12 Ngā Mea e Mahihia ana e ngā Wahine e Whakangaro ai i ngā Marenatanga

He marena hauora e rua ngā tāngata tino hē e kore e pai ki te whakarere tetahi i tetahi. He hononga pumau tonu tēnei. Heoi anō, he iti noa ngā mea ngaro e whakangaro ana i ngā marena. Tērā pea nā te tāne, nā te wahine rānei te he, nā te mea, i roto i te marena, he mea tino nui kia kitea e ngā hoa tokorua te take o te raruraru, kia whai kawenga mēnā kua hē tetahi o ngā hoa, ā, kia whakaoti i ngā mea iti ka taea te whakaoti ngāwari.

I tēnei rā ka tirohia e tātou ngā mahi katoa a ngā wāhine e pāngia ana e ngā raruraru whanaungatanga. Ki te kore e tirohia, ka taea e ēnei tauira whanonga te whakakore i te marena, te wehewehe i ngā hoa rangatira. Nō reira, he aha ēnei tauira whanonga e aro ana ki ngā wāhine ka taea te whakakore i te marena, ā, me aha koe hei karo i ēnei? Ka whakautua e mātou ēnei pātai māu, engari tuatahi, me tirotiro tātou i ngā mea ka taea te waiho hei take mō te whakarere. 

Ngā Take Noa mō te Wehe

E ai ki tetahi tata ako, he tino teitei te auau whakarere i te Hononga o Amerika. Kei roto i tēnei ko ngā tāngata o ngā reanga katoa me ngā rōpū ōhanga katoa, engari i runga i ngā tatauranga, kua heke te maha o ngā whakarere i waenga i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine taitamariki. I te rerekētanga, kei te piki haere tonu te auau whakarere i waenga i ngā kaumātua (50 tau te pakeke, neke atu rānei).

I roto i ngā tau 20 kua pahure ake nei, kua rua te pikinga o te maha o ngā whakarere i waenga i ngā kaumātua. Kei te tere ake te pikinga o te maha o ngā whakarere i waenga i te hunga neke atu i te 65 tau te pakeke. He rerekē ngā āhuatanga o ia tokorua. He maha ngā take ka hē ai ngā mea. Engari he torutoru noa ngā take e raru ai ngā whakaritenga, ā, ka kore ai e angitu ngā marena. Ko ētahi o ēnei ko:

1. Whakapono 

Ko te whanoke tētahi o ngā wheako tino mamae ka pā ki te tangata. Ka pakaru ngā marena, ā, he tino uaua ki te ora ake. E ai ki te tatauranga, he take mōrearea te puremu i waenga i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kua mārenatia. I roto i ngā pakeke kua mārenatia, kua tinihanga i ā rātou hoa rangatira i mua, 40% kua whakarerea, kua wehe rānei. Ki te whakataurite, 17% noa iho o ngā pakeke i pono ki ā rātou hoa rangatira kāore i te mārena. 

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2. Koretake 

He uaua ngā marena nā te mea he rerekē ngā whakaaro, ngā whakaaro, me ngā hinengaro o ngā tāngata e rua. Ina taupatupatu tonu ēnei whakaaro me ngā tirohanga, ka uaua pea te kimi huarahi hei noho tahi. Mēnā ka kitea e koe ngā tohu o te kore hototahi I roto i tō whanaungatanga, kāore e taea e koe te mahi i tetahi mea hei whakarerekē i te whakaaro o te tangata kē. Engari ka taea e koe te ako ki te whakanui i ngā rerekētanga. 

3. Te kore tautoko

Ko te tautoko tētahi o ngā tūāpapa o te marena – ahakoa he tautoko kare ā-roto, he tautoko ā-pūtea, he tautoko pūtea rānei. Ā, kāore e taea te tautoko i te taha kotahi. Kaua e tumanako ka tautoko tō tāne i a koe i a koe e wareware ana ki te tautoko i a ia. Ko te hoa tautoko tētahi o ngā mea pai rawa atu o te marena. 

4. Te waipiro me te whakamahi kino i ngā matū

Ko te waipiro me te whakamahi kino i ngā matū ka hua ake he maha ngā huringa ohorere o te wairua, te paranoia, me te whanonga huna. E ai ki rangahau I mahia i Te Whare Wānanga o Buffalo, i kitea ko te inu nui, ngā raruraru waipiro, me ngā mate whakamahi waipiro e pā ana ki te iti o te pai o te marena. Inaa, ko te waipiro me te whakamahi kino i ngā matū tetahi o ngā take tino noa mō te whakarere. 

5. Te tukino i roto i te whare 

Ehara i te mea ko ngā wāhine anake te hunga e pāngia ana e te tukino. Ka pāngia hoki ngā tāne e te tutu ā-whare. Ehara i te mea ko te tukino tinana anake. Ka taea hoki rātou te noho hei patunga o te whakamāoritanga hau, te tinihanga, te akiaki ki te moepuku, me te tango i te mana whakahaere o ā rātou ake pūtea.  

12 Ngā Mea e Mahihia ana e ngā Wahine e Whakangaro ai i ngā Marenatanga 

Tērā pea he mutunga kore ngā take kei muri i te ngā raruraru marena tino noa e pā ana ki ngā hoa rangatira e rua. Engari he aha ētahi o ngā mahi a ngā wāhine hei whakakino i ngā whanaungatanga? Kia rapu tātou:

1. Te pupuri i ngā mea ngaro 

He raruraru nui te pupuri i ngā mea ngaro i roto i te marena, nā te mea e mōhiotia ana he wāhi whakatipu mō te tinihanga me te tinihanga. He momo tinihanga anō hoki. Ina roa te pupuri i tētahi mea hei mea ngaro, ka uaua ake te aro atu ki te pono me te kōrero i te pono. Ko tētahi o ngā mea e whakakino ana i ngā whanaungatanga.

Anei ētahi take e waiho ai te pupuri i ngā mea ngaro hei wāhanga tuatahi o te marena e mate ana:

• Ka ārai i te hanga hononga kare ā-roto
• Ka whakatupu i te kore whakawhirinaki
• Ka arahi tēnei ki te kore whakawhitiwhiti kōrero 

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2. Ko te whakapehapeha tētahi o ngā mea e whakangaro ana i ngā marena 

He kaipatu puku te whakapehapeha i ngā whanaungatanga. Ka memeha te whakawhirinaki, te whakapono, me te aroha o tētahi hoa rangatira ki tētahi atu i roto i te marena. Ko te wahine e pupuri ana i te whakapehapeha i roto i tana marena ka nui rawa te hiahia kia tū motuhake, kia tū motuhake hoki, ā, ka huri hei whakakake, hei whakakorekore i te tautoko a tana hoa rangatira. Ka taupatupatu tēnei ki te ariā o te whakawhirinakitanga o tētahi ki tētahi i roto i te marena, ā, ka arahi pea ki tētahi... te whanau paitini.

I a ia e kōrero ana mō te pānga o te whakapehapeha ki tētahi marena hauora, he Reddit kaiwhakamahi e mea ana, "Ka mutu te kōrero pono me te tuwhera i te whakapehapeha, koinei te mea ka taea te whakaora i te whanaungatanga. Ki te mamae te hoa, ā, e whakapehapeha ana, e kore rātou e whakaae tuwhera ki ō rātou hapa, e kore hoki e tino whakaae ki ngā whakapāha a tetahi atu." 

3. Te whakaiti me te kohukohu tonu

A, no koe te kore harikoa i roto i te whanaungatanga, ka kitea e koe ngā hapa i roto i ngā mahi katoa a tō hoa. Mā te whakahe tonu a tētahi o ngā hoa rangatira ka tino mamae tetahi i tetahi. Ina whakaiti te wahine i tana tāne, ā, ka kimi hapa tonu i a ia, kei te whakaeke ia i tana whakapono ki a ia anō, he mea kino tēnei mō te pumau o te marena hauora.

Ka puta he pakaru i tēnei whakahē, ā, he momo tukino kare ā-roto e kore e taea te whakatika. Kaua rawa e whakahē i tō hoa rangatira kia tīmata ai rātou ki te pātai mēnā he pai te marena.

4. Ka whakangaro ngā tumanakohanga koretake i ngā marena

Ko te marena hauora e hiahia ana ki te mahi kaha, te tautoko, te whakawhirinaki, te whakaae tahi, ā, i ētahi wā, tae noa ki te patunga tapu kia angitu ai. Ina kua ngā tumanakohanga koretake i roto i te whanaungatanga mai i tō hoa rangatira, he taumaha tēnei ki a rātou. Koinei tētahi o ngā mea e wehingia ana e ngā tāne.

E hiahia ana rātou ki te mahi i ngā mea katoa hei whakahari i a koe. Engari ki te kore rātou e tutuki i ō tumanakohanga, ko wai te he? Ehara i te mea nā rātou. Ka hinga ngā marena i ia rā nā tēnei raruraru iti. Me whakatakoto e koe ō tumanakohanga kia pono, kia harikoa hoki i roto i te marena.

5. Te whakaaro noa ki tāu tāne

He maha ngā wāhine e kore e aro nui ki ā rātou tāne, e meinga ana kia rite ki te kore e maiohatia, ā, kāore hoki e mihia ngā mea pai katoa e kawea mai ana e rātou ki roto i tēnei marena. Ko tētahi tēnei o ngā mea iti ka whakangaro i te marena. 

Whakaarohia kei te whiwhi koe i ō whanonga ake. Ka kakahuria e koe he kākahu pai, ā, ka whakarite koe. Kāore tō tāne e aro mai. He aha te āhua o tō wairua? Kāore rawa i te pai. Whakaarohia kei te tunu koe i tētahi kai nui māna, ā, ka rongo koe i a ia e amuamu ana mō te āhua o tāu tunu kai. Me ōrite te takoha a ngā hoa rangatira e rua i roto i te marena. Tīmata ki te mihi ki tō tāne mēnā e hiahia ana koe kia noho tahi ia me koe i te wā roa.

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6. Te whakamahi kino i tō hoa i te taha pūtea

Mena ko te tāne anake te mema o te whānau e whiwhi moni ana, ka mutu pea te wahine ki te whakamahi kino i a ia mā te whakapau moni nui. Ka tukua e ia ōna whakamātautau, ā, ka tūpono te tahua a te whānau ki te mōrearea. Ki te haere tonu tēnei āhuatanga me te kore e āraihia, ka tūpono pea te marena ki ngā raruraru nui ake.

He mea noa ngā raruraru pūtea i roto i ngā marena katoa. Engari te puremu moni Ko tētahi o ngā momo puremu kino rawa atu, arā, ka teka tetahi o ngā hoa, ka tahae, ka huna hoki i te moni mai i tētahi atu hoa. Mā ēnei mahi tinihanga a te wahine ka kino te hononga e honoa ana e ia ki tana hoa rangatira.   

7. Te whakataurite i tō marena ki ētahi atu marena

He paitini te whakataurite e whakangaro ana i ngā marena. He maha ngā wā, ka titiro tetahi o ngā hoa rangatira ki ētahi atu, ka kite i ngā mea e ngaro ana i roto i ō rātou ao. Koinei te hapa nui rawa atu i mahia e rātou i roto i ō rātou ao, ā, ko tētahi o ngā mea e whakamate ana i te marena. Ko te hae, te kore o te ngākau māhaki, me te rapu i tētahi mea nui atu i a rātou ētahi o ngā take e kore ai e angitu ngā marena.

Ka kore koe e harikoa i roto i te whanaungatanga ina whakataurite tonu koe i tō oranga ki te hunga e whakaatu ana i tō rātou whanaungatanga i runga i ngā pāpāho pāpori. Kaua e taka ki tēnei mahanga o te whakapono he pono ngā mea katoa e kitea ana e koe i runga i te Instagram. He ahurei te whanaungatanga o ia tokorua, me ōu anō hoki. Whakanuia aua ngoikoretanga, ā, kia pai tō hononga marena. 

8. Mā te whakahaere i tō hoa ka whakangaro i tō marena

Ka tupu pai ngā marena ina he wairua mahi tahi i waenganui i ngā hoa. Ko te mea nui ko "tāua" kaua ko "au". Engari tera ētahi wā ka warewarehia tēnei whārite e ngā wāhine, ka mahi ā-whaiaro. Ina mahi ana te tangata mai i te wāhi o te whaiaroaro, tera pea ka hiahia rātou kia mahi tetahi i tetahi i roto i te huarahi e rite ana ki ō rātou hiahia. Nō reira, tera pea ka tīmata rātou ki te ngana ki te whakahaere i tā rātou tāne. 

Ko te mea pono, kāore e taea te whakahaere i tētahi. He tukino kare ā-roto ina whakaaro te hoa rangatira kei te whakahaerehia, kei te whakahaeretia rānei rātou. Ko ētahi o ngā ngā tohu o te wahine whakahaere he:

• Ki tōna whakaaro he tika tonu ia
• Kei te takaro tonu ia i te kāri patunga
• He pukuriri ia, he hae, ā, he pukuriri kino
• Ka takahi tonu i tō tūmataitinga

9. Ngā raruraru moepuku

Ko te kore o te whanaungatanga ā-ira tētahi o ngā mea e whakarihariha ana ngā tāne i roto i te marena. E hiahia ana rātou kia moe tahi me koe kia hohonu ake ai te hononga. te marena kore ka taea e te tāne te moe tāne i waho o te marena. Ko ētahi o ngā raruraru moepuku noa i roto i te marena ko:

• Kāore e moe tāne ana i ngā wā katoa
• Kāore e pai ki te whakamātau i runga i te moenga
• Kāore ngā wāhine e tīmata i te moe tāne i ngā wā katoa
• Kāore i te tino kitea te wā i te wā o te taatai

10. Te kore e whakatakoto tetahi i tetahi ki mua

Me whakarite kia rite te mea nui ki tō hoa rangatira ina mārena kōrua. Ko kōrua te hoa pai rawa atu. Kāore e taea e kōrua te noho tahi nā te mea kua mārena kōrua. Me HIAHIA koe ki te noho tahi me rātou nā te mea e aroha ana koe ki a rātou. Koinei tētahi o ngā mea e pai ana ki a kōrua. ngā kaupapa matua i roto i te whanaungatangaEhara i te mea me whakarērea e koe ō hoa kia noho tahi ai koe me tō tāne, kia waiho rānei ko ia anake te pokapū o tō oranga.

Ko te oranga o te marena he mea nui kia mau tonu te taurite me ō hoa, te whānau, ngā tamariki, te mahi, me te tāne. Engari me mōhio tō hoa rangatira kei a koe tō rātou tautoko, pērā i tā rātou tautoko i a koe. Mēnā e hiahiatia ana, ka whiriwhiri koe kia noho ki te taha o tō tāne, me te kore e whakaaro tuarua. 

11. Te pupuri i te aroha 

Ina tīmata te marena, he aroha, he aroha tonu tō kōrua. Kia memeha haere te wā o te marena hou, ka whakakapia pea te wairua kore e taea te pupuri ringa ki te tautohetohe me te tautohetohe tonu. I a kōrua e tau ana ki te wā kotahi me tō hoa rangatira, e kitea ai tō rohe whakamarie ki a rāua, kāore pea koe e hiahia ki ngā tohu ā-ringa hei whakaatu i tō aroha me tō whakapuakitanga. 

Heoi, i roto i te ao hauora, ka whakaatuhia tonutia, ka pāngia hoki ēnei kare ā-roto e ngā hoa tokorua, ahakoa he āhua huna ake. I tētahi atu taha, ki te kore koe e whakaatu i te aroha i muri i tētahi pakanga, i muri rānei i tā rāua mahi i tētahi mea hei whara i a koe, he momo mana whakahaere huna tēnā. Ko tētahi o ngā tohu o tētahi wahine whakahaere mēnā ka whakamahia e ia tōna aroha me tōna aroha ki te whakatutuki i tana e pai ai i ia wā, i ia wā. 

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12. Ka whakangaro te hoatu i ngā kupu whakamutunga i te marena

Ina whakawehi koe i tō hoa, ki te kore ia e mahi, e whanonga rānei i tētahi ara, ka whakarērea rātou e koe, ehara tō kōrua whanaungatanga i te mea i ahu mai i te aroha engari i te tukino kare ā-roto. Ka taea e tēnei raruraru i roto i te marena te noho morearea, ā, ka meinga tō hoa kia mauheretia i roto i te marena.

Me pēhea te hono atu ki tō hoa rangatira

E pā ana rānei ki a koe ēnei tikanga me ngā tauira whanonga ka taea te whakangaro i te marena? Ka taea e tātou te whakaaro me pēhea te mataku o tēnā ki a koe. Kaua e ngākau pouri. Ki te mea he mea ka taea te whakangaro i te whanaungatanga, kei reira ētahi mea ka taea te āwhina i a koe ki te whakaora i te marena, me te hono anō ki tō hoa rangatiraAnei ētahi hei whakamātau māu: 

1. Kia tautoko tetahi i tetahi 

Tuhia ō angitu, whakanuia hoki ngā wikitoria iti. Haunga tēnā, tuhia ō ngoikoretanga. Ahakoa he whāinga poto tā rātou i tutuki, he whāinga kore rānei, me mōhio tō hoa rangatira kei te taha tonu koe, e tautoko ana, e tautoko ana rānei i a rātou. Tautoko tetahi i tetahi. Me whakaaro ki ō rātou wikitoria me ō rātou hinganga me te mea ko ō koutou ake. 

2. Whakatikahia ngā raruraru whakawhitiwhiti kōrero

Ehara i te mea rerekē ngā raruraru whakawhitiwhiti kōrero. Engari ki te waihotia kia kore e arohia mō te wā roa, ka pirau hei arai nui e uaua ai te karo. He mea nui kia ako koe ki te noho me te kōrero mō ō raruraru i mua i te korero kino ka waiho hei tētahi o ngā take e kore ai e angitu tō marena. 

3. Whakaatuhia te mihi 

Ki te mea he mahi tā rātou māu, ahakoa te nui, te iti rānei, kia whakawhetai koe. Me kī atu kei te mihi koe ki a rātou mō tō noho tahi me koe. E pai ana hoki ki ngā tāne te mihi, te mihi, me te maioha. 

4. Haere ki ngā rā

He pai te noho tahi i te wā kounga hei hono atu anō ki tō hoa rangatira. Whakamātauria ngā mahi aroha, tuhia he reta aroha ki tō tāne, haria rānei ia ki tētahi pikiniki. Ko ngā mea iti tonu te mea e whakapōuri ai te ngākau. 

5. Whakamātauria te tāpiri i ngā mea kakara ki roto i te rūma moe 

He mea nui te whanaungatanga ā-ira tangata kia harikoa ai, kia makona ai tō hoa. Whakamātauria ngā mahi whakaari, ngā tūranga hou, me ngā taonga takaro ā-ira tangata. He mahi nui tā te taatai ​​ki te whakanui ake i te whanaungatanga ā-ira tangata. Ka whakanui ake i te oranga hinengaro me te oranga tinana o te tāne me te wahine.

Kāore he mea ngaro nui mō te marena harikoa. Ko te mea nui ko te āhua o tō whiriwhiri ā-hinengaro ki te manaaki i tō hoa. Me whakaute koe i a ia, i ōna uara, i ōna rohe, me ōna whakaaro. Me muru hara koe, me te tuku i ngā mea iti, kaua e pupuri i te mauahara. 

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