Zinthu Zomwe Muyenera Kudziwa Zokhudza Chibwenzi ndi Wosudzulidwa!

Kufalitsa chikondi

Kugwa mutu m’chikondi ndi wosudzulidwa? Kapena mukuyang'ana pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna / mkazi wachikulire wosudzulidwa kapena ndinu wosudzulidwa mukuyang'ananso chibwenzi pambuyo pa kusudzulana? Ngati mukudzifunsa mafunso ngati "kodi ndiyenera kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wosudzulidwa" kapena "Ndikuopa kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mkazi yemwe atha chisudzulo", "malamulo oti akhale pachibwenzi ndi chiyani pambuyo pa chisudzulo" kapena chibwenzi pambuyo pa chisudzulo muzaka za m'ma 30 zosavuta, kenako werengani… Palibe buku la malamulo oti mukhale pachibwenzi ndi wosudzulidwa. Ndi kusintha kwa nthawi, kukondana ndi anthu ochokera kumadera osiyanasiyana komanso kosiyanasiyana kukulandiridwa.

Chibwenzi Ndi Chisudzulo Ndi Zotheka Ndi Mavuto

M'ndandanda wazopezekamo

Palibe kusiyana kwenikweni pa chibwenzi ndi munthu amene sanakwatirepo ndi wosudzulidwa. Koma, kukhala pachibwenzi ndi wosudzulidwa ndi omwe akufufuza zibwenzi zosudzulana amapereka mwayi wapadera komanso zovuta. Ngakhale kuti pali madandaulo okhudzana ndi chibwenzi chosudzulidwa, mfundo zingapo zingakuthandizeni kuyendetsa njirayo.

Ndinali kumeneko, ndinachita zimenezo

Ukwati ndi wowongolera kwambiri. Zimakonda kusiya anthu ndi chidziwitso chabwino cha iwo eni komanso zomwe akufuna kuchokera paubwenzi. Mzere wasiliva wokonda chibwenzi ndi wosudzulidwa ndikuti sangapange zolakwika zomwe zidapangitsa kuti a ukwati walephera. Anthu amene ayambanso chibwenzi pambuyo pa kusudzulana amakhalanso ndi maganizo odetsa nkhawa pankhani ya chibwenzi.

Amangopanga ziyembekezo zenizeni kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wawo watsopano.

Wofunitsitsa kuti agwire ntchito

Chibwenzi kachiwiri pambuyo chisudzulo ndi kupanga izo ntchito

Ngati ubale wosudzulidwa ukupita ku kudzipereka kwakukulu, ndiye kuti zingathandize kukumbukira kuti akadathyola makoma angapo kuti apatsenso mwayi chikondi m'miyoyo yawo. Izi ndi zoona makamaka kwa makolo osudzulana omwe ali pachibwenzi.

M’chikondi chatsopano, osudzulana amene awona mbali zowawa za chisudzulo adzakhala kwanthaŵi yaitali ndi kufunafuna chikondi ndi unansi wokhutiritsa kachiwiri.

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Kusunga 'zenizeni'

Anthu amene banja lawo linasokonekera ali ndi njira 'yowona' yofikira maubwenzi atsopano. Amakonda kusakhala ndi ziyembekezo zosayembekezereka ndi zongopeka zaunyamata akazindikira kuti ubale umafunikira kugwira ntchito kosalekeza ndi kugwirizana. Tsopano atha kusankha kulowa mu zibwenzi popanda magalasi opaka maluwa.

Njira yocheperako - kutenga nthawi yawo

Nzeru zaukwati ndi kupatukana zimatsogolera anthu ambiri kutenga nthawi yawo ndi chikondi chatsopano. Angatenge nthawi ndi khama kuti apeze ndi kumvetsa chikondi chatsopano. Iwo sakanafuna kuthamangira mu zinthu. Izi zingathandize onse awiri kukhala omasuka komanso nthawi yomvetsetsana mokwanira komanso m'njira zomveka.

Osudzulana osati kokha kulimbana ndi zotulukapo zamaganizo za chisudzulo, koma ambiri a makhalidwe awo amakono amadziwitsidwa ndi ukwati umenewu ndi kutha kwake.

Sameira Joshi (36) wokhala ku Hyderabad (mayina asinthidwa kuti atetezeke) anati, "Ndinali wamng'ono kwa mwamuna wanga wamakono yemwe anali atangochoka m'chisudzulo chosokonekera. Pamene tinaganiza zokwatirana, ndinaumirira kulankhula ndi mkazi wake wakale ndipo ndinamufunsa mwachindunji ngati ankamunyozapo kapena kumuzunza. Atatsimikizira kuti sizinali choncho."

Komabe, Joshi ananena kuti zinatenga nthawi yaitali kuti mwamuna wake amukhulupirire pa nkhani ya ndalama. “Chisudzulocho chinatenga nthaŵi yaitali ndipo chinafooketsa chuma cha mwamuna wanga, chotero zinamtengera nthaŵi yaitali kuti andikhulupirire pa nkhani zandalama.” Ngakhale kuti poyamba zinkandipweteka, koma m’kupita kwa nthaŵi ndinayamba kukhulupirirana ndi kum’dalira.”

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M'menemo kwa nthawi yaitali

Ataona kuti banja likusokonekera, amakhala otanganidwa kwambiri. Angakhale otsimikiza zakupatsa chikondi mwayi wachiwiri m'miyoyo yawo ndikuwongolera. Kufuna kuchita bwino ndikukhala ndi mwayi wachiwiri m'chikondi kumatha kuwapangitsa kukhala otanganidwa kwambiri komanso kukhala otsimikiza za chikondi chatsopano.

Mlangizi wa Ukwati Prachi Vaish amapereka uphungu wabwino wokhalira pachibwenzi ndi mkazi wosudzulidwa kumene kapena kwa iwo amene akufuna kumanga ukwati ndi wosudzulidwa.

Akuti,

“Ngati munthu akuyang’ana chisudzulo kwa nthaŵi yaitali, chinthu choyamba kukumbukira n’chakuti panganolo lidzachitika mogwirizana ndi nthaŵi yake, osati yanu.

Vaish akuwonjezera zinthu zingapo zomwe akazi osudzulana akufuna amuna kapena omwe ali pachibwenzi pambuyo pa kusudzulana ayenera kuyang'ana. Iye anati, “Chachiwiri, kumbukirani kuti mulipo kuti mupange ubwenzi watsopano ndi munthu ameneyu.” Muyenera kuvomereza kuti wakaleyo anali ndi malo akeake m’moyo wawo ndipo zimenezi zidzakhalapobe nthawi zonse.

Ngati mukumva ngati m'malo mwa bwenzi lanu mwachindunji kapena mwanjira ina chifukwa amakupangitsani kukhala ndi khalidwe lomwe akanakhala nalo, kapena monga momwe adachitira kale, ndiye kuti ndi mbendera yofiira.

Muyenera kukhala pansi ndi kukambirana za izi. "

Malangizo 5 Opeza Chibwenzi ndi Mwamuna Wosudzulidwa

Nawa ZOTI NDI ZOSATI za chibwenzi

Kodi…

- Dziwani bwino lomwe banja lomwe lalephera

- Dziwani kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wanu ngati adakonza malingaliro ake pambuyo pa kusudzulana ndipo ali wokonzeka kupita patsogolo

- Onani pomwe akuyimira mwalamulo pankhani yaukwati wawo

- Dziwani ngati kupatukanaku kunali kovutirapo ndikusonkhanitsa abwenzi ndi abale kuti mudziwe mbali zonse za nkhaniyi.

- Dziwani momveka bwino zomwe mukufuna pachibwenzi

-Omwe amasankha kuchita zibwenzi pa intaneti pambuyo pa chisudzulo akuyenera kuwonetsetsa kuti ayang'ana mbiri ya mnzawoyo bwino komanso kuti zonse zomwe akunena zikuyenda bwino.

Osa…

- Kuthamangira ku zolinga zaubwenzi, kudzipereka kapena ukwati. Chitani mwachifatse

– Pitirizani kulankhula za wakale ndi analephera ukwati

- Ngati ali ndi ana, musathamangire kukakumana nawo

- Osagwiritsa ntchito zomwe adapeza m'banja lomwe adalepherapo m'mikangano yanu

- Chotsani madandaulo anu onse okhudzana ndi zakale ndi wokondedwa wanu kudzera mukulankhulana momasuka

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Ibibazo

1. Kodi kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi munthu amene wasudzulana n’kosiyana ndi kukhala ndi munthu amene sanakwatirepo?

Inde, pangakhale kusiyana kwakukulu. Wosudzulidwa akhoza kunyamula katundu wokhudzidwa ndi ukwati wawo wakale, kukhala ndi ana, kapena kukhala ndi mavuto azamalamulo ndi azachuma. Athanso kukhala ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana pa kudzipereka ndi maubale kutengera zomwe adakumana nazo m'mbuyomu.

2. Kodi ndi zinthu zabwino ziti zimene munthu angakumane nazo pa chibwenzi ndi munthu amene wasudzulidwa?

Ngakhale kuti pangakhale mavuto, kukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu amene wasudzulidwa kungakhalenso ndi ubwino wake:

Kukhwima ndi zochitika pamoyo: Nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi chidziwitso chochuluka cha iwo eni komanso zomwe akufuna muubwenzi.

Maluso olankhulana mwamphamvu: Atha kukhala omasuka komanso olankhula moona mtima chifukwa cha zomwe adakumana nazo m'mbuyomu.
Kuyamikira kudzipereka: Atakumana ndi kutha kwa ubale, angayamikire kudzipereka ndi kukhulupirika mozama.
Kupirira ndi mphamvu zamaganizo: Mwachionekere agonjetsa mavuto aakulu, kusonyeza kulimba mtima kwawo ndi kuthekera kwawo kulimbana ndi mavuto.

Maganizo Final

Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi wosudzulidwa kungakhale chokumana nacho chopindulitsa, chopatsa mwayi wolumikizana mwakuya, kukula, ndi kumvetsetsa. Komabe, m’pofunika kukhala ndi ubwenzi woterowo mwachifundo, moleza mtima, ndi kulankhulana momasuka. Mwa kuvomereza zovuta zomwe zingatheke ndi kuvomereza mbali zabwino, mukhoza kupanga mgwirizano wokwanira ndi wokhalitsa ndi wosudzulidwa. Kumbukirani, munthu aliyense ndi ubale uliwonse ndi wapadera, choncho tsatirani zochitika zilizonse ndi malingaliro omasuka komanso ofunitsitsa kuphunzira ndi kusintha.

Malangizo 9 Ofunika Popitiriza Kusudzulana

Malangizo 12 ofunikira pachibwenzi kwa osudzulana

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