'Mwamuna Wanga Amayamba Kumenyana Ndi Kundiimba Mlandu': Njira Zothetsera

Akuti palibe ubale wathanzi zonse zosangalatsa ndi masewera, kapena maluwa ndi makandulo anayatsa chakudya chamadzulo, pa nkhani imeneyi. Ukwati ndi ulendo wa moyo wonse wodzala ndi zokwera ndi zotsika, zina mwa izo zosayembekezereka. Komabe, mkazi akatsala akudzifunsa kuti, “Mwamuna wanga amayamba ndewu kenako amandiimba mlandu,” nthawi zambiri m’banja, kodi ndi malo otetezekanso?

Ndipo sitikunena za mlandu wongochitika kamodzi kokha pomwe mwamuna angakhale atayesa kuthawa udindo. Tikulankhula za zochitika zanthawi zonse za kusinthana kwamilandu komwe kungapangitse mkazi wabwino kudandaula kuti, “Mwamuna wanga amandipangitsa kudzimva wopanda pake”, kapena kudabwa momwe angachitire ndi mwamuna wopanda ulemu pafupifupi tsiku lililonse. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomwe akuzilamulira komanso kuwongolera komanso kuti ubalewu ulibe ulemu.

Mothandizidwa ndi mlangizi wathu wa maubwenzi Dhriti Bhavsar (M.Sc, Clinical Psychology), yemwe amagwira ntchito pa maubwenzi, kutha, komanso upangiri wa LGBTQ, tifufuza zifukwa ndi zotsatira za kusamutsana milandu kotere. Tidzakuthandizaninso ndi malangizo othana ndi vutoli ndikusamalira thanzi lanu.

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“Mwamuna wanga amayamba ndewu kenako amandiimba mlandu” – nthawi zambiri tapeza akazi akunena izi kwa anzawo komanso okondedwa awo. Kodi mwatopa kwambiri chifukwa chongokhalira kukangana ndi kusudzulana m'banja mwanu? Kapena mukudabwa kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga amandiimba mlandu pa chilichonse?"

Mwaona, mwamuna kapena mkazi waukali samangokhuthulira zinthu zonse kwa inu koma amawononganso ubwenzi wanu. Ndipo ngati mupeza mwamuna wanu akukwiyirani nthawi zonse, simungakhale nokha. Akazi ena osaŵerengeka mwina akukumana ndi mkhalidwe womwewo.

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A Reddit wosuta akufotokoza mmene amamvera mwamuna wake akamamuimba mlandu pa chilichonse chimene chimasokonekera muubwenzi. Iye akuti, "Anandiimba mlandu m'mbuyomu chifukwa chosapeza ntchito kuntchito chifukwa sindinacheze mokwanira ndi akazi achikulire ake. Komanso kwa ine ndikuvutika ndi zovuta zaumoyo panthawi yomwe ndinali ndi pakati (ndinali wofooka kwambiri komanso wosayenera kukhala ndi mimba yathanzi, malinga ndi iye). Ndinagonjetsa nkhani zathanzi kuti ndibereke mwana wathanzi wathanzi, ndipo mwana sanafunikire kukhala NICU, ndi zina zotero."

Kenaka amapitiriza kutchula zinthu zina zambiri zomwe amamuimba mlandu, kuphatikizapo zake nkhani za mkwiyo, kudwala kwa atate wake, matenda a mwana wawo wamkazi, ndi kuwaimbira foni kuntchito mosafunikira. Ngati nthawi zambiri mumadandaula kuti, “Mwamuna wanga amandinyoza nthawi zonse”, ndipo mukufuna kupeza mayankho oti 'chifukwa chiyani', pali zifukwa zina zomwe zingapangitse mwamuna wanu kuti azikuimbani mlandu pa chilichonse:

1. Kudzimva wopanda mphamvu

Nthawi zambiri, timapeza amayi akudandaula kuti, "Mwamuna wanga amandipangitsa kudzimva wopanda pake", osadziwa kuti amuna omwe amachita izi amakhala ndi vuto la ego. Mumaona ngati munthu ali ndi malingaliro osalimba, nthawi zambiri zimamuvuta kuthana ndi zolakwa zake ndikutengera kuyankha mu maubwenzi.

Dhriti akuti, “Anthu oterowo amayamba kunyozetsa mlandu kwa munthu wina, chifukwa ndiyo njira yosavuta yopulumukira, yomwe ili yovomerezeka kwa iwo kuposa kutenga udindo wa zochita zawo.” Iyi ndi njira yodzitetezera yomwe imadziwika kuti ‘kungoganizira chabe. Sindikudziwa chifukwa chake! ” Izi ndizovuta kwambiri. "

Nazi izi Reddit wosuta"Dzulo usiku makamaka, tidacheza kwa bwenzi lake (M) - tonse atatu. Ndipo usiku wonse, panali zochitika zomwe ndimamva kuti mawu ake anali aukali komanso achipongwe kwa ine."

Kenako ananenanso mmene anachitira atamufunsa kuti: “...nditamuuza mmene ndinkamvera, anandipsera mtima kwambiri. Apa, mwamunayo akupereka mlandu kwa mkazi wake kuti asakumane ndi zilombo zake.

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2. Nkhani zodzidalira zochokera ku zowawa zakale

Ngati nthawi zonse mumadabwa kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga amandiimba mlandu pa chilichonse?", Chabwino, nkhani zodzidalira zikhoza kukhala chifukwa chachikulu. Mukapeza mwamuna wanu akukukwiyirani nthawi zonse, kumbukirani kuti nthawi zina mkwiyo ukhoza kusonyeza nkhani zomwe sizinathetsedwe zakale. Anthu omwe akuvutika ndi zoopsa zakale, kapena kudziyang'anira pansi zomwe zimachokera ku zowawa zotere, mwachitsanzo, kupwetekedwa mtima chifukwa cha kuzunzidwa m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo, zimakhala zovuta kupempha thandizo mwachindunji.

Dhriti akufotokoza kuti: “Ngakhale thandizo litapezeka mosavuta, iwo sangapemphe thandizo chifukwa zimawavuta kukhala pachiopsezo chifukwa cha mantha.

Mmodzi mwa anzanga omwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito, Damien, anali ndi vuto lodziona ngati wosafunika chifukwa sakanatha kuchita zinthu mogwirizana ndi zimene bwenzi lake lakale linkayembekezera. Anali ndi vuto la kugonana, lomwe anakonza mpaka pamlingo wina pambuyo pake, ndi uphungu wachipatala. Koma pamene anakwatiwa patapita zaka zingapo, kaŵirikaŵiri amayesa kulamulira mkazi wake, nthaŵi zina, kufikira kum’nyozetsa pamaso pa anthu. Mwina kunali kuyankhula kwake kwachimuna, kapena njira yake yopangira chipongwe chonse chomwe adalandira mu ubale wake wakale.

3. Mchitidwe wonyenga

Ngati mumadandaula nthawi zonse, "Mwamuna wanga amandinyoza nthawi zonse", kumbukirani, kuimba mlandu mnzanu kapena mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu pa chilichonse kapena kumenya nkhondo chikhoza kukhala chizoloŵezi chonyenga chifukwa chimasokoneza kudzidalira kwa wofunayo. Dhriti akufotokoza kuti: “Mwanjira imeneyi, munthu amene akuimbidwa mlandu mopanda chilungamo amataya chikhulupiriro chake ndipo amayamba kudalira kwambiri munthu amene akumudzudzulayo.”

Mnzake wina dzina lake Clare anachitanso chimodzimodzi. Iye anati: “Mwamuna wanga wakale, Dave, anali munthu wokonda kuchita zinthu mwachinyengo kwambiri. Ndinganene kuti nayenso anali wamwano.” Choncho, ankangocheza ndi anthu ndipo nthawi zambiri ankandiimba mlandu pa zinthu zimene ndinalibe ntchito. mpaka pamene ndinazindikira kuti machenjerero ake achinyengo ndi amene anachititsa kuti ndidzichepetse ndipo ndinaganiza zosiya.”

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4. Kufuna kulakwitsa zinthu

Kaŵirikaŵiri, mwamuna akakhala wofuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa chilichonse ndipo amalephera kuchita zimene akuyembekezera, akhoza kukalipa mnzakeyo. Dhriti anati: “Anthu oterowo amakhala ndi ziyembekezo zosatheka kwa iwo okha komanso kwa ena owazungulira. ziyembekezo mu ubale wanu, m’malo mosintha zimene amayembekezera kuti zikhale zenizeni, amakuimbani mlandu n’kuyamba ndewu.”

Anthu otere nthawi zambiri amanena zinthu monga:

• “Ndikunena izi chifukwa cha ubwino wanu.”
• "Izi zikuthandizani kuti mukhale bwino."

5. Kupsinjika

Amuna akayamba ndewu, pakhoza kukhala zovuta zina - amatha kukhala ndi vuto linalake ndipo amalephera kuwongolera bwino kapena kuwonetsa kukhumudwa kwawo komwe akuchokera. Kotero, iwo amatha kukula nkhani za mkwiyo ndi kutulutsa kukhumudwa kwawo kwa anzawo. Dhriti akufotokoza kuti: “Iyi ndi njira ina yodzitetezera, yotchedwa ‘kusamuka.

Rita, bwenzi langa, anasimba nthano yofananayo: “Mpaka miyezi ingapo yapitayo, mwamuna wanga nthaŵi zambiri ankakwiya kunyumba ndipo ankandiimba mlandu kaamba ka vuto lililonse laling’ono. kuti amamukweza kuti akwezedwe kuntchito ndipo wina amatenga mbiri chifukwa cha ntchito yakeyo, ndizovuta zonse zantchito zomwe zimapatutsidwa kwa ine - chikwama chokhomerera.

6. Kusakhutira ndi banja

Amuna akhoza kukwiyira mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo ngati sakukhutira ndi ukwati wawo, kapena ali ndi nkhani zina zomwe sizinathe kuthetsedwa kapena zifukwa zazikulu zomwe sangathe kugawana nawo kapena kufotokoza. Dhriti anati: “Zimenezi zingachititse kuti ayambe kukwiyira mwamuna kapena mkazi wakeyo ndipo angapse mtima m’njira zosiyanasiyana.

Dhriti anachita ndi kasitomala mmodzi wotere, Shehnaz. Iye anati: “Shehnaz ndi mwamuna wake Omar akhala m’banja kwa zaka 10 ndipo ali ndi ana aang’ono aŵiri.

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“Mwachitsanzo, ngati anawo alakwitsa, Omar amanena kuti sakuwalanga bwino.” Pakakhala mavuto a zachuma, amamuimba mlandu wa kuwononga ndalama mopambanitsa kapena kusasamalira bwino bajeti. kukhumudwitsidwa ndi ukwati womwewo Kufufuza pang'ono kuti mukonze zinthu zenizeni mavuto azachuma kapena kusakhutira pakugonana, kumatha kuthetsa vutoli.

7. Kusayankha mlandu

Amuna akakhala ndi vuto lovomereza udindo wa zochita zawo, nthawi zambiri amatero kupeputsa akazi awo kuganiza kuti zonsezi ndi vuto lawo. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomwe amazilamulira komanso amawongolera. Dhriti akufotokoza kuti, “Zimenezi n’zofala kwa anthu amene sanazoloŵere kutenga thayo kapena kuvomereza kulakwa mwachisawawa ndipo motero amangokhalira kuimba mlandu ena amene ali nawo pafupi, makamaka okwatirana.”

A Reddit wosuta anali ndi chokumana nacho chofananacho, “Chotero mwamuna wanga (34) wazaka zisanu ndi zitatu ali ndi vuto lalikulu la kutenga thayo pa chirichonse.” Iye amapeza njira yondiimbira ine mlandu (33) pa chirichonse.” Ndili ndi ndandanda yosatha ya zinthu zonse zamisala zimene iye amayesa kundilakwira, ngakhale ngati ine kulibe panthaŵiyo.

8. Malingaliro abanja

Nthawi zambiri, amuna amatha kutengera achibale awo komanso okondedwa awo kuzunza anzawo. Dhriti akufotokoza kuti: “Lingaliro la mwamuna ponena za mkazi wake lingasonkhezeredwe ndi malingaliro a banja lake ponena za mkazi wake.” Zimenezi zimachitika kaŵirikaŵiri m’mabanja a makolo akale, monga ngati mabanja a Amwenye, kumene apongozi angakhale ndi vuto ndi mpongozi wake wamkazi.

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Iye anatchula nkhani imene anachita posachedwapa kuti: “Taonani chitsanzo cha Raj ndi Priya, makasitomala anga, amene onse ali ndi zaka za m’ma 20. Akhala m’banja zaka zisanu ndipo akukhala ndi makolo a Raj. Nthaŵi zonse mikangano ikabuka m’banja lawo, makamaka zokhudza zosankha kapena kusamvana ndi makolo a Raj, Raj amakonda kuimba mlandu Priya.

Mwachitsanzo, ngati pali kusagwirizana pakati pa Priya ndi amayi ake a Raj pankhani ya ntchito zapakhomo kapena udindo wosamalira ana, Raj nthawi zambiri amakhala kumbali ya amayi ake ndipo amaimba Priya chifukwa chosalemekeza zofuna za makolo ake.”

9. Chikhalidwe chake cholamulira

Pamene mwamuna amakonda kupeza zolakwika pa zinthu zomwe wokondedwa wake amachita payekha kapena kuyesera kuti nthawi zonse akhale apamwamba, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu zomwe iye ali. olamulira ndi owongolera. Dhriti anati: “Zikatero, amuna amayembekezera kuti okwatiranawo azichita ndendende mmene amanenera kapena kuwauza.” Kupatuka kulikonse pa momwe amayembekezera kuti okondedwa awo azichita kungayambitse mikangano, mwamunayo akuimba mlandu mkazi wake pa chilichonse.

Dhriti atchulapo nkhani ina. “Wokondedwa wanga, Annie, ndi mwamuna wake, George, onse akugwira ntchito ndipo amapereka ndalama zofanana pa zinthu zapakhomo.” Ngakhale zili choncho, George amalamulira zosankha zake zonse ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri amamuimba mlandu pa nkhani zosiyanasiyana.

"Mwachitsanzo, amaumirira kupanga zisankho zazikulu zonse popanda kumufunsa, kuphatikizapo nkhani zachuma ndi ndondomeko za moyo wawo wamagulu. Pamene akufotokoza malingaliro ake kapena zokhumba zake, amazichotsa ndikumuimba mlandu wopusa kapena wopanda nzeru. Pamene akuyesera kutsimikizira kuti ali wodziimira yekha ndi kufotokoza zosowa zake, Mark amayankha mwa kumunyoza. Ndipo, chifukwa chake, amasiya zonse zomwe ali nazo tsopano."

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Kuimbidwa mlandu pa chilichonse muubwenzi si nkhani yaing'ono yomwe mungathe kuinyalanyaza. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, kukhoza kukhala kuchitiridwa nkhanza kwambiri m’maganizo ndi m’maganizo. Ndipo choipitsitsa n’chakuti, mungayesedwe kunyalanyaza ndi kupitiriza chifukwa monga amanenera, ndewu ndi mbali ya ukwati uliwonse. Ndipo nthawi zonse, mwina mumauza anzanu kuti, “Mwamuna wanga amakwiya nthawi zonse.”

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Koma tsopano popeza mwadziwa yankho la funso lakuti, “Kodi zizindikiro za chenjezo la chibwenzi chochitira nkhanza ndi ziti?”, ndi nthawi yoti mudziwe zambiri zokhudza mmene mwamuna kapena mkazi wokwiya angakhudzire thanzi lanu la maganizo ndi thupi.

Kotero, ngati mutatha kukhulupirira masewera olakwa ndikuyamba kunena kuti, "Chilichonse nthawi zonse chimakhala cholakwa changa mu ubale wanga", mungakhale otsimikiza kuti mwafika pamtunda woopsa wodzidalira komanso kuti thanzi lanu lamaganizo liri pangozi yowononga. Chotero, zindikirani chiyambukiro chowopsa chamalingaliro cha amuna olamulira oterowo. Katswiri wathu Dhriti amatchula zotsatira za mbali imodzi yotere kusinthana kwa milandu mu maubwenzi:

• Kudzidalira kochepera/kuchepa: Mwamuna wanu akayamba ndewu ndiyeno n’kumakuimbani mlandu nthawi zambiri, mungakhale ndi vuto lodzidalira kuti muchite zoyenera. Izi zikhoza kuchititsa kuti munthu azidziona ngati wosafunika
• Kukwiyira mnzake: Mkwiyo wa mwamuna wanu ungakupangitseni kuipidwa naye, ndipo zimenezi zingachititse mkwiyo wanthaŵi yaitali ndi wozama kwa iye. Zingakhudzenso kulemekezana
• Kudzimva kukhala wosakwanira: Mwamuna wanu akakunyozani, mungayambe kukhulupirira zinthu zoipa zokhudza inuyo zomwe zimamveka ngati “Sindili woyenerera” kapena “Ndimachita chilichonse cholakwika.”
• Kusakhulupirira ndi chikhulupiriro mwa okondedwa anu: Kuzunzika kwa nthawi yaitali ndi mwamuna wanu kungachititse kuti muziwaona ngati munthu amene amakuvutitsani nthawi zonse. Simungawaganizire ngati munthu amene amakukondani komanso yemwe muyenera kukhala otetezeka pafupi
• Zaumoyo: Mwamuna wanu akasonyeza kuti wakukwiyirani, zingakupangitseni kuvutika maganizo ndi nkhawa. Izi zitha kubweretsa kuwonongeka kosatha ku thanzi lanu komanso thanzi lanu
• Mumayamba kuyenda pazipolopolo za mazira: Popeza mukudzikayikira, mumatheranso kuyenda pa zipolopolo za mazira kuzungulira mnzako, kuyesera kumkondweretsa, kwinaku akudandaula kuti, “Mwamuna wanga amakwiya nthawi zonse.”

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Kodi mukulimbana ndi mikangano yosathetsedwa m’banja mwanu? Kapena kupeza kukhala kovuta kuthana ndi mfundo yakuti mnzanuyo amakuimbani mlandu pa chirichonse chimene chimasokonekera muubwenzi? Kodi mumachokera kuti “Mwamuna wanga amayamba ndewu kenako amandiimba mlandu” mpaka kuti “Ndapeza njira yothetsera vuto limene limachititsa kuti azichita zimenezi”?

Chabwino, katswiri wathu Dhriti akuwonetsa njira zingapo zomwe mungapirire mkhalidwewu woimbidwa mlandu pa chilichonse paubwenzi. Mwachitsanzo, amalimbikitsa kuti muyike malire abwino muubwenzi, khalani ozizira, ndipo ganizirani kufunafuna chitsogozo ngati zinthu sizikuyenda bwino. Tiona mwatsatanetsatane njira zosiyanasiyana zomwe mungathanirane ndi vutoli. Kotero, umu ndi momwe mungachitire ndi mwamuna wopanda ulemu:

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1. Dziphunzitseni nokha

Chinthu choyamba kuti muchiritsidwe ku vuto lakupha lomwe mumadziuza nokha kuti, "Mwamuna wanga amayamba ndewu kenako amandiimba mlandu", ndikuphunzira chifukwa chake anthu amaimba mlandu ena motere, komanso momwe njira zodzitetezera zimagwirira ntchito.

Dhriti akuona kuti, “Kudziwa zimenezi kumakupatsani mphamvu, ndipo simudzakhala msampha wa kusocheretsedwa pambuyo pake. mgwirizano wankhanza?” Zindikirani kuti khalidwe loipa limeneli limachititsa kuti munthu azizunzidwa m’maganizo ndi m’maganizo, ndipo pewani kulimbikitsa.”

2. Khalani odekha

Pamene mumaganiza nthawi zonse, "Chilichonse chimakhala cholakwa changa muubwenzi wanga", kubetcherana kwabwino ndikukhala chete. Ngakhale kubisa malingaliro anu kwa nthawi yayitali si njira yovomerezeka kwambiri yothanirana ndi vuto lamwamuna wanu kapena kukulitsa kulankhulana, muyenera kukhala odekha muzonsezo kuti mukhalebe ndi malingaliro abwino ndikuyesetsa kuti mukhale osangalala. kuthetsa mikangano dongosolo. Kumbukirani, kuyankha zochita zake sikuyenera kutanthauza kuchitapo kanthu.

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Dhriti akulangiza kuti: “Zochita zanu pamapeto pake zimam’patsa mphamvu pa inu.

3. Yesetsani kudziikira malire

Khalani ndi malire omveka bwino ndi abwino mukakhala pafupi naye. Dhriti anati: “Simuyenera kuvomereza kuti mukulakwa kapena kungokhala chete mwamuna wanu akakuchitirani zimenezi. nkhanza. "

4. Khalani ndi cholinga

Yambani kuyang'ana zinthu moona mtima momwe mungathere ndi kugawa mlandu ndi udindo. Mwanjira imeneyi, mumamvetsetsa mozama zomwe zimayambitsa khalidwe lake ndikutha kuthetsa mikangano moyenera. Dhriti akuyamikira kuti, “Pamene mukuchita zimenezi, khalani okhazikika m’chowonadi chanu, ndipo khalani ndi chikhulupiriro chimenecho mwa inu nokha.”

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5. Pangani dongosolo labwino lothandizira

Imodzi mwa njira zabwino kwambiri zothanirana ndi kuchitiridwa nkhanza kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi ndikumanga maukonde athanzi othandiza. Chifukwa chake, lumikizanani ndi anzanu, abale, antchito anzanu, ndi okondedwa anu. Dhriti akuti, "Chitani nawo zinthu zomwe zimakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka komanso osangalala." Kumbukirani, kufunafuna chithandizo ndi njira yabwino yothetsera vutoli.

6. Limbikitsani mwamuna wanu kuti aziyankha mlandu

Nthawi zonse ndi bwino kukhala pansi ndi kukambirana. Kulankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima alibe njira ina. Ndipo pamene muli pa izo, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndicho kumupangitsa iye kuzindikira zolakwa zake ndi kukula kwa zowawa zanu. Dhriti anati, “Mungathe kumuthandiza kumvetsa mmene zochita zake zikukhudzira inuyo komanso banja lanu.”

7. Pewani kubwezera mlandu

Dhriti amakhulupirira kuti, "Poyesa kuti wina atenge umwini, kumuukira kapena kumulozera zala si yankho. Yesani kuyandikira kuchokera kumalo omvetsetsa ndi chidwi m'malo mwake. Kulemekezana n’kofunika kuthetsa mikangano m’njira yabwino.” Kotero, izi ndi zomwe simuyenera kuchita:

• Perekani chiweruzo kwa mnzanu
• Nenani mawu oyipa kapena mwamwano
• Muzimunyoza kapena kumunyoza
• Mpangitseni kudzimva wolakwa
• Muzichitira nkhanza
• Mupangitseni kuoneka ngati 'munthu woipa'

8. Pezani mayankho poyang'ana kwambiri vutolo

Kumbukirani, si inu kutsutsana ndi mnzanuyo. Ngati mukufuna kukonza zinthu, muyenera kupanga inu ndi mnzanuyo motsutsana ndi vuto. Limbikitsani kulankhulana momasuka ndipo kambiranani moona mtima za zifukwa zomwe zayambitsa, kuti mupeze mayankho. Mufunseni kuti azidzilingalira yekha. Dhriti akuti, "Ngati mnzanuyo akukakamira kudzudzula, sinthani zokambiranazo kuti zithetse yankho limodzi."

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9. Ganizirani za kudzisamalira komanso kukula kwanu

Dhriti anati, “Imodzi mwa njira zofunika kwambiri kuti muchiritsidwe kapena kuthana ndi vuto ngati limeneli ndi kuika patsogolo chimwemwe chanu ndi kutengera kudzisamalira komanso kukhala ndi moyo wabwino.” Nawa malangizo amomwe mungachitire:

• Sinthani kuyang'ana pa zomwe mumakonda: Kaya kuvina, luso, kulemba, kapena kujambula, khalani ndi nthawi yochita zomwe mumakonda kuchita
• Phunzirani china chatsopano: Lowani nawo kalasi yachilankhulo chakunja kapena msonkhano wa Zumba. Phunzirani luso latsopano la kudzikuza komanso kukula kwanu
• Khalani ndi nthawi yodzisangalatsa: Pitani ku gawo la spa kapena splurge pa zovala. Yang'anani bwino ndikudzimverani nokha
• Pumulani pokhala pakati pa chilengedwe: Pitani nokha ulendo wopita ku magombe kapena kumapiri. Kumanani ndi anthu amalingaliro ofanana m'malo ogona kapena kunyumba

10. Unikaninso banja

Khalani ndi nthawi yosinkhasinkha za ukwati wanu. Khalani pansi ndi kulemba mfundo, ngati izo zimathandiza. Ganizirani ubwino ndi kuipa kwa kukhala m’banja lanu ndipo lingalirani ngati kuli bwino kukhalabe kapena kuchoka. Dhriti anati, “Nthawi zina kulimbikira kumavulaza kwambiri kuposa kungosiya.”

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11. Yesetsani kulankhulana mogwira mtima

Nthaŵi zina, kungouza munthu mmene mukumvera n’kofunikira koma ndi chinthu chokhacho chimene sichinatchulidwe ndiponso kuti sichinamveke. Choncho, yesetsani kulankhulana mogwira mtima. Umu ndi momwe mungachitire izi:

• M'malo mopewa mwamuna wanu akakwiya, musonyezeni kuti mukufuna kukambirana naye
• Tumizani meseji kapena kuyimba foni, ngati mukufuna kukhala kutali
• Osamuuza kuti asalankhule kapena kuvomereza kumenyetsa miyala
• Pewani kungokhala chete-mwaukali khalidwe monga kuyatsa TV kapena kutseka chitseko pamene akulankhula

12. Funsani thandizo la akatswiri

Ndipo ngati zonse zitakanika, ndipo simukudziwabe momwe mungakonzere nkhani ya "Mwamuna wanga amayamba ndewu kenako ndikundiimba mlandu", Dhriti ali ndi izi: "Kuti muthetse vuto lomwe mnzanuyo nthawi zonse amakuimbani mlandu popanda chifukwa, ngakhale mutayesetsa kukonza khalidwe lake, funani thandizo la akatswiri ndikusankha uphungu kapena chithandizo cha maanja patali. Kufunafuna chithandizo sikumakupangitsani kuti muwoneke wofooka. Nthawi zonse mukhoza kubwera Alangizi a akatswiri a Bonobology kuti mudziwe zambiri.

Tikukhulupirira kuti pofika pano, muyenera kuti munazindikira kuti kuimbidwa mlandu pa chilichonse m’banja lanu si chifukwa chakuti ndinu wolakwa. Ngati nthawi zambiri mumaganiza kuti, “Mwamuna wanga amayamba ndewu kenako amandiimba mlandu,” kumbukirani kuti zimakukumbutsani za nkhani zozama za mnzanu, monga zowawa zakale kapena chizoloŵezi cholephera kuyankha zochita zawo.

Komabe, kuwonjezera pa kuyesetsa kuthana ndi vutoli, musazengereze kukhala odekha komanso kusamalira thanzi lanu. Kumbukirani kubwerera mmbuyo ndikuganiziranso zaukwati wanu, ngati pakufunika kutero. Onetsetsaninso kuti mukukhala ndi nthawi yabwino m'moyo wanu chifukwa monga amanenera, moyo ndi waufupi kwambiri kuti musade nkhawa ndi chilichonse. Chotero, ngati sikukubweretserani chisangalalo m’kupita kwa nthaŵi, mosasamala kanthu za kuyesayesa kwanu kopambana, musazengereze kukhala kutali ndi ukwati wanu.

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