17 Ngā Tohu Whero i roto i tētahi Hononga hei Tūpato

Ina aroha koe ki tētahi, he ngāwari noa iho te wareware i aua feaa e mau tonu ana i roto i tō hinengaro. Engari ki te titiro matatau koe, tera pea ka kitea e koe ngā tohu whakatūpato - ngā tohu ārai mate tawhito i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga. Koinei ngā whanonga me ngā waiaro e tohu ana i ngā raruraru kei mua. Tērā pea ka puta mai hei kōrero huna, hei aituā nui rānei. Ahakoa pēhea, mā te mōhio ki a rātou ka taea te whakaora i te mamae o te ngākau. E tika ana kia whiwhi te katoa i tētahi hononga aroha, whakaute, ā, koia te mea nui kia mōhio ki ngā tohu ārai mate kia kaua e warewarehia ina whakaipoipo ana ki tētahi tangata hou, ahakoa i roto i tētahi hononga roa. 

Mai i ngā tohu kino nui rawa atu o tētahi tāne kua tīmata kē koe te kite, tae atu ki ngā whanonga kino ka taea e te tangata te whakaatu, mā tēnei aratohu koe e ārahi i roto i ngā mea hei tūpato. Ka pā atu hoki mātou ki ngā tohu kōwhai, arā, ngā take iti ake te kino, me ngā tohu matomato, arā, ngā tohu pai, kia mārama ai koe ki ngā mea e whakaaetia ana, me ngā mea kāore e whakaaetia. Hei te mutunga, ka pai ake tō pūkenga ki te kite wawe i ngā tohu kino i roto i te whakaipoipo, ā, ka taea hoki e koe te whakahaere i aua tohu pērā i te tohunga.

He aha nga haki whero i roto i te hononga?

Ko ngā haki whero ko ngā tohu ā-roto e whakaatu ana he mea kāore i te tika i roto i tō hoa rangatira, i tō whanaungatanga rānei. E whakaahuatia ana ēnei e ngā tohunga whanaungatanga he tohu whakatūpato wawe mō ngā whanonga kino, kino rānei. Hei tauira, ko te teka tonu, ko te hae nui rānei, he ahua iti pea i te tīmatanga, engari he maha ngā wā ka tohu i ngā take hohonu ake pērā i te kore whakawhirinaki, te kore mana whakahaere rānei.

Whakaarohia ngā haki whero hei huarahi whakatūpato mō te whanaungatanga. Ko ētahi he mea tawhito, he mea kitea, pērā i te hoa e hamama ana ki a koe, e karanga ana rānei i a koe i roto i te pakanga, he tohu mārama tēnei o te kore whakaute. Ko ētahi he mea mārire, he mea ngāwari ki te ngaro. Kāore pea tō hoa e whakapāha, e whakapae ana rānei i a koe i roto i ngā huarahi e whakaaro ai koe ko koe tonu te he. He maha ngā wā, ka rongo koe i ēnei i roto i tō puku i mua i te taea e koe te whakapuaki. Ahakoa he mea kitea, he mea ngaro rānei, ka whakaata tonu ngā haki whero i: 

• Ngā tauira o ngā whanonga kino, kino rānei: Kei roto i tēnei ko te tukino, te raweke, te whakahaere rānei. Tetahi momo mahi ā-tinana, ā-tinana rānei tukino aronganui he haki whero nui e kore e tika kia warewarehia
• Ngā take e pā ana ki te pono me te whakawhirinaki: Ko te teka, te huna i ngā mea, te hae tonu rānei, he tohu kino tēnei i roto i te tangata, e tohu ana i te kore whakawhirinaki, i te kore whakaute rānei i roto i te whanaungatanga.
• Te kore whakawhitiwhiti kōrero me te kore whakaute: Ki te kore tonu tō hoa e aro ki ō kare ā-roto, e karo ana i ngā kōrero nui, e whakaiti ana rānei i a koe, he tohu whakatūpato tēnā mō te koretake o te whanaungatanga.
• Te āhua haumaru, te pouri rānei i te nuinga o te wā: Me whai wāhi te whanaungatanga ki tō oranga, kaua e whakakī i a koe ki te manukanuka. Ko te ahotea tonu, ko te hikoi haere i runga i te anga hua manu i te taha o tō hoa he tohu nui kei te hē tetahi mea.

Ehara i te mea he iti noa ngā hiahia whaiaro, ngā āhuatanga rerekē, ngā mea whakarihariha, ngā mea whakarihariha rānei ngā whanonga e kiia ana he tohu ārai. Tērā pea kāore koe e pai ki tana waiho i ngā tōkena ki runga i te papa. He mea whakarihariha tēnā, engari ehara i te mea he tohu ārai. 

Ngā haki kōwhai me ngā haki kakariki i roto i te whanaungatanga — he aha te rerekētanga o ēnei i ngā haki whero?

Kua whakakikoruatia te whenua o ngā whanaungatanga ki te mosaic o te pai, te kino, me te kino. Haunga ngā haki whero kanapa e karanga ana i te ohorere whero-waea, kei reira anō ngā haki kōwhai e kī ana kia tūpato koe, me ngā haki matomato e whakamanawa ana i a koe ki te kaha ki te hanga whanaungatanga hauora. Tata ki ia whanaungatanga he wāhi kei roto i ngā hoa e rua o te whanaungatanga. He rerekē ēnei whanonga ki ngā haki whero, ehara i te mea hei wawahi whakaaetanga.  

Hei tauira, ko te mataku o tō hoa tāne hou ina kōrero koe mō tētahi o mua he tohu kōwhai pea. He tohu tēnei mō te koretake o te whanaungatanga, ā, ka taea te whakatika mā te whakamanawa me te wā. He mea tēnei hei mōhio, engari ehara i te mea hei whakamutu i te whanaungatanga mēnā ka piki haere. Kāore i rite ki ngā tohu whero o te wā whakaipoipo, koinei pea te tohu hei whakaiti i ō mate me te oma, ko ngā tohu kōwhai e kī ana, "Āe, tera pea ka raru tēnei mēnā ka haere tonu." 

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I tētahi atu taha, he pai ngā haki matomato. Ko te hauora ngā tohu o te whanaungatanga paiKei roto i ngā haki kakariki ngā mea pēnei i te whakaute i ngā rohe, te kōrero tuwhera, te whakaatu i te aroha, me te noho pūmau. Hei tauira, ki te whakarongo tō hoa ki a koe, ki te tautoko i ō wawata, ā, ki te pupuri hoki i te mana motuhake hauora, koia ēnei ngā haki kakariki. 

Hei whakamārama i ēnei mea, me whakaaro tātou ki tētahi horopaki: me kī he hoa piri tō tō hoa, he ira tangata kē. Ko te whakautu he tohu matomato, mā rātou koe e whakamōhio, e whakauru, e whakamanawa hoki mō taua hoahoa. He tohu kōwhai pea mēnā kāore anō kia whakamōhiotia koe, engari me kōrero noa mō tēnei hoa. Kāore pea i tupu noa i te āhua noa, engari kāore rātou e huna ana i tetahi mea. He tohu whero mēnā kāore rātou e whakaae kia tūtaki koe, kia mōhio rānei mō tēnei hoa, kia huna taua wāhanga o te ao, kia whakahē rānei i a koe mō te tono. Mā taua huna me te tiaki i a koe anō ka whakaoho i ngā pere whakaoho.

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Kāore i te tino kitea ngā haki whero i roto i ngā rama neon e kanapa ana i te rā tuatahi. He maha ngā wā ka tīmata hei riri iti, hei tohu whakatūpato ngawari rānei, ka kaha haere hei whanonga raruraru i te roanga o te wā. Ka kiia tēnei e ngā tohunga hinengaro he pikinga whanonga, arā, ko ngā haki whero iti nei, ki te kore e arohia, ka tipu hei whanonga kino, kāore i te pai.

He tauira rongonui te hae. I ngā rā tōmua, tera pea ka pai te ahua ina pōuriuri tō hoa ina kōrero koe ki tētahi atu, ina pātai mai rānei ia, "Ko wai tērā i tuku karere ki a koe?" me te kata. Engari ki te kore e arohia tēnei pōuriuri, ka taea te huri hei te mana pupuri i roto i te whanaungatanga, kei hea tō hoa rangatira, 

• Me whai urunga ki tō waea
• Ngā pātai mō tō wāhi noho
• Hei te mutunga ka tīmata te whakahaere i ō nekehanga katoa 

Ko te mea nui, kaua e whakapoauau i ngā tohu ārai o te tīmatanga me ngā āhuatanga rerekē kāore he kino. Ko te hoa e whakatoi ana i a koe mō te tuku karere i te pō, tera pea he kata noa iho. Ko te hoa e mahi tonu ana i tēnei, e wero ana i tō pono, e kore hoki e whakamanawanui, e whakaatu ana i ngā tohu o te piki haere o te riri.

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Kāore he tangata e hiahia ana ki te moumou taima i roto i te hononga kino he kino atu rānei, ka whara koe i tētahi. He mea nui te ako ki te kite wawe i ēnei tohu whakatūpato mō tō hauora hinengaro me tō haumaru. Anei, kua kohikohia e mātou ngā tohu ārai matua e 17 i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga e whakauru ana i ngā whanonga me ngā tauira e tohu ana i te raruraru. Ki te kite koe i ēnei, me aro nui ki aua tohu. 

Ahakoa ko ngā tohu kino nui rawa atu o te tāne e tūtaki ana koe, ko ngā tohu kino rānei o te kōtiro e piri tahi ana koe; ko te mea nui kia kaua e huna. Ko ētahi ka puta he tohu kino i roto i te whanaungatanga—he mea ngaro e warewarehia ana e te tini o te tangata tae noa ki te mutunga rawa—nō reira ka whakamāramahia e mātou aua mea anō hoki.

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1. Te whanonga tukino

Tetahi ahua o te tukino i roto i te whanaungatangaAhakoa he ā-tinana, he ā-hinengaro, he ā-hinengaro rānei, he tohu kino tonu tēnei e kore e whakaaetia. Ka tīmata noa te tukino i te iti, pērā i te whakatoi mamae, te pana rānei i te wā o te tautohetohe, ā, i muri mai ka piki haere. I ētahi wā ka whakaitihia e tātou ēnei mahi mā te whakamārama i aua mahi mā te kī, "Kua riri noa rātou" me te "He kata noa iho", engari kāore e tika ana te whanonga tukino. Mena kei te patu tō hoa i a koe, kei te whakawehi i a koe, kei te whakatoi tonu i a koe, kei te whara rānei i a koe, he tohu kino nui tēnā e rere ana. Tērā pea ka tumanako koe ka huri, engari ko te pono uaua ko te maha o ngā wā ka piki haere te tukino i roto i te wā.

Ina hoki, e kī ana ngā tohunga "ina kite koe i ngā tohu tuatahi o taua tūkino, me whakarērea tonutia te whanaungatanga." He māmā ake te kite i te tūkino tinana. Ehara i te mea noa ngā marō me te wehi i roto i te aroha. Ka taea e te tūkino kare ā-roto me te hinengaro te ngawari ake engari he rite tonu te kino, ā, ka rite ki: 

• Te faaino tamau
• Te whakahaere i tō mana motuhake
• Te wehe i a koe i ngā hoa
• Te mea kia kore koe e whai hua 

He maha ngā wā ka puta mai te tukino me ngā whakapāha me ngā kupu whakaari kāore e tupu anō, ā, he maha ngā wā ka uaua ake te wehe atu a te tangata i pāngia. He tohu whero rongonui tēnei. Ki te pāngia koe e te tukino, rapua he āwhina, ā, whakaritea he putanga haumaru. E tika ana kia whiwhi koe i tētahi whanaungatanga kāore he wehi.

2. Te whakamahi kino i ngā matū

Mena kei a koe te whakaipoipo i tētahi tangata inu waipiro ki te mea he hononga kino tō hoa ki te waipiro, ki te tarukino rānei, whakaarohia he tohu kino mō tō kōrua hononga. Ehara i te mea ko te hunga katoa e pai ana ki te inu he tohu kino. Kei te kōrero tātou mō te whakamahi kino i ngā matū: 

• Te inu nui i ngā wā katoa
• Te whakamahi hē i ngā raau taero
• Tetahi waranga e tīmata ana ki te pā kino ki tō kōrua oranga tahi 

Ina pāngia te tangata e te waranga, ka noho koia te whanaungatanga matua o tōna ao. Hei tauira, ka kitea pea e koe ko te waipiro te mea tuatahi, ehara i a koe me te whanaungatanga. 

Ka taea e te whakamahi kino i ngā matū te arahi ki, 

• Ngā Rā
• Nga raru o te tahua
• Nga take whakawhirinaki
• Te whanonga tukino i te wā e pāngia ana e te waipiro

Whakaarohia te mahi tonu i muri i ngā wā haurangi o tō hoa, te teka rānei mō te whakamahinga tarukino, te whakaaro rānei kei te haumaru koe ki te taraiwa tahi me rātou nā te mea kāore rātou i te inu waipiro. I roto i te wā, ka memeha haere te whakawhirinaki me te haumaru o te whanaungatanga. 

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3. Te hae nui rawa

He mea whakamīharo te ahua o te hae iti i roto i te whanaungatanga i te tīmatanga. Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe, "Āe, kāore rātou e hiahia kia ngaro ahau." Engari he rerekētanga nui i waenga i te hae ngawari, i ētahi wā, me te hae nui, kāore i te āta whakahaeretia, e whakahaere ana i ngā whanonga a tō hoa. Te hae paitini ehara i te mea ātaahua, ehara hoki i te aroha; he mea whakahaere, he mea e ahu mai ana i te wehi. 

Ki te pōhēhē tō hoa i a koe e kōrero noa ana mō tētahi hoa mahi ātaahua, e kino ana rānei rātou ki a koe i a koe e kōrero ana ki ō hoa tawhito, he tohu kino tēnā. He maha ngā wā ka puta te hae nui rawa hei whakapae me te mataku: "Ko wai tāu i tuku karere inamata nei? Kei te tino mōhio koe kei te whare o tō hoa koe, kāore i te taha o tētahi atu?"

Nā te mea he maha ngā wā ka hono te hae nui ki te hiahia kia whakahaere, me te kore whakawhirinaki. I roto i te wā, ka taea e ia te wehe me te ngenge i a koe i roto i te hinengaro. 

4. Te kore whakawhirinaki

Ko te whakawhirinaki te tūāpapa o tētahi whanaungatanga hauora. Ki te kore, ka noho pōrearea tonu koe. He maha ngā huarahi e puta ai te kore whakawhirinaki, ā, he tohu kino rawa atu ahakoa nāu, nā tō hoa rānei. 

• E whakaaro tonu ana rātou kei te teka koe? 
• Kei te whakaaro koe kāore e taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki tētahi kupu e kōrerotia ana e rātou? 

Ko ngā āhuatanga e rua, e tohu ana i te raruraru. Ko te mea tino kitea ngā haki whero i roto i te whanaungatanga me te tangata He maha ngā wā ka uru atu te kore e taea e te wahine te whakawhirinaki tetahi ki tetahi. Ki te whakapae tonu tō hoa ki a koe, kāore he take, he tohu tēnei kei te hohonu rawa ngā raruraru whakawhirinaki. I tetahi atu taha, ki te mau tonu koe i tō hoa e kōrero teka ana, ka ngaro tō whakawhirinaki, ā, he tika hoki tēnā.

Ko tētahi tauira noa ko te hoa e tirotiro ana i ō karere kuputuhi, i ō karere whaiaro rānei, me te kore whakaaetanga. Mena kua kite koe i tētahi e panuku ana i tō waea i a koe e moe ana, e tono ana rānei i ō kupuhipa, e mōhio ana koe ki te āhua o te takahi me te ahotea o tēnā. I tētahi atu taha, ki te kite koe kei te kī mai tō puku kāore e taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki ngā kōrero a tō hoa, nā te mea pea kāore ā rātou kōrero e ōrite ana, nā te mea rānei kua kite koe i ngā rerekētanga, he mea nui anō hoki kia aro atu koe. Ko te teka tonu, ko te whanonga huna rānei a rātou he tohu whero kanapa.

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5. Te whakahaere tikanga

He maha ngā wā ka kite koe i a koe anō e whakaaro ana kei te whakaipoipo koe i tētahi kaitiaki whare herehere? He tauira matarohia tēnei o te whakahaere i te whanonga, he tohu whero nui tēnei e tīmata mārire ana, kātahi ka piki haere. He maha ngā āhua. Hei tauira: 

• Ka kōrero tō hoa ki a koe he aha ngā mea ka taea e koe te mau, kāore rānei e taea e koe te mau
• Ka riri rātou mēnā ka haere koe me ō hoa, kāore rātou
• Ka ngana rātou ki te tohutohu me pēhea te whakapau moni
• Me whai wāhi rātou ki ō whakataunga katoa, ahakoa nui, ahakoa iti 

He maha ngā wā ka hunaia e te hunga whakahaere tō rātou mana whakahaere mā te kī "Kei te ngana noa ahau ki te āwhina" me te kī "mō tōu ake pai" me te kī hae rānei e whakaahua ana i te aroha, "Aroha nui ana ahau ki a koe, kāore e taea e au te whakaaro kei te kōrero koe ki ētahi atu tāne/kōtiro". Kaua e tinihangatia.

Kāore te aroha hauora e rite ki te hikoi i runga i te taura. E whakaute ana i tō mana motuhake. Ki te kite koe kei te whakarerekē tonu koe i tō whanonga kia kore ai e riri, e whakahe rānei tō hoa, hoki whakamuri. He aha koe i wehi ai i tā rātou urupare? Ko taua wehi he tohu o te whakahaere i ngā whanonga.

6. Te whakakā hau me te whakahaere

Kua kitea e koe te whakapāha mō ngā mea kāore i mahia e koe, te whakahē rānei i tō whakaaro pai nā te mea e tohe ana tō hoa ko koe te tangata e maumahara hē ana, e tauhohe nui ana rānei? Mena āe, tera pea kua pāngia koe e te hauhautanga, he momo tinihanga he tohu nui. gaslighting ko te wā tēnei e whakapohehe ana tetahi i te pono, e whakakahore ana i ngā mea i mōhio koe i tupu, e meinga ana rānei koe kia "porangi" mō ō kare ā-roto. I roto i te wā, ka memeha haere tēnei rautaki i tō whakapono ki ō ake tirohanga. Ka tīmata koe ki te whakaaro, "Ko au pea te raruraru" me "He tino tairongo rawa atu rānei ahau."

I roto i te wā, ka tīmata pea koe ki te ruarua i ō ake maharatanga, i ō kare ā-roto rānei. E pai ana hoki ki ngā kairīpoata whakahāwea te whakaaro kāore ā rātou whanonga kino i tupu, kāore rānei i te kino pērā i tō mahara. Ka kī atu rātou i ngā mea pēnei i te "Kāore au i kōrero pēnā" me te "Kei te whakaaro noa koe." He mea whakarihariha. Kaua e pohehe, he tukino kare ā-roto te whakahāwea whakahāwea, ā, he tohu tino kino nā te mea me whakamana e te hoa e tino aroha ana ki a koe ō kare ā-roto, kaua e whakakorekore tonu, e whakapoauau rānei i a koe. 

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7. Ngā āhuatanga whakahihi 

He rite tonu tō whanaungatanga ki te "Whakaaturanga mō rātou" e whakaatu ana i a koe hei kiripuaki taha? Mena ko ngā hiahia, ngā kōrero, me te whakapehapeha o tō hoa rangatira te mea nui rawa atu, tera pea kei te mahi koe me te hoa rangatira, ā, he tohu kino tēnā! Ko te whakapehapeha i roto i te horopaki o te whanaungatanga ko te tikanga kei te kotahi te hoa rangatira, 

• He whakanui nui i a ia anō
• He hiahia tonu mō te whakamoemiti
• Te kore o te aroha ki tētahi atu

Ki te kōrero koe mōu ake, ka tere tonu tā rātou whakahoki atu ki a rātou. He maha ngā wā ka whakaaro koe kāore koe e kitea, ka whakaaro rānei koe kei te noho koe hei tautoko i tō rātou whakapehapeha. He tohu tēnei mō te whanonga whakapehapeha ko te Tuhinga o muaHei tauira, ki te mea kei te mate koe, tera pea ka raruraru tō hoa whakapehapeha nā te mea kāore koe e wātea ana ki te manaaki i a rātou, kaua e aro ki tō pouri. 

8. Te koretake o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero me te whakatau tautohe

He rerekētanga kei ia tokorua. Ko te mea nui ko te āhua o tāu whakahaere i aua raruraru. Ki te kore tō hoa e kōrero i ngā wā katoa e puta ai he tautohe, ki te huri rānei i ngā raruraru iti katoa hei tautohetohe, he raruraru tō kōrua ki te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, ā, te taupatupatu tautoheHe haki whero tēnei i tēnei ao, ina kore rawa ngā take e whakatauhia nā te huarahi e whakahaerehia ai e tētahi, e kōrua rānei te pakanga. Hei tauira, 

• Kei te ārai tonu tō hoa i a koe, arā, kāore ia e kōrero, e whakarongo rānei, e wahangu ana, e haere atu ana rānei ina nui te take? 
• Kāore rānei, ka mahi kē rātou i te ritenga kē, ka pakū ake ngā raruraru mō ngā mea ririki, kātahi ka mahi me te mea kāore he aha i tupu, engari kāore i arohia te pūtake o te raruraru? 

He tauira paitini ēnei e ahu mai ana i te kore e taea e te tangata te whakahaere i ngā kōrero whakararuraru. I roto i te wā, ka meinga koe kia rite ki te mea kei te hikoi koe i runga i ngā anga hua manu, kāore koe i te tino mōhio āhea ka puta te hinganga e whai ake nei nā te mea kāore he mea e whakatauhia.

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9. Ngā take whakahaere riri

He rite te riri o tō hoa ki te poma e tere haere ana? He tohu whakamataku te riri kore e taea te whakahaere, ka rite te whanaungatanga ki te tere hurihuri kāore koe i whakaae. Ehara i te mea kei te kōrero mātou mō te riri o tētahi i te rā kino. Kei te kōrero mātou mō te riri auau, te riri nui, kāore i te ōrite ki te āhuatanga. Hei tauira,

• Ka ngaro te manawanui o tō hoa tāne, ka tīmata te hamama me te kanga nā te mea kua tomuri te tina mō ētahi meneti.
• Ka ngangau tō hoa wahine, ka pakaru te karāhe i te wā kāore te kōrero i pai ki a ia. 

Ehara ēnei i te tauhohenga noa. He tohu ēnei o te ngoikore te whakahaere riri. Ina whakaarohia ngā tohu ārai i roto i te whanaungatanga me te tāne, te wahine rānei, ka puta ake te riri kore e taea te whakahaere hei āwangawanga nui. He aha ai? Nā te mea ki te kore e taea e te tangata te whakahaere i tōna riri, ka taea e ia te waihanga i tētahi taiao mataku me te kore pumau. Tērā pea ka tīmata koe ki te karo i te whakaara ake i ētahi kaupapa nā te mea e wehi ana koe kei puta mai te riri. 

He rite tonu te raruraru o ngā momo riri ngawari. Kāore pea e hamama, engari ka pūngāwerewere i te riri, ka titiro whakamataku mai, ka whakamataku rānei i a koe i te nui o tō rātou riri. Ko te riri mau tonu he tohu whero mō ngā take hohonu pēnei i te, 

• Te riri matua
• Te pakeketanga o te ngakau
• Te āwangawanga hauora hinengaro 

10. Te noho tahi 

Ko te tikanga o te aroha he pai ki a kōrua te noho tahi i te nuinga o te wā. Engari te whakawhirinakitanga i roto i te whanaungatanga kei tua atu i te piripono hauora. Koinei te wā e kore ai e taea e te tangata te mahi me te kore he whanaungatanga, ā, ka honoa ngā kare ā-roto ki a koe i roto i te huarahi kino. I roto i te whanaungatanga whakawhirinaki-tahi, ka whakawhirinaki tetahi hoa, tetahi rānei ki tetahi mō te nuinga o ō rāua whakaaro me te harikoa, tae noa ki te wāhi ka memeha haere ngā rohe, ka ngaro te mana motuhake. Ahakoa he pai te ahua o te aroha, he tohu whero puku noa iho te whanonga whakawhirinaki-tahi i roto i te whanaungatanga nā te mea he uaua ki te kite kia tae rā anō koe ki roto i te whanaungatanga. Ko ngā tohu o te whakawhirinaki-tahi ko: 

• Me kōrero tonu rātou, me tuku karere kuputuhi rānei, ā, ka manukanuka, ka pōuri rānei mēnā e hiahia ana koe ki tētahi wā mo rātou anake. 
• Tērā pea he iti noa iho ā rātou hiahia i waho atu i te whanaungatanga, ā, e tumanako ana rātou kia noho koe hei mea nui mā rātou – he hoa, he kaiwhakaora hinengaro, he hoa pumau. 
• Ki te mahi koe i tētahi mea me te kore rātou, ka hara pea rātou ki a koe, ka whakaaro rānei rātou kua whakarērea koe. 
• I ngā wā tino kino, ka whakaae pea tētahi hoa whakawhirinaki tahi ki ō kōrero katoa, ka hanga i a ia anō ki a koe, ā, i muri mai ka riri ki a koe mō tēnā. 

Me te mea nei ka taurite te wairua me te oranga o te tangata ina aro tika atu koe ki a rātou, ina aro atu rānei koe ki a rātou. Tērā pea ka pai te ahua o taua piripono mō tētahi wā poto, engari ka tere te whakamomori. Koinei tētahi o ngā tohu whero puku o tētahi whanaungatanga. Me aro nui koe kia mōhio ai koe. I te tīmatanga, tera pea ka rite ki te "Āe, kāore ia e makona ki ahau." I roto i te wā, ka arahi ngā whanaungatanga whakawhirinaki tahi ki te ngenge. 

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11. E kī ana rātou he "porangi" ā rātou hoa o mua katoa

Kia tūpato ki te kōrero a tō hoa mō ā rāua whanaungatanga o mua. E whakaahua ana ia hoa o mua he "pōrangi", he "kino", he "kino" rānei, ā, e whakaahua ana i a rātou anō ko rātou tonu te patunga? Ki te mea he "pōrangi" katoa ā rāua hoa o mua, he tohu nui tēnā. Ae, tera pea kua pōuri te aroha o tētahi, engari ki te mea he tauira mārama kei reira kāore ia e whai kawenga mō tētahi wehenga o mua, me whakaaro koe ki te take matua. 

Ko te tangata e kōrero kino ana ki ngā hoa o mua, e whakaatu ana i te kore whakatau pai mō te tangata e whakaipoipo ana rātou, i te tūponotanga rānei, te kore kawenga mō tā rātou ake tūranga i roto i aua whanaungatanga. 

Ka whakaae te tangata whai whakaaro pai ki tāna mahi i roto i te wehenga, engari ko te tangata e whakapae tonu ana i te katoa, ehara i te tangata e ako ana i ngā hapa. Ki te rongo koe i te rā tuarua he "pōrangi" tā rātou hoa o mua, ā, he "tino uwha" tā te hoa o mua, me ērā atu, kia aro mai. Tērā pea he tohu tēnei mō tā rātou kōrero mōu i tētahi rā.

12. Te noho motuhake mai i ngā hoa me te whānau

Mena kei te noho motuhake koe i tō whatunga tautoko e tō hoa, me tangi te pere whakaoho. Ka taea tēnei i roto i ētahi huarahi: 

• Tuatahi, ka ārai, ka whakapōrearea rānei i a koe kei kite i tō whānau me ō hoa
• Tuarua, kāore rātou e whakaae ki te whakauru i a koe ki roto i ō rātou ao, kāore hoki e whakaatu i a koe ki tētahi e whai tikanga ana ki a rātou.
• He haki whero tētahi o ngā āhuatanga e rua, arā, he mana whakahaere pea, he huna rānei

I roto i tetahi hononga hauora, me whai mana ngā hoa e rua ki te pupuri i ō rāua whanaungatanga o waho, me te whakaranu haere i ō rāua ao. Kāore rāua e hiahia ki te aroha ki ō hoa katoa, ki te aroha rānei ki a rātou anō, engari he rerekē te noho motuhake. He aukati i aua hononga, he ārai rānei i a koe i ā rāua hononga. Kaua e wareware ki tēnei tohu kino. He maha ngā wā ka haere tahi me ētahi atu whanonga whakahaere, tinihanga rānei. 

13. Te tinihanga me ngā mea ngaro

He tohu nui te tinihanga me te whanonga huna, nā te mea ka pakaru te whakawhirinakitanga taketake i waenganui i a kōrua ko tō hoa. Ki te kitea e koe tō hoa e teka pinepine ana, ahakoa mō ngā mea iti, he tohu tēnā kia tūpato. I tēnei rā, tera pea he teka mā mō te tangata i kai tahi rāua. Āpōpō tera pea he mea nui ake. Ka waiho koe ki te tūranga o te mahi tirotiro tonu, te whakaaro rānei kei te porangi koe nā te mea kua kite koe kei te hē tetahi mea.

He rite tonu te whakararuraru o te pupuri i ngā mea ngaro, ā, he tino rerekē i te tika ki te tūmataitinga i roto i te whanaungatanga. Hei tauira, mēnā kei te tuku karere tō hoa ki tētahi hoa o mua, ā, ka hunaia e ia i a koe, he nama pūtea, he raruraru petipeti rānei tā rātou i kitea tūponotia e koe, he mea ngaro ēnei e pā ana ki a koe, nō reira me whakaatu. Mēnā ka kaha rātou ki te huna i ngā mea, he tohu kino tēnā. 

Kei reira anō te teka mā te wareware. Tērā pea kāore rātou i teka ki a koe mō tētahi mea, engari kāore i te tino pono te kōrero. Hei tauira, ka kōrero rātou mō tētahi "hoa" i noho tahi rāua, engari kāore i te kōrero ko tēnei hoa tētahi i noho tahi rāua i mua, ā, ka noho tahi rāua i te tina. Ina kitea e koe i muri mai, ka pōhēhē koe, ehara i te mea he hē te tina, engari nā te mea i huna e rātou te horopaki i mōhio mārama rātou he mea nui ki a koe. Ko ngā whanaungatanga hauora e uru ana ki korero tuwhera, ehara i te kōrero teka noa.

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14. Te hiahia tonu kia whakamanahia, kia whakamanahia hoki

He āwangawanga tō tātou katoa, engari he rerekētanga i waenga i te rapu whakamarie i ētahi wā, me te hiahia kia whakamanahia i ia meneti. Ka taea e te hoa e hiahia tonu ana ki te whakamana te huri hei whakararuraru i te whanaungatanga. Tērā pea ka rite tēnei haki whero ki te kī pinepine a tō hoa, 

• "E tino aroha ana koe ki ahau?" 
• "Kei te tino mōhio koe he ātaahua ahau ki a koe?" 
• "Oati mai ki ahau e kore rawa koe e haere atu" 

I te tīmatanga, tera pea ka aroha koe, ka hoatu ki a rātou te whakamanawa e tonoa ana e rātou. Engari ki te kore e mutu, ka tīmata pea te ahua kei te pikau koe i te taumaha o tō rātou whakaaro nui ki a koe anō i runga i ō pakihiwi. Ka puta pea tēnei haki whero mā te hae, te whanonga piri, mā te whakamātautau rānei i a koe. "Ki te kore au e tuku karere ki a rātou, ka tuku karere mai rātou ki ahau? E tino aro ana rātou?" 

Ko tētahi atu huarahi ko te rapu aro i roto i ngā huarahi kino. Tērā pea ka takaro rātou ki ētahi atu, ka hanga rānei i te raruraru hei akiaki i a koe kia tauhohe, kia whakaatu hoki kei te aro koe. He mea whakamīharo, tera pea ka puta he pakanga i te tangata e kore e māia ana hei aromatawai i te nui o tō haumi. I roto i te wā, tera pea ka whakaaro koe me te mea kei te hiahia tonu koe ki te whakamatau i tō aroha, kei te hikoi mārire rānei koe i ō rātou kore māia.

15. Te whakaiti me te whakahē

Kei te whakaititia koe e tō hoa? Anei te āhua: 

• Te whakaiti
• Ngā kōrero whakaiti
• Te faaino tamau 

He tohu nui ēnei nā te mea me whakapakari koe e te hoa aroha, kaua e whakararuraru. Tērā pea ka tīmata hei "katakata". Tērā pea ka tawai rātou ki ō hiahia. Ka kōrero harikoa koe i tētahi mahi whakangahau, i tētahi mea rānei i hangaia e koe, ā, ka huri ō rātou kanohi, ka mea rānei, "Koinā te mea i moumou taima ai koe? Ātaahua." Āue. 

I mua rānei i te aroaro o ētahi atu, ka kōrero mārire rātou mō ō whanonga, mō tō āhua rānei. Tērā pea ka kata koe i tētahi wā, engari he mea nui te āhua. Ki te kite koe i tētahi āhua o ngā kōrero e whakaiti ana i tō whakapono ki a koe anō, i tō mana rānei, kaua e warewaretia. 

16. Te kore o te kaha me te whanaungatanga taha kotahi

Kei te whakaaro koe ko koe te tangata e mahi ana i ngā mahi katoa o tō whanaungatanga? Tērā pea ko koe tonu te tangata e waea atu ana, e whakarite ana i ngā rā, e whakaoti rapanga ana, e pupuri tonu ana rānei i te hononga, i a tō hoa e haere tonu ana. He tohu kino te whanaungatanga taha-kotahi e kore nei e whai kaha tetahi taha, nā te mea he tohu tēnei i te kore taurite o te hiahia, o te whakapau kaha rānei. 

• He tauira nui ko te wā kāore rātou e tīmata i ngā rā, i ngā hui rānei wā kounga. Me i kore kōrua e whakapā atu, e whakarite mahere rānei, ka kite anō kōrua tetahi i tetahi? Mēnā ko te whakautu he kāo, he tohu tēnā 
• Ko tētahi atu āhuatanga o te taha kotahi ko te mahi uaua o ngā kare ā-roto. Ko koe tonu te tangata e whakapāha tuatahi ana i muri i ngā pakanga, ahakoa ehara i a koe te he, hei whakamarie noa i te raruraru? 
• Kei te kitea e koe kei te whakatutuki koe i tā rātou kaupapa mahi, i ā rātou hiahia, i ā rātou raruraru, me te kore e nui te mahi tahi? 
• Ka maumahara koe ki ā rātou rā nui, ka tautoko i a rātou i tētahi rā kino, ka whakarerekē i tō oranga kia rite ki ō rātou hiahia, engari ki te hiahia koe ki te mea kotahi, ka ngaro rātou, ka kore rānei e aro.

Ka taea e tēnei momo whanaungatanga te meinga koe kia whakaaro kāore koe e arohia ana, e kore hoki koe e maioha ki a ia, he tohu nui tēnei kei te hē rawa tetahi mea. 

17. He pai ki te pōma me te tere rawa o te neke

Kei te pito ke o te whānuitanga o te kaha ko te poma aroha—ina tino kaha rawa te haere mai o tētahi, ina tino tere rawa. Anei te āhua: 

• E ngana ana ki te whakatere tere i te whanaungatanga
• Te ruirui i a koe ki te aroha me ngā taonga
• Ngā whakapuakitanga kaha i te tīmatanga

I te tirohanga tuatahi, he rite ki te pakiwaitara, engari kia tūpato, he tohu kino te whakamomori aroha, ā, he rautaki tinihanga hoki. Ka kiia ko te "whakapakoko ā muri ake nei" ina peitahia e rātou tēnei āmua kanapa ki a koe, e kōrero ana mō te marena, ngā tamariki, ake ake, i tētahi wā kua wawe. He aha tēnei tohu kino? Nā te mea kāore i te tū ki te ao tūturu. He wā roa te whanaketanga o te aroha pono me te whakawhirinaki. Ina ngana tetahi ki te peke i aua wāhanga hanga, he tohu tēnei he kaupapa, he huarahi pumau rānei ki ngā whanaungatanga. 

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Ngā Tohu Whero o te Hononga Ngāwari e warewarehia ana

Ehara i te mea he nui, he mārama rānei ngā haki whero katoa. Ko ētahi ka ngokingoki puku mai, ka huna i raro i te mata o ngā whanaungatanga e āhua mahi ana. Ko ēnei ngā haki whero puku he uaua rawa ki te kite, nā te mea e whakaahua ana i ngā pikinga me ngā hekenga noa, heoi ka waikura te hononga i te roanga o te wā.

1. Te wehenga o ngā kare ā-roto

Ehara i te mea ko ngā pakanga pūngāwerewere tonu te tohu o te raruraru. I ētahi wā ko te korenga o te hononga pono. Ki te kite koe kei te māmā ake tō wairua, kei te pono ake, ā, kei te harikoa ake anō hoki koe i te wā kāore tō hoa i te taha, he mea tika kia aro atu koe.

2. Te hanga puku i te mauahara

Kāore i te maha ngā wā ka puta mai te mauahara me te pakū. Ka puta ake i roto i ngā paparanga, 

• Ngā whakaiti kāore i whakaaetia
• Ngā tautohe kāore anō kia whakatauhia 
• Nga kupu whakaari kore 

Neke atu i te wa, tenei Ka taea e te kawa puku te huri hei kaha tino kino i roto i te whanaungatanga. "He rite te mauahara ki te paraka i roto i ngā uaua o te marena. Ka kohia mai i ngā pakanga kāore anō kia whakatauhia tae noa ki tētahi rā, ka aukati katoa i te whanaungatanga," te whakamārama a Tākuta John Gottman, he tohunga whanaungatanga rongonui. 

3. Ngā pakanga kāore anō kia whakatauhia, ā, ka hoki anō, kāore anō kia mutu

Ka tautohe ngā tokorua katoa, engari ko te tūponotanga kei roto i te pakanga kāore anō kia whakatauhia, ka mau tonu te pakanga kotahi i ngā wā katoa nā te mea kāore te take matua e whakatauhia. Me te mea kei roto koe i te pakanga mutunga kore. te huringa o te whawhai, me te hoki anō ki taua wheako anō, ā, ka tīmata te whanaungatanga te ahua pehi. 

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He rerekē te tautuhi i ngā tohu kino, he rerekē te whakaaro me pēhea te mahi. He tino uaua pea ina kite koe kei te hē tetahi mea i roto i tō whanaungatanga. Tērā pea ka pōrearea koe. E aroha ana koe ki tēnei tangata, kua pau tō wā me ō kare ā-roto, ā, kāore he tangata tino tika, tika? Ae, kāore he tangata tino tika. Engari kia mahara, he rerekētanga kei waenganui i ngā hapa noa o te tangata me ngā whanonga kino. Kei roto ngā tohu kino i taua wāhanga whakamutunga. Nō reira, ki te kite koe i ētahi tohu kino, i tētahi tohu nui rānei, anei ētahi rautaki e whitu hei whakahaere i te āhuatanga i roto i te huarahi hauora, whai mana. 

1. Kaua e wareware ki ngā haki whero

Ko te rautaki tuatahi, ā, ko te rautaki tino nui pea: te aro atu ki ngā tohu kino. He mārama te ahua o tēnei, engari ka miharo koe ki te maha o ngā wā ka whakamāramahia, ka whakaitihia rānei e tātou ngā raruraru ina aroha ana tātou. Tērā pea ka mea koe ki a koe anō, 

• "Kare i te tino kino."
• "Tērā pea kei te nui rawa taku tauhohenga."
• "Ka pai ake anō i a ia anō." 

Engari, ko te hiahia me te huna i ngā take i raro i te whāriki he mea noa iho hei whakarato i te wāhi ki a rātou kia tipu ake. Ahakoa he haki whero, ehara i te mea me mahi tonu koe i tēnei. mutu te hononga i taua wā tonu, ki te kore he mea hei whakakore i te whakaaetanga pērā i te tukino. Ko te tikanga kei te pono koe ki a koe anō kei te hē tetahi mea. 

He aha te hiranga o tēnei taahiraa? Nā te mea ka piki haere ngā tohu kino kāore i te whakaaetia. Ki te whakaae koe ki ngā tohu kino wawe i roto i te whakaipoipo, ka taea e koe te wawahi i te huringa o te noho noa. He mea tika tēnei hei akiaki i tētahi huringa.

2. Kōrero ki tō hoa mō ō āwangawanga

Kia kitea e koe tētahi tohu whero, ā, kua whakatau koe he mea tēnei hei whakatika, ko te mahi e whai ake nei ko te kōrero tuwhera ki tō hoa, engari kaua i roto i te wā e pāngia ana koe e te tukino. Tērā pea he mea whakamā tēnei, engari he mea nui te kōrero pono. Ehara tō hoa i te kaipānui hinengaro. Tērā pea kāore rātou e tino mōhio ki te pānga o ā rātou whanonga ki a koe. Mā te whakapuaki mārire me te mārama, ka hoatu e koe he wā ki a rātou ki te whakautu me te huri pea. Anei te huarahi hei mahi: 

• Arotahi ki te pānga o te whanonga ki a koe, me te take e āwangawanga ai, kaua e tīmata ki te whakaeke i a rātou hei tangata. 
• Engari ko te kī atu, "Kei te teka tonu koe ki ahau, he tino tinihanga koe!", me kī atu, "E pouri ana ahau, e manukanuka ana hoki ina kitea e au ngā mea i muri mai kāore koe i kōrero mai ki ahau." 
• Kātahi ka tīmata te kōrero mā te kī atu, "Ka taea e tāua te kōrero mō te take e pēnei tonu ai?" 

Inaianei, e rua ngā mea ka puta: ka aro mai rātou, kāore rānei. He tohu pai tēnei mēnā ka whakarongo tō hoa, kāore e whakakore i ō kare ā-roto, ā, ka uru atu ki te kōrero, ahakoa he uaua ki te whakarongo. Tērā pea kāore rātou i te tino mōhio ki te nui o te whakararuraru i a koe i ā rātou whanonga. 

Heoi, ki te kore e pai te urupare a tō hoa. Hei tauira, ka mura te riri, ka pōuri rānei, ka kore rawa rānei e kōrero, he tohu kino tēnā. Ko te urupare whakahē, whakahē rānei ki tētahi ngana pono ki te kōrero, heoi anō, he tohu kino anō tēnei i runga ake i te take tuatahi. E tohu ana tēnei kāore rātou e pai ki te whakaae ki ō hiahia, ki tā rātou wāhi rānei i roto i te pakanga, ko te tikanga me whakaaro roa koe mō ō mahi e whai ake nei. 

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3. Whakaritea nga rohenga marama

Te whakatakoto rohenga ko te tikanga he tautuhi i ngā mea e manakohia ana e koe, me ngā mea kāore e manakohia ana, kātahi ka kōrero atu ki tō hoa. Mena kua kitea he whanonga haki whero, whakaarohia te rohe me whakatakoto e koe kia noho haumaru ai, kia whakautehia ai rānei. He rite te rohe ki tētahi ture whaiaro, ki tētahi rohe rānei. Hei tauira, ki te mea he āhua tō hoa ki te hamama ki a koe i te wā e tautohetohe ana, ko tētahi rohe pea: "Kāore au e uru ki ngā kōrero e hamamahia ana ahau. Ki te tupu, ka haere atu ahau i te kōrero kia taea rā anō e tāua te kōrero marie."

Whakapūmautia ō rohe, kia tika hoki. Anei te huarahi

• Engari ko te kupu "Kaua e whakahāwea", tohua te tikanga o te whakahāwea ki a koe: "Kaua e karanga mai i ahau ki ngā ingoa kino, kaua hoki e kanga i ahau. E kore ahau e noho tonu i roto i tētahi kōrero e whakaititia ana ahau." 
• Engari kaua e "Whakapaua he wā ki ahau," me kī atu "Me whakaae tāua kia kotahi te pō whakatā i te wiki, kaua he waea, kia mōhio ai au ka whai wā pai tāua." 
• Kia mārama ki tāu e tumanako ana, me tāu e mea ai mēnā kāore taua tumanako e tutuki

4. Rapua te tautoko me te tirohanga ā-waho

Ka taea te whakatau i ngā haki whero karekau me te whakapoauau. Koia te take he rautaki matua te rapu tautoko. Ko te tikanga pea tēnei ko te kōrero ki ngā hoa pono, ki te whānau rānei mō ngā āhuatanga e pā ana, te rapu tohutohu, te whakarongo noa rānei. I ētahi wā, ina kei roto koe i te pokapū o te whanaungatanga, he uaua ki te kite mārama. Tērā pea ka ruarua koe i a koe anō, ka whakatau rānei i ngā mea katoa nā te mea he tata rawa koe ki te āhuatanga. Ko te kimi i tētahi tirohanga o waho he rite ki te whai i tētahi e whakamārama ana i tētahi rama ki tētahi ara pōuri māu.

Kōwhiria tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe, ā, e mōhio ana koe ka pono ki a koe. Ko te mea pai, ko tētahi kāore e whakaaro kino ki tō hoa. Whakamāramahia te mea kua tupu, me ō kare ā-roto. He maha ngā wā, mā te whakapuaki noa i te kōrero ki tētahi atu tangata ka mārama ai. 

Ka taea hoki e koe te whakaaro ki te kōrero ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro, ki tētahi kaitohutohu rānei. Ka taea e tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro te āwhina i a koe ki te whakamana i ō kare ā-roto, ki te whakapakari i tō whakatau, me te hoatu rautaki e hāngai ana ki tō āhuatanga. Mena he raruraru nui te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, engari e hiahia ana kōrua ki te mahi tahi, ka taea e te whakaora hinengaro mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te whakarato i tētahi wāhi noho noa hei whakatika i ngā tohu kino mā te whakamahi i tētahi kaiāwhina. 

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5. Waihangahia he mahere mahi hei mahi i tēnei, hei whakarērea rānei

I muri i te tautuhi i ngā tohu ārai, te kōrero ki tō hoa, te whakatakoto rohe, me te rapu tautoko, kua tae ki te wā whakatau. Ka mahi koe i te whanaungatanga, ka tae rānei ki te wā ki te wehe atu? I ētahi wā he mārama te whakautu; i ētahi wā he tino uaua nā te mea he hina ngā whanaungatanga. Engari mā te whakarite i tētahi mahere ka hoatu he aronga me te mana whakahaere ki a koe.

• Kōwhiringa A: Whakamātauria. Mena kua whakaatu tō hoa i te pouri pono, i te hiahia rānei ki te huri, ā, ehara i te mea he tino tika ngā whanonga tohu whero ngā kaiwhakakore whakaaetanga mōu, tera pea ka whakatau koe ki te tuku i te whanaungatanga kia pai ake. Mēnā koinei te āhua, whakamāramahia me pēhea e mahi ai koe ki tēnei. 
• Kōwhiringa B: Haere atu. I ētahi wā, ko te mahere mahi hauora rawa atu ko te mahere puta. Mena kei te pāngia koe e ngā take nui pēnei i te tukino, te tinihanga mau tonu, te hoa rānei e kore rawa e whakaae ki tetahi mahi hē, he iti noa te tūponotanga o te whakatau harikoa.
• Kōwhiringa C: He wehenga whakamātautau, he okiokinga rānei. Kei waenganui i te mahi me te whakamutu katoa i tēnei. I ētahi wā, mā te okiokinga ka taea e ngā tāngata tokorua te whai tirohanga whānui

6. Whaia te mahi, kia mau tonu te pumau

Ahakoa te huarahi mahi e whiriwhiria e koe, he mea nui kia whai tonu koe i taua huarahi, kia mau tonu hoki. Ehara te aro atu ki ngā tohu kino i te mea kotahi noa iho. He tukanga tonu tēnei hei pupuri i ngā rohe me ngā whakataunga kua mahia e koe. Koinei te wāhi e hē ai te tini o te tangata. Hei tauira, 

• Ka whakatakotohia e rātou he rohe engari ka tukuna kia paheke "kotahi noa iho tēnei" 
• Ka wehe rāua, engari ka kōrero tonu i ia rā, i ia rā, me te mea kāore he rerekētanga
• Hei whakatika i ngā haki whero, me piri tonu koe ki ō pū

Ko tētahi rautaki hei āwhina ko te tuhi i tō whakataunga matua, ā, ki te mea kei te ruarua koe, tirohia. Me whakanui hoki i ngā wikitoria iti o te pumau. Ki te mea kua kotahi marama koe e kaha ana ki te whakatutuki i ō rohe, me mihi ki a koe anō. Ki te mea kāore anō kia pērā. i tuku karere haurangi ki tō hoa o mua Mō te wiki kotahi, hoatu he mea reka ki a koe. He uaua ēnei mea! Kāore he aha te whakaae ki te kaha e hiahiatia ana. 

7. Kia mōhio koe ki te wā tika hei wehe atu mō ake tonu atu

Hei whakamutunga, me mōhio koe ki te wā e tika ana kia wehe atu i te whanaungatanga mō ake tonu atu. Koinei te taahiraa tino uaua, nā te mea ka taea e te aroha, te tumanako, me te hītori te here kaha i a tātou. Engari i ētahi wā ko te wehe atu te otinga hauora rawa atu, ki te kore ko te otinga anake, e toe ana. Tērā pea ka tae koe ki tēnei wāhi i muri i te whakamātau i ngā rautaki o mua engari kāore i angitu, ka peke tika atu rānei koe ki konei mēnā he haki whero kāore e taea te whiriwhiri, pērā i te tukino. Me pēhea koe e mōhio ai kua tae ki te wā tika hei wehe atu? Rapua ēnei tohu:

• Ko te takahi i te rohe
• Ahakoa ngā kupu whakaari, kāore he whakapainga
• Kei te kino haere tō hauora hinengaro, tō hauora tinana rānei
• Ka tīmata koe ki te tumanako ka wehe rātou i a koe
• Ka puta te whanonga takahi whakaaetanga

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Thoughts Final

He mea whakamataku pea te aro atu ki ngā tohu kino, engari ko te mōhio ki a rātou he momo aroha ki a koe anō. Mā te mōhio ki ēnei tohu whakatūpato, kei te kī koe, "E tika ana kia whiwhi ahau i te mea pai ake i tēnei." Ā, e tika ana. E tika ana kia whiwhi te tangata katoa i tētahi whanaungatanga i runga i te whakaute, te whakawhirinaki, me te atawhai. Ahakoa kāore he whanaungatanga tino tika, he rerekētanga nui i waenga i ngā āhuatanga noa o te tangata me ngā whanonga tohu kino tūturu e whakararu ana i tō oranga.

I te mutunga o te rā, me rite te whanaungatanga ki tētahi tauranga haumaru, kaua ki tētahi awha. Mā te tūpato ki ngā tohu kino o tētahi whanaungatanga, me te aro atu ki aua tohu, ka ārahi koe i tō oranga ki ngā wai marino, mārama ake, ahakoa kua hurihia te hoa rangatira, kua huri rānei i tētahi haerenga hou. Kāore he mea e tika ana kia whiwhi koe i tua atu i tēnā.

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