Kukhala Pamodzi Pamodzi: Kulemba Zomwe Zachitika Posachedwa Zanena Kusunga Ubale

Ndikaganizira za Frida Kahlo, sizithunzi zake zokha zomwe zimandigwira m'maganizo mwanga komanso nyumba yake yomwe inali mboni yokhala motalikirana ndi ubale ndi mwamuna wake, Diego Rivera. Nyumba ziwirizo zinali zokhala ndi mlatho. Banja lodziwika bwino la ojambulawo lidanenedwa kuti linali ndi ubale wovuta, wodziwika bwino wosagwirizana. Koma ngakhale pamene anali ndi kusiyana kwawo, anali ndi mlatho wowalumikiza.

Kukhazikika kwa chikhalidwe cha anthu kungapangitse kukhala motalikirana, kutanthauza kukhala motalikirana mukakhala paubwenzi, zovuta kuti anthu ambiri azigwirizana nazo. N’chifukwa chiyani wina angaganize zokhala ndi moyo wosiyana ali m’banja, wina angadabwe? Nanga n’ciyani cokhala m’banja? Tayamba kuvomereza kuti okwatirana amakhala pamodzi. Kupatula apo, kuyanjana ndi gawo lonse la maubwenzi achikondi.

Komabe, pamene muzindikira kapena kuvomereza kuti palibe njira yolondola kapena yolakwika yomangira chibwenzi, n’zosavuta kuona chifukwa chake makonzedwe oterowo angagwire ntchito bwino kwa okwatirana ena. Ndipo kuti si zachilendo kapena zosamveka. Kupatula apo, ntchito yosawoneka yosunga ubale wamoyo yatipangitsa tonse kuganiza kuti, "Kodi kutenga malo ndikwabwino paubwenzi?" Ngati funso limeneli likukhudzani inu, kuyang'anitsitsa ubwino wa kukhalira limodzi paubwenzi kungakhale kopindulitsa.

Anthu amene amakhulupirira kuti mwina posachedwapa kapena amene sanakonzekere kukhalira limodzi amakonda kukhalira limodzi koma kukhala pamodzi. Ngakhale okwatirana amene amafunitsitsadi kukhalira limodzi koma osatha kutero pazifukwa monga ntchito kapena makolo odwala angasankhe makonzedwe ena a ukwati oterowo. Maanja achichepere nthawi zambiri amasankha izi limodzi kuti akhale pachibwenzi chosiyana kuti apewe mavuto omwe amabwera chifukwa chakutha kapena kusudzulana.

Chifukwa Chiyani Anthu Okwatirana Akusankha Moyo Wa LAT?

Makhalidwe a chikhalidwe cha anthu anali ataphunzitsa anthu kuti okwatirana ayenera kukhalira limodzi m'mabanja, ngakhale zitataya mwayi wawo wodziimira. Zimenezi kaŵirikaŵiri zinachititsa kuti munthu asankhe pakati pa ukwati wawo kapena kudziimira payekha. Komabe, kukwatirana koma osakhalira limodzi kumapereka njira yachitatu imene munthu ayenera kulolera chilichonse. 

Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zosiyanasiyana zimene okwatirana angasankhe kukhalira limodzi padera:

• Nkhani zogwirizana: Ayamba kukwiyitsana wina ndi mzake ndipo sangathenso kupirira. Mwachitsanzo, m'buku, Wokongola Symmetry, Martin ndi Marijke anasiyana bukulo litangoyamba kumene. Martin anali ndi vuto lalikulu la OCD, zomwe zidapangitsa Marijke kusankha kukhala kwawo kwina. Maanja angasankhe kusakhalira limodzi pofuna kupewa mikangano yosafunikira komanso mikangano mu chiyanjano. Atha kukhala m'chikondi ndipo amafuna kuti maubwenzi awo anthawi yayitali apitirire koma atha kukhala ndi vuto losunga matsenga amoyo akukhala limodzi m'nyumba imodzi.
• Kuteteza ana: Nthawi zina nkhani za m’banja zingapangitse anthu kulekana, koma cifukwa ca ana awo, mabanja ambili amasankha kukhala pamodzi. Banja lopanda chikondi lingakhale lovuta kulipirira, ngakhale ngati okwatiranawo samamenyana pamaso pa anawo. Chotero kukhala kutali ndi ana kungakhale njira yothetsera vuto limene makolo onse aŵiri angakhalepo kwa anawo ndipo osafunikira kuwakhumudwitsa mwa kukalipirana tsiku lililonse.
• M'malo mothetsa banja: Mabanja ambiri a LAT amakhala pa maadiresi osiyana kuti apeze maganizo awo asanasudzulane kapena ngati njira ina yothetsa chisudzulo chifukwa cha zachuma monga kupuma pantchito kapena inshuwalansi.
• Kudzipereka kwa akatswiri: Ngati m’modzi kapena onse awiri ali ndi ntchito yolemetsa kapena atanganidwa kwambiri ndi ntchito zawo, angaganize zokhala kutali ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo chifukwa cha ntchito. Polankhula za vuto lake la LAT, Bertha, namwino wa ku Kansas, adatiuza kuti, "Mliri wa mliriwu, ndidapeza kanyumba kakang'ono pafupi ndi chipatala. Ndinkada nkhawa kuti ndingapatsire mwamuna wanga ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna. Malo agulu atatsegulidwa, ndidabwerera. ndi kukhala padera?” Mwamuna wanga, amene anazoloŵera kudzisamalira, anavomereza lingalirolo, chotero, ndinasamukanso m’nyumbamo chaka chatha”
• Kufunika kodziimira: Anthu okwatirana amene akukhala padera angasankhe moyo umenewu kuti abweze nthawi imene anataya posamalira mabanja awo kwa zaka zambiri. Ndiye kamodzi ana awulukira chisa, anthu okwatirana angasankhe kukhala m’malo osiyanasiyana ndi kusangalala ndi moyo mogwirizana ndi zimene akufuna

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Ndi anthu ochuluka bwanji amene akukhala pamodzi?

Malinga ndi kafukufuku, 35% ya anthu omwe sali pabanja kapena okhalira limodzi ayankha kuti ali paubwenzi wa LAT. Izi zikuphatikizanso anthu a LGBTQ. 15% ya amuna ogonana amuna okhaokha kapena akazi okhaokha 17% akuyenera kukhala paubwenzi wa LAT kuti asunge zinsinsi za ubale wawo, kuti azitha kukhala ndi mgwirizano wofanana, kapena kulimbikitsa ubwenzi pomwe akudzidalira. Malinga ndi wa ku Canada phunziro, achinyamata achikulire amakhala okwatirana a LAT. M'magulu azaka 20-24 ndi 25-29, pafupifupi 31% ndi 17% ankakhala padera pamodzi, motsatira. Mwa anthu azaka zapakati pa 30 ndi 59, zinali pakati pa 3% ndi 5%, ngakhale ziwerengerozi zakhala zikukwera kuyambira pamenepo.

Ubwino Ndi Zoipa Zokhalira Pamodzi

Research akusonyeza kuti anthu amakhala motalikirana pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana, koma zofala kwambiri ndi izi:

1. Amakhala ndi zovuta zogwirira ntchito, mwachitsanzo, ali ndi malonjezano ngati ntchito kapena maudindo omwe amafunikira kuti azikhala otalikirana.
2. Iwo amakayikira ngati izo ziri posachedwapa kuti tilowe pamodzi pansi pa denga lomwelo ndipo ndikufuna kufufuza ubalewo musanasamuke pamodzi
3. Anthu okwatirana amene amakhala motalikirana nthawi zambiri amakhala limodzi kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo amafuna kuchita zinthu zina kuti azitha kudziimira paokha.

Chochititsa chidwi n'chakuti, ngakhale kuti chifukwa choyamba sichinali cha gulu linalake, chifukwa chachiwiri ndi chachitatu chimawoneka makamaka mwa achinyamata ndi akuluakulu, motsatira. Tikaganizira za ubwino ndi kuipa kwa kukhala motalikirana, tiyenera kuganizira zaka zimene zingakhudze kwambiri.

ubwino	kuipa
Pali mwayi wodziyimira pawokha komanso kudzipereka kwamalingaliro	Palinso mwayi wokulirakulira pang'onopang'ono
Onse awiri akhoza kukhala ndi "malo opumira", omwe angapangitse kuthetsa kusamvana kukhala kothandiza	Ubale ukhoza kuyambitsa mkwiyo kapena kuthawa, chifukwa chosokoneza chimakhala chosavuta kuposa kuthetsa
Anthu okwatirana amene amakhala motalikirana savutika kuchokapo; palibe kupsinjika kugawaniza katundu	Kusoŵa ndalama mu zinthu zophiphiritsa kungayambitse kusadzipereka
Nthawi yabwino	Pamafunika kuyesetsa mwakhama kuti ubwenziwo upitirizebe
Mukhoza kukhala ndi nthawi yoganizira za inu nokha pambuyo pa zaka zambiri zosamalira ena	Zingayambitse nkhawa zopatukana. Kuonjezera apo, mumayang'anizana ndi chiweruzo cha anthu chifukwa chokhala okwatirana koma kukhala osiyana
Kutalikirana kwa mailosi kumapangitsa chikondi kukhala chamoyo, popeza okwatirana sakonda kutengerana mosasamala	Pali kuthekera kokulira kutali ndi okondedwa wanu
Mutha kuthawa ntchito zapakhomo - izi zitha kukhala phindu lalikulu kwa amayi omwe atopa ndi ntchito yosaoneka.	Kukhala ndi mabanja osiyana kungayambitse mavuto azachuma
Ndi njira yosavuta kuposa kusudzulana	Ndizovuta kukhala motalikirana ndi ana aang'ono kwambiri, sizimagwiranso ntchito ngati onse awiri sali pagulu ndi lingalirolo.

Kodi LAT Ndi Yoyenera Kwa Inu?

Mabanja ena omwe amakhala motalikirana, monga osewera awiri Claire Danes ndi Hugh Dancy, akhala m'malo osiyanasiyana kwa zaka zingapo chifukwa cha zomwe adalonjeza. Iye anati mu kuyankhulana kuti zinamupangitsa kuyamikira kuyandikana kwakuthupi. Research zikusonyeza kuti LATs adzakhala chizoloŵezi chokulirapo m'tsogolomu, ndipo zinthu monga "ukalamba, msinkhu wa maphunziro apamwamba, ndi ntchito" zimathandizira kuti zitheke.

Ngakhale ophunzitsa zibwenzi ambiri azaka zatsopano akuyamika kupambana kwa LAT pochita umunthu payekha, kafukufuku akusonyezanso kuti maanja ambiri a LAT amapangidwa chifukwa ndikosavuta kukhala patali kusiyana ndi kusiyiranatu. Muzochitika zonsezi, timapeza chochititsa chidwi. Makamaka,

1. Anthu amafuna kukhala motalikirana mwadala pofuna kuteteza awo danga lanu. Izi, komabe, zimafuna kudzipereka mwadala, kosagwedezeka paubwenzi
2. Anthu akufuna kupulumutsa ubale kapena kuteteza zofuna zawo pakudzipereka ndikusankha kukhala padera. Choncho, imakhala njira yodzitetezera

Tsopano, sitikunena kuti chimodzi chokha mwa zifukwa izi ndicholondola, koma kupeza yankho la, “Kodi LAT ndi yoyenera kwa inu?”, kudzadalira kwambiri pa inu kusiyana ndi zinthu zakunja. Chifukwa chake, lingalirani zabwino ndi zoyipa zokhala ndi anzanu ofunikira komanso okhala limodzi koma osakhala pamodzi mosamala. Nawa mafunso angapo omwe mungadzifunse kuti mupeze njira yanu:

1. Chifukwa chiyani mukufuna kukhala ndi malo anuanu?

Kulingalira kumapangitsa kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa:

1. Kukhala kutali ndi mzake kuti ubwenzi ukhalebe wamoyo

2. Kusankha kukhala padera chifukwa mukufuna kusunga matsenga amoyo mu chiyanjano chanu. 

Zingawoneke ngati zofanana, koma sizili choncho. Zakale ndi njira chabe yochotsera mnzanuyo popanda kusokoneza chikhalidwe cha kukhala pachibwenzi, pamene pamapeto pake, palibe chakukwiyira mnzanuyo, choncho mudzayesetsa kubwereranso kwa iwo. 

Wojambula Jamie Chung ndi mwamuna wake, Bryan Greenberg adaganiza zosamukira ku maadiresi osiyana chifukwa onse awiri adapeza kuti malo awo ndi ofunika kwambiri kwa iwo monga ubale wawo.

• Dzifunseni nokha kuti kukhala ndi malo anuanu kungakusangalatseni bwanji?
• Kodi iyi ndi njira yopezera mphamvu pa okondedwa wanu?
• Zingakhale zovuta kubwerera pamodzi patapita nthawi?

Mayankho a mafunsowa adzakuuzani ngati ubale wanu uli pamiyala. Nthawi zina LTA imasunga maubale, koma palibe chitsimikizo kuti zingapangitse ubale wabwino. Pokhapokha mutayesetsa kukonza zomwe zasweka, makamaka, zingakupatseni mpumulo kwakanthawi.

2. Kodi mwalingalira za mayendedwe?

Ngati muli ndi katundu ngati famu kapena kanyumba komwe mungagwiritse ntchito izi, ndizabwino. Ngati sichoncho, muyenera kuganizira za yemwe ati asamuke, komwe adzakhale, ndi zinthu zina zachuma ndi zoyendetsera chisankhochi.

• Konzani mayendedwe. Kodi mudzakhala kuti? Kodi mudzalipira bwanji lendi?
• Kodi kugula nyumba padera pamodzi ndi lingaliro labwino, makamaka ngati mmodzi wa inu akupeza ndalama?
• Ngati muli ndi ngongole zambiri, sizomveka kulowa muzinthu ngati izi. The mavuto azachuma Kulephera kuwonjezera ngongole kungawononge ubale wanu
• Ngati muli ndi ana ang'onoang'ono, amakhala ndi ndani? Kodi mungagawane bwanji ndalama zolipirira?

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3. Kodi mumamva bwanji ndi wokondedwa wanu?

Dziwani zomwe mukumvera kwa wokondedwa wanu. Kodi mumawakonda ndi kuwalakalaka, kapena mwangokwatirana kumene ndikukhala moyo wosiyana?

• Kodi mumatuluka kangati pamwezi?
• Kodi mumawatchula chinthu choyamba pamene chabwino chichitika?
• Kodi mungafune kubwereranso kwa iwo mutayamba kukhala kutali?

Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mulibenso mgwirizano womwewo, ndiye kuti a chizindikiro kuti ubwenzi sukhalitsa. Panthawiyi, palibe chomwe chingagwire ntchito. Momwemonso, chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomwe simunakonzekere kusamukira pamodzi muubwenzi watsopano ndi ngati simukusangalala ndi nthawi yocheza ndi mnzanuyo.

Malangizo 9 Opangira Ubale wa LAT

Kukhala padera mudakali pachibwenzi akuti kumapereka ubwino waumwini, kuphatikizapo kuthekera kochita momwe mukufunira pamalo anu ndikusunga maubwenzi ndi maubwenzi omwe alipo kale, komanso kuwonjezeka. ubwenzi mu chiyanjano. Komabe, anthu ambiri amangoyang'ana kumapeto kwakuya ndipo amakhulupirira kuti anthu akutenga njira iyi kuthawa udindo muubwenzi. Izi sizowona kwathunthu, koma ngati tiyang'ana kafukufuku, anthu omwe amadalira ndalama pa chibwenzicho amapeza mapeto aifupi a ndodo. Kukumbukira izi, nayi momwe mungapangire ubale wa LAT kugwira ntchito:

1. Ilandireni pazifukwa zoyenera

Ngakhale kuti chabwino ndi cholakwika ndi mawu ongoganizira chabe, kuzindikira chifukwa chokhalira pamodzi n'kofunika. Ngati mukuchita izi chifukwa chakuti zikukuvutani kukhalira limodzi muubwenzi wapoizoni, sikungakhale lingaliro labwino. Muyenera kukhala ndi ubale wokwanira. Kuyika mtunda pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu sikungathetseretu mavuto anu. Kuti mudziwe chifukwa chake mukufuna kupanga chisankho ichi,

• Ganizilani ndi kulemba cifukwa cake kukhala patali kungakhale kwabwino kuposa kulekana. Mungafune kusunga ubale, koma kodi ndi salvageable? Kodi zingakhale bwino? Kodi mungathe kusintha mwa inu nokha kuti ubale wanu ukhale wabwino? 
• Lankhulani za momwe mungakhalire olekanitsidwa koma limodzi musanauyambe ulendowu. Ndikofunika kuti nonse muvomereze kuti izi zitheke. Kambiranani zonse za nitty-gritty pasadakhale, kuti pasakhalenso mpata wokambirana pambuyo pake. Ngati mungakwanitse, yesani kwakanthawi kochepa ndipo muwone ngati ikugwira ntchito
• Mukhozanso kulankhulana ndi mlangizi kapena mphunzitsi wa ubale kuti akuthandizeni kudziwa momwe mungakhazikitsire malamulo oyendetsera ubale wanu wa LAT, ndi momwe mungapangire kuti zitheke. Nthawi zambiri timachita khungu pankhani ya maubwenzi, ndipo munthu wina yemwe ali ndi cholinga atha kutithandiza kuwona chithunzithunzi chachikulu. Pa Bonobology, tili ndi gulu labwino kwambiri la alangizi ndi ophunzitsa maubwenzi kuti akutsogolereni pa izi

2. Yesetsani kulankhulana nthawi zonse

Izi zikuwoneka ngati zopanda pake. Kupatula apo, kulumikizana ndi msana wa ubale uliwonse. Koma nthawi zina, ngakhale zinthu zodziwika bwino zimatha kunyalanyazidwa. Maanja amafotokoza zakukhosi kwawo kudzera m'makhalidwe awo m'malo mokonza zawo kuyankhulana kwakukulu. Ngakhale kuti ichi sichiri chizoloŵezi chabwino muukwati uliwonse, kumakhala kofunika kwambiri kusunga njira zolankhulirana zotseguka m’banja losiyana.

• Yesani kulankhula tsiku lililonse. Osamangolankhula za ntchito zapakhomo kapena ntchito; lankhulani za chirichonse ndi chirichonse cha m'maganizo mwanu, ndi momwe mukumvera. Mvetserani zomwe mnzanuyo akunena; osakhala pamenepo ndikugwedeza mutu. Chitani nawo mbali. Izi zitha kukhala zovuta pachiyambi, koma pakapita nthawi, mudzalakalaka nthawi ya foni
• Yesetsani kukambirana izi mwina m'mawa kwambiri, mutatha kudya kapena nthawi iliyonse yomwe mulibe zododometsa.
• Chofunika kwambiri, yesetsani kulankhula za mikangano yanu. Makamaka ngati mukuchitapo kanthu kuti mupulumutse ubale wanu, muyenera kulankhula za zinthu zosasangalatsa. Kukhalira pamodzi kumakupatsani mpata wosinkhasinkha zinthu ndi kukhazikika mtima akamanenedwa zinthu zoipa. Koma musagwiritse ntchito kuthawa mavuto anu

3. Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale kutali ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu? Gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yabwino pamodzi

Ngati mukuyesera kupewa wokondedwa wanu mukakhala kutali kapena kumva kuti muli ndi chiwonongeko nthawi zonse mukamalankhula nawo, chinachake sichili bwino ndi chibwenzi chanu. Chinsinsi cha kukhala ndi banja lopambana ndi chakuti muyenera kukhala ndi cholinga chofuna kukhala nawo. Kuti izi zitheke, khalani ndi masiku a sabata kapena awiri, kapena chilichonse chomwe kalendala yanu ikuloleza.

• Onetsetsani kuti palibe zosokoneza panthawi yanu yabwino. Khalani chete foni yanu, musayang'ane mphindi ina iliyonse. Pitani kwinakwake komwe simungathe kukumana ndi anthu ena kapena kuyesa malingaliro amasiku a kunyumba. Sikuti nthawi zonse mumafunika kugonana, koma muyenera kugwirizana m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo
• Yesetsani kuyang'ana wina ndi mzake - momwe wokondedwa wanu amawonekera komanso momwe akukhalira. Osachipanga kukhala malo otsutsana

4. Muziikira malire m’banja lanu losiyana

Kuti muwonetsetse kuti zokambirana zanu zikukwaniritsidwa komanso nthawi yomwe mumacheza nawo ndi yabwino, muyenera kukhazikitsa malire. Malire abwino ndi injini yomwe imasunga ubale.

• Dziwani za ophwanya malonda muubwenzi wanu ngati simukudziwa poyambira. Pitirizani kusintha malire pamene mukuphunzira zomwe mungathe komanso zomwe simungathe kuthana nazo
• Ngati ubale wanu ukuvutika chifukwa chosowa malire, ndiye kuti poyamba zingakhale zovuta. Chifukwa chakuti nonse mwa inu simunazolowere kubisidwa, zingamve ngati mukukankhidwira kumbuyo. Izi zingakupangitseni kukhala otetezeka komanso osatetezeka. Khalani ndi nthawi yophunzira kuthana nazo
• Phunzirani kukana. Perekani mnzanuyo nthawi, koma phunzirani kukhala ndi ufulu wanu. Osanyengerera nazo

5. Chitani zomwe mumakonda

Ngakhale mukuchita izi kuti mukhale ndi ufulu wodziyimira pawokha, chikhalidwe cha anthu chikhoza kuwonetsa kuti ndinu osakwanira kapena odziimba mlandu chifukwa chosiya wokondedwa wanu. Ku pewani kusungulumwa kapena kulakwa, lowetsani m’zinthu zimene mumakonda. 

• Kukhala ndi moyo wosiyana pamene muli pabanja kumakupatsani mwayi wofufuza zinthu zimene zikukuzungulirani. Pitirizani kuyenda, khalani pafupi ndi chilengedwe, phunzirani luso latsopano - dziko ndi oyster wanu
• Lumikizanani ndi anzanu komanso abale anu. Gwiritsani ntchito izi ngati mwayi wopezera nthawi yochulukirapo ndikulimbitsa gulu lanu lamkati
• Ganizirani pa zinthu zomwe mwakhala mukulakalaka kuchita koma osatha kuzipeza. Malizitsani bukulo, tengani maphunziro a ballet, ndikuyamba ntchito yanu yamaloto. Katya, wolemba wochokera ku Nevada, anatiuza kuti, "Ine ndi mwamuna wanga timakhala moyo wosiyana. Ndine wolota; ali wolimba pansi. Timakondana wina ndi mzake, koma ku New York, tinali kukhala moyo wosiyana muubwenzi, ndipo izi zinandipangitsa kumva ngati wonyenga. LAT ukwati wakhala wosintha masewera kwa ife ndipo watibweretsa ife pafupi kwambiri kuposa momwe tinkakhalira pansi pa denga lake.

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6. Konzekerani bwino kukhala motalikirana ndi mwana

Ngati muli ndi ana, muyenera kuganizira mmene zinthu zilili pa moyo wawo. Popeza kuti ana ali ndi maganizo oti aone banja monga gulu losalekanitsa, zimenezi zingawasokoneze. Kuyankhulana koyenera kapena uphungu ndikofunikira kuti muwafotokozere bwino ndikuwalowetsa.

• Pakhoza kukhala zozama za kulekana pa ana. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuwafotokozera zomwe mukuchita komanso chifukwa chake. Atsimikizireni kuti sizikutanthauza kuti mukupatukana pokhapokha ngati mukuchita zimenezo. Mfundo yake ndi yakuti, muzichita zinthu moona mtima
• Konzani mkhalidwe wamoyo. Ngati malo anu ali pafupi, ana amatha kusankha kuyendayenda nthawi ndi nthawi. Ngati sichoncho, mwina anawo angakhale ndi kholo limodzi ndi kumathera Loweruka ndi Lamlungu ndi maholide limodzi ndi mnzakeyo, kapena kumacheza ndi kholo lina nthaŵi iriyonse pamene achezera. Funsani malingaliro awo chifukwa kusuntha pafupipafupi kumatha kusokoneza moyo wawo watsiku ndi tsiku komanso ndandanda
• Pemphani chithandizo kwa wokondedwa wanu pamene mukuchifuna. Ngakhale mukuyesera kudziyimira pawokha, simuyenera kuchita nokha, makamaka pankhani ya kulera ana

7. Kumbukirani kukhala motalikirana ubale si njira yothetsera vuto lililonse

Kumbukirani kuti chiyanjano chosiyana ndi njira yothetsera vuto lapadera kwambiri: kusowa kudziyimira pawokha mu ubale. Kugwiritsa ntchito ngati njira kulangitsani chinyengo mnzanu kapena kuyesa kupewa mikangano muubwenzi sikwabwino.

• Lankhulani wina ndi mzake za kufunika kwa sitepe iyi. Mabanja a LAT amasankha izi chifukwa amakonda malo awo enieni komanso ubale wapamtima ndi okondedwa awo, ndipo kukhalira limodzi kumawapangitsa kuti asiyane pa mbali imodzi. Kodi zifukwa zanu ndizosiyana ndi izi?
• Monga Helena Bonham Carter ananenera za ubale wake wa LAT ndi Tim Burton, "Sikukakamizidwa kukhala pachibwenzi. Zimasankhidwa, zomwe ndi zokometsera - ngati mungathe." Banja la ochita seweroli lidakhala pachibwenzi chazaka khumi ndi zitatu pomwe amakhala m'malo osiyanasiyana mnyumba kuti asunge chinsinsi chawo. Yesani kubwereka nyumba pamodzi kwa mwezi umodzi ndikuganizira momwe mumamvera paubwenzi wanu pamene sizikukhudzidwa ndi kuyandikira. Kodi mungasankhe kukhala pachibwenzi ngati sikunakakamizidwe?
• Kukhala ndi nyumba ziwiri, ngakhale nonse mukugwira ntchito, kungakhale kodula. Zingawoneke ngati zabwino kukhala ndi malo anu omwe mungathawireko, koma ngati mukuchoka kuti mungodzilungamitsa, palibe chabwino chomwe mungachite.

8. Yesetsani kuthetsa kusatetezeka kwanu

Ngati mukulimbana ndi kusatetezeka, kukhala motalikirana kungakulitse kudzikayikira ndi zikhumbo zokhudzana ndi zolinga za mnzanuyo. Muyenera kuganizira ngati mwadulidwa kuti mukhale ndi ubale wosagwirizana

• Ngati yankho lanu pamalingaliro oti mukhale patali ndi liwu loti “sindikhala popanda inu”, mutha kulimbana ndi kudziyimira pawokha. Codependency mu mgwirizano akhoza kuchepetsa umunthu wanu. M’malo mopewa maganizo anu, limbanani nawo. Khazikitsani zolinga zoyezeka ndikukhala ndi maganizo otukuka. Khalani okonzeka kulephera, koma musalole kuti zikufotokozereni inu
• Unikani mozama malingaliro anu olakwika ndikuwatsutsa. Kulankhula kolakwika kungathe kusokoneza kukula kwa maganizo anu, choncho ganizirani nokha. Khalani ndi chizoloŵezi. Idyani zathanzi, gonani bwino, sinkhasinkhani, ndi kusunga zolemba zanu. Ganizirani za kulingalira 
• Khalani m'gulu la anthu olimbikitsa, osangalala. Pemphani thandizo kwa anzanu ndi achibale pakavuta

9. Musalole anthu ena kuti anene

Instagram wogwiritsa Sana Akahand anali wokwatiwa koma amakhala motalikirana ndi mwamuna wake atazindikira kuti akuyamba kudalirana. Amafuna kuyesa kukwatiwa ndikukhala moyo wosiyana nthawi imodzi koma adalimbana ndi chitsenderezo chachipembedzo chochokera kudera lawo motsutsana ndi 'maubwenzi ake'. Banja la LAT linaganiza zodutsa ndi chisankho chawo ngakhale kuti anali kukakamizidwa, ndipo akuti "abwerera pamodzi mwamphamvu kuposa kale" (sic).

• M’zikhalidwe zina, chikakamizo cha m’banja chokana kuchita zinthu mosiyana chikhoza kukhala chachikulu. Phunzirani khalani ndi malire amalingaliro kuteteza thanzi lanu lamalingaliro ndikusunga ubale wanu
• Ngati mukuganiza kuti omwe akuzungulirani sangamvetse chisankho chomwe mukupanga, chisungeni mu ubale wanu. Kugwiritsa ntchito zifukwa monga kudzipereka pantchito sikuli bwino kuti abale anu asamalowe mubizinesi yanu
• Dziwani zomwe mukufuna. Malingana ngati inu ndi wokondedwa wanu muli ndi ziyembekezo zofanana za wina ndi mzake, zilibe kanthu zomwe wina aliyense akuganiza

M'malo mwake, simuyenera kusankha maubwenzi a LAT chifukwa zitha kuwoneka ngati njira yosavuta yopewera zizolowezi za mnzanu kapena zosokoneza. Muyenera kusankha kukhala moyo wanu monga momwe mumafunira kukhala ukusunga maubwenzi omwe mukufuna. Kwa ambiri, zikuwoneka ngati zachilendo kutenga maubwenzi abwinobwino, koma kwa ena okhala bwino ku LATs, zili ngati kukhala ndi keke yawo ndikudyanso. Zomwe zimafunika ndikuyesetsa pang'ono, koma zotsatira zake zingakhale zopindulitsa.

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