Lingaliro logawana malo okhala ndi mnzanu lingakhale losangalatsa komanso losokoneza mitsempha nthawi imodzi. Ndipotu, si sitepe yaikulu mu ubale wanu komanso mutu watsopano wa moyo wanu. Kuti muwonetsetse kuti mutuwu ukuyenda bwino, muyenera kusaka mndandanda wazolowera. Ndipo osati mndandanda uliwonse. Mndandanda wotsimikiziridwa ndi katswiri!
Muyeneranso kuyankha mafunso akuluakulu monga: N’chifukwa chiyani mukufuna kusamukira kumudzi kwanu? Kodi nthawi yosamukira kumudzi ndi yotani? Ndipo mungakonzekere bwanji kusintha kumeneku? Kafukufuku waposachedwapa adatchula zizolowezi zogulira ndalama, chisokonezo, komanso kugawa ntchito zapakhomo mosayenera pakati pa mfundo zazikulu zomwe zimakangana pakati pa okwatirana omwe akukhala limodzi. Nkhani zoterezi zitha kupewedwa mwa kuganiza bwino komanso kukonzekera bwino.
Pofuna kukuthandizani pankhaniyi, tinafunsa mphunzitsi wa thanzi la maganizo ndi kusamala Pooja Priyamvada (wovomerezedwa mu Psychological and Mental Health First Aid kuchokera ku Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health ndi University of Sydney), yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu pa nkhani monga zibwenzi zakunja kwa ukwati, kusudzulana, kupatukana, chisoni, ndi imfa. Amafunsa mafunso ofunikira, amalangiza zinthu zoti muganizire, komanso amagawana malangizo oti musamukire limodzi ndi mnzanu.
Kodi Mwakonzeka Kusamukira Limodzi?
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Kukhalira limodzi kwakhala chizolowezi mu maubwenzi okhalitsa masiku ano. Ambiri mwa maanja amakonda kukhalira limodzi poyamba, ndiyeno, kuwona komwe ubalewo umatsogolera, m'malo momanga mfundo nthawi yomweyo. Koma kusamukira mwamsanga kungawononge ubwenzi. Kuthamangira mu lingaliro ili ndipo litha kukhala tsoka.
Ngakhale muyenera kusamala ndi nthawi yoti mukwatirane pa chisankhochi, n'zovuta kudziwa nthawi yomwe muyenera kukhala pachibwenzi musanayambe kukwatirana. Ndiye, kodi nthawi yoti mukwatirane ndi yotani? Kutengera ndi kafukufuku wa Stanford University komanso kafukufuku wotchuka , ambiri mwa okwatirana amasankha kukwatirana mkati mwa chaka chimodzi kuchokera pamene chibwenzi chachitika.
Ngakhale kuti zomwe zapezeka mu kafukufukuyu zikusonyeza kuti kukhalira limodzi patatha zaka ziwiri kapena kuposerapo sikunali kofala, kafukufuku wina adapeza kuti kukhutira ndi ubale kunali kwakukulu mwa maanja omwe adasamuka pamodzi patatha zaka 1-3 ali pachibwenzi. Kodi mwasokonezeka? Musatero! Palibe chifukwa choti mutsatire nthawi yoikidwiratu. Palibe nthawi yabwino yoti muchitepo kanthu. Chofunika ndichakuti, kodi mwakonzeka? Kudzifufuza moona mtima pazifukwa zanu kuyenera kukupatsani yankho lanu.
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Zizindikiro kuti mwakonzeka kusamukira ndi mnzanu
Pooja akuti, "Mukudziwa kuti mukufuna kukakhala ndi munthu wina mukafuna kuti chibwenzicho chifike pamlingo wina." Koma kodi munthu angatsimikize bwanji? Ananenanso kuti: "Onse awiriwo ayenera kuti adafika pachibwenzi pomwe atha kudzisamalira okha koma amamva kufunika kokhazikika komanso kufuna kukhala limodzi." Nazi zizindikiro zinanso zosonyeza kuti mwakonzeka kuchitapo kanthu:
- Mukuyang'ana kukula kwa ubale ndipo mukufuna kudziwana bwino
- Inu tsopano mukudziwa momwe kumenyana ndi kupanga ndi mnzanuyo
- Mumamasuka wina ndi mnzake pazachuma chanu ndi zolinga zanu zamtsogolo
- Muli ndi moyo wofanana ndi zomwe mumakonda
- Mwayenda limodzi maulendo angapo
Kuti mudziwe nthawi yoyenera yokhalira limodzi, Pooja akulangizani mafunso angapo oyenera omwe muyenera kudzifunsa kuti muwone ngati kukhala ndi mnzanu kungakhale kusuntha koyenera kwa inu ndikuchotsa chilakolako chofuna kukhala limodzi ndi mnzanuyo msanga :
- Kodi mwakonzeka kutengera chiyanjano kumlingo wina?
- Kodi mwakonzeka kudzipereka kwambiri kuposa kungocheza ndi munthu?
- Kodi mumatha kuchita mbali zonse za moyo wanu panokha?
- Kodi ndinu odziyimira pawokha pazachuma?
- Mukuona ngati mnzako ndi ameneyo?
Ngati simukutsimikiza ngati muli ndi malo m'moyo wanu komanso ubale wanu momwe mungatengere sitepe yotsatirayi, ganizirani zifukwa zanu zopangira chisankho ichi. Kapena funsani mafunso osunthira limodzi omwe takupangirani makamaka!
Zoyenera Kukambirana Musanasamukire Limodzi
Zimenezi zikutifikitsa pa vuto lina lalikulu limene mabanja ambiri amakumana nalo akamaganizira zokhalira limodzi. Chifukwa chiyani ndi chiyani za izo zonse. Mumadziwa bwanji ngati zifukwa zanu zosamuka zili zolondola? Ndipo mumapanga bwanji kusinthaku kukhala kosavuta momwe mungathere? Mofanana ndi zinthu zambiri, yankho lagona pa kulankhulana momveka bwino komanso moona mtima.
Pooja akuumirira kuti, "Osamangoganizira za izi, khalani pansi ndikukambirana ndi wokondedwa wanu. Lankhulani ndi kukambirana. Gwiritsani ntchito cholembera ndi pepala ngati mukuyenera." Nazi zina zomwe muyenera kukambirana musanasamukire limodzi kuti mudziwe momwe mwakonzekera:
1. Chifukwa chiyani mukufuna kusamukira limodzi?
Zifukwa zolowera m'makonzedwe okhalira limodzi zitha kukhala zosiyana kuchokera kwa okwatirana. Ena amatero chifukwa chooneka ngati dongosolo lachibadwa la kupita patsogolo, njira yopita ku ukwati. Ena chifukwa chokondana kwambiri ndipo ena akadali pazifukwa zenizeni, mwachitsanzo, kuti asunge ndalama kapena mapindu ena azachuma. Pamene inu ndi wokondedwa wanu mukukambirana zokhalira limodzi, kambiranani chifukwa chake mukufuna kutero, ndikuwona ngati zifukwa zanu zopangira chisankhochi zikugwirizana.
Kodi mukufuna kuyesa ubale wanu ndikuwona momwe mukugwirizana? Kodi nonse mukufunitsitsa kuchitapo kanthu? Kodi mukufuna kumudziwa bwino wokondedwa wanu? Pooja anati, “Kukumana ndi munthu m’malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kapena kutchuthi kwakanthawi n’kosiyana.
Ngakhale zifukwa zanu zitakhala zofanana, sizikutanthauza kuti ndi chifukwa chabwino chokhalira ndi mnzanu. Nthawi zina anthu amasamukira limodzi kuti asunge ndalama zogulira lendi komanso kugawana ndalama . Akatswiri amati kukhala ndi chikhumbo chachuma chokha chokhala ndi mnzanu si lingaliro labwino. Zifukwa zanu ziyenera kukhazikika pa kudzipereka, chikondi ndi chiyembekezo chamtsogolo.
2. Kambiranani za ndalama
Ndalama si nkhani yongofuna kuiganizira kwambiri koma ndi njira yonse yopezera phindu. Ndi nkhani yovuta komanso yovuta mosasamala kanthu za ubale wamtundu wanji. Koma ngati mukufuna kuyika miyoyo yanu pamodzi, muyenera kukambirana nkhaniyi. Onse awiri ayenera kukhala omasuka komanso owonekera bwino panthawi yokambirana za ndalama kuti apewe mavuto azachuma mtsogolo. Izi ndi zoona pa kusamuka kokha, komanso mkhalidwe wanthawi yayitali. Ngati mukusamukira ndi mnzanu, pakhoza kukhala ndalama zambiri zosamuka ndipo ndikofunikira kuti nonse mudziwe za mavuto azachuma omwe angayambitse.
Lankhulani za momwe mulili pazachuma. Kambiranani za ngongole ndi katundu. Mwachitsanzo, kodi muli ndi ngongole, ngongole za kirediti kadi, kapena udindo wosamalira banja lanu? Kupanda kuwonekera pazachuma kumatha kubzala mbewu zakusakhulupirirana muubwenzi, makamaka mukakhala pansi pa denga limodzi. Ndikofunikiranso kukambirana momwe mukufuna kugwiritsa ntchito ndikusunga ndalama ngati banja.
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3. Kambiranani zomwe mumakonda pa ntchito zapakhomo ndi maudindo
Pakafukufuku amene tawatchula poyamba paja, ntchito zapakhomo n’zofala kwambiri pa nkhani za mikangano ya mabanja amene ankakhala m’nyumba imodzi. Ubwenzi wathu ndi ntchito zapakhomo kaŵirikaŵiri umakhala wolemetsedwa ndi zoopsa zaubwana. Munthu amene wawona amayi ake ataikidwa m’ntchito zapakhomo angakhale wosamala ponena za kugaŵira ntchito mofananamo.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake muyenera kusunga zoyembekeza kukhala zenizeni komanso kukambirana nkhaniyo momvera chisoni komanso ndi malingaliro othetsa mavuto. Mwachitsanzo, mnzanu yemwe ali wophika kwambiri sayenera kukhala ndi udindo wopanga chakudya cham'mawa kapena chamadzulo. Ndiye kodi amakonda kuchapa mbale kapena kuchapa? Kudziwa yemwe amakonda kuchita zomwe zingatsimikizire moyo wopanda mikangano ndi kukangana.
4. Kambiranani za mbiri ya wina ndi mnzake
Ndikofunikira kuti mukambirane moona mtima za ubale wanu wakale komanso chifukwa chake zinthu sizinayende bwino. Izi zimakhala zofunika kwambiri ngati aliyense wa inu adakhalapo ndi munthu wakale. Kuthetsa mavutowa kumathandiza kuonetsetsa kuti simukunyamula katundu wamaganizo wakale m'tsogolo mwanu. Kuchotsa ngati ndi zolakwika ndi kukayikira konse ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti kusinthaku kukhale kosalala komanso kopindulitsa.
5. Kodi mukuyembekezera zotani kuchokera muubwenzi?
Kodi mumadziona kuti nokha ndi bwenzi lanu zaka zisanu pansi pa mzere? Ndipo kodi iwo? Kodi kukhala ndi mnzako ndi njira yolowera m'banja? Kodi mukufuna kukhala ndi ana? Ngati inde, ndiye liti ndipo chifukwa chiyani mukufuna kukhala ndi ana? Izi ndi zochepa chabe mwazinthu zambiri zoti mukambirane kuti mupewe zodabwitsa zilizonse zosasangalatsa m'tsogolomu.
Zoyembekeza zina zanthawi yayitali zitha kukhala zophweka monga momwe mulili pachibwenzi. Pooja akuti, "Kulankhula za momwe mumadziwonera nokha ngati okwatirana komanso momwe mumafunira kuwonedwa kumathandizira nonse kukhala pamasamba amodzi." Osasiya malo oti achite zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa kwa mnzanu.
6. Gawani zofooka ndi zinsinsi, ngati zilipo
Mukakhala pachibwenzi, zimakhala zosavuta kukhala nokha wabwino kwambiri nthawi zonse mukakhala ndi mnzanu. Kukhala limodzi ndi masewera osiyana kwambiri. Pamenepo ndi pomwe nonse mumawona munthu 'weniweni' amene muli naye ndipo mutha kuwona momwe moyo wabanja ungakhalire.
Izi zikutanthauzanso kuti kubisa zolakwa zilizonse, zinsinsi, kapena zofooka zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Kungakhale kulimbana ndi chizolowezi kapena kuwopa akangaude, zidzadziwika kwa mnzanuyo pamapeto pake mukakhala pansi pa denga lomwelo. Bwanji osayang'ana mbali zomwe sizili zabwino kwambiri pamoyo wanu musanapange kusamuka kwakukulu ndikupewa zomwe zingakuchitikireni?
7. Bwanji ngati sizikuyenda?
Ndizothekadi. Vomerezani, nkhaniyi ikukukhudzani kwambiri mukamaganiza zosintha kwambiri moyo wanu. Ndipo sikophweka kuthetsa chibwenzi ndi munthu amene mumakhala naye . Ndiye, bwanji osangolankhula za izi ngati akuluakulu awiri okhwima? Kukambirana kumeneku kungawoneke ngati kosagwirizana ndi momwe mukumvera panopa koma timvereni. Kungakuthandizeni kuchotsa mantha ambiri ndi kukayikira komwe simukukambirana nako mwadala. Ganizirani:
- Ndani adzakhala ndipo ndani angachoke ngati mutasiyana?
- Kodi mungagawane bwanji zinthu?
- Kodi ndalama ndi katundu muzigwiritsa ntchito bwanji pamenepa?
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Pooja akuti, “Mwachidule, okwatirana onse ayenera kukhala otsimikiza za chisankhochi. Mukangokambirana ngati mwakonzeka kusamukira limodzi kapena ayi, pamabwera ntchito yochitadi. Kumaliza ma nitty-gritty a dongosolo lanu lokhalira limodzi kungakhale njira yovuta payokha.
Mndandanda womalizawu udzakuthandizani kukonzekera, kukonzekera, ndi kukwaniritsa kusamuka, zomwe zingathandize kuti zinthu zikuyendereni bwino komanso kuti musangalale ndi sitepe yofunika kwambiri yomwe mukuchita.
1. Malizani nyumba yanu yoyamba ndi chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi chanu
Choyamba, muyenera kumaliza nyumba yanu yoyamba ndi chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi chanu. Kukhala pamodzi kungayambe ndi zosankha zambiri zosangalatsa. Kambiranani za komwe nonse mungafune kukakhala - kumalo ena akale kapena kukumba kwatsopano.
Muyenera kukambirana za bajeti ndi malo, zonse zomwe zingadalire mtundu ndi malo a ntchito yanu. Kodi mungasinthe bwanji zinthu zanu? Kodi mungafune zosuntha? Muyenera kulankhula za kukula kwa malo atsopano, chiwerengero cha zipinda, zokonda zopangira zolimba, kugawanika kwa malo osungiramo zinthu, cholinga ndi kugwiritsa ntchito malo okhalamo, ndi zina zotero. Onani ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi mgwirizano wogwirizana mwalamulo.
- Kodi mgwirizano wa cohabitation ndi chiyani: Ndilo pangano losavomerezeka mwalamulo la anthu amene sali pabanja amene amakhala pamodzi. Mgwirizanowu umathandizira kuteteza ufulu wa mnzawoyo ngati dongosolo lawo litasokonekera mtsogolomo. Zimathandizanso pakufunsira ngongole yanyumba kapena kupeza chithandizo cha ana
2. Gwirizanani za kugawa mabilu
Chifukwa chake, mwadutsa kale pazokambirana zandalama. Ino ndi nthawi yoti mumve zambiri. Ganizirani momwe mungagawire ndalama. Mufunika dongosolo konkire masewera. Yankhani mafunso awa musanasaine lendi kapena muyambe kulongedza mabokosi anu:
- Kodi muyenera kukhala ndi akaunti yoyang'anira yolumikizana kuti mugwiritse ntchito ndalama?
- Kodi mungasamalire bwanji pogula golosale kapena mabilu ena apakhomo?
- Kodi mungagawane bwanji renti? Zikhala theka ndi theka kapena kutengera zomwe munthu amapeza?
- Nanga bwanji zothandiza?
3. Khazikitsani malamulo oyendetsera alendo
Alendo nthawi zambiri amakhala fupa la mikangano muubwenzi wokhala pamodzi. Inu ndi mnzanuyo muyenera kukhala ndi moyo wanu wocheza. Izi zingaphatikizepo kuchereza anthu kapena kukhala ndi alendo m'nyumba nthawi ndi nthawi, zomwe zingayambitse mkangano ndi kusasangalala ngati nonse simukugwirizana. Koma kulankhulana momasuka kungakuthandizeni kukhazikitsa malire okhudza banja ndi alendo. Ndikofunikira kukambirana izi:
- Kodi mumamva bwanji za alendo komanso ochereza?
- Kodi mumakonda kusangalatsa kangati?
- Kodi mnzako amene akusowa thandizo angagwere pabedi panu mpaka liti?
- Ndani angasunthire zinthu zawo alendo akafuna malo owonjezera?
4. Lankhulani za kukhudzika kwa moyo wanu wogonana
Masiku oyambirira a ubale uliwonse amatanthauzidwa ndi gawo loti simungasungane. Koma nthawi ya ukwati idzatha pakapita nthawi ndipo mphamvu zanu zimasintha kwambiri mukayamba kukhala limodzi. Kukhazikika ndi kamvekedwe ka moyo wokhazikika zidzapangitsa kuti chilakolako chizime pang'ono koma musapange cholakwika chachikulu cholola chilakolakocho kuzimitsidwa kwathunthu.
Kambiranani za izo kuti muwone momwe nonse mukumvera pa izi. Choyamba, momwe inu ndi mnzanuyo mumachitira kungakhale kuyesa ngati mukukhala ndi chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi posachedwa. Chachiwiri, mutha kukonzekera kuthana ndi izi podzipereka kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yabwino ndi wina ndi mnzake.
Pooja akuwonjezera kuti, “Ngakhale nkhani monga kulera zimayenera kukambidwa mwanjira ina. Onani uwu ngati mwayi wokambirana zolinga zanu zaubereki. Malangizo awa osamukira limodzi, mwanjira ina, ndi malangizo owongolera ubale wanu!
5. Ndi nthawi yochuluka bwanji yovomerezeka yowonetsera?
Chinanso chothandizira kuonetsetsa kuti nthawi yabwino ndi mnzanuyo sichikugunda mukangoyamba kukhalira limodzi ndikukambirana za nthawi yowonekera. Kuyang'ana mopanda kanthu pa laputopu ndi zowonera pa TV kwangokhala gawo la umunthu wathu. Anthu ambiri sadziwa n’komwe kuti chizoloŵezichi chikachuluka.
Komabe, izi zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri muubwenzi. Kubisa mitu yathu pafoni zathu, komanso kugwiritsa ntchito malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kumakhudza maubwenzi athu . Mphindi iliyonse yomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito poyang'ana pazenera ikudya nthawi yanu limodzi. Chifukwa chake, ndikofunikira kukhazikitsa malire oyenerana pa nthawi yowonera pazenera pasadakhale.
6. Madyedwe ayenera kukhala pa mndandanda wanu
Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mwagona pa malo a wina ndi mnzake nthawi zambiri, ndikofunikira kukambirana za kadyedwe ndikugwirizanitsa momwe mungathere. Izi zipangitsa kukhala kwanu kukhala kosavuta komanso kopanda zovuta. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muyenera kudya chakudya chomwecho mutatha kudya, tsiku ndi tsiku. Koma ndi bwino kudziwana zomwe amakonda.
Kukambiranaku kumakhala kofunikira kwambiri ngati madyedwe anu akusiyana kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, ngati bwenzi m'modzi ndi wamasamba ndipo winayo ndi wosadya zamasamba. Zikatero, muyenera kuphunzira kukhazikitsa mtendere ndi zomwe wina aliyense amakonda.
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7. Nanga bwanji nthawi yanga?
Kukhala pamodzi sikutanthauza kukhala olumikizana m'chiuno nthawi zonse. Nonse mudzafunika malo anu komanso nthawi kuti mupume kamodzi pakanthawi kapena kuti mupumule mutatha tsiku lovuta kwambiri. Yankhani kuchuluka kwa nthawi yomwe mukufuna kukhala nokha mukamakhalira limodzi ndi bwenzi lanu ndikupanga mpata, zonse zenizeni komanso mophiphiritsira.
Mukakonza nyumba yanu yoyamba ndi chibwenzi chanu, ikani chipinda kapena ngodya ngati malo anuanu omwe mungadzisungire nokha mukafuna nthawi yopuma, ndipo onetsetsani kuti palibe mkwiyo kapena mkwiyo chifukwa cha kufunikira kwa malo. Zimenezi zingachitike pokhapokha mutavomereza kuti malo si chizindikiro choipa muubwenzi koma chofunikira kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino.
8. Konzani mndandanda wa zinthu zofunika m'nyumba zoyamba
Kusankha kukhalira limodzi kumatanthauza kuti mukhazikitsa nyumba yatsopano ndi mnzanuyo. Chifukwa chake, chitani homuweki yanu pazofunikira zanyumba zoyamba za maanja ndikukonzekera mndandanda wa zonse zomwe mudzafune. Kuyambira mipando mpaka matiresi, makatani, nsalu, zoyeretsera, ziwiya ndi zofunikira zakukhitchini, zida, zida zothandizira choyamba, ndi zinthu zokongoletsera. Onetsetsani kuti nonse muli okhudzidwa posankha zomwe zikufunika, ndikugula limodzi.
9. Onani zomwe mukufuna kusunga ndikutaya
Nyumba yatsopanoyi yomwe mukukhazikitsa ndi ena anu ofunikira idzakhala ndi 'ife' ambiri, komanso iyenera kukhala ndi 'inu' ndi 'Ine'. Pamene mukusankha zinthu zoti mugule mukachoka pamalo anu, ganiziraninso zinthu zomwe mukufuna kusunga. Tonse tili ndi zinthu zomwe timazikonda. Zitha kukhala chilichonse kuchokera ku bulangeti lomwe mumakonda mpaka pampando wabwino. Koma sankhani zimenezi mwanzeru. Kumbukirani kuti malo anu atsopano akuyenera kukhala ndi malo osungira zinthu za mnzanu komanso zinthu zonse zatsopano zomwe mukugula.
10. Gawani malo osungira
Musanasamukire m'nyumba yanu yoyamba ndi chibwenzi chanu, gawani malo osungiramo zinthu mwachilungamo. Akazi nthawi zambiri amafunika malo ochulukirapo kuti akwane m'zinthu zawo. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti mwamunayo amasiyidwa ndi kabati kakang'ono m'bokosi lomwe limasungidwa m'chipinda chochezera. Kusaganizira koteroko, ngakhale kukuwoneka kochepa, kumasonyeza kusalungama pa nkhani zazikulu ndipo kungayambitse mkwiyo muubwenzi mtsogolo.
11. Kukongoletsa nyumba yoyamba ndi chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi
Mukatenga malangizo onse ofunikira ndikuyika maziko pamakhala gawo losangalatsa. Kukongoletsa nyumba yoyamba ndi chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi. Mukufuna kuchita bwanji?
Kodi mawonekedwe a nyumba yanu yatsopano adzakhala otani? Ozizira komanso osavuta? Kapena okongola komanso apamwamba? Kodi mungakonde mtundu wanji pakhoma? Nanga bwanji makatani ndi makapeti? Kodi makapu a khofi ndi magalasi a vinyo a mtundu wanji? Pali malo ambiri osewerera pano. Ndi gawo losangalatsa komanso losangalatsa kwambiri losinthasintha ndi mnzanu. Tikukhulupirira kuti mudzasangalala nalo ndikupanga zokumbukira zambiri.
12. Lembani ndandanda yanu
Poganizira kuti pali zinthu zambiri zofunika kuziganizira komanso zosankha zambiri zoti musankhe posamukira limodzi, zimathandiza kulemba zonse zomwe mwakambirana komanso zomwe mudagwirizana. Ngakhale simukufuna kukhala ndi mgwirizano walamulo wokhalira limodzi mwalamulo, mafotokozedwe ochulukirapo a zachuma ndi malamulo ofunikira omwe mungatchule atha kukhala othandiza panthawi yakusamvana.
Zoonadi, mphamvu za ubale wanu ndi kamvekedwe ka moyo pamodzi zidzasintha pamene mukukula monga munthu payekha komanso ngati banja. Choncho, ndandanda yolembedwayi siyenera kuyikidwa pamwala. Koma ikhoza kukhala ngati malo ofotokozera m'masiku oyambirirawo pamene mukuphunzira zingwe zogawana nyumba.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Kuwunika moona mtima zifukwa zanu zokhalira ndi mnzanu kuyenera kukuthandizani kusankha ngati kuli lingaliro labwino kwa inu
- Musanasamukire, kambiranani za chuma chanu, kambiranani zomwe mumakonda pa ntchito zapakhomo, fotokozerani zovuta zomwe munakumana nazo m'mbuyomu komanso zovuta zina zamalingaliro, zomwe mukuyembekezera kuchokera pachibwenzi.
- Kambiranani ndi bwenzi lanu ndikudzikonzekeretsa ngati chibwenzicho sichikuyenda bwino
- Pa sitepe yeniyeni, muyenera kutsiriza malo omwe mudzasunthira kutengera zomwe mukufuna. Muyenera kugawaniza mabilu, ntchito zapakhomo ndi zina
- Ikani zoyembekeza zanu ndi malire. Ganizirani alendo apanyumba, nthawi yowonekera, malo anu, ubale ndi zina
Izi ziyenera kukupatsani inu kusintha tsamba latsopano mu ubale wanu ndi moyo wanu. Zosankha zingapo mosamala ndizo zonse zomwe zimafunika kuti zikhazikike.
Nkhaniyi yasinthidwa mu Okutobala 2022.
Ibibazo
Kutengera ndi kafukufuku wa ku Stanford University komanso kafukufuku wotchuka , ambiri mwa okwatirana amasankha kukhala limodzi mkati mwa chaka chimodzi kuchokera pamene chibwenzi chawo chinayamba. Zomwe zapezekazi zikusonyezanso kuti kukhala limodzi patatha zaka ziwiri kapena kuposerapo sikuchitika kawirikawiri.
Ndi zachilendo kukayikira musanasamukire ndi chibwenzi / bwenzi lanu chifukwa ndi sitepe yaikulu mukuchita mu ubwenzi wanu ndipo simungatsimikize mmene poto kunja.
Ndizovuta kunena kuti muyenera kukhala pachibwenzi nthawi yayitali bwanji musanasamukire limodzi. Mabanja ena akhoza kukhala okonzeka kusamukira limodzi pambuyo pa miyezi 6 ali pachibwenzi, pamene ena akhoza kudikira kwa chaka chimodzi asanapange chisankho.
Malangizo abwino kwambiri ndikufunsa mafunso ofunika kwambiri chifukwa chake mukufuna kukhala pansi pa denga lomwelo. Mukayankha mogwira mtima, jambulani mndandanda wa zibwenzi kapena chibwenzi.
Kodi Kukhala Limodzi Musanakwatirane Kumatanthauza Kuti Mwakonzekera Ukwati?
Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
