Zokangana Paubwenzi—Mitundu, Mafupipafupi, Ndi Mmene Mungawathetsere

Amati musagone mopenga. Choncho, ine ndi mnzanga timakhala pabedi ndi kukangana. Nthawi zina mawu. Nthawi zina modekha. Zimatengera momwe usiku wakhalira komanso momwe timavutikira. Kukangana pa maubwenzi sikutanthauza kuti muli m'mavuto. Zimangotanthauza kuti anthu aŵiri akuletsa ndewu yaikulu kuti isachitike mwa kuthetsa yaing’ono. Tili ndi ndewu zamitundumitundu, kuyambira ndewu za 'chakudya chamadzulo' mpaka 'ndani azitsuka mbale' mpaka 'zaukadaulo kwambiri zikusokoneza ndewu zathu zanthawi yabwino'.

Mnzanga wina anandinyoza titakangana ndipo anati ndimakonda kutaya tulo tanga kusiyana ndi kutaya ndewu. Ndikuvomereza, nthawi zina ndimafunika kulola mkangano kupuma mpaka tsiku lotsatira ndisanachitepo kanthu kuti ndithetse vutoli. Koma ndi bwino kukangana ndi kutulutsa zonse (nthawi iliyonse mukakonzeka) chifukwa mukasiya kukangana muubwenzi, zikutanthauza kuti mwasiya kusamala. Joseph Grenny, wolemba nawo buku logulitsidwa kwambiri la New York Times la Crucial Conversations , analemba kuti okwatirana omwe amakangana pamodzi, amakhala limodzi. Vuto limayamba mukayamba kupewa mikangano imeneyo.

Tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake mikangano ndi yofunika muubwenzi, pokambirana ndi mlangizi Nishmin Marshall , yemwe ndi katswiri wopereka uphungu pa maukwati opanda chikondi, maukwati ovutitsa, kusungulumwa, ndewu, ndi mavuto ogonana. Iye anati, "Kukangana ndi njira ina yovuta yofotokozera mfundo yanu. Pamene okwatirana akukangana, kumabweretsa kumveka bwino. Kumawathandiza kumvetsetsa malingaliro a wina ndi mnzake."

Mitundu Ya Mikangano

Kodi maanja amamenyana? Inde. Nthawi zambiri kuposa momwe mungaganizire. Mikangano yaying'ono mu maubwenzi ndi yachibadwa. Komabe, pali njira zosiyanasiyana zimene anthu amakanganirana ndipo palibe anthu awiri amene amatsutsana mofanana. Izi zimatengera kalembedwe kawo, nzeru zamaganizidwe, ndi kuyankha kwawo pankhondo-kuthawa kapena kuzimitsa. Pali mitundu 4 yosiyanasiyana yamakangano pamaubwenzi:

1. Mtundu wowukira

Polimbikitsidwa ndi kukhumudwa, kukwiya, ndi mkwiyo, njira yokambiranayi imayang'ana kwambiri kuwonetsa zolakwa zonse zomwe mnzanu wina wachita. Mkanganowu umachitika pamene mnzanu wina sakudziwa momwe angalamulire mkwiyo muubwenzi. Mkanganowo ukhoza kukhala wankhanza ndipo izi zonse zimayang'ana kwambiri kuimba mlandu munthu m'modzi. Zitsanzo zina ndi izi:

• “Nthawi zonse umasiya chonyowa chonyowa pabedi”
• “Simumagwira nawo ntchito yakukhitchini”
• “Simumachotsa zinyalala”

2. Mtundu wodzitchinjiriza

Mkangano woterewu paubwenzi umachitika pamene munthu amene akuimbidwa mlandu wachita zinthu ngati wozunzidwa. Kapena angayambe kudziteteza mwa kusonyeza zolakwa ndi zolakwa za munthu winayo. Mwachitsanzo: 

• “Ndikadatulutsa zinyalala ukanatsuka mbale usikuuno”
• “Mumadziwa kuti ndine wotanganidwa, ndiye n’chifukwa chiyani simunangondikumbutsa kuti ndichite zimenezo?
• "Kodi sungathe kundiimba mlandu kamodzi?"

3. Kuchotsa kalembedwe 

Mwina ndinu wotsutsa kapena amene mukuyesera kukankhira mkangano kuti mufotokoze mfundo yanu. Ngati ndinu oyamba, ndiye kuti mumafunafuna njira zopewera kukangana. Zimasonyeza kuti muli ndi umunthu wopewa mikangano ndipo mudzayesa kusunga mtendere. Ngati ndinu omaliza, ndiye kuti mukufunitsitsa kuyika mfundo yanu. 

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4. Open style

Kodi kukhala ndi mikangano wathanzi mu ubwenzi? Yesani kukangana momasuka. Iyi ndi imodzi mwa njira zabwino kwambiri zokanganirana ndi okondedwa. Ndinu omasuka komanso oganizira zochitika zonse. Simumakhazikika pamalingaliro anu kapena kuyesa kutsimikizira munthu winayo kuti akulakwitsa. 

Zifukwa 7 Zapamwamba Zomwe Maanja Amamenyana 

Nishmin anati: “Kukangana kwa anthu okwatirana sikuli koipa. Mukamalankhula za vuto lanu, munthu amene mumamukonda angayambe kukulemekezani kwambiri chifukwa chomuuza zakukhosi kwanu. Izi zikunenedwa, si ndewu zonse ndi mikangano mu ubale zomwe zimapangidwa mofanana. Zina ndi poizoni kwambiri kuposa zina. Kuti tikuthandizeni kusiyanitsa pakati pa athanzi ndi opanda thanzi, tiyeni tiwone mitundu, zifukwa, ndi zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano paubwenzi:

1. Kulimbana pazachuma

Mabanja kukangana pankhani ya ndalama sichachilendo. Iyi ndi imodzi mwa mitundu ya ndewu mu maubwenzi yomwe imakhala yosatha. Ngati inu nonse mukukhala limodzi ndipo mwaganiza zoyendetsera ndalama zanu limodzi, ndiye kuti ndewu zotere sizingapeweke. Ngati onse awiri ali okonzeka kuthetsa nkhaniyi ndikukonzekera mndandanda wa bajeti popanda kukhumudwitsa wina ndi mzake chifukwa chokhala osasamala, ndiye kuti muli panjira yoyenera. 

2. Kulimbana ndi chinthu chomwecho mobwerezabwereza

Ngati mupitiliza kukangana pa chinthu chomwecho mobwerezabwereza, mwina simukuyesera kumvetsetsa maganizo a winayo. Nonsenu mumatsimikiza kuti mmodzi wa inu ndi wolondola ndipo winayo ndi wolakwika. Mikangano yobwerezabwereza yotereyi muubwenzi imatha kukhala yosatha ngati siikuthetsedwa bwino. Ngati mwadzifunsapo kuti, kukangana kuli bwanji muubwenzi, mwina mukukangana mobwerezabwereza, mwina chifukwa chakuti mavuto anu ayamba kale kukhala osatha.

3. Kukangana pa ntchito zapakhomo

N’chifukwa chiyani okwatirana amamenyana? Ntchito zapakhomo ndizomwe zimayambitsa mikangano muubwenzi nthawi zambiri. Iyi ndi nkhani yoyaka moto pakati pa maanja. Chifukwa kukakhala kusalinganika m’kugaŵana kwa ntchito m’nyumba, kungayambitse mikangano yambiri ndi mikangano yonyansa. Zili choncho chifukwa chakuti m’modzi wa iwo ali wotanganidwa kwambiri, wosasamala, kapena waulesi kuti agwire ntchito yake. 

Malinga ndi kafukufuku wokhudza kugwirizana pakati pa ntchito zapakhomo ndi kukhutitsidwa ndi kugonana, zidapezeka kuti amuna akamanena kuti apereka chithandizo choyenera pantchito zapakhomo, awiriwa ankakumana ndi zogonana pafupipafupi. N'zoonekeratu kuti kukhala pabanja sikutsimikizira chikondi ndi chilakolako.

4. Mikangano yokhudzana ndi banja

Ichi ndi chimodzi mwamabanja omwe amamenyana. Mkangano ukhoza kukhala pachilichonse - wokondedwa wanu sakonda banja lanu kapena mukumva ngati mnzanuyo samakuikani patsogolo monga momwe amafunira banja lawo. Mabanja amalumikizana kwambiri. Chifukwa chake mikangano iyi siyingapewedwe. Ili ndi limodzi mwamavuto omwe angakhalepo paubwenzi ndipo mudzayenera kukambirana ndikupeza njira yothanirana nazo.

5. Mikangano yoyambitsidwa ndi kukhulupirirana

Kulimbana kosalekeza paubwenzi chifukwa chokayikirana kungawonongedi maziko a chikondi chanu. Ngati kukayikirana, kusakhulupirirana, kapena kusakhulupirika kwafalikira muubwenzi, mukhoza kumangokhalira kukangana nthawi zonse. Zitha kukhala zovuta kubwerera momwe zinthu zinalili mu ubale wanu. Chikhulupiriro chikathyoledwa, chimakhala chovuta kuchimanganso. Koma dziwani kuti ndi kudzipereka, kuona mtima, ndi chikondi, palibe chosatheka. Ngati simukudziwa momwe mungathanirane ndi kusakhulupirirana, kungapangitse mnzanuyo kumasuka nthawi zonse.

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6. Maanja amalimbana pa zosankha za moyo wawo 

Nchiyani chimayambitsa mikangano muubwenzi? Zosankha za moyo. Ngati wina amakonda kuphwando ndipo winayo ndi wapanyumba, ndiye kuti ndewuzi ziyenera kuchitika. Wokondedwa yemwe sakonda kutuluka kwambiri akhoza kukakamizidwa kuchita zinthu zosiyana ndi chikhalidwe chake ndi zosowa zake. Izi zidzawapangitsa kudzimva kukhala oipidwa. Mbali inayi, wokondedwayo angamve ngati sangathe kutuluka ndi wokondedwa wake monga momwe amafunira, ndipo izi zingakhale zovuta kwa iwonso. Nonse muyenera kunyengerera ndi kupeza maziko apakati. 

7. Kusiyana kwa makolo

Ili ndi limodzi mwa mavuto omwe mabanja ambiri amakumana nawo omwe sadziwa momwe angagawire ntchito za makolo. Amagawanikanso pankhani ya momwe angalerere ana awo komanso momwe angawasamalire. Ngati simukukonza vutoli mwachangu, mikangano yanu yokhazikika komanso kusiyana kwa makolo kungakhudze mwana. Zingayambitse mavuto osaganizira ena omwe timapempha ana athu kuti atenge mbali.

Kodi Kukangana Kumakhala Kofala Bwanji Paubwenzi?

Kuti tidziwe kuchuluka kwa mikangano yoopsa muubwenzi, tinalankhula ndi Ridhi Golechha , (MA Psychology), yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu wa maukwati opanda chikondi, kutha kwa ukwati, ndi nkhani zina zaubwenzi. Iye anati, “Ngati nthawi zina pamakhala kufuula, ndiye kuti palibe chodetsa nkhawa. Aliyense amataya bata lake nthawi zina. Komabe, ngati mumakangana mobwerezabwereza, muyenera kuuza mnzanu kuti mikangano imeneyi siikuthandiza ubalewo.

"Ngati simuuza mnzanu kuti chimodzi mwa zochita zake chikukuvutitsani, sadzadziwa. Mnzanuyo sakonda kuwerenga maganizo kuti adziwe zomwe zikuchitika m'mutu mwanu. Kusalankhulana kumangopangitsa mkwiyo kukula mbali zonse ziwiri. Izi zingayambitse ndewu yokhazikika muubwenzi, zomwe zingakhale zotopetsa. Mungadzifunse ngati kuli koyenera kuwononga mphamvu zanu. Koma kodi sichoncho chomwe chimapangitsa ubale kukhala wofunika? Mumamenyana, kupepesa, kukhululukirana, ndikupsompsonana. Osati chifukwa choti mumakonda ndewu. Chifukwa mukufuna kukhala ndi munthuyu ngakhale mutakhala ndi nthawi zovuta.

“Komabe, zimenezo sizikutanthauza kuti mungayambe kukangana kulikonse ndi nthaŵi iriyonse. Kukangana molingalira bwino n’kofunika kwambiri. Muyenera kusankha nthaŵi yoyenera yoti mufotokozere nkhaŵa zanu. Ngati mukungomenyana, kukangana, kudandaula, ndi kudzudzulana, ndiye kuti sikuli bwino, ndipo posapita nthaŵi kungawononge maganizo anu.” Maanja omwe amakangana akungoyang'ana ndewu ndikuyesera kutsimikizira kuti winayo ndi wolakwa, osaganizira momwe angaletsere kukangana kosalekeza muubwenzi, amakonda kupatukana.

Nawa magawo angapo omwe angakuthandizeni kuwunika ngati mikangano yanu yalowa m'gawo loyipa:

• Mukayamba kusalemekeza munthu wina
• Mukayamba kuwanyoza mwamawu
• Pamene simukulimbana ndi chiyanjano koma kutsutsana ndi chiyanjano 
• Mukapereka ultimatums ndikuwopseza kuwasiya 

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Ubwino Ndi Kuipa Kwa Mikangano Ya Ubwenzi 

Kukangana koyambirira muubwenzi kumatanthauza kuti nonse simunamvetsetsane mokwanira ndipo mukuvutikira kuzolowera gawo lomwe likubwera pambuyo pa honeymoon. Koma kodi n’kwachibadwa kumenyana tsiku lililonse muubwenzi? Chabwino, izo zimatengera mtundu wa ndewu zomwe mukuchita. Kusemphana maganizo kungakhale mwayi wophunzira zambiri za munthu winayo, kuchiritsa, ndi kukulira limodzi. Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti si bwino mwamuna ndi mkazi akamamenyana. Koma izo ndi hogwash. Zimabweretsa kukhulupirika kwambiri mu ubale. Komabe, monga tanena kale, si mikangano yonse yomwe imapangidwa mofanana ndipo ndewu pakati pa maanja imakhala ndi zabwino ndi zoyipa, zomwe zimaphatikizapo: 

Ubwino wa mikangano pakati pa okwatirana :

• Anthu okwatilana akasemphana maganizo, amadziŵa zolakwa za mnzake, zolakwa zake, kusiyana maganizo, ndi mmene amaganizila. Zimawabweretsa pafupi ndi kupanga mulingo wozama wa kumvetsetsa. Mukaphunzira kusamalira ndi kuvomereza kusiyana kumeneku, mudzapanga ubale wachikondi ndi wamtendere
• Kusemphana maganizo kungakupangitseni kukhala olimba ngati banja. Mukathetsa kusamvana ndi mawu akuti, “Ndimakukondani ndipo ndikusangalala kuti tikukambirana,” zimasonyeza kuti mumaona kuti ubwenzi wanu ndi wofunika kwambiri kuposa kusiyana maganizo. 
• pamene inu pepesani moona mtima pambuyo pa ndewu, imadzetsa kumverera kwaukhondo ndi thanzi. Mumamva bwino za inu nokha komanso ubale wanu

Zoyipa za mikangano pakati pa okwatirana :

• Pamene maanja omwe amakangana amayamba kudzudzula ndi kudzudzula masewera, amatha kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "Inu" monga "Iwe nthawi zonse," "Simuyenera," ndi "Inu nokha". Mawu oterowo amapangitsa munthu winayo kudzimva kuti ndi wolakwa ndikuwukiridwa, ndipo amalepheretsa kukula
• Mukapanda kuthetsa mkangano, mumatalikitsa mkanganowo. Zotsatira zake, mumakwiya, mumakwiya komanso mumadana ndi mnzanuyo
• Kulimbana mobwerezabwereza pa chinthu chomwecho kungakuthamangitseni kwa mnzanuyo. Adzayamba kukupewani kuti apewe mkangano 

Zoyenera Kuchita Ndi Zosachita Pamene Mukukangana Ndi Wokondedwa Wanu 

Kodi ndi zachilendo kumenyana tsiku lililonse muubwenzi? Poyankha funsoli, wogwiritsa ntchito Reddit anati, "Kangati maanja amamenyana muubwenzi wabwino zimadalira momwe mumafotokozera ndewu ndi kukangana muubwenzi. Kodi maanja onse amakangana? Mwina ayi. Kodi maanja onse nthawi zina amakangana? Inde. Pali maanja omwe amakangana kwambiri. Kenako pali maanja omwe amakangana mwanjira yopanda tsankho komanso yankhanza. Kenako maanja ena amapewa mavuto. Munthu aliyense amathetsa mikangano mwapadera, kotero njira zothetsera mikangano zimasiyananso malinga ndi maanja."

Mabanja amene akukangana akuyenera kumvetsetsa kuti pali malamulo angapo okangana paubwenzi. Pali zina zomwe muyenera kuchita ndi zomwe simuyenera kuchita pothana ndi mikangano. Nawa malangizo amomwe mungalimbanire paubwenzi:

Awiri	Dziwani
Nthawi zonse mverani mbali yawo ya nkhaniyi	Osamangoyang'ana madandaulo; sungani njira yanu yokhazikika
Nthawi zonse gwiritsani ntchito mawu akuti "Ine" kuti mumvetse mfundo yanu	Maanja amene akukangana sayenera kugwiritsa ntchito mawu okokomeza monga “nthawi zonse” ndi “osatero”
Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti nonse muli mbali imodzi. Simukulimbana wina ndi mzake koma kumenyana ndi vuto	Osamangoganizira, kudzudzula, kapena kukokera achibale anu m'mavuto
Mvetserani mwachifundo	Osapeputsa nkhani kapena kufooketsa nkhawa za mnzanu
Khalani ndi nthawi zoziziritsa	Osagunda pansi pa lamba kapena kutsata zofooka zawo
Onetsani chikondi chakuthupi ngati nonse muli bwino nazo. Agwireni ngakhale mukukangana	Osapereka chiganizo kapena kuwopseza kuti musiya chibwenzi
Khalani ndi zolakwa zanu ndikupepesa	Mkangano ukathetsedwa, musabweretse mkangano wamtsogolo

Chifukwa Chake Kukangana Kumakhala Bwino 

"N'chifukwa chiyani timakangana? Kodi ndi bwino kumenyana mu maubwenzi?" Mafunso awa akhoza kukuvutitsani mukangokangana ndi SO yanu. Ridhi akuti, "Mosasamala kanthu zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano, maanja amakangana chifukwa amakondana ndipo zomwe wina adachita kapena kunena zimamuvutitsa mnzake. Simungathe kuzisiya chifukwa ndiye kuti zimakhala zopewera. Kusayanjanitsika ndikosayenera, pomwe mikangano yaubwenzi imakhala yathanzi chifukwa simukusesa mavuto omwe ali pansi pa kapeti. Mukuwonetsa kuti simukufuna kuthana ndi mavutowo. njira yachisudzulo.

"Kodi ndi zachilendo kumenyana tsiku lililonse muubwenzi? Inde, ngati cholinga chake ndi kumanga ubale wolimba . Ayi, ngati mukufuna kungotulutsa mkwiyo wanu ndikudzudzula mnzanu. Mothandizidwa ndi mikangano yaying'ono iyi muubwenzi, mumaphunzira za zomwe zimayambitsa wina ndi mnzake, zoopsa, komanso kusadzidalira. Mumadziwa bwino machitidwe a makhalidwe abwino a wina ndi mnzake. Mikangano ndi zokambirana pakati pa anthu awiri omwe sali ofanana koma ali m'gulu limodzi."

Njira 8 Zothetsera Mikangano Paubwenzi

Cholinga cha mkangano uliwonse ndikupeza vuto ndikulithetsa. Okwatirana akamakangana nthawi zonse, nthawi zambiri amaiwala komwe akupita, komwe ndi kupeza yankho. 'Kukangana kwambiri ndi kotani' kumakhala funso lofunika kwambiri pamene mumangokangana ndi kukangana, ndipo simukudziwa momwe mungalekerere mkwiyo patapita nthawi yaitali mkanganowo utathetsedwa. Ngati cholinga ndikupambana mkangano ndi mnzanu, ndiye kuti mwataya kale. Nazi malangizo amomwe mungathanirane ndi mkangano ndi mnzanu omwe angathandize okwatirana kukangana kuthetsa mikangano mwaluso:

1. Tengani udindo pazochita zanu 

Ngati wokondedwa wanu wakhumudwa chifukwa cha zochita zanu, vomerezani. Pamene mukuchita ngati ndinu woyera mtima ndipo palibe chimene mungachite chomwe chingakhale cholakwika, m'pamenenso ubale wanu umakhala pachiwopsezo chachikulu. Chisangalalo cha ubale sichingapezeke pamene wina akuganiza kuti nthawi zonse ali wolondola ndipo wina ayenera kugwadira zofuna zake. Yakwana nthawi yoti mupepese zolakwa zanu. Pewani mikangano muubwenzi ndi kutenga udindo pa zolakwa zanu. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwamagawo olimbikitsa ubale omwe mungatenge kuti muwongolere chikondi chanu.

2. Phunzirani kulolera 

Kudziwa momwe mungagwirizanitse zinthu ndi komwe kumabweretsa chisangalalo muubwenzi. Ngakhale mukumenyana muubwenzi, phunzirani kugwirizanitsa zinthu. Simungathe kuchita zomwe mukufuna nthawi zonse. Ngati simukufuna kukhala ndi ndewu yofanana ndi mkangano womwewo tsiku lililonse, ndi bwino kuti mugwirizanitse zinthu nthawi ndi nthawi. Nazi malangizo ena oti mugwirizanitse zinthu muukwati kapena muubwenzi:

• Lekani kumenyana ndi mbale zauve ndikugawaniza ntchito zapakhomo kwa kanthawi
• Pakali pano, khalani ndi chidwi ndi zomwe mumakonda kuchita
• Pewani mikangano paubwenzi polankhulana momveka bwino zoyembekeza ndi zofunika pamoyo, zachuma, ndi zakuthupi
• Khalani ndi nthawi yabwino limodzi kuti mukwaniritse ubale wabwino
• Yang'anani nawo m'maso nthawi zonse ndikuyesera kulankhulana ndi chikondi chanu popanda mawu nthawi ndi nthawi
• Lankhulani wina ndi mnzake pomwe imayamba kumva ngati "nsembe"

3. Tengani kamphindi kuti mupume 

Mukakhala mkangano kwambiri, musakakamize mnzanuyo malingaliro anu onse ndi malingaliro anu. Chitani zimenezo pamene nonse muli bata. Ngati mnzanu akukukalirani, simukuyenera kumubweza kuti mutsimikizire kuti muli ndi mawu komanso kuti mumadziwa kuima. Zinthu izi zidzangowonjezera nkhuni kumoto. Mnzanu akayamba kukangana kowononga, ndiye kuti muchepetse nthawi yoziziritsa. Chokani pazochitikazo. 

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4. Osawakakamiza kumenyana 

Ndi zabwino komanso wokhwima kwa wokondedwa wanu ngati akudziwa kuti sangathe kuthana ndi mkangano ndipo amatha kuchita/kunena zomwe anganong'oneze nazo bondo. Zimasonyeza mmene amadziwira. Kotero ngati pa imodzi mwa ndewu zokwiyitsidwazi, mnzanuyo aganiza kuti apume kamphindi, ndiye alole. Pa pempho mnzanuyo / manja analengedwa kwa mphindi zimenezi, aloleni iwo ndi pang'ono yekha nthawi, ndipo musawathamangitse iwo kukuwa pa nsonga ya lilime lanu.

5. Palibe kuitana dzina

Ngati inu ndi mnzanu mukulimbana nthawi zonse, mwina ndi chifukwa chakuti palibe amene akuthetsa vuto lomwe lilipo koma akuwonjezera mavuto ena. Ingoonetsetsani kuti nthawi iliyonse mukakangana ndi mnzanuyo, musagwiritse ntchito mawu onyoza chifukwa kunyoza muubwenzi kumawononga kwambiri maziko a chikondi chanu. Zinthu zina zofunika kukumbukira ndi izi:

• Osapereka ndemanga zonyoza 
• Osamangoyang'ana maonekedwe awo kapena kuloza zala pa khalidwe la mnzanuyo 
• Osagwiritsa ntchito kusatetezeka kwawo motsutsana nawo 
• Osawauza kuti “khala chete” ndikuchita ngati odziwa zonse
• Osaganiza kalikonse 
• Pewani kulankhula mawu achipongwe 
• Osayesa kutsata wokondedwa wanu 

6. Osatsutsana pa zinthu zingapo nthawi imodzi

Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe kuyanjana kwabwino kumachepa pakati pa okondedwa. Osamenyana konse nthawi imodzi. Ridhi akusonyeza kuyika mphamvu zanu pa mkangano umodzi wokha m'malo molimbana ndi zinthu zonse zomwe ziri zolakwika mu mphamvu zanu. Kuphatikiza apo, mkangano ukangotha, musawutsenso mkangano wina

7. Kumbukirani kuti muli mu timu imodzi

Sizikukhudza chomwe chimayambitsa mikangano muubwenzi. Chofunika ndi momwe mumayankhira mikangano iyi ngati "gulu." Kumbukirani nthawi zonse kuti simukumenyana. Mukulimbana pamodzi polimbana ndi vuto. Mukasintha njira zanu zokangana muubwenzi ndikumenyana pamodzi ngati gulu, ndi njira imodzi yokhala ndi mikangano yabwino muubwenzi.

8. Osamugenda mwala mnzako mukangomenyana 

Ofufuza adapeza kuti kutsekereza miyala ndi njira ina yochitira nkhanza zamaganizo ndipo kumawononga thanzi la maganizo la amuna ndi akazi. Thanzi la maganizo limeneli lingakhudzenso thanzi la thupi. Mudzakhala ndi khosi lolimba, mutu umapweteka pafupipafupi, komanso kupweteka m'mapewa. Chifukwa chake, ngati mupatsa mnzanuyo chisamaliro chopanda pake mutakangana, ndiye kuti mukuchedwetsa ndewuyo ngakhale mutathetsa mavuto. Mukungofuna kuwalanga mwa kuwatsekereza. Musasonyeze mnzanuyo kusasamala mwa kusasamalira thanzi la mnzanuyo.

Kungoti mukumenyana kwambiri sizikutanthauza kuti ubale wanu uli pafupi kutha. Maubwenzi ndi nkhani yopeza nthawi zoseketsa ngakhale pamene nonse awiri mukukwiya kwambiri. Mukawagwiritsa ntchito bwino, angathandize kukonza mgwirizano wanu ngati banja. Ngati mikangano yanu ikukulirakulira ndipo palibe chomwe chikuwoneka kuti chikuchepetsa mavuto, muyenera kuganizira uphungu wa banja kuti mupeze chomwe chimayambitsa mavuto anu. Ngati mukufuna thandizo la akatswiri, gulu la alangizi odziwa bwino ntchito la Bonobology lili pafupi.

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