Emshadweni Kanye Nokuhlalisana Okujabulisayo Nomlingani Wakho

“Abukho ubudlelwano obungenasici. Abantu ababili nje abangaphelele abenqaba ukuhlukana.” Ayikho into efingqa umnyombo wobudlelwano besikhathi eside phakathi kwabantu ababili abahlangene othandweni kangcono kunalesi sisho. Uma usufunde ukubuka ubudlelwano bakho nozakwenu othandana naye kule lensi, ukuzulazula ezikhathini ezinhle nezingezinhle zokuphila, ukwamukela izinto ezingalungile kanye nokushiyeka komunye nomunye, nokuthola injabulo ngemva kwakho kuba lula kakhulu. Le ndaba iyisibonelo esihle sayo.

Imfihlo Yokuba Nobudlelwano Obujabulisayo

U-Fali Kekobad ubekhona, wenze lokho, futhi wafunda izinqwaba kule nqubo. Ngokwesibonelo, wafunda kwezakhe umshado wokuqala indlela yokubamba ndawonye. Uthi: “Kulula kakhulu ukwenza amaphutha. "Ukushada ngaphambili kuyasiza ngempela," uhleka u-Fali ongathinteki, ngendlela asebenza ngayo noGeetha, unkosikazi wakhe oyingcweti waseKarnataka. "Sinesikhathi esihle. Sihlala sijabulela yonke into."

Ukujabulela izinto ezincane

UFali uhamba ekhuluma futhi ujabulela izinto ezincane empilweni yakhe noGeetha nendodakazi yabo uMili. Uyaqhubeka nokwabelana ngevayibhu emnandi nonkosikazi wakhe wangaphambili, nakuba bengavamile ukuhlangana. Indodana yakhe uVarun ivame ukujoyina umndeni omusha kayise esidlweni sakusihlwa noma iholide lezikhathi ezithile.

Ukuzinza kwezezimali nokuzola

UFali ukholelwa ekutheni uzolile ngakho konke. Ukholelwa futhi, ngokuqinile, ukuthi "ukwenza kahle ngokwezimali kuyawusiza umshado. Owesilisa kufanele azinze futhi azinze ezezimali. Ziyoba khona izinkinga ngaphandle kwalokhu."

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Impilo eyodwa kanye nezifundo zayo

Engashadile cishe iminyaka eyi-10 ngaphambi kokuba ashade noGeetha, uFali wahlangana nabesifazane abaningi ngaleso sikhathi. “Kwakuyisikhathi esingcono kakhulu ekuphileni kwami,” uvuma ngokungahloniphi. Kodwa-ke, lesi sikhathi samvusa izinzuzo zomshado. "Kuhle ukuba nomndeni nezingane. Kuyakuyala, ubeka imingcele kuwena. Ngeke ukwazi ukuthi, "Kulungile, ngizofika ekhaya ngo-3 ekuseni." Uma usukwamukele lokho, uqala ukukujabulela okubaluleke nakakhulu, wamukele ubuntu bomlingani wakho, bese uqala ukukujabulela lokho.

Indoda yomndeni nokuqina

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Uthando lokuhamba nomculo

U-Fali uhamba ngaphezu kwe-100 km nsuku zonke futhi uthanda yonke into. “Ngiyawuthanda umculo wami, bengiyithanda i-jazz, manje sengilalela noma yini emsakazweni we-FM,” usho kanje. I-Geetha imatasa kakhulu ngomculo wayo futhi iqoqela bobabili umculo. “Kungenza ngilalele,” kuchaza uFali ngokukhulu ukuzithoba. “Ulokhu eqoqa imininingwane ocingweni lwakhe futhi engitshela ngezinto ezenzekayo yonke indawo. Unenethiwekhi emhlabeni wonke.”

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Indlela yomshado

Ngokusobala, ungowohlobo olukholelwa ekungeneni emshadweni ngomoya ophansi nangobuhlakani. “Kufanele ngenze umkhaya usebenze, uvela ngaphakathi. Akuphoqiwe,” usho kanje. Ukuvumelana nezimo kungenye ingxenye abazakhele ebudlelwaneni babo. "Ngitshela uGeetha, hamba nomaphi lapho ufuna ukuya khona. Mina noMili sizokulungisa."

Ubudala nenkolo

Izibalo zomphakathi azibalulekile kulo mbhangqwana ongajwayelekile. Mayelana igebe lobudala phakathi kwabo, uyahleka bese ethi, “Ngomqondo ngimncane kakhulu kunaye. Uma wenza izinto ngendlela efanele, awugugi. Ngokwesibonelo, sihlala ngaphandle kwedolobha futhi sinenkomponi enkulu. Ngigijima lapho nsuku zonke ngemva komsebenzi.”

Ngokuphathelene nenkolo nokusho kukaGeetha kokuthi usephenduke inkolo kakhudlwana ngemva kokushada naye, uyancokola, “Nganginenkinga nomnyango wentela.” Ngemva kwalokho, waqala 'ukwenza kancane'. "Ngicabanga ukuthi kuyasiza. Ngiya endaweni yezemidlalo, ngibuye, izinto ziqala ukuxazululeka." Nokho, lo mthandi wemvelo uyakholelwa emandleni aphakeme, ngoba “izitshalo, izilwane, lendawo yonke, akwenzekanga nje.”

Wabelana ngemantra yakhe yokuhlalisana okujabulisayo nozakwethu - "Kukhona okuhle kithi sonke. Zama ukuthola izinto ezinhle kumuntu. Izinto ezingezinhle azinandaba. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, thembeka. Ngaphandle kokwethembana, akukho okwenzekayo. Futhi yilapho kuphela uthando luyokhula."

Imicabango Final

Umshado uwuhambo lokusebenzisana, ukukhula, nokuqondana. Ukuhlalisana okujabulisayo nomlingani wakho akukhona ukungabibikho kokungqubuzana kodwa ukuba khona kokuthembana, ukuxhumana, nenhlonipho. Ngokulinganisa ubuntu nobundawonye, ​​ukukhulisa ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nomzimba, nokuqondanisa emigomweni eyabiwe, imibhangqwana ingakha isibopho esiqinile, esigculisayo. Khumbula, umshado ophumelelayo uyinqubo ethuthukayo—eyakhiwa usuku nosuku ngothando, ukubekezela nokuzinikela. Abeluleki bethu abanolwazi ingakusiza wena nophathina wakho niqinise ukuxhumana, nixazulule izingxabano, futhi nakhe ubuhlobo obujabulisayo, obuphumelelayo.

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