tomo mai me te māramatanga

Ki te mea kei te whakaaro tonu koe me pēhea te whakaatu i a koe anō mō ​​te whakaipoipo, me mārama tō hinengaro. Me mōhio koe ki tāu e hiahia ana ngā tumanakohanga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga kei te hiahia koe ki te mōhio ki te kōrero. Me tango te tauira a taku hoa a Carl. Ko Carl tētahi tangata me arahi te whakaipoipo ki tētahi whanaungatanga roa, whai tikanga, ā, i tētahi rā, i tētahi wāhi i muri mai. 

I tēnei wā, i taumau ia me tētahi kōtiro i runga i tētahi pae whakaipoipo ipurangi. I pai rāua ki ngā kōtaha whakaipoipo ipurangi a tētahi ki tētahi, ā, ka tīmata rāua ki te haere tahi. I tino pai rāua, ā, i haere tonu te hui tahi. I muri i ētahi wā whakaipoipo, ka kite a Carl i te kōtiro e tuku karere ana ki tētahi atu tāne i runga i taua taupānga whakaipoipo ipurangi.

Me kī noa iho he rerekē ngā mea i hiahiatia e Carl rāua ko tēnei kōtiro i roto i ō rāua oranga whakaipoipo me ō rāua whanaungatanga aroha i taua wā. Tērā pea he mea nui tā kōrua mahi, ā, he mea nui ake pea tō hoa i roto i te te teití noa he momo tangata e hiahia ana ki te ngahau me te whakamātau i ngā mea hou. Pērā anō hoki. Nā, ki te pai te noho tahi o kōrua, me te kore e mōhio he rerekē rawa ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e kōrua i te wheako, ka arahi pea tēnei ki:

• ngā kare ā-roto pōrearea me te mamae
• Te ngaronga o taua mura tuatahi
• Te pōhēhē me ngā pātai mō te whakaaro nui ki a koe anō

Nō reira, ko tētahi atu o ngā tohutohu tino nui mō te hunga tīmata ko te kōrero noa mō ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e kōrua, inā koa mēnā e pai ana kōrua ki a rāua.

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11. Kaua e whakaaro nui rawa

Ko te ture tino nui i roto i tō aratohu tīmatanga mō te whakaipoipo ko te kaua e whakaaro nui rawa. Ko te whakaaro nui rawa i roto i te whakaipoipo ka arahi ki te ahotea me te manukanuka koretake. Ka taea te whakamahi i tēnei ki ngā āhuatanga katoa o te ao, ehara i te mea ko tō oranga aroha anake. Mā tēnei tātaritanga tonu ka aukati i a tātou ki te hono atu ki tētahi atu nā te mea kua mau rawa tātou i roto i ō tātou whakaaro. 

I ētahi wā, ka mutu pea tā tātou whakaaro mō tō tātou hītori whakaipoipo, mō ngā hapa o te rā tuatahi, mō ngā wheako o mua rānei. Ka nui rawa atu tā tātou whakaaro ki ngā mea katoa, kaua ki te noho i roto i te wā, me te mōhio noa tetahi ki tetahi. Anei ētahi mahi ka taea e koe te whakauru hei karo i te mahanga o te whakaaro nui:

• Whakauru atu ki ngā mahi whakangahau hei tahuri i te aro
• Whakapūmau i a koe i roto i te wā o nāianei mā te whakaaroaro, mā te manawa hōhonu rānei
• Tukua he wā poto ki a koe hei whakaaroaro, kātahi ka huri te arotahi ki te mahi i tētahi mea e pai ana ki a koe
• Whakawhitiwhiti whakaaro ki tētahi hoa, ki tētahi kaiārahi rānei, nā te mea ka taea e ia te tuku tirohanga hou, me te whakaiti i te whakaaro nui rawa
• Kia maumahara koe ko te whakaipoipo he mea mō te kimi i ngā tāngata hou me te ngahau, ehara i te aromatawai noa iho

12. Whakamaherehia ngā rā ngahau whakaaroaro

Kei te whakaaro tonu koe me pēhea te whakaipoipo i tētahi kua tūtaki noa koe? He huarahi pai te whakarite i ngā rā whakaipoipo ātaahua ki te mōhio ki tētahi me te ngahau tahi. Ko te ngahau tahi he ara ki tētahi hononga hauora. Hei tauira, 

• Ki te mea he pai ki a rātou ngā mahi toi, mā te kawe i a rātou ki tētahi whare taonga, ki tētahi whakaaturanga toi rānei ka kitea e koe ngā mea e whakahihiri ana i a rātou, e whakaoho kōrero ana hoki.
• Ki te pai rāua ki te taiao, mā te hikoi, te pikiniki rānei i tētahi wāhi ataahua ka taea e kōrua te whakangā me te hono atu ki waenganui i te taiao ataahua.

Mā ēnei momo wā ka hangaia he āhuarangi marino, ka taea e kōrua te kōrero, te kata, me te whakapuaki i ngā wheako. Ehara i te mea ko te whakarite mahere anake. Engari ko te whai wāhi ki te ako atu mō tētahi ki tētahi i roto i tētahi taiao taiao, ngahau hoki. Kia maumahara, ko te ngahau tahi te mea nui ki te hanga hononga pai! Ināianei, ina whakaaro koe he aha ngā mea hei tumanakohia i ngā wiki tuatahi o te wā whakaipoipo, āe, koinei tāu whakautu.

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13. Kia mau ki te tirohanga pai

Me pēhea te whakaipoipo i tētahi tāne, i tētahi kōtiro rānei e pōuri tonu ana, e amuamu ana rānei? Kāore koe e pena, tika? Āe, pērā anō hoki mōu. He mea nui te pupuri i tētahi tirohanga pai i roto i tō oranga aroha, ā, he huarahi pai hoki tēnei ki te tīmata whakaipoipo, nā te mea he pānga nui ki te āhua o tō whakahaere i ngā whakakorenga. He wāhanga tūturu ngā whakakorenga o te tukanga whakaipoipo. Ehara i te mea ka arahi katoa ngā tūtakitanga ki tētahi hononga. Ka akiaki te tirohanga pai i te tuwhera ki ngā whai wāhitanga hou me te maha atu o ngā mea, pērā i te āhei i a koe ki te neke whakamua, te tūtaki ki ngā tāngata hou, te kimi hoa, me te tūhura i ngā hononga hou.

Ka waiho ia whakakorenga hei whai wāhitanga mō te tipu, e tuku ana i ngā māramatanga whai hua ki ō hiahia, ki tāu e rapu ana i roto i ngā whanaungatanga, me te ngā mea e tika ana, ngā mea kāore e tika ana mō te whanaungatanga roaKo te mārama ki te whakaipoipo he mea nui ake te mārama ki a tātou anō i tētahi atu mea. Hei tāpiri, he maha atu ngā painga o te pupuri i te whakaaro pai. Hei tauira:

• Ka ātaahua ake koe 
• Ka whakatairanga i ngā taunekeneke pai ake
• Ka whakanui ake i te tūponotanga o te kimi hononga whai tikanga, wā roa hoki. 

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Me pēhea te whakatutuki i ngā rā tuatahi

Nā te mea kua mārama koe ki te whakaaro tika hei kawe i a koe e takahi ana ki te ao o te whakaipoipo, ā, kua mōhio hoki koe ki ngā mea katoa hei mahi ina whakaipoipo koe i tētahi tangata hou, me ruku tātou ki te ao o ngā whakaipoipo tuatahi. Ko ngā whakaipoipo tuatahi he rite ki te whakaaturanga o tētahi kiriata. Ka whakatakotohia e rātou te atamira mō ngā mea ka puta i te heke mai. Koinei tō whai wāhitanga tuatahi ki te tūtaki ki tētahi me te waiho i tētahi whakaaro pumau, e whakaatu ana i ngā wāhanga pai rawa atu o koe. 

Whakaarohia tēnei hei whakataki ki tētahi kōrero whakahihiri pea. He mea nui te whakaatu i tō waewae pai i te wā tuatahi o te rā, nā te mea ka mau tonu taua whakaaro tuatahi. Ehara i te mea ko te miharo i tētahi, ko te noho hei tangata tino tika anake, engari ko te ine anō hoki i te hototahitanga mā te ngā tohu matū, te pārekareka ki te noho tahi, me te whai wā nui tahi. Anei ētahi tohutohu matua mō te hunga tīmata e ruku ana ki te ao whakaipoipo kia angitu ai i aua rā tuatahi nui:

• Whakaatuhia te tino hiahia: Pātai atu, whakarongo mai hoki. Whakatauritea te kōrero mōu ake me te hiahia ki tō hoa. Ko tētahi o ngā pūkenga matua mō te hoa ko te waihanga i tētahi wāhi mō te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera. 
• Āta karohia te kōrero ki te hoa o mua: Puritia te kōrero i tēnei wā tonu. Mā te kōrero mō ō hoa o mua ka puta he mamae koretake.
• Noho tonu: Ko te ture tuatahi o te whakaipoipo ko te waiho i te waea pūkoro ki tawhiti. Whakauru atu ki te wā. He tohu tēnā i te whakaute me te haumi ki te rā.
• Whakamihi me te whakaaro nui: Whakamihihia ngā mahi me te kore e nui rawa. Kia pono, kia motuhake hoki
• Tīmatahia he kōrero taurite: Kia tūpato kia rua ngā huarahi. Whakatenatenahia rātou ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou whakaaro me ō rātou wheako.
• Whakautehia ngā rohe whaiaro: Whakatairangahia te whakamarie me te whakaae tahi, inā koa mō whakawhanaungatanga kare-a-roto te whakapā tinana rānei
• Whakamahia ngā kōwhiringa haumaru: Ki te anga whakamua ngā mea ki te whanaungatanga piripono, me whakarite te haumaru me te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero mārama.

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Kei te pātai tonu koe ki a koe anō, "Me pēhea te mahi a te whakaipoipo?" Ko te tumanako kāore. Ko te tīmatanga i roto i te ao whakaipoipo he rite ki te takahi ki tētahi ao hou, tika? Kaua e manukanuka, kei te ako me te mārama te katoa ki te whakaipoipo i a rātou e haere ana! He rite ēnei tohutohu whakaipoipo mō te hunga tīmata ki tētahi mapi mō tēnei haerenga porangi. Ka taea hoki e te whakaipoipo te whakapohehe, tae atu ki ngā mea katoa mai i ngā wā puku rerekē ki te mōhio he aha te tikanga o te tangata. Engari mātakitaki mai? He maha ngā mea ka akohia e aua wā whakamā! He rite ia wāhanga whakaipoipo ki tētahi wāhanga o tētahi panga e āwhina ana i a koe ki te mārama ki tāu e rapu nei.

Nō reira, whakamahia tēnei tuhinga hei aratohu mō te hunga tīmata ki te whakaipoipo, me te whakamātautau i ngā wai me te kore e mataku. Mā roto i ēnei tohutohu, akohia ētahi tinihanga e tino hiahiatia ana mō te 'me pēhea te whakaipoipo' mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Kia maumahara, ko te pono te kī, ā, koinei anake te pūkenga whakaipoipo katoa e hiahiatia ana e koe. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakaari i a koe anō hei tangata kē. Me noho ko koe anake, ā, kia kite te hunga tika i taua tangata whakamataku!

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