Zinthu 8 Zomwe Zingagwiritsidwe Ntchito Polimbana Nanu Chisudzulo Ndi Momwe Mungapewere

Chisudzulo chingakhale chimodzi mwa zinthu zodetsa nkhawa ndi zokhumudwitsa kwambiri pamoyo wa munthu. Moyo wanu wonse umasokonekera - kukwiya kwamalingaliro, kusokonekera kwachuma, kusintha kwa moyo ndi mikhalidwe, mikangano, ndi sewero zambiri zosafunikira komanso zosafunikira. Milandu imatha kukhala yovuta, chifukwa chake muyenera kudziwa zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito posudzulana.

Kaya ndikugawanikana kapena kusudzulana komwe kuli kotsutsidwa, zochita zazing'ono kwambiri zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati umboni wotsutsa inu ndikuwononganso mlandu wanu. Tinayankhula ndi advocate Siddhartha Mishra (BA, LLB), loya yemwe amagwira ntchito ku Khoti Lalikulu Kwambiri ku India, ponena za zimene zingagwiritsidwe ntchito posudzulana ndi mmene mungadzitetezere. Anaperekanso malangizo a chisudzulo kwa amuna ndi akazi ndipo anawunikira zomwe sayenera kuchita panthawi yachisudzulo.

Zinthu 8 Zomwe Zingagwiritsidwe Ntchito Polimbana Nanu Chisudzulo Ndi Momwe Mungapewere

Chisudzulo ndi chochitika chovutitsa kwambiri kwa okwatirana amene aganiza zothetsa ukwati wawo. “Chisudzulo n’chovuta kwambiri.” Chisudzulo n’chovuta kwambiri. Siddhartha. Simungofunika kupanga chisankho chovuta kwambiri chosiyana ndi mnzanuyo komanso kudziwa zinthu zina - kupeza loya, kuyang'ana ndalama zanu, kupeza nyumba, kusunga ana, gwero la ndalama, ndi zina zotero.

Ndi zambiri zomwe zikuchitika, malingaliro anu amatha kukulirakulira ndikukukakamizani kuchita zinthu zomwe zingawononge vuto lanu. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuwongolera zochita zanu musanayambe ndi nthawi yachisudzulo chifukwa khalidwe lililonse likhoza kuonedwa ngati losayenera kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndipo lingagwiritsidwe ntchito ngati umboni wotsutsa inu kukhoti. Kuzindikira khalidwe lanu kumakhala kofunika kwambiri ngati pali ana omwe akukhudzidwa ndi mlanduwo.

Ndiye, ndendende zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito motsutsana nanu pakusudzulana? Nkhani zokwiya, ngongole, mameseji, maimelo, zolemba zapa social media, katundu wobisika, mawu ochitira umboni, ndalama zochulukirachulukira, zibwenzi zachikondi - mndandandawu ndi wopanda malire. Pali zambiri zomwe muyenera kuzikumbukira ngati mukukonzekera kusudzulana kapena kudutsamo. Kuti tikuthandizeni kuthana ndi vutoli, takupangirani mndandanda wa zinthu 8 zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito ngati umboni wotsutsa chisudzulo ndi momwe mungapewere.

1. Osagwiritsa ntchito chuma cham'banja mopambanitsa

Zomwe simuyenera kuchita panthawi yachisudzulo? Limodzi mwa maupangiri ofunikira pakusudzulana kwa abambo ndi amai ndikupewa kuwononga ndalama zosafunikira kapena zokayikitsa chifukwa chilichonse ndi cholondola. Siddhartha akufotokoza momveka bwino kuti, “Pali china chake chomwe chimatchedwa kutaya katundu kapena zinyalala za m’banja zomwe zimaganiziridwa pamene file lachisudzulo. Kumatanthauza kuwononga mwadala ndi modzidzimutsa chuma cha m’banja ndi m’modzi. Katunduwa akadagawidwa mofanana pakati pa awiriwa panthawi ya mlanduwu. Koma ngati wathedwa nzeru ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi mmodzi yekha, zingabweretse vuto lalikulu.”

Muyenera kusamala ndi zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito motsutsana nanu pachisudzulo ndikupewa misampha yoteroyo. Pali njira zosiyanasiyana zomwe zinyalala za m'banja zingatsimikiziridwe - kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama zaukwati pa zibwenzi kapena mabizinesi, kusamutsa ndalama kwa munthu wina chisudzulo chisanathe, kuchita zinthu zosemphana ndi malamulo kapena kugulitsa katunduyo pamtengo wotsika.

Momwe mungapewere: Ndi bwino kuti musamachite zinthu ngati zimenezi, koma ngati muli nazo, onetsetsani kuti loya wanu akudziwa za nkhaniyi kuti adziwe ngati zimene akunenazo n’zambiri ndikupeza njira yoti akutetezereni ku chisokonezochi. Sichinthu chomwe mumabisa kapena osanena kwa loya wachisudzulo. Komanso, sungani ndalama zanu ndikuzisunga zochepera mpaka chisudzulo chitatha. Muli ndi ngongole zalamulo zomwe muyenera kulipira. Ndalama zotsika mtengo zimatha kudikirira.

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2. Osabisa kapena kusuntha katundu, ndalama kapena ndalama zina

Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe muyenera kuziwonjezera pamndandanda wanu wa 'zomwe simuyenera kuchita mukamasudzulana'. Kubisa katundu kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kapena kusamutsa ndalama kumaakaunti akubanki ogwirizana chisudzulo chisanathe ndi lingaliro loipa ndipo zingangowononga mlandu wanu. Idzakweza mbendera zofiira zomwezo monga mopambanitsa kuwononga ndalama zaukwati kapena katundu.

Pali zolemba zambiri zomwe zimaphatikizidwa muukwati - ngongole zanyumba, misonkho, maakaunti akubanki ophatikizana, makhadi a ngongole, mapepala a katundu, ndi zina zambiri - zonsezi zingagwiritsidwe ntchito monga umboni wotsutsa inu kukhoti, ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akuganiza kuti mukubisa kapena kusunga katundu, ndalama kapena ndalama zina. Ngati mutapezeka kuti ndinu wolakwa, zingawononge kudalirika kwanu komanso mlandu wanu.

Momwe mungapewere: Musati muchite izo. Zosavuta. Palibe chifukwa choyesera kuchita mwanzeru chifukwa mudzagwidwa pamapeto pake. Pali zolemba zonse. “Chilichonse, kuphatikiza ma kirediti kadi ndi zidziwitso zina zandalama, ndizotheka kuzipeza,” akutero Siddhartha. Kusuntha kapena kubisa ndalama ndi katundu kumangowonjezera mkhalidwewo kwa inu.

3. Pewani chibwenzi mpaka mutasudzulana mwalamulo

Ngati mukuganiza zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito motsutsana nanu pachisudzulo, ichi ndi chimodzi. Maubwenzi okondana ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zodziwika bwino zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito ngati umboni wotsutsa inu panthawi yachisudzulo. N’kwachibadwa kupitiriza ndi munthu wina mutapatukana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu koma kuchita chimodzimodzi chisudzulo chisanathe kungakubweretsereni vuto.

Kukhala paubwenzi ndi munthu wina kungawononge mwayi wanu wosudzulana mwamsanga ndipo kungakulepheretseni kupeza zotsatira zabwino, makamaka ngati muli ndi ana. Ngakhale mnzanu watsopanoyo atakhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi ana anu, mbiri yawo idzawunikiridwa kwambiri ndikufunsidwa. Zingangokhudza mwayi wanu wopeza ufulu wosamalira mwana wanu kapena ufulu womuyendera.

Zitha kungowonjezera mavuto ndi mnzanuyo ndikupangitsa kuti azitha kuganiza kuti mukufuna chisudzulo chifukwa cha chibwenzi chakunja. Izi zipangitsa kukhala kovuta kufikira chisudzulo, kupeza mwana, kusokoneza ubale wanu ndi kholo limodzi (ngati muli ndi ana), ndikusokoneza chisankho cha woweruza.

Momwe mungapewere: Ndikoyenera kuyembekezera mpaka chisudzulo chitatha. Adziwitseni ana anu kwa bwenzi lanu latsopanolo pambuyo pa chisudzulo. Lingalirani kukhala ndi nthawi yocheza ndi achibale, abwenzi ndi okondedwa m'malo mwake. Komabe, ngati muli paubwenzi, lankhulani ndi loya wanu za njira zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungapezere komanso momwe mungadzitetezere pachisudzulo.

4. Pezani malamulo oletsa kuchita zachiwawa

Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazofunikira kwambiri pakusudzulana kwa amayi ndi abambo. Malingana ndi Siddhartha, "Kukhala m'nyumba yosweka kungayambitse mikangano yowonjezera, makamaka ngati mnzanuyo akukuchitirani nkhanza kapena ngati mukumenyana nthawi zonse pamaso pa ana anu." Ngati mukusudzulana chifukwa cha nkhanza zapakhomo kapena mtundu wina uliwonse kuzunza, mulinso ndi ufulu wopereka chiletso kapena chitetezo. N’kuthekanso kuti mnzanuyo amachitira nkhanza kapena kukuchitirani nkhanza panthawi imene mukukambirana. Zikatero, ndikofunikira kuti mudziwe momwe mungadzitetezere pachisudzulo ndikulemba chiletso ndi njira imodzi.

Limadziwikanso kuti lamulo loteteza, lamulo loletsa lidzakutetezani inu ndi ana anu kapena wachibale wina aliyense kuti asagwiriridwe kapena kugwiriridwa, kuzunzidwa, kuzunzidwa kapena kuwopsezedwa. Othandizana nawo nthawi zambiri amawopa kuyika chiletso powopa zotsatira. Koma kuchita zimenezi kudzakhala umboni wa khalidwe la mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndipo kudzakuthandizani pa nthawi ya mlandu.

Momwe mungapewere: Musalole chiwawa kapena nkhanza zamtundu uliwonse. Siddhartha akufotokoza momveka bwino kuti: “Ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wakuchitirani nkhanza zapakhomo kapena kwa ana anu, itanani apolisi mwamsanga.

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5. Kutumiza pa TV

Pamene mukulemba mndandanda wa zomwe simuyenera kuchita panthawi yachisudzulo, ikani izi pamwamba. Ngati mukuganiza za zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito motsutsana nanu pachisudzulo, zolemba zapa TV zili pamwamba pamndandanda. Ngakhale mutayika china chake pamwambo m'mbuyomu ndikuchotsa zomwezo, zidzakhazikika mpaka kalekale. N'zotheka kuchitenga.

Ngati wokondedwa wanu adziwa za post zotere zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala opanda pake, loya wawo adzagwiritsa ntchito motsutsana nanu kukhoti. Mwina simunatanthauze vuto lililonse koma zolemba zapa social media zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati umboni wotsutsa inu pakusudzulana. Ndi imodzi mwa njira zophweka komanso zosavuta kuti abwenzi awondolere kapena kunenezana wina ndi mzake za khalidwe losayenera.

Momwe mungapewere: Pewani kutumizirana mameseji pawailesi yakanema musanasudzulane komanso mukatha. Ndi imodzi mwamaupangiri ofunikira pakusudzulana kwa amayi ndi abambo. Ndikwabwino kugawana nkhawa zanu ndi zovuta zanu ndi anzanu apamtima ochepa komanso abale anu koma kutumiza zomwezo pawailesi yakanema sikofunikira komanso sikoyenera.

6. Samalani mameseji ndi maimelo omwe mumatumiza

Iyi ndi mfundo ina yoti muonjezere pamndandanda wanu wa 'zomwe simuyenera kuchita panthawi ya chisudzulo' ndi 'zomwe zingakugwiritsireni ntchito pakusudzulana'. Samalani ndi kukumbukira mawu omwe mumasankha kulemba m'mameseji ndi maimelo omwe mumatumiza kwa mnzanu. Chilichonse chomwe mwalemba chikhoza kugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati umboni wotsutsa inu kukhoti.

Monga zolemba zapa TV, ma meseji ndi maimelo amathanso kutsatiridwa komanso osavuta kuwapeza ngakhale mutawachotsa. Palibe macheza kapena kulumikizana kwachinsinsi. Palibe chomwe chimatchedwa kucheza mobisa. Malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, maimelo, ndi mameseji akugwiritsiridwa ntchito mowonjezereka monga umboni osati kokha m’milandu yachisudzulo komanso mwanjira ina. Wokondedwa wanu kapena loya wawo athanso kutumiza subpoena kukufunsani zipika zanu, mauthenga, ndi maimelo.

Momwe mungapewere: Sankhani mawu anu mosamala potumiza maimelo ndi mauthenga. Ngati sikofunikira kapena mwachangu, pewani kuzichita zonse. Ngati mukupeza kuti muli mumkhalidwe wofananawo, dziwitsani loya wanu za izo. Sichimodzi mwazinthu zomwe mumabisa kapena osanena kwa loya wachisudzulo. Kulankhula momveka ndi loya wanu kungakuthandizeni kudziwa momwe mungadzitetezere pachisudzulo.

7. Osachita mwachipongwe kapena mwaukali

Ichi ndi, kachiwiri, imodzi mwa malangizo ofunika kwambiri achisudzulo kwa amayi ndi abambo. Ndi chiyani chomwe chingagwiritsidwe ntchito motsutsana nanu pakusudzulana, mukudabwa? Zinthu zonenedwa mwaukali kapena zochita mwano ndizoyeneradi. Munthawi zovuta zotere, malingaliro amakwera kwambiri ndipo mutha kukhala ndi chidwi chofuna kubwereranso kwa mnzanuyo. Koma, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti muchepetse nkhawa zanu ndikuwongolera lamulirani mkwiyo wanu pamene akudutsa mu chisudzulo.

Chilichonse chomwe munganene kapena kulemba mutakwiya chikhoza kugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati umboni wotsutsa inu. Kulola mkwiyo wanu kukukomerani kudzakuchitirani zoipa kuposa zabwino. Sizophweka koma ngati muchita mosaganizira, kusudzulana sikungabweretse zotsatira zomwe mukufuna. Khalani odekha ndikupewa kupanga zisankho mopupuluma kuti zinthu ziyende bwino.

Momwe mungapewere: Palibe njira ina koma kupeza njira yochepetsera mkwiyo wanu. Siddhartha akuti, "Pewani kunena mawu okwiya. Osatumiza maimelo mutakwiya kapena mutakhumudwa. Izi zidzabweranso kudzakuvutitsani mu chisudzulo. Kumbukirani kuti ichi chidzakhala chokumana nacho chovuta, koma mudzapambana ndipo mudzamva kuti muli ndi mphamvu mukuchita."

8. Osasayina kalikonse

Onetsetsani kuti mwawonjezera izi pamndandanda wanu wa 'zomwe simuyenera kuchita panthawi yachisudzulo'. Siddhartha akufotokoza kuti, “Nthawi zambiri anthu amalakwitsa kusaina zikalata kapena mapangano oyambilira, zomwe pamapeto pake zimachititsa kuti pakhale mikangano yolimbana ndi katundu ndi kusunga ana.” Ngati mukusudzulana, werengani chikalata chilichonse musanasaine. Yendetsani ndi loya wanu kuti avomereze.

Momwe mungapewere: Ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akufuna kuti musayine zikalata, ikani kapena mukane, ponena kuti loya wanu wakufunsani kuti musasainire kalikonse popanda kuwatsogolera," akutero Siddhartha. Ngati mwasaina chikalata chilichonse popanda loya wanu kudziwa, adziwitseni. Izi sizinthu zomwe simunena kwa loya wachisudzulo.

Awa ndi maupangiri ochepa osudzulana kwa abambo ndi amai omwe angakhale othandiza ngati muli mumkhalidwe wofananawo. Kusudzulana sikophweka. Pali zambiri zomwe mungachite ndi zosafunikira pakusudzulana kwa onse awiri. Maloya eni ake adzakupatsirani mndandanda wazomwe muyenera kuchita komanso zomwe simuyenera kuchita mukasudzulana. Adzakuuzani zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito motsutsana nanu pakusudzulana. Zitha kukhala zotopetsa m'maganizo koma yesani kuyang'ana pa kusuntha ndikupanga moyo wabwinoko nokha.

Siddhartha anati: “Chisudzulo pachokha chimakhala chowawa kwambiri kwa anthu ambiri. Ganizirani izi musanasankhe zochita. Onetsetsani kuti mukuyandikira chisudzulo modekha ndi mwabata komanso ndi malingaliro omveka. Ndizosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita koma ndi njira yokhayo yoti musapangitse kuti zikhale zovuta kuposa momwe zilili kale. Ngati muli mumkhalidwe womwewo ndikuyang'ana thandizo, gulu la Bonobology la akatswiri odziwa zambiri komanso ovomerezeka ndi gulu lokhalo la akatswiri odziwa zambiri komanso ovomerezeka. dinani kutali.

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