Kodi Muyenera Kukhala Muukwati Wosasangalala Ndi Ana?

“Ndikumva ngati ndili muukwati wosasangalala chifukwa cha mwana wanga. ” Mawu amenewa ndi ofala kwambiri ku India masiku ano, ndipo ambiri amasankha kukhalabe m’maukwati osasangalatsa komanso osasangalatsa ndi ana chifukwa monga makolo, sitikufuna kuti ana athu azivutika. Okwatirana ali muukwati wosasangalala ndipo akuoneka kuti sangatulukemo kuti athandize ana.

Nthawi zambiri timapeza funso lakuti "Ndimamva ngati ndili pachibwenzi chifukwa cha mwana kapena ana".
Kodi mumadziona kuti mulibe chimwemwe m’banja chifukwa cha ana anu? Ngakhale kuti simukusangalala, mumaona kuti simungathe kuchoka chifukwa cha mmene zidzakhudzire anawo. Komabe, kodi kukhala pamodzi kwa ana kumagwira ntchito?

Tikuyankha mafunso anu mu kuyankhulana kwapadera ndi Dr. Gopa Khan, katswiri wa zamaganizo wodziwika bwino ku Mumbai.

Kodi Munthu Ayenera Kukhalabe Muukwati Wosasangalala Ngati Muli Ana Pamalingana?

Mwanjira yabwino, munthu sayenera kukhalabe mu ukwati wozunzidwa. Ngati ndi ukwati wozunzidwa mwakuthupi, mwamawu, mwamaganizo kapena ngakhale pazachuma, ayenera kuchoka. Maukwati ozunzidwa mwakuthupi kwenikweni amachititsa kuti zinthu zikhale zosatetezeka kwa akazi ndi ana. Chaka chilichonse, timataya akazi ambiri chifukwa cha nkhanza zapakhomo. Choncho izi sizotetezeka kwenikweni.

Osakondwa… chabwino, zimatengera. Mayi angadziwe chifukwa chake sakusangalala, n’chiyani chamupangitsa kuti asakhale wosangalala poyamba, komanso zimene angachite kuti asinthe n’kukhalabe osangalala. Nthawi zina, mwamunayo angakhale wosasangalala kapena wosakhutira ndi ubwenziwo.

Akhoza kusankhana ndi kusankha njira zochiritsira/kulangizana ndi maanja . Ndipo zimakhala zovuta kwambiri akakhala ndi ana, mukudziwa. Pomaliza pake, muyenera kuyang'ana chithunzi chonse.

Ngati mkaziyo sali bwino pazachuma kapena sakugwira ntchito, ngakhale atakhala wosasangalala, sangachoke muubwenziwo, sichoncho?

Ndili ndi kasitomala amene mwamuna wake ndi chidakwa ndipo kamodzi pachaka, pamakhala ndewu yaikulu pakati pawo yomwe ndi ndewu yakuthupi. Pambuyo pa ndewu yayikuluyi, iye anathamangitsidwa m'nyumba ndi ana ake aakazi awiri.

Kenako, pakatha maola khumi, zinthu zinayambanso kubwerera mwakale ndipo akukhala choncho chifukwa pamapeto pake, ngakhale akupereka maphunziro, alibe nyumba yoti apite kukagona. Amayendetsa mpaka ana ake atakula ndipo amatha kuyendetsa chuma paokha ndiyeno akufuna kusamuka. Mwachionekere, iye watsekeredwa m’banja lopanda chimwemwe.

Choncho, munthu ayenera kuchoka ngati ndi chibwenzi chosayenera . Ngati wina sakusangalala, fufuzani zomwe angachite kuti athetse chibwenzicho. Koma, ngati nthawi zonse simukusangalala, mumakhala ndi chisoni muukwati ndipo mulibe mgwirizano ndi banja lanu ndipo ngati muli ndi ndalama zokwanira, mutha kuyesetsa kuchoka.

Kodi Anthu Amayesetsa Kwambiri Asanayambe Kusiya Ukwati Wawo?

Inde ali nazo. Ndinali ndi kasitomala amene mkazi wake anali ndi vuto lalikulu la mkwiyo . Ndipo iye sanasangalale kwambiri moti anati, “Sindingathe kupirira izi moyo wanga wonse. ”

Iwo analibe ana kapena chirichonse, kotero icho chinali chosankha chimene iye anapanga ndipo iye analibe chidwi. Iye anali atayesera. Anamutengera mkazi wake ku ma couples therapy, amafuna kuti abwere naye kwa ine koma zoona mkazi anakana kubwera.

Kotero chinali chisankho chomwe adatenga chifukwa anali muukwati wosasangalatsa ndipo adati sangathenso kuchipirira ndipo adapita patsogolo . Koma asanapange chisankho chomaliza adayesetsa kwambiri.

Kenako ndili ndi kasitomala wina, amene wakhala m'banja kwa zaka zoposa 30 ndipo ali ndi ana akuluakulu, koma sanathe kumusiya, nati, "Kodi iye adzachita bwanji? Ndili mu ukwati wosasangalatsa koma sindingathe kuchoka chifukwa cha ana.. "

Iye anakhalabe muukwati wosasangalala, akulekerera chilichonse. Izi ndi zinthu ziwiri zosiyana zomwe ndakupatsani m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Ndiye ngati mundifunsa kuti “kodi kukhala limodzi kwa ana kumagwira ntchito?”, nthawi zina, inde kumagwira ntchito. Komabe, pali kusowa kwa chisangalalo m'banjamo.

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Kodi Mukuwona Kuti Ndi Chosankha Chovuta Kwambiri?

Inde, ndi chisankho chovuta kupanga. Munthu amene akukhudzidwayo ayenera kusankha yekha, osati wina aliyense. Ngati munthu ali wamng'ono ndipo sakusangalala kwenikweni, ngati akumva kuti walakwitsa kwambiri, akhoza kutuluka m'banja.

Ngati alibe ana ndipo atsekeredwa muukwati wopanda chisangalalo limodzi ndipo zinthu sizikuwoneka ngati zikuyenda bwino m'mabanja, chinthu chabwino kuchita ndikuphwanya.

Koma kodi munthu ayenera kuchita chiyani ngati akuzunzidwa?

Ngati ndi ukwati wozunzidwa mwakuthupi ndipo mkaziyo anganene kuti ali mu ukwati wosasangalatsa koma sangathe kuchoka, makamaka ndi ana chifukwa "amafunikira abambo awo " ngakhale kuti akumenyedwa ndi abambo awo pamaso pawo, ndiye kuti ndi nkhani yovuta kwambiri.

Ndi nthawi yoti abambo ayambe kumenya ana. Choncho ndimauza mkaziyo zikatere, pamene moyo wake uli pachiswe, pamene chitetezo chake chili pachiwopsezo ndipo ngakhale chitetezo cha ana ake chili pachiwopsezo, sayenera kukhalabe paubwenzi woterowo.

Azimayi omwe amachitiridwa nkhanza zapakhomo nthawi zambiri satuluka m'banja mpaka ana awo nawonso atakhala ochitiridwa nkhanzazo.

Nthawi zambiri, timatha kuona ngati munthu wakhala m’banja zaka 10 kapena 15 ndipo pamapeto pake amachoka pokhapokha ataona kuti anawo akuvulazidwa.

Kukhala Muukwati Wosasangalatsa Ndi Ana, Kodi Zimagwira Ntchito?

Anthu ambiri amachita zimenezo m'dziko lathu. Amaganiza kuti, “Chifukwa cha mwana, tiyenera kukhala. ” Ndinali ndi vuto pamene mnyamatayo anali ndi zaka 16 ndipo makolo ake anabwera kwa ine omwe sanali osangalala kapena omwe ankamva kuti ali muukwati wosasangalatsa.

Mwana wawo ankapita kunja ali ndi zaka 18 kukaphunzira ku yunivesite kotero awiriwa anakambirana okha. Anakhala limodzi kwa zaka zina ziwiri kenako anasudzulana mwa mgwirizano.

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Ndasamaliranso nkhani ina ya banja lomwe mwana wamkazi anali kunja. Mayiyo ankafuna kuti mwanayo abwerenso kudzakambirana naye za kusiya ukwatiwo.

Banjali linapatukana pambuyo pake. Nthawi zambiri, zitha kuchitika kuti muyenera kusankha mosamala nthawi yomwe mukulekanitsa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati ndi nthawi ya mayeso a bolodi chaka chomwecho, zidzakhudza mwanayo , ndithudi.

Kotero, ndimauza makasitomala kuti ayesere uphungu wa maanja akamakumana ndi mavuto m'banja. Ngakhale mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo akakana kutsagana nawo, akhoza kupita okha kukapezeka pamisonkhano ya chithandizo ndikukonza zonse.

Kenako amatha kusankha zochita. Ngati ngakhale zonsezi, zinthu sizikuyenda bwino, ayenera kuganiza mozama.

M’dziko lathu, amayi ambiri amakhala m’mabanja opanda chimwemwe chifukwa alibe ufulu wopeza ndalama ndipo izi zimachitika kwa zaka zambiri.

Ndinali ndi kasitomala yemwe nthawi ina anandiyitana, anali kulira. Mwamuna wake anamusiya yekha m’nyumbamo ndi ana aang’ono aŵiri ndipo iye anachita kumuimbira foni n’kumuchonderera kuti abwere kunyumba chifukwa ankadalira kwambiri iye pazachuma.

Chomwe chinamuwonjezera chisoni chinali chakuti mwana wake ankamuchitira zinthu mopanda ulemu monga momwe mwamuna wake ankachitira atakula. Zimenezi zinamukhudza kwambiri ndipo anati, “Munthu yemweyo amene ndamulera akuchita zinthu mofanana ndi bambo ake. ”

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Momvekera bwino, m’maukwati opanda chimwemwe, munthu ayenera kukhala wamutu ndi kuyimba foni. Lamulo la chala chachikulu ndilakuti chitetezo chanu chikayikiridwa, muyenera kuchoka m'banjamo, palibe chifukwa chokhalira m'banja losasangalala.

Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.

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