Zizindikiro 5 Zansanje Mu Ukwati & Njira Zothetsera

Kufalitsa chikondi

Chikondi ndi chikondi chosatha n’zofala m’maunansi aliwonse aakulu, makamaka okwatirana. Koma, nthawi zina chikondi ichi chikhoza kubweretsa nsanje mu maubwenzi, kukhala ndi katundu ndi kusatetezeka. Mwamuna kapena mkazi wansanje akhoza kukhala ndi zotsatirapo zoipa paubwenzi.

Ngati mukumva kuti mukumva kuyambika kwa nsanje mu mtima mwanu chifukwa cha chifukwa china, musanyalanyaze. Kusadzidalira kukhoza kuwononga kwambiri ubwenzi wanu, choncho muyenera kumvetsa bwino nkhaniyo ndi kuona mmene mungachitire ndi nsanje kuti zisawononge banja lanu.

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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo

Mumakonda mwamuna wanu ndipo simukufunanso kugawana ndi banja lake? Zimamveka zokongola papepala, koma zikhoza kukhala chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za nsanje m'banja. Komabe, ngati muli ndi chikhulupiriro chokwanira ndi chidaliro mu ubale wanu, ndiye kuti nsanje izi siziyenera kutha mphamvu. Muyenera kuchita izi nthawi yomweyo, chifukwa kusatetezeka m'maubwenzi sikunathandizepo banja lililonse, ndipo kungangowonjezera vuto kwa nonse.

Kuti muthe kuchotsa nsanje ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti muwulamulire, muyenera kukhala ndi nsanje ndi kusatetezeka m'banja zisanathe kusokoneza ma equation anu kwambiri. Pano pali mndandanda wa zizindikiro zofala za nsanje m'banja ndi momwe mungalekerere nsanje:

1. Pamene mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu amachitira nsanje anthu amene amakusilirani

John ndi Susan onse ndi maprofesa m'mayunivesite osiyanasiyana. Onsewa amakwaniritsidwa m'malo awoawo ndipo amakhazikika bwino pantchito zawo. Ophunzira amawakonda ndipo onse amasangalatsidwa ndi magulu osiyanasiyana. John ndi wamkulu ndipo wakhala akuphunzitsa kwa nthawi yayitali kuposa Susan, motero, ali ndi otsatira ambiri omwe ali ndi atsikana omwe akukomoka.

Onse amamutsatira pamasamba aliwonse ochezera a pa Intaneti omwe alipo, amakonda mosalekeza zithunzi ndi zolemba zake zonse. Izi zimapangitsa Susan kukhala wansanje kwambiri. “N’zoona kuti sindimadziona kuti ndine wosatetezeka chifukwa cha achinyamata ochepa amene amangokhalira kunena za mwamuna wanga.

Ngati mukumusungira chakukhosi mwamuna wanu chifukwa chosangalala ndi chisamaliro chomwe atsikana aang'ono kapena akazi ena amamupatsa, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu za nsanje m'banja. Mukuganiza kuti akuyamba kudzikuza kwambiri ndipo akuyamba kudziona kuti ndi wapamwamba chifukwa cha ulemu wonse womwe amapeza. Izi zitha kukhalanso zizindikiro zodziwika bwino za mkazi wosadzidalira.

Yankho: Ngati mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu amakondedwa ndipo akazi/amuna ena amamulemekeza, yesetsani kunyada naye m'malo modzikayikira. Akhoza kukhala akusangalala ndi chisamaliro chonse, osadziwa kuti chimakupangitsani kukhala mwamuna kapena mkazi wansanje. Kambiranani naye moona mtima ndipo muwathandize kumvetsetsa kuti kuyamikira konseko sikuyenera kubweretsa kusatetezeka muubwenzi wanu.

Mkazi wansanje kapena mwamuna wansanje sangaone kukhala kosavuta kuchita ndi chisamaliro chimene mwamuna kapena mkazi wake amalandira ndi awo amene amawakonda. Kusakanikirana kogwira ntchito paokha osatetezeka komanso kukambirana ndi wokondedwa wawo kudzachita zodabwitsa pakufuna kwawo kuthetsa nsanje.

2. Ngati wokondedwa wanu akumva kuti alibe chitetezo ndikudzifananiza ndi anthu ochita bwino

Muubwenzi uliwonse, mudzadzimva kukhala osatetezeka pamene bwenzi lanu la SO wokongola komanso wophunzira kwambiri abwera. Mwina inu ngakhale mobisa kutukwana wake wosewera bwenzi, amene mumaona kuopseza ubwenzi wanu m'maganizo mwanu, koma mnzanuyo sakanakhoza kusamala za iwo. Zizindikiro za nsanje m'banja nthawi zambiri zimawonekera pamene m'modzi akudzifananiza ndi anthu omwe ali nawo m'moyo wawo, nthawi zambiri amadzimva kukhala osatetezeka kwambiri. Tengani, mwachitsanzo, nkhani yotsatirayi:

Harry ndi Emma onse akutsata Ph.D. m'mayunivesite osiyanasiyana. Iwo akhala paubwenzi wotseguka, wokhala-muubwenzi kuyambira zaka tsopano. Nsanje kapena kusatetezeka sizinthu zomwe amalola pakati pawo. Izi zikunenedwa, Emma amasiya kukhazikika akakhala pagulu la anthu aluntha ndipo kusatetezeka kwake kudayamba. Harry amatha kukopa chidwi cha aliyense ndikulankhula kwake momveka bwino. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zoyamba zomwe Emma adagwa nazo, koma amadana nazo zikakopa chidwi cha ena.

"Kodi mungakhulupirire kuti ndikumva kuwawa kwa nsanje kwa akazi achikulire, ochita bwino komanso odziwa zambiri! Ndikutanthauza, ndi ochititsa chidwi, koma nzeru ndi zomwe Harry sakonda. Ndipo ngati ali wodziwa bwino, Harry amalankhula za iye kwa masiku ambiri. Tangoganizani ... awa ndi akazi omwe sindingathe kuyembekezera kupikisana nawo, chifukwa inenso ndimachita mantha nawo."

Yankho: Siyani kudziyerekeza ndi ena. Mnzanu/mwamuna wanu amakukondani chifukwa cha umunthu wanu. Wina amene angakhale wanzeru kwambiri kapena wochita bwino kuposa inu sangapikisane ndi makhalidwe omwe amakupangitsani kukhala wapadera. Yesani kupeza momwe mungasiyire kukhala wansanje, ndipo yesetsani kuthetsa mavuto aliwonse omwe mwakhala mukukumana nawo kwa zaka zambiri.

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3. Okondedwa anu amadana ndi anthu omwe mumagwira nawo ntchito

Ngati zikuwoneka kuti mnzanuyo ali ndi vuto ndi anzanu popanda chifukwa chomveka, pali kuthekera kuti mwina chifukwa amachitira nsanje. Ngati ogwira nawo ntchito ndi amuna kapena akazi omwe amakukondani ndipo ali okongola, mwayi wokhala ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wansanje umakula kwambiri. Nsanjeyo ingaonekere m’njira zosaoneka bwino, yang’anani pa nkhani ya Annie kuti muwone mmene ingakhudzire banja.

Annie wakwatiwa ndi wojambula zithunzi wokongola kwambiri mumzindawu, pomwe iyenso ndi wolemba komanso wokonda kulankhula momasuka. Koma mwamuna wake Sam amaonekera kwambiri. Ma profiles ake pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti amadzaza ndi ma selfies ake ndi 'antchito anzake', kapena monga momwe timawadziwira, ma supermodel. Ngakhale Annie amapewa maphwando okongola, Sam akuyenera kupita ku maphwando ambiri. Pamapeto pake, Annie amakhala kwawo kwa Sam ndipo nthawi zonse amabwerera. Koma Annie sadziwa momwe angathanirane ndi nsanje.

“Ndimadziwa kuti mapwando amenewa ndi ofunika kwambiri pa ntchito yake, koma pakati pa inu ndi ine, iye amasangalala kwambiri ndi zimenezi.” N’zoona kuti nthawi yocheza ndi ‘antchito anzake’ ndi chinthu chochititsa chidwi kwambiri!”

Yankho: Khalani pansi ndi mnzanuyo ndipo mukambirane moona mtima za chifukwa chomwe mumachitira nsanje ndi kusadzidalira. Ngati mukuona kuti akusangalala kukhala ndi anzake okongola, muuzeni zimenezo. Muuzeni kuti mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungagonjetsere nsanje pankhaniyi. Izi zithandiza mnzanuyo kumvetsetsa zomwe zimakupwetekani ndipo mwina sadzapita kuntchito ina kuti akakhale nanu nthawi ina.

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4. Mnzako amasilira anzako

Kukhala ndi anzanu mukalowa m'banja omwe ndi amuna kapena akazi omwe mumakopeka nawo pogonana ndizovuta, kunena pang'ono. Ngati mnzanu sakuvomereza anzanu, ndi chizindikiro kuti muli ndi mkazi wansanje m'manja mwanu. Angamve kuti nthawi zonse amakhala okhudza mtima kwambiri pazifukwa zazing'ono ndipo amatha kuchita nsanje nthawi iliyonse kukumbatirana kumatenga masekondi angapo.

Mwachitsanzo, taganizirani za ubwenzi wa Justin ndi Chloe, amene anakwatirana posachedwapa. Justin ndi wojambula ndipo Chloe ndi wokongoletsa mkati. Chloe akuganiza kuti abwenzi a Justin ndi odabwitsa: nthawi zonse amakhala okwera komanso owoneka bwino.

“Ndikutanthauza kuti muyenera kukumbatirana mwamphamvu nthawi iliyonse mukakumana,” akutero Chloe. “Ndipo si kukumbatirana kokha. Amapitirizabe kumupsompsona pa tsaya. Ndikutanthauza, tsopano wakwatira. Chitani manyazi ! Anzanga nawonso ndi opanga zinthu koma simudzawapeza akumasuka nane choncho. Kungoti ndinu wojambula sizitanthauza kuti miyambo ya anthu siikugwira ntchito kwa inu.”

Yankho: Kukhala ndi mabwenzi apamtima kuli bwino, koma mabwenzi otere akayamba kukukakamizani kwambiri kapena osalemekeza malire awo, ndikwachibadwa kumva ngati mnzanu wansanje. Ngati mukumva nsanje ndi mabwenzi anu, fotokozerani mnzanu vuto lomwe lingakhalepo komanso chifukwa chake mukuganiza kuti ndi chifukwa chodera nkhawa. Ngati mukuona kuti mnzanuyo akuyang'ana anzanu monyoza ngakhale kuti sakuyandikirani, chinthu chokhacho chomwe chingathetse nsanje imeneyi ndi kulankhulana.

5. Okondedwa anu ali ndi vuto ndi foni yanu

Sasha ndi Chris ndi awiri openga. Chris anali DJ wofunitsitsa ndipo Sasha anali RJ yemwe akubwera. Onsewa amagawana nawo pazama TV ndikukhala ma hashtag. Mutha kuwapeza pa intaneti nthawi zonse ndipo amamvera mauthenga ochokera kwa mafani ndi otsatira. Palibe chifukwa chochitira nsanje zomwe onse awiri amachita mofanana, kotero Sasha amangodandaula mobisa.

"Ndikudziwa kuti simudzakhulupirira, koma Chris amakonda foni yake kuposa ine. Si foni yake yokha, koma yasanduka pulojekiti yake. Tsopano ali ndi pulogalamu yomuthandiza kugona. Sadzagwirana kapena supuni, chifukwa zikhoza kusokoneza 'kugona kwake'. Amafunsa wothandizira wake wa AI kuti amuuze nthabwala! Tsiku lina, sindidzamira."

Ngati mnzanuyo ali ndi vuto lalikulu ndi inu kukhala pa foni yanu, zikhoza kukhala chifukwa ali ndi chikhulupiriro ndi/kapena nkhani nsanje. Poopa zoyipa kwambiri, malingaliro awo oda nkhawa angawapangitse kukhulupirira kuti chinthu chokhacho chomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito foni yanu ndi chibwenzi, kapena amaganiza kuti mumapeza foni yanu kukhala yosangalatsa kuposa momwe alili.

Yankho: Ngati inunso mumakonda kugwiritsa ntchito zipangizo zamagetsi , ndiye kuti sipayenera kukhala nsanje muubwenzi. Koma, ngati mukuona kuti mnzanu sakukupatsani nthawi ngakhale pamene mukufuna kukhala naye, ndiye kuti uthengawo uyenera kutumizidwa — m'moyo weniweni. Ngati mnzanu wanena kuti ali ndi vuto ndi inu kukhala pafoni nthawi zonse, ganizirani ngati zomwe akuwona zili zoona kapena ngati akuda nkhawa ndi chinthu chomwe sayenera kuda nkhawa nacho.

Zowawa zochepa za nsanje zimakhala zachibadwa mukawona mwamuna wanu akuchitira mkazi wokondana kapena kukhala waubwenzi ndi wakale. Koma pamene nsanje yanu yokhudzana ndi kuyanjana kwa mwamuna wanu ndi akazi onse ikudutsa malire, muyenera kudziwa kuti kusatetezeka kwanu m'mabwenzi kukufika poipa.

Mulimonse mmene zinthu zilili, m’pofunika kukhala ndi chikhulupiriro m’chikondi chanu ndi kuzindikira kuti malingaliro a mwamuna kapena mkazi wansanje alibe maziko ngati mwamuna wanu amakukondanidi. Tengani malangizowa omwe tangokambirana za momwe mungachotsere nsanje ndikubweretsanso zabwino muubwenzi wanu.

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Ibibazo

1. Kodi nsanje ndi chizindikiro cha chikondi kapena kusatetezeka?

Mutha kuganiza kuti nsanje yanu imachokera ku chikondi chopambanitsa kwa mwamuna/mnzanu, koma kwenikweni zimayamba chifukwa cha kusatetezeka. Kukhala wosatetezeka kukhoza kuvulaza kwambiri ubwenzi wanu, choncho musalole kuti nsanje igonjetse chikondi chanu kwa mwamunayo. Chikondi ndikumverera kokwanira komwe kuyenera kusangalala ndi njira yabwino, popanda kulimbikitsa malingaliro olakwika ngati nsanje.

2. Kodi zizindikiro za nsanje ndi zotani?

Nsanje imatha kudziwonetsera yokha m'njira yomwe mumamvera kwa mwamuna wanu ndipo ngakhale kulankhula kapena kuchita naye. Mukayamba kulimbana ndi kusadzidalira komanso kudzidalira, kugwedezeka ndi kudzimvera chisoni, kudzifananiza ndi akazi ena pa moyo wa mwamuna wanu kapena kuyamba kusakonda abwenzi ake, mwasanduka mkazi wansanje.

3. Kodi nsanje ndi matenda a maganizo?

Nsanje yosadziwika bwino kapena nsanje ya pathological ikhoza kukhala chizindikiro cha vuto lamisala lamaganizidwe ngati nkhawa kapena schizophrenia. Ngati mulola kuti nsanje zanu zikulepheretseni, ndiye kuti pang'onopang'ono zingasokoneze ubale wanu ndikuwononga ubale wanu wachikondi womwe mumagawana ndi mnzanuyo. Ndikofunika kuzindikira zizindikiro mwamsanga ndikupeza momwe mungalekerere nsanje.

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