N'zomvetsa chisoni kuti zinthu zosangalatsa zomwe timaziwona m'mafilimu siziri zenizeni. Ngakhale kuti ukwati ukhoza kuwoneka ngati chinthu chofunika kwambiri paubwenzi wanu, ndizotheka kuti sichikuyenda bwino monga momwe nthano zachikondi zingakuphunzitseni. Kusamvana, mikangano, kusiyana, maukwati osagonana komanso kudzimva kukhala kutali ndi okondedwa wanu ndi zina zomwe zingachitike m'banja, zomwe mwina simunaziwonepo zikubwera.
Kugonana m'mabanja ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri chomwe chimapangitsa kuti ubale ukhale wabwino. Mphamvu ya kugonana ikatha, ukwati wanu ukhoza kugwa. Womenyera ufulu wa amuna Shonee Kapoor amalankhula nafe za zomwe zimayimira maukwati osagonana, komanso ngati izi zitha kugwiritsidwa ntchito kuletsa kapena kusudzulana.
Kodi Ukwati Wopanda Kugonana N'chiyani?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Maukwati amene sanathe kutha kapena kumene kugonana kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi kwatsala pang’ono kutha kwa nthaŵi yaitali ndi maukwati opanda kugonana. Zifukwa zingakhale zambiri. Zitha kukhala kusowa chidwi, kutayika kwa libido, kukopa kocheperako kapena china chilichonse. Koma ngati banja lanu silikuyenda bwino - ndiye kuti simunagonepo kangapo kamodzi kapena kawiri pachaka chatha - mutha kukhala ndi chifukwa chodera nkhawa.
Ukwati umabwera ndi kumvetsetsa ndi kuyembekezera kuti pakapita nthawi udzakwaniritsidwa. Kuchita zogonana ndi kugwirizana ndi kugonana ndikofunikira kwambiri pa ukwati wabwino. Mosiyana ndi kuyendetsa nyumba, kulera ana kapena kupita paulendo, kugonana ndi chinthu chimodzi chomwe ukwati umatanthauza kuti ndi cha mwamuna ndi mkazi okha omwe angagawane. Chabwino, makamaka pankhani ya maukwati a m'modzi yekha.
Chotero kodi ukwati wosagonana ndiwo maziko a kusudzulana? Inde, zingatheke. Ngati kugonana kulibe m'banja, mwalamulo ndi chifukwa cha chisudzulo (ngakhale kuyenera kutsimikiziridwa kukhoti lamilandu ndipo ikhoza kukhala nthawi yayitali).
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Zifukwa za Maukwati Opanda Kugonana
Tsopano popeza takhazikitsa chimene chiri ukwati wopanda kugonana, tiyeni tikambirane zifukwa zimene zimachititsa maukwati opanda kugonana:
- Kuperewera kwa amuna: Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe zimadziwika kuti zithetsedwa
- Kuchepa mphamvu kwa amayi: Ngakhale izi zikuwoneka ngati zosatheka, zimavomerezedwanso m'milandu ingapo ndi Khoti Lalikulu ndipo motero zimavomerezedwa ngati chifukwa chothetsa ukwati.
- Kudziletsa: Kudziletsa kosatha kulanga mwamuna kapena mkazi. Kudziletsa chifukwa cha zifukwa zauzimu, kudwala kwa nthawi yaitali, kusakopeka pakati pa anthu okwatirana kungathenso kuchititsa zinthu zina
- Chigamulo chogwirizana: Okwatirana angasankhe kukhala ndi moyo wa platonic pazifukwa zilizonse zaumwini
Kodi Ukwati Wopanda Kugonana Ndi Chifukwa Chothetsera Chisudzulo?
Ukwati wopanda kugonana ndiwo maziko a chisudzulo pamene kusagonana kumakhala nkhanza. Benchi yogawa a Justice Vijaya Kapse-Tahilramani ndi Justice PN Deshmukh adati "Kugonana kumachita gawo lofunikira m'moyo waukwati ndipo sikungalekanitsidwe ndi zinthu zina zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ukwati ukhale wopambana komanso wokhutitsidwa."
Ndipo zimenezo n’zoona. Mndandanda wa ukwati wanu wosangalatsa ukuphatikizapo kugonana kosangalatsa pamalo apamwamba kwambiri. Potchula chigamulo cha Khoti Lalikulu, khotilo linati munthu wathanzi, akakanidwa kukhala limodzi ndi mkazi wake, amakumana ndi mavuto ndi kukhumudwa ndipo zili ngati kumuchitira nkhanza zamaganizo.
"Umboni (wa Shailesh) wosonyeza kuti Naina adapewa kugonana naye ndi wokwanira kunena kuti adachitidwa nkhanza," adatero benchi.
Kunena mwalamulo, malamulo a Hindu Marriage Act ndi Muslim Marriage Act amavomereza kusowa mphamvu kwa amuna ngati zifukwa zovomerezera kutha (mofanana ndi kusudzulana ngakhale kuti mwalamulo ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi). Ngakhale kusowa mphamvu kwa akazi kumazindikiridwa ngati zifukwa zolepheretsa.
Ngati kusagonana pazifukwa zilizonse ndi kwakanthawi, sikuli chifukwa cha kusudzulana. Komabe, ngati kusagonana ndi chinthu chosatha m’banja ndipo kumagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati chida cholangira kapena kuzunza mwamuna kapena mkazi, ndiye kuti pali zifukwa zosudzulana.
Khoti lidzafunafuna umboni wosonyeza kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wake akukana uphungu waubwenzi pa nkhaniyi kenako n’kuupititsa patsogolo.
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Kodi Ndiyenera Kusudzulana Chifukwa Cha Ukwati Wopanda Kugonana?
Palibe wina aliyense amene angayankhe funsoli kwa munthu payekha. Zimatengera munthu ndi munthu, banja ndi banja komanso momwe banja layendera. Pali zinthu zambirimbiri zimene zimakhudza banja, moteronso kusankha kusudzulana. Mwachitsanzo, kuzama kwa chikondi ndi kulumikizana komwe anthu okwatirana amagawana, kuchuluka kwa kukhumudwa pakugonana komwe munthu amamva, momwe kugonana kulili kofunikira kwa munthuyo, atha kutsimikizira m'bwalo lamilandu kuti ukwatiwo ndi wosagonana, kodi banjali lili ndi ana, ndi zina zotero ...
Ndipo chifukwa chiyani maukwati osagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi? Ngati kudziletsa kapena kusagonana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi chifukwa cha matenda omwe amabwera mutakwatirana, sizingakhale chifukwa chosudzulana ndipo mungafunike kupulumuka ukwati wopanda kugonana . Mitundu ina ya khansa ingayambitse kusabereka, choncho, ngakhale zimenezo sizingakhale chifukwa chothetsa ukwati/kusudzulana.
Njira yoyenera yopitira patsogolo ingasankhidwe ndi munthuyo pokhapokha atakambirana ndi munthu wodziwa bwino ntchito amene angachite zinthu ngati zimenezi. Pakadali pano, tingathe kuthana ndi vutoli bwino. Ngati mukufuna kulankhula ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo kuti mumvetse bwino vutoli kapena kupeza uphungu waubwenzi, gulu lathu la akatswiri lingakuthandizeni.
( Monga momwe adauzira Aarti Pathak )
Ibibazo
Palibe chiwerengero chodziwikiratu koma ku US, 15-20% ya mabanja ndi osagonana ndipo chiŵerengero cha kusudzulana ndi pafupifupi 50%.
Zitha kukhala nthawi yayitali ngati wina akufuna. Ngati mwagwirizana zoti muzionana ndi anthu ena kapena kudziletsa kotheratu, ukwati wanu ungakhaledi wokhalitsa. Zimangotengera zomwe mukuchita ngati banja zikhala ngakhale siukwati wogonana.
Inde zingatheke. Ngati wina ali wofunitsitsa kuti ubalewo ukhale wolimba, ukhoza kupulumuka chilichonse. Kusudzulana chifukwa cha ukwati wosagonana sikofunikira ndipo munthu akhoza kupitiriza kukhala m’banja ndi bwenzi lake.
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