Takakau, e rapu aroha ana? Ko te pātai me pēhea te kimi hoa wahine, me te hanga hononga pakari ki a ia, tera pea ka taumaha ki tō hinengaro. Ahakoa he takakau koe, kāore he hoa piri, he tangata motuhake rānei kei te pirangi koe ki tētahi, ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakatau i te huarahi tika.
Me tono atu rānei koe ki a ia i te tuatahi? He pai ake rānei te whakatakoto i te kaupapa matua hei kukume i a ia i te tuatahi? Ki te mea me ārahi koe mā te kukume i a ia, he aha te huarahi tika hei mahi? Ā, me pēhea e mōhio ai koe ko tehea te wā tika hei tere atu?
Kia ngāwari ai te kimi hoa wahine, me mārama koe ki ngā whakautu ki ēnei pātai me ētahi atu pātai pērā. Kātahi ka whakamahere i tō rautaki whakaipoipo kia rite ki tēnā.
Me pēhea te whiwhi hoa wahine - 21 Tohutohu e whai hua ana
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Ae, e mōhio ana mātou, mā ēnei pātai katoa, ngā whakarerekētanga me ngā tūponotanga o te putanga ka puta te ahua uaua o te kimi hoa wahine. Engari kāore e tika kia pērā. Mena kei te mārama koe ki tāu e hiahia ana mai i tētahi hoa rangatira me tētahi whanaungatanga, ka māmā ake te huarahi whakamua.
Mena kei a koe tētahi kōtiro e tino paingia ana e koe, ā, ka hiahia koe ki te noho tahi me ia, kua oti kē te wikitoria i te haurua o te pakanga. Me mōhio noa koe mēnā e hiahia ana ia ki te noho hei hoa wahine māu i mua i tō neke. Ahakoa kāore koe e hiahia, mā te whakaaro whānui mō tāu e rapu ana i tētahi hoa ka māmā ake te rapu. Kia hipa koe i taua wā, ko te mea nui ko te whakaatu i te putanga pai rawa atu o koe.
Ka whakamārama atu mātou ki a koe me pēhea te kimi hoa wahine mā te mahi i tēnā me ēnei tohutohu 21 e tino whai hua ana:
1. Kaua e manukanuka ki te kimi hoa wahine
E mōhio ana mātou ki ō whakaaro. Te āhua nei kei te takahi tēnei tohutohu i tāu whāinga kia tere te kimi hoa wahine. Engari whakarongo mai. Ina tīmata koe ki te aro ki te kimi hoa wahine, ka tīmata tēnei whāinga whakamutunga ki te awe i ō taunekeneke katoa ki ngā wāhine katoa e tūtaki ana koe. Ka tūpono koe ki te kiia he tangata wairangi e hiahia ana ki te 'uru ki roto i te tarau wahine'.
Mā te wetekina i a koe i tēnei taumahatanga ka taea e koe te tūtaki ki ngā wāhine me te kore e tumanako ki ngā hua ka puta. Ina kore koe e takaro ki te whakaaturanga, ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka noho ko koe anō. Koinei te wā ka tino kitea ai he hononga pono ki tētahi.
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2. Whakamātauria te kimi hoa wahine i runga ipurangi
Ko te whakaipoipo ipurangi te huarahi tūturu mō te kimi aroha i ēnei rā. Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe ki te whai i taua ara i a koe e rapu ana i tētahi hoa, kia rite ki te whakaatu i a koe anō.
Hei kimi hoa wahine i runga ipurangi, me hanga e koe he kōtaha whakaipoipo e whakaatu ana i ō āhuatanga pai rawa atu. Ko ngā pikitia me te kōrero whaiaro e whakaata ana i a koe me ngā mea e ātaahua ai koe, koinei te huarahi angitu ki te whakaipoipo ipurangi.
3. Kōrerohia kia kitea ai he hoa wahine i te wā e tata mai ana
Ki te hiahia koe ki te kimi hoa wahine i roto i te wā poto, me ako koe me pēhea te waiho i te whakaaro kaha ki ngā wāhine e kitea ana e koe he mea whakamere. Ko te tīmata kōrero te huarahi māmā ki te mahi i tēnā. Kaua e tukua te pēhanga o te hiahia ki te miharo i a ia kia kore ai koe e kōrero.
Whakamahia ō kupu kia māia. Ahakoa hei kōrero pakupaku, hei whakamōhio atu rānei ki a ia.
4. Kimihia he hoa wahine tere mā te aro ki tō āhua
Hei kimi tere i tētahi hoa wahine, me kite ia i a koe. Ki te kore ia, ka kore noa iho ō tono katoa. Ā, ko tētahi huarahi māmā hei kukume i tōna aro ko te āta tirotiro i tō hokinga mai.
He nui ake te tūponotanga ka arohia koe e te tangata he ātaahua ōna kākahu, he makawe kua oti te whakarite, ā, he kakara hinu kakara tonu tōna, i te tangata he āhua pōrangi noa iho. Nō reira, kia kaha ki te ātaahua i mua i tō haerenga atu, ahakoa kei te haere koe ki te pae inu me tō tira, kei te haere rānei ki tētahi rā tuatahi i muri i te tūtaki ipurangi.
5. Kia rite mō ētahi hapa
Ahakoa ko tō whāinga he ngāwari te kimi hoa wahine, ehara i te mea pono te tumanako ka rite ō wheako i te ao whakaipoipo ki taua whāinga. Whakaritea koe mō ētahi hapa, ngā rā kino , ngā hononga pea ka memeha i mua i te kitenga i te hoa. Ina tupu tēnā, kaua e tukua ēnei raruraru kia pāngia koe e ngā raruraru.
Kia pūmau ki tō whakatau ki te kimi hoa rangatira, ā, ka tere tonu te whai hua.
6. Me pēhea te kimi hoa wahine? Whakatata atu ki a ia
Ahakoa kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te kimi hoa wahine i te kura tuarua, i ō tau 20 rānei, kāore e taea e koe te tumanako ka angitu koe ki te kore koe e whakatata atu ki ngā kōtiro. Waiho atu ngā ārai, ngā whakapono rānei e aukati ana i a koe, ka mahi ki te whakapai ake i ō tikanga whakaipoipo kia kore ai ia e oma atu ina neke koe.
He tino uaua tēnei i ngā tau kura tuarua, nā te mea he maha ngā taiohi e raru ana ki te māharahara. Ahakoa ehara koe i te tangata rongonui i te kura, he nui te tūponotanga ka pai tetahi ki a koe mō tō āhua.
Waihoki, ki te mea kāore anō kia whai hononga tūturu koe i te wā e 20 tau ana koe, ka nui ake te whakamataku o te whakaaro ki te whakatata atu ki tētahi kōtiro i tōna āhua. Kia maumahara ko te angitu i te ao whakaipoipo he mea nui ki te whai i ō tupono. I te kino rawa atu, ka whakakahore ia i ō tono. Nā reira, me pēhea! Neke atu koe ka ngana anō.
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7. Whakapaipai i tō kōtaha kia whiwhi hoa wahine ai i runga i a Pukamata
Ki te mea kei te huri koe ki ngā pāpāho pāpori hei kimi hoa, kia mōhio koe ka taea e tō kōtaha te whakamātau, te whakakore rānei i ō tupono ki te angitu. Nō reira, ki te whiwhi hoa wahine i runga i a Pukamata, i a Instagram rānei, ngana ki te hanga i tō kōtaha kia ātaahua, kia ātaahua hoki i mua i te uru atu ki ana DM. Ki te kore, ko koe tētahi o te tini o ngā tāngata whakarihariha e tinihanga ana i a ia.
E kore pea ia e whakatau ki te whakaipoipo i a koe i runga i tō kōtaha pāpāho pāpori , engari he tino tīmatanga pai tēnei hei whakapakari ake māu mā te whakamahi i ngā kupu me ngā mahi tika.
8. Kia ngāwari te kimi hoa wahine mā te pono
He mana tō ngā wāhine ki te wairua kaha – arā, te wairua tuaono – e kī ana kia tūpato rātou ina he hapa kei roto i te hinengaro. Ki te kore koe e pono, e tinihanga hoki i roto i ō taunekeneke ki tētahi kōtiro, ka rongo ia i ngā kare kino.
Ina pērā ia, ka memeha noa iho ngā mahi uaua katoa i mahia e koe hei kukume i a ia. Ka taea e koe te karo i tēnei mahanga mā te pono noa me te whakaatu i tō āhua tūturu ki a ia.
9. Whakamātauria te kukume i a ia
Me pēhea te kimi hoa wahine? Āe, me kaha koe ki te ārahi i a ia kia tika ai te haere o ngā mea. Ki te mea kei te aroha koe ki tētahi, whakaaturia ki a ia kei te whakanui koe i a ia, ā, kei te manaaki hoki koe i a ia mā roto i ō kupu, i ō nekehanga me ō mahi.
Ki te mea kei te ngana koe ki te kimi hoa wahine i runga ipurangi, mā te taupānga whakaipoipo , mā te pāpāho pāpori rānei, me whakapā atu koe ki a ia, me tuku karere kuputuhi, me tīmata he kōrero, me te pupuri tonu i te kaupapa. Mā te whakaatu ki a ia kei te hiahia koe ki te anga whakamua, ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka whakahoki mai ia i a koe.
10. Kia tuwhera ki te tūtaki ki tētahi tangata hou
Mena he rite tō oranga aroha ki tētahi kāpata kau, me tuwhera koe ki te whakaaro ki te tūtaki ki ētahi atu tāngata hou kia kitea ai he hoa wahine i roto i ngā wā e tata mai nei. Ahakoa he pai – he mea taunaki tonu – kia mārama te whakaaro mō ngā mea e tumanakohia ana e koe i roto i tētahi hoa, kaua e tukua tēnei rārangi arowhai o ngā āhuatanga kia arai i a koe i roto i ō tūhuratanga.
Mā te pera, kei te whakawhāiti koe i ō tupono ki te tūtaki ki te tangata tika.
He maha ngā wā, kāore e taea te mōhio ko wai te tangata mā te titiro noa ki tōna kōtaha, mā te whakarongo rānei ki tētahi hoa mōna. Koia te mea nui kia tuwhera te hinengaro, kia haere ki te tūtaki ki te tini o ngā tāngata hou e taea ana e koe ina ngana ana koe ki te kimi hoa wahine.
11. Whakatipuhia tō māia kia ngāwari ai te kimi hoa wahine
Kua mau koe i roto i tētahi huringa o ngā wā whakaipoipo kino? Kei te uaua koe ki te neke ki te wāhanga whakaipoipo tuarua ? Kei te whakaaro koe kāore ngā wāhine e aro pai mai ki a koe? Āe, ki te mea ko te whakautu ki ēnei pātai he āe, me whakaaroaro koe ki tō āhua.
Kāore koe i te māia? Kāore koe i te tino mōhio ki ō whakaaro? He uaua ki a koe te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro ina noho ana koe i te ritenga atu o tētahi kōtiro?
He pai pea te tahuri ke atu i te whāinga rapu hoa wahine, ka arotahi ki te whakapakari i tō whakapono ki a koe anō. Kāore he mea ataahua atu i te tāne māia, e tino mōhio ana ki a ia anō me āna e hiahia ana i te ao.
12. Kaua e mangere ki te tono i tana nama waea
Ahakoa kei te rapu hoa wahine koe i runga ipurangi, i te ao tūturu rānei, he mea nui te tono i tana nama waea hei āwhina i a koe ki te ahu whakamua. Kia whai hononga pai koe ki a ia, tonoa tana nama waea. I te mea kua whakautu mai ia ki ō tono tae noa mai ki tēnei wā, he iti noa te tūponotanga ka whakakahore ia. Nō reira, kaua e mangere ki te tango i te wero. Kaua e tatari roa rawa i mua i te mahi.
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13. Me pēhea te tiki hoa wahine? Whakaipoipo
Me aro te hunga katoa e hiahia ana ki te toa i te ngākau o tētahi kōtiro ki tēnei. He mea nui tēnei tohutohu, ehara i te mea hei āwhina i a koe ki te kimi hoa wahine i te huarahi ngāwari, engari hei āwhina hoki i a koe kia kaua e taka ki te rohe hoa whakamataku.
Kia mārama ai te kotiro e hiahia ana koe ki ō whakaaro, me mārama tonu ōu hiahia ki te whakaipoipo. He aha te huarahi pai atu i te whakatupu i te hiahia ā-ira mā te whakaipoipo i a ia mā te karere kuputuhi me te kanohi ki a ia.
Whakamihi atu ki a ia, whakatoi atu, pa atu ki a ia mō tētahi wā poto, titiro atu ki ōna kanohi hei whakaoho i ōna kare ā-roto.
14. Kei te hiahia koe ki te tiki hoa wahine i roto i te wā poto? A ani atu ki a ia kia haere tahi
Kia oti i a koe ngā mahi e tika ana, ā, kia mōhio koe kei te hiahia hoki ia ki a koe, kimihia he wā mōu, ka tono atu ki a ia kia haere tahi tāua. Kaua e whakaroa i tēnei mō te tatari roa mō te 'wā tino pai', mō te 'wā tika' rānei. Kāore he wā e puta mai mēnā kāore koe e waihanga i aua wā.
15. Whakanuia tona ahua motuhake
Nā, i tono koe kia haere tahi rāua, ā, ka whakaae ia. Whakamoemititia koe. He rawe āu mahi tae noa mai ki tēnei wā. Mā te āhua o tō whanonga i te rā e whakatau mēnā he mea kotahi noa iho, he mea rānei hei tūāpapa mōna hei hoa wahine māu.
Whakaritea te rā mōna. Whakamaherehia te rā tuatahi tae noa ki ngā taipitopito whakamutunga me te whakaaro ki ngā mea katoa e mōhio ana koe mō ana mea e pai ana, e kore hoki e pai ki a ia. Hei tauira, mēnā kua kōrero ia i mua he pai ki a ia te kai Hapanihi, ka taea e koe te tono i tētahi tēpu mō te tokorua i tētahi pae sushi. Kia noho tahi kōrua, kia noho tonu i te wā.
Whakarongo pai ki a ia e kōrero ana, kia kaha ki te whakautu i ana pātai, pātai atu ki a ia mō tōna ao kia pai ake ai tō mōhio ki a ia. Ko te whakaaro kia rongo ia i te manaaki me te motuhake i te mutunga.
16. Whakaarohia he rā tuarua
I te mea i pai te haere o tō hui tuatahi, me whakaaro koe ki te tono i tētahi atu hui i mua i te poroporoaki. Engari, kaua e whakaatu i te hiahia nui, te ngākau pouri rānei, nō reira he pai ake te waiho noa i ngā mea katoa kia tuwhera.
'He pai tēnei. Me mahi anō tāua i tētahi wā.' Me 'I tino pai taku wā. Me whakarite tētahi atu mahere a mua tata nei.' He huarahi haumaru ēnei whakaaro koretake hei whakamōhio atu ki a ia e hiahia ana koe kia kite anō i a ia, me te kore e meinga ia kia whakaae ki ngā mahere ā muri ake nei i mua i tana whai wāhi ki te tukatuka me te tātari i tēnei.
17. Kia noho hei tūmau i roto i tōna ao kia ngāwari ai te kimi hoa wahine
He rawe tō kōrua hui tuatahi, ā, kei te tino hiahia koe ki tētahi atu hui. Engari me pēhea tāu mahi i tēnei wā? Kia maumahara ki te whakataukī 'kāore e kitea, kāhore e mahara'. Kia kore ai koe e warewaretia, ngana kia noho tonu koe i roto i tōna ao.
Ko te tikanga o tēnei me tuku karere kuputuhi ki a ia i te iti rawa kotahi i te rā. Mena kei te pai te haere o ngā mea, ka taea e koe te tāpiri waea atu ki ētahi wā. Kaua ia e tino pā atu ki a koe. Ko te whakaaro kia mau ki tōna hinengaro, kaua e whakarihariha ki a ia mā te whakaatu he hiahia nui ia. He tohu kino te hiahia o te tangata ki te piripono ki tētahi hoa tāne .
18. Kaua e whakaroa i taua kihi
I waenganui i taua rā tuatahi me te rā tuarua, me kimi e koe te wā tika hei neke me te hiri i te whakaaetanga ki taua kihi tuatahi. Mā te āhua o tana urupare ki taua kihi ka nui ngā kōrero ki a koe mō te kaha o ēnei rā ki te huri hei whanaungatanga.
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19. Kia wātea ki te taha o te ngākau
Mena kua neke atu i te rua ngā wā i noho tahi ai te kōtiro me koe, kāore he take e ruarua ai koe i ōna kare ā-roto mōu. Ko te mea ngaro ki te kimi hoa wahine i tēnei wā o te tukanga whakaipoipo, ko te whakaatu i te pai o tō kōrua noho tahi. Ko te tikanga, kaua e takaro tere me te koretake ki ōna kare ā-roto, kaua e takaro hinengaro hei huri i te whārite whaiwhai-whaiwhai kia pai ai koe, kaua e pana me te kukume.
Engari, arotahi ki te wātea o ōna kare ā-roto. Hangaia he haumi ki te hanga i taua hihiri tuatahi. Me mea kia rongo ia i te maioha me te whakaute.
20. Whakaatuhia to manaakitanga
Me aha ahau kia ngāwari ai te kimi hoa wahine? He maha ngā tāngata e raru ana ki tēnei pātai, ahakoa he tino māmā te whakautu. Ina rapu koe i tētahi hoa rangatira, me rite koe ki te noho hei hoa ōrite ki te hanga hononga kaha mai i te tīmatanga. Ko te whakaatu i te aroha e arohaina ana e koe ki tētahi hoa aroha pea te huarahi pai ki te tīmata.
Kia kōrero tonu kōrua, kaua e ngaro atu mō ngā rā me te kore whakamārama. Ahakoa he poto noa iho te wā, ka taea e te wairua te whakangaro i tō tūmanakohanga ki te whiwhi hoa wahine. Mena kei te pāngia ia e tetahi mea i roto i tōna oranga mahi, i tōna oranga whaiaro rānei, kia noho hei tautoko i a ia. Mena kei te harikoa, kei te hihiko rānei ia mō tetahi mea, tohaina tōna harikoa.
Mā ēnei mahi iti nei ka kite ia i a koe hei hoa pai.
21. Tonoa ia hei hoa wahine māu
Kia tino piripono tō ngākau ki a ia, ā, kua rite koe ki te whakatakoto tapanga mō ō kare ā-roto me tō whanaungatanga, tonoa ia kia noho hei hoa wahine māu. Ā, ka tūtohu mātou kia nui rawa te whakaaro mō tēnei mea. Whakaritea he rā motuhake, hoatu he koha e tika ana mōna, hopukia tōna ringa ki roto i tō ringaringa, pupuri i ōna kanohi, ā, tonoa mana ia kia noho hei hoa māu. Ki te mea kāore anō kia pērā, koinei hoki te wā tino pai ki te kī atu 'Aroha ana ahau ki a koe'.
Mai i te nekehanga tuatahi ki te whakaipoipo i a ia, ā, i te mutunga ka uru atu ki tētahi whanaungatanga pumau, kāore te haerenga ki te kimi hoa wahine i te uaua pērā i te whakaaro. Tērā pea ka roa te wā e tae atu ai koe mai i te tīmatanga ki te rārangi mutunga. Engari e mōhio ana koe ki te āhua o te wikitoria puhoi me te pumau i te reihi!
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Ki te kore koe e kitea he hoa wahine, me titiro hou koe ki tō huarahi ki te whakaipoipo. Tērā pea he kaha rawa koe, kāore rānei koe e ngana nui ki te kukume i te aro o tētahi kotiro. I taua wā anō, he pai ki te whakapakari i tō whakapono ki a koe anō me tō āhua. Ko te whakaatu i a ia kia kite koe i a koe ko te taahiraa tuatahi ki te kimi hoa wahine.
Hei kukume i tētahi kōtiro ki a koe i runga ipurangi, ko te mahi tuatahi ko te whakapaipai i tō kōtaha. Mahihia tō koiora, whakapaipaihia aua whakaahua, kātahi ka whakatata atu ki a ia me te māhorahora engari me te maia.
Ae, ka taea te kimi hoa wahine i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori. Engari he iti noa te tūponotanga ka whakautu mai tētahi kōtiro i tētahi tono mai i tētahi pāpāho pāpori whānui. Mena kua mōhio kē kōrua tetahi ki tetahi, he hoa rānei kei a kōrua, ka pai te mahi a tēnei huarahi.
I ēnei rā, ko te whakaipoipo ipurangi te huarahi pai rawa atu ki te tūtaki ki tētahi hoa wahine pea. Ki te pai koe ki te huarahi tawhito, ka taea e koe te tono ki ō hoa kia whakarite i tētahi māua, ki te ngana rānei ki te neke ki tētahi e kukume ana i tō kanohi i roto i tētahi karapu, i tētahi pae, i te whare takaro tinana, i tō wāhi mahi, i tō kura rānei.
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