Njira 15 Zomwe Munthu Amamva Akazindikira Kuti Mwamutsekereza

"Kodi adzachita bwanji akazindikira kuti mwamutsekereza?" Liwu laling'ono lomwe lili m'mutu mwanu silingasiye kukuvutitsani ndi funso ili. Titha kuganiza kuti sikunali kophweka kuletsa munthu yemwe poyamba ankatanthauza dziko kwa inu. Koma zikuwoneka ngati mwapanga chisankho cholimba kuti musamawonekere, osaganiza. Munkaganiza kuti kutsekereza ex wanuyo kumamuchotsa m’mutu mwanu. 

Ndiye n’cifukwa ciani mtima wanu ukugunda, mukudela nkhawa za mmene angacitile? Mwina gawo lodetsa nkhawali ndiloti "Bwanji ndikamutsekereza pachilichonse ndipo abwerere akadali?" Talembapo zochitika zingapo zomwe zidakupangitsani kuti mumulepheretse.

• Mukufuna kusalumikizana kwathunthu kuti zikuthandizeni kupitiliza 
• Mwamaliza kuyesa kukonza mavutowo ndikumuletsa kuti asakhumudwe
• Mukufuna kuti akuthamangitseni ndikuwona kufunika kwanu
• Mukumusowa kwambiri mutatha kutha

Ngati nkhani yanu ikugwirizana ndi iliyonse mwa izi, takubweretserani mayankho omwe mungakhale mukuwafuna.

Kodi Munthu Angadziwe Kuti Watsekedwa?

Mukaletsa munthu pa WhatsApp, Facebook, kapena Instagram, sadzalandira zidziwitso zilizonse kuti mitima yawo isweka nthawi yomweyo. Koma ngati munthuyu akukusunganibe ndikuyang'ana mbiri yanu pafupipafupi, posachedwa adzazindikira kuti mwawaletsa. 

Bwanji? Chifukwa chimodzi, akakuyang'ana pa Facebook kapena Instagram, mbiri yanu sidzawonekera. Messenger amakupatsirani momveka bwino chifukwa akatsegula macheza anu, adzalandira uthenga ngati - 'Simungathe kuyankha pamacheza awa'. Ndipo WhatsApp sapereka zolemba zanu kwa munthu amene adakuletsani. Kotero, ayi, sangadziwe za kutsekereza nthawi yomweyo, koma ngati atcheru khutu, sizidzabisika kwa nthawi yayitali. Kotero, ngati mukudabwa, "Ndinamuletsa pa WhatsApp ndi ananditsekereza bwererani patapita masiku angapo. Chifukwa chiyani?,” ayenera kuti adawona chipikacho patatha masiku angapo.

Zomwe Amaganiza Kwenikweni Akazindikira Kuti Munamutchinga 

Zotsatira za a phunziro zikusonyeza kuti kulankhulana ndi bwenzi wakale kudzera malo ochezera a pa Intaneti zingakhudze njira machiritso anu ndi kukula kwa inuyo pambuyo kutha. Chifukwa chake, choyamba, ndikukuthokozani chifukwa cha gawo lalikululi la kuchira mwamtendere, ndi zododometsa zochepa. Anthu akhoza kukutchani mfumukazi ya sewero la kusekondale, koma ngati mukuwona kuti ndikofunikira kuti mupitirire, tsatirani chisankho chanu.

Ngakhale ndikuwona kupotoza pang'ono pachiwembucho chifukwa mumakhumudwa kwambiri ndi yankho lake mutamuletsa. Ndikhoza kudziwa chifukwa ndakhala mu nsapato zanu. Ine kamodzi adaletsa ex wanga pa gawo lopanda kulumikizana ndikuyembekeza kukopa chidwi chake ndikukonza ubalewo. "Kodi kutsekereza munthu kumapangitsa kuti akusowe? Adzayesa kundilankhula nditamutchinga popanda chenjezo?" - timaganiza mofanana, ayi?

Ndiye, mnyamata amamva bwanji mukamutsekereza? Tapanga mndandanda wazomwe mungamve, kutengera momwe mulili.

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1. Akhoza kumva kuti watayika 

Kodi bwenzi lanu linali lotanganidwa kwambiri kuti lizindikire kuvutika kwanu? Pambuyo pake, ndi khalidwe lachinyamata kuti asadziwe zomwe adalakwitsa. Zikatero, kutsekereza uku kungabwere monga chododometsa kwa iye ndikusokoneza mutu wake moyipa kwambiri. Komano, ngati iye anali chibwenzi wachikondi ambiri ndipo anali malingaliro amphamvu kwa inu, koma munaganiza zothetsa kapena kumukwiyira chifukwa cha zifukwa zina, zitha kuyambitsa mantha akazindikira kuti mwamutsekereza. Sadzatha kuganiza bwino.

2. Zidzaswa mtima wake

Tiyeni timve kuchokera kwa wowerenga wathu, Dave, yemwe posachedwapa wakhala akulandira filimu, "Nthawi zonse ndinkaganiza kuti Troy ndiye wokondedwa wa moyo wanga, koma zikuoneka kuti tsogolo langa linali lotikonzeratu." Masabata awiri apitawo tinasiyana pazovuta zina, komabe sindinasiye. Ndinkaganiza kuti tikhoza kuyesetsabe kuti zitheke.

3. Akhoza kumasuka kuti zatha

Kodi ubale wanu ukupita patsogolo pa-kachiwiri-kuchoka-kachiwiri dzenje la kalulu tsiku lililonse? Ndiye palibe amene akudziwa bwino kuposa inu momwe zimakhalira kusokoneza maganizo ndi maganizo. Mlungu umodzi nonse ndinu okongola komanso okondana, ndipo lotsatira, mukumenyana ngati banja lachikale. Komabe, palibe amene angakwere kukadina batani loyimitsa. Munachitira zabwino nonse pomutsekereza.

4. Ngati ali pachibwenzi kale ndi munthu wina, sangakhumudwe, kapena sangachitepo kanthu.

Adzandisowa ndikamublock? Tikupepesa kuti ndife owonetsa mbiri yoyipa, koma, ngati wasuntha popanda malingaliro otsalira mumtima mwake chifukwa cha inu, ndiye yankho ndilo ayi. Ali ndi munthu wina tsopano, ali wokondwa. Chifukwa chiyani angaike pachiwopsezo mphatso yake pokulolani kuti mulowe pakati pa iye ndi mnzake watsopano? Ngati mwamuna wanu sali m'malo omwewo m'moyo monga inu muliri, kutsekereza sikungapangitse kusiyana kwakukulu kwa iye. Ndinu kuwononga nthawi yanu kuyesa kubweza ex wanu. Ngakhale atakhala kuti akuipidwa nazo, zikhala za kanthaŵi ndipo posachedwapa adzapitirizabe.

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5. Adzakonzekera kusuntha kwina kuti akope chidwi chanu

Mukuganiza kuti munamutchinga ndiye zonse zatha. Simukudziwa, kwa iye, masewerawa adayamba! Kukanidwa sikumagwirizana bwino ndi kudzikuza kwake kwakukulu. Ndi m'malo zovuta kuti iye sangakhoze kutaya. Ngakhale ngati nthawi ina mumayembekezera "Kodi angayese kundilumikiza nditamuletsa popanda chenjezo?", Zitha kukhala zabwino kwambiri. Zikuwoneka kuti master plan yanu ikhala yopambana ngati akuthamangitsani ndi zomwe mumafuna. 

Mnzanga wina adalemba nyimbo yachikondi kwa ex wake ndipo anayiimba paphwando pomwe onse analipo. Zimenezo zingakhale zovuta kukana kwa aliyense, eti? 

6. Angayesere kukufunsani 

Nthawi zina yankho la "Kodi adzandisowa ngati ndimutsekereza?" ndi "Inde, zambiri." Kumuletsa sikungamulepheretse kukufunsani—kungangomupangitsa kukhala wotsimikiza mtima. Ngati akumva kuti ali ndi bizinesi yosamalizidwa kapena ngati ali pofunafuna kutseka, akhoza kuchita zambiri kuti agwirizane. Yembekezerani zoyeserera kudzera manambala ena, maimelo, kapena anzanu apamtima. Hei, ndawona anthu akusimidwa kwambiri kotero kuti amatumizirana mameseji pa mapulogalamu ngati Google Pay!

7. Angathe kulenga chowonekera

Chochita choyamba ataona kuti mwamutsekereza chikhoza kukhala mkwiyo wosalamulirika komanso kubwezera. Sikuti aliyense ali ndi kukhwima maganizo kuti 'ayi' kuti ayankhe. Akhoza kufika pamlingo uliwonse kukuvutitsani monga mmene iye wavutikira. Kudutsa muofesi yanu ndikupanga zochitika zowononga mbiri yanu, kumenyana nanu m'misewu, kuyitana anzanu ndi abale anu kuti mukambirane za inu nokha. Kungoyang'ana, khalani okonzekera zachibwanawe.

8. Yembekezerani kusokoneza maganizo kwina komwe kukubwera

Ngati inu munali kukumana ndi narcissist kapena wakale wanu anali ndi njira yonyenga, yembekezerani kuti adzapeza njira yobwerera ndikukutsimikizirani chifukwa chake muyenera kukhala naye mpaka mutagonja. 

Blackmailing ndiye chinyengo chakale kwambiri m'buku lobwezera. Akhoza kukuwopsezani kuti adzataya zambiri za inu zomwe zili ndi mphamvu zoyika ntchito yanu, chitetezo chanu, kapena ulemu wa banja lanu pachiwopsezo.

Zikatero kukana, kubwezera zolaula ndi mitundu ina yaupandu wa pa intaneti ndizofala, ngakhale pakati pa achinyamata. Malinga ndi a phunziro, 572 akuluakulu omwe anafunsidwa adanena kuti anali ndi zaka 17 kapena kuchepera pa nthawi yomwe amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, pamene akuluakulu 813 omwe adafunsidwa adanena kuti anali azaka zapakati pa 18 ndi 25.

Atatu mwa anthu asanu omwe adazunzidwa (59%) adadziwa wolakwirayo m'moyo weniweni zisanachitike chifukwa nthawi zambiri zimakhudzana ndi chibwenzi chenicheni. Ngati izi zikukukhudzani, chonde funsani aboma ndipo funsani thandizo lazamalamulo mwachangu. 

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9. Kutsekeredwa kungachititse nsanje 

Mollie, wazaka 24 wa ku San Jose, yemwe amagwira ntchito yosunga mabuku ku San Jose, anati: “Miyezi yambiri titasiyana, ndinamutsekera pa WhatsApp ndipo ananditsekera pasanathe tsiku limodzi. Nazi zomwe zinachitika. Mollie anali atabwereranso pachibwenzi pambuyo pa miyezi yonseyo ndipo adawona kuti ndibwino kuti atseke Nathan ndikuyamba mutu watsopano osamuvutitsa. 

Kumbali ina, Nathan anadziwa za chibwenzi chake ndipo sakanachitira mwina koma kudzimva kuti ali ndi mphamvu kwambiri. Mkhalidwe wonsewo unafika ku ndale za kugonana kwa iye. Anali wofunitsitsa kumuwonetsa kuti wasuntha ndipo adalumphira mu a mgwirizano wobwerera mwachikakamizo. 

10. Mungalandire kupepesa koona kuchokera kwa iye

Chabwino, kudandaula kokwanira ndi malingaliro olakwika. Tiyeni tiyang'ane pa zabwino ndikuwona zabwino zomwe zingatuluke muzochitika zotsekereza izi. Ngati ali ndi malingaliro osathetsedwa kwa inu, kutsekereza kumatha kugwira ntchito ngati chotsegulira maso kuti aone zomwe zalakwika muubwenzi wanu. Mwina akumva chisoni chenicheni chifukwa chokuchitirani zinthu zopanda chilungamo komanso zamwano ndipo akakupepesa nthawi ino, anganene kuti ndi wolakwa. 

11. Angapemphe chiyanjanitso

Pokhapokha zitalembetsa m'maganizo mwanu kuti mwataya wokondedwa kwamuyaya, mumayamba kuvomereza kufunika kwake m'moyo wanu. Kumuletsa kungatheke mupangitseni kuzindikira kufunika kwanu ndi kufikira epiphany iyi. Akalingalira za moyo wopanda inu, samawona kalikonse koma chithunzithunzi chopanda chikondi. Palibe mowa wokwanira padziko lapansi womwe ungamuthandize kuiwalani. Ngati ayenera kupempha, zikhale choncho. Koma ayesetsa kuyesetsa kuti asinthe zolakwikazo kukhala zabwino ndikukhazikitsa ubalewu.

12. Mwina sangazindikire 

Tiyerekeze kuti watenga lamulo losalumikizana pambuyo pa kutha mozama kwambiri. Iye akuyesetsa kuti akuchiritseni ndipo pamapeto pake wathetsa chikhumbo chofuna kukusakani tsiku lililonse. Ndiye mwayi uli wochepa kuti athe kuzindikira kutsekereza. Ngakhale kuli kwakuti kungakhale kokhumudwitsa kwa inu kusalandira yankho lirilonse lachangu kuchokera kwa iye, m’kupita kwa nthaŵi, mudzaliona kukhala dalitso. Msiyeni apite pamene akuyesera kuti amve bwino, ndipo akhale osangalala.

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13. Aganiza zovomera chisankho chako 

Izi zikhoza kuchitika pamene chipiriro chamaganizo cha mwamuna ndi msinkhu wake umakhala wabwino kwambiri. Inde, zidzamupweteka kwambiri kuvomereza kuti munamutsekereza. Akhoza ngakhale kumva kupsa mtima pang'ono koma sizingafike mpaka kulumpha misala. Ngakhale zitatero, amadziwa kuti ndi nkhani yake ndipo athana nayo payekhapayekha. Ngakhale zili choncho, iye adzalemekezabe chisankho chimene munapanga cholekanitsa njira zanu ndi kukupatsani malo omwe mukufunikira. 

14. Akhoza kutembenukira kumalo ochezera a pa Intaneti kuti afotokoze zakukhosi kwake

Masiku ano, malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi malo amene anthu amaulula zokhumudwitsa zawo, zachisoni, kapena kuyesetsa kuchita zinthu mosasamala. Akawona kuti mwamuletsa, chibadwa chake choyamba chingakhale kukutumizirani mawu osamveka bwino, mawu anyimbo, kapenanso kukunyozani. Atha kuyika chithunzi chakale chamasiku anu osangalala ndi mawu osamveka bwino ngati, “Zinthu zina sizili bwino. zokhazikitsidwiratu, koma zikupwetekabe.”

Tengani wakale wa Ava, mwachitsanzo. Pamene adamuletsa atasiya kusokoneza, adawona abwenzi akugawana nkhani zake za Instagram. Nkhani ina inati, “Zoseketsa mmene anthu amasinthira usiku wonse,” kenako ina tsiku lotsatira inati, “Milatho ina imawotchedwa bwino.” Iye anati: “Poyamba, Ava ankadziimba mlandu, koma posakhalitsa anazindikira kuti inali njira yake yothetsera vutolo.” Ngati wakale wanu akutenga njira imeneyi, musadabwe—ingopeŵani chilakolako chofuna chibwenzi.

15. Angayese kulumikizanso kudzera mwa mabwenzi

Ngati ali munthu amene sataya mtima msanga, sangavomereze chipikacho ngati malire olimba. M’malo mofikira anthu mwachindunji, angayambe kulankhula ndi anzanu, kuyesera kuti apeze zosintha pa moyo wanu kapenanso kuwanyengerera kuti alankhule nanu m’malo mwake. Zokambirana zake zingayambe ndi mawu wamba, "Hey, ali bwanji?" ndisanasinthe pang'onopang'ono kuti ” Kodi mungamufunse kuti alankhule nane kamodzi kokha?”

Mnzake wakale wa Mary anatenga njira imeneyi pamene anamuletsa. Iye anati: “Nditamuletsa ndipo sanandilankhule, ndinamasuka.” Koma kenako anatumiza uthenga kwa mnzanga wapamtima, Patricia, akunamizira kuti akulowa. Kuti ndipulumutse ubwenzi wathu ndimayenera kumuletsanso. Ikani malire omveka bwino ndipo dziwitsani ngati mukufuna zosintha za iye kapena ngati mungafune kuti anyalanyaze zoyesayesa zake zolumikizananso.

Kotero, ife tikukuwonani inu kumbali ina kachiwiri! Tsopano mukudziwa mayankho omwe angakhalepo kuti, "Kodi mwamuna amamva bwanji mukamamuletsa?" Monga momwe mukumudziŵira zabwino zake zonse ndi kuipa kwake, ndi inu nokha amene mungazindikire zimene angachite zitachitika zimenezo. 

Chonde kumbukirani, palibe choyenera kuchita mantha. Ziribe kanthu momwe zinthu zikuipiraipira, mutha kufunafuna thandizo nthawi zonse (zalamulo ndi zamaganizidwe) ndikuwona mpaka kumapeto. Malingana ngati mukudziwa kuti chinali chisankho choyenera, sikuyenera kukhala kubwerera m'mbuyo.

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