Kulingalira za kuthetsa ukwati nkovuta, komabe, kwa anthu ambiri, vuto lenileni liri m’kupita patsogolo pambuyo pa kusudzulana. Kulemera kwa lonjezo losweka la chimwemwe chosatha, kumasula zisonkhezero za moyo wa m’banja, kulola kukhalira limodzi kwa zaka zambiri, kutola mbali za moyo wothedwa nzeru, ndi kutuluka m’dziko monga munthu wosakwatiwanso kuli kutali kwambiri.
Wonjezerani ku kuipa kwa mikangano ya m’mabwalo ya nthaŵi yaitali, zothetsa nzeru za kulera ana, ndi kupeza mmene mumayendera m’maganizo, m’mayanjano, ndi m’zachuma, ndipo mungadzipeze mukuganiza kuti ukwati wopanda chikondi, wosokonekera umene munakhalamo unali woipa kwambiri kuposa moyo wapambuyo pa chisudzulo. Tikudziwa, zomwe tikudziwa nthawi zonse zimakhala zotonthoza kuposa moyo wosatsimikizika. Komabe, ino si nthawi yoti muganizirenso zosankha zanu kapena kudabwa ngati kukhalabe paubwenzi wosakwaniritsa kukanakhala chisankho chanzeru - sichoncho.
Mukuyenera kusangalala pa gawo lililonse la moyo wanu. Ngati njira yopita ku chimwemwe chimenecho idutsa m’mabwinja a ukwati, ndiye kuti zikhale choncho. Kupatula apo, kusudzulana sichigamulo chomwe mumangofikira mopepuka, kotero choyambirira, chotsani zomwe zikanakhala. Ngakhale kuti sizingawoneke ngati mu nthawi yamdima kwambiri, mwatenga kale sitepe loyambalo kuti muyambenso kulamulira moyo wanu. Tsopano, muyenera kupindula nazo.
Zomwe mumachita kuti mupitirire chisudzulo zimadalira momwe moyo wanu ukuyendera kuyambira pano. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti tichite bwino. Izi zikutanthauza kuti musiye kudzimvera chisoni n’kuyamba kudzisamalira komanso kuphunzira kudziika patsogolo. Tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni paulendowu, mogwirizana ndi ophunzitsidwa bwino amalingaliro komanso oganiza bwino Pooja Priyamvada (yotsimikiziridwa mu Psychological and Mental Health First Aid yochokera kwa Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health ndi University of Sydney), yemwe amagwira ntchito yopereka uphungu wa zibwenzi kunja kwa banja, kulekana, kupatukana, chisoni, ndi kutayika, kungotchulapo zochepa chabe.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Njira yochoka pachisudzulo ndi yapadera kwa aliyense. Kutalika kwa ukwati wanu kumagwirizana mwachindunji ndi nthawi yomwe mutenge kuti mupitirize. Mkhalidwe wa unansi wanu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wakale ndi mikhalidwe ya chisudzulo nazonso zimathandizira. Mwachitsanzo, ngati munatuluka m’banja chifukwa chakuti munasiya kukondana ndi mnzanuyo, kungakhale kosavuta kuyambanso kuposa kunena kuti, ngati kusudzulana kudachitika chifukwa chakuti mnzanu wakunyengererani.
Kutengera zosinthazi, nthawi yopitilira ikhoza kukhala miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kapena zaka zisanu ndi chimodzi. Komabe, malinga ndi a phunziro, zimatengera anthu pafupifupi miyezi 18 kuti athetse kusiyana kwa amuna kapena akazi awo. Pooja akufotokoza kuti: “Anthu ambiri amavutika kuti apitirizebe chisudzulo chifukwa cha kudzimva kuti akutaya, kusokonezeka maganizo, ndi kusautsika panjira yolondola yokhalira moyo wopanda mkwiyo kapena nkhaŵa.”
Kupatula apo, kuti zimakutengerani nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti musiye zokumana nazo zosasangalatsa za banja lolephera kumadaliranso momwe mumafotokozera kupita patsogolo. Ngati tanthawuzo lanu likutha kuyambiranso monga munthu wodziimira yekha, wosakwatiwa, yemwe pamapeto pake amalamulira moyo wake, zingakhale zosavuta kutuluka mumithunzi ya moyo wanu waukwati.
Kumbali ina, ngati lingaliro lanu losunthira ndikupita kugwanso m'chikondi, ndiye ndondomekoyi ikhoza kukopeka kwambiri. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti simungapeze chikondi pambuyo pa chisudzulo kapena kukhala pa maubwenzi atsopano. Inde, mungathe. Mutha kulowa muubwenzi wokhutiritsa kuposa womwe mudakhala nawo. Sizingatheke kulumphira muubwenzi - makamaka woona - mutangosudzulana.
Chinthu chinanso chomwe chimatsimikizira momwe kukhalira kosavuta kapena kovuta kupita patsogolo pambuyo pa kusudzulana ndi kuchuluka ndi kulimba kwa kugwirizana. Ngakhale zitakhala kuti chibwenzicho chinali choipa ndipo nonse mukuvomereza kuti kukhala kutali ndi chinthu chabwino kwambiri chimene mungachite, mungakhalebe ndi vuto pothetsa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wakale. Izi ndi zoona makamaka pa maubwenzi oipa kapena ankhanza, pamene okwatirana amamangiriridwa pamodzi osati chifukwa cha chikondi koma chifukwa cha chiyanjano chopanda thanzi koma champhamvu.
Chofunikira ndichakuti, zitenga nthawi yayitali, ndipo ngati muli ndi mwayi, mutha kupeza kuti mukuyenererana ndi kafukufuku wothandizidwa ndi miyezi 18 yothetsa chisudzulo. Inde, njirayo idzakhala yovuta, makamaka ngati mukuyesera kuchoka pa chisudzulo chomwe simunafune, koma ndi khama lokhazikika, mukhoza kutembenuza izi kukhala maziko a tsogolo lowala.
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N'chifukwa Chiyani Mungakhale Mukulimbana Ndi Kuthetsa Chisudzulo?
Chisudzulo ndi kulumpha mumdima ndipo si zachilendo kumva kusakhazikika kapena kutaya chidziwitso pambuyo pake. Kwa nthawi yaitali, munali mbali ya banja, ngakhale kuti simunali osangalala, ndipo maudindo amene munachita m’banja mwanu amakhala mbali yaikulu ya kudziwika kwanu. Zonsezo zikachotsedwa, n’kwachibadwa kudzimva kukhala wothedwa nzeru ndi mafunso onga akuti, Ndine yani? Kodi cholinga cha moyo wanga ndi chiyani? Kodi ndiyenera kutsamira ndani?
Ngati kusudzulana kunachitika kalekale kwambiri moti simungachione m’mbuyo mwa moyo koma mumadziona kuti mukulimbana ndi maganizo otaya mtima, odziimba mlandu, ndiponso maganizo osokonezeka kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wakale, pangakhale zinthu zina zimene zingakuchititseni kuti musamapitebe patsogolo. Monga:
- Mkwiyo wosathetsedwa pa momwe chisudzulo chanu chinachitikira
- Kudziyang'anira pansi
- Kudzimva ngati ndiwe wosudzulidwa wosudzulidwa osati gawo lofanana kwa izo
- Kukhumudwa chifukwa choperekedwa ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi
- Kuopa kulola ndikupitilira
- kusungulumwa
- Mavuto apakati pa moyo
- Matenda a m'maganizo monga nkhawa kapena kukhumudwa
- Zokonda kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo
Pooja akuti, “Mapeto a ukwati amakhala opweteka kwambiri. Banja lolephera lingasiye munthu ali ndi liwongo la “kulephera.” Pamene zimenezo zichitika, kukhala ndi lingaliro lodzipatula ndi lolinganizika la mkhalidwe wanu kungakhale kothandiza.
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Tsopano kubwera ku funso lomwe linakubweretsani inu pano: momwe mungapitirire kusudzulana? Ngakhale kuti palibe yankho lofanana ndi limodzi pano, kuphunzira kuika phazi limodzi patsogolo pa linalo ndi kutenga masitepe a mwana ku tsogolo labwino ndilo chinsinsi. M'malo mongodandaula ndi chilichonse nthawi imodzi, yesetsani kusuntha mwadongosolo. Ikani zofunika zanu patsogolo ndikuyesetsa kuthana nazo.
Kuthana ndi malingaliro osasangalatsa komanso kukonzanso ubongo wanu kuti muchiritse ku zowawa ndizofunikanso kuti mupitirire chisudzulo. Ndipo mungacite bwanji zimenezo? Nawa maupangiri othandizira akatswiri omwe angathandize:
1. Ikani patsogolo kudzisamalira kuti muchiritse ndi kupitiriza
Tsopano popeza sunakwatirenso, uyenera kukhala ndi msana. Ululu ndi mabala a maganizo a ukwati walephera zitha kukhala zowononga zonse ngati simuchitapo kanthu kuti mukwaniritse. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kuyika patsogolo kudzisamalira ndikofunikira pakadali pano. Dzipatseni nokha chilichonse chomwe mungafune kuti mudutse nthawi yovutayi ndikupezanso mtendere, chisangalalo, ndi chisangalalo.
Pooja anati: “M’pofunika kwambiri kuti muziganizira kwambiri za inuyo mukatha kusudzulana.” Panthawi imeneyi, ubwenzi wanu ndiwekha ndi wofunika kwambiri.
Kukhala pamtendere ndi inu nokha kungafupikitse nthawi yochira kwambiri. Nawa machitidwe odzisamalira omwe mungaphatikizepo m'moyo wanu kuti muchiritse ndikupita patsogolo mwachangu:
- Pewani kugwiritsa ntchito njira zosayenera monga kusuta, kumwa mowa mwauchidakwa, kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo
- Dalirani okondedwa anu kuti akuthandizeni ndi kukutonthozani
- Osadzipatula
- Idyani bwino ndipo samalira thanzi lanu
- Khalani otakataka, phatikizani zina zolimbitsa thupi muzochita zanu. Ma endorphin omwe amatulutsidwa panthawi yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi akhoza kukhala mankhwala amatsenga a pambuyo pa chisudzulo
- Yesetsani kukhala osamala komanso kulemba nkhani kuti muthe kuthana ndi vuto lanu lachisudzulo
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2. Lirani chisoni chifukwa cha imfa yanu koma dziwani nthawi yoti musiye
Moyo pambuyo pa chisudzulo ungamve ngati chipwirikiti chosatha chodzaza ndi zokhotakhota popanda njira yotulukira. Kuti zinthu ziipireipire, simukhalanso ndi mnzanu amene mumakumana naye ndikupeza zonse. Amenewo angakhale malo owopsa ndi osungulumwa kukhala m’moyo. Osanenapo, mwataya mbali yodziwika ya moyo wanu. Kusintha konseku ndi kusatsimikizika kumadzetsa malingaliro olakwika ambiri ndi malingaliro osasangalatsa.
Osawatsekereza kapena kuwakankhira kutali chifukwa muyenera kulimba mtima. Palibe kulimba mtima pothawa malingaliro anu, kuyang'anizana nawo ndi kuwakumbatira ndiko kulimba mtima kwenikweni. Choncho m’masiku oyambirirawo chisudzulo chitatha, vomerezani chisoni chanu, chisoni chanu, malingaliro otaya mtima, chisokonezo, mantha anu, ndi chirichonse chimene mungakhale nacho. Zonse zikusambitseni. Pitani ku zonse magawo a chisoni. Lirani, kukuwa, kukuwa, ngati mukufuna kutero.
Mutakonza malingaliro onsewa, vomerezani kuti ukwati wanu tsopano ndi mutu wotsekedwa. Tsopano muyenera kusiya kugudubuza ndi kuyang'ana pa kumanganso moyo wanu, njerwa ndi njerwa. Pooja akulangiza kuti: “Ngakhale mutakumbukira nthaŵi zonse zabwino zimene munali nazo ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wakale, phunzirani kusangalala ndi zikumbukiro zimenezo, osati kungoyendayenda.
3. Konzani mayendedwe a moyo wanu watsopano
Kumanganso moyo wanu pambuyo pa kusudzulana kwenikweni kumatanthauza kuyambanso kuyambira pachiyambi. Mukalekanitsa miyoyo iwiri yomwe yakhala ikukhudzidwa kwa nthawi yayitali, ndizachilengedwe kuti simungatuluke wathunthu. Ndipo sitingotanthauza zamaganizo. Mosasamala kanthu za mkhalidwe wa banja, okwatirana amadalirana kwambiri. Chisudzulo chimatanthauza kuphunzira kukhala popanda dongosolo lochirikiza limenelo.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati mukufuna kupitiriza chisudzulo ngati mkazi yemwe wayika ntchito yake kumbuyo kwaukwati wake, mungafunike kupeza njira yodziyimira pawokha pazachuma. Mwina, kulitsa luso kapena kutsitsimutsa maluso anu ochezera pa intaneti kuti mupeze ntchito, ndi zina zotero. Mofananamo, kupitabe patsogolo pambuyo pa kusudzulana monga mwamuna kungatanthauze kutenga mathayo amene mkazi wanu anali nawo patali.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwasudzulana makolo amene ali kulera limodzi, mungafunikire kukhala wothandizana kwambiri ndi ndandanda ya ana anu, maphunziro, maprogramu akusukulu, ndi zina zotero. Kuchokera pa kulipira mabilu simufunikira kusamalira ntchito zapakhomo zomwe mumakonda kuzipereka kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, kusudzulana kungakhale phunziro la kuphunzira ndi kusaphunzira. Landirani izo.
3. Chotsani anthu oopsa pamoyo wanu
Moyo wakupatsani mwayi woti muyambenso mwatsopano, ndipo ndi bwino kutero ndi slate yoyera. Pamene mukupita patsogolo mutatha kusudzulana, chotsani anthu onse oopsa pamoyo wanu. Tonse tili ndi anthu m'miyoyo yathu omwe, pazifukwa zina, amawoneka kuti akufuna kutigwetsa pansi ndikumaliza kutikumbutsa nthawi zomwe timakonda kuiwala. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mwasankha choka pambuyo pa chigololo, simungafune kuti anzanu omwe mumawaganizirawo akukumbutseni zolakwa za mnzanu nthawi iliyonse yomwe apeza kapena miseche.
Ndizovuta kwambiri momwe zimakhalira kupitilira pambuyo pa chisudzulo ndi kusakhulupirika, koma 'abwenzi' owopsa ndi achibale amatha kukulitsa. Ndibwino kuwasiya m'mbuyo pamene mukuganizira za machiritso ndikupita patsogolo. Mutha kudalira bwenzi lanu lapamtima komanso okondedwa anu kuti akuwoneni panthawi yovutayi. Lolani iwo omwe alibe zokonda zanu agwe m'mbali mwa njira.
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4. Musalole kuti phwando lachisoni lachisudzulo lipitirire kwa nthawi yayitali
Kutha kwa banja simathero a zotheka kwa inu. Zoonadi, ndi chokumana nacho chowawa koma simungapitirize kugwedezeka ndi malingaliro olakwika monga kudzimvera chisoni, mkwiyo, kapena kuwawidwa mtima. Mosasamala kanthu kuti munakwatirana ndi achinyamata ndipo simukudziwa momwe moyo wopanda mnzanu ungawonekere kapena anasudzulana pa 50 mutakhala ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kwa zaka zambiri, n’zotheka kuyambiranso moyo wanu.
Chotero lekani kuloŵa m’mikhalidwe yoipitsitsa ya nkhaŵa, chisoni, ndi kudzimva kukhala wosakwanira. Ndiwe woposa ubale womwe walephera. Onetsetsani kuti musamadzifotokozere nokha mwa kusudzulana. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka pa nkhani ya chisudzulo chotsutsidwa, chomwe chingakhale chopweteka kwambiri. Polankhula za nkhaniyi, loya wina wodziwika bwino wa kusudzulana Vandana Shah adauza Bonobology, "Muyenera kuyang'ana za moyo kuseri kwa bwalo lamilandu. Mlanduwu ukhoza kupitilira kwa nthawi yayitali malinga ndi zovuta za mlandu wanu, koma njira yanu yopitira patsogolo iyenera kuyamba nthawi yomweyo."
5. Phunzirani kukhazikitsa malire abwino ndi wakale wanu
Mosiyana ndi kusudzulana kumene okwatirana angathe kungodumphadumpha ndi kupita njira zawo zosiyana kuti asadutsenso njira ngati atasankha, kuchotsa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wakale pa moyo wanu sikungakhale zenizeni. Izi ndi zoona makamaka ngati mukulera limodzi ngati makolo osudzulana. Muzochitika ngati izi, malire osayenera ndi mkazi wakale kapena mwamuna wakale akhoza kusokoneza umoyo wanu wamaganizo komanso kukupangitsani kukhala kosatheka kuti mupite patsogolo.
Ponena za nkhaniyi, uphungu wa zamaganizo Kavita Panyam Poyamba anauza Bonobology kuti: “Mutatha kusudzulana, mumakhala munthu wachitatu m’moyo wa wakale wanu.
Choncho, patulani nthawi yosankha malire amene mukufuna kuwaikira ndi kuwafotokozera bwinobwino mmene mungathere kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wakale. Khalani aulemu koma otsimikiza, kuti amvetse uthenga woti mukujambula mzere mumchenga. Nazi zitsanzo za malire abwino ndi wakale:
- Sitidzalankhula za ukwati wathu - kaya zabwino, zoipa, kapena zoipa
- Kugonana kapena zokambirana zilizonse zokhudzana ndi moyo wathu wakugonana sizikupezeka pagome
- Sitidzagwiritsa ntchito ana athu ngati zopondera pamikangano yathu
- Sitidzagwilitsila nchito maganizo athu kusokoneza ana athu
- Sitidzasokonezana wina ndi mzake pa chibwenzi kapena maubale atsopano
- Tidzalumikizana kudzera m'malemba / maimelo momwe tingathere
- Tidzasunga zokambirana zathu kukhala zachikhalidwe; ngati mmodzi wa ife akhudzidwa, tidzathetsa zokambiranazo ndikuwonanso mutuwo pambuyo pake
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6. Thandizani ana anu kukhazikitsa mtendere ndi kusudzulana kwawo
Kusudzulana kwa makolo kumasesa moyo wa anawo ngati mphepo yamkuntho, kusinthiratu dziko lawo lonse. Pamene mukulimbana ndi zowawa zanu ndi zovuta zanu, simungathe kuzinyalanyaza zotsatira za chisudzulo pa ana anu. Mosasamala kanthu kuti mwasankha kukhala kholo limodzi kapena kuwapatsa chitsimikizo chakuti nonse mudzakhalapo kwa iwo nthawi zonse, iwo ayenera kulimbana ndi mantha ndi kusadzidalira kwawo.
Monga kholo lawo, udindo wopangitsa kusinthaku kukhala kosavuta kwa iwo ukugwera pa inu. Ngati ex wanu akufuna kukuthandizani pa izi, chabwino ndi chabwino. Ngati sichoncho, muyenera kudzitengera nokha kuti mugwire dzanja lawo panthawi yovutayi komanso yovuta. Nazi njira zina zomwe mungathandizire ana anu kuthana ndi kusudzulana kwanu:
- Alimbikitseni kuti afotokoze maganizo awo ndi malingaliro awo ndi inu ndi kuwamva popanda chiweruzo kapena kukhumudwa
- Musawapangitse kumva ngati akufunika kulowerera kapena kusankha pakati pa makolo awo
- Fotokozani zifukwa za kusudzulana m’njira yoyenerera msinkhu wawo komanso popanda kupangitsa kholo lina kuwoneka ngati woipa m’nkhaniyo.
- Musamapse mtima kapena kupsa mtima
- Konzani kuti alankhule ndi phungu kapena kupeza chithandizo chofunikira ngati akuvutika kuti agwirizane ndi kusintha kwa kusintha kwa mabanja.
7. Kulowa gulu lothandizira kungakuthandizeni kuti mupite patsogolo
Magulu othandizira amatha kupereka malingaliro ofunikira komanso kutsimikizira. Pamene mukugawana malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu ndi anthu amalingaliro ofanana, mumazindikira kuti zovuta zanu ndi zochitika zanu zili patali. Pali ena ambiri kunja uko m’ngalawa imodzi ndi amene mwawolokera kutsidya lina. Sikuti anthuwa angapereke chidziŵitso chofunika chamomwe mungapitirire kusudzulana komanso kukupatsani chiyembekezo panthaŵi yachisoni.
Mutha kuganizira zopeza gulu lothandizira lapafupi mdera lanu kapena kufufuza njira izi pa intaneti:
- CirclesUp - Gulu lotsogozedwa ndi akatswiri
- Chisudzulo cha Amayi - Kwa akazi osudzulidwa/osudzulidwa posachedwa
- Chisudzulo cha Amuna - Chifukwa chopitilira chisudzulo ngati mwamuna
- Kubwezeretsa Kwapakati pa Moyo - Kwa osudzulana azaka zapakati
- SupportGroups – Kwa makolo osudzulana
8. Pezani thandizo kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo
Kubwerera mmbuyo kwakukulu monga kutha kwa banja kungawononge thanzi lanu lamalingaliro. Ndipotu, kuvutika maganizo pambuyo pa chisudzulo ndi chiopsezo chenicheni. Research zimasonyeza kuti anthu amene anasudzulidwa amakhala ndi mwayi wovutika maganizo kuwirikiza ka 6 kuposa anzawo apabanja.
Pooja analangiza motero Pooja anati: “Chilichonse chopweteketsa mtima chimayambitsa vuto la maganizo ndipo chisudzulo mosakayikira chimapweteka kwambiri.” M'pofunika kuona mmene mukumvera mumtima mwanu, ndipo ngati pangafunike kutero, funsani katswiri wa zamaganizo kuti akuthandizeni. Ngati mukuwona kuti thanzi lanu layamba kugunda kapena kuti mukuvutikira kusudzulana, kumbukirani kupempha thandizo si kufooka kapena kuchita manyazi. Ndi mtundu wina wodzisamalira, ndipo simuyenera kuchita manyazi. Ngati mukuyang'ana thandizo, alangizi aluso komanso odziwa zambiri Gulu la Bonobology zili pano chifukwa cha inu.
9. Phunzirani kukhala mbeta kwakanthawi
Lingaliro lokhala wosakwatiwa komanso wopanda bwenzi lingakhale lotopetsa kwa munthu yemwe wapatukana atakhala pachibwenzi kwautali koma ndi zomwe muyenera kuchita. Nkwachibadwa kumva kusungulumwa pambuyo pa chisudzulo koma kulumphira mumasewera a chibwenzi nthawi yomweyo chisudzulo chikhoza kuvulaza kwambiri kuposa zabwino. Kuti mutsimikizire kuti maubwenzi anu amtsogolo ndi abwino komanso opanda katundu wanu wakale, muyenera kukhala nokha ndikuyang'ana kwambiri kuthetsa kupwetekedwa mtima kwa banja lomwe lalephera.
Nthawi zina, kucheza mwachisawawa kungakuthandizeni kuti muyambirenso kusangalala komwe munataya, koma osabetcherana. Ngati sichigwira ntchito, zitha kuyambitsa mavuto ambiri! Landirani lingaliro lokhala nokha ndikudzipeza nokha popanda ndodo za mnzanu. Muli ndi ufulu wonse wokhala pachibwenzi ndikulowa m'mabwenzi atsopano, koma musalole kuti ukhale pachibwenzi.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Kupita patsogolo pambuyo pa chisudzulo kungakhale lingaliro lotopetsa
- Nthawi yochira imatengera zinthu zambiri - kutalika kwa banja lanu, zifukwa zakusudzulana, kulimba kwa ubale wanu, kungotchulapo zochepa.
- Ulendo wa munthu aliyense ndi wapadera
- Mutha kusintha tsamba latsopano pophunzira kudziyika patsogolo, kumva chisoni chakutayika kwanu, kuyang'ana kwambiri kumanganso moyo wanu, kukhazikitsa malire abwino ndi omwe kale anali, ndikupeza chithandizo chofunikira ndi chithandizo.
Kupitilira pambuyo pa chisudzulo kumatha kubweretsa zovuta zake, koma palibe chomwe simungathe kuthana nacho. Moyo ndi wochuluka kuposa ubale ndipo ndi zomwe muyenera kukumbukira pamene mutenganso ulusi wa moyo wanu ndikukonzekera kufunafunanso chikondi.
Ibibazo
Mutha kupitilira mkati moyo pambuyo pa chisudzulo poyambitsa mwatsopano pankhani ya ntchito ndi ubale. Osanyamula katundu wakale ndikukonzekera zatsopano. Dzipatulani nokha kwa anthu omwe angakhale ndi chikoka pa moyo wanu, kuphatikizapo wakale wanu. Ganizirani zamtsogolo ndipo phunzirani kukhala nokha musanadumphe mu ubale wina.
Zimatengera mikhalidwe ya chisudzulo chanu. Ngati mwathamangira chisudzulo chanu osaganizira zotulukapo zake ndipo ngati moyo wanu wapambuyo pa chisudzulo uli wovuta, ndiye kuti mwina munganong'oneze bondo chifukwa chakusudzulana mwachangu. Bwino kupeza a mndandanda wa zisudzulo pamene mukuganiza zothetsa banja.
Palibe kafukufuku amene amanena motsimikiza kuti ndi anthu ochuluka bwanji amene amabwerera kwawo akasudzulana. Pali zochitika zina pamene osudzulidwa akwatirananso n’kusiyananso.
Inde, mudzakhalanso osangalala! Ngati muli wololera kusiya zakale, kukumbatira umbeta wanu ndi kufunafuna zokumana nazo zatsopano, mungakhale osangalala pambuyo pa kusudzulana. Malingaliro omwe muli nawo mukamayandikira momwe mumapitirizira chisudzulo chanu chidzatsimikizira momwe mungasangalalirenso mwachangu. Musalole kuti zakale zikulepheretseni, phunzirani kwa izo ndikukula!
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