Njira 15 Zomwe Munthu Amamva Akazindikira Kuti Mwamutsekereza

"Kodi adzachita bwanji akazindikira kuti mwamutsekereza?" Liwu laling'ono lomwe lili m'mutu mwanu silingasiye kukuvutitsani ndi funso ili. Titha kuganiza kuti sikunali kophweka kuletsa munthu yemwe poyamba ankatanthauza dziko kwa inu. Koma zikuwoneka ngati mwapanga chisankho cholimba kuti musamawonekere, osaganiza. Munkaganiza kuti kutsekereza ex wanuyo kumamuchotsa m’mutu mwanu. 

Ndiye n’cifukwa ciani mtima wanu ukugunda, mukudela nkhawa za mmene angacitile? Mwina gawo lodetsa nkhawali ndiloti "Bwanji ndikamutsekereza pachilichonse ndipo abwerere akadali?" Talembapo zochitika zingapo zomwe zidakupangitsani kuti mumulepheretse.

• Mukufuna kusalumikizana kwathunthu kuti zikuthandizeni kupitiliza 
• Mwamaliza kuyesa kukonza mavutowo ndikumuletsa kuti asakhumudwe
• Mukufuna kuti akuthamangitseni ndikuwona kufunika kwanu
• Mukumusowa kwambiri mutatha kutha

Ngati nkhani yanu ikugwirizana ndi iliyonse mwa izi, takubweretserani mayankho omwe mungakhale mukuwafuna.

Kodi Munthu Angadziwe Kuti Watsekedwa?

Mukaletsa munthu pa WhatsApp, Facebook, kapena Instagram, sadzalandira zidziwitso zilizonse kuti mitima yawo isweka nthawi yomweyo. Koma ngati munthuyu akukusunganibe ndikuyang'ana mbiri yanu pafupipafupi, posachedwa adzazindikira kuti mwawaletsa. 

Bwanji? Choyamba, akakufufuzani pa Facebook kapena Instagram, mbiri yanu sidzawonekera. Messenger amakuuzani momveka bwino chifukwa ngati atsegula macheza anu, adzalandira uthenga monga - 'Simungayankhe macheza awa'. Ndipo WhatsApp sipereka mauthenga anu kwa munthu amene anakuletsani. Chifukwa chake, ayi, sadzadziwa za kuletsa nthawi yomweyo, koma ngati atchera khutu kwambiri, sizidzabisika kwa nthawi yayitali. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukudabwa kuti, "Ndinamuletsa pa WhatsApp ndipo anandiletsanso masiku angapo pambuyo pake. Chifukwa chiyani?," mwina adazindikira kuletsa masiku angapo pambuyo pake.

Zomwe Amaganiza Kwenikweni Akazindikira Kuti Munamutchinga 

Kafukufuku wina wasonyeza kuti kulankhulana ndi mnzanu wakale kudzera pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti kungakhudze njira yanu yochiritsira komanso kukula kwanu mutatha kusudzulana. Chifukwa chake, choyamba, ndikukuthokozani chifukwa cha sitepe yayikulu iyi yopita ku kuchira mwamtendere, popanda zosokoneza zambiri. Anthu angakutcheni kuti ndinu mfumukazi ya sewero la sekondale, koma ngati mukuona kuti kunali kofunikira kuti mupitirize tsogolo lanu, pitirizani kusankha kwanu.

Ngakhale ndikuona kusintha pang'ono mu nkhaniyi chifukwa chakuti mukudabwa kwambiri ndi momwe adayankhira mutamuletsa. Ndikudziwa chifukwa inenso ndakhala mu mkhalidwe wanu. Ndinaletsapo wakale wanga panthawi yomwe sitinalumikizane ndi munthu wina, ndikuyembekeza kuti ndimukope chidwi chake ndikukonza ubalewo. "Kodi kuletsa mwamuna kumamupangitsa kuti akusoweni? Kodi angayese kundilankhula ndi ine nditamuletsa popanda chenjezo?" - timaganiza mofanana, sichoncho?

Ndiye, mnyamata amamva bwanji mukamutsekereza? Tapanga mndandanda wazomwe mungamve, kutengera momwe mulili.

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1. Akhoza kumva kuti watayika 

Kodi chibwenzi chanu chinali chodzidalira kwambiri moti sichinazindikire mavuto anu? Ndipotu, ndi khalidwe lachimuna losadziwa chomwe chalakwitsa. Zikatero, kuletsa kumeneku kungamudabwitse ndikusokoneza mutu wake kwambiri. Kumbali ina, ngati anali chibwenzi chosamala kwambiri ndipo anali ndi chikondi chachikulu pa inu , koma mwaganiza zothetsa chibwenzicho kapena kumukwiyira pazifukwa zina, zingayambitse mantha ambiri akazindikira kuti mwamuletsa. Sangathe kuganiza bwino.

2. Zidzaswa mtima wake

Tiyeni timve kuchokera kwa wowerenga wathu, Dave, yemwe posachedwapa wakhala akulandira filimu, "Nthawi zonse ndinkaganiza kuti Troy ndiye wokondedwa wa moyo wanga, koma zikuoneka kuti tsogolo langa linali lotikonzeratu." Masabata awiri apitawo tinasiyana pazovuta zina, komabe sindinasiye. Ndinkaganiza kuti tikhoza kuyesetsabe kuti zitheke.

3. Akhoza kumasuka kuti zatha

Kodi ubale wanu unali kusokonekera tsiku lililonse? Ndiye palibe amene amadziwa bwino kuposa inu momwe zimakhalira zovuta m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo. Sabata ina nonse mumakhala okongola komanso okondana, ndipo lotsatira, mukumenyana ngati banja lakale. Komabe, palibe amene angakane. Munachitira nonse awiri zabwino mwa kumuletsa.

4. Ngati ali pachibwenzi kale ndi munthu wina, sangakhumudwe, kapena sangachitepo kanthu.

Kodi andisowa ngati nditamuletsa? Pepani kuti ndife chizindikiro cha nkhani zoipa, koma ngati wasamuka popanda kukuganizirani, yankho lake ndi ayi. Ali ndi wina tsopano, akusangalala. N’chifukwa chiyani angaike moyo wake pachiswe pokulola kuti mulowe pakati pa iye ndi mnzanu watsopano? Ngati mwamuna wanu sali pamalo omwewo m’moyo wanu, kumuletsa sikungamupangitse kusiyana kwakukulu. Mukuwononga nthawi yanu kuyesa kubweza chibwenzi chanu chakale . Ngakhale atakhala kuti akumva chisoni nazo, zidzakhala zakanthawi ndipo posachedwa adzasamuka.

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5. Adzakonzekera kusuntha kwina kuti akope chidwi chanu

Mukuganiza kuti munamutchinga ndiye zonse zatha. Simukudziwa, kwa iye, masewerawa adayamba! Kukanidwa sikumagwirizana bwino ndi kudzikuza kwake kwakukulu. Ndi m'malo zovuta kuti iye sangakhoze kutaya. Ngakhale ngati nthawi ina mumayembekezera "Kodi angayese kundilumikiza nditamuletsa popanda chenjezo?", Zitha kukhala zabwino kwambiri. Zikuwoneka kuti master plan yanu ikhala yopambana ngati akuthamangitsani ndi zomwe mumafuna. 

Mnzanga wina adalemba nyimbo yachikondi kwa ex wake ndipo anayiimba paphwando pomwe onse analipo. Zimenezo zingakhale zovuta kukana kwa aliyense, eti? 

6. Angayesere kukufunsani 

Nthawi zina yankho la "Kodi andisowa ndikamuletsa?" ndi "Inde, kwambiri." Kumuletsa sikungamulepheretse kuyesa kukulumikizani—kungamupangitse kukhala wotsimikiza mtima kwambiri. Ngati akumva kuti ali ndi ntchito yosatha kapena ngati akufunafuna njira yoti atseke , angayesetse kulumikizana nanu. Yembekezerani kuyesa kudzera m'manambala ena, maimelo, kapena mabwenzi ogwirizana. Chani, ndaona anthu ofunitsitsa kwambiri kotero kuti amatumiza mauthenga pa mapulogalamu monga Google Pay!

7. Angathe kulenga chowonekera

Chochita choyamba ataona kuti mwamutsekereza chikhoza kukhala mkwiyo wosalamulirika komanso kubwezera. Sikuti aliyense ali ndi kukhwima maganizo kuti 'ayi' kuti ayankhe. Akhoza kufika pamlingo uliwonse kukuvutitsani monga mmene iye wavutikira. Kudutsa muofesi yanu ndikupanga zochitika zowononga mbiri yanu, kumenyana nanu m'misewu, kuyitana anzanu ndi abale anu kuti mukambirane za inu nokha. Kungoyang'ana, khalani okonzekera zachibwanawe.

8. Yembekezerani kusokoneza maganizo kwina komwe kukubwera

Ngati munkachita chibwenzi ndi munthu wodzikonda kapena wakale wanu anali ndi chizolowezi chofuna kukunyengererani, yembekezerani kuti abwererenso ndikukutsimikizirani chifukwa chake muyenera kukhala naye mpaka mutalola. Koma mukangobwererana, adzabwerera ku zomwezo ndipo adzakuvutitsani maganizo.

Blackmailing ndiye chinyengo chakale kwambiri m'buku lobwezera. Akhoza kukuwopsezani kuti adzataya zambiri za inu zomwe zili ndi mphamvu zoyika ntchito yanu, chitetezo chanu, kapena ulemu wa banja lanu pachiwopsezo.

Pa milandu yotereyi yokana, zolaula zobwezera ndi mitundu ina yosiyanasiyana ya upandu wa pa intaneti ndizofala kwambiri, ngakhale pakati pa achinyamata. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wina , akuluakulu 572 omwe adafunsidwa adati anali ndi zaka 17 kapena kuchepera pamene adakumana ndi kuzunzidwa, pomwe akuluakulu 813 omwe adafunsidwa adati anali pakati pa zaka 18 ndi 25.

Atatu mwa anthu asanu omwe adazunzidwa (59%) adadziwa wolakwirayo m'moyo weniweni zisanachitike chifukwa nthawi zambiri zimakhudzana ndi chibwenzi chenicheni. Ngati izi zikukukhudzani, chonde funsani aboma ndipo funsani thandizo lazamalamulo mwachangu. 

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9. Kutsekeredwa kungachititse nsanje 

Mollie, wazaka 24 wa ku San Jose, yemwe amagwira ntchito yosunga mabuku ku San Jose, anati: “Miyezi yambiri titasiyana, ndinamutsekera pa WhatsApp ndipo ananditsekera pasanathe tsiku limodzi. Nazi zomwe zinachitika. Mollie anali atabwereranso pachibwenzi pambuyo pa miyezi yonseyo ndipo adawona kuti ndibwino kuti atseke Nathan ndikuyamba mutu watsopano osamuvutitsa. 

Kumbali ina, Nathan anadziwa za chibwenzi chake ndipo sanathe kuletsa koma anamva kuti ndi wokonda kwambiri chibwenzi chake. Nkhani yonseyi inachokera pa nkhani ya ndale zogonana. Anali ndi chidwi chofuna kumuwonetsa kuti wasintha moyo wake ndipo analowa mu chibwenzi chobwerera m'mbuyo chifukwa cha kulakalaka.

10. Mungalandire kupepesa koona kuchokera kwa iye

Chabwino, kudandaula kokwanira ndi malingaliro olakwika. Tiyeni tiyang'ane pa zabwino ndikuwona zabwino zomwe zingatuluke muzochitika zotsekereza izi. Ngati ali ndi malingaliro osathetsedwa kwa inu, kutsekereza kumatha kugwira ntchito ngati chotsegulira maso kuti aone zomwe zalakwika muubwenzi wanu. Mwina akumva chisoni chenicheni chifukwa chokuchitirani zinthu zopanda chilungamo komanso zamwano ndipo akakupepesa nthawi ino, anganene kuti ndi wolakwa. 

11. Angapemphe chiyanjanitso

Pokhapokha mukamazindikira kuti mwataya wokondedwa wanu kwamuyaya, mumayamba kuzindikira kufunika kwake m'moyo wanu. Kumuletsa kungamupangitse kuzindikira kufunika kwanu ndikufika pa chidziwitso chenicheni. Akamaganiza za moyo wopanda inu, saona chilichonse koma chithunzi chopanda chikondi. Palibe mowa wokwanira padziko lapansi woti umuthandize kuiwala. Ngati akuyenera kupempha, zikhale choncho. Koma adzayesetsa kusintha zolakwikazo kuti zikhale bwino ndikukonzekera ubalewu.

12. Mwina sangazindikire 

Tiyerekeze kuti watenga lamulo loti musalumikizane naye atangosudzulana . Akuyesetsa kwambiri kuti achire ndipo potsiriza wachepetsa chilakolako chofuna kukutsatani tsiku lililonse. Ndiye mwayi ndi wochepa kuti azitha kuzindikira kutsekekako. Ngakhale kuti zingakhale zokhumudwitsa kuti musalandire yankho lililonse mwachangu kuchokera kwa iye, pamapeto pake, mudzaona kuti ndi dalitso. Musiyeni chifukwa akuyesera kuti amve bwino, ndikukhala osangalala.

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13. Aganiza zovomera chisankho chako 

Izi zikhoza kuchitika pamene chipiriro chamaganizo cha mwamuna ndi msinkhu wake umakhala wabwino kwambiri. Inde, zidzamupweteka kwambiri kuvomereza kuti munamutsekereza. Akhoza ngakhale kumva kupsa mtima pang'ono koma sizingafike mpaka kulumpha misala. Ngakhale zitatero, amadziwa kuti ndi nkhani yake ndipo athana nayo payekhapayekha. Ngakhale zili choncho, iye adzalemekezabe chisankho chimene munapanga cholekanitsa njira zanu ndi kukupatsani malo omwe mukufunikira. 

14. Akhoza kutembenukira kumalo ochezera a pa Intaneti kuti afotokoze zakukhosi kwake

Malo ochezera a pa Intaneti akhala ngati malo osungiramo zinthu masiku ano, malo omwe anthu amalankhula zokhumudwitsa zawo, chisoni chawo, kapena kuyesa kunyalanyaza. Akaona kuti mwamuletsa, chibadwa chake choyamba chingakhale kuyika mawu obisika, mawu a nyimbo, kapena kukunyengererani mwachindunji. Akhoza kuyika chithunzi chakale cha masiku anu osangalala ndi mawu osamveka bwino monga, "Zinthu zina siziyenera kukhala choncho , koma zimapwetekabe."

Tengani wakale wa Ava, mwachitsanzo. Pamene adamuletsa atasiya kusokoneza, adawona abwenzi akugawana nkhani zake za Instagram. Nkhani ina inati, “Zoseketsa mmene anthu amasinthira usiku wonse,” kenako ina tsiku lotsatira inati, “Milatho ina imawotchedwa bwino.” Iye anati: “Poyamba, Ava ankadziimba mlandu, koma posakhalitsa anazindikira kuti inali njira yake yothetsera vutolo.” Ngati wakale wanu akutenga njira imeneyi, musadabwe—ingopeŵani chilakolako chofuna chibwenzi.

15. Angayese kulumikizanso kudzera mwa mabwenzi

Ngati ali munthu amene sataya mtima msanga, sangavomereze chipikacho ngati malire olimba. M’malo mofikira anthu mwachindunji, angayambe kulankhula ndi anzanu, kuyesera kuti apeze zosintha pa moyo wanu kapenanso kuwanyengerera kuti alankhule nanu m’malo mwake. Zokambirana zake zingayambe ndi mawu wamba, "Hey, ali bwanji?" ndisanasinthe pang'onopang'ono kuti ” Kodi mungamufunse kuti alankhule nane kamodzi kokha?”

Chibwenzi chakale cha Mary chinagwiritsa ntchito njira imeneyi pamene ankamuletsa. Iye anati, “Nditamuletsa ndipo sanandilankhule, ndinamva bwino. Koma kenako anatumiza uthenga kwa mnzanga wapamtima, Patricia, mopanda nzeru ponamizira kuti akundilembera. Posakhalitsa, mauthenga ake anasanduka maumboni osonyeza kuti anandisowa kwambiri, momwe ankafuna kukonza zinthu, komanso momwe block yake inkaonekera kuti siili bwino. Anali wokhutiritsa kwambiri kotero kuti Patricia anayesa kundikakamiza kuti ndimupatse mwayi wina. Koma ndimadziwa njira zake. Kuti tisunge ubwenzi wathu ndinayenera kumupangitsa kuti nayenso amuletse. Ngati mukuganiza kuti wakale wanu angayesenso chinthu chofanana, ndi bwino kudziwitsa anzanu. Ikani malire omveka bwino ndikudziwitsa ngati mukufuna zosintha zokhudza iye kapena ngati mukufuna kuti anyalanyaze zoyesayesa zake zoti agwirizanenso.

Kotero, ife tikukuwonani inu kumbali ina kachiwiri! Tsopano mukudziwa mayankho omwe angakhalepo kuti, "Kodi mwamuna amamva bwanji mukamamuletsa?" Monga momwe mukumudziŵira zabwino zake zonse ndi kuipa kwake, ndi inu nokha amene mungazindikire zimene angachite zitachitika zimenezo. 

Chonde kumbukirani, palibe choyenera kuchita mantha. Ziribe kanthu momwe zinthu zikuipiraipira, mutha kufunafuna thandizo nthawi zonse (zalamulo ndi zamaganizidwe) ndikuwona mpaka kumapeto. Malingana ngati mukudziwa kuti chinali chisankho choyenera, sikuyenera kukhala kubwerera m'mbuyo.

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