Nkhani Ya Mzimayi Kusiya Chibwenzi Chachipongwe

Vuto la kuchitira nkhanza nthawi zambiri limabwera pang'onopang'ono ndikukusiya wopanda chochita. Ngakhale zizindikiro zonse za poizoni zikuwonekera, kusiya ubale wankhanza mwanjira ina sikophweka. Nkhawa zosalekeza ndi mantha zimakukulungani m'njira yomwe imapangitsa kuti mukhale ofooka komanso osatha kudziyimira nokha.

Nkhanza zingakhale zakuthupi kapena zamaganizo. Mulimonsemo, zimakhudza wozunzidwayo mpaka amakana kumasulidwa kwamtundu uliwonse ndikungosiya zomwe akumana nazo chifukwa cha mantha omwe amakhala. Kuchokera ku mawu owunikira mpaka ku nkhanza zakuthupi, nkhanza zamtundu uliwonse siziyenera kuzindikirika kapena kusathetsedwa.

Kutuluka mu Ubale Wachipongwe

Kodi ubale wankhanza ndi chiyani, mukudabwa? Ngakhale kuti palibe mndandanda woyenerera, nkhanza zimabwera m'mawonekedwe ndi kukula kwake. Werengani nkhani yotsatirayi ya Amanda, bwenzi lake ndi ulendo wake wosiya chibwenzi chochitira nkhanza kuti mumvetse zambiri.

Atabwera mnzanga wapamtima Amanda kudzandiona, m’maso mwake munangooneka mwachipongwe. Kwa ine ankangokhala ngati kalulu wamantha. Nditamufunsa kuti vuto linali chiyani, anandigwira dzanja mwamphamvu n’kunena nkhani yake yomwe inali yokhudza iyeyo ndi chibwenzi chake chomuchitira nkhanza, Cole.

Amanda ndi Cole anali anzake a m’kalasi ku yunivesite. Amanda anachokera kubanja losaoneka bwino ndipo anali wokongola ndithu. Koma ankaganiza kuti Cole anali kunja kwa mgwirizano wake. Anali wamtali komanso wokongola, ndipo anachokera m’banja lolemera kwambiri.

Chodabwitsa, anali Cole yemwe adamufunsa. Analembera Amanda kalata yachikondi yolankhula mochititsa chidwi komanso yandakatulo kuti amugonjetse. Posakhalitsa Amanda anasiya kukana ndipo anati eya. Atangomaliza maphunziro awo ku yunivesite, banjali linachita lendi nyumba n’kuyamba kukhalira limodzi.

Zinayamba ndi mawu

Zinamutengera miyezi isanu ndi umodzi kuti adziŵe umunthu wake weniweni. Poyamba, Amanda sankadziwa kuti Cole adzakhala chonchi. Kukoma kwake koyamba pang'onopang'ono kunayamba kunyozedwa. Zinkaoneka ngati akuyamba kukhala chibwenzi chankhanza.

“Banja langa ndi lolemera,” iye anatero tsiku lina, “zanu sizili m’gulu lathu.”

Posakhalitsa izi zinasanduka nkhanza zamaganizo ndi kunyoza.

“Chitsiru iwe! Sungathe ngakhale kuphika chakudya chabwinobwino. analavula, nayenso ataphika chakudya atabwerako ku ntchito 9pm.

Pamene Amanda adapeza ntchito yamakampani atangomaliza kuyunivesite, Cole adaganiza zopanga digiri ya Master. Popeza inali malo ophunzirira kutali, sanakakamizidwe kupita m'kalasi. Komabe, Amanda ndi amene ankagwira ntchito zapakhomo. Iye ankagwira ntchito yophika, yoyeretsa, ndi ntchito zina zapakhomo, komanso ankalipira ndalama zonse zapakhomo.

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Kenako, kumenyedwa kunayamba

Nkhani ya ubale wozunza iyi imangowonjezera mavuto. Sizinatengere nthawi kuti Cole ayambe kuchitira nkhanza. Amanda atakana kuti m'modzi mwa atsikana anzake akusukulu amuyitane pafupipafupi, adamukankha ndipo adagwa pansi. Kenako adamumenya mbama pamene akuyesera kudzuka. Umenewo unali nthawi yoyamba yomwe anali kukumana ndi nkhanza zapakhomo.

Zinthu zinkaipiraipira tsiku lililonse. Cole adayamba kukweza dzanja lake pa Amanda pachowiringula chaching'ono. Tsiku lina ali mkangano, iye anaika pilo pankhope pake, kuyesera kuti amumenye. Amanda anapinda manja ake ndikupempha moyo wake; pamenepo ndiye adamleka. Chochitika chimenechi chinali udzu umene unathyola msana wa ngamila.

Pa nthawiyi n’kuti anadza kwa ine, bwenzi lake. Anafika kunyumba kwanga n’kunena kuti, “Kodi ndili paubwenzi wankhanza?

Ndidaganiza zomuthandiza kuti athawe chifukwa kusiya chibwenzi choyipa ndi njira yokhayo yomwe angayambirenso kuti ayambenso kukhala ngati iye. Tinakhala masiku kukonzekera. Tsiku lina, pamene Cole palibe, Amanda anandiitana. Mwamsanga tinalongedza katundu wake wochepa ndipo anabwera nane ku hostel yanga. Anasiya meseji pafoni yake yoti amusiya.

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Sanali wokonzeka kumusiya

Cole sanali wokonzeka kumusiya. Posakhalitsa anadziwa za hostel yathu komwe tinali kukhala ndipo anakumana ndi woyang'anira ndende, ndikumupempha kuti amutulutse Amanda. Woyang’anira ndendeyo, amene ndinamuuza zoona, anakana. Tsopano zinali kwa ife tonse kuti timuthandize Amanda kuti apeze yankho la momwe angasiyire ubale wankhanza.

Cole, ndiye, anapita kuntchito kwake. Koma sanali wofunitsitsa kapena wofunitsitsa kumupeza chifukwa ankafuna kuti abwerere. Anali kumunyoza ndi kunena zinthu zoipa kwa antchito anzake ndi mabwenzi ake za iye. Kulikonse kumene ankapita ankachita zachiwerewere.

"Anandisiya - ndimaganizira za munthu wina. Ali ndi khalidwe loipa. Kutsatira lotsatira. Mwinanso adzamuchotsera ndalama zake zonse," adatero kwa aliyense amene ankafuna kumvetsera.

Iye anagwiritsa ntchito mabodza. “Ndinalipira chilichonse. Tsopano, ayenera kubweza ndalama zanga.” Nkhani yaubwenzi wozunza iyi tsopano inasanduka nkhanza zachuma.

Amanda anakhumudwa kwambiri ndipo analira ali yekhayekha, koma sanali woti achite mantha. Ndinapita naye kupolisi ndipo tinaganiza zowauza apolisi za momwe zinthu zilili. Zomwe ankaganiza kuti zinali ubale wokoma komanso wachikondi wokhala muubwenzi mwamsanga unasandulika kukhala chowawa kwambiri pamoyo wake.

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Kulandira thandizo la apolisi chifukwa chosiya ubale wozunza

Amanda adamuimbira Cole ndikumuuza kuti akufuna kumupatsa ndalama. Atapita kukakumana naye, apolisi awiri anamuperekeza. Cole atatsegula chitseko, apolisi adamugwira ndikumuchenjeza kuti asachoke kwa Amanda. Anamuthandizanso kubweza zina mwa zinthu zimene anatsala nazo m’nyumbamo.

Amanda anakwiya kwambiri atamuona ndipo anamva kuti ali ndi mphamvu kuposa kale lonse. Anadziwa kuti ena anali kumbali yake ndipo sangalole Cole, chibwenzi chake chomuzunza, kuti alangidwe. Mawu ake omaliza kwa Cole anali akuti, "Sindingakhulupirire kuti ndaphonya zizindikiro zonse zosonyeza kuti ndataya magetsi kwa miyezi ingapo. Musayese kundilankhulana chifukwa chake ndidzafunika kupeza chilolezo choletsa."

Nkhani yake yotuluka muubwenzi wozunza inamuphunzitsa kuti kukhulupirirana kumatenga nthawi koma munthu sayenera kulola chikondi kugonjetsa ulemu wake.

Lero, Amanda wasiya zakale. Iye wachita lendi nyumba yabwino ndi antchito anzake, akuchita bwino kwambiri pa ntchito yake. Kusiya chibwenzi chomuchitira nkhanza kwamuphunzitsa tsopano kusankha kampani yake mwanzeru osati kugwadira mwamuna aliyense.

Ndimasilira bwenzi langa chifukwa chosagonja poponderezedwa komanso kudziyimira pawokha.

(Maina asinthidwa kuti ateteze zidziwitso)

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