Wake waba nalobo busuku lapho evele engakwazi ukuyeka ukuhona futhi uvuka ngakusasa ulungele ukuklabalasa kunoma ubani owela indlela yakho? Noma mhlawumbe, akakwazi ukuyeka ukuhambahamba ngenkathi elele, futhi ushiywe usuku lonke. Mhlawumbe omunye wenu uvuka ngo-5:30 ekuseni kanti omunye uthanda ukulala? Sikulethela isixazululo osucabange ngaso ngaphambili, okungenani engqondweni yakho: isehlukaniso sokulala.
Cha, isehlukaniso sokulala akukona ukuthi uphupha ngesehlukaniso. Kumane kusho ukulala embhedeni ohlukile kumlingani wakho noma ngisho ekamelweni elihlukile uma kudingeka. Lokho kuzwakala njengombono omuhle, akunjalo? Ngeke usadinga izinkomishi ezine zekhofi ukuze uqede usuku. Valelisa emibuthanweni yakho emnyama. Kodwa linda, ingabe umshado wakho uzohlupheka?
Ukwabelana ngombhede kubonakala njengenye yezinto ezisondelene kakhulu umbhangqwana ongayenza. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umbhangqwana olala emakamelweni ahlukene ngokuvamile ususa yonke inhlebo eyingozi. Sonke siwujwayele umqondo wokuthi ukwabelana ngombhede kuyinkomba yobudlelwano obunempilo nobusebenzayo; kodwa kuthiwani uma iqala ukubangela ukungalali kahle noma ukungalali nhlobo?
Ukuze siphendule yonke imibuzo yakho, siphendukele kusosayensi wengqondo uRidhi Golechha (i-Masters in Psychology), ogxile ekwelulekeni ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo. Sichaza konke okuphathelene nalo mkhuba omusha ukuze ukwazi ukwenza isinqumo sakho ngaphandle kokulala ubusuku obuningi.
Iyini Isehlukaniso Sobuthongo?
Okuqukethwe
Njengoba kushiwo, ukuhlukana nokulala kusho ukulala emibhedeni emibili ehlukene kungaba ekamelweni elilodwa noma ehlukile, kuye ngesimo sakho. Manje, uma othile ekutshela ukuthi, “Mina nomyeni wami silala emakamelweni ahlukene ngenxa yesifo sami sokuphefumula,” ubungabaza ngokushesha amandla omshado wabo, akunjalo? Mhlawumbe akufanele. Izimpawu zomshado omubi zihlukile ngokuphelele.
Cabanga nje, ubani owaze wakutshela ukuthi kufanele ulale ndawonye nomlingani wakho njalo ebusuku? Ikakhulukazi uma ithinta ukulala kwakho. Imicabango efana nokuthi, “Bekuhlale kunjalo nje!” nokuthi “Labo abalala ngokuhlukana bayahlukana” kungenzeka kugijima engqondweni yakho njengamanje. Kodwa bewazi yini ukuthi uDavid noVictoria Beckham nabo bazilolongela ukulala bodwa? Futhi kubonakala sengathi benza kahle kakhulu.
Ucwaningo olwenziwe yinkampani yokulala luthole ukuthi oyedwa kubo bonke abashadile abangu-12 baseMelika usevele unikeze ithuba lokuqeda ubuthongo. Lolu hlobo lokulala luye lwasiza abantu abaningi. Uma kungadingeki uzwe ukuhogela okukhulu okubulalayo noma amaphupho adlalwa ngokucophelela omlingani wakho okhuluma ngokulala, ubani ongeke afune umshado wokulala wedwa? Ungitshela ukuthi awunaso ngisho nesifiso esincane sokwazi?
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Ivamise Kangakanani Isehlukaniso Sokulala?
Akukhona nje ukuthi abakwaBeckham bafakazela ukuthi kuwumkhuba onempilo wemibhangqwana ehlala ndawonye, kodwa iNdlovukazi yaseBrithani u-Elizabeth kanye neNkosana uPhilip abazange balale embhedeni owodwa. Futhi umshado wabo wathatha iminyaka engu-74. Futhi, ubuso obudumile bethelevishini uCarson Daly muva nje ukhulume engxoxweni mayelana nokuhlukanisa imibhede nomkakhe, “Kuyavunywa ukuthi sobabili sasilala ngokuhlukana kangcono.” Uma izindaba zasebukhosini nezosaziwayo zingakukhuthazi ukukwethemba okukhulu, mhlawumbe isayensi nezibalo zizokwenza.
Ake sikuhlolele iqiniso. Ngokusho kocwaningo , ama-75% abantu baseMelika bavumile ukuthi ukulala ndawonye nabalingani babo kuthinta ikhwalithi yokulala kwabo kanti ama-25% abike ukuthi isimo siye saba sibi kakhulu kusukela kwaqala ubhubhane. Kolunye ucwaningo olufanayo eMelika, ama-19% abantu abangu-2,000 abaphendulile basola abalingani babo abahlala nabo ngokuphazamiseka kokulala. Futhi ocwaningweni lwabantu baseMelika abangu-3,000, ama-30% abantu ababambe iqhaza bavumile ukuthi banesifiso sokuhlukanisa ubuthongo.
Ngakho-ke, uma uzizwa unecala ngokufuna isinyenyela ukuhlukana nomuntu oshade naye/umlingani wakho, ungakwenzi. Kubonisa ukuthi ubukhathalela ngempela lobu budlelwano futhi uzimisele ukwenza izinguquko ukuze buqhubeke. Siyakuthola, kuyisinqumo esikhulu. Cishe ukhathazekile ngokuzizwa unqanyuliwe ngenxa yokuntuleka kokuthintwa okuseduze. Futhi, kungenzeka kube nengxoxo engathandeki okufanele ube nayo nomlingani wakho.
Kodwa, izifundo zithi ukulala ngokwehlukana kungathuthukisa ikhwalithi yokulala ngenxa yokuphazamiseka okuncane. Akusho ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho buwele emgodini futhi imibhangqwana kufanele ivulekele ukuba nengxoxo enempilo ngale ndaba. Uma kwenziwa ngozwelo, lokhu kungaba yisibusiso emshadweni wakho.
Ungasicela Kanjani Isehlukaniso Sokulala?
Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isinqumo sokungenela umkhuba wokuhlukana nokulala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kufanele ucele kanjani umlingani wakho. Phela, awufuni ukuthi umlingani wakho avuke ngokukhathazeka ubusuku bonke, ezibuza ngempilo yobuhlobo benu. Ukuthi “Angilali ngokwanele, ake sizame ukulala ezingutsheni ezihlukene (noma emibhedeni)” kungase kuhunyushwe kabi ngokuthi “Angithandi ukulala nawe, ngifuna ukulala ngedwa” ngenxa yokungaxhumani kahle. Ngakho-ke, ukukhetha amagama akho ngokucophelela kubalulekile. Esikhundleni salokho, ungathi,
"S'thandwa, sobabili siyazi ukuthi le ndlela yokulala ephazamisekile iphazamisa umsebenzi wethu wansuku zonke. Siyadangala, sihlala sikhathele. Nginesiphakamiso esingase siyixazulule le nkinga. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuthi ngisho noma yini, kufanele wazi ukuthi akusho nangayiphi indlela ukuthi ngiyakuthanda kancane noma angisakutholi ukhanga. Ingabe uzowuvula umqondo wokulala emibhedeni emibili ehlukene kusukela manje kuqhubeke?"
Ekhuluma ngendlela okufanele ucele ngayo umlingani wakho isehlukaniso sokulala, uRidhi wabelana ngamaphuzu ambalwa abalulekile okufanele uwacabangele, “Uma usuzoba nale ngxoxo, qiniseka ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho buzinzile futhi bunobudlelwano obuhle. Uma noma yimuphi umlingani engazethembi, ukucela ukuhlukana kokulala kungase kubangele ukungazethembi kwabo nakakhulu.
"Uma noma ubani kini enesitayela sokunamathelana esingavikelekile , kudingeka nibhekane nesimo esinjalo ngobuhlakani. Kumelwe niqinisekise ukuthi umlingani wakho akakuthathi lokhu njengophawu lokwenqatshwa futhi aqale ukuzizwa engafunwa. Ilungiselelo lokulala wedwa kufanele likhethwe uma nobabili nizizwa niphephile futhi nithandwa esibophweni senu futhi nikwazi ukuvuma ngenjabulo isidingo somunye nomunye sesikhala somuntu siqu."
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Indlela yokwenza isehlukaniso sokulala sisebenze ngaphandle kokulimaza umlingani wakho
Ngokuqondakalayo, ukucela umlingani wakho ukuba nihlukane kuyindlela ekhohlisayo. Ngisho noma umkhuba wesehlukaniso sokulala ukhula, ukucwaswa okuhambisana nesenzo sokulala ngokuhlukana kwanele ukuze kugunyaze ukubukeka okumbalwa kokwahlulela okuvela kubantu obaziyo. Noma kunjalo, uma kuzwakala njengento efanele ukuyenza, asikho isizathu sokuthi kungani ungaqhubeki nakho.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba wenze kanjalo, yiba nohlelo lomdlalo olulungele ukuqinisekisa ukuthi isimo asiphuthi uma umlingani wakho esabela kabi kakhulu. Kuleli qophelo, kungumsebenzi wakho ukucacisa ukuthi awususi uthando lwempilo yakho kude. Ukuzincisha uthando akuyona inhloso yalolu hlelo. Nansi indlela ongathola ngayo ibhalansi phakathi kwempilo yakho yocansi kanye nendawo yakho siqu :
- Ungahlaseli umlingani wakho ngamazwi ngokulimaza umjikelezo wakho wokulala
- Sebenzisa izabizwana ezithi 'thina' esikhundleni sokuthi 'wena'
- Baqinisekise ukuthi akuhlangene nokusondelana kwakho ngokomzwelo noma ngokomzimba
- Bhekana nenkinga yokulala umlingani wakho anayo futhi ubheke amakhambi njengezifutho zamakhala noma eminye imithi yokulala enqunyiwe
- Uma ukuhona kungeyona inkinga, ungase ucabangele imibhede emibili eyodwa ekamelweni elilodwa
- Beka eceleni isikhathi ubusuku ngabunye ukuze ulale nomlingani wakho ukuze nigonane, nizwe ukuthintwa omunye nomunye, nihlanganyele ubulili nezingxoxo ezijulile.
- Cela umlingani wakho ukuthi asho imigomo yakhe esikhundleni sokuphoqa izifiso zakho kuye
Izindlela Eziyisi-9 Isehlukaniso Sokulala Ezingasiza Umshado Wakho
Asisho ukuthi kufanele uyeke ukulala ndawonye nesithandwa sakho esibalulekile njalo ebusuku. Ungagxuma embhedeni nomlingani wakho noma nini lapho ufuna. Hlala ubusuku bonke, kuyabanda ngaphandle kwengubo noma kunjalo (futhi sonke siyazi ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ucansi ebudlelwaneni). Kodwa uma kuqala ukuhona noma ukukhahlela, uyazi ukuthi uhlala unombhede wakho ongaya kuwo. Futhi nakhu ukuthi kungani kufanele uthole umbhede wakho:
1. Uthola ukukhumbula umlingani wakho
Kusukela kubhubhane, ukusebenza ekhaya sekuyindlela yokuphila okusho ukuthi uchitha isikhathi sakho esiningi nomlingani wakho. Futhi siyaqiniseka ukuthi yonke imibhangqwana ingavuma ukuthi ukuhlala ndawonye njalo kungasiza kakhulu. Udinga isikhala ebudlelwaneni ukuze usinde futhi ukhule, futhi ukuhlangana ndawonye amahora angama-24 ngeke kukusize ngalutho.
U-Ridhi uthi “Ukungabikho kwenza inhliziyo ikhule ibe mnandi. Leso sisho siphethe iqiniso eliningi kunalokho esikukhathalelayo ukuvuma. Kumele uqaphele ukuthi uma wena noma umlingani wakho ningekho ohambweni, uqala ukuphuthelwa kakhulu. Ubuchopho bakho obunengqondo buqala ukucabanga ngokubonga nazo zonke izinto ezinhle ekuguquguqukeni kwakho, esikhundleni sokuhlala ucabanga ngokushiyeka.
"Uma ukugqama okuvela kokubi kwebhondi yakho sekushintshela kokuhle, ibanga ligcina selidale ukunamathelana okunempilo. Uma uphendukela emibhedeni ehlukene ngaphambi kokulala, nakanjani uthola ithuba lokukhumbula umlingani wakho, okungase kuholele ekwazisaneni okukhulu ngomunye nomunye nobudlelwane benu."
Ukuchitha ubusuku behlukene ngeke nje kwenze ulale ngokuthula kodwa futhi kuzokunika isikhathi sokulangazelela ukuthi umlingani wakho abe nawe. Uma udlula ubusuku bonke ngaphandle kokukhwela embhedeni wabo, uzokwazi ukujabulela inkomishi yekhofi noma itiye nozakwenu ngakusasa ekuseni, ngaphandle kokucasuka ngenxa yokungalali kahle. Siyabheja manje usuqala ukukholwa kancane kulo lonke uhlobo lwesehlukaniso sokulala, akunjalo?
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2. Ekugcineni uzothola ubuthongo obanele ukuze uphile ngosuku
Isizathu sokuqala sokuthi kungani kufanele ulahle ipharadigm ethi 'labo abalala ngokuhlukana bahlukana' kudoti ukuthi ekugcineni uzokwazi ukulala ngokwanele. Ngeke ubeke usawoti ekhofini lakho kanye noshukela emaqandeni akho. Ubungavuka uqabulekile esikhundleni sokuba namehlo anzima futhi uqumbile.
Futhi ngeke ubheke ngaphesheya kombhede ngokunengeka, uhlela ukubulala ekhanda lakho. Kunalokho, ungase umane ugoqe umlingani wakho ekuseni kakhulu. Hhayi bo, ungase uzizwe sengathi ufuna ukumlethela isidlo sasekuseni embhedeni. Ugcine nini ukwenza lokho njengendlela yokubonisa uthando ? Noma ubani owathi “awukwazi ukujabulisa abanye ngaphandle kokuthi ujabule” wayeqinisile!
3. Ucwaningo luthi kuyawusiza umshado
Ingabe ukulala wedwa kuyindlela enempilo yomshado noma imibhangqwana ehlala ndawonye? Idatha ibonakala iphakamisa lokho. Ucwaningo luthi ukulala kangcono kwandisa ikhwalithi yokuphila komshado iyonke. Futhi, kukhona nezifundo ezikhomba ukuthi ukuntuleka kokulala kungabangela izingxabano ezimbi kakhulu.
Sesikutshelile ukuthi isehlukaniso sokulala sikhula kanjani futhi ngesizathu esihle futhi. Asisho ukuthi konke kuzohamba kahle, nokho. Kuzodingeka ukhululeke kukho nomlingani wakho. Mhlawumbe ubamangaze ngenqwaba yama roses, izinongo izikhathi zokuzilungisa, ugone ngaphambi kokuthi ulale kahle, bese ugxumela embhedeni wakho ukuze ulale ngokuthula, ukhiphe ukuhona/ukububula/ukukhahlela. Sithembe, uzomthanda kakhulu umlingani wakho ekuseni.
4. Isikhathi enisichitha ndawonye sizokwanelisa kakhulu
Ezikhathini eziningi ebudlelwaneni, sigcina sesijahe isikhathi esisichitha ndawonye kunokugxila kulokho esikwenzayo phakathi nalawo mahora ayigugu sindawonye. Uma ninobabili usuku lonke, maningi amathuba okuthi nigcine nithathana kalula, njengoba umshikashika wempilo ungase uphenduke isithukuthezi ebudlelwaneni benu.
URidhi usitshela ukuthi ukuhlukana kokulala kungakwazi kanjani ukulungisa, singasho ukuthi, ubudlelwano obuyisicefe. “Ngokuvamile sibheka isikhathi nomlingani wethu ngombono wobuningi kunekhwalithi. Kuhlale kumayelana nokuthi “Uchitha isikhathi esingakanani nami?” hhayi ukuthi “Senzani kulesi sikhathi esilinganiselwe esisichitha ndawonye?”
"Lapho ushintsha ukugxila kwakho kusukela ekuchitheni isikhathi esiningi ndawonye kuya ekuchitheni isikhathi esihle ndawonye, kuzoba nomthelela omuhle ebudlelwaneni benu. Kulolu suku naseminyakeni, imibhangqwana imatasa futhi inempilo 'ematasatasa yesiko'. Yingakho izinga labo lokulala kanye nezinga lobudlelwano babo kudingeka libe phezulu emdlalweni wabo futhi ukulala ngokuhlukana kungasiza kukho kokubili."
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5. Akusekho “Ungakimi!”
Ngesikhathi nisathandana, wawungasakwazi ukulinda ukuthi uzitholele isithandwa sakho. Futhi manje, sekufike kulokhu - umlenze wabo onganyakazi ohlangothini 'lwakho' lombhede ukuthukuthelisa kakhulu. Nobabili ninemicamelo nezingubo zokulala kodwa cishe njalo ebusuku, umuntu oyedwa ubamba yonke indawo, kanti omunye uyazabalaza ukuze angawi elenga onqenqemeni lombhede.
Uma ulele embhedeni wakho, lezi zinkinga ngeke ziphinde zikukhathaze. Amasentimitha ayisishiyagalombili ombhede ngeke esaba 'uhlangothi lwakho'. Uzoba nalo lonke igumbi olidingayo, konke kuwe. Izixazululo zombhede zemibhangqwana azilula kunalokhu kanye nezinye izinkinga eziningi ezivamile zobudlelwano njengokuxabana okungapheli nokuphikisana nazo zizoxazululwa kule nqubo. Esikhundleni sokuthola ukuthi wenzeni ngezingalo zakho ubusuku bonke, ekugcineni uzokwazi ukugxila ekulaleni.
6. Kuzokwenza ngcono ukusondelana ngokomzimba nempilo yocansi
Uma wabelana ngombhede kodwa ulindele ubusuku obungaphumuli, ukumelwa okubonakalayo kwesikhathi sakho sokulala nozakwenu cishe ngeke kubonise umculo wothando ngemuva noma wena ugqolozele ngothando emehlweni omlingani wakho. Kungabandakanya nobabili ukuthi nilale kahle, nithole indawo enethezekile, futhi nizame ukulala. Ngaphandle kokugonyuluka.
Uma nilala embhedeni owodwa, ngezinye izikhathi ningase nilale/nigone ngenxa yalokho. Uma nilala emibhedeni ehlukene bese uqala ukuphuthelwa umlingani wakho, uzoya ukuyogona ngoba ufuna ngempela. Uzoqala ucansi ngentshiseko nangokuzithandela. Ungacabanga yini indlela engcono yokugcina inhlansi iphila ngemva kweminyaka eyishumi nishadile noma ngaphezulu?
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8. Hlala ushadile isikhathi eside ngokuba nempilo engcono
Akumangazi ukuthi ukulala ubusuku bonke okunekhwalithi okungenani amahora angu-7 kunezinzuzo eziningi zezempilo. Izifundo zibonisa ukuthi uma ulala kahle ebusuku, imisipha yakho ithola ithuba lokululama. Uzizwa uphumule kahle futhi isimiso sakho sokulala siba ngcono. Uma uvame ukuzizwa ukhathazekile noma ucindezelekile noma uhlushwa esinye isifo sengqondo, izifundo eziningi zithi kubaluleke kangakanani ngawe ukuthi ulale kahle ebusuku.
Umuntu ovamile uchitha iminyaka engu-25 yokuphila kwakhe elele, qiniseka ukuthi awugcini nje ngokusonta futhi uphenduka kodwa empeleni ulala kuleyo minyaka engama-25. Ngokuhlukana kokulala, uzokwazi ukwenza kanjalo ngaphandle kokuthi ukhiphe umuthi wokulala njalo ebusuku noma uvakashele uchwepheshe wokulala.
“Ngidinga isehlukaniso sokulala?” Thatha le mibuzo ukuze uthole
Ukwehlukana kokulala kungaba yinto ebucayi kakhulu kubantu abaningi. Ngisho nabelaphi abangochwepheshe abayinikezi ngokuqondile imibhangqwana enezinkinga zokulala. Kunalokho bazobeka izici ezinhle nezingezinhle zaleli lungiselelo futhi bakushiyele umbhangqwana ukuba unqume ukuthi yini esebenza kangcono emshadweni wawo. Esimeni lapho ungenaso isiqiniseko sokuthi ikuphi okugunyaza ukuthi ucele umlingani wakho ukuthi nilale ngokwehlukana, le mibuzo ingase ikusize ukuthi ubeke izidingo zakho kuqala:
- Ingabe ukuhona ngokweqile komlingani wakho kukucasula kakhulu? Yebo Cha
- Ingabe balokhu bekukhahlela embhedeni ubusuku bonke? Yebo Cha
- Bafika sekusebusuku kakhulu bezokuvusa? Yebo Cha
- Ingabe banomkhuba wokuskrola ifoni yabo noma ukusebenza besuka ekamelweni kuze kube sebusuku? Yebo Cha
- Ingabe uzizwa ukhathazekile ngaphambi kokulala? Yebo Cha
- Ingabe ukuya ngokuya ngokuya kuncika kumaphilisi okulala? Yebo Cha
- Ingabe umzimba womlingani wakho uyashisa ngaphansi kwamashidi? Yebo Cha
- Ingabe ngaso sonke isikhathi udinga isiphuzo ngaphambi kokulala ukuze sikusize ulale? Yebo Cha
- Ingabe impilo yakho yezocansi ithatha ingozi enkulu ngenxa yokuntuleka kokulala? Yebo Cha
- Ingabe wena nomlingani wakho nilwa kakhulu usuku lonke? Yebo Cha
Uma impendulo yakho emibuzweni engaphezu kweyisi-6 inguyebo, kufanele ucabange ngokujulile ngokushintshela embhedeni ohlukile. Khumbula, izinkinga zingase zibe kuwe futhi. Qaphela uma umlingani wakho ebhekene nezinkinga ezifanayo lapho elele eduze kwakho.
Izikhombi Ezibalulekile
- Isehlukaniso sokulala asikona ukwehlukana kwangempela phakathi kwabalingani ababili; kusho ukuthi ulala emibhedeni ehlukene
- Ukuphazamiseka kokulala okuningana noma amashejuli ahlukene okulala nemikhuba yokulala kungase kuholele kuleli lungiselelo
- Umqondo uwukuthola ubuthongo obuhle ukuze uzigcine uphilile futhi usindise umshado wakho ekubhidlikeni
- Ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi ukwehlukana kokulala akubangeli ukungqubuzana okungathi sína phakathi kwabalingani ababili, kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngale ndaba ngendlela ezwelayo; khetha amagama akho ngokucophelela lapho uxoxa ngokuhlukana kokulala
- Kufanele ubeke eceleni isikhathi esithile sokusondelana ngokomzimba nezingxoxo zokulala ngaphambi kokuyolala
Ekupheleni kosuku, uma unenkinga yokulala ngokwanele futhi uzizwa uguquguquka ngosuku olulandelayo ngenxa yengcindezi yokulala embhedeni owodwa nophathina wakho, ukulala uwedwa kuyokusiza nakanjani. Uma sicabangela ukuthi isehlukaniso sokulala sikhula kanjani, siqinisekile ukuthi isigcwagcwa esihambisana nokulala ngokwehlukana sizoshabalala maduze. Usalindeni? Hamba uyothenga leyo mibhede emibili ongashadile obulokhu uyifuna kodwa ubunamahloni kakhulu ukuyiveza. Vele uthumele owakwakho lesi sihloko, futhi bazothola iseluleko.
Lesi sihloko sibuyekezwe ngo-Oct, 2022.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
Yebo, kulungile ukuthi imibhangqwana eshadile ilale ngokuhlukana. Njengoba nobabili niyabona ukuthi lokhu akwenziwa njengophawu lokucasuka futhi kwenziwa kuphela ukuze nilale kahle. Uma omunye wabathintekayo engajabule ngokulala ngokwehlukana, kufanele kugwenywe. Kodwa uma izinhlangothi zombili zizimisele, ukuhlukana kokulala kungaba nezinzuzo eziningi. Uzolala kangcono, uzizwe ungcono ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo, uzothola ithuba lokukhumbula umlingani wakho futhi impilo yakho yocansi ingase ibe ngcono.
Uma ugijimela ukulala kuqala, uma ukuhona/ukukhahlela kophathina wakho kukugcina ungalali ubusuku bonke, futhi uma usola umlingani wakho ngokuqondile ngokungalali, cishe sekuyisikhathi sokuthi uhlukanise imibhede. Ezinye izimpawu zihlanganisa ukuthi awukwazi ukulala ngaphandle kokufaka ama-earplugs, uphuze isiphuzo ngaphambi kokulala, noma uphuze amaphilisi okulala. Ukulala ngokwemvelo kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokukwenza, futhi njengoba izitayela zokulala uwedwa ziyanda, ungazama.
Uma umlingani oyedwa engathengiswa ngokugcwele ngombono wokuhlukana kokulala, angase abe nemizwa yokucasuka. Kubalulekile ukwenza isiqiniseko sokuthi bonke ozakwethu bakhona ngokuphelele. Uma nje lokho kunakekelwa futhi izidingo zocansi nezokusondelana zikhulunywa kahle, azikho izinkinga eziningi ekuhlukaneni kokulala. Ngaphandle-ke, kufanele uhlanze kabili inani lamashidi.
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