“Umshado oqinile udinga abantu ababili abathandanayo ngisho nalapho kunzima ukuthandana.”
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Akudingi ubuhlakani ukuqaphela ukuthi ubuhle nomoya omuhle wabasanda kushada awuhlali njalo. Ngesinye isikhathi, uthando lwentsha luyaphela (yize lungakaze lusulwe). Ubudlelwano bomshado bufinyelela esigabeni sabo sokuvuthwa. Futhi ngaphambi kokuba imibhangqwana ikuqaphele, ukuphila kuba umjikelezo ongapheli wokugijimela emsebenzini, ukulwela ukwenza isidlo sakusihlwa, ukuphina ukulala, nokushintsha amanabukeni ezinganeni. Uthando lwama-Mushy nezinsuku zothando kuthatha indawo engemuva. Kulapho-ke izinkinga zingena ngokunyenya emshadweni, ngayinye ngayinye.
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Pho, kungani abantu ababili abake bafunga ukuthi bazofelana, ngemva komshado, bafunge ukubulalana (hhayi ngokoqobo) bodwa? Nazi izizathu ezimbalwa ezivamile:
- I-Monotony iyavakashela: Akekho ophephiswa imvelo evamile yokuphila. Ngisho nombhangqwana othandana kakhulu weshumi leminyaka. Imibhangqwana kufanele yamukele ukuthi imishado yangempela ayifani nenganekwane
- Umzamo uyehla: Lapho isigaba sokuqomisana sesiphelile, abashadile bavame ukunciphisa imizamo yabo yokunxenxa nokujabulisana. Baqale bathathelane
- Ayikwazi ukubhekana nokushintsha kobuntu: Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umshado ohleliwe noma wothando, kuhlale kunokuthile okwengeziwe okufanele ukwazi ngomunye nomunye. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, abantu bayashintsha. Futhi imibhangqwana ikuthola kunzima ukubhekana nezinguquko kwabashade nabo
- Izinkinga zomndeni: Umshado awuhlanganisi abantu ababili kuphela kodwa nemindeni emibili. Kwesinye isikhathi kuba nzima ukuhlangabezana nezidingo, okulindelwe kanye nezimfuno zemindeni yomibili. Abashadile basolana ngokuthi abawuthandi futhi abawuhloniphi umndeni wabo
- Ingcindezi yomsebenzi: Umnotho ozinzile uwumgogodla womshado ozinzile. Lapho bobabili abalingani besebenza, kusala isikhathi esincane kakhulu sokuchitha ndawonye. Lokhu kuholela ekukhungathekeni nasekudumaleni
- Okubalulekile kanye nezibopho: Uma imibhangqwana ishadile, impilo ayisekho ngomunye nomunye. Kufanele banakekele imindeni yomunye nomunye, bakhulise izingane zabo futhi basebenzele ikusasa elingcono. Phakathi kwakho konke lokhu, ukubalekela emhlabeni we-lovey-dovey kuwukunethezeka imibhangqwana eminingi engakwazi ukuyikhokhela.
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Manje njengoba sesibona ukuthi kungani imibhangqwana ibhekana nezinkinga ngemva komshado, ake sihlole izinkinga eziyisishiyagalombili ezivame kakhulu umbhangqwana ngamunye obhekana nazo.
8 Izinkinga Zomshado Ezivamile
Njengakubo bonke ubudlelwano, izinkinga emishadweni ziletha izinselelo ezithile kwabashadile. Ngemva kokuphela kwesigaba se-honeymoon, umbhangqwana ubuyela entweni ebizwa ngokuthi 'impilo evamile', futhi yilapho kanye okulindelwe umuntu kuthatha umzamo njengoba umuntu ebhekana nezinselele nezinkinga zangempela emishadweni.
Kudinga umzamo othile ukwenza umshado uphumelele futhi uhlale, futhi ukuba nezinhloko ezindabeni ezivamile ezingase ziphakame kungase kukulungiselele ukuxazulula inkinga ekuqaleni. Ngakho-ke, ngaphandle kokuchitha isikhathi, nalu uhlu lwezinkinga zomshado nezisombululo ezingakusiza ukuthi uvale ibanga futhi ugcine ubudlelwano bakho bungaphazamiseki:
1. Ukuthandana ngaphandle komshado
Ukuthandana ngaphandle komshado kungenye yezinkinga ezivame kakhulu zomshado. Okusongela ukunyakazisa isisekelo somshado ukungena 'komuntu wesithathu' endaweni yokusondelana. I umphumela wokuqomisana ngaphandle komshado kumlingani inkulu futhi idala izinkinga ezinkulu emishadweni. Kungabangela ukulahlekelwa ukwethenjwa futhi kuphawule ukuqala kwezinkinga zomshado.
Isithukuthezi siyisizathu esiyinhloko sokungathembeki kanye nembangela yezinkinga zomshado. Kungokwemvelo ukuba nesithukuthezi lapho kungekho into entsha noma emangazayo emshadweni. Njengoba umshado uqala ukubonakala ulula kakhulu, abashadile bavame ukubheka ukunonga impilo yabo nenye indoda/owesifazane.
2. Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana
Enhliziyweni yanoma ibuphi ubuhlobo kukhona ukuxhumana okuphumelelayo. Njengoba kunezinhlelo zokusebenza ezimatasa, imisebenzi yasekhaya nokunakekela izingane, kunokuxhumana okuncane phakathi kwabashadile. Enye yezinkinga zomshado ezivame kakhulu ukuthi akukho ukukhuluma nokulalela 'kwangempela'. Azikho izingxoxo ezijulile, akukho ukwabelana ngenjabulo encane nosizi. Kuwubulima impela ohlangothini lwabashadile empeleni, ngoba wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi ayikho inkinga inkomishi eqinile yetiye nengxoxo emnandi engakwazi ukuyixazulula.
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3. Ukwehluleka ukwazisa umuntu oshade naye
Uma usuchithe iminyaka emihlanu kuya kweyishumi eqinile ebuhlotsheni, amagama avame ukubonakala ekha phezulu kakhulu ukuveza uthando lwakho. Ingenye yalezo zinkinga ezivamile zomshado. Imibhangqwana iyakhohlwa ukuthi amazwi ambalwa okubonga ahlala enamandla amakhulu okuletha ushintsho futhi asuse izinkinga zomshado. Kodwa izinkinga zomshado nezisombululo ziyahambisana.
Khumbula nje ukuhlaba ikhefu futhi ucabange, ukuthi kuzothatha umzamo ongakanani ukutshela umkakho - "Hey, ngiyabonga ngokuhlala nami kuze kube sebusuku. Ngiyabonga inkampani." Futhi uma egqoke iyembe omnike lona, mtshele ukuthi, “Uyohlale ubukeka kahle kuleli hembe.” Ngamagama ambalwa, ungakwazi ngempela ukwenza usuku lomngane wakho womshado futhi ugcine izindaba zomshado at bay.
4. Amakamelo okulala afile
Ngenkathi akekho ngempela okhuluma ngawe noma okulungiselela ucansi olushadile, yazi ukuthi ukhiye womshado onempilo ungaphansi kwezingubo zokulala. Ukuncipha kwe-libido noma ukuhlukaniswa ngokomzwelo kuholela empilweni engagculisi yocansi, okubangela ubunzima bomshado. Abalingani bavame ukufuna ukuzanelisa ngokocansi kumuntu wangaphandle, okuholela ekuphingeni, ukukopela, nokulala nomuntu ngaphandle komshado.
5. Izifiso ezigoqiwe
Buza noma yimuphi umbhangqwana oshadile ukuthi kungani uwela omunye komunye futhi uzothola impendulo - "O, siyefana kakhulu!" Ezimweni eziningi, ngaphambi komshado, umbhangqwana unemigomo efanayo, amaphupho, nezifiso ezifanayo. Kwesinye isikhathi, lobu bunye besifiso buyaphuka njengoba izibopho nezinselelo zinqwabelana. Indoda nomfazi bahamba ezindleleni ezihlukene, befuna izinto ezingafani nempilo. Ukubhekana nalolu shintsho lwezifiso kuyiphilisi okunzima ukuligwinya futhi kungaba yisizathu esiyinhloko esenza imibhangqwana ikhulele kude, okuholela ezinkingeni zomshado.
6. Imali kanye nezezimali
Izithandani zingase zingakuvumi obala kodwa imali ihlezi iqhamuka njengenkinga futhi ingenye yezinkinga zomshado ezinkulu nezinzima kakhulu ukubhekana nazo. Bobabili indoda nomfazi bathi baphatha izimali zabo ngokuvumelana nezifiso zabo. Cishe njalo, kunemalimboleko okufanele ibuyiselwe, ukutshalwa kwezimali okufanele kwenziwe, inkanuko yezinto ezibonakalayo okufanele yaneliswe. Futhi, imibhangqwana ivame ukuphikisana ngokuthi ubani okufanele alawule ibhalansi yasebhange.
7. Ukudlala umama nobaba
Umshado uthatha inguquko entsha ngemva kokuzalwa komntwana wokuqala. Indoda nomfazi baphenduka ubaba nomama. Futhi lelo izinga elisha lomthwalo wemfanelo. Izindima zobulili zendabuko zazinquma ukuthi umama nguye yedwa umnakekeli wengane, kuyilapho ubaba enzela ingane izinqumo ezibalulekile ekuphileni. Kodwa kulezi zinsuku omama bafuna ukulingana ekukhuliseni izingane nasekuthatheni izinqumo. Lokhu ngokuvamile kubangela ukungezwani okuqhubekayo emishadweni.
8. Imisebenzi yasekhaya
Akuwona wonke umuntu ongakwazi ukukhokhela usizo lwasekhaya. Izingxabano eziningi, ngakho-ke, zigxila embuzweni othi - Ubani ozodlala umsizi wasendlini? Ngemva kosuku olukhathele emsebenzini, bobabili abashadile abafuni ukupheka nokuhlanza indlu. Izinto ziba zimbi nakakhulu lapho inkosikazi kulindeleke ukuba inakekele ukupheka futhi umyeni enqaba ukusiza.
Awu, awukho umshado ongenasici. Inkulumo ethi ‘ngenjabulo kuze kube phakade’ iba njalo lapho bobabili abashadile bebeka eceleni ukungezwani kwabo futhi besebenza ngokuvumelana ukuze bathole leyo njabulo. Izinkinga ziyafika zidlule. Okubalulekile ukuthi ubhekana kanjani nalezi zinkinga zomshado futhi uziqede ngokusebenzisana okuthile okuqinile. Khumbula njalo, ekugcineni, ngumuntu obalulekile. Hhayi inkinga.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
Inkinga enkulu edala izinkinga emshadweni ukuntuleka kokukhulumisana. Kunoma ibuphi ubudlelwano, ukuxhumana kubalulekile. Khumbula, ozakwethu abakwazi ukufunda ingqondo yakho ngakho-ke kufanele ubatshele okudingayo, okudingayo, noma okushodayo esikhundleni sokulinda ukuthi bakubambe. Esinye isizathu esikhulu esidala izinkinga zomshado - ikakhulukazi lapho imibhangqwana behlala ezimweni zomndeni ngokuhlanganyela - izinkinga nabasemzini. Ngaphezu kwalokhu, izinkinga ezimbili ezinkulu imibhangqwana emisha ezithola ibhekene nazo kulezi zinsuku yimibuzo yokwabelana ngemithwalo yemfanelo yasekhaya kanye nokunikela ngemali.
Nakuba kuhlukahluka kuye kwelinye icala, izimpawu zomshado ongaphumeleli noma lowo osenkingeni enkulu yizingxabano ezingapheli, ukuntuleka kwesenzo ekamelweni, izingxabano ezifanayo ezenza ukubuya okungaguquki, ukuzwa ukuntuleka kwesidingo sokukhulumisana nokwabelana ngemizwa yakho, ukukhangwa abanye abantu kuze kube sezingeni lokuthi ucabange ngisho nokuba neshende, njll.
Ucwaningo luthi izizathu ezintathu ezinkulu zesehlukaniso ukuntuleka kokuzibophezela okumangalisayo, ukujola, nokungqubuzana okungapheli, nokungazibophezeli okuyisizathu esikhulu nesembatho sokuqala.
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