Zakachikwi - Mavuto apamwamba a 6 a Ubale Ndi Mayankho

Zakachikwi anakulira mu chithumwa cha 90s. Iwo ndi osiyana ndi m'badwo wakale ndipo m'badwo wotsatira sudzakhala ndi malire ofanana ndi ife. Nthawi zonse, timalimbana ndikukhala moyo mosiyana kwambiri ndi agogo athu ndi makolo athu ndichifukwa chake mavuto azaka chikwi amasiyananso. Zomwezo zikugwiranso ntchito kwa millennials ndi maubale awo.

Monga masiku abwino akale oyenda kwa mtsikana ku koleji ndikumufunsa kuti akawone filimu ya Tom Cruise? Chilichonse chimachitika kuseri kwa ma facade osefedwa a mapulogalamu ochezera.

Mavuto a Zakachikwi sali osiyana ndi mibadwo ina, amangowoneka mosiyana. Moyo wasintha m'zaka makumi awiri ndi zitatu zapitazi chifukwa cha kubwera kwa teknoloji, mapulogalamu a chibwenzi ndi maubwenzi atsopano akukumananso ndi zovuta zatsopano. Kodi millennials amawona bwanji maubale? Ife tikukuuzani inu.

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Kodi Mavuto a Zakachikwi Ndi Chiyani?

Ndi zibwenzi mapulogalamu ndi chikhalidwe TV chipwirikiti, mavuto zakachikwi mwachionekere anapotozedwa pang'ono. Ubale wazaka zatsopano uli kuzungulira tawuni. Mavuto a zaka chikwi akhoza kukhala kuchokera ku zovuta za moyo wa kotala, zokhudzana ndi teknoloji.  

Timazindikira mavuto 6 azaka chikwi ndikukuuzani momwe mungathanirane nawo.

1. Social Media kutenga ulamuliro

Nsanje pazochitika zapa social media, kuphulikandipo mzukwa zimabwera mosavuta ndi m'badwo uno. Malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi ovuta kwambiri moti maubwenzi nthawi zambiri amasokonezeka chifukwa cha izo. Mafoni a m'manja asanafike, ali pamasiku, anthu amacheza m'malo moyang'ana pazithunzi zamafoni awo.

Kufufuza pa intaneti ndikofala. Ngakhale musanakumane ndi tsiku lanu losawona, mumadziwa mayina a BFF a msuweni wa msuweni wawo chifukwa mudawayang'ana pa TV.

M’maubwenzi, kucheza kochuluka kwadziwika kuti kumayambitsa kukayikirana, nsanje ndi nkhawa. Ndipo chifukwa m'badwo uno ulibe nthawi yolankhulana, maubwenzi nthawi zambiri amakhudzidwa ndi vuto la intaneti.

Nthawi zina anthu amakhala otanganidwa kwambiri pazama TV ndipo amatha kupanga zolakwika zomwe zimawononga maubwenzi awo.

Poyesera kuchita zinthu motsatira zabodza izi za dziko lenileni timadzipatula ku ubale weniweni. Tekinoloje yabweretsa nkhani ngati kutumizirana mameseji nkhawa ndi kutumizirana mameseji kawiri ndipo anthu akusweka ngakhale palemba, osalola kuti ubalewo ufike pachimake.  

Kusintha kwa zibwenzi kwawonjezera ku zovuta za ubale wazaka chikwi.

Anakonza: Yankho lake likumveka losavuta koma ndi lovuta kwambiri kuchita masiku ano. Onetsetsani kuti mukusiyanitsa bwino pakati pa moyo wanu wapaintaneti ndi moyo wanu weniweni. Musalole imodzi kukhala m'malo mwa inzake. Masiku ano onse ndi ofunika mofanana koma kusiyana pakati pa awiriwa ndi kofunikira.

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2. Kuyankhulana kwatha

Mutha kuganiza m'nthawi ya ma IM ndi ma DM, anthu amakhala okonda kulankhulana nthawi yomweyo. Chowonadi sichingakhale kutali ndi chowonadi.

Mawu akufupikitsidwa tsiku lililonse ndipo moyo wachibwenzi umapangidwa ndi FOMO kapena YOLO. Zokambirana zambiri zofunika zimachitika kudzera m'mawu achidule ndi ma emojis ndipo kuyitana wina ndi mnzake ndi chinthu chakale. "OMG, titha Netflix ndikuzizira?" zikuwoneka zomveka kuposa, "Kodi tingalankhule zomwe zikuchitika pakati pathu?"

Ndipo chifukwa millennials amayenda mozemba ndi zolemba zosamveka m'malo mokambirana maso ndi maso, ubale umasintha LOL kapena ROFL mu IRL.

Mavuto a millennials amagwidwa mu limbo iyi yolankhulana monga momwe amachitira kukankhira kutali chikondi popanda ngakhale kuzindikira kuti akuchita izo.

N’zosapeŵeka kuti kutumizirana mameseji kungayambitse mikangano yambiri kuposa kukambirana maso ndi maso. Patsiku palibe amene angalingalire kusunga foni kutali ndikuyankhula kosatha, popanda zizindikiro za pings.

Anakonza: Khalani ndi chidaliro chokwanira kuthana ndi zovuta zaubwenzi m'njira yomangirira komanso yothandiza. Osalola ukadaulo ndi ma emojis kukuchitirani ntchito zonse. Zinthu izi zapangidwa kuti ziwonjezere moyo wanu osati kulowetsa zikhalidwe zanu zazikulu. Ngati pali zinazake zimene zikufunika kukambidwa, limbikani mtima kuchichita pamaso panu. Zidzatsika bwino kwambiri, tikhulupirireni.

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3. Zolinga zosiyanasiyana

Chifukwa chakuti anthu awiri adafanana pa Tinder, sizitanthauza kuti amagwirizana. Ambiri azaka zikwizikwi safuna ukwati, ambiri safuna ana ndipo ena amafuna kukhala ngati Barney Stinson.

Kodi Zakachikwi amawopa chiyani? Amawopa kutaya umunthu wawo, zolinga zawo ndi zokhumba zawo chifukwa cha chiyanjano. Ngakhale mapulogalamu a zibwenzi amatha kuyambitsa ubale, mu ubale wazaka chikwi, kusiyana kwa zolinga nthawi zambiri kumayambitsa mavuto muubwenzi. Izi zingayambitsenso zambiri mikangano ya ubale.

Masiku ano amuna ndi akazi ali ndi mtima wofuna kutchuka ndipo amamveka bwino pa zomwe akufuna komanso nthawi yomwe akufuna. Ambiri angafune ana osakwatiwa ndipo ena angafune kuyenda ndi kuika patsogolo mbali zina za moyo popanda kukakamizidwa.

Mavuto azaka zikwizikwi ndi mikangano yomwe imabwera pamene munthu m'modzi ali pachibwenzi akufuna ubale waukulu womwe umatsogolera kwinakwake, pomwe winayo amautenga mozizira momwe angathere. Anthu awiri amakhalabe paubwenzi ndipo ngakhale ataganiza zolowa m'banja sangakhale "ife" kuchokera ku "Ine".

yankho; Ngakhale kudzipereka nokha ndi zokhumba zanu ndi chinthu chovuta kuchita masiku ano, kunyengerera ndi chinthu chofunikira chomwe tonse tingaphunzire. Mukamakonda munthu, muyenera kusiya zinthu zina kapena zizolowezi zomwe sizingagwirizane ndi ubale wanu. Zonse zimatengera kusankha koyenera ndikupeza wina woyenera kusiya zizolowezizo. Osataya mtima pakuchita izi koma ngati mukufuna kupeza munthu watsopano m'moyo wanu, muyenera kuwapangira malo.

4. Kugonana ndikosavuta kupeza komanso kukondana kumakhala kovuta

Ndi mafilimu ngati Masikiti makumi asanu a Grey ndi zolaula, kuyang'anira kugonana m'maganizo a millennials ndikofunikira. Tonse tikukula kuganiza kuti aliyense ali bwino monga Johnny Sims kapena Mia Malkova pabedi. Zowonadi, palibe Chipinda Chofiira chokhala ndi zida za BDSM ndipo sikuti mkazi aliyense amafuna kulamulidwa.

Ngakhalenso amuna olemera AF monga Christian Gray. Kukula ndi zopeka zambiri za pop muubongo wathu, timapeza kuti kugonana ndikosavuta kupeza ndipo ziyembekezo zathu ndi zazikulu.

Kugonana mwachisawawa ndi zomwe anthu amafuna kukhutitsidwa nazo ndipo safuna kulowa muubwenzi wokhazikika womwe ungatanthauze ubwenzi weniweni, chikondi ndi bwenzi.

Pofunafuna chisangalalo cha moyo, kulemera kwa ubale kumatayika pakugonana popanda chikondi. Ndipo ngakhale titakhala ndi malo okondana muubwenzi wathu, zoyembekezera za okondedwa athu zimadutsa padenga ndipo nthawi zambiri zimalephera.

Anakonza: Popeza palibe aliyense wa ife amene ali ndi nthawi yochita zinthu zina, kugonana mwachisawawa n’kosavuta kugwira ntchito. Komabe, padzakhala nthawi yomwe mudzatopa ndipo mwachiyembekezo mudzalakalaka zambiri. Ngakhale mutakhala ndi chibwenzi, muzilemekeza mnzanuyo ndipo yesetsani kumudziwa bwino. Kukhala ndi ubwenzi wabwino sikupweteka. Osataya zizolowezi zanu zoyambirira za anthu za kuyanjana.

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5. Kubera kumakhala kosavuta

Kusakhulupirika pa intaneti ndikofala nthawi ino. Ndi kusadziwika ndi Intaneti kuzembera pa zala zathu, n'zosavuta m'maganizo kapena mwathupi kunyenga mnzako ndipo osagwidwa.

Kukopana mopanda chilungamo kudzera m'makalata opita kwa anzanu akale aku koleji kapena ogwira nawo ntchito kuofesi kumatha kukhala nkhani yodziwika bwino pa WhatsApp. Chifukwa chaukadaulo ngakhale musanazindikire kuti mutha kulowa mu maganizo ndipo izi zitha kusokoneza ubale wanu.

Anthu amatha kulowa mu mapulogalamu a zibwenzi kuti agwirizane ngakhale ali m'banja ndipo malo ochezera amakhalanso odzaza ndi anthu okwatirana omwe akufunafuna zosiyanasiyana ndipo samasamala kunyenga akazi awo.

Imodzi mwa mavuto aakulu ubale wa millennials pamaso pa luso ndi ngati kubera wapatsidwa ndipo zimatengedwa mopepuka kuti zidzachitika nthawi ina kapena wina mu ubale.

Zakachikwi zimapulumuka kusakhulupirika muubwenzi ndikumanganso chikhulupiriro mu ubale nthawi zambiri.

Anakonza: Dziwani komwe mungajambule mzere. Musakhale bwenzi losakwanira kwa wina aliyense ndipo musalole kuti wina akuchitireni choncho. Tikukhulupirira kuti mudzapeza munthu wodziwa kukukondani ndi kukulemekezani. Osakhazikika kapena kukhululuka mosavuta.

6. Kukhala “wozizira” kwambiri

Mu ubale wazaka chikwi, kuphulika kumakhala kwakukulu ayi. Zachidziwikire, kukhala wodekha muubwenzi ndikofunikira nthawi zina, koma zaka zikwizikwi zimatenga gawo limodzi ndi lingaliro lokhala wozizira kwambiri nthawi zonse.

Kufotokozera zakukhosi sikuli "kozizira" ndipo pokhapokha mutakhala ndi malingaliro a supuni ya tiyi, moyo wanu wa chibwenzi udzatha isanayambe. Ubale wa Zakachikwi ukhoza kukhala wamizimu kuposa kusweka kwenikweni ndi munthu ndikuwongolera malingaliro.

Ili ndi limodzi mwamavuto akulu azaka chikwi chifukwa amangochita zinthu ngati chibwenzi cha benchi ndi caspering koma sakanamuuza munthuyo zakutsogolo zomwe akumva za ubale wawo ndipo safuna kuthana ndi mikangano ndikuthetsa chibwenzi m'njira yoyenera.

Anakonza: Kumbukirani kuti malingaliro onse ndi olondola. Izi zikukhudza inuyo komanso munthu amene muli naye pachibwenzi. Osathamangitsa wina kapena kuwapempha kuti akhazikike mtima pansi. Pokhala ndi kupsinjika maganizo kochuluka ndi nkhawa zikuwonjezeka, chochepa chimene tingachite ndicho kumverana wina ndi mnzake.

Kodi Mumakonza Bwanji Mavuto a Zakachikwi?

Ili ndi funso la miliyoni miliyoni lomwe palibe yankho lotsimikizika. Koma tikamafunsa funso kuti millenial amawona bwanji maubwenzi, tili ndi yankho mu mfundo zisanu ndi imodzi zomwe tazitchula pamwambapa.

Psychotherapist Aman Bhonsle amalankhula za mavuto omwe anthu ambiri amakumana nawo pazamankhwala ndipo akunena momwe angathanirane ndi vutoli. Iye anati: “Nthawi zambiri anthu amafuna ‘kungofuna kunena zoona’ za pachibwenzi popanda ‘kupereka chilichonse kwa iwo.

"Kufuna zambiri popanda kuyikapo ntchito. Kodi timapeza bwanji okwatirana kuti awone zomwe amathandizira pamavuto awo a pachibwenzi? Njirayi ndi yovuta ndi anthu omwe akuyamba kusankhana. Ntchito ikufunika. Chiwopsezo sichinyengo ndipo palinso phindu lochepetsera chidziwitso chapamwamba kwambiri. Kulankhula sikufanana ndi kutumizirana mameseji. Timayang'ana nkhope ya munthu ngati munthu. zolakwika ndi zizolowezi zoyipa Njira yokhayo yopitira patsogolo paubwenzi ndikudzipereka pakukula kwanu - kaya ndinu wazaka chikwi kapena ayi.

Iye akufunsa millennials kuyang'ana mgwirizano wofiira mbendera asanadzipereke mpaka kalekale. Ananenanso kuti n’zotheka kusiya chibwenzi ngati mukuona kuti banja silikuyenda bwino.

Koma kuti athetse mavuto a zaka chikwi mu maubwenzi awo amayenera kuika patsogolo anzawo ndikugwira ntchito pazochitika zenizeni ndi zachikondi m'malo modalira kwambiri zamakono.

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