"Ka tinihanga ngā tāne mō te take kotahi e mitimiti ai ngā kurī i ā rātou pōro... nā te mea ka taea e rātou," i roto i a Samantha Te Ira Tangata me te Tāone-2 i kī ēnei kupu. Whakapono mai, koinei te kōrero e tino pai ana mō te wairua o tēnei tuhinga. Ahakoa e teka tonu ana ngā tāne, ka kitea e ngā wāhine kei te aroha tonu rātou ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, me te kore tumanako.
Kei reira ngā pāpā e kī ana me rui ngā tāne i ngā ōti mohoao, engari kāore e whakahuatia te wā e taea ai e rātou te whakamutu i te mahi pera. Ko ngā māmā whakangāwari e kī ana "āe, ka noho tonu ngā tama hei tama" ā, ka haere tonu te pakiwaitara mō ētahi kāore i te mōhiotia.ngā wāhine kē atu te pouri me te pouri, me te kore e kōrero mō te mamae nui. I taua wā tonu, tito i ētahi kōrero teka e pupuri ana i te whakaaro pohehe o te "aroha" mō tēnei tāne kua moe tāne nāna ia i makutu.
Te pānui e pā ana: Me pēhea te wareware i tētahi tāne kua mārenatia e hiahia ana ahau ki a ia?
He aha ngā tāne kua marenatia e teka ai?
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Ki te mea kei te aroha nui koe ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, ka kitea ngā tohu kei te whakamahia koe e ia. Ko taku tohutohu ki ngā wāhine takakau katoa e whai ana i tēnei moemoeā o te aroha ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, kia waiho koe ki roto i ngā hu o tāna wahine tūturu. Tērā pea ka kite koe i te māramatanga.
Na kia pai te moepuku, Whakamahia te tiaki, ka poroporoaki, ka puta atu rānei (ka puta atu). Engari ko te nuinga o ngā wāhine e uru ana ki te whakarihariha o te moe tāne kua mārenatia, kāore e mōhio ki ēnei mea e rua:
1. Ko ngā tāne katoa, ahakoa kua moe tāne, kāore rānei, kei te ngana noa ki te tomo ki roto i ana tarau poto. Kāore he aroha i konei e tama!
2. Ko tāna anake e hiahia ana he tuku i te riri me te whiwhi i ētahi mea hou – kāore ia e hiahia ana ki tētahi atu marena.
Ki te aroha te wahine ki tana tāne kua mārenatia, me mahara ia ko te hoha me te ahotea o te mārenatanga te mea e hiahia ai te tāne ki te rapu i te ahuareka i waho o te mārenatanga.
Ki te whakaaro koe ka uru atu rāua ki tētahi atu hononga roa, ka whakaae ki te whakarere, ka uru atu ki tētahi atu marena, kei te hē koe. Te teka a ngā tāne kia whiwhi ai rātou i tā rātou e hiahia ana, kaua e hoatu ki a koe tāu e hiahia ana.
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He kupenga teka tēnei e hangaia ana e te tāne hei whakatenatena i te wahine, ā, ko ngā teka e kōrerotia ana e te wahine ki a ia anō hei whakatika i tāna mahi ehara i te mea hē. I whakaae ia kia noho hei hoa mō te tāne. paru iti ngaro ko te tumanako ka whakamanahia te whanaungatanga i tētahi rā, ā, ka noho harikoa tonu.
Ka mau te wahine te aro atu ki tōna hara me te whakatenatena i a ia anō i ngā huarahi katoa kāore ia e pakaru ana i te kāinga. Nō reira, anei ētahi kōrero teka a te wahine rongonui ki a ia anō, me te pupuri tonu i te whakaaro he mea pai tēnei. Ina aroha te wahine ki tētahi tāne kua mārenatia, koinei tāna e mahi ai.
1. Tērā pea he hē kei te wahine
Ko te nuinga o te iwi e pupuri ana i tēnei whakapono, ā, ko te tangata e whakamarie ana i a ia anō ki tēnei teka ko te "wahine kē" rongonui. Kua whiti kē ia i te rārangi ngaro o te ngākau pono.
Ka whakamārama ia i roto i tōna hinengaro i ana pātai katoa mō tana hoa aroha kua mārenatia. He aha ia ka moe ai ki ahau mēnā kei te pai ngā mea katoa i roto i te marena? Me he koroheke ia, he kino, he mangere, he hoha rānei…ko ngā tawhā katoa e whakamārama ana ia ka ea i a ia. Kāore rawa i puta ake i tōna hinengaro ko te whakautu ki tana pātai he paku pōkaikaha noa iho, me te "nā te mea - i wātea koe."
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2. Kāore au i te mahi he, ko ia te kawenga mō tana marena
"Ehara ahau i te mea kua moe tāne – ko ia." ka mea ia me te kaha, "Kāore au e tinihanga ana i tētahi, me manukanuka ia, kei te tinihanga ia"...Kāore au e whai kawenga ki tētahi," te tautohe a te wahine takakau.
He rite ki te ngeru e kōpiripiri ana i ōna kanohi, me te tumanako mā te pera, e kore te ao e hopu i a ia e tahae ana i te miraka i te kīhini o tōna hoa noho.
Engari he pono rānei tēnā? He rite tonu te kawenga o te wahine ki te kawenga o te tāne. Ina uru atu ngā pakeke tokorua ki tētahi hononga taikaha e mōhio ana rātou ki tā rātou e mahi ana, ā, he aha ngā hua ka putaNō reira, ko te titiro ki tētahi atu ara kāore e murua ai te hara o te wahine.
3. E tino mohio ana ahau ka whakarerea ia e ia, ā, ka ora harikoa tāua ake ake.
He āhua hinengaro whakawara te hinga ki te aroha – ko ngā whatunga io e mura ana i roto i te roro he rite tonu ki ērā e whakaohokia ana e ngā raau taero, te waipiro me te tiakarete.
Pērā i te take o ngā raau taero, me nui ake te hiahia o te roro kia eke ki te taumata o te harikoa e whai ake nei. Nō reira, i roto i taua hiahia nui mō te 'nui atu' ka ruku te wahine kē ki roto i ōna kare ā-roto, ka tīmata ki te hanga i tana ake kōhanga aroha.
Nā te kaha o tana ake homoni, kāore ia i te mōhio kua 'tae kē ia ki reira, ā, kua oti i a ia taua mahi' – me tana wahine. I roto i tēnei huringa kino o te teka me te tinihanga i a ia anō, ka hiahia nui ētahi wāhine ki te whakangaro i tētahi whānau harikoa, kia taea ai e ia te tīmata i tana ake
4. E tino mohio ana ahau e kore rawa ia e tinihanga i ahau, nā te mea, e kī ana ia e aroha ana ia ki ahau
I tētahi wāhi, i ngā wā o te māramatanga, ka pāngia te wahine e te manukanuka i te āhua o te māramatanga - e aroha ana ia ki ahau, nō reira, kāore pea ia e tinihanga i ahau?
Ā, ka ngunguru te reo iti i roto i a ia, "engari i tinihanga ia i tana wahine, nō reira ko koe pea te mea e whai ake nei." Koinei te pono i ngā wā katoa.
Pērā i te otereti e huna ana i tōna mahunga i raro i te onepū i ia wā ka rongo ia i te tūpono, ka maminga ia i a ia anō ka whiwhi ia i tana pono mutunga kore. Aue, te wahine kē atu, he pōrangi. Kāore tēnei e tupu. Kotahi te tangata tinihanga, he tangata tinihanga tonu ia.
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5. E hiahia ana ahau kia whānau tāna pēpi, nā te mea kua aroha māua
He tino uaua ki te nuinga o ngā tāne takakau te kī i ngā kupu "Aroha ana ahau ki a koe". Heoi, i te wā ka tīmata te tāne kua moe ki te tinihanga i tana wahine, ka whiwhi te wahine kē i ngā kupu "Aroha ana ahau ki a koe" me te mea kua kitea e ia he kāpia hei pupuri i ana mahi tinihanga. He tohu tino pono ēnei he kei te aroha te tangata kua marenatia ki a koe.
I taua wā, kei te rere teitei a Ms. Other woman i runga i te kupu whakaari o te he oranga hou me tana tāne kua marenatiaHe tino tinihanga tēnei nā te wahine kē, ka mutu tana ārai hapūtanga, ka tohe kia whakarērea te ure, nā te mea e aroha nui ana ia ki āna tamariki, kāore e taea e ia te whakakore i āna tamariki.
Tika? Hē! Koinei te take pono o tēnei teka kāore e roa te noho tahi a ngā moepuku i waho o te marenaKa oma mataku te tāne kua mārenatia.
He roa te wā e mau tonu ai ētahi mahi whakaipoipo, ka puta mai ētahi tāne i roto i ā rātou marena ki te kimi i tētahi oranga hou me tā rātou hoa aroha hou. Engari he onge ēnei kōrero. Ā, i ētahi wā, kāore he mutunga o ngā raruraru. Ka mau tonu rātou i roto i te pakanga whakarere, ka tono tonu te wahine kia whiwhi i te mana tiaki me te nui o te tautoko.
Engari, me mōhio te wahine e aroha ana ki tētahi tāne kua moe tāne, ko te nuinga o ngā wā ka uru ngā tāne ki tētahi hononga aroha mō te whakahihiri anake. I te nuinga o te wā, kāore rātou e titiro ki tua atu i tēnā.
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I tīmata tētahi o aku hoa me tētahi tāne kua mārenatia nā te mea i whakaaro ia he iti ake te whakapau kaha e hiahiatia ana, ā, ka taea e ia te wehe atu i te whanaungatanga i ngā wā katoa e pai ai ia!