Kodi Mungapirire Bwanji Chisudzulo Monga Mwamuna? MAYANKHO AKATSWIRI

Kuthetsa banja sikophweka, kaya mwamuna kapena mkazi. Mosasamala kanthu za jenda la munthuyo, chisudzulo, kapena nthaŵi zina ngakhale kulekana pambuyo pa chibwenzi chanthaŵi yaitali, kungakhale kovuta. Ndipo kudziwa momwe mungapirire kusudzulana ngati mwamuna yemwe ali ndi ana kapena wopanda ana kungakhale kovuta kwambiri chifukwa amuna nthawi zambiri amavutika kuvomereza ndi kumva kukhudzika kwathunthu kwa malingaliro akulu. Kupatulapo kuvutika maganizo, vuto lazachuma la chisudzulo lodzadza ndi chithandizo cha ana ndi mautumiki a zamalamulo likhoza kukhala lopundula.

Kusintha moyo wanu wonse kungakhale kokhumudwitsa. Thanzi la amuna limasokonezanso kwambiri. Komabe, ndizotheka kuchotsa mkunthowu popanda kusweka mtima komanso m'maganizo. Ngati mumadziona ngati mwamuna wosudzulidwa wosweka kapena mukuvutika kuti mugwirizane ndi kuthekera kwa banja lanu kutha, tili pano kuti tikugwireni dzanja paulendo wovutawu. Tiyeni tifufuze mayankho amomwe mungathanirane ndi kusudzulana ngati mwamuna, ndi chidziwitso kuchokera kwa psychotherapist Gopa Khan (Masters in Counseling Psychology, M.Ed), yemwe amagwira ntchito pa uphungu wa mabanja ndi mabanja.

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Maganizo a mwamuna amene akusudzulana angamve ngati ali paulendo wodutsa m'matumbo anu ndikusiya mtima ukugunda mkamwa mwanu. Akafunsidwa momwe kusudzulana kumasinthira mwamuna, Gopa "Mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwitsidwa ndi zina mwa malingaliro akulu omwe mwamuna akusudzulana. Umadziona ngati wolephera. Izi zimatsatiridwa ndi kusadzidalira ndi kusagwira ntchito bwino. chifukwa chakusudzulana ndi, pali nthawizonse kumverera kuti chirichonse chapita pansi kukhetsa mu moyo wake. Amamva ngati mulibe kanthu m'kati mwake ngati m'nyumba yopanda kanthu."

Chisudzulo ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zodetsa nkhawa kwambiri zomwe munthu angadutse, ndipo mofanana ndi zovuta zonse za moyo, banja losweka limabweretsa chisoni. Chotero tisanafike ku mmene tingapiririre kusudzulana monga mwamuna, tiyeni tione mmene chisoni chimagwirira ntchito. Kubwerera m'mbuyo kotereku kumatchedwa kusintha kwachisoni. Amagawidwa momasuka m'magawo awa:

1. Kukana

Choyamba, pamene chochitika chowononga choterocho chichitika, yankho loyamba kwa icho ndi kukana. Ndi njira ya malingaliro yodzipulumutsa yokha ku mantha. Mu gawo ili, sitikuvomereza zowawazo. Timapewa kuzama m’nkhaniyi chifukwa tinene kuti ndi piritsi lovuta kulimeza. Zili ngati ife kutseka maso athu ndikuyembekeza kuti zitipangitsa kukhala osawoneka. Chidziwitso ichi chimatipulumutsa ku mantha a nthawi yomweyo ndipo chimatilola kuti pang'onopang'ono tigwirizane ndi mdaniyo.

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2. Mkwiyo

“Mwamuna amene asudzulana amamvanso chimodzimodzi ndi zimene mkazi amachita ndipo amavutika maganizo kwambiri.” Ambiri mwa makasitomala amene amabwera kwa ine pambuyo posudzulana amadzimva kuti ali osokonezeka, odzipatula komanso okwiya kwambiri, akudzimva manyazi.

Pamene kuipa kwa zinthu kukucheperachepera, yankho lathu lotsatira ndi mkwiyo. Timanyamula mfuti yolakwa ndikungowombera pa chilichonse ndi aliyense. Ena amakhala aang'ono, pamene ena amangodzigudubuza. Pankhani yophunzira momwe angapewere chimphepo chamkunthochi, malangizo a Gopa ndi oti asatengeke ndi zizolowezi monga kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa kapena kulumphira m’maseŵera oledzeretsa. mgwirizano wobwerera. Inde, malingaliro anu angakhale olemetsa, koma pali njira zabwinopo zothetsera ndi kuchira.

3. Kukambirana

Pamene tikulimbana ndi kutaikiridwa mkwiyo wathu ukatha, timadzimva kukhala wopanda chochita. Mkwiyo umene tinkaganiza kuti ungachepetse ululuwo unakhala wosathandiza. Izi zimatipangitsa kukhala wofunitsitsa kuchita chilichonse kuti tichepetse ululu. Timayamba kuzindikira pamene tinalakwitsa ndikuyesera kugwirizanitsa kuganiza kuti ndiyo njira yopitira. Timayang'ana wakale wathu pazama media, timapemphera, timalonjeza kuti tisintha, ndipo tikuwonetsa kufunitsitsa kulolerana.

4. Kukhumudwa

Tsoka, titatha kuyesa mozama kuti tipeze chiombolo, timazindikira kuti ndi chifukwa chotayika. Timafika pogwirizana ndi zenizeni ndipo timayamba kumva kutayika momveka bwino komanso mozama. Chisokonezo cha malingaliro oipa chimayamba kukhazikika, ndipo timayamba kumva kukula kwa ululu. Timayamba kuvomereza kusapeŵeka kwake.

Apa ndipamene timayamba kudzipatula tokha ndikugonjera ku malingaliro athu. Ili mwina ndiye gawo lovuta kwambiri lakuchita chisoni ndipo lingakhalenso lalitali kwambiri. Amuna ena adanenanso kuti ali ndi malingaliro odzipha chifukwa cha kupsinjika maganizo pambuyo pa chisudzulo. Ngati mupeza kuti mwatsekeredwa mu gawo ili, chithandizo pambuyo pa chisudzulo zingakhale zothandiza kwambiri.

5. Kulandiridwa

Mu gawo lomaliza la kuzungulira, potsiriza timavomereza zenizeni monga momwe zilili. Sikuti simudzamvanso ululu kapena kutayika, koma panthawiyi, mudzakhala okonzeka kupitiriza. Chisoni ndi chisoni zikhoza kutsagana nanu mu gawo ili ndi kuvomereza, koma malingaliro ochuluka a mkwiyo ndi kupsinjika maganizo adzakhala atatha.

Malinga ndi Gopa, malingaliro a mwamuna wosudzulana ndi ovuta ndipo amafika patali. Palibe yankho limodzi lokha la momwe mungathanirane ndi kusudzulana monga mwamuna chifukwa zotsatira zake ndi momwe munthu amachitira ndi vuto ili zimadalira mikhalidwe yaumwini, zikhalidwe, ndi magawo a moyo.

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Kuti muthe kudziwa momwe mungathanirane ndi kusudzulana ngati mwamuna, muyenera kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake zimavuta poyambira. Tiyenera kulumikiza njira yothanirana ndi zomwe zimachitika kuti timvetsetse bwino kukula kwa chisudzulo kwa amuna. Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, amuna nthawi zambiri amakhumudwitsidwa, ndipo kulekana kumabweretsa kudzidalira kwawo, komwe kumalumikizidwa ndi chibadwa chawo chokhala opereka chithandizo. Iwo ali olimba kuti atsogolere dongosolo la banja ndikulisamalira. Ndizovuta kuti munthu agaye kuti walephera kukhala wosamalira. Mkangano wamkatiwu ukhoza kutenga mawonekedwe ambiri monga kukana, nkhanza, kapena kudzimvera chisoni, koma pachimake, ichi ndi chifukwa chake kupita patsogolo mutatha kupatukana ndi nkhondo yokwera kwa mwamuna.

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Zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri ngati kutha kwa banja kumatanthauzanso kupatukana ndi ana. “Pali atate ambiri amene amatanganidwa kwambiri ndi moyo wa ana awo.” Choncho amakumana ndi zowawa zambiri chifukwa ana nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi amayi awo ngati ali aang’ono.

“Ngati palibe ana amene ali ndi chibwenzi, onse awiri angathe kuchoka m’moyo wa wina ndi mnzake.” Komabe, mwamuna kapena mkazi amene ali ndi makolo awo sakhala ndi moyo wapamwamba choncho, m’pamene zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kupirira chisudzulo. Kulera ana pambuyo pa kusudzulana nthawi zonse zimatsogolera ku mikangano ndi mikangano, nthawi zina pamaso pa ana awo, zomwe zimatsogolera ku malingaliro olakwika ndi osakhazikika. Pakhoza kukhalanso kusoweka kwa mgwirizano pakati pa okwatirana akale. Amuna ambiri omwe amalandila chithandizo pambuyo pa kusudzulana amakumana ndi zovuta ngati izi,” akutero Gopa.

Kuzindikira uku kumabweretsa mafunso ena monga, zimatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti mwamuna apite patsogolo? Kapena, ngakhale kuti amuna amayesa kusonyeza mkhalidwe waumuna wosatopa, kunena kaŵirikaŵiri, kodi kuvutika maganizo kwa amuna pambuyo pa kusudzulana kuli kwenikweni? Tiyeni tiyese ndikuyankha mafunso awa ndi chidziwitso cha katswiri wa zamaganizo Gopa Khan m'munsimu:

Zimatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti mwamuna athetse chisudzulo?

Maganizo a mwamuna amene akusudzulana angatenge nthawi kuti akhazikike. Komabe, sizingatheke kulosera nthawi yomwe mwamuna atha kuthetsa chisudzulo. “Nthawi zambiri zimadalira munthuyo, koma nthawi zambiri, munthu amene wangodabwa amaona kuti n’zovuta kuti apitirizebe kutero.

“Pamene mkazi akupempha chisudzulo, mwamuna kaŵirikaŵiri amachita mantha chifukwa sanachiwonepo. Amuna osudzulidwa akumirabe m’zowawa ndi kutaya mtima kwa nthaŵi yaitali. Zitha kutenga chaka chimodzi kapena kuposerapo kuti apitirize. Koma munthu amene wayambitsa chisudzulo amaona kuti n’zosavuta. Ndiye mwamuna akasudzulana ndiye kuti mwai ukhoza kupita patsogolo mwachangu,” adatero Gopa.

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Kodi kuvutika maganizo kwa amuna pambuyo pa chisudzulo kulidi?

"Inde, ndi chinthu chenicheni. Kuvutika maganizo kwa amuna ndi akazi pambuyo pa chisudzulo ndi chenicheni. Pambuyo pake, mwadzidzidzi amakumana ndi kusintha kwakukulu kwa moyo komwe kumabwera monga funde lachisokonezo.

Mmodzi mwa makasitomala anga anandiuza kuti kusudzulana kwawo kunamukhudza patapita miyezi ingapo chisudzulo chitatha.” Apa m’pamene kusungulumwa kumayambika. Umayamba kusungulumwa kwambiri, umasoŵa chizoloŵezi cha moyo watsiku ndi tsiku ndipo umaona kuti dziko lako lawonongeka.

Amuna akuyenera kuyamba kuvomereza kuti moyo wawo wasintha ndipo ngati pangafunike asankhe uphungu wowathandiza kukhala omasuka ku moyo watsopanowu. Ngati inunso mukuvutika, kulankhula ndi mlangizi waluso kungakhale kopindulitsa kwambiri. Ndi alangizi ovomerezeka komanso odziwa zambiri pa Gulu la Bonobology, mutha kupeza chithandizo choyenera kuchokera ku chitonthozo cha nyumba yanu.

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Kusudzulana kungakhale kowawa kwambiri kwa mwamuna zotsatira za kusudzulana akhoza kukhala oipa kwambiri poyerekeza ndi mkazi. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri ndi mkazi amene amasonyezedwa kuti ndi yekhayo amene akulimbana ndi kusudzulana komanso kuchita ndi ana awo ngati alipo, moyo pambuyo pa chisudzulo kwa amuna nawonso ndi wovuta kwambiri.

Brad Pitt adalongosola zowawa zake pambuyo popatukana ndi Angelina pomwe adagona pansi pa bwenzi lake kwa milungu isanu ndi umodzi chifukwa anali "wachisoni kwambiri" kubwerera kwawo. Mosakayikira, amuna kaŵirikaŵiri amamanidwa udindo wolera ana, kusoŵa ndalama zolipirira ana awo, ndipo amavutika kulimbana ndi chisoni cha kutaya mabanja awo.

Palinso nthawi zina pamene amuna amakhala ndi wina amene amawadikirira pambuyo pa kusudzulana, ngakhale pamene akulimbana ndi kusudzulana kwawo ndipo sakuyang'ana aliyense. Akhoza kutenga nthawi yawo kuti akhazikike kaye ndi kuyambanso zinthu zatsopano, kudya zakudya zopatsa thanzi, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi pafupipafupi, ndi zina zotero. Tiyeni tiwone maupangiri angapo osudzulana a momwe mungapirire chisudzulo ngati mwamuna:

1. Choka

Tikamanena kuti tuluka tikutanthauza kuti osagawana nyumba imodzi ndi mnzako. Pamene okwatirana omwe akusudzulana akukhala pansi pa denga lomwelo, zimakonda kusokoneza zinthu komanso zimalepheretsa kuchira. M'malo mwake, ndi bwino kupeza malo omwe mungagwirizanenso nokha ndikuyambanso. Ndikoyenera kupanga malo atsopanowa kukhala abwino kwa ana. Detachment ndi njira yabwino yothanirana ndi malingaliro anu osakumana ndi zinthu zomwe zingakulepheretseni kuchira.

2. Khazikitsani ndondomeko yogwirira ntchito

Tikakumana ndi zoopsa, malingaliro athu amakhala ndi chizoloŵezi chobwerera ku zochitika ndi kukumbukira zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa nazo. Ndi njira yamalingaliro yopezera zomwe zidalakwika ndikupeza yankho. Ngakhale zikuwoneka ngati njira yabwino kwambiri yochitira izi, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kwa munthu. Ndikofunikira kuyatsa / kuzimitsa malingaliro anu kuchokera ku Sherlock mode kuti muchepetse. Apa ndipamene ndondomeko imabwera kukuthandizani. Zimakupangitsani kukhala opindulitsa, zomwe zimakhala zothandiza pamene mukuyesetsa pang'onopang'ono kuti mukhalenso wofunika komanso kuti mukhalenso ulemu.

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3. Muzimvetsa mmene mukumvera

Tsopano, ichi ndi chinthu chofala kwambiri chomwe timamva, sichoncho? Chabwino, zili choncho chifukwa. Monga mwamuna yemwe akusudzulana, malingaliro anu amatha kukhala achisoni kosatha, kutopa, mkwiyo, ndi nkhawa mpaka kupsinjika maganizo. Kwa amuna ena, ngakhale kudzuka pabedi kungakhale vuto lalikulu. Ndikofunika kuti musamangokankhidwa ngati mpira ndi malingaliro anu koma kumvetsetsa ndi kuvomereza.

Chifukwa chake, yankho limodzi losavuta la momwe mungalimbanire ndi kusudzulana monga mwamuna ndikukhala ndi nthawi yanu ndikuyang'ana malingaliro anu osati ngati wozunzidwa koma ngati wowonera kunja. Nkosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita, kotero ngati mukuona kuti ndinu wokonzeka, funani chithandizo. Palibe manyazi kuvomereza pambuyo pake-kusudzulana ndi vuto lalikulu ndipo mukuona ngati muli pamutu panu kuti mupirire.

4. Osatsutsa mchitidwe wachisoni

Mukangovomereza malingaliro anu, mutha kumva chisoni. Mbali yaikulu ya moyo wanu yasinthidwa ndipo palibe njira yopezera mtendere nayo koma kudutsa munjira yachisoni. Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, a magawo a chisoni ndi Kukana, Mkwiyo, Kukambirana, Kukhumudwa, ndi Kuvomereza. Mwamsanga kumva chisoni kutayikidwa kwanu, m'pamenenso mudzakhala mwamsanga panjira yoyambira moyo watsopano. Ngakhale, izi sizikutanthauza kuti mumakakamiza njira yanu kudutsa izi. Tengani nthawi yochuluka momwe mungafunire, kuthamangira izo kumangowonjezera masautso.

5. Chitani khama kuti mukonzenso moyo wanu

Munthawi yanu, yesetsani kuchitapo kanthu kuti mupite patsogolo. Malingaliro athu ndi matupi athu nthawi zonse akugwira ntchito kuti agwirizane wina ndi mnzake. Ngati malingaliro anu ali odzaza ndi mdima, thupi lanu lidzagwirizana ndi kutopa. Tikhoza kugwiritsa ntchito izi kuti tipindule. Ngati mutayesetsa kuti mukhale bwino, maganizo anu ndi thupi lanu zidzayamba kugwira ntchito kuti mukhale bwino.

Tengani pang'onopang'ono, yambani ndi chinthu chimodzi chaching'ono chomwe chimakupangitsani kumva bwino, ndiyeno mulole chisangalalo chaching'onocho chiwonjezereke. Chinsinsi apa ndikuti musamayembekezere zotsatira zazikulu koma ingoyang'anani pakuchita zinthu zomwe mumakonda nthawi zonse. Kutalikirana ndi zotsatira pomwe mukuyang'ana momwe mukumvera ndikosavuta kukuthandizani.

6. Muziganizira kwambiri za moyo wanu

Izi ndizopanda nzeru. Koma tikuuzani momwe mungathanirane ndi kusudzulana ngati mwamuna podziika patsogolo. Ubwino kapena thanzi ndi mawu ophatikizika ndipo chifukwa chake amatha kukhala osamvetsetseka kapena osamveka bwino. Tikukulangizani kuti mulumikizane ndi chisangalalo kapena chisangalalo. Si zokhazo zomwe zilipo ku thanzi koma ndi malo abwino kwambiri oyambira. Ena anganene kuti kuledzera kumawapangitsa kukhala osangalala choncho, tiyeni tifotokozere.

Kuchita zinthu ngati kuledzera sikumakusangalatsani koma kumangochepetsa ululu. Inde, kuthawa ululu kumatha kuwoneka ngati njira yabwino koma kumakupangitsani kumva kuti zovuta zake zikatha. M’malo mwake, yang’anani zinthu zimene zimakusangalatsani ndi kuwonjezera phindu. Kungakhale chinthu chophweka monga kuchitira umboni kutuluka kwa dzuŵa ndi kapu ya tiyi, kungopita kothamanga, kapena kuwerenga buku lomwe mumakonda. Chinthu choyamba chokhudza kudzisamalira ndikuyamba kuwonjezera chimwemwe ndi phindu pang'ono ndikumangapo pang'onopang'ono.

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7. Khalani ndi machitidwe oganiza bwino

Zochita ngati kusinkhasinkha zimagwira ntchito zodabwitsa. kusinkhasinkha ndikumva ngati ntchito yambiri, sichoncho? Tiye tikuphwanyeni inu. Kusinkhasinkha sikutanthauza kuti muyenera kukhala ngati mayogi ndi kuimba mantras. Ngakhale mawonekedwe anu amathandizira ndi njirayi koma mutha kuyamba ndi njira zosavuta. Kusinkhasinkha ndiko kukumbukira. Nanga bwanji tikakuuzani kuti mungathe kusinkhasinkha pamene mukupanga khofi yanu yam'mawa?

Zomwe muyenera kuchita ndikuyesa ndikuyika chidwi chanu chonse pakupanga khofi. Dzilowetseni mu sitepe iliyonse ndi mphamvu zanu zonse. Yang'anani kukankhira kwa batani pamakina anu a khofi, momwe akutsanulidwira mu kapu, ndi zina zotero. Mukumvetsa lingaliro, chabwino? Ngati kupanga khofi kukutengerani mphindi zisanu, kukumbukira zonse zomwe zachitika kumatanthauza kuti mumasinkhasinkha kwa mphindi zisanu. Zabwino kwambiri, hu? Izi zikuthandizani kuti mukonzenso bwino komanso kuti bata pakati pa chipwirikiti ndi chisangalalo basi.

8. Pewani zododometsa

Mukakhala pakati pa kuchira ku vuto lalikulu ngati chisudzulo, chinthu choyipa kwambiri chomwe mungachite ndikusokonezedwa ndi kuchira. Mutha kutuluka, ndikupewa malo omwe mungakumane ndi mnzanu wakale, koma nanga bwanji chida champhamvu kwambiri chosokoneza chomwe chidapangidwapo chomwe chimakhala mthumba mwanu? Inde, foni yanu!

Mphindi ina mukungoyang'ana pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndikuyang'ana abwenzi anu apamtima ndi achibale anu akukhazikitsa malo osangalatsa, ndipo mphindi yotsatira mukuyamba kumva mdima wopweteka kwambiri. Musanadziwe, mukuchezera kukumbukira njira, kuzembera mkazi wako wakale ndi ana anu, ndi zina zotero. Zimangoipiraipirabe. Tikufuna kuti tifotokozere za detox yapa social media. Musalole moyo wa wina aliyense kusokoneza ulendo wanu wobwerera ku chisudzulo.

9. Bwezerani bwinja ndi kudzipatula kolimbikitsa

Ndikwachibadwa kusafuna kucheza ndi wina aliyense pamene mukumva kuti mulibe kanthu komanso muli wosungulumwa mkati. Pali njira yomwe mungagwiritsire ntchito chikhumbo chokhala nokha pamene mukukhumba chithandizo ndi chitonthozo kuti mupindule. Timachitcha kudzipatula kothandiza. Mukazindikira ndandanda yogwira ntchito yomwe imasamalira zinthu zomwe zili zofunika, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito kufunitsitsa kukhala nokha kuti muphunzire kukhala njira yanu yothandizira malingaliro. Mungachite zimenezi pochita zinthu zing’onozing’ono zomwe zimakupangitsani kudziona kuti ndinu wofunika, muzitcha kuti kudzisangalatsa ngati mukufuna.

Kumbukirani, izi zidzafuna kukankhira kokhazikika pamene malingaliro anu ali odzaza ndi chisoni ndi zokhumudwitsa. Palibe vuto, tengani sitepe imodzi panthawi. Kamphindi kakang'ono kachisangalalo kadzatenga malo ndipo mutha kukhala munthu wamphamvu komanso wodziyimira pawokha pakapita nthawi.

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10. Lumikizananinso ndi anzanu komanso abale

Izi zimabwera mutangopanga mtendere ndikukhala ndi nthawi yodzipatula pakampani yanu. Mukangoyamba kudzimva kuti ndinu wofunika, pamapeto pake mudzakhala okonzeka kuyanjananso ndi anthu omwe amakukondanidi. Mudzafunika kusintha kosalala kubwerera kudziko lapansi ndipo anthu awa adzakuthandizani nazo. Kuuza wina zakukhosi kwanu ndikumverani kwenikweni ndi chilimbikitso chomwe tonse timafunikira pamene tikuyesera kuchiza bala lalikulu lamalingaliro.

11. Luso lokhululukira

Pali zambiri zolakwa pa chisudzulo. Kawirikawiri, zimayamba ndi kuimba mlandu mnzanuyo, ndipo pamapeto pake, timazindikira kuti ifenso ndife olakwa. Njira yomaliza yopitira patsogolo ndi moyo wanu mutasudzulana ndikukhululukirana nokha ndi mnzanuyo. Ichi ndi chomaliza chodula zingwe zonse kuchokera ku zochitika zakale ndikupita ku tsogolo ndi katundu wochepa. Koma kukhululuka mu maubale pambuyo pa tsoka ngati limeneli ndi ntchito yaikulu.

Yambani ndikukhululukira mnzanu posatengera kuti wapepesa kapena ayi. Kenako, pemphani chikhululuko chifukwa cha zimene munachita kuti banja lanu lithe, ndipo pomalizira pake dzikhululukireni pa chilichonse. Ingokumbukirani kuti mumangoyang'anira zochita zanu zokha. Choncho, ngakhale mnzanuyo sakupepesa, mukhoza kumukhululukira. Ngakhale atakhala kuti sakukhululukirani, mukhoza kupepesa ndi kudzikhululukira. Machiritso awa akukhudza inu ndi inu nokha.

12. Negate zone yosinthira

Zonse zikachitika ndikuphwanyidwa, mutha kudzipeza kuti mwataika. Chisonicho chidzatha pamene mukuchita zonse zomwe mungathe koma mukhoza kudzifunsa kuti, "Nanga bwanji?" Gawo ili ndi limene akatswiri a zamaganizo amatcha malo osinthika. Chinsinsi ndicho kusapanikizika kwambiri. Kuganiza za zinthu zomwe nthawi zonse mumafuna kuchita koma simunakhalepo ndi malo abwino oti muyambe mukakhala okonzeka kutengapo gawo lomaliza kuti mupeze momwe mungathanirane ndi kusudzulana ngati mwamuna.

Ngakhale mukuyenera kukhala mu nthawi ino, mukufunikira malangizo oti mupite patsogolo. Yang'anani ku zochitika zatsopano, maubwenzi atsopano, ndi mapulani omwe mwayimitsa. Lumikizananinso ndi anzanu akale, pangani ena atsopano, ndikudzifufuzanso. Mukayamba kusuntha ndi njira yolunjika, tsogolo lanu limayamba kuonekera pamaso panu ndipo lidzakhala lokongola kwambiri kuposa momwe mungaganizire.

“M’lingaliro langa, yankho labwino kwambiri la mmene mungathetsere chisudzulo si kuloŵa m’chibwanabwana.” Ndidziŵa kuti nkwapafupi kunena kusiyana ndi kuchita.

Zimatenga nthawi kuti zikumbukiro zowawazo zizizire ndipo kuti mupitirizebe bwino. Kutengeka maganizo kwambiri ndi mbali ya zotsatira za kupatukana. Ndi zachilendo kumva ululu koma m'kupita kwa nthawi munthu amachira ndipo inunso mudzachira! Tikukhulupirira kuti nkhaniyi yakuthandizani kuyankha funso la momwe kusudzulana kumasinthira mwamuna bwino. Ngati mutasintha ndikukhala ndi maganizo abwino, mudzatuluka ngati munthu wabwinoko.

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