18 Ngā Mea Hei Kōrero Hei Whakamarie i tō Hoa Tāne Mō Tō Korua Hononga

Me pēhea te whakamanawa i tō hoa tāne mō tō kōrua whanaungatanga? Ko te whakautu ki tēnei pātai kei roto i te mārama he aha i hiahiatia ai te whakamanawa i te tuatahi, me te aha hoki hei āwhina i te whakatutuki i taua hiahia. He māmā noa iho te ahua, engari he uaua ake ngā whakautu i tēnā. I te nuinga o te wā, ko ngā take mō tōna kore māia, tōna wehi, tōna manukanuka rānei ka puta mai i roto i ngā kōrero pēnei i te "He rangatira ia mōku" me te "E mataku ana ia nā ngā wheako o mua." Ko te tino take e hiahia ana ia ki te whakamanawa, kāore pea i te rite ki te hae, ki te raruraru rānei o te whanaungatanga o mua.

E kīia ana, "He wahangu te whakapono, he nui te āwangawanga." He maha ngā tāne e āwangawanga ana, ā, he nui rawa ā rātou utu – ahakoa mā te mahi, mā te kupu rānei. He nui ake te tūponotanga o tētahi tāne pēnei ki te whakakahore mena ka kīia ia he 'hoa tāne āwangawanga.' He pai ki te whakamanawa i tō hoa mō tōna manukanuka mena ka puta te hiahia. Engari ki te haere tonu tāu hoa, ā, me whakamarie ia mō ngā mea katoa e kore e taea e ia te whakahaere, he mea nui kia rapu āwhina.

Ka taea e koe te whakapumau i tō aroha ki tētahi?

Ae, ka taea e koe te whakamana i tō aroha ki tētahi. He mutunga kore ngā kupu whakamana mōna hei hanga i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora, aroha hoki. He mea nui te whakamana i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga? Ae. He mea nui rawa atu. Engari āhea te wā tika hei whakamana i tō hoa? Anei ētahi wā me whakamahi koe i ngā kupu whakamana: 

• Ina kei te whakaipoipo koe i tētahi e hiahia ana kia whakamanawa tonu, ina rānei kua pāngia koe e he hoa tāne kāore i te tino māia/hoa wahine
• Ina he tangata tō hoa e pai ana ki te rere o te kōrero hauora kia pai ai te noho tahi, kia taurite ai hoki.
• Ina he raruraru whanaungatanga kei mua, ā, kei te ora tonu kōrua i te wā kino
• I ngā wā e ngoikore ana, e pōuri ana hoki tō hoa
• Ina hiahia koe kia noho haumaru ia, kia arohaina hoki i ia wā, i muri rānei i te whakapataritari i a ia
• Ina kī mai tō hoa kāore ia e arohaina ana, e kore hoki e maiohatia 
• Ina he āhua piri ā-pāwera, ā-manawanui rānei tō hoa
• Ina ngana koe ki te hanga anō i tō whanaungatanga i muri i ngā wā o te tinihanga 
• Ina ngana ana koe ki te hoki tahi i muri i te te whakamutu i te whanaungatanga 
• Ina hiahia kōrua ki te whakamarie tetahi i tetahi i muri i te tautohetohe 
• I roto koe i tētahi hononga tuwhera, hononga aroha rānei, he tikanga hauora, he tikanga aroha hoki te tuku kupu whakapumau i ia wā, i ia wā.

Ka taea e koe te tuku karere whakamarie mōna, me te whakamārama atu kāore he tangata kē atu i roto i tō ao e hiahia ana koe kia noho tahi. Me pono, me pono hoki koe. Kāore e taea e koe te tākaro ki ngā kupu me tōna ngākau i te wā kotahi. 

Ngā Tauira o te Whakamana i roto i ngā Hononga 

Ko te aroha me te whakaatu i tō aroha ki tētahi ko ngā wheako tino whakaharikoa o te ao. Ina whakamāramahia tō aroha mā te whakamahi i ētahi tauira o te whakamanawa i roto i te whanaungatanga, ka kaha ake te hononga i waenganui i a kōrua. Kei raro nei ētahi tauira ahurei hei whakamanawa i tō hoa i muri i tētahi tautohe, i roto rānei i tō oranga o ia rā:

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1. Whakapaa he kanohi aroha ki a koe 

E ai ki te kōrero, ki te pānui i te hinengaro o te tangata, me titiro koe ki roto i ōna kanohi. Ki te hiahia tō hoa rangatira kia motuhake koe i roto i āna taunekeneke o ia rā, whakamahia ō kanohi. Tirohia ngā kanohi o tō hoa rangatira, pupuri i tana titiro, kaua e motuhia te titiro kanohi ina kōrero ana ia ki a koe. Nā, me pēhea te whakamanawa i tō hoa rangatira? Hoatu ki a ia te whakamanawa e rapuhia ana e ia mā te tuku i a ia kia pānui i te aroha i roto i ō kanohi.

2. Hokona he putiputi māna

Koinei tētahi o ngā tauira pai rawa atu o te whakamarie i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakamahi i tō Tuhinga o muaKo tāu noa iho he hoko i ētahi putiputi ka hoatu ki tō hoa tāne me te mirimiri i ōna ngutu, i tōna paparinga rānei, me te menemene hoki i tō mata. He tika tā Miley Cyrus i tana kīnga Ka taea e au te hoko puawai makuengari mā te hoatu i aua mea ki tētahi e arohaina ana ka waiho he pānga pumau.

3. Whakahau tahi te wa kounga 

Me whakaatu ki a ia ko ia tō kaupapa matua mā te whakapau i te wā kounga ki a ia. Mā tēnei mahi whakaaro nui ka taea te tākaro tahi i ngā kēmu papa, te pātai atu rānei i ngā pātai whai tikanga kia pai ake ai tō mōhio ki a ia. Ka taea hoki e kōrua te tākaro i ētahi kēmu māmā pēnei i te 'truth or dare', te whakawhanaunga rānei ki a ia me te mātaki tahi i tētahi kiriata.

4. Whakamātauria tana reo aroha

Ki te mea kei te mataku ia kei tinihanga, kāore he huarahi pai ake hei whakamana i tō hoa tāne e kore koe e tinihanga i te whai i tana reo aroha i ia rā. Ki te mea he pai ki a ia te whiwhi aroha tinana, puritia tōna ringa ka kihi i a ia i ngā wā katoa e noho tahi ana kōrua, e awhi ana rānei i a ia. Ki te mea he pai ki a ia te whakaaro nui me te tohu whaiāipo, kātahi ka hoko i ngā koha iti te utu māna hei tohu i tō kōrua aroha tetahi ki tetahi mā roto i tētahi katakata ā-roto, i tētahi maharatanga aroha rānei. Ki te pai ia ki te rapu whakamarie mā roto i ngā mahi āwhina, me mahi ētahi mahi māna, me hanga he kawhe mōna i te ata kia rite ki tāna e pai ai, me tunu rānei he kai māna i ētahi wā.

5. Me pēhea te whakamarie i tō hoa? Tautokohia ia i te huarahi katoa

E hiahia ana te katoa o te ao kia tautokona rātou e tā rātou hoa. Kāore he rerekētanga o tō hoa tāne. Whakamanahia tō hoa tāne e kore koe e tinihanga, e whakarē rānei i a ia i ōna wā uaua mā te noho hei pou tautoko mōna. Kia noho hei kaiāwhina whaiaro māna, kia noho hei hoa pai mōna. Whakatenatenahia ia kia aroha ki a ia anō.

18 Ngā Mea Hei Kōrero Hei Whakamarie i tō Hoa Tāne Mō Tō Korua Hononga

I kī a Alexander Pope, "He mahi tangata te hē," i te rautau tekau mā waru. Heoi, i te ao o ēnei rā, ko te kīwaha tika "He mahi tangata te koretake me te manukanuka nui". E hiahia ana te katoa ki te whakamanawa i tētahi wā. Ahakoa te hunga tino haumaru ka pāngia e te koretake me te manukanuka. Kāore he mea hei whakama, hei whakamā rānei i a rātou e rapu ana i te whakamana. 

Nā, me pēhea te whakamanawa i tō hoa rangatira? Hei whakautu i tēnei, me whakaaro ko te koretake o te tangata ehara i te hua o ngā āhuatanga o waho e karapoti ana i a ia. He urupare mai i te tangata ki ētahi huihuinga o tōna ao. Ko tētahi kare ā-roto nui e puta mai ana i te koretake ko te kare ā-roto o te koretake. Ngā Kaimātai Hinengaro E kī ana rātou he maha ngā tāne e whakapono ana kāore ētahi e whakaute ana i ō rātou mōhiotanga, i ō rātou whakaaro rānei. Ko te hunga e whakaaro ana, e aro nui ana rānei ki ngā whakaaro o ētahi atu mō rātou. Me whakapau kaha te mahi tahi me te hunga e whakaaro ana, he nui ake pea i roto i ō whanaungatanga kē atu, engari he uaua te aroha. Ā, he pai te mahi. Ina aroha koe ki tētahi, ehara i te mea ko te hanga i tō rātou whakaaro ki a ia anō te mea hei whakamanawa i a rātou, engari ko te whakapakari anō hoki i tō hononga ki a rātou. 

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1. Aroha ana ahau ki a koe

Me whakamanawa tonu te hoa tāne e pōuri ana ki a ia e aroha ana tana hoa ki a ia. Ahakoa te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō, te tamarikitanga kua warewarehia, kua tukinotia rānei, tetahi atu āhuatanga rānei kāore i te tino kino, mā te whakamanawa wawe ka āwhina mārire ia ki te whakarērea aua āhuatanga kino. Ka māmā ake te mōhio me pēhea te whakamanawa i tō hoa e aroha ana koe ki a ia mā te mahi. Te kī tuatahi "Aroha ana ahau ki a koe" He mea whakamataku pea, engari ka taea te mahi ina kua aroha koe ki a ia, ā, ka taea e ia te whakautu i ōna kare ā-roto.

2. Kei te hiahia ahau ki a koe

Ko tētahi o ngā mea e whakaarohia pinepinetia ana i roto i te whanaungatanga ko te hiahia ki tō hoa rangatira. Engari he mea nui kia whakapuakihia te kare ā-roto. He rerekē te tikanga o te kupu "Kei te hiahia ahau ki a koe" ki ngā tāngata rerekē. I ētahi wā, ka whakapuakihia te whanaungatanga kare ā-roto kua mau kē i roto i te whanaungatanga, i ētahi wā ka whakapuakihia te hoa e hiahiatia ana e rātou. Koinei ngā kupu whakamarie pai rawa atu mōna mēnā he hiahia kare ā-roto nui te whakamana i roto i te whanaungatanga.

3. Ko koe anake mōku

Ko te whaki i tō hiahia anake ki tō hoa tāne tētahi atu huarahi hei whakamanawa i a ia. Ka kite ia i tēnei hei he tohu kei a ia he hoa pono, he hoa pono hoki, inā koa mēnā he mea nui ki a ia te marena kotahi. Koinei tā mātou tohutohu māmā mō te whakamana i tō hoa tāne kāore koe e whakarērea i a ia – mā te whakaatu i te pono. Me aroha koe ki a ia, ā, me tīmata ki te whakarite i tana tūranga i roto i tō koiora. Ko te whakarongo kaha me te whakapuaki i ngā wheako he tīmatanga pai pea tēnei. Me meinga ia kia mōhio ka taea e ia te whakawhirinaki ki a koe.

4. Kāore e taea e au te mutu te whakaaro ki a koe

He mea ataahua te kōrero ki tētahi e whakaaro ana koe ki a ia, ki te kore e mahia e tētahi tangata whakamataku e tū ana i te ua i waho o tō whare. Ina hono tātou ki tētahi, ka puta he dopamine i roto i te roro, he matū e pai ai te ngākau. Mā te whakaaro ki taua tangata ka puta he urupare dopamine, koia tātou i whakaaro nui ai ki te hunga e arohaina ana e tātou. Mā tēnei kōrero ka kōrero ki tō hoa e aroha ana koe ki a ia, ā, kei roto tonu ia i ō whakaaro. Ka taea hoki e koe te whakapuaki i tēnei mā te tiki i ētahi ngā koha e whakaaroaro ana koe mō tō hoa rangatiraMena kua tinihanga koe i tō hoa i mua, i tēnei wā uaua o te whakaoranga me te whakatikatika, whakamanawa atu ki tō hoa tāne e kore koe e tinihanga anō mā roto i ēnei kupu, me te kī atu ki a ia ko ia anake te tangata e hiahia ana koe kia noho hei mea nui.

5. Ka meinga ahau e koe kia rite ki taku i mua

Anei me pēhea te whakamanawa i tō hoa tāne mō tōna uara i roto i tō kōrua whanaungatanga. Kōrerotia ki a ia ngā mea kua pai ake i roto i tō koiora me roto i a koe nā te noho tahi me ia. Kōrerotia ki a ia kua kite koe i te huringa o te ao ki te pai ake i te wā e whakaipoipo ana koe i tētahi tangata motuhake pērā i a ia. He nui ake te tumanako o tō ao nā te mea kei te aroha koe ki tō hoa. Tukua atu taua kare ā-roto, ā, kia mōhio ia ko ia te take i pērā ai ō kare ā-roto. 

6. Kāore au e hiahia ki te whakarerekē i tetahi mea mōu

Kāore te aroha i te pono mēnā he here, he tikanga rānei kei roto. He mea mārama te hiahia mō te tūmataitinga, te mana motuhake rānei. Ko ngā tikanga e tohutohu ana i te tangata kia whai i tētahi ara, kia whakaaro rānei i tētahi ara, he whakaaetanga makariri noa iho. Ki te hiahia koe ki te mōhio me pēhea te whakamanawa i tō hoa rangatira e kore koe e whakarērea ia ia, me kī atu ki a ia kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakarerekē i tetahi mea mōna. He tauira o te aroha mutunga kore, ā, he taonga nui te arohaina noatia e tetahi. 

7. E whakahīhī ana ahau ki te noho hei hoa mōu

E noho ana tātou i tētahi ao e kīia ana kia whakapau kaha te katoa kia whiwhi ai i tō rātou tūranga. I roto i tēnei āhuatanga, he mea nui te kīia atu kei te whakahīhī tetahi ki a tātou. Me kī atu ki a ia kei te whakahīhī koe ki āna mahi me tana whakapau kaha ki te pupuri i a koe kia harikoa. He mea whakamiharo tēnei ina tae mai te whakamana i tō hoa tāne e māharahara ana. Ahakoa te iti, te rahi rānei o ā rāua whakatutukitanga, kia maumahara ake ai ia ki ana wā nui, wā iti hoki mā te whakamahi i ēnei kupu whakamarie ki a ia.

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8. He tino ataahua tō āhua

Ko tētahi atu huarahi e puta ai te kore māia o te tangata ko te whakaiti i a ia anō. Ko te hunga kua taunga ki te whakapono ki ngā whakaaro tawhito mō te ataahua, he maha ngā wā ka kiia rātou he kore ataahua. Mā tēnei pea ka tino tupato rātou ki ō rātou āhua me ō rātou kākahu. Kāore rātou e tino wātea, ahakoa i roto i te wāhi noa. He maha ngā wā ka whakaaroaro te hoa tāne kore māia ki te take i noho tahi ai koe me ia, nā te mea e whakaaro ana ia he ataahua ake koe i a ia.

Ki te kore e āraia ēnei whakaaro, ka arahi pea ki te hae nui, ki te wehe atu rānei. Ki te hiahia koe ki te mōhio me pēhea te whakamanawa i tō hoa tāne mō tōna āhua, me kī atu ki a ia i ngā wā katoa he tangata ātaahua iaHe tino ātaahua atu i tana e whakaaro nei he aha ia. Whakamoemititia ia me te ngākau pono, me te kī atu e aroha ana koe ki ngā mea katoa e pā ana ki tōna āhua.

9. Ka whakaorangia ahau e koe

He mea nui te aroha nā te mea ka hiahia tātou kia pai ake te noho hei tāngata. Kei te waha katoa i ētahi momo kawenga kare ā-roto mai i ngā rā o mua, mai i te tamarikitanga, i ngā whanaungatanga, i ngā huihuinga mamae rānei. Engari ko te noho tahi me te tangata tika ka āwhina i te wikitoria i aua arai mai i tō oranga o mua. Kōrero atu ki tō hoa tāne me pēhea tana āwhina i a koe kia neke atu i ngā rā o mua, me tō whakawhirinaki ki a ia i roto i tō haerenga piki me ngā heke. Ka taea hoki e koe te whakamanawa i tō hoa tāne i muri i te tautohetohe nā te huarahi i whakahaere ai, i whakatau ai hoki ia i te pakanga, me te pupuri i te wāhi mōu, i meinga ai koe kia noho haumaru. Koinei tētahi o ngā tauira o te whakamanawa i roto i te whanaungatanga.

10. He aha ahau i kore ai e tūtaki wawe atu ki a koe?

He pātai whaikōrero e whiwhi tonu ai i te menemene hei whakautu. Ahakoa ehara i te he o tetahi, nā te mea he take ā-iwi, he take tūponotanga rānei, he mahi ā-roto rānei o te ao, e whakaatu ana i te nui o tō whakawhetai ki a ia mō tōna aroaro i roto i tō koiora. Ko tētahi atu kōrero mō te whakamanawa i tō hoa mā te whakamahi i tētahi mea tuturu ko te kī atu me te reo kua whakaritea. he koha aroha ki tō hoa rangatira ka rewa tōna ngākau.

11. Kare e taea e au te whakaaro i taku ora me te kore koe

He mea nui te kī atu ki tō hoa tāne kāore koe e whakaaro he kōwhiringa noa iho ia i roto i tō ao. Kei te kī atu koe ki a ia ehara ia i te mea i roto i te tini i whiriwhiria e koe nā te mea he tino pai ia, he pai rānei tana tunu kai. Kōrero atu ki a ia ko ia te tangata e hono atu ai koe ki te taha wairua me te taha kare ā-roto, ā, i roto i a ia, kua kitea e koe tō hoa wairua. Mēnā kei te whakaipoipo koe i tētahi e hiahia ana ki te whakamanawa tonu, ka taea e koe te whakapuaki i ō kare ā-roto pono mā tēnei kōrero kaha.

12. Kei te ngaro koe i ahau i ia rā, i ia rā

Nā, anei tētahi mō ngā hoa noho tawhiti, e rapu ana pea i ngā tohutohu hei whakamana i tō hoa tāne e aroha ana koe ki a ia, e ngaro ana hoki i a ia ina ngaro ia. Ahakoa ka taea e koe te whakamahi i ngā karere aroha 'ngaro koe' mō tō hoa wahine, he pai ake te kōrero tika atu ki a ia mā te waea, mā te reta rānei (mēnā he tangata aroha tawhito koe). Kōrero atu ki a ia te nui o tō hiahia kia noho ia i tō taha, ā, he uaua ki a koe te whakamanawanui i tōna ngaro. Kaua e whakaititia te hiranga o te whakapuaki i tō hiahia. Ahakoa he waiata aroha, he kiriata, he whakaari, he waiata, kāore e taea te whakaaro ki te nui o ngā mahi toi kua hangaia mō tēnei kare ā-roto. 

13. Nau ahau i pai ake

Ahakoa e kīia ana kāore te aroha e hiahia kia huri te tangata, ka akiaki te aroha i te tangata kia pai ake tōna āhua. Ina kī atu koe ki a ia kua whakatenatena ia i a koe kia pai ake tō tangata me tō hoa rangatira, kei te kī atu koe ki a ia ehara i te mea ko koe anake e hiahia ana kia tipu ake koe i roto i tēnei whanaungatanga, engari ko te whakaipoipo i a ia he rite ki te kimi i tētahi... tohutohu hei hoa aroha pai ake.

Waihoki, ki te mea kua pāngia tō whanaungatanga e ngā awha o tō whanoke, ā, kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakamarie i tō hoa tāne i muri i tana tinihanga, me kī atu koe ki a ia e hiahia ana koe kia pai ake te noho māna. He maha ngā whakapāha me ngā whakatikatika ka whai ake, engari ko tēnei whakaaro anō pea ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakaora i tō whanaungatanga pakaru.

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14. Aroha mai

He mea nui kia whakaae koe ki ō hapa i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga hauora. Ko ngā tautohe kāore anō kia whakatauhia ka waiho hei pūtake o te ahotea ka hanga he taiepa i waenganui i a kōrua. Whakamanahia tō hoa i muri i tētahi tautohe mā te whakapāha pono mō ngā mea i kōrerohia e kōrua i te wā e werawera ana. Ko te "aroha mai" he whakaae anō hoki mō te whakapouri i a kōrua mō te mamae nui i pā ki a kōrua, ahakoa kāore i te whakaarohia. 

Anei me pēhea te whakamarie i tō hoa tāne i muri i tō hara nui me te whara i a ia – Hoatu he whakapāha pono, me te kī atu ki tō hoa e mōhio ana koe ki te mamae i pā ki a ia, ā, e kore koe e mahi anō i taua mahi a muri ake nei. Whakaaetia tāu i mahi ai, me tōna pānga ki te kare ā-roto me te pānga mō te wā roa ki a ia. Whakatikatikahia. Ka taea e koe te whakamahi he huarahi tino ataahua ki te mihi i muri i te pakanga, pērā i tētahi reta i roto i tana putea, i tētahi tuhi rānei o kōrua e tuku ana i tētahi poihau ki a ia e mea ana 'aroha mai.'

15. E hiahia ana ahau kia tūtaki tāua i ngā wā katoa e taea ai e tāua

Ko te whaki pinepine i te hiahia ki te tūtaki ki tō hoa he huarahi tēnei ki te kī atu ki a ia e aroha ana koe ki a ia, e hiahia ana koe ki a ia, ā, e piripono ana koe ki a ia. Ko te hunga whai Tuhinga o mua He maha ngā wā ka kitea he huarahi hei whakawātea i a rātou anō kia kaua e tūtaki ki ā rātou hoa/hoa. Mā tēnei ka pōhēhē rātou, ā, koinei tonu te mea ka taea e koe te karo mā te whakamanawa atu ki tō hoa tāne e aroha ana koe, e pai ana hoki ki a koe te noho tahi me ia.

16. Ko koe te mea pai rawa atu kua pa ki ahau

He tino harikoa te ngākau ina mihi mai tetahi ki a ia, ina koa kei te ruarua ia i a ia anō. Mā te kī atu ko ia te take e pai ai tō oranga ka whakamārama i tōna rā. Mā te tīmatanga o tētahi rā me te mihi pai ka hoatu he māia ki a ia ki te aro atu ki ngā wero katoa. Ki te hiahia koe ki te mōhio me pēhea te whakamarie i tō hoa tāne i a ia e pouri ana, kī atu ki a ia nā te mea kua tino harikoa koe i roto i tō oranga. Mā tēnei ka whakaora i a ia.

17. Ko tō aroha anake taku e hiahia ana / Ka tino harikoa ahau ki te tiaki i a koe

He pono, he āhua hiahia nui tātou katoa ki ngā taonga, ā, ehara te aroha i te otinga tino pai. Me whiwhi moni koe hei oranga mōu. Engari, ki te mea kei te raru ia i te taha pūtea, he tino whakamarie tēnei māna mā te kī atu i ēnei kōrero me te oati ki a ia ka whakatauhia ngātahitia e kōrua ngā raruraru. Ko ngā tāne māharahara kua taunga ki te mahi i te tūranga tuku iho o te kaimahi whānau, ka uaua pea ki te whakawhirinaki ki ā rātou hoa. He tokomaha pea e whakaaro ana ko te mutunga tēnei o tā rātou whanaungatanga mēnā kāore e taea e rātou te whakatutuki i taua tūranga.

Whakaū atu ki a ia ka manaaki koe i a ia mēnā e tika ana. Kōrerohia ngā tūranga ira tangata kua tawhito, me te kī atu ki a ia ka taea e kōrua te mahi tahi. wikitoria i ngā taumahatanga pūtea katoa i roto i te whanaungatangaKo tētahi o ngā tino take o te manukanuka ko te whakaaro kāore koe e arohaina ana, kāore hoki koe e mōhiotia ana. Me mea ia kia mōhio ia ko tana aroha anake tāu e hiahia ana, ā, kāore he huarahi kē atu hei whiwhi i tēnā.

18. Whakamarietia tō hoa i roto i te manukanuka mā te kī atu, "E hiahia ana ahau kia koroheke tahi tāua"

Kāore e taea e tetahi te matapae i te heke mai. Ka taea e tēnei āhua kore matapae te arahi ki te mataku nui i roto i te tangata e manukanuka ana. I roto i ēnei āhuatanga, ka taea e koe te hoatu ki a ia te tino mohio kei te moemoeā koe i tētahi heke mai me ia. I te mea he taahiraa nui te whakapau kaha i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, kei te kī atu koe ki a ia he pono ia ki te haumi ki tētahi whanaungatanga roa me ia. Mena kua karohia e koe ngā whanaungatanga i mua, he tohu whakamarie tēnei mō tō hoa kua rite koe ki te marena ki a ia.

Me pēhea te whakamarie i tō hoa rangatira i roto i te manukanuka? Mā te hanga i tētahi ara whakawhitiwhiti kōrero kaha ki a ia. Engari kia maumahara he pai noa ngā whakamarie mēnā ka taea e rātou te āwhina i te whakamama i te āwangawanga o te tangata. I Bonobology, he whānui ā mātou mahi he rōpū kaitohutohu mātau hei āwhina i a koe i roto i tō haerenga ki te whakahaere i tō manukanuka. Ki te kitea koe i roto i tētahi porowhita kino e kino haere ana tōna āwangawanga, ā, kei te rapu tonu koe i ngā kupu whakamarie, tērā pea kāore te whanaungatanga e angitu. Me mahi ia i runga i ōna wehi me ōna āwangawanga me te kore e whakawhirinaki nui ki a koe, ā, me mahara koe kia noho ki reira hei aroaro whakamarie i a ia e mahi ana i roto i ngā mea katoa. 

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