Zinthu 11 Zimene Mungachite Ngati Simuli Osangalala M’banja

Kufalitsa chikondi

Kukhala m'banja losasangalala kumamva ngati kutsekeka. Mumamva kutopa m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo. Mumtima mwanu muli malo opanda kanthu komwe kumawoneka ngati kukudzaza. Ndiye, mungatani ngati simukusangalala m’banja mwanu koma simukufuna kupita m’njira ya chisudzulo?

Zingawoneke ngati palibe mayankho osavuta ku funsoli. Makamaka, mukaganizira momwe zinthu zilili pamoyo wanu pomwe kusasangalala komanso kusungulumwa kumakhala mabwenzi anu nthawi zonse ngakhale kuti mwakwatirana ndi bwenzi.

Zimakhala ngati mukukakamira ndipo mulibe njira yotulukira. Mabanja osasangalala amabweretsa nkhawa, kukhumudwa, kudzikayikira komanso kudzikayikira. Tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni kuphunzira momwe mungapulumukire banja loipa popanda kusudzulana.

Zizindikiro 3 Zapamwamba Zaukwati Osasangalala

M'ndandanda wazopezekamo

Pambuyo pa nthawi yaukwati wanu, mumayamba kuona zizindikiro zofiira zomwe zimakokera mnzanu kutali ndi inu ndikukupangitsani kukhala osasangalala. Mukuyesera kudzitsimikizira nokha kuti zonse zili bwino ndipo ubale wanu ndi wofunika kupulumutsa koma zizindikiro zovuta izi zimangokulirakulira.

Phungu wa Zamaganizo Sabatina Sangma Iye anati: “Zifukwa zimene zimachititsa kuti munthu asasangalale m’banja zimakhala zosiyanasiyana kuthetsa kusamvana njira yolondola yolakwika kapena yosowa zolinga, kusachitapo kanthu kuti zinthu zikhale bwino, zoyembekeza zosayembekezereka ndi kunyenga kapena kusakhulupirika, kungotchulapo zochepa chabe.

“Anthu akamafunsa kuti ngati banja liyenera kukhala lovuta kapena kuganiza kuti ali pachibwenzi, nthawi zambiri zimangochitika mwangozi.

“Mwachitsanzo, onse aŵiri angakhale akudikirira kuti mnzakeyo achitepo kanthu.” Kapena pangakhale zinthu zambiri zoyembekeza m’banja, pamene mwamuna kapena mkazi mmodzi amayembekezera kuti mnzawoyo akwaniritse ziyembekezo zimene makolo awo sanakwaniritse.”

Zimenezi zikusonyeza kuti simuli osangalala m'banja mwanu. Umakhala wokwiya komanso wokhumudwa nthawi zonse ndipo umakhala wokwiya komanso wokhumudwa nthawi zonse. Nazi zizindikiro 3 zapamwamba zaukwati zomwe sizikuyenda bwino:

1. Nonse muli otanganidwa ndi inu nokha

Ngakhale ndinu banja, nonse mumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi moyo wanu. Muli ndi zomwe mukufuna kuchita ndipo zikuwoneka kuti palibe mphambano. N’zoona kuti ndinu wokwatiwa, koma m’chenicheni mukukhala moyo wanu womwe mukufuna.

Mulibe nthawi kapena kufuna kudziwa zomwe mnzanu akuchita chifukwa ndinu otanganidwa kwambiri. Kiera ndi mwamuna wake Karl anali chitsanzo chamoyo cha izi. Onse awiri adakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi moyo wovuta wamakampani omwe amawapangitsa kuti asiyane.

Ngakhale kuti Kiera sakanatha kuthetsa malingaliro akuti 'mwamuna wanga ndi womvetsa chisoni muukwati wathu', Karl nayenso ankamva chimodzimodzi za mkazi wake. Mtunda wapakati pawo unakula kwambiri moti ngakhale atakhala limodzi sankadziwa momwe angachitire.

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2. Simukuyankhulanso

Nonse mukakhala pamodzi, zimakhala zovuta kuyamba kukambirana ndi kupitiriza. Nthawi zina mukamalankhula, nthawi zambiri zimakhala ngati ana, achibale, ndalama, ntchito yomwe ikubwera ndi zina zotero. Palibe aliyense wa inu amene amauza mnzake zakukhosi kwanu ndipo mumapitiliza kukwaniritsa maudindo ndi udindo wa banja ngati loboti.

Pamene muli m’banja losasangalala koma simungachoke, m’kupita kwa nthaŵi inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu mungasiye kukhala okwatirana mpaka kukhala anthu aŵiri osawadziŵa okhala pansi pa denga limodzi. Simumalumikizana pamlingo wamunthu, kuyanjana kwanu kumakhala kochepa, ndipo mukamachita zinthu wina ndi mnzake zimadzetsa mikangano.

Mwina inuyo ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu munatero kale anatuluka muukwati motengeka mtima ndipo amamangidwa palimodzi pazifukwa zina osati chikondi.

3. Osagonana ndi cholinga

Mwakhala mukukumana ndi zowuma kutsogolo kwaubwenzi kwanthawi yayitali kwambiri mpaka mumamva ngati mukukakamira. ukwati wopanda kugonana. Ngakhale kugonana komwe mumachita nthawi zina sikukhala kwatanthauzo kapena kukhutiritsa. Izi zili choncho chifukwa, malinga ndi ziwerengero, mu kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi Readers Digest¹, 57 peresenti ya anthu amene ali paubwenzi wosasangalala amapezabe mnzawo wokongola kwambiri.

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Zinthu 11 Zimene Mungachite Ngati Simuli Osangalala M’banja

Ngati mukukumana ndi zizindikiro zimenezi, ndi bwino kunena kuti simuli osangalala m’banja. Tsopano funso nlakuti: Kodi mungatani ngati simukusangalala m’banja mwanu? Cholinga chanu choyamba chingakhale kuthawa izi banja lopanda chikondi ndi lopanda chimwemwe. Komabe, kusiya ukwati woipa sikophweka ndipo chisudzulo chiyenera kuonedwa ngati njira yomalizira.

Choncho, ngati muli m’banja losasangalala koma simungachoke kapena simukufuna kuchoka mpaka mutatopa zimene mungachite, mungayesetse kupulumutsa banja lanu. Nazi zinthu 11 zomwe mungayesere:

1. Yesetsani kukhululuka

Sabatina akuti, "Kukhululuka muubwenzi akhoza kuchita zodabwitsa pothandiza okondedwa awo kuchiritsa ubale wawo. Kukhululuka kuli kofanana ndi kudzimasula tokha ku lingaliro lakuti munthu wina ali ndi ngongole kwa ife. Tikakhululuka munthu timadzimasula tokha ku zowawa zomwe tanyamula.

"Nthawi zambiri m'moyo wathu timalakwitsa ndipo timayenera kudzikhululukira tokha chifukwa cha zolakwazo. Ndipo ambiri aife timadzikwiyira tokha kuposa wina aliyense. Nthawi zambiri kusonyeza kupepesa mwanjira iliyonse kumatithandiza kuti tituluke ku zowawazo. Chitani zonse zomwe mungathe kuti zinthu zikhale bwino ndikuzisiya. Chikhululukiro chilichonse chiyenera kuyamba ndi inu.

“Ndi chifukwa chakuti timalanga tokha tikalakwa ndipo mosadziwanso timalanganso mnzathu mosadziwa, nthawi yomweyo kukhululukira mnzanu n’kofunikanso ngati simuli osangalala m’banja mwanu chifukwa kusunga maganizo olakwika kwa wokondedwa wanu kumangopanga mpanda pakati panu.

2. Thandizani okondedwa anu

Maukwati ndi anthu awiri omwe amagawana zolinga zawo, zomwe amakonda ndikuziphatikiza kukhala zolinga zomwe amagawana. Njira za zolinga za munthu aliyense zimasintha kukhala zolinga zogawana pamene onse awiri agwirizana zolinga ndi maloto a wina ndi mzake. Onetsani chithandizo chanu kwa wokondedwa wanu pa chilichonse chimene achita.

Khalani ndi chidwi kwambiri ndi ntchito yawo kapena mapulojekiti omwe akugwira nawo ntchito ngakhale zili zina zakunja kwanu. Zinthu ngati zimenezi zingakhale zabwino kuyambitsa makambirano ndipo mnzanuyo angasangalale kuti mukuchita chidwi ndi zimene akuchita. Zidzakuthandizaninso kumudziwa bwino wokondedwa wanu.

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3. Ayamikireni

Chimwemwe chenicheni chimabwera mukamayamikira zinthu zimene muli nazo. Musayerekeze ukwati wanu ndi wa anzanu kapena anzanu. Nthawi zonse udzu umawoneka wobiriwira mbali inayo. Yamikirani wokondedwa wanu momwe alili. Osafuna kukhala ndi moyo wapamwamba kapena kukwezedwa ndi anzanu.

Kuyamikira zomwe wokondedwa wanu ali nazo ndikuyamikira zomwe muli nazo. Bwanji ngati simuli osangalala m’banja mwanu? Chabwino, zimakhala zofunikira kwambiri muzochitika zimenezo. Kuyamikira kungakhale njira yabwino yothetsera mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo zomwe zingapangitse ukwati wanu kukhala mgwirizano wosasangalatsa.

Joshua ndi Rose adalowa m'mabanja kuti apeze yankho la zomwe mungachite ngati simukusangalala m'banja mwanu. Mlangiziyo adawafunsa kuti ayambe kupanga kusintha pang'ono pamachitidwe awo ndi wina ndi mzake - kuyang'ana zinthu zomwe mumayamikira wina ndi mzake ndi kufotokoza maganizo awo.

Zochita zowoneka ngati zosavuta zinali zovuta kuziphatikiza m'moyo wawo kwa onse awiri. Koma atatero, ukwati wawo unayamba kuyenda bwino, pang’onopang’ono koma mosakayika.

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4. Pangani zokonda zogawana

Monga tanenera poyamba paja, maukwati ndi okhudza kugawana zolinga ndi zokonda zofanana paulendo wawo wapamodzi. N’kwachibadwa kuti anthu awiri asamagwirizane. Kuti banja liziyenda bwino, nonse mufunika kuthera nthawi yochitira zinthu pamodzi.

Ngati simuli okondwa m'banja, muyenera kupanga njira yogwirizana, yogwirizana kuti muwonetsetse kuti ndi zomwe mukufuna. Mupangitseni mnzanuyo kuchita zomwe mumakonda ndikuzichita ndipo inunso muzichita zomwezo kwa iye. Izi zikuthandizani nonse kukulitsa zokonda zogawana komanso mupezanso zochitika zomwe zizikhala chizolowezi kwa nonse.

Pamene simukukondwera ndi moyo wanu wabanja, udindo wosintha umene uli ndi inu ndi mnzanuyo. Chinachake chophweka monga kudya chakudya chamadzulo pamodzi kapena kupita kokayenda pambuyo pa chakudya chamadzulo kungapangitse mwayi wogwirizana.

Mutha kumangirirapo ndikuyamba kuchita zinthu zambiri limodzi. Izi zimapanga mwayi wabwino wogwiritsa ntchito nthawi yabwino ndikuphunziranso kusangalala ndi kukhala ndi anzanu.

5. Samalirani maonekedwe anu

Pamene banja likukulirakulira, ndi ana ndi maudindo apakhomo kapena okhudzana ndi ntchito, anthu amakonda kuyang'ana kwambiri maonekedwe awo. Simumavalanso monga munkachitira kale ndipo nthawi zambiri mumangoyendayenda ndi mathalauza anu komanso tsitsi losokonezeka.

Kodi ndi liti pamene munatembenuza mutu wa mnzanuyo kuti, “Lero ukuoneka wokongola”. Ngati pakhala nthawi yayitali ndiye kuti pali kuganiza kochita. Kumbukirani momwe mungavalire usiku wa mtsikana ndikuchita zomwezo tsopano. Dzisamalireni nokha nthawi zina.

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6. Yamikani mnzanu

Mukakhala kuti mulibe osangalala m’banja, mumakonda kunyalanyaza chilichonse ndipo mumakana kuvomereza zabwino za m’banjamo komanso za mnzanuyo. Mukuiwala kuyamika mnzanu. Tsopano, kuyamikira sikuyenera kukhala kokhudza maonekedwe awo kapena maonekedwe awo.

Yamikiraninso mnzanuyo kamodzi pakanthawi pazinthu zazing'ono. Nenani zikomo kwa okondedwa anu ngakhale pazoyesayesa zazing'ono. Kuyesetsa koteroko, ngakhale kumawoneka kopanda pake koma kumapangitsa mnzanuyo kumva kuyamikiridwa ndipo amawona kuti zochita zawo ndizofunikira ndipo mumaziwona.

Katswiri wa zamaganizo Kavita Panyam anati: “Chinthu chachizoloŵezi monga kuthokoza mnzako kaamba ka kukubweretserani kapu yamadzi mukafika kunyumba pambuyo pa tsiku lalitali chingathandize kwambiri kuti adzimve kukhala wofunika ndi wokondedwa.”

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7. Yesetsani kumvetsera mwachidwi

Sabatina anati: “Zindikirani kufunika komvetsera mwatcheru ndiponso yesetsani kumvetserana wina ndi mnzake.” Kumvetsera mwatcheru kumatithandiza kusankha zinthu moyenerera komanso kumasonyeza kuti timaganizira zimene mnzathuyo akunena komanso kuti timalemekeza maganizo ake.

Izi zimakhala zofunikira kwambiri pakasemphana maganizo, ndewu ndi mikangano. Ngati simuli osangalala m’banja mwanu, ganizirani kaye ngati inuyo ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu mumamvadi zimene mukukambirana. Kapena kodi cholinga chanu pakupanga mfundo yanu, kutsimikiziridwa kuti ndi yolondola ndikupambana?

Zimenezi zimachititsa kuti anthu azikondana komanso asakhale osangalala m'banja, zomwe zimachititsa kuti anthu azikwatirana. Ziribe kanthu kuti kukangana koopsa bwanji, nthawi zonse perekani mwayi wina ndi mzake kuti afotokoze maganizo awo. Ngakhale simukugwirizana nazo, dikirani kuti amalize kenako ndikutsutsa kapena kutsutsa zomwe akunena.

8. Khalani oona mtima m’banja lanu

Nthawi zina kubisira mnzanu zinthu kumabweretsa kusamvana. Wokondedwa wanu akuwona kuti sakuwerengedwa kuti ndi wofunikira kuti inu mugawane nawo zinthuzo. M’pofunika kukhala woona mtima m’banja mosasamala kanthu za kuipa kapena kucititsa manyazi. Izi zidzathandiza pangani chidaliro ndi maziko olimba amene adzatsogolera ku ukwati wabwino.

Pofuna kuti apulumuke m’banja loipa popanda kusudzulana, Tracey anayamba kubisira mwamuna wake zinthu zimene ankadziwa kuti zingayambitse mikangano kapena ndewu. M'kupita kwa nthawi, njerwa zabodza ndi zosiyidwazi zinapanga khoma kuti likhale lochindikala kuti palibe amene sakanaligwetsa ndi kufikira linzake.

Kwa Tracey, malangizo a bwenzi lake Mia adabwera ngati mpulumutsi waukwati wake. “Anangondiuza kuti ngati simunganene zoona kwa wina ndi mnzake, kodi kukhalabe m’banja kuli ndi phindu lanji?

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9. Perekani zodabwitsa

Ndikofunikira kusunga chinthu chodabwitsa chikuyenda ngakhale m'mabanja. Maukwati ambiri sayenda bwino chifukwa cha zinthu zachilendo. Pitirizani kupatsa okondedwa anu zodabwitsa ndikuchita zinthu kuti asangalale.

Mwayi ndi wakuti adzachitanso chimodzimodzi. Maukwati sakhala osangalala chifukwa chosowa chisangalalo kapena chikondi. Ndikofunika kusunga chisangalalo chimenecho kuti nonse mukhalebe m'chikondi.

Kuthawa kumapeto kwa sabata pa tsiku lobadwa la mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu, chakudya chamadzulo chapamwamba pa tsiku lanu lokumbukira tsiku lanu, kuwapezera tikiti yopita ku konsati ya gulu lomwe amakonda kapena masewera omwe amakonda - manja ngati awa ndi okwanira kukupatsani mphamvu zatsopano muubwenzi wanu.

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10. Khalani okondwa kuchokera mkati

Kuti mukhale osangalala ndi chilichonse chozungulira inu, muyenera kukhala osangalala nokha poyamba. Pokhapokha ngati muli okondwa kuchokera mkatimo mudzakhala otsimikiza kulimbana ndi mavuto a banja losasangalala. Mukakhala okhutira ndi osangalala kuchokera mkati, mudzakhala ndi chidaliro chothandizira kuthetsa banja lanu losasangalala.

Musayike udindo wosangalala kwa wokondedwa wanu. Palibe amene angathe ndipo ayenera kukhala ndi mphamvu zosokoneza malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu. Khalani olamulira malingaliro anu, chitani zinthu ndikuchita ndi anthu omwe amabweretsa chisangalalo chenicheni.

M’malo modziimba mlandu kapena kudziimba mlandu mnzanuyo, mudzapeza njira zothetsera ukwati wosasangalalawo m’malo mochoka m’banja lopanda chimwemwe. Mukakhala osangalala, inu ntchito kuti mphamvu pa ubwenzi wanu komanso.

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11. Chitanipo kanthu podzisinkhasinkha

"Kudziganizira tokha ndikofunikira kwambiri paulendo uliwonse wa moyo wathu, kumatipangitsa kuti tizidzimva tokha, zochita zathu, malingaliro athu ndi malingaliro athu. Nthawi zonse timakonda kuimba mlandu anzathu chifukwa cha momwe anatichitira koma timayesa kudzifunsa tokha zochita zathu, malingaliro athu.

Sabatina anati: “Tikangoyamba kudziganizira tokha, timadziwa kuti ndi mbali iti imene tikufunika kuwongolera komanso kusintha kumene tikufunika kusintha kuti tiyambirenso moyo wa m’banja, zimatithandiza kumvetsa vutolo komanso ubwenzi wathu ndi iyeyo.

Pambuyo pa zaka zoŵerengeka za m’banja, kaŵirikaŵiri okwatirana amayamba kutaya chidwi mwa wina ndi mnzake zimene ziri zizindikiro zoyambirira za ukwati wopanda chimwemwe. Komabe, pa masitepe oyambirira, chikondi chotayika chingayambitsidwenso ngati masitepe oyenera atengedwa kuti apezenso chimwemwe m’banja.

Nthawi zonse n’kosavuta kuchoka m’banja lopanda chimwemwe, koma ukwati ndi kudzipereka kwanu kwa mnzanu ‘mpaka imfa idzatilekanitse’, motero sikophweka kusiya. Kumbukirani zomwe zinakupangitsani kuti muyankhe kwa wokondedwa wanu poyamba ndikukupangitsani kuganiza kuti ndi iyeyo.

Kodi okwatirana osasangalala ayenera kupitirizabe kukhalabe m’banja popanda ngakhale kulipatsa mpata? Limbikitsani ukwati wanu, mukhoza kupeza njira yopezeranso chimwemwe m’banja lanu.

Ibibazo

1. Kodi n’kwachibadwa kukhala osasangalala m’banja?

Ngakhale kuti m’banja lililonse muli mikhalidwe imene okwatirana angakhale osakondwa kapena osakhutira, kusakondwa kofala sikuli kwachibadwa kapena kwathanzi. Ngati ndi mmene mumamvera m’banja mwanu, ndi nthawi yoti muzidzifufuza bwinobwino n’kutengapo mbali kuti muteteze ubwenzi wanu.

2. Kodi mabanja osasangalala angakhalenso osangalala?

Inde, ndi chichirikizo choyenera ndi njira yolondola, nkotheka kuchirikiza unansi wanu ndi kusandutsa ukwati wanu wopanda chimwemwe kukhala wachimwemwe. Komabe, kumbukirani kuti pamafunika awiri kuti tango. Nonse inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu muyenera kudzipereka kupanga masinthidwe kuti muthe kuwona kusintha kwenikweni kulikonse.

3. N’chifukwa chiyani sindingathe kusiya banja langa losasangalala?

Ukwati ndi ubale wapamtima womwe umagawana ndi munthu wina. Momwe moyo wanu umakhala wolumikizana kwathunthu. Chifukwa chake, kusokoneza moyo wanu ndikuyambanso kutha kukhala lingaliro losadetsa nkhawa.

4. Kodi ndi liti pamene muyenera kuchoka m’banja?

Ngati banja lanu likuchita nkhanza, simuyenera kukhala ndi maganizo olakwika ponena za kuchokapo. Nkhanza m’banja zingakhale zamaganizo, zakuthupi kapena zakugonana. Kupatula apo, kumwerekera ndi kusakhulupirika ndi zina mwa zinthu zomwe zimachititsa kuti maukwati asokonezeke.

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