Zinthu 9 Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita Mukagwidwa Akubera

Timasunga maubwenzi ndi ma balms achikondi ndi zokambirana zomasuka, kuphatikiza machitidwe amtengo wapatali, ndi machitidwe a chisamaliro ndi chikhulupiriro. Choncho, ubwenzi umasweka kwambiri pamene kusakhulupirika kumagwera pamutu pake. Mukagwidwa kuti mukubera, zosindikizira zomwe zimalepheretsa munthu kukhala ndi nkhawa komanso zoopsa zimadulidwa. Funso lililonse lochititsa mantha komanso mantha omwe muli nawo - osati za ubale, koma zokhudzana ndi kudzidalira kwanu - zimalowerera.

Musanayambe kudzifunsa kuti, “Kodi munthu ayenera kuchita chiyani akagwidwa akubera?” Nazi zomwe mungachite. Mutha kuchotseratu zowawa zomwe mchitidwe wachinyengowu ungadzetse posankha kusabera. Ngati mukuwerenga nkhaniyi, ndiye kuti upangiri uwu ndi wabwino poyang'ana kumbuyo, ndipo sikukuthandizani pamavuto omwe muli.

Tifunika kuwonjezera kuti ngati muli muubwenzi wozunza, ndiye kuti muli pansi. Palibe malamulo a makhalidwe abwino omwe amagwira ntchito. Kuti timvetse bwino nkhaniyi, tinalankhula ndi mphunzitsi wa moyo komanso mlangizi Joie Bose , yemwe ndi katswiri wopereka uphungu kwa anthu omwe akuvutika ndi maukwati ozunza, kutha kwa mabanja, komanso zibwenzi zakunja kwa banja.

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Mkuyu (dzina lasinthidwa), yemwe nthawi ina adanyenga mnzawo, adagawana nafe nkhani yakutha kwawo. Tinawafunsa kuti, “Kodi munatani mutagwidwa mukuchita zachinyengo?” Iwo anati, “Ndinachita mantha, mopusa, sindinkaganiza kuti ndingagwidwe ndikubera.

Tikhoza kuimba nyimbo zokhudza kupatulika kwa maubwenzi, koma malinga ndi kafukufukuyu , kusakhulupirika n'kofala. Ndipo chifukwa tonse tamva nkhani zomwe chinyengo chinapangitsa kuti anthu apatukane, anthu nthawi zambiri amatenga nthawi yambiri kuti akhulupirire okondedwa awo. Amadziwa zizindikiro za nthawi imene mnzawo akumunamiza, kapena pamene akuyesera kubisa chinachake, kapena pamene zochita zawo zikuoneka kuti sizikuyenda bwino. Uyu ndi mnzawo wanu, pambuyo pake.

Ngati nonse muli pachibwenzi chimodzi kapena muli pachibwenzi chimodzi, ndiye kuti mwina amakudziwani bwino kwambiri moti mungagwidwe mukubera posachedwa. Ngakhale mutachita zinthu zonse zodzitetezera padziko lapansi, kusamala, ndikugwiritsa ntchito njira monga Snapchat kuti mubise mayendedwe anu, chiopsezo chogwidwa nthawi zonse chimakhala chachikulu. Kutalika kwa nthawi yomwe mupitilizabe kupulumuka zolakwa zanu kumadalira mwayi wanu komanso momwe mungamunamizire mnzanu.

Zinthu 9 Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita Mukagwidwa Akubera

Mantha akuwoneka ngati momwe amayankhira mwachilengedwe mukagwidwa mukubera. Mungafune kuthawa pamalopo, kunama, kubisala, kulira, kukhala dzanzi, kapena kukuwa mobwezera mnzanuyo pamene mukudziteteza. Mwinanso mungasangalale kuti chowonadi chikuwonekera poyera, kapena nthawi zina, kusangalala kuti mnzanu wazindikira ngati kubwezera ndiko komwe munkafuna.

Anthu amayankha funso lakuti, “Kodi munatani mutagwidwa mukubera?” m'njira zambiri zosiyanasiyana. Chifukwa chake tikumufunsa Joie njira yoyenera yothanirana ndi vutoli, ndipo akuti, "Choyamba, khalani chete. Osanena mawu. Mudzakhala wamantha. Mudzachita mantha. Chifukwa chake, simudzatha kunena zomwe mukumva. Chifukwa chake, khalani chete ndikusonkhanitsa malingaliro anu. Pamene mukudikirira, mverani zonse zomwe mnzanuyo anganene. Osachitapo kanthu. Iwo anganene kuti simunachite cholakwika nthawi zonse. ndi zopweteka, choncho msiyeni munthuyo achite.

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"Mnzako akachitapo kanthu, ganizirani chifukwa chake munachitira zomwe mwachitazo, ndipo musanadzifotokozere nokha, pepesani. Pepani chifukwa chowakhumudwitsa. Vomerezani. Kenako, perekani nthawi kuti fumbi likhazikike.

Kaya mungatani mukagwidwa mukubera, zinthu sizidzakhalanso chimodzimodzi. Mukhala mukutembenuza tsamba latsopano momwemonso mnzanuyo. Nazi zinthu 9 zoyenera kuchita mukagwidwa mukubera:

1. Yambani

Palibe chifukwa chobisala ndi mabodza onsewa. Akufunika ndipo ayenera kudziwa kuti zomwe akuwona ndi zenizeni, ngakhale zitakhala zopweteka bwanji. Kuwauza kuti akumvetsa molakwika zomwe zikuchitika kapena kuti alakwitsa n'kopweteka komanso kopanda chidwi. Joie akuti, "Palibe njira ina iliyonse yomwe munganama tsopano. Mwanama ndipo mabodzawo ndi omwe akubweretsani kuno. Ngati mwagwidwa mukubera, vomerani kuti mwabera mnzanu . Komabe, sikwabwino kunyenga munthu wina, ndipo ndibwino kusankha izi: kusiya kupandukira mnzanu; kulekana, kapena kukhala pachibwenzi chotseguka. Pamodzi, sankhani njira yopitira patsogolo."

Apa ndi pamene Matt analakwitsa. Iye akuti, "Ngati mukuganiza kuti munganene chiyani mukagwidwa mukubera, ndikunena izi - Osachita zomwe ndidachita. Chingwe chilichonse pakundiuza kuti ndiyenera kuvomereza. Koma sindinatero. Amadziwa kuti ndikubera, ndipo ndimadziwa kuti akufunika kuti nditsimikizire. Ndinkangokhalira kukokera mphindi imeneyo kuti tipulumutse tonsefe ululu. Sizinagwire ntchito."

2. Pepani mukagwidwa mwachinyengo

Mwalakwitsa kwambiri. Mungadziteteze, koma mukudziwa kuti zomwe munachita zimapitirira malire a makhalidwe abwino a ubale wanu. Chinthu choyamba chomwe mungachite kuti mukonze ubale womwe munawononga ndi kuwauza momwe mukumvera chisoni. Palibe kufotokozera, pokhapokha atapempha. Palibe zifukwa. Kungopepesa ndi chisoni.

Kudandaula kwanu ndi njira yokhayo yomwe munthuyu angayambe kuchira. Ruth anati: “Sanapepese n’komwe, chifukwa ndikudziwa kuti kuchira kwanga sikudalira munthu amene wandipwetekayo, koma kumuona akusonyeza kuti akulapadi kukanandipulumutsa pa chiyambi.

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3. Vomerezani kupwetekedwa mtima ndi zotsatirapo zake

Nthawi zambiri munthu wakunyengedwa amaganiza kuti mnzakeyo sakumvetsa kapena kusamala zomwe akukumana nazo. Iwo adzakhala kudutsa mu dizzying kuchuluka kwa ululu tsopano. Onetsetsani kuti mwawauza kuti mukudziwa momwe mwawapangitsa kumva. Kuti mumvetse chiwonongeko cha m’mutu ndi m’mitima mwawo, ndi kuti inu nokha muli ndi mlandu. Tengani kuyankha.

Zonsezi zidzawathandiza kupeza kutsekeka mukagwidwa mukubera munthu. Mukanena izi, musamakulipire zolakwa zanu kapena kuwasambitsa ndi chikondi pamene apempha malo.

4. Afotokozereni zambiri ngati atawafunsa

Anthu ena omwe ali munkhaniyi sadzakufunsani chilichonse chokhudza chibwenzi chanu. Amapeza chitonthozo chifukwa chakuti mukumva chisoni ndipo mukufuna kukonza zinthu. Kapena ngati mwasankha kupatukana, amaganiza mumtima mwawo kuti, “Kodi kudziwa chilichonse n’kofunika bwanji tsopano? Zingondipweteka.” Anthu ena angakufunseni mfundo zoyambira: kuyambira liti mwakhala ndi munthuyu, kodi mumamukonda kapena ndi kugonana, kodi mukukonzekera kuthetsa chibwenzicho ndi iye kapena ine, ndi zina zotero.

Ndiyeno pali enanso amene ayenera kudziwa zonse. Pokhapokha ngati akukuchitirani nkhanza, kwa munthu winayo, kapena iwo eni, chinthu chabwino kuchita ndicho kuyankha mafunso awo moleza mtima. Zimawathandiza kugwirizanitsa madontho a khalidwe lanu ndikuwathandiza kuthana ndi kusakhulupirira, ndipo ndi njira yoyenera kuti iwo achite mukagwidwa mukuchita chinyengo.

5. Chotsani wokondedwa wanu pamalopo

Izi zimamveka ngati kupanga sewero lanthabwala, koma onetsetsani kuti wokondedwa wanu sakhala pafupi ndi malowo mukagwidwa akubera munthu. Ndi nthawi yopanikizika kwambiri, yosasunthika, komanso yowopsa kwambiri kwa wokondedwa wanu. Uzani wokonda kubwerera mmbuyo kuti mutha kuyang'anira kamvuluvulu wapamtima wa mnzanuyo ndi malingaliro pang'ono komanso okoma mtima.

Carl anati: “Mtsikana wanga wakale anatigwira tikuchita zachinyengo tili pabedi. Zinali zomvetsa chisoni kwa tonsefe, makamaka kwa mwamuna wanga wakale. Komanso, munthu amene ndinanyenga nayeyo sanatuluke m’chipindamo.

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6. Aloleni atuluke pamene mwagwidwa mukubera

Ponena za kamvuluvulu wamalingaliro, muyenera kulola mnzanuyo kuti atuluke ndikukwiya. Muyenera kubwerera m'mbuyo ndikumvera zowawa zawo. Pokhapokha ngati akukuchitirani zachipongwe kapena mwamawu, musamudule mawu ndi kuwalola kutulutsa mkwiyo wawo. Nthawi yokhayo yomwe mungalowererepo ndi ngati akukuvulazani kapena akukuvulazani.

Daisy anati: “Ndinagwira mkazi wanga wakale akubera chifukwa mnzanga wina anandiuza kumene ali.” Sindikumbukira mphindi zingapo zotsatira.

7. Khalani wodekha, osabwezera

Anthu ena, akagwidwa akubera, amabwezera mnzawo chifukwa chodziteteza. Amakwiya ndikuyamba kufuula mnzawoyo chifukwa chowapeza akuchita zinthu zosayenera. Ken akuti, “Anali atakwiya kwambiri ndipo sankadziwa zomwe akunena. Anapitiriza kundifuulira kuti ndamulowerera pa zachinsinsi. Ndinadabwa komanso kukhumudwa ndipo ndinangochoka pamalopo.” Kotero ngati mukuganiza choti munene mukagwidwa mukubera, iyi ndi nthawi yoti muyankhe. Ino ndi nthawi yoti musonyeze chikondi kwa mnzawoyo.

Ayi ina yayikulu ndi iyi: Osachepetsa vuto lomwe lilipo kapena kutanthauza kuti angothetsa. Khalani tcheru, ndipo ngati simungathe kukhala pakali pano, bwererani mmbuyo mpaka mutapeza mawu oyenera osamalira komanso owona mtima.

8. Osatengeka ndi kusokoneza kapena kuyatsa gasi

N'kovuta kunyalanyaza zolakwa zanu ndi kuimba mlandu mnzanu kapena wokondedwa wanu chifukwa cha zolakwa zanu. Koma kusinthana mlandu muubwenzi kumangowonjezera ululu womwe mwayambitsa. Monga tanenera kale, dziwani kuti muli ndi mlandu. Mukudziwa kuti pali mwayi waukulu wogwidwa mukubera wina, ndiye bwanji kuchita izi? Anthu ena amanyoza anzawo, ndipo amawauza kuti achita misala chifukwa chokhulupirira zinthu ngati zimenezi. Amakana zenizeni za mnzanuyo. Izi ndi nkhanza zenizeni.

9. Auzeni zomwe mukufuna mtsogolo

Ngati mukufuna kukonza zinthu, ndiye kuti ulendowu udzakhala wautali. Ali ndi ufulu wodzifunsa ngati mungabwerezenso kuchita zachinyengo ndipo mwina adzakhala maso ndi kusamala pa chilichonse chimene mungachite. Angafunike mpata poyamba, chilimbikitso, kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake munachitira izi, komanso kusonyeza chisoni nthawi zonse kuchokera kumbali yanu.

Ngati mukufuna kupatukana, ndiye kuti nkhaniyi iyenera kusweka modekha komanso modekha. Khalani owona mtima. Nthawi yabodza ndi chinyengo yatha. Komanso, ganizirani ngati nonse mukufuna kupatukana kapena ndi mmodzi wa inu. Angafune kukhala nanu mosasamala kanthu za chochitikachi, kapena mungakhale inuyo amene mukufuna kuchoka ngakhale kuti iwo akupereka mpata wokhululukira.

Pali kafukufuku wokhudza “Chifukwa Chiyani Anthu Omwe Ali Paubwenzi Amanyenga?” yemwe amanena kuti chibwenzi chimodzi chokha mwa zisanu (20.4%) chimatha chifukwa cha chibwenzi. Izi zikusonyeza kuti pali chiyembekezo, ngati ndi chomwe mukufuna, ndiye chomwe mukufuna. Tikukhulupirira kuti nonse awiri mutha kupirira izi, ndipo mutha kumanganso ubale wolimba ngakhale vutoli litabuka. Kapena kuti muyende m'njira zanu zosiyana momwe mungathere.

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