11 Ngā Mea e Kōrerohia Ana e Ngā Hoa Paitini – Me Te Take

I kī te tohunga reo me te kaituhi o Amerika, a Julia Penelope, "He mana te reo, he tino tika ake i tā te nuinga o te tangata e whakaaro nei. Ina kōrero tātou, ka whakamahia e tātou te mana o te reo hei whakarerekē i te ao tūturu." He mea nui te hanga a ō tātou whanaungatanga i ō tātou oranga. Ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero e puta ana i roto i taua wāhi he mea nui ki tō tātou oranga. Aue, he maha ngā kīanga kino me ngā mea kino e kōrerohia ana e ngā hoa e tino pirau ana i ō tātou hinengaro.

He uaua ki te nuinga o te tangata te whakatakoto rohe ina whakamahia aua kīanga; ko te take matua ko tō rātou āhua harakore. Mā te tirohanga matatau ka kitea te mahi a te tinihanga me te pakanga mana i roto i te whanaungatanga. I roto i tēnei tuhinga, ka tirohia ngā mea e kōrerohia ana e ngā hoa kino me te āwhina a te kaiwhakaora hinengaro. Tākuta Aman Bhonsle (Ph.D., PGDTA), he tohunga ki te tohutohu whanaungatanga me te Whakaora Whanoke Ā-roto.

Mena kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te tautuhi i ngā tāngata kino, te rapu whakautu rānei mō te aha te MO o te tangata kino, ka āwhina ēnei kīanga me tā mātou whakamārama. Tirohia ngā tohu whero me tūpato koe, me te ngana ki te hopu i te tikanga koretake o te whanaungatanga. He māmā ake te tautuhi (me te whakatika) i ngā mea kino o te whanaungatanga mena ka tīmata koe ki te rapu i ngā wāhi tika. Nō reira, me tīmata tātou.

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He rerekē te whakapuaki i te whakaaro i roto i te whanaungatanga, ā, he tika ki ngā hoa tokorua. Engari ki te huri hei mahi tinihanga, hei whakahē tonu rānei, ka puta mai i roto i te ahua o ngā kīanga kino e whiua ana e te tangata tetahi ki tetahi i roto i te tautohetohe.

Ki te whai hoa kino koe e kōrero kino ana i ngā kupu mamae, e whakama ana hoki i a koe, ka pā kino pea ki tō hauora hinengaro me tō hauora tinana. ako e tohu ana ko te hunga e pāngia ana e ēnei kupu me ngā whanonga paitini tonu, he nui ake te mōrearea ki te mate ahotea muri-traumatic (PTSD), te manukanuka, me ngā tohu pouri. Mena kei te ngana koe ki te rapu huarahi ki te tautuhi i ngā tāngata paitini, mā te aro ki ngā kupu me ngā kīanga e whakamahia ana e rātou hei whakaiti i tō whakaaro mō te mana me te whakaute ki a koe anō ka āwhina. Anei ngā kupu mamae penei:

• Ka whakahē rātou i te uho o tō tuakiri: Ki te mea ka whakahē tonu rātou i a koe mō ō whanonga, mō tō tirohanga ki te ao, mō ō āhuatanga whānui rānei, he mārama kāore rātou e whakaae ana ki a koe mō tō tuakiri.
• Ka tawai rātou ki ō hoa: Ehara i te mea kāore rātou e noho tahi me ō hoa anake, engari e tono ana hoki rātou kia kaua e noho tahi, ā, e ngana ana hoki ki te whakatārewa i a koe i a rātou. Whakaarohia tēnei tetahi o ngā mea ngā tohu whakatūpato o tētahi whanaungatanga paitini
• Ka whakaekea e ngā kīanga paitini ngā mea katoa e mahia ana e koe: Ka amuamu tonu tō hoa kino ki a koe, ehara i te mea he pai ki a ia ōu hiahia engari nā te mea kāore ia e pai ki tetahi o āu mahi. Mai i ō kākahu tae atu ki te huarahi e whakaritea ai e koe tō rā, kāore ia e whakaae ki tetahi mea e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi.

11 Ngā Mea e Kōrerohia Ana e Ngā Hoa Paitini – Me Te Take

Kua rongo koe i tō te kōrero a te hoa i tētahi mea e mamae ai te ngākau ā, i whakaaro ā-tinana koe he hē, he koretake hoki ki a koe? Kāore pea koe e taea te tuku noa i taua wā. Engari he tino hē tetahi mea… te reo, ngā kupu, te tikanga, te whāinga rānei. Tērā pea he kino rawa, ā, kei te pouri tonu koe mōna. Kei konei mātou hei whakamārama i ngā mea kāore e taea e koe te kōrero mā tēnei rārangi māmā o ngā mea kino e kōrerohia ana e ngā hoa. Ahakoa he tirohanga poto noa iho, me mōhio koe he aha i pēhia ai koe e ngā kupu a tō hoa rangatira.

Tākuta Bhonsle e mea ana, "Ko te hunga whai āhua kino ka tuku i te kawenga mō ō rātou oranga me te harikoa ki ngā ringa o ētahi atu. E iwa i roto i te tekau, he raruraru o te pehi i te kawenga. Ki te kore tēnei e tupu, ka ngana rātou ki te whakahaere i ētahi āhuatanga o te oranga o tā rātou hoa. He taputapu kaha ngā kupu hei whakatū mana." Me taua māramatanga taketake mō te whakamahinga a ngā hoa kino i ngā kupu hei whakahaere, hei whakamahi rānei i te mana, me titiro tātou ki ngā mea e kīia ana e ngā hoa kino:

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1. "Tirohia te mea i meinga ai ahau e koe kia mahi"

E whakamārama ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Ina kore te tangata e pai ki te tango i te kawenga mō āna mahi, ka whakawhirinaki rātou ki tana hoa. He tino raruraru ngā kōrero pēnei i te, "Nāu ahau i tinihanga ki a koe" me te "I kino taku hui nā te mea i mahi koe i a XYZ". Ki te he tetahi mea i roto i tētahi wāhanga o te oranga o te tangata kino, ka kitea e rātou he huarahi hei whakatika i ō ngoikoretanga." Huri-whakapae Ko tētahi o ngā mahi kino rawa atu a ngā hoa paitini, ā, e mahia ana hei whakamahi i te mana whakahaere me te rangatiratanga i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga.

Ka taea e koe te whakaaro ki tētahi wā i whakapae ai tō hoa tāne, tō hoa wahine rānei i a koe mō tētahi mea i mahia e rātou? He ahua wairangi, he āhua whakakatakata ēnei kōrero, engari ka taea e rātou te mea kia noho koe i roto i te puna o te hara tonu. Ka whakaaro tonu koe ki hea koe i he ai, me te whakaaro kāore koe i te pai mō tō hoa aroha. Ko tā mātou anake e tumanako nei ka tūpato koe ina puta tēnei; ā, kāore koe e whakapāha mō ngā hapa kāore i mahia e koe.

2. "Kāore e taea e au tēnei mahi ināianei, kua mutu taku mahi" 

Kāore e tika ana te tuku i ngā kupu whakamutunga me ngā whakawehi ngā āhuatanga o ngā whanaungatanga hauoraKoinei ngā kupu tino kino rawa atu hei kōrero mā te karere kuputuhi, mā te kore rānei, ka raru ai te hinengaro o te tangata. Ka whakatōkia he wehi kei wehe atu tō hoa i te wā e puta mai ai te raruraru. Ko te whāinga o ēnei kupu, "Ki te kore koe e mahi i ngā mea katoa kia tika, ka whakarērea koe e au." Koinei te take e puta ai te wehi kei whakarērea. I roto i te wā, ka tīmata koe ki te hīkoi i runga i ngā anga hua manu i te taha o tō hoa kia kore ai rātou e pouri.

I kōrero a Mikayla, he kaipānui nō Nebraska, i tana wheako mō ngā kōrero a ngā hoa tāne kino: "Kua rongo au i ngā kōrero a ngā tāne kino. He maha ake ngā whakatūpato "Ka whakarērea koe e au" i tō whakaaro. Ka mahi rātou i tēnei nā te mea e hiahia ana rātou ki te whakamataku i a koe, kia hiahia hoki koe ki te piri atu ki a rātou. I mua i taku mōhio, kua huri ahau hei tangata koretake, mataku, me te ngākau ngāwari. Kāore au i te mōhio ki ahau anō... Anei tētahi tohutohu: i ngā wā katoa e whakawehi ana tētahi tāne ka haere ia, TUKUA IA. Ka mihi koe ki a koe anō i muri mai mō te tuku i taua paitini kia puta i te tatau."

3. "Kei te kaha koe" 

E whakamārama ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Ko ngā kīanga pēnei i te 'kei te nui rawa tō tauhohenga' e whakamahia ana i roto i ngā whanaungatanga kino kei raro i te whānau gaslighting. Ko te tikanga, mā roto i ēnei kīanga, ka whakakorehia ō hiahia kare ā-roto, ō āwangawanga rānei. Kāore tō hoa e pai ki te tirotiro i tō amuamu; me whakatau e koe anake nā te mea he iti rawa mō rātou. Ina pāngia tonutia koe e tēnei momo tinihanga, ka tīmata koe ki te whakapae anō i tō tirohanga." Koinei te mana o ngā mea e kōrerohia ana e ngā hoa kino.

Mena kei te whakaaro koe, "He aha te āhuatanga tino tautuhi o te tangata paitini?", he tino pai te mahi a te gaslighting. Ā, ehara i te mea ko te whakaiti noa i ngā kare ā-roto, i ngā āwangawanga rānei o te tangata kē te kaupapa o te gaslighting. E ai ki rangahau, ko ngā tauira whanonga e whā e kitea nuitia ana i roto i ngā whanaungatanga hauhautanga ko te aroha-pōma, te wehe i te morehu mai i ōna hoa me tōna whānau, te whanonga kore e taea te matapae, me te kore whakarongo puku. Anei te pānga ki a koe:

• He rautaki whakahaere: Ngā kīanga ngawari mō te whakakā hau, ki te kore e tīmata wawe, ka huri hei mahi tinihanga katoa, ā, ka mahia hei mea kia whakaaro te tangata kāore ōna kare ā-roto i te tika, kāore rānei i te rawaka
• Ka ngaro koe i a koe anō: Ka mutu, ka ngaro tō whakapono ki a koe anō. Ka tino kino te whakahāwea i a koe anō ki tō hinengaro, ā, ka pā hoki ki tō whakapono ki ngā whanaungatanga ā muri ake nei.
• Kaua e ngaro i a koe anō, kaua hoki e tono kia nui tō uara: A te wā ka rongo anō koe i ēnei kōrero (me ngā mea pēnei i te "He tino tairongo koe", "Kāore he aha", "Kāore e taea e koe te aro ki te katakata", "Kia wareware noa"), kia tūpato koe.

4. "Me mahi koe i tēnā?"

He pātai tino kore kino tēnei, tika? Mēnā ka pātaihia koe kia whakapuaki i tō āwangawanga, āe. Engari mēnā ka pātaihia hei ngana ki te aukati i tō whanonga, kāo rawa. E kī ana te pātai me mutu te whakarongo ki te mahi tonu. He paitini te whanaungatanga kāore e hoatu he wāhi ki a koe ki te whakamahi i te kōwhiringa. He tino kino te hiahia ki te whakahaere i tō hoa, ki te whakahaere rānei i ā rātou whanonga. (Ā, te whakamutu i tētahi whanaungatanga whakahaere ka tino uaua.)

He maha ngā wāhine e pātai ana, "He aha ngā kōrero a ngā hoa tāne kino?", "He aha ngā kōrero a ngā tāne kino?", ā, koinei tētahi o ngā whakautu e tino kitea ana. Ina tīmata tō hoa ki te kōrero me te "me (...) koe", tīmata ki te aro. (Hei tauira, "Me mau koe i taua kākahu?" "Me tūtaki koe ki taua tāne?") E kī ana te kīanga kei a koe te pōro, engari ko te mea pono, kua whakaaro tō hoa kāore i te tino hira he koretake tāu whakatau. E mārama ana kāore rātou e aro ki ōu painga.

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5. Ngā mea e kīia ana e ngā hoa kino: "KA MAHI TONU koe i tēnei"   

O ngā kōrero kino katoa a ngā hoa mahi, koinei te mea tino morearea. E kī ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Mā ngā kōrero whānui ka whakaaro te tangata e whiwhi ana i te kōrero he kuware, he koretake rānei. Ko ā rātou hapa te mutunga me te mutunga mō tā rātou hoa mahi. Ko te "Kei te mahi tonu koe i te XYZ" me te "Kāore rawa koe e mahi i te XYZ" he whakanui rawa i hangaia hei whakapouri i te tangata kē atu mō rātou anō. Ka pāngia tō whakaaro ki a koe anō ina kī tonu mai tetahi ki a koe kāore koe e mahi pai ana."

Kotahi Reddit kaiwhakamahi e whakapuaki ana i te hiranga o te hoa paitini, i runga i ō rātou ake wheako. I kī rātou, "E tono ana rātou kia mahia e koe ētahi mea, ā, ka tukinotia koe mēnā kāore koe e mahi. He rerekē te tauhohenga ki te kore e mahi i tētahi mahi. Ka wareware ki te whakaweto i te rama, ā, ka hamama rātou ki a koe mō te 30 meneti." Anei ngā mahi ka taea e taua paitini:

• Ka tangohia te haumaru o tētahi whanaungatanga: Me waiho te whanaungatanga hei puna whakamarie, hei puna haumaru, hei puna whakapono hoki mō te tangata. Mēnā kei te whai wāhi nui ki te whakakore i tō mana ake, me te hanga kei te tino pōuri koe, he whakaaro nui tāu hei mahi
• Whakaarohia mēnā he pai te noho tahi me tēnei tangata: Nā te aha rā, he aha ai tō hoa e hiahia ana kia pōuri koe mōu ake? Nā te mea rānei e hiahia ana ia kia whakawhirinaki koe ki a ia mō te nuinga o ngā mea? Ko koe anake te tino mōhio ki ngā kōrero kino a ngā hoa.

6. "He rite tonu koe ki tō whaea/pāpā"

He kupu kino noa iho ēnei e whakamahia ana hei whakapai ake i a koe, engari hei pātai anō hoki i ngā mea katoa o tō ao. Mēnā ka whiua tēnei ki tō aroaro i te wā o te pakanga, haere atu i te rūma (me te whanaungatanga pea). E kī ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Kei te ngana tō hoa ki te tohu me pēhea koe e whakahoki ai i ngā hapa a ō mātua. Ahakoa kei te whai koe i tētahi āhuatanga o ō mātua, ehara i te mea hei patu i te pakanga. He aha te take o te whakaara ake i tēnei?"

Ā, ka nui ake te mamae o tēnei kōrero mēnā he uaua tō hononga ki ō mātua. Ki te kōrerotia e koe tēnei ki a rātou, ka kī atu hoki tō hoa kino kei te nui rawa ōu tauhohenga, ā, he kata noa iho hei whakamama i te raruraru.

I mea tētahi hoa tata, "Kei roto ahau i tētahi āhuatanga pēnei whanaungatanga ngenge hinengaro"E whakarite tonu ana ia i ahau ki tōku pāpā ahakoa kua maha aku kōrero ki a ia he mea whakaohooho tēnei mōku. Kāore au i te mōhio me aha ahau i ēnei rā. Kei te tino pāngia ahau e ēnei kupu mamae."

7. “He aha koe te kore ai e taea te mahi i tetahi mea tika?”

I kī te kaituhi rongonui o Ingarangi, a Neil Gaiman, "Kia mahara: ina kī mai te tangata he hē tetahi mea, kāore rānei e pai mō rātou, tata tonu kei te tika rātou. Ina kī mai rātou ki a koe he aha tā rātou e whakaaro ana he hē, me pēhea te whakatika, tata tonu kei te hē rātou." Ina kore te whakahē e haere tahi me te aroha, kei te tohatohahia hei whara i a koe. He tohu anō hoki tēnei mō te kore o te aroha i waenga i ngā hoa mahiEngari, ko tētahi tēnei o ngā kīanga paitini i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga ka taea te whakakino nui i te hononga.

E mea ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "He take whakaiti tēnei mō te tangata. He tino whakarihariha te whakapouri i tētahi (me tō hoa rangatira) mō rātou anō. Nā te mea ka mutu, ka whakapono tātou ki ngā mea e kōrerotia ana ki a tātou. Ki te karangatia koe he puhoi, he kuware rānei i ia rā, ka waiho hei poropititanga e tutuki ai i a koe anō." (Ko ngā kīanga pēnei i te "Kāore e taea e koe te whakahaere i tēnei?" me te "I hē anō koe?" kei roto i ngā mea tino noa e kōrerohia ana e ngā hoa kino.)

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8. “Me i tino aroha koe ki ahau, ka _____ koe” 

He wāhanga o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hauora te whakapuaki i ngā tumanakohanga i roto i ngā whanaungatanga hauora. Heoi, he mea nui te reo me ngā kupu e whakamahia ana. Ka taea e te hoa aroha te whakapuaki i tētahi tono me te kore e ngana ki te whakapouri i te tangata kē. Engari ka nui rawa te kaha o te hoa kino, ka whakamahi i ngā kīanga tino kino hei whakamōhio i te tangata kē kāore i te rawaka. Anei ngā mahi a ēnei tāngata kino:

• Te whakamātautau i a koe: Ka 'whakamātautau' rātou i tō aroha, ka tono kia whakamātauria e koe. Ko te mea pono, he huarahi tēnei hei whiwhi i tā rātou e hiahia ana. Engari ka tino rerekē tā rātou whakaatu i ngā mea… Hei tauira, ka kī atu pea te tāne ki tana hoa wahine, "E kore koe e haere ki waho ki te tūtaki ki ō hoa mēnā e aroha ana koe ki ahau. Me noho koe ki tōku taha"
• Pātai atu ki a koe anō mēnā koinei te aroha pono: He nui te rerekētanga i waenga i te aroha kore-whaiaro me te aroha whaiaro. E mōhio ana koe koinei te mea whakamutunga ina tīmata koe ki te kite i ngā mea kino i roto i te whanaungatanga. Kāore tetahi e tika kia whakamatau i a ia anō i runga i ngā mea iti noa iho. He tohu tamariki me te kore whakawhirinaki o te tokorua. Kia ara ake i ngā tono iti a tō hoa, ā, kia kaha ki te pakeke i roto i te aroha.

Ka kōrerotia ēnei mea e te hoa kino hei kī atu kei te aroha ia ki a koe, ā, e hiahia ana kia pērā anō hoki tō whakaaro mōna. Heoi anō, ko tā rātou mahi he tawai noa iho ki a koe, me te kī atu kāore koe i te rawaka mōna.

9. “He aha koe kāore ai i rite ake ki a ____?”  

E mea ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "Kāore i te pai te whakataurite i a koe. Kaua tō hoa rangatira e tono kia rite koe ki tētahi atu. Kaua he paearu pai e hiahia ana rātou kia piri atu koe. Kei te whakaipoipo rātou i a koe mō te tangata ko koe, ā, ki te mea kei te tono rātou kia mahi koe i tētahi mea rerekē, he mea tika kia kōrerohia." Ko ētahi o ngā mea rongonui e kīia ana e ngā hoa tāne me ngā hoa wahine kino ko "Me kakahu koe kia rite ki a ia" me "He aha koe e kore ai e ngana kia ngāwari te noho tahi me ia?"

Kia tūpato ki ngā kōrero kino a ngā tāne, a ngā kōtiro rānei, e kīia ana he kōrero noa iho, nā te mea ka takahi i tō tuakiri. Kāore e taea e koe te rite ki te katoa i runga i ngā tohutohu a tō hoa. Kei te ngana rātou ki te hanga i a koe kia rite ki tā rātou e pai ai. Kia mau ki tō tūnga, ā, kaua e whakaae. Te whakataurite i te mana motuhake i roto i te whanaungatanga He mea nui tēnei i te mea ka hanga hononga kare ā-roto hauora te hunga hauora.

10. "He tino uaua ki a koe te aroha ki a koe anō"

He aha ngā kōrero a ngā hoa kino? Mena he kino tō hoa, me tumanako atu ki tēnei, me te kī atu "He tino uaua ki te whakaipoipo" me te "Ehara i te mahi ngāwari te noho tahi me koe." E whakamārama ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "He tino nanakia te mea kia whakaaro tetahi kāore ia e arohaina. Ina kōrerotia ēnei mea i ia rā, ka tīmata koe ki te whakapono kāore koe e tika kia arohaina. Kei te tautoko tō hoa i a koe mā te whakaipoipo i a koe. Ā, ki te whakaputa ake koe i tēnei kōrero me te whakaatu i tō mamae, ka kī atu rātou he kata noa iho, me okioki koe.

"Ā, ehara tēnā i te mea pono. Kei te tangata tonu te kōwhiringa ki te wehe atu i tētahi whanaungatanga mēnā he nui te whakararuraru i a rātou. Engari ki te whiriwhiri rātou ki te noho tonu ki roto, ā, ka meinga koe kia pōuri, he raruraru kei reira." Me whakahaere ia whanaungatanga, me tō whanaungatanga anō hoki. Heoi, ehara i te mea ko koe te kawenga mō ngā mea katoa. Kaua tō hoa e akiaki i a koe kia noho hei tangata. te āhua nei kāore koe i te pai hoki ratou.

Kotahi Reddit kaiwhakamahi e kōrero ana mō te whakawhiti whakapae a tā rāua hoa o mua, "Kua tino kino rawa atu taku hoa o mua. I whakamahia e ia tōku pouri ki ahau i muri i taku tohu i tana whanonga kino, ā, i mea ia he 'pōrearea ahau, me te hiahia ki te rongoā', kātahi ka haere tonu ki te kī mai kia haere ahau. I tīmata ahau ki te wehe atu, ā, ka riri ia, ka mea mai ka whakarērea tonutia ia e ahau nā te mea kua tīmata ahau ki te wehe atu. Ko ahau tonu te patunga."

11. *Te wahangu o te reo irirangi*

He aha tētahi o ngā kupu paitini paitini hei kōrero māu i runga i te tuhinga? Āe, i ētahi wā, kāore noa iho. He maha ngā wā ka whiriwhiria e rātou te wahangu hei taputapu whiu i a koe, ka wehe atu. Te maimoatanga puku He pai, he huakore hoki ōna, engari i tēnei horopaki, he kino noa iho. Ka whakamahia e tō hoa te riri puku me te wahangu hei tango i te aroha. Ka noho koe i roto i te puna manukanuka, e tatari ana kia haere mai rātou ki te kōrero ki a koe. 

E mea ana a Tākuta Bhonsle, "He mea whakaarokore te kore e kōrero, ā, ko tētahi o ngā mahi kino a ngā hoa mahi. E kī ana tēnei ehara te whāinga i te whakatau pakanga engari ko te 'toa' i te pakanga. Ka tino kino te noho i waenganui i ngā hoa mahi ina kore he kōrero mai i tētahi pito. He maha ngā wā ka whakamahia te wā puku e te kaipahua." Kei te whakamahi anō hoki tō hoa i te wā puku hei whakahē i a koe? Ko tā mātou e tumanako nei ka mōhio rātou ki te hiranga o te kōrero hauora ki a koe. Kia maumahara ki tētahi pepeha māmā: he pai ake te kōrero mā te kōrero, kaua ki te pōuri me te pouri.

Āe, e hia ngā pouaka i tohua e koe? Ko tā mātou tumanako he iti noa iho ēnei mea e kōrerohia ana e ngā hoa kino i pā ki a koe. Mehemea i pērā, ā, kua mōhio koe kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga paitini, e rua ngā ara ka taea e koe te whai. Ko te tuatahi ko te whakamutu i ngā mea me tō hoa. Mena kāore te hononga e pai mō tō tipu, he kōwhiringa tonu te wehe. Ā, ko te tuarua ko te mahi i te hononga mā te whakapau i te wā me te kaha. Ka taea e kōrua te ora tahi.

Ko te mahi i tētahi o ēnei mahi e rua ka nui te kaha me te māia o te hinengaro. Mā te whakapā atu ki tētahi tohunga hauora hinengaro ka taea e koe te arotake pai ake i tō āhuatanga, me te whakarato i a koe ki ngā taputapu tika hei whakatau i tō raruraru. I Bonobology, ka tukuna e mātou awhina ngaio mā roto i tā mātou rōpū kaiwhakaora me ngā kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro whai raihana hei ārahi i a koe i tēnei wā pōuri. Ka taea e koe te tīmata i te haerenga whakaora mai i te whakamarie o tō kāinga me mātou. E whakapono ana mātou ki a koe, ā, kei konei mātou hei tautoko i a koe.

He aha te kaiwhakatoi whanaungatanga, ā, e 5 ngā tohu e whakaatu ana kei te pāngia koe e te tukino

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Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

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