Katswiri Akulangiza Njira 7 Zoti Mumve Bwino Pambuyo Pakutha

Kutha kwa ubale ndi chiyambi cha nthawi yovuta kwambiri m'moyo wa munthu. Pamafunika kuleza mtima kwakukulu ndi kulimbikira kuti muthe kuchilitsa mutakhalanso wosakwatiwa. Anthu ambiri amavutika kuti adziŵe mmene angakhalire bwino pambuyo pa kutha kwa banja chifukwa chakuti dziko lasintha monga mmene analidziŵira. Ndani sanagwiritse ntchito kugubuduza m'njira yoyenera panthawi yotere?

Tili pano kuti tikambirane za nkhaniyi pokambirana ndi aphunzitsi okhudza thanzi labwino komanso kulingalira bwino Pooja Priyamvada (yotsimikiziridwa mu Psychological and Mental Health First Aid yochokera kwa Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health ndi University of Sydney), yemwe amagwira ntchito yopereka uphungu wa zibwenzi kunja kwa banja, kulekana, kupatukana, chisoni, ndi kutayika, kungotchulapo zochepa chabe.

Ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti mutha kuchira kuchokera pachibwenzi mukamakondabe wokondedwa wanu komanso ngakhale mukumva chisoni. Ndipo ndizomwe tidzachita limodzi - ikani moyo wanu patsogolo ngakhale zili zenizeni. Ndi chithandizo chaching'ono ndi chitsogozo, mudzakhala ndi zida zoyenera zothanirana ndi kupatukana ndikuyamba ulendo wanu wamachiritso. Tikudziwa kuti ndi njira yovuta kuyendamo ndipo tili pano chifukwa cha inu njira iliyonse.

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Ili ndi funso lodziwika kwambiri ndipo aliyense akufuna tsiku lotha ntchito ya ululu wawo. Ndipo inde, pamene nthawi imachiritsa mabala onse, muyenera kusamalidwa pang'ono panthawiyi. Koma kodi zinthu zinali zosavuta choncho? Pooja akuti, "Chofunika kwambiri, kulekana ndi kutayika komwe kumabweretsa chisoni. Chisoni ndi kukula kwaumwini zilibe nthawi yokhazikika. Palibe njira yofanana yothanirana nazo; anthu ena kuthetsa kutha mofulumira pamene ena amatenga miyezi ndi zaka.

Chifukwa chake, yankho lake limakhala lolunjika kwambiri ndipo limasiyana ndi nkhani iliyonse. Simungathe kuneneratu kuti ndi liti komanso zomwe zingakupangitseni kumva bwino. Koma mudzadziwa kuti pali vuto pamene malingaliro olakwikawa amayamba kukhudza mbali zina za moyo wanu.

Ngakhale palibe njira yodziwira pamene mudzayambanso kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino, pali njira zisanu ndi ziwiri zogwirira ntchito kuti mukhale okhazikika m'maganizo. Musafooke pa mapeto anu. Ikani ntchito yofunikira ndipo payenera kukhala zotsatira zabwino. Chida chofunikira kwambiri mu arsenal yanu chidzakhala malingaliro abwino. Khalani otsimikiza kuti zonse zidzayenda bwino ndipo padzakhala nthawi yomwe mudzamva bwino pambuyo pa kutha kwa banja.

Monga momwe wamalonda wotchuka dzina lake Malcolm S. Forbes ananenapo nthaŵi ina kuti: “Zinthu zikafika poipa, timatonthozedwa tikamaganiza kuti zikhoza kuipiraipira. Popanda ado, tiyeni tiwone momwe mungakhalire bwino mutatha kupatukana m'njira 7 zosavuta…

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Momwe Mungakhalire Bwino Pambuyo Pakutha - Njira 7 Zaukatswiri

Tiyeni tiyambe ndi kuvomereza kuopsa kwa kupatukana. Kudzimvera chisoni ndi malingaliro ovuta omwe amatsatira. Palibe kukana kuthekera kwawo kusintha miyoyo yathu mozondoka. Amathera mphamvu zathu zamaganizo ndi zakuthupi kotheratu ndipo amatisiya mumkhalidwe wachisoni kotheratu. Kuthetsa banja si nthabwala. Ndiyeno pali tsoka wamba - mungachiritse bwanji kutha pamene mukuwakondabe? Tithana ndi zonsezi (ndi zina) ndi njira 7 izi kuti izi zitheke.

Kukhala ndi maganizo omasuka ndi chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungachite pamene mukuyesera kupirira kukhumudwa pambuyo pakutha. Khalani omasuka kusintha maupangiri awa malinga ndi momwe zinthu ziliri kapena malingaliro anu. Palibe njira imodzi yokwanira yochiritsira. Tengani tsiku limodzi panthawi ndikusunga zinthu zochepa izi m'maganizo mwanu. Umu ndi momwe mungakhalire bwino mutatha kupatukana, monga momwe katswiri wathu adalimbikitsira:

1. Landirani ndi chisoni

Pooja akufotokoza kuti, "Chisoni n'chofunika kwambiri pamene chibwenzi chimatha, makamaka pamene chimatha molakwika kapena popanda kutsekedwa. Muyenera kuzindikira udindo wa mnzanu m'moyo wanu komanso tsopano pamene palibe. Nkhani zapambuyo pa kupatukana zimayamba pamene anthu akulephera kuvomereza zenizeni za mkhalidwe wawo. Chitani zonse zomwe muyenera kulira ndipo musalole kuti asokoneze maganizo anu moyenera. " Pitani ku 7 magawo a chisoni mutatha kutha, m'malo mochita masewera olakwa.

• Vomerezani ndikuvomera: Gawo loyamba la machiritso ndi kuvomereza chisoni. Anthu angapo akulimbana ndi kuvomereza kutha; sangakhulupirire m'mene zinachitikira kapena chifukwa chake. Lekani kukonza zolakwa za wakale wanu ndi kusiya kudziimba mlandu kapena kudziimba mlandu pazomwe zidachitika
• Musakane: Kugonjetsa kukana ndi kuvomereza kulekana ndi chinthu chanzeru kwambiri chomwe mungachite ngati muli ndi chidwi chofuna kuyamba mwatsopano ndi kupuma koyera. Izi zidzamasula kuukira kosasunthika kwa malingaliro osasangalatsa. Koma kung'amba bandi-aid ndikofunikira ndipo ndikuyika malingaliro anu pamalo abwino

Mwachitsanzo, tiyeni tiwone Reddit iyi wosuta, amene amaona kufunika kongolola kuti ululuwo upitirire. Iwo anati, "Ingololani kuti zipweteke. Kulimbana ndi machiritso ndi zinthu ziwiri zosiyana kwambiri kotero pamene kudzidodometsa nokha ndikutsitsimula kwakanthawi, sikungakuthandizeni kuchiritsa. Muyenera kukumbatira komwe muli, komwe kuli kowawa kwambiri komanso moona mtima, kungolola kuti ziwawa. Dzichitireni nokha mphamvu.

Wokondedwa amatenga mbali zingapo m'moyo wanu (bwenzi, bwenzi, wapaulendo, ndi zina zotero) ndipo kusapezeka kwawo kumamveka nthawi imodzi m'malo ambiri. N’kwachibadwa kudzimva kukhala wopanda pake, wachisoni, wokhumudwa, kapena wokwiya. Perekani mawu ku zomvererazo ndipo khalani omasuka podziwa zachisokonezo chamalingaliro ichi. Wataya munthu ndipo ndi zowawa. Tengani nthawi koma khalani ndi malingaliro anu

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2. Osalankhulana ndi wakale wanu

Awa ndi mayesero omwe tonse timawadziwa bwino kwambiri ndipo ndi njira imodzi yowonongera ulendo wanu wamachiritso. Kufuna kutumiza meseji pakati pausiku, kuwapempha kuti abwererane kapena kuyimbira foni panthawi yomwe ali pachiwopsezo. Ndipo oh inde, kutsata maakaunti awo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi chinthu chokhacho chokha. Koma pamapeto pake, izi ndi zowononga kwa onse okhudzidwa. Mumakhala pachiwopsezo cholowa muubwenzi wobwereza-bwereza, zomwe zingakupangitseni kumva kuipiraipira. Kodi mungadziwe momwe mungakhalire bwino mutatha kupatukana ali pomwepo pamndandanda wamacheza a WhatsApp?

Pooja akupereka lingaliro lofunika kwambiri, "Palibe kukhudzana ndi upangiri womwe ndimapereka kwa aliyense panthawi yakuchira. mphamvu ya chete mutatha kusweka. Pambuyo pakukonzedwa bwino, anthu obwera nawo amatha kukhala abwenzi kapena ogwira nawo ntchito. Koma m'masiku oyamba, ndi chisankho cholakwika kwambiri ndipo njira yabwino ndikungowadula. Kuwona chakudya cham'mbuyomu chapa media kapena mnzawo watsopano kungakhale choyambitsa chachikulu. Muyenera kudzipulumutsa nokha nkhawa ndi nkhawa ndi kukhala kutali. Kukhalabe mabwenzi sikungakuthandizeni.”

Dzichitireni zabwino ndikuletsa wakale wanu pamapulatifomu onse. Chotsaninso nambala ya ex wanu. Kuyika malo pakati panu awiri ndikofunikira. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi chithunzi chomveka bwino cha ubale ndi mapeto ake ngakhale mungakhale okhumudwa kwa kanthawi. Palibe mwayi wochita zinthu mwanzeru ngati wakale wanu akadali m'malo omwe muli. Kuwonera anthu atsopano pa mbiri yawo kumangokupangitsani kukhala ndi nsanje ndikuwasowa kwambiri.

3. Dzizungulireni ndi okondedwa anu

Kuyanjana ndi gawo lofunikira mukafuna kudzimva bwino mukatha kutha. Anzanu apamtima komanso achibale anu akhoza kukutulutsani muvutoli ndipo ndi gulu lanu lothandizira pa nthawi ino. Koma simukuyenera kudziponyera nokha pa brunches mwamphamvu. Pooja anati: “Kucheza kumasiyanasiyana munthu ndi munthu.” Ngakhale kuti anthu ena amasangalala akakhala ndi mabwenzi apamtima, ena angafunike kukhala pawokha komanso nthawi kuti athetse maganizo awo.

“N’zosachita kufunsa kuti kudzipatula kungakokere aliyense m’malo amdima ndi opsinjika maganizo. Chotero, khalani ndi ena pa liŵiro lanulo koma yesani kulinganiza zinthu zina zosangalatsa pamodzi ndi anthu ena panthaŵi yanu yopuma. Mwinamwake ngakhale kupita ku mzinda watsopano ndi bwenzi lanu lapamtima.” Palibe amene amamva ngati kukhala m'gulu lalikulu pamene akuyesera kuti azikhala pamodzi. Koma bwenzi lanu kapena achibale anu ndiye njira yayikulu yothandizira yomwe mungadalire. Aloleni iwo akhale nanu ndipo zidzakupangitsani kumva bwino. Simukusowa katswiri wodziwa zibwenzi, mumangofunika bwenzi lodalirika. (Mukudziwa kuti mungatero thandizani mnzanu pakutha ngati maudindowo adasinthidwa.)

Ndi Reddit wosuta anafotokoza mmene mabwenzi awo anawathandizira kupirira pamene anatha. Iwo anati, "Ndinakhala nthawi yochuluka ndi achibale ndi anzanga, omwe ankandithandiza kwambiri. Ndinayankhula nawo zomwe zinandithandiza kuthetsa malingaliro anga ndi malingaliro anga. Dziperekeni ndekha (osati monga pachibwenzi, chomwe chinabwera ngati chaka chimodzi) ndipo ndinakumana ndi anthu osawadziwa omwe anakhala mabwenzi. Kufunafuna zinthu / zosangalatsa zatsopano zomwe ndinasangalala nazo tisanalekana ndi kupeza zatsopano. Sindinkafuna poyambirira kunena kuti inde kuzinthu (pazifukwa zenizeni).

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4. Khalani ndi chizolowezi

Mukufuna kukonza mwachangu kuti mumve bwino? Ndiye chitengeni ichi mozama. Pamene mukumva kuti mwakhazikika pang'ono, yambani kubwezeretsa moyo wanu pang'onopang'ono. Sambani bwino m’nyumba, tsegulani mazenera kuti mpweya wabwino ulowe, yambani kudya zakudya zopatsa thanzi, pitani kuntchito panthaŵi yake, chitani maseŵera olimbitsa thupi, ndi zina zotero. Konzani masiku anu ndikuwonetsa zokolola kwa iwo. Siyani kachipinda kakang'ono kodzisangalatsa ndi zinthu zomwe zimakusangalatsani m'malo mowerenga mawu osweka tsiku lonse kuti mukhale m'malingaliro anu kapena kuthana ndi zikumbutso zakuthupi za wakale wanu. Yakwana nthawi yoti tisinthe zinthu.

• Chitani zinthu zatsopano: Mwachitsanzo, pitani ku patisserie yomwe mumakonda ndikudyerako mchere. Chitani chilichonse kupatula kugwa muchisoni pakama panu. Dzibwezeretseni kudziko lenileni ndikupatseni moyo wanu wonse
• Yang'anani pakuchita bwino nokha ndi moyo wanu tsiku lililonse: Sikuti nthawi zonse zimatengera kusintha kwakukulu kuti mumve bwino. Mphamvu zomwe mudalozera paubwenzi ziyenera kutumizidwa kuukadaulo wanu komanso kupita patsogolo kwanu. Kubwerera ku mphesa kungapangitse wina kumva bwino pambuyo pa kutha. Ngakhale zitanthauza kupita ku kalasi ya yoga pafupipafupi kapena kudyanso zakudya zanthawi zonse
• Kulimbitsa thupi: Kuthamanga kwambiri kudzakuthandizani njira yayitali yothana ndi vutoli m'moyo wanu. Lowani nawo masewera olimbitsa thupi kapena kalabu ya othamanga kapena yendani koyenda mukatha kudya. Tulutsani ma endorphin ndikupanga lamulo loti musinthe malingaliro anu

Pooja amatikumbutsa mwanzeru kuti: “Kusweka mtima kuli ngati kusweka mtima, pafupifupi aliyense amakumana nako panthaŵi inayake. Kumbukirani mawu awa mukakhala nokha kusowa ex wanu kachiwiri.

5. Funsani thandizo la akatswiri

Kudziyimira pawokha komanso kudzidalira ndi mikhalidwe yabwino kwambiri yomwe muyenera kukhala nayo. Koma mungamve bwanji bwino mutatha kupatukana pomwe simuli bwino nokha? Pamene mukulimbana ndi nthawi zonse kuganizira za wakale wanu, ganizirani kufikira katswiri wa zamaganizo amene angakuthandizeni kuti muyambe kuchira. Palibe aliyense wa ife amene ali ndi mphamvu yodziŵikitsa athu katundu wamalingaliro kapena nkhani zosathetsedwa. Koma katswiri wa zamaganizo akhoza kukutsogolerani.

Pooja akufotokoza kuti: “Anthu ayenera kufunafuna malangizo kwa madokotala, alangizi, akatswiri a zamaganizo, ndi aphunzitsi a moyo malinga ndi zosowa zawo. Ngati mukuganiza zopempha thandizo, alangizi aluso komanso odziwa zambiri pa Bonobology's gulu la akatswiri zili pano chifukwa cha inu.

Atha kukuthandizani kuti muunike bwino momwe zinthu zilili komanso kukupatsani njira zoyenera kuti mukhale bwino mukatha kutha. Khalani okoma mtima paulendo wonsewu. Palibe amene amayembekeza kuti mubwerere kumapazi anu usiku wonse.

6. Khalani omasuka ku zochitika zatsopano

Kudzimva wopanda kanthu pambuyo pa kutha? Kumasuka kwanu kuzochitika zatsopano kungakupangitseni kuthana ndi mtima wanu wosweka bwino. Izi ndizofunikira ngati mukufuna kudzikonza nokha mukatha kutha. Umu ndi momwe mungachitire izi:

• Kukhala wotanganidwa: Kupitilira moyo wanu wamba kumatha kukhala kosangalatsa chifukwa kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi ndi zinthu zatsopano kumatha kukhala njira yabwino yodzipezera kukhala wotanganidwa ndikubwezeretsa kudzidalira kwanu. Pooja anati: “Kuchita zinthu zatsopano kungachititse kuti munthu asangalale kapena kutha mphamvu pambuyo pa kutha kwa banja.
• Pangani mndandanda wa zidebe: Kodi pali chinachake chimene mwakhala mukufuna kuchita kwa kanthawi? Chilankhulo chomwe mwakhala mukufuna kuphunzira? Pangani zanu Idyani, Pempherani, Chikondi ulendo ndi kutuluka m'dera lanu chitonthozo kuthana ndi nthawi yovuta mukukhala ndi kuthetsa kutha mu njira wathanzi
• Chotsani malo anu otonthoza: Simunawerenge kwakanthawi? Pezani buku labwino ndikupita kukacheza masana ku paki pafupi ndi malo anu. Kodi mwataya kugwirizana ndi bwenzi lakale? Khalani nawo ndikupeza zatsopano m'moyo wawo. Chitani zinthu zomwe simungayesere muzochita zanu ngakhale zing'onozing'ono komanso zosavuta
• Kudzidziwitsa: Kudzidziwitsa ndi njira yabwino yokhalira moyo wanu popanda wakale wanu. Mukangoyamba kuyang'ana zinthu ndi kuyesetsa kupanga zokumbukira zatsopano, mudzaphunzira zambiri za zomwe mumakonda komanso zomwe simukonda. Dzidziweni nokha pokulitsa malingaliro anu. Maubale anu amtsogolo adzakuthokozani chifukwa cha izi

7. Muzidzikonda

Pooja akufotokoza kuti, "Njira yoyamba kuti muchiritse pambuyo pa kusudzulana ndi kudzisamalira - kuzindikira zomwe mukufunikira panthawiyo. Ndipo sitepe yachiwiri ndikudziyamikira nokha. Yambani kupanga zisankho zomwe zikugwirizana ndi zonsezi. Ganizirani zomwe zimakupindulitsani ndi kupititsa patsogolo. Kampasi yanu iyenera kukhazikika pa inu nokha." Kulima zizolowezi zodzikonda zipangitsa kuti wina amve bwino pambuyo posudzulana kwambiri.

Ricky, katswiri wodziwa misomali yemwe ndidakumana naye nthawi ina adandiuza momwe kudziyang'anira yekha, kunamuthandizira kuchoka kwa wakale wake mwachangu kwambiri. "Ndinamva mpumulo nditasiyana ndi mwamuna wanga wakale popeza pomalizira pake ndinali ndi nthawi yochulukirapo. Inde, kusweka kumayamwa koma ndi chikumbutso chachikulu kuti mugwiritse ntchito nokha m'malo mwake. Ndinapita ku zochitika zapawekha nditangotha ​​kusweka kwanga komwe kunandithandiza kukhala wofunika kwambiri, ndipo kusuntha kuchoka ku wakale wanga kunakhala kosavuta kwambiri, "adatero.

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Ubwenzi nthawi zambiri umafuna kuti tiziyika zofuna za mnzathu patsogolo. Kudzakhala kusintha kotsitsimula kudziganizira wekha. Chotero m’malo mothamangira muubwenzi watsopano, yesani kuthera nthaŵi yanu. Yesetsani kukhala oganiza bwino pogwiritsa ntchito zotsimikizira, kusinkhasinkha, yoga, kapena kulemba. Fikani pamalo okhutitsidwa komwe mungaganizire za ubale popanda mkwiyo kapena chakukhosi. Khalani ndi anthu okuthandizani omwe amakukondani. Khalani oyamikira chifukwa cha madalitso ambiri m'moyo wanu. Izi ndi momwe mungadzimverere bwino mukatha kutha, m'malo mongodumphira muubwenzi wotsatira kapena kukonzekera masiku amtsogolo.

Kodi maganizo amenewa anakukhudzani? Tikukhulupirira kuti adzakuthandizani pa nthawi zovuta izi komanso zomwe simukuziganizirabe kubwerera pamodzi ndi iwo. Ganizirani za inu nokha ndikukumbukira, zabwino zokha zakusungirani. Yakwana nthawi yoti mupeze kutseka ndikuyang'ana zomwe zili zabwino kwa inu pakapita nthawi. Nthawi zovuta izi sizikhalitsa. Bonobology ili ndi chikhulupiriro chonse mwa inu… Pitirizani kubweranso kwa ife kuti mudzamve zambiri za chikondi, maubwenzi, komanso zabwino, kukuthandizani kuthana ndi zovuta zina zilizonse zomwe mungakhale mukukumana nazo!

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