Kodi Mungatani Ndi Mwamuna Wosakhazikika M'maganizo?

Ayi, simuyenera kuganiza za amuna osakhazikika m'maganizo. Ngakhale kuli kofunika kuti muubwenzi onse awiri azikhala okhudzidwa mofanana, ndizotheka kuti pakapita nthawi wina akhoza kuyamba kapena kuyamba kuwulula za umoyo wamaganizo, zomwe zimabweretsa kusakhazikika maganizo. Masiku ano, zimenezi si zachilendo. Ndi mtundu wa zovuta, zoyambitsa ndi zovuta zomwe zili pafupi ndi ife tonse, aliyense akhoza kulowa mu chikhalidwe chachisokonezo kapena kusakhazikika m'maganizo nthawi ina m'miyoyo yawo.

Kungoti mnzako wina akukumana ndi vuto sizitanthauza kuti muwasiye kapena kuwasiya. Chikondi chimatanthauza kukhala ndi munthu panthawi yovuta. Nthawi yokhayo yomwe muyenera kuganizira kuchoka pa iwo ndi pamene mtendere wanu wamaganizo ukusokonezedwa ndipo winayo akukana kusintha kuti akhale wabwino. Monga momwe kwanenera, pali anthu ena omwe simungathe kuwapulumutsa. Zikafika pamenepo, dziikeni patsogolo ndipo chitani zomwe mukuganiza kuti ndi zabwino kwa inu. Koma izi zisanachitike, yesani kupereka zonse zanu ngati mumawakondadi. Ndipo umu ndi momwe mungachitire zimenezo.

Achipatala Snigdha Mishra, woyambitsa ndi wotsogolera wa LIFE SURFERS komanso membala woyambitsa Bharatiya Counseling Psychology Association (BCPA), yemwe ndi katswiri wodziwa zamaganizo komanso wophunzitsa maganizo ndi khalidwe. Amayankha funso lofunika kwa ife masiku ano lokhudza zomwezi.

Kodi Mungayende Bwanji Kukhala Ndi Chibwenzi Chosakhazikika M'malingaliro?

Q. Ine ndi mnzanga takhala limodzi kwa miyezi khumi tsopano. Ndife openga m'chikondi koma sitingathe kukhala limodzi. Iye ndi wosakhazikika m'maganizo (amavomerezana nane pa izi) ndipo amangokhalira kuvutika kuti athetse maganizo ake. Anali ndi ubwana wovuta ndipo amamva kuti kutengeka mtima kumamupangitsa kukhala wofooka komanso womvetsa chisoni ... ndipo amayesa kuwadula kapena kuwapondereza. Izi sizithandizanso kwambiri, chifukwa zimamupangitsa kukhala wosagwirizana kwambiri. Kumbali ina, amandikonda kwambiri ndipo ndimakhulupiriradi zimenezo. Tikufuna kuti izi zitheke ngakhale kuti ndi chibwenzi chosakhazikika. Sitikudziwa bwanji.

Kuchokera kwa katswiri:

Yankho: Moni! Ndikuwona kuti nonse ndinu odziwa komanso ozindikira pazovuta zanu komanso kuti mukufuna kukonza ubale wanu. Icho chokha ndi chiyambi chabwino. Ndikupangira nonse kukhala limodzi ndikukambirana mafunso awa:

1. Kodi nonse awiri mwakonzeka kubweretsa chiyani pa ubalewu?

2. Kodi mwakonzeka kusiya chiyani (makhalidwe aumwini ndi zina) ngati njira kuyesetsa mu ubale? Makamaka wokondedwa wosakhazikika?

3. Kodi mumadziona bwanji muli pa chibwenzi zaka zisanu kuchokera pano?

Komanso, zingakhale zothandiza kupeza uphungu ndi/kapena uphungu wa maanja kuti muthe kuwongolera m'maganizo mwanu kuti mukhale okhazikika muubwenzi. Funsani dokotala wophunzitsidwa bwino ndipo adzatha kukutsogolerani. Tsopano dzifunseninso mafunso awiri oyambawo ndikuwunikanso. Izi zikuyenera kukuthandizani kuti mukhazikike ndikukhazikika mumgwirizano wanu ndikupeza malingaliro omwe mukufuna. Zabwino zonse!

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Zizindikiro Za Amuna Osakhazikika M'malingaliro

Ngati munawerenga funso ili pamwambali ndikumva likukulira m'maganizo mwanu za ubale wanu, gwirani akavalo anu musanayambe kuganiza mozama. Chifukwa chakuti amakhala ndi nkhawa pang'ono nthawi ndi nthawi kapena a chibwenzi chansanje sizikutanthauza kuti iye ndi mnzawo wosakhazikika.

Ngakhale mukuganiza kuti bwenzi lanu ndi losakhazikika m'maganizo, mutha kuyang'ananso zizindikiro zomwe zili pansipa kuti muwone zomwezo. Wokondedwa wosakhazikika amabweretsa mbendera zambiri zofiira ku equation. Izi ndi zomwe amuna osakhazikika m'maganizo (ngakhale akazi) amawonekera paubwenzi:

1. Amagwedezeka monyanyira

Mphindi imodzi, sangasiye kukusambitsani ndi zonse mitundu ya kupsopsona ndi manja achikondi. Ndipo chotsatira, amakumbukira mwadzidzidzi inu awiri mukukumana ndi wakale wanu pa phwando masabata angapo apitawo ndipo iye tsopano kutenga ndewu za mmene simuyenera kumukumbatira. Nkhondo yonseyi ndi yadzidzidzi, yosafunika ndipo mwina ikukokomeza.

N'zotheka kuti simunatanthauze kanthu ndi kukumbatirana, koma mnzanu wosakhazikika adzalankhula ndi kulola kusatetezeka kwawo kusokoneza chiweruzo chawo. Izi zipangitsa kuti mukhale ndi khalidwe lotentha komanso lozizira kwa inu chifukwa mnzanuyo akungokhalira kuvutika kuyenda ndikumvetsetsa momwe akumvera pa nkhani yonse. Izi zidzayamba kumva ngati muli paubwenzi wowopsa ngati simupeza chithandizo panthawi yoyenera.

2. Satengera kudzudzulidwa

Kusatetezeka kwakukulu kumawayandikira m'zochita zawo zonse, zonse zomwe amachita komanso momwe alili. Ngati muchita chilichonse kuti muyambitse kusatetezeka kwawo, nonse awiri mudzapeza kuti mulibe malire mikangano ya ubale. Pakakhala kukhazikika kwamalingaliro muubwenzi, m'modzi akhoza kutenga zodzudzula ndi mayankho kuchokera kwa mnzake popanda kulola kuti ziwafikire.

Amadziwa kuti bwenzi lawo limakhala labwino ndipo munthuyo akuyang'ana moona mtima njira zowonjezera. Koma ngati muli ndi chibwenzi chosakhazikika m'maganizo kapena mukukhulupirira kuti bwenzi lanu ndi losakhazikika m'maganizo, ndiye kuti mudzazindikira chizindikiro ichi mwa iwo.

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3. Ndewu zanu sizikhala zomveka, nthawi zonse amayesa kukuimbani mlandu

Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zofunika kwambiri komanso zoonekeratu za amuna osakhazikika m'maganizo. Nthawi zambiri, iwo sangavomereze kuti akulakwitsa, chifukwa chake kukhala ndi mikangano yaubwenzi yomveka sikungachitike. Malamulo omenyera chilungamo? Palibe chinthu choterocho mu ubale wosakhazikika.

Nthawi zonse mukabweretsa chimodzi mwazolakwa zawo, amayesa kukuphatikizani pobweretsa chimodzi mwazolakwa zanu. Sikuti izi zimangotopetsa komanso ndi zokambirana zomwe sizimapita kulikonse. Pokhapokha ngati munthu amene akufunsidwayo akuyesera kumvetsa zomwe adalakwitsa ndikukonza, inu nonse mudzakhala mukuyendayenda mozungulira kupeza zifukwa zodzudzulana.

4. Sayesera kwenikweni kuona malingaliro anu

Kudziyika nokha mu nsapato za munthu wina ndiyo njira yabwino yodziwira momwe mungakhalire mutamulakwira. Koma munthu wosakhazikika m’maganizo sangachite zimenezo. Amakhala ndi nzeru zowononga za 'njira yanga kapena msewu waukulu'. Aliyense amene ananena zimenezi sankamvetsa kufunika kokhala pachibwenzi.

5. Amayika ndalama ndikubweza mwachangu

Tsopano iyi ndi yowonjezereka pang'ono. Kaya ndi chibwenzi, ubwenzi kapena ntchito, ngati bwenzi lanu ali wosakhazikika m'maganizo kapena bwenzi wanu alibe kukhazikika maganizo, mudzaona momwe iwo ali flippant pa luso lawo lopanga zisankho. Iwo alibe kumveka kapena chipiriro kuti athe kulingalira pa zinthu. Mudzaona momwe amathamangira kuzinthu zopatsa chisangalalo nthawi yomweyo ndiyeno amasiya mwachangu ngati sakuwatumikiranso.

Izi zikhoza kukhala ndi zifukwa zambiri. Iwo akhoza kukhala munthu wankhawa, inu mukhoza kukhala kuchita ndi chibwenzi chovutika maganizo kapena chibwenzi, kapena mukungocheza ndi munthu yemwe akufunika kuti agwire zikhumbo zawo. Zidzatengera chifundo chochuluka kuti muthane ndi mtundu uwu wa chinthu, mosakayikira za izo.

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6. Mayankho awo nthawi zambiri amakhala osakhwima

Kusasinthasintha maganizo kungachititse munthu kusokonezeka maganizo ponena za mmene angayankhire ena. Mwachitsanzo, mwakhumudwa chifukwa chakuti mwakhala ndi tsiku lalitali kuntchito, galimoto yanu inawonongeka pambuyo pake ndipo tsopano mulibe golosale yokwanira yophikira chakudya chamadzulo. Wothandizira komanso wosamala angakumveni ndikuyesera kupeza njira yothetsera vuto lanu mwachangu kuti mukhale bwino.

Koma amuna ndi akazi osakhazikika m'maganizo nawonso ndi okhwima kwambiri kotero musayembekezere kuti kwa iwo. Sikuti iwo sangayesenso kumvetsetsa zomwe mukukumana nazo, komanso angakupangitseni kuti mumve zambiri ndi ndemanga yosakhudzidwa kapena kunyalanyaza inu kwathunthu. Zozizira monga choncho, munthu yemwe sangathe kuthana ndi maganizo ake alibe mphamvu yolimbana ndi za wina.

7. Nthawi zonse amatsutsana ndi zonena zawo

Chifukwa iwo sanaganizirepo izo poyamba! Saganiza asanalankhule, amangowoneka ngati akungokhalira kusokoneza masiku ambiri. Izi zitha kukusokonezani chifukwa mkangano umayamba kuyenda mosiyanasiyana ndipo simudzadziwa kuti mungasankhe iti. Tsiku lina, wokondedwa wanu wakhumudwa ndi inu chifukwa simunagwirizane nawo pa tsiku losangalatsa lomwe adakonza. Tsiku linanso, sanasamale za banja lina limene ankafuna kuyenda nalo chifukwa ankaona kuti alibe nawo limodzi.

Ngati zizindikiro zomwe zili pamwambazi za amuna osakhazikika akukumbutsani za munthu wina m'moyo wanu, ndi nthawi yoti muchitepo kanthu. Lankhulani nawo, apangitseni kuti awone vutolo ndikuganiziranso chithandizo chawo. Mwamwayi kwa inu, gulu la Bonobology la akatswiri aluso ndi a click uwuy!

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