(Maina asinthidwa kuti ateteze zidziwitso)
Ndine Divya, katswiri wochita bwino wa HR ndipo adasinthanso kukhala wakunyumba ndipo iyi ndi nkhani yanga ya momwe ndinadzimva kukhala wotsekeredwa muukwati wanga. Kukondana ndi mnyamata wokongola dzina lake Alok ku koleji kunachitika movutikira. Iye anali wokongola kwambiri ndipo ananena zinthu zonse zoyenera. Ndinamugwera mofulumira kwambiri ndipo tinaganiza zokwatirana.
Kukwatiwa naye kunali kosangalatsa kwambiri kuposa ntchito yomwe ndinaikonda kwambiri imene ndinapeza pakampani ina yapamwamba ya matelefoni. Miyezi yoyambilira ya ukwati inandipangitsa kumva ngati mfumukazi ndipo pasanathe miyezi khumi tinadalitsidwa ndi mwana wamkazi. Sindinaganizepo kuti tsiku lina ndidzamva ngati ndilibe banja losangalala.
Ndikumva Kutsekeredwa mu Ukwati Wanga
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Ndinali wokondwa kuti sindikanatha kusamalira mwana wathu wamkazi komanso kupita patsogolo mwachangu pantchito yanga. Pamene Alok ankakonda kundinyoza za zimene ndimachita tsiku ndi tsiku kuntchito, sindinkadziwa kuti amachita nsanje. Kenako anandiuza kuti ndisiye ntchito yanga n’kumaganizira za thanzi ndi chimwemwe m’banjamo. Poyamba sindinkafuna, koma ndinadzipereka chifukwa chomukonda.
Kusamalira mwana wathu wamkazi kunabweza chisonicho. Ndinkaganiza kuti zinali zokomera tonsefe kuti ndipereke zonse zomwe ndingathe ku banja lathu popanda zikhalidwe. Choncho ndinapita nawo popanda kukayika. Zomwe sindimadziwa ndikuti izi zidasintha kwambiri maubale oopsa.
Zinayamba ndi iye kupeza cholakwika m'zonse zomwe ndidachita ndikutsatiridwa ndi kudzudzula kosatha, mpaka ndidamva kuti sindikudziwa chilichonse. Wogwira ntchito bwino panyumba komanso katswiri wogwira ntchito posakhalitsa anakhala munthu wakale ndipo ndinayamba kukayikira ngati ndinali mkazi wabwino komanso mayi wachikondi. Ndimadzitsimikizira ndekha kuti ndikuwongolera bwino, koma kudzudzula kwa Alok ndi kudzikuza kwake zikanaphimba malingaliro anga omveka.
Ndinasiya kumufunsa
Podalira iye pa zosowa zanga zonse, ndinakhala chete ngakhale pamene ndinafuna kutsutsa. Kuchenjera kwanga kunatengedwa ngati wamantha ndipo khalidwe lake laukali linakula. Ngati mutu umandipweteka ndimayenera kuyima pakhonde m'malo momusokoneza ndi 'nkhope yanga yonyozeka' panthawi yomwe amaimba foni kapena akamaonera TV. Atatha kudya mgonero wake ndimayenera kupezeka kwa iye ndikumwetulira, ndipo kunena kuti sindikumva bwino sikunaloledwe. Sindinatenge nawo gawo pamasewera apaubwenzi, koma ndinali wotsogolera wosalankhula ndikumuthandiza posintha izi kukhala kudziwononga ubale.
Ndinazindikira kuti kundikakamiza kusiya ntchito yanga yotukuka kunali kudula mapiko anga ndi kundipangitsa kuti ndizidalira kwambiri iye. Makolo anga anampeza ali wanthabwala, ali ndi luso lotha kucheza ndi anthu. Sanandilole kufotokoza maganizo anga ponena za iye. Anali ndi aliyense m'banjamo - kuphatikizapo anzake - kudya kuchokera m'manja mwake ndipo palibe amene akanakhulupirira kuti sanali mwamuna wabwino kwambiri padziko lapansi. Ichi chinali chifukwa chinanso chimene chinandichititsa kuti ndiyambe kudzimva kuti ndili m’banja.
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Popeza ndinali m’banja loipa, ndinayamba kudzitaya ndekha
Kuchokera pakukhala msungwana wanzeru komanso wokongola ndinachepetsedwa kukhala kapolo. Ndinayenera kupatsidwa mimba katatu chifukwa Alok sankamasuka kugwiritsa ntchito chitetezo. Thupi langa lotopa ndi mzimu wosweka sizinalinso ngati mapiritsi ogona kwa iye. Posakhalitsa, kuvutika maganizo kunaonekera monga mutu waching'alang'ala ndi matenda ena. Katswiri wa zamaganizo anandipatsa mankhwala, zomwe zinayambitsa mavuto ambiri, kuphatikizapo kusalinganika kwa mahomoni.
Ngakhale kuti ndinali wosweka m'maganizo mwathupi lotha komanso lokongola, Shashank atakumana nane paphwando, ndimatha kuwona chiyembekezo chakumwetulira kwake. Unali msonkhano wovomerezeka wa kampani ya Alok ndipo ndinali wothedwa nzeru komanso wamantha. Ndinadabwa kuona message yochokera kwa Shashank pafoni yanga mawa lake. Zinanditengera masiku atatu kuti ndilimbe mtima kuti ndiyankhe uthenga waulemu umenewo.
“Simufunikira kukhalabe m’banja chifukwa chakuti anthu amakufunirani kutero.”
Kuyambira pamenepo timalumikizana mosamala kwambiri ndipo amadziwa zonse za kuvutika kwanga. Shashank ndi wamng'ono, akadali mosangalala osakwatiwa ndi wopenga mchikondi ndi ine. Ndimamupeza wosiyana kwambiri ndi Alok. Ndine wogawanika pakati pa udindo wanga waukwati ndi udindo, ndi mwayi wa moyo wamtsogolo ndi munthu wosamala, wodekha komanso wachikondi.
Mwayi wa aliyense wa banja langa kundithandiza kuti ndisudzulane ndi Alok ndi ziro. Ndikupitiriza kugonja ku zofuna zake ndikumva kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Kupita kwa mlangizi wa mabanja sikunathandize, m'malo mwake zangopangitsa Alok kukhala waukali. Ndikupitiriza, ndikuyembekeza kuti chozizwitsa chichitike kuti nditetezeke ndikupita kumalo komwe chikondi chonse ndi chikondi chomwe chikundiyembekezera chikhoza kugwera pa ine ndi mwana wanga wamkazi.
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Gaurav Deka ndi dokotala komanso psychotherapist wokhala ku Delhi. Tinakambirana naye za mmene zimakhalira kukhala wotanganidwa m’banja komanso mmene zingakuwonongereni mavuto. Yankho lake linali lotsatira:
Chifukwa chomwe timasankhira kukhalabe pachibwenzi chapoizoni ndi mantha: "Bwanji ndikatuluka ndipo zinthu zikuipiraipira?" Timalola kuti tizichitiridwa nkhanza chifukwa nthawi zonse timaopa 'kusintha'. Tikukhala m'malo opanda chilungamo omwe timanyozedwa tsiku lililonse, kuchitiridwa chipongwe komanso kuchitiridwa chipongwe - izi zimabweretsa kuperewera kwa chidaliro komanso kudzidalira. kudziyang'anira pansi. Nthawi zambiri, chifukwa cha kuzunzidwa mobwerezabwereza timatha kukhulupirira kuti mwina palibe amene angatikonde.
Lingaliro lofala kwambiri kwa munthu amene ali paubwenzi wovutitsa maganizo lingakhale lakuti, “Munthu ameneyu amandizunza koma amandipangitsa kukhala kosavuta kuti ndisabwerere. N’chifukwa chake anthu amasankha kukhalabe m’banja loipa.
Ndinali ndi wantchito amene ankabwera kudzandiuza kuti mwamuna wake amamumenya mosalekeza. Ndinapitiliza kumuuza kuti amusiye koma sanatero. Tsiku lina anabwera n’kundiuza kuti kundimenya kwasiya. Ndinamuyamikira, koma analira n’kunena kuti ali ndi mantha kwambiri tsopano mwamuna wake sakumumenya; zomwe zikutanthauza (kwa iye) kuti akhoza kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mkazi wina ndipo nayenso adapezapo umboni wachinyengo za zomwezo. Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika ku kudzidalira kwathu mu ubale wotere ndipo umu ndi momwe zimayambira - mumayamba kumva kuti muli muukwati.
Kumbukirani, pamene munabadwa, monga munthu munapatsidwa mphatso ya ‘ufulu wakudzisankhira’. Ndipo ufulu wosankha umangotanthauza 'kusankha'. Chitani chisankho chimenecho ndikupita patsogolo. Zoti munthuyu amakuchitirani nkhanza zilibe kanthu ndi inu. Ziyenera kuchita ndi 'iyemwini' ndi malingaliro ake opotoka a mphamvu ndi kudzikuza. Chifukwa chake musapatse aliyense mphamvu yakupangitsani kunena kuti 'Ndikumva kuti ndili muukwati wanga'. Tulukani ndikulandila moyo wabwinoko ndi munthu yemwe samakukondani komanso amakulolani kuti mupange zisankho zanu!
(Monga anauza Sanjeev Trivedi)
Ibibazo
Ngati mukumva kuti muli pachibwenzi, ndi nthawi yoti muyambe kukayikira ubale umenewo kuyambira pachiyambi. Kodi makhalidwe awo ndi chiyani ndipo asintha bwanji kuti akupangitseni kumva chonchi? Kodi ndinu omasuka kuposa wokondedwa? Ngati muli, ndiye kuti ndizotheka kuti awa ndi amodzi mwa zizindikiro za kupasuka kapena kuti muyenera kusankha uphungu.
Munthu sayenera kusintha kusakondwa m'mabanja kapena maubale. Inde, pali magawo ovuta omwe angakupangitseni kukhala otsika kwakanthawi koma kusasangalala kwanthawi yayitali ndikowopsa komanso chifukwa chodetsa nkhawa. N’kutheka kuti mwakakamira m’banja loipa pamenepo.
Ikasiya kukupangitsani kukhala munthu wabwino. Ngati banja lanu kapena mnzanu sakuwonjezera china chilichonse chamtengo wapatali pamoyo wanu kuti mukhale bwino, ndiye cholinga chake ndi chiyani? Sinkhasinkhani mozama ndipo ngati mukuona kuti muli m’banja, musazengereze kunena zomwezo.
Maganizo Final
Kudzimva kuti watsekeredwa m’banja ndi chochitika chenicheni ndi chopweteka, koma siuli wopanda mphamvu. Kaya mwa kulankhulana, kuyika malire, kufunafuna thandizo, kapena kupanga chisankho chovuta chochoka, chimwemwe chanu ndi moyo wabwino zimafunika. Akatswiri athu a ubale ikhoza kukuthandizani kuyendetsa malingaliro anu, kufufuza zosankha zanu, ndi kubwezeretsanso chisangalalo chanu.
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