Tonsefe timakonda kulamulira zinthu, koma n’zoonekeratu kuti zimenezi sizingatheke. Ndipo kukayikakayika kukachoka m’manja, timakumana ndi vuto losatetezeka. Mukakhala mlangizi kwa nthawi yayitali, mumaphunzira momwe kusatetezeka kumathandizira pafupifupi zovuta zonse zaubwenzi.
Munthu aliyense kunjako wakhala akulimbana ndi malingaliro odzikayikira kapena osakwanira, ndipo anthu amakonda kunyamula nawo pamene ayamba chibwenzi. "Zifukwa" zake zingakhale zovuta kuziganizira, ndipo kugonjetsa kusatetezeka kumakhala kovuta. Kulimbana ndi kusatetezeka sikophweka chifukwa kumafuna kudzifufuza mochuluka. Koma ngati muli pano mukuwerenga, ndiye kuti mwatenga kale sitepe yoyamba yolimba mtima.
Chifukwa chake tiyeni tiyambire limodzi ulendowu, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa nokha pang'ono popeza yankho la "Chifukwa chiyani ndili wosatetezeka muubwenzi wanga?" M'nkhaniyi, katswiri wa zamaganizo Juhi Pandey ( MA Psychology ), yemwe amagwira ntchito pa zibwenzi, uphungu wa anthu asanalowe m’banja ndi othetsa banja, amalemba za zizindikiro ndi zifukwa zomwe simukutetezereka muubwenzi wanu.
Kodi Zizindikiro Za Kusatetezeka Mu Ubale Ndi Chiyani?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kodi mnzanuyo wakhala akukuuzani kuti mukuchita zosatetezeka? Kugwedeza mawondo kwanu kuyenera kukhala kukana. Ayi ndithu, sindine wotetezeka. Ndipo ndamvanso makasitomala ambiri akunena zomwezo akakumana ndi machitidwe awo panthawi ya chithandizo cha kusatetezeka mu ubale.
M'malo mwake, ambiri a iwo amatembenuzira matebulo kwa anzawo, kuwaneneza kusatetezeka m'malo mwake. Kugwirizana ndi machitidwe athu kungakhale kovuta. Nthawi zambiri anthu amayesa kupewa matendawa ngati mliri, ndipo ngakhale sachipewa, sadziwa choti achite nawo.
Munthu wina anandiuza kuti: “Ndikudziwa kuti chibwenzi changa chimandikonda, koma ndimadziona kuti ndine wosafunika.” Nthawi zonse ndimafuna kuti azindiuza mobwerezabwereza kuti amandikonda, apo ayi ndimaona kuti watsala pang’ono kundisiya. Ndi nkhani yomwe ndimawona mobwerezabwereza popeza pali pang'ono nsanje ndi kusatetezeka mu ubale uliwonse.
Ndi chiyani chomwe chimapangitsa mkazi kukhala wosatetezeka pachibwenzi, mukufunsa? Pali zizindikiro zina zomwe anthu onse osatetezeka amawonetsa; kudutsamo kudzakhala kofanana ndi kuyimirira pagalasi. Ndikukulimbikitsani kuti muwone kufananako moona mtima chifukwa iyi ndi malo otetezeka.
Choncho tisanadumphe kuyankha funso lakuti, “Kodi nchiyani chimayambitsa kusatetezeka muubwenzi?”, Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti simuyenera kulowa muzokambiranazi ndi malingaliro odziganizira nokha. Ngakhale mukuganiza kuti palibe chomwe chinganene kuti mnzanuyo akunena kuti ndinu wosatetezeka, pitirirani ndikuyang'ana zizindikiro zomwe zimasonyeza kuti ndinu osatetezeka muubwenzi wanu, zomwe mungapeze zingakudabwitseni.
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1. Nkhani zokhulupirira: N'chifukwa chiyani mumada nkhawa chonchi?
Mumadzipeza mukukayikira zonse zomwe wokondedwa wanu akunena? Kodi mafunso anu otsatira akumveka ngati akufunsa? Kodi mukulimbana ndi chiyeso choyang'ana foni yawo? Kapena mwachita kale? Chizindikiro china cha kusatetezeka ndi chakuti mukukumana ndi zovuta poyika chidaliro mwa wokondedwa wanu. Mukuvutikira kuika chikhulupiriro chanu mwa iye, ndipo izi zimabweretsa nkhawa zambiri.
Kusatetezeka kumatiwononga mkati. Timaganiza, "Kodi sindikwanira? Kodi akundinyenga?" Nkhawa zomwe zimadza chifukwa cha kusatetezeka zingayambitsenso kusinthasintha kwa maganizo, kukwiya, kusokonezedwa, mantha, ndi mkwiyo. Anthu ambiri amadabwa ngati ali paranoid, kapena kubedwa kwenikweni. Awa ndi malo owononga kwambiri amalingaliro oti mukhalemo.
“Ndimakhala wosatetezeka paubwenzi wanga wautali, mnzanga wangopeza kumene mnzanga wakuntchito ndipo sindingathe kuleka kuganiza za zimenezo.” Ngakhale kuti ndili wotsimikiza kuti sakundinyenga, chiyembekezo chakuti adzakhala ndi bwenzi latsopano limene amathera nthaŵi yochuluka pamene ine kulibe chimandipangitsa kukhala wobiriwira ndi kaduka,” wofuna chithandizo anandiuza.
Chiwonetsero chofala kwambiri cha kusatetezeka paubwenzi ndikuchepetsa kudalirana. Ngati mwaona kuti n’zovuta kukhulupirira mnzanuyo ngakhale kuti nthawi zonse amakuuzani mmene amakukonderani komanso kuti amakukondani, zikhoza kutanthauza kuti muyenera kuyesetsa kudzidalira.
2. Nthawi zonse pachitetezo
Anthu ambiri akakumana ndi kusatetezeka, amamva kuti akuwukiridwa ndi anzawo. Nthawi zambiri, kudzitchinjiriza kwawo kumakhala kosayenera chifukwa samvetsetsa zomwe zikunenedwa kwa iwo.
Ngati mukupeza kuti mukupereka zifukwa popanda chifukwa kapena kudzitengera nokha zinthu, muyenera kukhala nokha ndikukonzanso. Amayi ambiri amati, “Mnzanga amandipangitsa kudziona kuti ndine wosatetezeka ndi zonyoza zake.” Koma kodi cholakwa chimene mukuchichitacho chikuperekedwadi?
Mwina mukuwerenga zinthu chifukwa mukukonzekera nkhani zanu. Mwina chifukwa choganiza kuti simukuoneka bwino, mumaganiza kuti amakusekani nthawi zonse akakuuzani za maonekedwe anu. Mwina chifukwa choganiza kuti simukupeza bwino, mumakhumudwa nthawi zonse akatchula mchimwene wake amene amapeza ndalama zambiri kuposa inuyo. Funso lomwe muyenera kudzifunsa ndilakuti, "Chifukwa chiyani ndili wosatetezeka mu ubale wanga?"
3. Kufunika kusamala nthawi zonse
Kodi n'kwachibadwa kudzimva kukhala wosatetezeka muubwenzi watsopano pamene mnzanuyo sangathe kukhala nanu? Pachiyambi, nthawi zambiri sichinthu chachikulu kukhala ndi nkhawa kapena kusatetezeka. Koma pali vuto linalake: Mnyamata wanuyo aganiza zokhala ndi anzake Loweruka ndi Lamlungu m’malo mocheza ndi inuyo. Nonse munangowonana, ndipo akufuna kuti apeze gulu lake. Amakudziwitsani kuti ali ndi mapulani.
Kodi mumatani? Kodi mwakhumudwa kapena kukwiya kuti sakhala ndi inu nthawi yonse? Ngati inde, ndiye kuti ndinu osatetezeka mu ubale wanu. Mumavutika kuvomereza kuti anthu amakhala ndi moyo payekha ngakhale atakhala pachibwenzi. Ngati ndinu wokondedwa kwambiri, mwina simunakonzekere chibwenzi.
Kufuna kapena kufunafuna chisamaliro nthawi zonse ndizizindikiro zopanda chitetezo. Kufufuza chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kwambiri pakapita nthawi.
4. (Kupitilira)Kuchita zambiri
Chotsalira chachikulu cha kusatetezeka ndicho kuganiza mopambanitsa, ndipo zotsatira zake zimachititsa mopambanitsa. Kupanga mapiri kuchokera ku molehills, kudandaula kosalekeza kapena chiwawa si makhalidwe abwino. Ndikufuna kuyikapo kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa "kuyankha" ndi "kuyankha".
Yankho ndi yankho lolingaliridwa bwino, pamene kuyankha kumakhala kotengeka ndi maganizo. Kuzindikira kwathu kumayendetsa mayankho athu, pomwe malingaliro athu amayendetsa zochita. Ngati inu reflexively kapena mwachibadwa anatani kwa okondedwa wanu mokayikira kapena mwankhanza, ndikukupemphani kuti musinthe kuyankha. Popeza kuti kusiya zizolowezi zathu ndi nthawi yayitali, zomwe tingachite pakadali pano, ndikulingalira tisanachite.
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5. Pafupi kwambiri koma mpaka pano
Kusatetezeka kumabweretsa chododometsa. Kumbali ina, mungakhale mukuchita zokakamira, koma kwina, muli ndi vuto laubwenzi. Mutha kukhala kuti mukulimbana ndi kukhala wekha weniweni pafupi ndi mnzanu. Mukudabwa ngati angakuvomerezeni momwe mulili? Kukhala pachiwopsezo kumafuna kulimba mtima kwambiri, koma ndi sitepe lomwe tiyenera kuchita kulimbitsa ubale wathu.
Ndi nthawi yoti mudzifunse kuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani ndili wosatetezeka muubwenzi wanga?” Mavuto okhudzana ndi kugwirizana kwamaganizo ndi thupi ndi zizindikiro zenizeni za munthu wosatetezeka. Pambuyo podutsa zizindikiro izi, muyenera kuti mwapeza lingaliro lomveka bwino lomwe mwayima. Tsopano popeza mukudziwa zomwe kusatetezeka wamba mu ubale ndi, sitepe yotsatira ndi kudziwa chifukwa chake.
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Mukulondola pofunsa, "N'chifukwa chiyani ndili wosatetezeka muubwenzi wanga?", Chifukwa zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa kusatetezeka zingakhale zovuta komanso zosiyanasiyana. Kuwaloza ndizovuta pang'ono koma zifukwa 9 zomwe zimakonda kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa chifukwa chomwe mwakhala mukumva chonchi. Choyambitsa chachikulu cha kusatetezeka kwa maubwenzi nthawi zambiri ndi kusadzidalira kapena kudzidalira.
N’zosadabwitsa kuti mmene munthu amadziganizira zimasonyeza mtundu wa maunansi amene adzakhala nawo ndi anthu akunja. Ngati simukusangalala kwambiri ndi inu nokha, mudzaganiza kuti palibe wina aliyense. Yesani ndikuwona zifukwa izi zomwe zimayambitsa nsanje ndi kusatetezeka mu ubale ndi malingaliro omasuka. Khazikitsani cholinga chomwe mukufuna kudzipangira nokha, ndipo zifukwa 9 izi ndi sitepe loti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino.
1. Zikhulupiriro zanu - Kodi pali zifukwa zilizonse zoti musadziteteze?
Kasanu ndi kamodzi mwa khumi, malingaliro athu tokha komanso momwe dziko lapansi limatiwonera ndi omwe ali ndi udindo wa momwe timamvera. Choyamba, malingaliro anu pa ubale ndi chiyani? Chikhulupiliro chanu chidzatsimikizira momwe mumayendera chibwenzi, ndi momwe mukuyembekezera kukondedwa. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mukupusitsidwa, zitha kukhala chifukwa chanu mnzawo sakusangalala ndi ubalewu.
Kusasangalala kwawo kungakhale kokokomeza m’maganizo mwanu, kukupangitsani kuganiza kuti akukusandutsani. Ngati lingaliro lanu lakuwona munthu wina alibe kucheza kuposa iwo, kusatetezeka kwanu kudzakhala kwakukulu. Mudzakhala ndi zifukwa zambiri zodzikayikira chifukwa chakuti malingaliro anu pa ubale amakhala ochepa.
Ngati malingaliro anu ndi otambasuka ndipo nthawi zambiri simufuna kuopsezedwa pachibwenzi, mutha kulingalira ngati nkhawa zanu zili zomveka. Koma ngati inu nthawi zonse kumverera ngati mphamvu ya ubale wanu ndi munthu ndi janky, chifukwa ubwenzi wanu ndi wekha si bwino, ndi chimene chimayambitsa maganizo kusatetezeka mu ubale nthawi zambiri.
2. Zowawa za ubwana ndi kalembedwe kake
Zakale sizili m'mbuyo momwe timaganizira. Kusatetezeka kwanu kungayambike chifukwa cha ubwana wanu. Mwina munachitiridwa nkhanza zokhudza kugonana kapena kugwiriridwa, kuzunzidwa m’maganizo, kumwalira kwa kholo, kunyalanyazidwa, kudwala kwanthaŵi yaitali, kuchitiridwa nkhanza, kusudzulana kwa makolo, ndi zina zotero. attachment style timakulitsa ngati ana kwakukulukulu zimadalira unansi wathu ndi osamalira athu oyambirira. Ngati sitinawakhulupirire kuti ndi makolo odalirika kwa ife, ngati anali osagwirizana m'machitidwe awo kapena palibe, timakhala ndi njira yosatetezeka ku ubale wathu wamtsogolo.
Tengani, mwachitsanzo, kasitomala yemwe ndakhala naye posachedwa. “Ndikudziwa kuti chibwenzi changa chimandikonda koma ndimadziona kuti ndine wosatetezeka,” iye anatero, ndipo anawonjezera kuti, “Masiku akakhala otanganidwa ndipo satha kundipatsa chidwi, nthawi yomweyo ndimaganiza kuti andisiya ndili wosowa.” Ndi chithandizo chamankhwala, adazindikira kuti izi kuopa kusiyidwa anaikidwa mwa iye pamene amayi ake ankasowa kwa miyezi ingapo.
Chinthu chofala chomwe chimanenedwa ndi anthu omwe amakumana ndi kusatetezeka kochokera ku zoopsa zaubwana ndi, "Chibwenzi changa mwangozi chimandipangitsa kudzimva kuti ndine wosatetezeka" kapena "Msungwana wanga amandipangitsa kukhala wosatetezeka popanda tanthauzo".
Nthawi zina, chimene chimapangitsa mkazi kukhala wosatetezeka (kapena mwamuna) ndi chinachake chimene chinachitika ali mwana. Mutha kuthetsa mavutowa chifukwa chithandizo cha kusatetezeka mu maubwenzi nthawi zonse ndi njira yabwino. Ngati ndi chithandizo chomwe mukuyang'ana, gulu la Bonobology la akatswiri odziwa ntchito ndi a dinani kutali.
3. Nsanje ndi kusatetezeka m’maubwenzi kungayambitsidwe ndi zinthu zopweteka m’mbuyomo
Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi masoka a maubwenzi akale kungatikhudze kwambiri. Mwina wakale wanu anakupatsani chifukwa chabwino kwambiri chokayikira. Othandizana nawo omwe amabera, kunama kapena kuyatsa gasi amatha kusiya gawo lokhazikika pamakhalidwe athu. Pamaseŵero, nthaŵi zambiri ndimamva makasitomala akunena kuti, “Mkazi wanga wakale ankandichititsa kudziona ngati wosatetezeka ponena za thupi langa.” Kapenanso, “Mnzangayo ankandichititsa kudziona kuti ndine wosatetezeka potumizirana mameseji ndi akazi ena.”
Kugonjetsa izi kungakhale kovuta kwambiri, koma pamapeto pake, ndi moyo wanu womwe kusatetezeka kumawononga. Zipsera zomwe sizinachire ndizomwe zimapangitsa mkazi kukhala osatetezeka pachibwenzi kapena kusiya mwamuna ali ndi nkhawa. Kunyengedwa kumakusinthani kwambiri, ndipo kuchira kumakhala kovuta. Mutha kuganiza kuti ngakhale ubale womwe ulipo sungathe.
Komabe, ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti musalole kuti katundu wa maubwenzi anu akale akhudze maubwenzi anu apano. Kusatetezeka kwakukulu mu maubwenzi nthawi zambiri kumachokera ku mfundo yakuti adawonapo kuti chinachake sichikuyenda bwino. Imodzi mwa njira zabwino kwambiri zothanirana ndi vuto ngati limeneli ndi kuyesetsa zimene tidzakambirane kenako, kudziona kuti ndi wosafunika.
4. Kudziona ngati wosafunika ndi kumene kumayambitsa kusatetezeka muubwenzi
Kodi munthu angayembekezere bwanji kukhala ndi chidaliro mu ubale ngati sakudzidalira? Kudzikayikira kungayambitse mavuto ambiri muubwenzi. Zitha kuwoneka ngati mukukayikira za mnzanuyo, koma zoona zake, ndi inu nokha mukukayikira.
Ngati ndinu munthu wodzikayikira, mumangoganiza kuti simuli bwino. Kusadzidalira kwanu kumakula chifukwa chakuti mumaganiza kuti, “Popeza sindine wokwanira, ayenera kukhala ndi munthu wina kuti andikonzere zolakwa zanga.” Mutha kumva kukhala osatetezeka mu ubale watsopano makamaka. Koma izi zingayambitse makhalidwe odziwononga ngati sichikugwiridwa mosamala.
Mukufunsa, chifukwa chiyani ndilibe chitetezo mu ubale wanga? Ndi chifukwa chakuti simumadziganizira kwambiri. Muyenera kuyesetsa nokha ndikuyesetsa kukhala munthu wodzidalira. Zedi, sikudzakhala ulendo wophweka, koma ndi pafupifupi kufunikira kuti mukhale osangalala nokha kuti mutha kuvomereza kuti mnzanuyo amakukondani chifukwa cha zomwe muli, komanso kuti ndinu wokwanira.
5. Kodi mumadzikonda nokha mokwanira?
Kudzikonda ndi gawo la ubale wofunikira kwambiri m'moyo wathu - womwe ndi ife tokha. Palibe amene angabwezere kusowa kwa kudzikonda, ndipo ndi ntchito yomwe tiyenera kukwaniritsa tokha. Chinthu choyamba chokhudza kudzikonda ndikuvomera.
Tisanalankhule za, "Mwamuna wanga adandipangitsa kudzimva kuti ndine wosatetezeka ndi thupi langa" kapena "Mkazi wanga amandipangitsa kudzimva wopanda chitetezo pochita ngati ndine wosakwanira", ndikufuna kuti muyankhe ngati mukumva kuti ndinu osatetezeka, mosasamala kanthu za malingaliro awo. Kodi mumadzivomereza nokha kwathunthu, zolakwika ndi zonse? Ngati sichoncho, ichi chikhoza kukhala muzu wa kusatetezeka kwanu. Dzikumbatireni (monga Elizabeth Gilbert mu Idyani, Pempherani, Chikondi) musanayembekezere kuti mnzanuyo atero. Kupeza kukhutitsidwa kunja kumabwera mutakhala okhutira mkati.
6. Kusalankhulana ndi okondedwa wanu
Chifukwa china cholimba chomwe chimayambitsa kusatetezeka ndi kusalankhulana pakati pa inu ndi mnzanuyo. Mwina nonse mwakhala otanganidwa kapena muli ndi mavuto angapo. Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, zokambiranazo zikadasiya kuyenda. Kodi n'kwachibadwa kukhala wosatetezeka muubwenzi watsopano pamene nonse mukukumana ndi ndewu zingapo zoyambirira? Zedi, popeza mukungoyesa kulingalirana wina ndi mzake.
Koma mukakhala zaka zingapo pansi pa mzere, kusowa kuyankhulana kungapangitse kuti zinthu zonse ziziyenda bwino. Popeza simukulumikizana (m'maganizo), mukumva kuti ndinu osatetezeka paubwenziwo. Limeneli ndi vuto lomwe lingathetsedwe mwa kukhala pansi ndi kukambirana nkhani zovuta.
Ndikukupemphani kuti mutero mvetserani bwino muubwenzi wanu, m’malo mongoika maganizo anuwo patsogolo. Ndimadana ndi kubweretsa mawu osavuta, koma kulumikizana ndikofunikira. Ubwenzi sungathe ndipo sungayende bwino pokhapokha ngati muli okonzeka kuyankhula. Chithandizo cha kusatetezeka mu maubwenzi chimapezeka nthawi zonse.
7. Kusintha kwa ubale wanu
Ubale uliwonse umadutsa mu magawo a chitukuko. Ilinso ndi zigamba zake zolimba. Ngati ubale wanu wasintha kuchoka paubwenzi kupita ku wamba kapena kuchoka paubwenzi kupita m’banja, kusatetezeka kungakhale chifukwa cha kusinthaku.
"Pambuyo pa zaka 2 kukhala mu a ubale-mu ubale, ndimaona kuti ndine wosatetezeka muubwenzi wanga wautali. Nthawi zonse akamatuluka, ndimangoganiza zoyipa kwambiri. Nthawi zonse akapeza bwenzi latsopano, ndimayesetsa kale kumutsatira munthu ameneyo pa intaneti,” Jason anatiuza, za momwe kusamukira kutali kwakhala kovuta.
Kuzolowerana ndi banja latsopanoli kungatenge nthawi. Pamene mukukhazikika, mungadzimve kukhala wosatetezeka. Anthu amene angoyamba kumene chibwenzi angaone kuti alibe chitetezo paubwenzi watsopano. Ponena za zigamba zowopsa, zimadutsa, kutengera kusatetezeka kwawo. Komabe, ngati mwapeza kuti vuto lanu laubwenzi likukulirakulira, funsani akatswiri kuti akuthandizeni.
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8. Maloto a chithunzi-moyo wangwiro
Ndinapeza mawu abwino awa pa Facebook a Steven Furtick tsiku lina. "Chifukwa chomwe timalimbana ndi kusatetezeka ndichakuti timafanizira kumbuyo kwathu ndi mawonekedwe a wina aliyense." Mwinamwake mukuvutika ndi vuto lofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro. Lingaliro lanu laubwenzi limabwerekedwa kuchokera m'mafilimu ndipo ndilabwino kwambiri.
Ngati mukungozindikira kuti maubwenzi enieni ndi osiyana ndi ongopeka, mungakhale mukudzimva kukhala wosatetezeka. Ukafunsa, chifukwa chiyani ndimakhala wosatetezeka muubwenzi wanga? Ndikukuuzani kuti mafilimu, mabuku, kapena malo ochezera a pa Intaneti sizinthu zowonetsera. Ubale weniweni uli ndi zokwera ndi zotsika, zina zomwe mulibe mphamvu pa izo. Khalani omasuka ndi mfundo yakuti sikuti zonse ziyenera kukhala zolondola.
9. Nkhawa za anthu zitha kukhala chifukwa cha nsanje ndi kusatetezeka mu maubwenzi
Ndipo potsiriza, mwina inu kudwala nkhawa za anthu. Izi zitha kuyambitsa kudzidalira kwanu, kuda nkhawa nthawi zonse, komanso kusatetezeka kwanu. Nkhawa za chikhalidwe cha anthu zimakhudza mbali zonse za moyo wanu, m'njira zomwe simungathe kuziganizira. Ngati ndinu munthu yemwe ali ndi nkhawa zokhudzana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, mantha anu okana kukanidwa ndi kuweruzidwa adzakhala apamwamba kwambiri, zomwe zimabweretsa kusatetezeka kwakukulu. Chithandizo ndi upangiri ndi njira zabwino zothanirana ndi nkhawa chifukwa zimakupatsirani zida zoyenera.
Tikufika kumapeto kwa ulendo wathu m'madzi akuda opanda chitetezo. Ndichiyembekezo changa chowona mtima kuti ndakhala wothandiza, ndipo ndakubweretserani sitepe imodzi pafupi ndi ubale wabwino kwambiri, wopanda mawu aliwonse akuti “Bwanji simundikonda?” mafunso, nthawi iliyonse wokondedwa wanu sakuyankha kwa theka la tsiku.
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Malingana ndi kudzipenda kwanu pa chifukwa chake, mukhoza kuchitapo kanthu kuti muyambe kuchiritsa. Muyenera kuyesetsa kusatetezeka kwanu kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino komanso wolimba. Koma malo abwino oyambira ndi kufufuza ubale wanu ndi inu nokha.
Yang'anani kwenikweni mmene mukudzionera nokha. Yesetsani kukulitsa ulemu wanu, khalani ndi nthawi yambiri ndi inu nokha, ndi kudzikonda nokha. Muyeneranso kuthana ndi zovuta izi ndi mnzanu. Ubwenzi umayendera limodzi ndi khama la anthu aŵiri, ndipo ayenera kuyesetsa kuchita chilichonse chimene angathe kuti mukhale otetezeka. Ndikukulangizani kuti muganizire za chithandizo kapena upangiri.
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