18 Ngā Tohu Whakatūpato kei te Whakaipoipo Koe i tētahi Tangata Pāngarau, me pēhea te Tiaki i a Koe Anō

Kua mātaki pea koe i te whakaaturanga rongonui o Netflix i tēnei wā. koe ā, i mataku, i mau hoki i te aroha o te toa matua, a Joe Goldberg. Ka tīmata a Joe hei momo tangata ataahua, ngāwari hoki, he hiahia nui ki te aroha nui ki ngā wāhine maha. Engari i te haere tonu o te whakaaturanga, ka kite koe kāore i te pai ngā mea katoa mō tā tātou toa. Ka whakaatu a Joe i ētahi huarahi tino whakarihariha (me te ture kore) hei pupuri i ana wāhine i raro i tana mana. Nō reira, tera pea koe e whakaaro, koia koe mō te whakaipoipo i tētahi tangata pāngia e te mate hinengaro? 

He pono rānei kāore ōna hinengaro? Ā, me āwangawanga tātou mēnā ka āhua rite te āhua o te hunga i roto i ō tātou ao ki a Joe i tō rātou āhua e tika ana? He aha te whakamāramatanga o te tangata pāpori? Me ako tātou mō ngā whanonga pāpori i roto i ngā whanaungatanga me te āwhina o Pimple Jui (MA i roto i te Hinengaro), he kaiwhakaora Whanoke Ā-roto kua whakangungua, ā, he tohunga hoki mō te rongoā Bach e tohunga ana ki te mahi tohutohu ipurangi. 

He aha te tangata pāpori?

jui e whakamārama ana, "Ko te tangata whai mate hinengaro pāpori he kupu e whakamahia ana mō te tangata whai mate hinengaro pāpori kore (ASPD) e whakaatu ana rānei i ngā whanonga pāpori kore. Ko ngā āhuatanga noa o ngā tangata whai mate hinengaro pāpori i roto i ngā whanaungatanga ko ngā ture whanonga rawakore, te kore o ngā kare ā-roto pērā i te aroha ki ētahi atu, te pouri, me te hara mō te whara i ētahi atu. He maha ā rātou takahi ture, te kore e aro ki ngā taonga, ki te haumaru rānei o ētahi atu, ā, e whakaatu ana i ngā whanonga pukuriri me te kore whakaaro ki ētahi atu, ki ō rātou taonga rānei. Ka whara rātou i ētahi atu me te whakaaro ki te whara, ki te whara rānei i a rātou.”

E ai ki te DSM-5 (The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), ko ngā kupu 'sociopath' me te 'psychopath' e pā ana ki tētahi e noho ana me te mate hinengaro kore-pāpori. Ko te ASPD e tautuhia ana e te hauora he āhuatanga hauora hinengaro e whakaatu ana te tangata i te "whakahāwea tonu ki ngā ture me ngā tikanga pāpori, ā, e takahi tonu ana i ngā tika o ētahi atu." 

I runga i te tirohanga haumanu, kāore he rerekētanga tuturu i waenga i te sociopathy me te psychopathy. Engari, ka whakamahia e te tohunga ēnei kupu hei wehewehe i waenga i ngā momo whanonga e kitea ana i raro i tēnei āhuatanga, me te whakamārama hoki. He ahua pōhēhē? Me whakamārama tātou. 

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Ngā tohu o te sociopathy 

Ki te mārama tātou ko te mate hinengaro kore pāpori he tauira tonu o te kore aro ki ngā tikanga pāpori me te whanaungatanga, ko te whanonga pāpori i roto i ngā whanaungatanga ka uru atu ki ēnei, ki te katoa rānei: 

• Ko te tangata e kore e aro ki te ture, e takahi tonu ana rānei i ngā ture i te mahi, i ngā huihuinga pāpori rānei
• He tangata e takahi ana i ngā rohe pāpori, ā, e tino whakahawea ana ki ngā tika o te tangata kē. Tērā pea ko te whaiwhai, te whakangaro i ngā taonga, te tahae rānei. 
• He tangata pāpori whakahāwea e tinihanga ana i ētahi atu mō te painga whaiaro, ā, he tangata tinihanga, he tangata tinihanga hoki. 
• He tangata e mahi ana i ana mahi me te kore e whakaaro ki ngā hua o āna mahi, ā, e whai ana i a ia anō 
• He tangata pukuriri rawa, ka uru ki ngā whawhai ā-tinana, te whakakino waha 
• He tangata e uaua ana ki te whakahaere i ōna kare ā-roto me te whakahaere i ngā kawenga 
• He tangata kāore he hara, he pouri rānei mō āna mahi 
• He tangata kāore he ariā mō te haumaru me ngā tikanga pāpori mōna ake, mō ētahi atu rānei e karapoti ana i a ia 

Ko te nuinga o te hunga whai mate hinengaro pēnei kāore e aro ki te oranga me ngā kare ā-roto o ētahi atu. Mā te aro nui ki a rātou anō ka kitea rātou he tino rangatira, he whakakake hoki. Nō reira, ka taea e te tangata whai mate hinengaro te aroha? Ae, ka taea e rātou! Inaa, ka taea e rātou te tino ataahua, ā, ka taea e rātou te whakamahi i ō rātou mohio me te whakakatakata ki te whakahaere i ētahi atu kia aroha ki a rātou. Ka rerekē ō rātou kare ā-roto i ia wā, i ia wā, ā, ka ara ake te pātai - ka taea e te tangata whai mate hinengaro te huri? 

Tērā ētahi āhuatanga o te hunga pāngia e te mate hinengaro ka rerekē te āhua i runga i te ira tangata. Ehara tēnei i te kī he "tino pāngia e te mate hinengaro" tētahi ira tangata i tētahi atu, engari e pā ana ki te nui o ētahi āhuatanga. Hei tauira, ko ngā tāne pāngia e te mate hinengaro i roto i ngā whanaungatanga he kaha ake te riri me te tutu i ngā wāhine. Ko ngā wāhine he āhua pāngia e te mate hinengaro kua whakaatu i ngā tauira teitei ake o ngā whanonga tautohetohe me ngā āhuatanga pērā i te nui o te kare ā-roto me te riri. He hononga tahi ngā wāhine pāngia e te mate hinengaro me ngā āhua tinihanga. Ko ngā wāhine he āhua pāngia e te mate hinengaro, tera pea he nui ake te pānga o ēnei ki a rātou. whakahaere kare ā-roto, ka puta ake ngā amuamu pēnei i te, "Kāore taku hoa wahine i te aroha," engari ko ngā tāne ia ka whakaatu i ngā āhuatanga kaha ake, mārama ake hoki.  

He aha te take o te sociopathy? 

He maha ngā wā ka whakaarohia te mate pāwera pāpori he hua nō te taiao me te whakatipuranga, kaua he āhuatanga ira (ki te whakataurite ki te mate hinengaro, e hono nui ana ki te koiora me te matū o te roro). Ahakoa ka uru pea ētahi āhuatanga tuku iho, ko ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te āhua o tō rātou whakatipuranga, ko te mamae o te tamarikitanga, te tukino, te tutu, me te pakanga ki ngā kaitiaki ka ara ake pea ngā āhuatanga o ngā tāngata whai mate pāpori. Tērā tētahi atu mara rangahau e rangahau ana i te hononga i waenga i ngā āhuatanga hauora hinengaro me ngā mate pirau pērā i te mate wareware ka arahi pea ki ngā whanonga tuakiri kore pāpori, engari he kaupapa tino rerekē tēnā. 

E whakamārama ana a Jui, "Pērā i ētahi atu mate hinengaro, mate hinengaro rānei, kāore he tino take mō te sociopathy. Tērā pea he hononga o ngā āhuatanga maha, pērā i te ira tangata, te taiao pāpori, te momo mātua, te herenga mātua rānei, ngā āhuatanga mamae, me ngā whara ki ētahi wāhanga o te roro. I ētahi wā, ko te kore e whiwhi i te tiaki me te aroha e tika ana i te tamarikitanga, i te kore rānei e pāngia e te tukino me te tutu o te tamarikitanga, ka ārahi pea i te tamaiti kia noho hei tangata whakakeke, hei tangata whanoke rānei, ka noho hei sociopath."

Te maimoatanga o te sociopathy 

Ko te raruraru tūturu o ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te sociopathy ko te kore e kitea e te hunga e noho tahi ana me ēnei take whanonga te raruraru. Nō reira, kāore ngā sociopaths i roto i ngā whanaungatanga e rapu āwhina ngaio ki te kore e akiakihia. Ko ētahi maimoatanga mō te ASPD ko: 

• Te Maarama Hinengaro
• Te whakahaere riri maimoatanga
• CBT (whakaora hinengaro whanonga) 
• Ngā rōpū tohutohu whakaora
• Te rongoā e hangai ana ki te hinengaro 

Engari, ka taea e te tangata whai mate hinengaro te huri? Ki te kore te tangata e hiahia ana ki te whakapau kaha, me te hiahia hoki ki te huri, kāore tetahi o ēnei maimoatanga e angitu. E akiaki ana a Jui i te tangata kia whakaarohia "ngā whakaora hinengaro, ngā rongoā, me te tautoko mai i te whānau me ētahi atu." Ka tāpiri atu ia, "Ko te mea nui i ngā wāhanga whanaungatanga tangata whai mate hinengaro ko te mōhio me te mārama kei roto tetahi mea he, ā, me whakaora." 

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18 Ngā Tohu Whakatūpato kei te Whakaipoipo Koe i tētahi Tangata Pāngarau 

Titiro mai, ehara mātou i te kī ko ngā tāngata katoa e aro nui ana ki a rātou anō, e tautohetohe ana rānei, he tangata whai pānga pāpori tino whai hua. Ko ētahi tāngata he hunga whakamahi kino, he hunga whakakeke, engari kāore e tika kia karangatia rātou ki ngā kupu kaha pēnei i te 'psychopath' me te 'sociopath'. Kia maumahara ki tēnei, kei reira ngā tohu hei whakautu i tō pātai, "Kei te whakaipoipo ahau i tētahi tangata whai pānga pāpori?" He pai ake te mōhio mēnā kei te tupu tonu ēnei āhuatanga i mua i te tapanga i tētahi. 

E ai ki ngā tohunga, anei ngā tohu tekau mā waru e whakaatu ana kei te piripono koe ki tētahi tangata whai mate hinengaro: 

1. E teka ana rātou. He nui 

Ko te tangata he āhua pāpori-whakaaro ka kōrero teka mō ngā mea katoa. Ka kōrero teka rātou mēnā e hiahia ana rātou ki tā rātou ake huarahi, ki te whakahaere rānei i tētahi āhuatanga. I ētahi wā, ka kōrero teka rātou nā te mea ka taea e rātou. E kī ana a Jui, "He mea noa ngā kōrero teka e kōrerohia ana e ngā pāpori-whakaaro, ā, kāore he kare ā-roto o te hara, o te pouri rānei." te takoto i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga he tohu pono tēnei e rerekē ana ngā mea i tō rātou āhua, ā, tera pea he raruraru tuakiri kei roto i te tangata e piri tahi ana koe. 

2. Ka whakakeke rātou ki ngā ture 

Ko te mea i te tīmatanga he 'pai' me te 'whakahē i te mana whakahaere' ka huri hei mea āwangawanga, hei mea kino hoki. Ko tō whanonga 'tama kino', 'kotiro kino' rānei, ka arahi pea ki ētahi āhuatanga tino morearea me te tutu, ā, ka tūpono pea tō haumaru. Ka tāpiri atu a Jui, "Ki te pātai koe ki a koe anō, "Kei te piripono ahau ki tētahi tangata whai mate hinengaro?" kia tūpato ki tōna āhua ki te takahi i ngā ture me ngā ture pāpori, me te mahi i tēnā me te whakapehapeha. He rerekē te takahi i ngā ture i ētahi wā, engari ki te noho hei whanonga noa, he tohu pea tēnei o te mate hinengaro hinengaro."

3. Kāore he pūtake o tō rātou whakapehapeha 

He tino māia, he whakapehapeha hoki te hunga whai pānga pāpori i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. He nui rawa te whakapehapeha o tō rātou whakaaro ki a rātou anō, ā, e whakaatu ana rātou i tō rātou hiranga ki te hunga e karapoti ana i a rātou. Ko ō rātou āhua kanohi, reo tinana, ā, ko te waiaro katoa e hongi ana i te hiranga. 

4. E mōhiotia ana rātou mō ā rātou whanonga whanoke

Tērā pea he mea mōhio tēnei mēnā kua whakaritea e koe he mahere me tētahi e whakapōrearea tonu ana i a koe, ahakoa ō kare ā-roto. He hunga whakahihi ngā tāngata pāpori tūturu, ā, kāore e aro ki ngā kare ā-roto o ētahi atu. E hiahia ana rātou ki te whakahaere i tētahi āhuatanga. Nō reira, kāore pea e whakaaetia te whakamahere me te whakapau kaha. 

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5. He tino ataahua rātou 

Ehara i te mea he tangata tinihanga te hunga ātaahua katoa e tūtaki ana koe ki te tangata pāpori, engari ka whakamahia e te hunga pāpori te ātaahua hei whakahaere i tō rātou ara ki roto i tō koiora. "He tino ātaahua, he karismātika rānei rātou," te kī a Jui, me te tāpiri atu, "I te taumata o waho, he tino ātaahua rātou, ā, ka tino kukume koe ki a rātou. Ka tere hoki tā rātou neke i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga e huna ana i te kaupapa kia riro te mana whakahaere i tētahi hoa." Mena ka taea e tō hoa te kukume i ngā tāngata ke ki te poma aroha, kia noho hei oranga mō te pāti, ā, muri iho ka tukino i te tangata, ka whakamahi i a rātou, kei te rere haere ngā haki whero ki tō aroaro. Kia tūpato. 

6. Kei te tere rawa te haere o tō kōrua whanaungatanga 

He tino tere te neke o ngā wāhanga whanaungatanga o te hunga whai pānga pāpori. Kāore i roa ka tīmata te tangata whai pānga pāpori tinihanga ki te 'patu' i roto i te āhua whakarite. Tērā pea ka whakamahere rāua i tō kōrua heke mai i te wā tuarua o tō kōrua rā, ā, i muri tata mai ka tono tono. Ko te mea e whakararuraru ana i te tangata whai pānga pāpori ko te kore mana whakahaere. Ka whakamahia e rāua ēnei rautaki hei kukume i a koe ki tō rāua ataahua, hei whakamahere hoki i tētahi heke mai tino pai, me te kore e hoatu he wā ki a koe kia kite i roto i ngā teka me te tinihanga. 

7. Ka whakamahia e rātou te hara hei whakatutuki i tā rātou e pai ai 

I roto i te whanaungatanga me te tangata pāpori, ka kitea pinepine koe e koe anō te whakama ki te whanonga i tētahi ara motuhake. Ka whakamahia e rātou ngā tikanga katoa e tika ana hei whakatutuki i tā rātou e pai ai. Ko te mea e whakararuraru ana i te tangata pāpori-mate ko te kore mana whakahaere. I ētahi wā ka uru pea tēnei ki te whakamahi i tō kare ā-roto atawhai me te aroha ki a ia hei painga mōna. 

8. Ka taea e te whanaungatanga te huri hei mahi tukino 

He nui ngā tāngata whai pānga pāpori e pāngia ana e te riri e kore e taea te pehi, ā, he raruraru anō hoki ō rātou ki te whakahaere i te riri. He hae anō hoki ngā tāngata whai pānga pāpori i roto i ngā whanaungatanga. Ka honoa tēnei ki te riri e kore e taea te pehi me te āhua tautohetohe, ka arahi pea ki te tukino kare ā-roto (tae atu ki te tukino tinana). Kātahi ka whakamahia tō wehi hei taputapu whakahaere anō hei whakahaere i te āhuatanga. 

9. Ka whakahaerehia e rātou ngā āhuatanga katoa hei painga mō rātou 

"Ki te kei te tinihanga tō hoa i a koe "Mā te whakamahi i ō rātou ātahu, i ā rātou rautaki kare ā-roto rānei hei whakatutuki i ā rātou tono, tera pea kei te mahi koe me tētahi tangata whai pānga pāpori," te whakatūpato a Jui. Ka whakawai rātou i te tangata ki ō rātou ātahu me te wairua mohio, ā, e kiia ana he pono. Kia taka te tangata ki ō rātou ātahu, ka uru mai tōna taha tinihanga, ā, ka tere tonu tā rātou tautuhi me te whakawhirinaki ki te whakamahi i ngā hapa me ngā ngoikoretanga o te tangata. 

10. He pai ki a rātou te takaro i te patunga

Ki te kore ngā mea e pai ana ki a rātou, ā, ka tangohia ohoreretia e tō hoa te kāri a te patunga, kia mōhio kei te whakaari pea rātou he kore āwhina, he whara rānei kia tutuki ai tā rātou i hiahia ai. Ko tētahi o ngā mea e kīia ana e ngā tāngata pāpori ko te whakahē a te katoa ki a rātou, ā, e kino ana ki a rātou. Tērā pea ka mahia ēnei mea katoa hei whakau i tō tautoko me tō aroha. 

11. Ehara i te mea onge te kore whakapono 

Tērā pea ka raru nui te whanaungatanga ki tētahi tangata pāpori-ā-iwi, pērā i te tinihanga me te kore whakapono. hononga hauora he mea tino kore e taea e te tangata whai pānga pāpori te mahi, nā te mea ko te mea e kukume ana i te tangata whai pānga pāpori ko te hihiri o te whai me te whakaaro kei a ia te mana whakahaere. Kia maumahara, e kore rātou e pai ki te whai i ngā ture, ā, e kore rawa e aro ki te tikanga o te pono me te whakapau kaha. Nō reira, he poto noa te roa o te nuinga o ā rātou whanaungatanga. 

12. Kāore he hanganga o ngā oranga o te hunga pāpori 

E whakaatu ana ngā pūrongo he nui ake te tūponotanga o te hunga e raru ana ki te sociopathy ki te whakamahi kino i ngā raau taero, waipiro rānei. Tērā pea he raruraru anō hoki te kore mahi. He hunga e aro nui ana ki a rātou anō, ā, kāore e aro ki te oranga o ētahi atu me ō rātou pānga ki te oranga o ētahi atu. 

13. Kāore he aroha o ngā tāngata whai pānga pāpori 

Kāore i te kaha te hunga pāpori ki te aroha ki te tangata. Kāore i te maha ngā wā ka whakaarohia e rātou ngā kare ā-roto o tētahi atu, ka mōhio rānei, ka mārama rānei ki ngā āhuatanga o tētahi atu. te whakama mō te mamae i pā ki a rātouTērā pea nā te mea he uaua ki te hunga whai āhua pāpori te titiro ki ngā mea mai i te tirohanga a tētahi atu. I a rātou e rapu ana i te mana me te whakahaere, he onge noa iho tā rātou whakaae ki ngā kare ā-roto me ngā raruraru o ētahi atu. 

14. Kāore rātou e whakaute i ngā rohe 

Kāore te tangata whai mate hinengaro pāpori e mārama ki te tikanga o te kupu 'kāo'. Kāore rātou e whakaae ki tētahi mea kāore e pai ki a rātou, ā, ka mahi i ngā mea katoa hei whakahaere i tētahi āhuatanga hei painga mō rātou. Tērā pea ko te kore whakaute i ō rohe, – ahakoa i te taha hinengaro, i te taha tinana rānei, – kia whiwhi rā anō rātou i tā rātou e pai ai. 

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15. Kāore ō rātou whanaungatanga tata 

Ahakoa i te tīmatanga ka miharo pea koe ki tō hoa rangatira nā tōna ataahua me te ngāwari o te kimi hoa, kāore e roa ka kitea kua pakaru te maha o ngā hononga i waenganui i a rāua, ā, he onge noa iho ō rāua hoa piripono. Nā te kore o tōna aroha me te kore e taea te hono atu ki ētahi atu tāngata te take. 

16. Kāore rātou e pai ki te huri 

Ki te kore tō hoa e kite i tana wāhanga i roto i tētahi raruraru, ā, kāore hoki e whakarerekē i tana whanonga, kei te titiro koe ki ngā au o te hunga mate pāwera pāpori. Ka kore te tangata mate pāwera pāpori e whakaae ki ngā hua o āna mahi, ā, ka haere tonu tana takahi i ngā rohe me te kore whakaute i ētahi atu. Ahakoa te maha o ngā wā i kīia atu ai ki a ia me huri ia. 

17. E rapu utu ana rātou

He tangata rapu utu, he tangata rapu utu te tangata pāpori tawhito. He mau tonu ō rātou mauahara, ā, rapu huarahi hei rapu utu mō te wā roa. Ki te hē tō rātou taha, tera pea he ātaahua te āhua. Engari kia māia kei te whakamahere rātou i tētahi 'whiu' e tika ana mō ngā marama e haere ake nei. 

18. Kāore rātou e whakaaro ana ki tā rātou wāhi i roto i tētahi pakanga 

He he tonu nō tētahi atu. I te nuinga o te wā, nāu te he mēnā kei te mahi tahi koe me tētahi tangata whai mate hinengaro. Ka waiho tonu ō kare ā-roto kia kore e whai mana, ā, ki te kore koe e whakaae ki te kawenga mō tō wāhanga i roto i te pakanga, tera pea ka tūkinotia koe. 

Ngā Pānga o te Noho i roto i te Hononga ki tētahi Tangata Pāngarau 

Ka rerekē ngā pānga o te noho tahi me tētahi tangata whai mate hinengaro i ia tangata, i ia tangata. Tērā pea ka tūtohuhia he tautoko ngaio ina he whānau, he hoa aroha, he hoa mahi rānei e mahi tahi ana me tētahi tangata whai mate hinengaro. Ahakoa te aha, mēnā kei roto koe i tētahi whanaungatanga me tētahi tangata whai mate hinengaro pāpori, ka roa pea ngā pānga ki a koe anō. Tērā pea ka puta he momo tukino, ka pā kino pea. Ko ētahi atu pānga o te noho tahi me tētahi tangata whai mate hinengaro ko:

• Te whakaiti i a koe ano 
• Te hauora hinengaro kino 
• Te noho motuhake mai i ngā hoa me ngā whanaunga 
• Ngā raruraru i te mahi nā ngā raruraru whanaungatanga 
• PTSD 
• Te hononga mamae 
• Depression 
• Te whakaeke pouri 
• Ngā take whakahaere riri 
• Te kore whakawhirinaki ki ētahi atu 
• Nga take whakawhanaunga 

Nā, me pēhea te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga me tētahi tangata whai mate hinengaro? Āe, ina kei te tūpono tō hauora hinengaro me tō hauora tinana, he nui ake te kino o tētahi whanaungatanga i te pai. Mena he tūkino, whakaarohia te tiki tautoko ngaio me te tohutohu mō te wehe atu i te whanaungatanga me te haumaru.  

Te pānui e pā ana: Me pēhea te wikitoria i te whakawhirinaki tahi i roto i ngā whanaungatanga

Me pēhea te tiaki i a koe anō ina whakaipoipo ana koe i tētahi tangata pāpori

Mena kei roto koe i tētahi hononga ki tētahi tangata e mate pāwera ana ki te taha pāpori, ā, e hiahia tonu ana koe ki te whai tonu i taua hononga, he pai pea te mahi i ēnei e whai ake nei: 

• Kia mārama ki tāu e pā anaWhakaakohia koe anō mō ​​te āhua. Pānuihia ngā kōrero mō te mate, kia mōhio hoki ki tāu e pāngia ana. Whakaaetia tō wairua me te meka kāore pea ō kare ā-roto, ō kare ā-roto, me ō tirohanga e māramahia. Ā, me whakatau whai whakaaro mō te te heke mai o tō whanaungatanga. 

• Akohia me pēhea te whakahaere haumaru i te āhuatanga: Whakamāramahia te pānga o ā rātou whanonga ki a koe me ētahi atu e karapoti ana i a rātou. Akohia te whakatū i ngā rohe mārama mō tō haumaru kare ā-roto me tō haumaru whaiaro, ā, kaua e whakama mō te mahi pera. Ina mārama koe ki te take e whanonga ai tētahi tangata i tētahi ara motuhake, ka taea e koe te āwhina i a koe ki te tauhohe me te mahi i runga i tēnā. Kaua rawa e whakaititia te mate pāpori e pāngia ana e koe, ā, kia mau tonu tō haumaru hei kaupapa matua. 

• Kia tūpato ki a koe anō: Tautokohia tō hoa rangatira i a rātou e whakaora ana, engari kia rite hoki ki te whakarite i ō ake hiahia. Tērā pea ka whai hua koe mā te haere ki te tohutohu mō te marena ngā wā whakaora whānau rānei. Ka taea hoki e koe te whakauru atu ki ngā rōpū tautoko. Mā tō haerenga whaiaro me tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro ngaio koe e āwhina ki te whakapai ake i ō pūkenga kōrero, ki te hanga i ō ake tikanga whakatau raruraru, ki te mōhio ki ngā rautaki tinihanga me ngā take riri a tō hoa, me te āwhina i a koe ki te mahi i tētahi mahere putanga mēnā ka huri te whanaungatanga ki te tukino, ki te kore rānei e haumaru. 

Kāore he mea e huna ana i te meka he uaua te noho tahi me te tangata whai mate hinengaro. Ki te tohe tonu koe ki te noho tonu i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga pēnei, ko te huarahi anake hei tiaki i a koe ko te rapu tautoko ngaio me te whakarite kia tutukihia tō haumaru me ō hiahia. Kia mōhio ai koe, ko ngā kaitohutohu mohio me ngā kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro raihana kei runga Te rōpū a Bonobology kei konei tonu mo koe.

Haunga tēnei, ko te manawanui, te mārama, me ngā rohe me waiho hei kupu matua māu mō ngā rā kei te heke mai. Kia maumahara, ki te mea kei te tūpono tō haumaru whaiaro, te haumaru rānei o ō whanaunga, me wehe atu koe i taua āhuatanga tonu. 

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