Malangizo 15 a Momwe Mungalekere Kukhala ndi Mwamuna Wokwatira

Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wa munthu wina sikukumva bwino - mumamva m'mafupa anu. Mwinamwake mwakhala maola osawerengeka, osagona usiku mukudziuza nokha kuti muthetsa. Ndiye, iye amabwera, ndipo malingaliro onsewo amabwera mothamanga, zolankhula zonse zazitali zomwe mudazikonza m'mutu mwanu zimatha, ndipo kulingalira konse komveka kumawoneka kopanda ntchito. Apanso, mukupeza kuti mukulephera kudziwa momwe mungasiyire chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira.

Kuzungulira koyipa kumeneku kumatha kubwerezabwereza pang'onopang'ono, kukupangitsani kumva kuti mulibe mphamvu. Ngakhale kuti sizingamveke ngati choncho, muli ndi mphamvu yosankha zochita pa moyo wanu. Ngakhale zivute zitani, mungathe kupeza njira yothetsera chibwenzicho. Chinthu choyamba kuchitapo kanthu ndikukumana ndi vuto linalake lokhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira:

• Ziribe kanthu kuti akuwoneka wangwiro bwanji kapena momwe inu nonse muliri limodzi, ukwati wake udzakhala woyamba kuposa ubale wanu
• Muyenera kusunga ubalewo mobisa, zomwe zingakupangitseni kumva ngati chinsinsi chake chaching'ono
• Simungadalire kuti adzakhalapo kwa inu panthawi yomwe mukumufuna kwambiri, chifukwa chake sichingakhale ubale wabwino, wokhutiritsa, wabwino womwe muyenera
• Mothekera, ndi ubale wopanda tsogolo. Research akuti osakwana 25% mwa achiwembu amasiya zibwenzi zawo zoyambirira ndikuyamba chibwenzi. Ndipo 5 mpaka 7% yokha ya zinthu zomwe zimatsogolera ku ukwati

Pokhapokha ngati simuli bwino kuchitiridwa nkhanza mu ubale wanu wapamtima, kuchokapo ndikwabwino kwa inu. Tikudziwa kuti nzosavuta kunena kuposa kuchita koma tabwera kudzagwira dzanja lanu.

N'chifukwa Chiyani Akazi Amakonda Kugonana ndi Amuna Okwatirana?

Tisanakuuzeni mmene mungathetsere chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira, m’pofunika kumvetsa chifukwa chake akazi amagwa kwa anyamata okwatiwa. Kaya ndinu osakwatiwa kapena okwatiwa, si chinsinsi kuti mkangano wovutawu ndi njira yobweretsera tsoka lomwe likuyembekezera kuchitika (pokhapokha ngati wasunga chinsinsi cha ukwati wake—chimene chili vuto lina lalikulu lomwe liyenera kuthetsedwa mosiyana). Mwinamwake simunadziwonepo muli pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa ndikulandira ma tag monga mkazi winayo ndi wowononga nyumba, ndikudzipangitsa kukhala ndi zowawa zambiri komanso kusokonezeka maganizo.

Komabe, pano inu muli, mumkangano wovuta, kupeza njira yokonzera zosankha zanu. Ndipo simuli nokha. Malinga ndi a phunziro, 90% ya akazi ndi chidwi amuna amene amatengedwa, poyerekeza ndi 59% okha amene akufuna chibwenzi amuna ankadziwa kuti anali osakwatiwa. Chifukwa chiyani? Nazi zifukwa zomwe akazi ambiri amathera pachibwenzi ndi amuna okwatiwa:

• Kupha anzawo: Malinga ndi kafukufuku, kukongola kowonjezereka kwa amuna okwatira kungagwirizane ndi chibadwa chachibadwa cha kupha ziŵeto zimene zimachititsa akazi a mitundu ina kuti azikonda amuna amene anagonanapo kale ndi ena.
• Ubale Wosamalira Zochepa: Popeza kuti mwamuna wokwatira ali kale ndi moyo wathunthu, zofuna zake ndi ziyembekezo zake kuchokera pachibwenzi zimakhala zochepa kwambiri kusiyana ndi mwamuna wosakwatiwa yemwe ali ndi ndalama zambiri mu chiyanjano. Ubale wochepetsetsa uwu ukhoza kuwoneka wokongola kwa amayi omwe akufuna kugwirizana kwapamtima popanda kulowa
• Limbikitsani kudzidalira: Chisamaliro chochokera kwa mnyamata yemwe wadzipereka kale kumoyo wonse chingakhale chokometsera kwambiri ndi kulimbikitsa kwakukulu kwa kudzidalira.
• Chipatso choletsedwa: Kukopa kwa chipatso choletsedwa kwapangitsa anthu kudutsa malire amtundu uliwonse, kuyambira nthawi ya Adamu ndi Hava. Izi sizosiyana. The ubale wachinsinsi kungayambitse malingaliro amdima chifukwa cha chisangalalo ndi kuthamanga komwe kumakhudzidwa. Poona mmene zimenezo zingamvekere bwino, sizingawoneke ngati mukutayira nthaŵi mwamuna wokwatira
• Kutsimikizika kokwanira kuchita: Poganizira kuti ali wokwatira kale, pali umboni wotsimikizirika wakuti iye sali woopa kudzipereka, zomwe zingakhale zokopa zenizeni, zomwe zimakupangitsani kumva kuti mwadzipeza nokha mwamuna weniweni.
• Kukhutira pakugonana: Zomwe wapeza m'zaka zapitazi zikutanthauza kuti amadziwadi njira yake kuzungulira thupi la mkazi. Kugonana kodzutsa maganizo ndi mwamuna wokwatira, kokulitsidwa ndi chisangalalo chophatikizidwa ndi mbali ya chinsinsi, kungakuchititseni kukuchititsani khungu ku chenicheni chakuti kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira ndiko kutaya nthaŵi.

Chilichonse mwazifukwa izi ndi chokwanira kuti mukhale otanganidwa. Mfundo yakuti nthawi zambiri amakhala limodzi ingachititse kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri kukana chibwenzi, kukondana, ndi kugona ndi mwamuna wokwatira. Zikhale momwe zingakhalire, sizisintha mfundo yakuti ubalewu umadzaza ndi zovuta, ndipo ngakhale kuthamangira ndi chisangalalo, nthawi zambiri sikukwaniritsa. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndi bwino kuti musankhe bwino kusiya mwamuna wokwatira, mwamsanga, ndi bwino.

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Malangizo 15 Othetsera Chibwenzi ndi Mwamuna Wapabanja

Kuthamanga koyamba kwa chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira kumayamba kukhazikika, mukhoza kuyamba kuwona mbendera zofiira. Ndipo ndipamene mumayamba kudabwa momwe mungatalikitsire kwa iye. Mwinamwake, mwakhala mukuyesera kuchoka mu ubalewu kwa kanthawi tsopano koma malingaliro anu kwa iye ndi chiyembekezo cha chisangalalo-chotsatira-chotsatira chikulepheretsani. Kapena mwina, nthawi iliyonse mukamuuza kuti mukufuna kutuluka, iye amawongolera maganizo inu kuti musiye chisankho.

Mukhoza kuona ubale umenewu ndi mwamuna wokwatira sukupita kulikonse, koma akupempha mwayi womaliza, nthawi yowonjezereka, kapena kukuuzani kuti chikondi chanu ndi chomwe chimamupangitsa kuti apitirize. Nazi zina zomwe anganene mukangochokapo,

• Ine ndimakukondani inu, ndi inu nokha. Ubale wanga ndi mkazi wanga unatha kalekale ndipo mukudziwa
• Ndikadachoka kukakhala nanu mu kugunda kwa mtima pakadapanda ana. Chonde mvetsetsani. Ngati simutero, adzatero ndani?
• Ndikadatha, ndikhala ndi inu nthawi yanga yonse koma mukudziwa kuti ndili ndi zokakamiza. Ndingatani?
• Kukhala ndi inu ndiye njira yokhayo yopezera siliva m'moyo wanga wopanda vuto. Chonde musandichotsere izo
• Osawononga nthawi yaying'ono yomwe tili limodzi poganizira zam'tsogolo
• Tiyeni tingosangalala ndi zomwe tili nazo pano komanso pano

Akakupemphani kuti mukhalebe, mtima wanu ungasungunuke n’kukhala chithaphwi. Koma chowonadi chozizira, chovuta cha kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa ndi chakuti pamene kukankhira kumabwera kukankha, iye adzasankha banja lake/ukwati wake pa inu, kukusiyani m’dziko la zowawa. Pamapeto pake, muyenera kudziwa momwe mungasiyire chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira ndikumusiya. Bwanji kuchedwetsa zosapeŵeka? Chifukwa chiyani kumupatsa mphamvu yokoka pulagi? Pangani chisankho chosiya chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira ndikuyang'ana kwambiri kupitiriza mothandizidwa ndi malangizo 15 awa:

1. Dziyeseni nokha cheke chenicheni

Kodi mungasiye bwanji kukonda munthu amene ali pabanja, mukufunsa? Ndi nthawi kudzipatsa zenizeni cheke za zovuta za chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira. Kodi moyo wanu umakhala wotani chiyambireni pamene munalowa muubwenzi umenewu? Tikhoza kupanga malingaliro ophunzitsidwa:

• Umakhala wosungulumwa chifukwa iye sakhala nanu pamene umamufuna
• Mumadziimba mlandu chifukwa chosokoneza banja
• Mumadzipeza mukunena kuti, "Ndimakonda mwamuna wokwatiwa ndipo zimawawa"
• Mumavutika ndi kusweka mtima pokhala mkazi winayo

Zonsezi, ubale wanu umakupangitsani kukhala achisoni, oda nkhawa, komanso otsalira, odzaza ndi mphindi zochepa zachisangalalo ndi kukhutira. Mungadziuze kuti nthawi zosakhalitsazi ndi zofunika kwambiri ndi zowawa zonse zomwe mukukumana nazo. Koma m'mutu mwanu muli mawu ang'onoang'ono omwe amakupangitsani kugona usiku. Ndilo liwu la kulingalira. Mvetserani kwa izo. Ganizirani momwe moyo wanu unalili komanso momwe wakhalira.

Kodi ndinu okondwa kuchokera mkati? Kodi chikondi chenicheni chimamveka ichi? Kodi mungapezedi mosangalala kukhala ndi mwamuna wokwatira wina? Ngati yankho la mafunso amenewa ndi ayi, mukudziwa chimene chiri choyenera kuchita. Zingakhale zovuta koma ndi zabwino kwa aliyense amene akukhudzidwa. Vomerezani mfundo imeneyi. Ngati kuli kofunikira, dzikumbutseni mobwerezabwereza mpaka kuvomereza kulowe.

2. Dzikhulupirireni

Azimayi ambiri amalowa m’maubwenzi ndi amuna okwatiwa poganiza kuti zimenezi n’zoyenera. Mosazindikira amaganiza kuti sapeza wina ndikuyesera kukhazikika pazakudya za chidwi ndi chikondi chomwe wokondedwa wawo angapereke. Zitha kupangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kwambiri ngati ndichifukwa chake mudalowa mumwambowu, poyambirira.

Mwina, mwatero wakhala wosakwatiwa motalika kwambiri ndipo zinandivuta kukana zizoloŵezi za mwamuna wokwatiwa wokongola uja. Mwinamwake, mwamuna amene mumaganiza kuti anali chikondi cha moyo wanu anakwatiwa ndi munthu wina koma simunathe kulimbana nawo chifukwa chakuti mwatsimikiza kuti simungayambenso kukondana, osati ndi mphamvu ndi chilakolako chomwecho. Kapena munakakamira paubwenzi wosokonekera ndipo munayamba kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira.

Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, chinsinsi chothetsa ubalewu ndikutenganso ulamuliro wa moyo wanu ndikudzikhulupirira nokha. Dziuzeni kuti zabwino zikubwera ndipo simuyenera kunyengerera. Tsogolo lanu lidzakhala lowala kuposa mmene mukuganizira—mumangofunika kukonzekera.

Kusudzulana ndi mwamuna wokwatira kungakhale kosavuta ngati mutatsatira zikhulupiriro zanu zomwe zili ndi malire ndikuphunziradi kukhulupirira kuti mukuyenera kuchita bwino. Mukuyenera kukhala wotsogola kwa wina osati kungoganizira mongoganizira chabe. Chifukwa chake, musakhale ndi chilichonse chomwe mwamuna wokwatira angakupatseni m'dzina la chikondi ndi ubale.

3. Dziyikeni nokha patsogolo

Muyenera kudziika patsogolo. M’malo momanga moyo wanu mozungulira iye, ganizirani za tsogolo lanu ndi mtundu wa moyo umene mukufunira wekha. Kupatula apo, ndichifukwa chiyani muyenera kumupangitsa kukhala wofunika kwambiri pamoyo wanu pomwe inu muli kwinakwake m'mphepete mwake?

Kodi masomphenya anu amawoneka bwanji? Kodi mukufuna banja? Ana? Wokondedwa mungamutchule wanu? Tsopano dzifunseni, kodi mwamuna amene mukuchita naye chibwenzi adzatha kukupatsani moyo wa maloto anu? Ngati sichoncho, ndi nthawi yovomereza kuti iyi ndi a mgwirizano wakufa. Zilibe kanthu ngati iye ndi munthu wangwiro kwambiri inu munakumanapo kapena mmene mutu pamwamba chidendene mu chikondi inu, kapena ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira amene ali wosasangalala mu ukwati wake.

Ngati sangakhale gawo la moyo womwe mukufuna komanso woyenera, ubalewo udzakhala wodzaza ndi mkwiyo, posachedwa. Katundu wakukwiyira ndi wolemetsa moti amatha kumiza ngakhale zomangira zolimba kwambiri. Kumbukirani, tsogolo lomwe mukuliganizira nokha likhoza kuchitika pokhapokha mutalola. Kukumbukira mfundo imeneyi kungakuthandizeni kuti muyambe kuchitapo kanthu kuti mudziwe mmene mungasiyire chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira.

4. Yang'anani pomwe mulibe mkati

Chinsinsi chothetsa chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira chingakhale kudziwa chimene chinakukokerani poyamba. Nthawi zina, anthu amalowa m'mabwenzi kuti atseke chosowa m'miyoyo yawo. Kuti muthe kuchoka paubwenzi wosokoneza maganizo umenewu, choyamba muyenera kuzindikira chopanda chimene chikukudyani mkati.

Kupatula apo, kuchita ntchito yamkati kuti mupange chidziwitso kudzakuthandizani kuwona kuti ndinu okwanira nokha komanso kuti simuyenera kupirira zowawa za kukhala mkazi winayo Kungotsimikizira kwakanthawi kochepa komwe mumapeza nthawi iliyonse yomwe mnzanuyo asankha inu kuposa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu.

5. Ganizirani za zomwe chibwenzicho chikusoweka

Tonsefe timatsimikiza ziyembekezo za ubale kuchokera kwa anzathu. Kodi zanu zikukwaniritsidwa? Kuti musiye chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira, muyenera kusiya kuyang'anitsitsa zofiira zoonekeratu ndikuyamba kuvomereza zosowa zomwe "mnzanu" sangathe kuzikwaniritsa. Tengani cholembera ndi pepala ndikulembapo zinthu zomwe mwakhala mukuchita kuti ubalewu upitirire pakafunika kutero. Dzifunseni,

• Alipo pamene inu kumufuna kapena pamene kuli koyenera kwa iye?
• Kodi amayesetsa kukhala nanu nthawi zina zatchuthi ndi Loweruka ndi Lamlungu kapena ndi za banja limeneli?
• Kodi “mwaloledwa” kulankhulana ndi mnzanu pamene ali ndi mkazi wake?
• Kodi mwatsala nokha pamene akusangalala ndi moyo wake ndi mkazi wake?
• Kodi angakutulutseni pamasiku kapena tchuthi kapena ubale wanu uli pakhoma la malo anu kapena chipinda cha hotelo?
• Kodi mungadalire kuti iye adzakhala pambali panu pamene mukukumana ndi vuto?
• Kodi alipo kuti azikondwerera kupambana kwanu ndi kupambana kwanu?

Yang'ananinso kukumbukira za masiku onse osagona omwe mudakhala mukudetsa pilo ndi misozi pomwe mwina anali ndi nthawi yosangalatsa ndi mkazi wake. Kodi mungakhale mukudzimana zimenezi ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wosakwatira? Izi pomwe pali kuopsa kokhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira ndipo ndendende chifukwa chake muyenera kubwerera mmbuyo.

6. Yang'anani nazo, Inu ndinu mbuyanga kwa iye

Awa ndi mapiritsi ovuta kumeza koma ngati mukufunadi kuthetsa chibwenzicho, muyenera kuchitsuka nthawi yomweyo. Izi ndi zoona: Ndinu mbuye wake. Ndinu gudumu lachitatu m'moyo wa okwatirana. Ndiwe mkazi winayo. Ngakhale kuti adakupangitsani kukhulupirira kuti kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira yemwe sali wokondwa muukwati wake kapena kuti ukwati wake ndi wopanda chikondi / wosagwira ntchito / wosasangalala ndipo ndinu chikondi cha moyo wake, chowonadi chosasangalatsa ndi chakuti mwayi woti mutenge malo a mkazi wake ndi wochepa kwambiri.

Sadzamanganso nyumba ndi inu. Kapena mukhale ndi ana. Heck, sangavomereze poyera kuti mulipo. Ngati mungakumane naye ali kunja ndi banja lake, adzayang'ana pafupi ndi inu ngati nkhope ina yachilendo pakati pa anthu. Zotsatira zamalingaliro akukhala mkazi winayo zitha kusiya chiphokoso chokhazikika m'malingaliro anu, kukhala ndi moyo wabwino, komanso kudzikonda. Ganizirani ngati kuli koyenera kudzitaya nokha. Ayi? Kenako, yesetsani kuvomereza mfundo yakuti kuthetsa ubwenzi umenewu n’kwabwino kwambiri.

7. Funsani thandizo la akatswiri

Ngati mudayesapo kusiya maubwenzi ake m'mbuyomu koma mumamukonda kwambiri bwenzi lanu lachibwenzi mpaka mukupeza kuti mukubwerera kwa iye, kupempha thandizo la akatswiri kungakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa chibwenzichi ndikuwona chifukwa chake simungakwanitse. kuthetsa chibwenzi. Mwina, zomwe mumalakwitsa kukhala chikondi ndi ubale wopanda thanzi womwe umapangidwa ndi zovuta zamaganizidwe monga,

• Kusatetezeka
• Kudziyang'anira pansi
• Kalembedwe kolumikizidwa kosatetezeka
• Kusokonezeka kwa ana

Kufunafuna upangiri kapena kupita kuchipatala kungakuthandizeni kuwona bwino zomwe zikuchitika ndikuzikonza. Mukachotsa zomwe zimayambitsa ubalewu, kudziwa momwe mungasiyire chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira kumakhala kosavuta. Ngati mukuganiza zopeza chithandizo, alangizi aluso komanso odziwa zambiri Gulu la Bonobology zili pano chifukwa cha inu.

8. Lankhulani za m’tsogolo

Kudziwa zizindikiro zimene mwamuna wokwatira akugwiritsa ntchito kungakulimbikitseni kuchokapo. Pachifukwa ichi, muyenera kumveka bwino pomwe mukuyimira m'moyo wake. Choncho, m’malo momuuza kuti mukufuna kuchoka, muuzeni kuti mukufuna tsogolo limodzi. Kuti mwatopa kusunga ubwenzi pansi otsika, ndipo pamene inu kugwa m'chikondi ndi iye, m'pamenenso mukufuna kumanga moyo ndi iye. Mufunseni ngati ali wokonzeka kuchoka muukwati wake kuti akakhale nanu. Zotsatira zake zidzakuuzani zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa. Pokhapokha ngati yankho lake liri inde mosakayikira (zomwe, mosakayikira, sizingakhale), muyenera kukoka pulagi ndikusiya kugona ndi mwamuna wokwatira.

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9. Lekani kudzipatula kwa okondedwa anu chifukwa cha iye

Kuopsa kwina kokhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira n’kumadzimva ngati wake chinsinsi chaching'ono chonyansa. Popeza kuti ukwati wake uli pachiswe, sangafune kuti muziuza anthu kuti muli naye pachibwenzi. Kuyiwala iye, simungamve omasuka kulankhula za ubale wanu ndi aliyense, ngakhale mabwenzi anu apamtima ndi anthu a m'dera lanu lamkati, chifukwa cha mtundu wa chiweruzo mwina kukopa.

Popeza simungathe kuyankhula ndi okondedwa anu za ubale wofunikira kwambiri m'moyo wanu, mutha kuwasiya kuti mupewe mafunso aliwonse okhudza moyo wanu wachikondi. Izi zingakupangitseni kudzimva kukhala wosungulumwa kwambiri komanso wosungulumwa. Chifukwa chiyani mukuyika pachiwopsezo chachikulu paubwenzi womwe ulibe tsogolo? Ngati simukufuna kuti muthe kukhumudwa chifukwa cha mwamuna wokwatira, ndi nthawi yoti mutuluke m'malo omwe mwadzipangira nokha ndikuyambiranso kugwirizana ndi anthu omwe ali pafupi kwambiri ndi inu.

10. Kambiranani zothetsa banja

M’malo mongoganizira mmene mungasiyire chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira, ingokambiranani naye. Poganizira kuti mumamukondabe komanso amakukondani, sizingakhale zophweka kukambirana naye komaliza kuthetsa nkhaniyo. Malingana ngati simukuiwala chifukwa chake mukuchitira, mudzatha kuthetsa. Nazi zinthu zingapo zomwe muyenera kukumbukira mukauza wokondedwa wanu kuti mukufuna kupita patsogolo:

• Makamaka, chitani pamaso panu; osati pa mameseji kapena kuyimba foni chifukwa ndikosavuta kuti uthengawo utayike pomasulira. Makamaka ngati munamuuza kuti mukufuna kupita m'mbuyomu koma osachita nazo, mwina sangakuganizireni mozama pakuyimbira foni kapena mameseji.
• Molimba mtima koma modekha, muuzeni kuti mwatha
• Mukamuuza chifukwa chake mukufuna kuthetsa chibwenzi, gwiritsani ntchito mawu akuti 'Ine' kuti asamve kuti akuimbidwa mlandu kapena kumuimba mlandu. Kupatula apo, ngati mumadzipangira nokha, sangathe kukupangitsani kusintha malingaliro anu ndi malonjezo apamwamba.
• Mpatseni mpata woti anene nkhani yake koma musalole zimenezo zikusokonezeni
• Musatalikitse kukambirana kwanuko, kuopera kuti kungadzetse chilakolako chogonana komanso kugonana kwaukali - mungafune kupewa izi zivute zitani.
• Mukangonena zomwe muyenera kutero ndipo nayenso watero, chokani maganizo anu asanayambe

11. Musamakumane ndi mwamuna wokwatira amene muli naye pachibwenzi

Tsopano popeza munathetsa chibwenzicho, simuyenera kukumana ndi mwamuna wokwatira amene munali naye pachibwenzi n’kumuduladula. Ayi, "Mwadzuka?" mameseji pa 2 AM, osayang'ana malo ake ochezera a pa Intaneti ndikumva kuwawa akuyang'ana zithunzi zake zokondwa ndi mkazi wake, palibe mafoni "omaliza". Ngati simutseka zenera lolumikizana, pali mwayi wabwino kuti mutha kubwererana, koma mutha kupeza kuti mukufuna kusiya, zomwe zimayambitsa kusakhazikika kwabwino. ubale wobwereranso.

12. Lirani chisoni kutaika kwanu

Ubale wanu mwina sunakhale ndi sitampu yovomerezeka koma sizitanthauza kuti malingaliro anu anali enieni. Munamukonda munthuyu ndi mtima wanu wonse. Mwina nayenso ankakukondani. Kuthetsa ubalewu kungamve ngati wina wakufikira pakhosi, wapotoza matumbo anu, ndikuwatulutsa. Imvani kuchuluka kwa ululu wanu, ngakhale zikuwoneka zovuta bwanji, ndipo mverani chisoni kutayika kwanu mwanjira iliyonse yomwe mumamva kuti ndi yovuta kwambiri kwa inu.

• Ndikufuna kukhala pabedi kwa sabata kumvetsera nyimbo zopweteketsa mtima? Chitani izo
• Mukufuna kuponya mivi pa chithunzi cha mwamuna wanu ndi mkazi wake? Chitani izo
• Mukufuna kuwotcha chilichonse chomwe chimakukumbutsani za iye? Chitani izo

Osafuna kuthawa ululu m'njira zopanda thanzi monga kupeza chitonthozo pansi pa botolo kapena kugonana kobwerezabwereza. Chifukwa pokhapokha mutadziyika nokha mumsewu uwu, ululu woponderezedwa ndi malingaliro adzapeza njira yawo yobwerera, ndipo mukumva kuwawa kwawo, mudzapeza kuti mukufikiranso kwa iye.

13. Uzani bwenzi lanu lapamtima

Anzanu apamtima alipo okuthandizani kuti mubwererenso zikamamveka ngati mwagunda pansi. Ndipo zichitani popanda chiweruzo kapena malingaliro oyera kuposa inu. Monga Meredith akunena za Christina mu Gray's Anatomy, “Ndi munthu wanga, ngati nditapha munthu, ndi amene ndimamuitana kuti andithandize kukokera mtembowo pabalaza.”

Chifukwa chake, fikani kwa bwenzi lanu lapamtima, muwayimbireni, ndikutsanulira mtima wanu kwa iwo. Kuuza mnzanu wapamtima zakukhosi kwanu komanso kumuuza zakukhosi kwanu kungakupangitseni kumva kukhala wopepuka. Gawani momwe mwadzipatulira kuthetsa zinthu zabwino ndikuwapempha kuti akuthandizeni. Afunseni kuti akufufuzeni masiku angapo aliwonse kuopera kuti mungagonje ku mayesero anu. Mofanana ndi kutha kwina kulikonse, mumafunikira chichirikizo chamaganizo kuti muthetse chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira. Mnzako wapamtima ndiye yekha amene angapereke.

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14. Bwererani ku moyo wanu wakale

Tsopano popeza mwazindikira bwino momwe mungasiyire chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatira, ndi nthawi yoti muwonetsetse kuti mukupita patsogolo m'moyo ndipo musamangokhalira kumudalira. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kubweza umunthu wanu wakale ndi moyo wanu wakale. Nazi njira zina zomwe mungachitire izi:

• Lumikizananinso ndi anzanu apamtima komanso abale. Muzicheza nawo kuti muzikumbukira kuti mumakondedwa komanso mumakondedwa
• Pitani kokagula ndi atsikana anu ndikugula diresi lomwe limakupangitsani kukhala achigololo komanso kudzimva bwino
• Yang'ananinso zokonda zakale zomwe munazinyalanyaza kuti mupeze nthawi ya ubale wanu
• Ikani patsogolo kudzisamalira. Idyani thanzi, masewera olimbitsa thupi, magazini, dzisamalireni nokha

Kukhala ndi moyo wathunthu ndikuzindikira kuti ndinu okwanira kudzatsegula njira yoti muvomereze kuti mukuyenera kukhala ndi mnzanu yemwe angakupangitseni kukhala patsogolo osati mawu am'munsi.

15. Bwezeraninso moyo wanu wachikondi

Patapita nthawi kuchokera pamene munathetsa zinthu ndi mwamuna wokwatira, ndi nthawi yoti mutengenso moyo wanu wachikondi. Ngati muli pabanja, gwiritsani ntchito mwayi umenewu kuti muyambitsenso ubwenzi wanu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndipo yesetsani kulimbitsa ubwenziwo. Ngati ndinu osakwatiwa, nthawi yakwana yambaninso chibwenzi. Lowani pa pulogalamu ya zibwenzi, kukumana ndi amuna mwanjira yachikale - fikirani momwe mukufunira koma dziyikeni nokha.

Mukapeza munthu yemwe amakupangitsani kuti mtima wanu udumphe, yesetsani kuti mulumikizane naye. Ndipo musanadziwe, kupweteka, kudziimba mlandu, ndi manyazi a chibwenzi ndi mwamuna wokwatiwa adzakhala kumbuyo kumbuyo kwa moyo kotero kuti mukhoza kuyang'ana ngati phunziro popanda kunjenjemera kapena kudzimenya nokha.

Maganizo Final

Poyamba, zingawoneke zosatheka kuthetsa malingaliro anu ndikuthetsa zinthu ndi mwamuna yemwe mumamukonda kwambiri koma yemwe, mwatsoka, amakhala wokwatira. Koma mukangophunzira kusiya kuyang'ana kwa iye kwa inu nokha, njira yodzimasula nokha idzayamba kumasuka pamaso panu. Mull kulimba mtima kutenga sitepe yoyamba ndipo mudzapeza njira, tikulonjeza.

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