Zizindikiro 8 Kuti Mukuyenda Mwamphamvu Kwambiri - Malangizo Opewa

Sizosangalatsa kukhala pafupi ndi anthu okakamizika koma anthu ambiri mosadziwa amakhala amphamvu kwambiri akakhala pachibwenzi kapena ali pachibwenzi. Chitonthozo nthawi zambiri chimatero kwa anthu. Ngakhale simungafune kukhala wopondereza, zizolowezi zanu zachibadwa zimatha kukhala zochulukira kwa okondedwa anu, ndipo ndizomwe muyenera kuyang'anira.

A 2008 phunziro ndi David Schmidt akusonyeza kuti extroversion mkulu nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa kusowa ubale yekha ndi kuunikila inu monga munthu pa zifukwa yochepa. Kubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri kwa mnyamata kapena mtsikana mosadziwa kungathe kuwawopseza.

Choncho, m'pofunika kukumbukira zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti mwayamba kukondana kwambiri, makamaka pamene mukuyamba chibwenzi. Tili pano kuti tikuuzeni zomwe zizindikirozo ndi zomwe mungachite kuti muthetse vutoli pokambirana ndi akatswiri azamisala. Anuradha Satyanarayana Prabhudesai, yemwe anayambitsa Disha Counseling Center, yemwe amagwiritsa ntchito njira za CBT / REBT kuti athandize anthu kuti adzigwirizanenso ndikugwira ntchito pamakhalidwe awo.

8 Zizindikiro Zomveka Kuti Mukubwera Mwamphamvu Kwambiri

Mumadziwa bwanji kuti mukubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri kwa wokondedwa wanu? Kupeza yankho la funsoli sikophweka koma zowunikira zitha kubisika mu mbiri yanu ya chibwenzi. Ngati madeti anu apita mwadzidzidzi MIA kuchokera pamalopo, ndiye kuti pali mwayi woti mumakonda kubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri posachedwa, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu akupeweni.

Komabe, kukhala wamizimu pa Intaneti chibwenzi nsanja si chizindikiro chokhacho kuti chibwenzi kalembedwe malire pa aukali. Nazi zizindikiro zina zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuzindikira ngati mukubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri kwa mnyamata/msungwana:

1. Mumatumizirana mameseji nthawi zonse

Kulemberana mameseji kamodzi kokha kuli bwino. Ngakhale kutumizirana mameseji kawiri nthawi zina zitha kukhala zovomerezeka. Koma ngati zenera lanu lochezera lili ndi zolemba zambiri kuchokera kumapeto kwanu popanda kuyankha kapena kuyankha pang'ono kuchokera mbali inayo, ingakhale nthawi yoganizira kuti mukubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri kwa mnzanuyo.

Anuradha akufotokoza chifukwa chake. “M’nyengo yofulumira ino, pamene tikufuna kukhutiritsa nthaŵi yomweyo, yankho losayankhidwa kapena lochedwa likhoza kuwoneka kukhala chinthu chovuta kwambiri. Izi zikhozanso kuwathamangitsa.

2. Ngati mukufuna kumangika paliponse, mukubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri

Ndibwino kuti maanja azifuna kuchitira zinthu limodzi. Ngati muli ndi anzanu ambiri, mukhoza kumakumana nawo nthawi zambiri. Koma ngati mukutsagana ndi usiku wa mowa wa anyamata okha kapena macheza a atsikana onse, ndiye kuti ndi mbendera yofiira kuti mukubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri.

Anuradha akuti, "Malo aumwini n’chofunika kwambiri m’mbali zonse za ubwenzi.” Kuti chibwenzi chiyende bwino, okondedwa akuyenera kulemekeza malo a wina ndi mzake ndipo ayang'anenso zinthu zoti azichita payekha.

3. Kukopana mwaukali komanso mwapamtima kungakhale chizindikiro chosonyeza kuti mukubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri

Kuseweretsa kapena kunyozana n'kosangalatsa koma kuphatikiza nkhani zakugonana posachedwa kumatha kukhala kowopsa kwa wokondedwa wanu. Zitha kuthanso kuwapatsa mapazi ozizira, poganizira kuti zimatumiza chizindikiro kuti simukupita patsogolo pa liwiro lomwelo.

Anuradha akuti, “Kugonana mosakayika ndi mbali yofunika kwambiri yaubwenzi wachikondi; komabe, kuyenera kuikidwa panthaŵi yake bwino. Kuchita zinthu mwansanga kungachititse munthuyo kusokonezeka maganizo ndi kuchititsa kuti ziwoneke ngati kuti mukungofuna kukukondani kwambiri.”

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4. Kutengera zomwe mukufuna

Kukhala territorial poyamba magawo a ubale sizili bwino. Zidzangokupatsani chizindikiro chokhala ndi zinthu mopambanitsa ndikupangitsa winayo kuthamanga kwina. Kuwuza mawu ndikuwongolera momwe wokondedwa wanu ayenera kutsogolera moyo wawo ndi mbendera yofiira yomwe mukubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri.

Anuradha akunena kuti khalidwe limeneli likhoza kupangitsa mnzanuyo kudzimva kuti ali wotopa kwambiri kapena wopanikizika, zomwe zingalepheretse kumanga ubale wokhalitsa.

5. Mumaika pachibwenzi posachedwa kwambiri ndikugwidwa mzimu mutabwera mwamphamvu kwambiri

Kugwiritsa ntchito zilembo ngati bwenzi kapena chibwenzi pakatha milungu ingapo mutalumikizana ndi munthu kutha kukhala kuti muli ndi mzukwa mutabwera mwamphamvu kwambiri. Ma tag nthawi zambiri amabwera ndi maudindo ndi maudindo. Kuzigwiritsira ntchito mwamsanga kungapangitse munthu winayo kudzimva kuti ali wotopa kapena wotayika, zomwe zimawasiya akudzifunsa kuti angauze bwanji wina kuti akubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri.

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6. Mumawatsata pa intaneti komanso pa intaneti

Ngati mupanga zinthu zomwe zimakupatsani mwayi wokumana ndi chikondi chomwe mwapeza nthawi zambiri kapena fufuzani m'masamba awo ochezera kuti mudziwe komwe ali komanso zomwe akuchita ndikufunsani za izi, mwayi ndiwe, mukubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri.

Kupanga chidaliro mu ubale, mosasamala kanthu za zaka kapena zatsopano zomwe ziri zofunika mtsogolo mwake. Mutha kuwononga mwayi wanu woti munthu wina akukhulupirireni ngati mutakhala wamphamvu kwambiri. Kupatula apo, kufunikira kokhazikika uku kumawonetsa zovuta zanu zomwe zingakupangitseni kukhala olemetsa.

7. Mukuyembekezera zambiri, posachedwa

Ngati mukuyembekeza kuti mnzanuyo akhale chilichonse chomwe mukufuna, ziribe kanthu momwe zofuna zanu zingakhalire zazing'ono, ganizirani ngati mbendera yofiira mukubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri.

Anuradha akunena kuti zoyembekeza zazikulu zosayembekezereka sizikhala bwino paubwenzi. "Nthawi zambiri, munthu sangazolowere kukumana ndi malingaliro ochulukirapo. Ngati kuchulukitsitsa kwamtima kumasuka, kungachititse kuti ayambe kusiya chifukwa sangathe kupirira," anawonjezera.

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8. Kupita poyera ndi ubale pa social media

Kutumiza zithunzithunzi zokongola za mushy, kuyika chithunzi chokongola kwambiri, kapena kulengeza za ubale pawailesi yakanema ndizovomerezeka pokhapokha ngati zigwirizana. Anuradha akuti, "Izi ziyenera kuchitidwa pokhapokha anthu awiri atakhala nthawi yochuluka pamodzi ndipo ali otsimikiza kuti ubalewu umawabweretsera chikondi ndi chitetezo. Ngakhale zili choncho, ndibwino kuti muyambe kufalitsa nkhani ku gulu lamkati la okwatirana - kuphatikizapo abwenzi awo ndi achibale awo - ndipo pokhapokha dziko liyenera kudziwitsidwa."

Malangizo 5 Opewa Kubwera Mwamphamvu Kwambiri

Ngakhale kumvetsetsa zovuta zomwe mumachita ndi gawo loyamba lofunikira, ndikofunikira kudziwa momwe mungapewere kukhala wamphamvu kwambiri. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mungachire bwanji kuti mukhale wolimba kwambiri ndi mtsikana / mnyamata, tabwera kuti tikuthandizeni.

Ngakhale kuti n’kovuta kudziwa mmene tingauze munthu kuti wayamba kuchita zinthu mwamphamvu kwambiri, chochepa chimene tingachite ndicho kudzifufuza tokha. Kuti izi zitheke, nazi malangizo 5 omwe angakuthandizeni kuti mupewe msampha wobwera mwamphamvu kwambiri:

1. Kudziwonetsa kuti mumvetsetse kachitidwe kanu

Kodi mungachiritse bwanji kuti mukhale wamphamvu kwambiri kwa mnyamata/msungwana? Kungoyang'ana pang'ono kumapita kutali. Anuradha akulangiza, "Nthawi yoti mupumule ndikudzifunsa zomwe mukufuna. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mumakonda kulowetsa zokonda zanu ndi mauthenga kapena njira zina zolankhulirana, dzifunseni, bwanji sindingathe kudikira kuti munthuyo ayankhe monga momwe amachitira nthawi yake?

Mayankho a mafunsowa adzakuthandizani kumvetsetsa chifukwa chiyani mumachita zokakamira muubwenzi watsopano ndi chifukwa chake mawu osalankhula amayambitsa kusatetezeka kwanu. Mukamvetsetsa chomwe chikuyambitsa, mutha kuyesetsa ndikuyika chizoloŵezi chanu chobwera mwamphamvu kwambiri kuti mupume bwino.

2. Yesetsani kuti musamayembekezere zinthu zambiri

Zoyembekeza nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa mavuto ambiri kwa munthu wina, zomwe zimawonjezera chiopsezo chokhala ndi mizukwa pambuyo pofika mwamphamvu kwambiri. Anuradha akuti, "Zoyembekeza zosayembekezereka komanso zowonjezereka zili ngati moto womwe umawutsa muubwenzi. Zomwe ziyenera kukhala kutentha pang'onopang'ono komwe kumafalikira ndi kukumbatira okwatirana awiri kumakhala moto umene umayatsa chiyanjano. Kuti mukhale ndi ubale wabwino, sungani ziyembekezo zenizeni, malinga ndi zimene munthu winayo angapereke/kupereka m’malo mwa zimene mukufuna.”

3. Musakhale opezeka kwambiri kuti mupewe kubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri

Chikhumbo chokhala ndi nthawi yanu yonse ndi wokongola wanu ndi chilengedwe mu ubale watsopano. Iyi ndi nthawi yomwe kuyesetsa kuti mukhale ogwirizana pakati pa magawo osiyanasiyana a moyo wanu ndikofunikira kwambiri. Mukufuna kukhala ndi mnzanu nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungapeze, musamapezeke kwambiri kwa mnzanuyo.

Muyenera kudziona kuti ndinu ofunika, ntchito yanu, ndi nthawi yanu. Khalani pamenepo, osati momwe munthu winayo angayambe kukutengerani mopepuka. Izi zitha kukhala zovutirapo kuti mugwire koma ndiye chinsinsi chowunikira momwe mungachiritsire kuti mukhale wamphamvu kwambiri kwa mtsikana / mnyamata.

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4. Osadzikakamiza ku moyo wawo

Dikirani kuti mnzanuyo amve kufunika kokhala nanu pafupi. Musayese kukhala nawo nthawi zonse kapena kuwakakamiza kuti mulowe m'moyo wawo. Ndiwo mtundu womwe umasonyeza kuti mukubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri ndikusiya munthu winayo akumva kuti ali ndi claustrophobic. Ndi bwino kucheza ndi anzake ochepa wamba pamodzi, koma dziwani malire anu ndipo musawapondereze.

5. Osalembapo zinthu msanga kwambiri

Kuyika zilembo paubwenzi ndi njira yabwino yodziwonera kukhala wotetezeka koma kuchita izi posachedwa kungakupangitseni kuwoneka ngati wokakamizika. Anuradha akulangiza, "Perekani nthawi yaubwenzi. Yesani ndikumvetsetsa momwe mnzanuyo akumvera. bwerezani kufunikira kwa malire chifukwa kuchedwa ndiko kufulumira kwatsopano."

Nthawi zonse ndikofunikira kuzindikira mbendera zofiira zomwe muli nazo muubwenzi wanu chifukwa nthawi zina zitha kukhala zomwe zingawononge ubale wanu. Ngati mwapeza kuti zizindikiro zomwe tazilemba zikugwirizana, dziwani kuti mumakonda kubwera mwamphamvu kwambiri kwa mnzanu ndipo yesetsani kusintha machitidwe anu.

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