Me pēhea te wawahi i te huringa kino o te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia

Ka taea e te tinihanga i roto i te marena te pakaru i tō kōrua hononga, tērā pea he hononga e kore e taea te whakatika, nā te mea ko te tangata kei te taha ka mauheretia i roto i te huringa kino o te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia, e uaua ai ki a rātou te whakawhirinaki ki a koe, i ngā wā katoa. Tērā pea ka uaua ki te tāne, ki te wahine rānei kua tinihangatia te kimi i roto i tōna ngākau te muru i ngā hara a tā rātou hoa rangatira, ā, ka āhua uaua rawa te whakaora i te marena i muri i te tinihanga. 

Ahakoa te āhua kore e taea te āwhina i tō hoa rangatira kia ora i tō tinihanga, kāore e tika kia pērā. Mēnā e hiahia ana ngā taha e rua ki te mahi i te marena, ki te whakaora i a rātou anō me te whanaungatanga, ka taea tonu te whakaora i muri i te puremu me te noho tahi. Engari kia mōhio, ehara i te mea tere, ngāwari, kāore hoki e rite ki te rārangi.

He mea nui te mārama ki ngā āhuatanga o tō hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia ki te tukanga whakatikatika i tō kōrua marena. Hei whakangawari ake i tō haerenga, i kōrero mātou ki tētahi tohunga hinengaro Nandita Rambhia (MSc., Psychology), he tohunga ki te CBT, REBT, me te kaiārahi mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, mō ētahi atu māramatanga ki te huringa kino o te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia, me ngā huarahi hei whakatau i tēnei i runga i te huarahi hauora, whai whakaaro hoki. 

Te Mārama ki te Huringa o te Hoa Rangatira kua Tukua

Ko te rongonga i te tinihanga a te hoa rangatira, ko tētahi pea o ngā tino whakararuraru ka pā ki te tangata. Ka taea e ia te mea kua pōrearea katoa tōna oranga, ā, ka pātai ia ki ngā mea katoa mō tā rāua marena me te tangata e noho tahi ana rāua. E kī ana a Nandita, "Ka whakakorikori te tinihanga i te turanga o te whanaungatanga, ka waiho koe kia raru ki ngā kare ā-roto kāore koe i whakaaro ka pā ki a koe. Kāore te tukanga whakaora i te mea rārangi - ka puta mai i roto i ngā ngaru, me ngā wā mārama me ngā hinganga i te ara." 

I muri i tēnei kitenga, e ono ngā wāhanga o te pouri ka pā ki te tangata i muri i te puremu:

• Te ohorere me te whakakorekore: Kāore rātou i te whakapono kei te tupu tēnei mea. Tērā pea ka ngana ō rātou hinengaro ki te tiaki i a rātou mā te kore e whakaae ki te tinihanga i te tuatahi.
• Mamae me te hara: Ka pā te mamae o te ngākau, ā, ka tino pāngia. Tērā pea ka whakapae rātou i a rātou anō, me te whakaaro mēnā i ngaro i a rātou ngā tohu, i taea rānei e rātou te mahi i tētahi mea rerekē
• Te riri me te mauahara: Ka tīmata te totohu o te tinihanga, ā, ka puta mai te riri nui—ki tō rātou hoa, ki te tangata i tinihanga tahi rāua, ki a rātou anō pea
• Hokohoko: Ka tīmata rātou ki te tākaro anō i ngā mea katoa i roto i ō rātou mahunga, me te whakaaro, "Me i mahia e au tēnei..." me te "Tērā pea ka taea e tātou te whakatika i tēnei mēnā..." Koinei te huarahi a ō rātou hinengaro ki te whakahoki mai i te mana whakahaere.
• Te pouri me te mokemoke: Ka tau te āhua o te āhuatanga, ka puta te pouri, te mate, tae atu ki ngā kare ā-roto o te mokemoke. He wāhanga uaua, engari koinei anō te wā ka tīmata ai te whakaora hohonu.
• Te whakaae me te anga whakamua: Ka whakaae rātou ki ngā mea i tupu. Ahakoa ka whiriwhiri rātou kia noho tonu i muri i te tinihanga, kia neke atu rānei, koinei te wāhi ka tīmata ai rātou ki te whakahoki mai i tō rātou harikoa.

Kāore ēnei wāhanga e ono o te pouri i muri i te puremu i te rārangi, ā, ka rerekē pea te āhua o te tangata i a ia e haere ana i roto i ngā wāhanga rerekē o te huringa o te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia. E whakamārama ana a Nandita i ēnei wāhanga hei whakamārama ake i te pānga o te tinihanga o te marena ki te hoa rangatira i te taha e whiwhi ana:

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1. Te kitenga

Ka puta mai i tēnei wāhanga tuatahi he whānuitanga o ngā kare ā-roto uaua. E whakamārama ana a Nandita, "Ka puta te ohorere, te kore whakapono, ngā ngana nui ki te rapu huarahi hei whakaoti rapanga, me te kohikohi mōhiohio mō te kitenga o te kore whakapono, me te mea rānei me mahi." haere atu i muri i te kore whakapono"... Ka pātai tonu te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia, ahakoa te koretake, kia mārama ai te mamae me te kare o te tinihanga."

2. Tauhohenga

Ka kaha ake ngā kare ā-roto i ara ake i te wāhanga o mua, ā, ka kitea i roto i ngā tauhohenga tinana, hinengaro rānei. He mea tika kia maumahara i konei, e ai ki te whakatūpato a Nandita, tera pea ka noho tonu ēnei kare ā-roto i roto i te hinengaro me te ngākau o te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia.

"Ka puta ngā tauhohenga whanonga i tēnei wā. Tērā pea ka hamama, ka whawhai, ka hikoi atu, ka hiahia ki te wāhi, ka hiahia ki te whakatau i te raruraru ko rātou anake, me ētahi atu. Ka mutu anō te wā." ngā pātai mō te kore whakapono"he aha, he aha, he pēhea, me ērā atu. He mea pai mēnā ka whiwhi rātou i ngā whakautu pono ki ēnei pātai, kaua e peia. Ki te kore he whakautu, ka noho pūmau tonu rātou i tēnei wāhanga," te kī a Nandita.

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3. Whakatau

Kia oti te tauhohenga, te wāhanga tuatahi rānei o ngā tauhohenga, ka tīmata te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia ki te whakaaro he aha te mea ka whai ake. Ka ngana rātou ki te whakaaro mēnā he kōwhiringa te noho tonu i muri i te tinihanga, ā, ka kimi huarahi hei neke whakamua. te ora i te tinihanga i roto i te whanaungatanga"I ētahi wā, he uaua ki te muru hara, engari he wairua whakaae, he huarahi anō hoki tēnei ki te neke whakamua," te kī a Nandita. "Tērā pea ka mutu noa iho tā rātou mahi, inā koa mēnā kāore i te pai ngā whakautu i rapua e rātou i ngā wāhanga o mua."

4. Te neke whakamua

I te wāhanga whakamutunga o te huringa hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia, ka mahi te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia ki te neke atu, mai i te tinihanga, mai i te marena rānei. "Ko tēnei wāhanga e whakawhirinaki ana ki te whanaungatanga o ngā hoa. Ko te kōrero, te mahi, te whanonga kare ā-roto, me te hanga whakawhirinaki he mea nui ki ngā taha e rua," te kī a Nandita.

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Mā te mārama ki ngā āhuatanga o tō hoa rangatira i muri i tō rongonga i tō tinihanga ka tino whakatata atu koe ki te whakaora i tō marena i muri i te puremu, engari ko te taahiraa tuatahi noa iho tēnei. He mea anō me mahi e ngā hoa rangatira mō te wā roa i mua i te whakaora i tā rāua hononga, ahakoa he... te tukanga whakaora i te wehenga, te kimi rānei me pēhea te noho tahi. Tērā pea ka whakaaro koe he pai ake ngā mea engari ehara te whakaoranga mai i te tinihanga i te tukanga rārangi. Tērā pea ka hoki anō tō hoa ki tētahi o ngā wāhanga e ono o te pouri i muri i te tinihanga i te wā tonu e ahua ahu whakamua ana rātou ki te whakaora. Anei ngā mea hei mahi hei wawahi i te huringa kino o te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia.

1. Whakaatuhia te pouri

Kua kitea e tō hoa rangatira tō puremu, ā, e ahua ana kei te noho tonu koe te hikoi i runga i ngā anga hua manu i roto i tō marenaKāore koe i te mōhio me pēhea te whakatika i tēnei, kāore rānei e taea te whakatika. Ko tō hoa rangatira anō hoki, he pouri, he riri nui, he pōhēhē, me ērā atu mea. He wā puku whakamā, he wā hamama rānei.

Tīmata mā te whakaatu i tō pouri pono. Kia mōhio koe kei te kī tātou "e whakaatu ana", ehara i te "e kī ana". Ahakoa te nui o tō whakaaro, kāore he tikanga o te kī pouri mēnā kāore he mahi e whai ake nei. Kaua e kōrero pōhēhē pēnei i te, "E pouri ana ahau mō taku i mahi ai." Kia tika, me te whakaatu ki a rātou e mōhio ana koe ki te take e whakapāha ana koe.

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Kia tino mohio kei te mahi koe i runga i te hara anake. Ki te mea kei te pouri koe, me huri e koe ō whanonga o ia rā. Kia mau te kawenga mō ō mahi, ahakoa he mea i ngaro i roto i tō marena. Kia mau te kawenga ki a koe i ia taahiraa o te ara, nā te mea i whiriwhiri koe kia noho hei hoa tinihanga. Kei a koe te kawenga mō tēnā, ahakoa te nui o tō pouri.

Kia mahara, ehara tēnei i te kī taurangi ka murua rawatia koe e tō hoa rangatira. Engari he hikoi tika tēnei mēnā e tino mārama ana rātou kei te tino pouri koe mō āu mahi, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi i a koe anō me te marena.

2. Whakahaerehia ngā mea whakaoho

"Ko te mea nui rawa atu ko te kitenga o te moepuku tonu, ahakoa he tūpono noa iho, he whakatau rānei nā te hoa rangatira tinihanga te whaki i tana hara. Ko te huarahi pai ki te whakahaere i tēnei mea ko te tuku i te huringa katoa o te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia kia puta, me te tuku i te hoa rangatira ki te kohikohi i ngā taipitopito katoa o te mea i tupu. Ko te nui ake o ngā mōhiohio kei a rātou, ko te nui ake o te mana whakahaere o te āhuatanga. Ki te kore, kei te pupuri tonu rātou i ngā kakau witi, ā, ka nui ake te mamae," te kī a Nandita.

Ko te tūtaki kanohi ki te kanohi ki te tinihanga a te hoa rangatira ka puta he mamae nui ki te hinengaro, ā, ka pāngia pea te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia e ngā mea iti rawa mō te wā roa i muri mai. Ka puta tēnei mamae i roto i ngā mea katoa—mai i te mātakitaki i tētahi kiriata mō te tinihanga ki te mātakitaki i a koe e tuku karere ana ki tētahi me te whakaaro ko tētahi kei te moe tahi koe.

Kia tūpato ki tēnei. Kāore e taea e koe te matapae i ngā mea katoa e whakaoho ana i a koe, kāore hoki e taea e koe te āta tirotiro i ngā kare ā-roto o tō hoa rangatira mō ake tonu atu. Engari kia mōhio kei te mamae rātou, ā, ko ngā mea kāore i whakaarohia e rātou i mua ake nei ka huri hei take nui, hei take whakapae hoki. Te whakahaere i te riri i roto i ngā whanaungatanga ehara i te mea tuatahi ki ō rātou hinengaro. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakaora i te marena i muri i te puremu, ā, me manawanui koe i a tō hoa rangatira e mahi ana i roto i te mamae kare ā-roto kua pā ki a rāua. 

3. Arotahi ki te hanga anō i te whakawhirinaki

Ko te whakawhirinaki tetahi ki tetahi te tohu o tētahi whanaungatanga hauora, aroha hoki, ā, koinei te mea tuatahi ka pakaru ina pāngia tētahi e te tinihanga o te marena. Ki te kore kōrua i whakaae ki tētahi whanaungatanga tuwhera, ko te māramatanga i roto i te marena ko te pono o kōrua tetahi ki tetahi ake ake. Koinei te mea i hainatia e kōrua.

Te whakapakari i te whakawhirinaki Koinei pea te wāhanga tino uaua ina ngana ana koe ki te wawahi i te huringa kino o te tinihanga o te hoa rangatira. Tērā pea kei te aro atu koe ki ngā hua kino o te tinihanga i tō ake ara, me te ngana anō hoki ki te whakaatu ki tō hoa rangatira kei te taea tonu te whakawhirinaki ki a koe. Ko te mea kino rawa atu ko te kore e taea te whakawhirinaki ka horapa ki ētahi atu wāhanga o te ao.

"I whai hononga tāku ki taku rangatira i ētahi tau kua pahure. Kāore i roa, engari i te kitenga o taku tāne, ka tīmata ia ki te pātai i ngā mea katoa mōku. Mēnā kāore e taea e au te noho pono i roto i te marena, ka whakapono ia kāore au e taea te whakawhirinaki hei whaea pai, hei tiaki i ōku mātua me ōku hungawai, hei mahi pai rānei i te mahi. Kāore ia i taea te whakawhirinaki ki ahau mō te wā roa," te kī a Callie.

Kāore te whakawhirinaki e ngāwari te puta, engari, heoi anō, ka ngaro ngāwari noa iho. Ā, he tino uaua te hanga anō i te whakawhirinaki ina raru ana tō hoa rangatira i te mamae o te tinihanga. Engari, ki te hiahia koe ki te whakatika i tō whanaungatanga, me arotahi koe ki tēnei, ahakoa pēhea.

4. Rapua he awhina ngaio

"Ahakoa tāu e whakatau ai i te mutunga, he mea nui te whakaora me te neke whakamua," te kī a Nandita. "Tērā pea ka āwhina te wawaotanga a te hunga tuatoru i konei. Tērā pea he hoa, he mema whānau rānei – he tangata e whakawhirinaki ana koe, e titiro atu ana ki a ia. Ā, ko te rapu āwhina ngaio he tino painga."

Ko te whakaae kei te hiahia āwhina koe, me te whakapā atu ki a koe, koinei te huarahi tino pai ki te whakatutuki i tēnei aroha-whaiaroKo te marena, i te nuinga o te wā, kei waenganui i te tokorua. Engari ina pakaru, kāore he he o te tono āwhina—ahakoa he whakapā atu ki a ia anō, he kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei.

Ka taea e koe te whiriwhiri i te tohutohu takitahi hei tīmatanga, kātahi ka whai i te rongoā mō te tokorua ina hiahiatia. Hei hoa rangatira kua tinihanga i tā rātou hoa rangatira, ka whai taha anō koe hei kōrero māu, ā, ka whakarongo mai te kaiwhakaora hinengaro ki a koe me te marino, te kore whakaaro tika, me te kore whakapae, te kore whakahē rānei. Ki te whiriwhiri koe i te rongoā, ko Bonobology's he rōpū kaitohutohu mātau he paato noa atu.

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5. Kia mārama koe kāore tō kōrua whanaungatanga e rite tonu

Te mahi ki te whakatutuki te houhanga rongo i muri i te kore whakapono me mārama me te whakaae kia teitei. Ahakoa kei te whawhai te hoa rangatira kua tukinotia ki te whakaae ki te kore whakapono, me mārama hoki te tangata kua tukinotia ahakoa ka ora te marena, ka mau tonu, e kore rawa te whanaungatanga e hoki ki tōna āhua i mua i te kore whakapono.

Kia mahara, ahakoa te pumau o te whanaungatanga, kāore e rerekē. Ko te tau, ko ngā āhuatanga, ko ngā kare ā-roto, he hihiri, he rerekē katoa. Ahakoa te pumau o te marena, ka ngāwari hoki te huri. Engari he rerekētanga i waenga i te huringa ā-taiao me te mamae o te whanaungatanga ina pāngia e te tinihanga.

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Ahakoa kua tino kaha tāu mahi ki te whakatū whakawhirinaki me ngā rohe hauora, ā, e ahua pai ana koe, ka mau tonu ngā whara. Kāore tō hoa rangatira e whakawhirinaki ki a koe pērā anō, tera pea ka ngoikore haere te tūāpapa o tō marena, ā, me ako anō koe ki te whakatere hou.

He whakamomori nui te kore whakapono, arā, kāore pea koe i tino mōhio ki te tangata i moea e koe. Me hoki anō te mōhio o te hoa rangatira i tukinotia ki tōna hoa rangatira, arā, ki te hiahia ia kia mau tonu te marena. Mā te mamae o te tinihanga ka huri i a ia, ka huri hoki te marena.

6. Hoatu he wā ki tō hoa rangatira ki te pouri

Kua whakaū kē mātou he rerekē ngā āhua o te whakaora me te neke atu i te tinihanga, ā, kāore hoki e rite tonu. Ko te kore whakapono he tohu i te matenga o tō marena me tō whanaungatanga pērā i mua. Kua ngaro te tirohanga a tō hoa rangatira ki a koe me tā rātou tirohanga ki te marena me te whakapau kaha. Koia te take he mea nui te pouri, ahakoa kia pai ake te ahua i muri i te wehenga, me whai wā rānei ki te arotake anō i tō kōrua marena.

He wāhanga nui te pouri i roto i te whakaora i muri i te puremu, ā, me whai wā me te wāhi tō hoa rangatira ki te mahi i tēnā i runga i tana ake ara. Kaua e whakaaro he mea herea tēnei ki te wā – he rerekē te pouri o te katoa, ā, he rerekē te wā e pā ana ki te tinihanga o te marena. Nō reira, kaua e haere tonu ki te pātai atu ki a rātou me ngā mea pēnei, "He aha tonu tēnei e whakararuraru ana i a koe?" me "Kāore e taea e tāua te wikitoria i tēnei?"

"I taku tinihanga i taku wahine, i mōhio ahau he mea nui, engari e whakaae ana ahau kāore au i te mārama ki te nui o tōna pānga ki a ia," te kī a Danny. "Ki ahau nei, ehara i te mea ko te mate o tā māua marena, engari he mea ka taea e māua te neke atu i te wā, ā, ora i te raruraru o te marena"Engari i muri mai ka mōhio ahau me tae mai ki tōna wā, kaua ki taku wā. Nō reira, hei utu mō te hoatu i tētahi rārangi wā, i tētahi ultimatum rānei ki a ia, ka pātai atu ahau ki a ia i ia wiki torutoru mēnā ka taea e māua te kōrero anō."

7. Kaua e tukua ki te whakamatautauranga kia hoki anō ki te tinihanga

I te whānui haere o te whakamāramatanga me ngā kōrero mō te aroha me ngā whanaungatanga, kāore te marena me te moe tāne kotahi e kitea ana he herenga tūturu tetahi ki tetahi. Ngā marena tuwhera me hononga tuwhera e kōrerotia ana, e mahia ana hoki, ahakoa he nui te āwangawanga me te whakapae e karapotia ana. Engari ki te mea kei te ngana koe ki te wawahi i te huringa o te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia, me piri tonu koe ki tāu herenga, me kōrero pono rānei mō te whakatuwhera i te marena, te wehe rānei i a kōrua ara.

Kia mārama koe kei te pāngia tō hoa rangatira e tō tinihanga. Kī tonu tōna hinengaro i ngā whakaaro kawa me ngā whakaaro pakiwaitara mōu me tētahi atu. Ka taea e koe te whakaaro me pēhea te kino rawa atu mēnā ka mahi anō koe i tēnei mea, i a koe e ngana ana ki te whakaora i tō marena? Nō reira, ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe ki te pupuri i a rātou, ehara i te mea he kōwhiringa te whakahoki anō i te tauira o te tinihanga. 

Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe kāore e taea e koe te whakapau kaha ki tēnei marena, kia pono ki a rātou mō taua mea. Kaua e meinga tō hoa rangatira kia whakapono kei te hiahia koe ki te whakaora i tō marena i muri i te puremu, ā, ka tukuna anō rātou ki roto i taua wheako pouri. Tērā pea he te mataku ki te whakapau kaha, tera pea kei te hiahia koe ki te tūhura i ētahi atu momo whanaungatanga, kāore rānei koe e hiahia ana kia moe tāne ki tō hoa rangatira. Kāore he he o tetahi o aua mea, mena he pono koe ki a koe anō me tō hoa rangatira.

8. Tautuhia, ā, matapakihia te heke mai

"Me mutu te titiro a ngā taha e rua ki ngā wā o mua, engari me titiro whakamua. Ahakoa he maha ngā mahi hei whakatau mā te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia, me mārama hoki rāua ki te take i puta ai te whanoke i te tuatahi, ā, me mahi ki ngā take e pā ana ki tēnei," te kī a Nandita.

He mahi uaua tēnei, ā, kei roto i ēnei pātai ētahi pātai e kore e taea te karo. He heke mai tō kōrua? He heke mai anō tō kōrua? He aha te rerekētanga mai i te heke mai i whakaarohia tuatahitia e kōrua? Ka tangohia e koe tētahi te pakaru o te whanaungatangaHe whakarere? He aha tāu e kōrero ai ki te tangata?

"Tokorua ā māua tamariki, ā, i whakatau māua kia wehe whakamātautau i muri i taku moepuku," te kī a Colleen. "He nui ngā mea hei whakaaroaro, engari ki taku whakaaro i whakatau māua ki te noho ki runga i te ngākau māhaki me te whanonga pai i ngā wā katoa e kōrero ana, e tūtaki ana rānei māua. Kāore i ngāwari tetahi o aua mea, nā te mea i āta tupato, i whakapae hoki taku hoa rangatira ki ahau, ā, kei te mau tonu. Kāore au i te mōhio he aha te heke mai, engari ko te mea kei a māua i nāianei he pai ake i te aro tonu ki taku mahi. I tētahi ara, kei te neke whakamua māua."

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9. Kia mohio ki te wa e haere atu ai

"Me whakaora te tangata i te tinihanga i a ia anō. Mā te whakapono ki a koe anō, ka taea e koe te whakahaere i tēnei mea, ka neke whakamua – he mea nui tēnei ki te tukanga whakaora. Engari he wā anō kāore e taea e te hoa rangatira te ora ake i te tinihanga nā te kaha rawa o te mamae. Kāore e taea e rātou te hohou i te rongo ki te mamae, ā, e hiahia ana rātou ki te whakamutu i te whanaungatanga," te kī a Nandita.

E tohu ana ia he huarahi anō hoki tēnei kōwhiringa hei neke whakamua, ahakoa kāore i te noho tahi. He pai ake te wehe atu i runga i te huarahi hauora, kaua e akiaki i tētahi marena kāore e pai ana, ā, ka huri pea hei raruraru hōhonu. te whanau paitini.

Ehara i te mea ngāwari te wehe atu i tētahi mea kua whakapaua e koe te wā, te kaha, me te kare ā-roto. I moemoeā koe mō tēnei marena, me pēhea te āhua, me pēhea te nui o te whakarerekētanga me te whakatipu i tō oranga. Kātahi ka puta tēnei. Tērā pea, i a koe e haere ana, kāore koe i te harikoa i tētahi wāhi, ā, ka arahina atu ki te puremu. Ko te whakaoranga mai i te tinihanga o te marena, mō te kaituku me te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia, ka taea anake mēnā ka arohia ēnei take matua. Kāore e taea e koe te whakaari tonu kei te pai ngā mea katoa i te mea kei te whakakorikorihia tō hononga e ngā kapiti i te turanga o tō whanaungatanga. Engari, kāore ngā whanaungatanga kua akiakihia e mahi.

Mena kua whakatau kē tō hoa rangatira kāore e taea e rāua te noho tonu i roto i tēnei marena, kāore he painga mōu mēnā ka akiakihia rāua kia noho tonu. Ka pouri rāua, ka kawa hoki i roto i tētahi marena kāore rāua e hiahia ana kia noho. Ā, ka pouri anō hoki koe, ka piri tahi me tētahi hoa kāore e aroha ana ki a koe pērā i tō hiahia. Tērā pea kāore rāua e hiahia ana ki a koe i ēnei rā. He nanakia, engari he pono. He pai ake kia wehe kōrua, kia mahi i a kōrua anō, kia kitea ai pea he aroha hou.

Thoughts Final

Tērā pea he pakiwaitara te whakakore i te huringa o te hoa rangatira kua tinihangatia, ina koa mēnā he kino, he kino hoki ngā hua o te tinihanga. Kia maumahara ahakoa ko koe te kaituku, ā, kāore e kore ko koe te he, kāore koe e tika kia tukinotia i te taha hinengaro, i te taha tinana rānei mōna. Whakawāteahia he wāhi mō ngā tauhohenga kare ā-roto o tō hoa rangatira, engari kia mōhio koe ki hea te rohe, me te whakatū. nga rohe whanaungatanga hauora.

He nui te āwhina o te rongoā hei whakaora i te puremu, ahakoa kāore te marena e ora tonu. He mea nui te hoatu wā me te wāhi ki a rātou, te whakaatu i te pouri hohonu me te pono, me te whakaae ki te kawenga mō ngā mea i mahia e koe, ā, ka āwhina pea i a koe ki te whakaora i a koe i te tinihanga. Ahakoa ka hinga te marena, ko te tumanako ka ora kōrua ko tō hoa rangatira i tēnei raruraru hei tāngata hauora, ahakoa he iti te pakaru. Kia ora.

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