Suffering and Healing, Abuse, Trauma Support and Counselling

Suffering and Healing

People suffer in relationships. They heal too. But suffering and healing does not necessarily happen in that order. Physical abuse and marital rape are extreme forms of suffering that many people endure in their relationships. But suffering also happens when one partner is extremely selfish, narcissistic or is unaware of a partner’s emotional needs. Years of neglect and constant bickering can also result in a kind of suffering and it takes time to heal.

In this section Bonobology shares stories of how people suffered yet, they found the strength to struggle through this phase and then move on. They survived to tell the tale and healed to start a new life.

Signs Of Lack Of Passion In A Relationship: 15 Clear Indicators You Shouldn’t Ignore

Passion can be understood as the active charge in a relationship. In psychology, passion is tied to intense desire and strong enthusiasm. You can still care for someone deeply and yet feel the spark thinning out. In everyday life, passion shows up as desire, curiosity, effort, affection, playfulness, and emotional energy. Many of the signs […]

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How To Deal With Defensiveness In Relationships: A Guide

Defensiveness in relationships is what happens when you hear a complaint as an attack and your nervous system goes straight into self protection mode. Instead of absorbing what your partner is saying, you start protecting your image, your intentions, or your “side of the story.” That is why the conversation quickly turns into blame, excuses,

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I’m 30 and Never Had a Girlfriend: What You’re Doing Wrong

If you googled “I am 30 and never had a girlfriend,” you are probably not looking for just comfort words. You want clarity on why that is and what you can do about it. We are here to do exactly that. But before we answer all your questions, we urge you to stop comparing yourself

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Imago Therapy: What It Is, How It Works, Benefits And Considerations

Imago Therapy, also known as Imago Relationship Therapy, is a specialized couples counseling approach designed to help you and your partner communicate better and heal underlying emotional wounds. The word “imago” is Latin for “image,” referring to the unconscious image of love that each person carries from childhood. In Imago Therapy, you explore how your

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Banksying In Dating: What It Means and How to Recognize It

“Banksying” in dating is a term for a toxic behavior where someone showers you with over-the-top admiration, only to pull away later and leave you reeling. The name comes from street artist Banksy, known for surprise artworks with dramatic twists, hinting at how this dating tactic works. In a Banksying scenario, a partner creates a

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Am I Moving On Too Quickly After Death Of Spouse—How To Decide

There is no easy way to decide whether you’re moving on too quickly after death of spouse or truly ready to start a new chapter in your life. After all, there are no fixed timelines on how soon you can start dating after loss of spouse. It all boils down to your emotional state. Given

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15 Signs You’ll Get Back Together With Your Ex

Breakups can feel like the end of the world, but sometimes they’re just a pause button, allowing space for reflection and growth. But this hope for reconciliation can leave you obsessively wondering, “Will my ex come back?” stopping you from moving on. We advise you to look for tangible signs you’ll get back together to

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How To Get Over Trust Issues — A Therapist Shares 9 Tips

As Ernest Hemingway said, “The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” But is it really that easy to trust people, especially if you’ve been betrayed in the past? Trust doesn’t come that easy. It takes a lot of tears, arguments, and silence between couples to get to

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Learn How To Forgive Yourself For Hurting Someone You Love

A 2014 study threw light on some mind-numbing facts. It stated that we end up getting angry with and hurting those who are the closest to us. It also proved that how we hurt them “depends on our relationship with them.” Interesting, isn’t it? So, apparently, the closer we are to people, the higher our

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How To Find Peace After Being Cheated On — 9 Tips From A Therapist

Picture this: you’ve just found out that your husband cheated on you with his coworker while you were pregnant last year. And you’re down in the dumps, trying to salvage what remains of your relationship. You’re hurt and devastated. One moment you feel like forgiving your husband and making peace with the situation, while the

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