Zinthu 10 Zomwe Simuyenera Kumuuza Wokondedwa Wanu

Mkwiyo ndimalingaliro amodzi omwe amatha kuwononga ubale uliwonse chifukwa tikakwiya, magazi opita kumalo oganiza a ubongo wathu amatseka ndipo sitikudziwa zomwe timanena kapena kuchita. Ndipo pofika nthawi yomwe timazindikira zomwe simuyenera kunena, nthawi zambiri zimakhala mochedwa kwambiri ndipo mumanena kale zokhumudwitsa. Makamaka muubwenzi wachikondi, kumene mgwirizano umakhala wofewa kwambiri, kukwiyitsa uku sikuli chabe bomba la nthawi yowopsya.

Chifukwa chake, kuwonetsetsa kuti simukuwononga mwangozi, Prachi Vaish walemba mndandanda wa zinthu zomwe simuyenera kunena kwa wokondedwa wanu mukakhala paukali. Prachi ndi katswiri wazamisala yemwe ali ndi chilolezo, psychotherapist, komanso katswiri wodziwika bwino wa zoopsa zachipatala yemwe ali ndi M.Phil. mu Clinical Psychology yovomerezedwa ndi Rehabilitation Council of India. Wakhala akugwira ntchito yokhudzana ndi thanzi lamisala kwa zaka zopitilira 17, ndiye woyambitsa The Emotional Wellness Initiatives, ndipo adayambitsa tsamba loyamba lazachipatala la India Hopenetwork.in mu 2009.

Zinthu 10 Zopweteka Zomwe Simuyenera Kumuuza Wokondedwa Wanu

Tikudziwa kuti mukakhala okwiya komanso okwiya, simumaganizira chinthu choyamba chimene chingachotse lilime lanu. Zomwe mukuchita ndikupeza njira yotulutsira kukhumudwa komwe kukukulirani. Koma mukakhala pachibwenzi, kuwongolera mkwiyo ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi ubale wachimwemwe ndi wokhazikika.

Sitikunena kuti okwatirana sayenera kumenyana kapena kusonyeza mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwa ndi khalidwe linalake loipa. Ndipotu, nthawi zina. kumenyana kwabwino ndi chinthu chabwino kwa ubale wanu. Koma kudziwa kumene mungaduleko n’kofunika. Simungathe kuwamenya pansi pa lamba ndikugwiritsa ntchito malingaliro anu oyipa ngati chowiringula chowapweteketsa mtima. Pali zinthu zambiri zimene mwamuna sayenera kunena kwa mkazi wake kapena kumuchitira nsanje atapsa mtima. Nawa ochepa mwa iwo:

1. Ndikanakonda ndisanakumanepo nanu 

Chiganizo chimodzi ichi chikutsutsa nthawi zonse zokongola zomwe mudakhala ndi mnzanu nthawi yomweyo. Mwadzidzidzi, mnzanuyo ayamba kudabwa ngati nthawi zonse zomwe mudakhala pamodzi zinali zopanda pake, ndipo tikhulupirireni, amenewo si malo abwino kukhalamo!

2. Ndimakuda

“Chidani” ndi mawu amphamvu kwambiri ndipo sayenera kunenedwa kwa munthu amene mumamukonda. Kugwiritsa ntchito mawu amphamvu ngati amenewa kumangofooketsa ubwenzi wanu komanso kupangitsa mnzanuyo kumva chisoni komanso kusatetezeka. Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akamalankhula zinthu zopweteka, n’zotheka kuti mudzazikumbukira kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo si mawu amodzi amene mungafune kuwakumbukira.

Inde, mungakhumudwe nawo, mwina simukonda zomwe achita, koma simumadana nawo monga munthu. Kodi mungafune kuganiza kuti mkazi wanu kapena mwamuna amakuda? Chinthu chabwino kunena chingakhale "Ndimadana ndi momwe zinthu zakuti-ndi-chakuti zimandipangitsa kumva."

3. Sindidzakukhulupiriraninso

Umakhala wofunika kwa wokondedwa wako chifukwa akudziwa kuti uli ndi chikhulupiriro mwa iye ndipo ukanena kuti sudzawakhulupiriranso, kufuna kukhalabe pachibwenzi kumagwedezeka. Osafotokoza zanu nkhani za trust momveka kwa iwo. Auzeni kuti zimakuvutani kuchotsa malingaliro anu koma musanene mwanjira yankhanza ngati imeneyi.

4. Ndikadakhala ndi iye m’malo mwa inu;

Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe simuyenera kunena kwa bwenzi lanu kapena bwenzi kapena mnzanu. Izi zingapangitse mnzanuyo kumverera kuti munawasankha ngati mtundu wina wa kunyengerera ndipo mumalakalakabe mutakhala ndi munthu wina. Izi zikhoza kuwapanga kumva kukhala wosafunidwa, osakondedwa ndipo angayambitse mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo.

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5. Simunandisangalatsepo

Koma, ngakhale inu mukudziwa kuti izo si zoona! Ndiye nthawi zonse mukamamwetulira ndi manja awo aang'ono ndikuseka nthabwala zawo zinali zachikale? Ayi, mukuti? Eya, sizomwe angamve mutawauza kuti sanakusangalatseni.

6. Sindingathe kupirira mukandigwira!

Mawu awa akatuluka mkamwa mwanu, pambuyo pake (nthawi zambiri mphepo yamkuntho ikatha) nthawi iliyonse mukapsompsonana kapena kusuntha kuti mupange chikondi, zidzakweza chotchinga m'maganizo a mnzanuyo. Sangathandize koma kudabwa ngati mukutanthauzadi. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe simuyenera kunena kapena zipangitsa mnzanuyo kudzizindikira kwa nthawi yayitali ndipo zimatha kuwasiya akulimbana nazo. kudziyang'anira pansi. Osanenapo zowopsa zomwe zingatengere ubale wapamtima pakati pa nonse.

7. Sindingathe kuyimilira ndikuyang'ana iwe!

Ndithudi, chimodzi mwa zinthu zimene simuyenera kunena kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, izi zidzasiya chizindikiro chosazikika pa iwo. Mumakhumudwitsa wokondedwa wanu nthawi zonse pomuuza kuti nkhope yake imakukumbutsani zoipa zonse pakati panu. Iwo amadabwa ngati pamene inu kumwetulira pa iwo, ndi yabodza.

8. Ndinakunamiza pamene…

Ndi chibadwidwe chachibadwa kufuna kunena zinthu zoipa pamene inu muli wokwiya komanso wosasangalala ndi mnzako chifukwa ndi nthawi yomwe ukupweteka ndipo umafuna kubwezera. Chifukwa chake nthawi zina mumachotsa zinyengo zakale kuti mungowaponyera. Koma kumbukirani; pamene kuvomereza kotereku kukutuluka mkamwa mwanu, simudzakhoza kubwezanso.

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9. Mawu achipongwe amtundu uliwonse

Kugwiritsa ntchito mawu achipongwe kumangokukokerani kumunsi kwambiri ndipo sikukwaniritsa chilichonse kupatula mivi yopweteka kwa munthu amene ali patsogolo panu. Yesani kukhomerera pilo m'malo mwake ndikuwonjezera izi pamndandanda wa zinthu zomwe mwamuna sayenera kunena kwa mkazi wake kapena wina aliyense ayenera kunena kwa wokondedwa wake pachibwenzi.

10. Ndemanga pa makhalidwe a thupi

Izi zitha kukhala zotsika kwambiri ndipo muyenera kusiya ndemanga zotere chifukwa izi ndi zinthu zomwe simuyenera kunena kwa bwenzi lanu kapena chibwenzi chanu. Aliyense ali ndi china chake chokhudza thupi lake chomwe chimamupangitsa kudzimvera chisoni. Popeza nonse mumalumikizana kwambiri, mwayi ndiwe kuti mumadziwana chidendene cha Achilles. Koma kugwiritsa ntchito ngati chida chopweteketsa mtima mukakwiya kumangoyambitsa zipsera za moyo wa wina aliyense chifukwa nthawi zonse amaganiza kuti mumawakonda ngakhale zophophonyazo. Ndipo zipsera za zoterozo mawu opweteka samachiritsa kawirikawiri.

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Kumbukirani, pamene mukumva kuti mukukakamizika kuvulaza mu mkwiyo, maganizo anu amakusewerani ndipo simuli nokha. Izi zimakulimbikitsani kuwoloka malire ndikunena zinthu zomwe simuyenera kunena. Pambuyo pake, ngakhale mutanena kuti simunatanthauze bwanji, sizingakhale kanthu, chifukwa zidzamveka ngati kubisala. Choncho, ndibwino kuti muzingodya mwakachetechete mukamapsa mtima n’kulankhula mokweza mawu atangoyamba kumene! Ngati mukuvutika kulamulira mkwiyo wanu, kufunafuna thandizo la akatswiri nthawi zonse ndi lingaliro labwino. Sungitsani gawo ndi alangizi a Bonobology omwe angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi malingaliro anu moyenera.

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