Kukhala ndi vuto m'banja ndi kofala kwambiri. Chilakolako chimatha, chisamaliro chimatha, chikondi chimawulukira pawindo, ndipo kulumikizana kumangokhala pazomwe ziyenera kuchitidwa kapena kukhazikitsidwa. Kuneneratu kumatengera mbali zonse zaubwenzi, kotero kuti okwatirana amadutsana muholo kapena kukhitchini popanda kumwetulira ndi kuyang'ana maso. Pamene mtunda wa maganizo uyamba kukula, mungadzifunse kuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga sakundikondanso?”
Kodi izi zikumveka ngati zodziwika bwino? Kodi maso anu amatupa ndi misozi pamene mukukumbukira za masiku anu akale pamene munali m’banja kumene ndipo munalephera kusungana manja? Kodi nthawi zambiri mumadabwa zomwe zinachitika? N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna amasiya kukonda mkazi wake? Zimenezi zikachitika, kodi mungatani kuti muthetse vutolo? Tiyeni tifufuze ndi kukambirana zizindikiro ndi zifukwa zimene mwamuna kutaya chidwi ndi mkazi wake ndi chimene chingachitidwe kupulumutsa ubwenzi pamene kufika siteji.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Ukwati ndi zonse zosangalatsa ndi kugonana mu gawo laukwati ndipo ndizodabwitsa kugawana moyo wanu ndi munthu amene mumamukonda. Komabe, sizikhala choncho nthawi zonse. Osati popanda kuyesetsa mozindikira komanso kosalekeza kuchokera kwa okwatirana onse, mulimonse. Zotsatira zake, kugwirizana pakati pa inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kungayambe kufota, ndikukusiyani ndi malingaliro akuti "mwamuna alibe chidwi ndi ine".
Zingakhale chifukwa chakuti mwakhala mukuona kuti mwamuna wanu sakufuna kugonana, safuna kulankhulana, kapena sakonda kucheza nanu. Chidziwitso chilichonse chotere chokhudza momwe ubale wanu chilili chikuyenera kufufuzidwanso chifukwa nthawi zambiri lingaliro ili la cholakwika mu ubale wanu silikhala lopanda maziko - ngakhale simungathe kuyika chala pa nkhani yeniyeni. Zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti mwamuna alibe chidwi ndi mkazi wake zingakuthandizeni kudziwa momwe chibadwa chanu chilili cholondola:
- Mwamuna wanu akuwoneka kuti alibe chidwi cholankhula nanu
- Sanenanso zosoŵa zake, zofuna zake, ndi zokhumba zake
- Ndipo amanyalanyaza zanu
- Iye alibe chikondi pa inu
- Mwamuna wanu sakufuna kugonana kapena ubwenzi wamtundu uliwonse, kukuchititsani kuganiza kuti, “Mwamuna wanga sandikonda”
- Ali paubwenzi wodzipereka kwambiri ndi foni yake kuposa inu
- Amakonda kuthera nthawi yake yopuma ndi abwenzi ake kapena kuchita zomwe akufuna, ndipo simunaitanidwe kuti mutenge nawo mbali pa izi.
- Simungathenso kumudalira
- Kusonyeza chikondi ndi kuyamikira kwakhala kulibe mu ubale wanu
- M’malo mwake, mwamuna wanu nthaŵi zonse amadzudzula chilichonse chimene mukunena kapena kuchita
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Zingakhale zosokoneza kugwirizana ndi zizindikiro za mwamuna wosakondweretsedwa ndi mkazi wake. Zimenezi zikachitika, mungadzifunse kuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna safunanso mkazi wake? Si zachilendonso kutaya chiyembekezo pamene sungathe kugwedeza malingaliro akuti “mwamuna wanga sandisonyeza chidwi”. Izi n’zimene zinachitikira mnzanga wina dzina lake Margaret, yemwe ndi katswiri wa HR komanso mayi wa ana awiri.
Nthawi zambiri ankalankhula mwaukali kuti: “Mwamuna wanga wasiya kundikonda, sitikhalanso n’kumangocheza ngati mmene tinkachitira poyamba, sakuoneka kuti sakufuna kuchita nane zinthu, ngakhale kuti iye ndi bambo wamkulu kwa ana athu, koma iye wakhala wofunika kwambiri. m'maganizo mwamuna wanga. Inde, izi zakhudza ubwenzi pakati pathu. N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga sakufunanso kundikonda pankhani ya kugonana?”
Pamene uku kunakhala kukambitsirana kobwerezabwereza, ndinapereka lingaliro lakuti akanakhala ndi mwaŵi wabwinopo wopeza mayankho ngati atalankhula ndi mwamuna wake za mavuto amene anali kuyambika m’banja lawo m’malo mongoulula kwa mabwenzi ake. Atachita zimenezi, zinapezeka kuti mwamuna wake wasanduka chigoba chifukwa chakuti nthaŵi zambiri amapeza Margaret kukhala wotanganitsidwa kwambiri ndi ntchito, kulera ana, ndi mathayo apakhomo kapena kukhala wothera m’maganizo kwambiri kumapeto kwa tsiku kotero kuti athe kugwirizana nayedi.
Monga momwe mukuonera, kusowa kwa mwamuna kwa mkazi wake sikopanda chifukwa. Ndiye ngati mukudabwa kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga alibe chidwi ndi ine?", Kapena mukufuna kuyankha kuti, "Ndingapange bwanji mwamuna wanga kuti andifune?", Yambani kumvetsetsa zomwe zabweretsa kusinthaku. Kuti izi zitheke, nazi zifukwa zazikulu 8 zomwe zimapangitsa kuti abambo asakhale ndi chidwi ndi akazi awo:
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1. Mumamupanga kukhala ndi udindo pa chimwemwe chanu
“N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga wasiya kundikonda?” Ngati mumadzifunsa funsoli nthawi zambiri, ganizirani mozama za kulemera kwa zomwe mukuyembekezera mu chiyanjano. Kodi mwamuna wanu wakhala maziko a chilengedwe chanu? Kodi mukufuna kukhala pakati pa iye?
Pamene mwamuna wanu nthaŵi zonse amadziona ngati ali ndi thayo la chimwemwe chanu ndikupeza kuti kaŵirikaŵiri mumakhumudwitsidwa, achisoni, kapena oipidwa naye, mosasamala kanthu za khama lotani limene aika muunansiwo, iye angayambe kubisa malingaliro ake. Mungayambe kuona zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti “mwamuna wanga samandikonda” monga,
- Kusalankhulana
- Kunyalanyaza mafoni anu
- Kufuna malo aumwini ambiri kuposa kale
- Osayika patsogolo kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino ndi inu
The chinsinsi cha banja losangalala ndikuzindikira kuti pamene mnzanuyo angalemeretse moyo wanu, iwo (kapena palibe wina aliyense) angakhale ndi udindo wa chimwemwe chanu. Ntchito imeneyo ikugwerani inu. Mukadzaphunzira kukhala wosangalala, zidzasonyezanso khalidwe la mwamuna wanu. Ndani ankadziwa kuti yankho la mmene mungasangalalire mwamuna wanu lingaphatikizepo kukhala ndi unansi wabwino ndi inuyo?
2. Simusamalanso momwe mumawonekera
N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna amasiya kukonda mkazi? Makamaka, ngati mukudzifunsa kuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga sakufuna kugonana nane?”, yankho lingakhale mmene mumaonekera, mmene mumamvera komanso mmene mumaonekera. Mwina mwasiya kudzisamalira nokha ndipo izi zitha kukhala zosokoneza momwe amakufunirani.
Zinthu monga zaka, ana, ntchito zaukatswiri komanso zaumwini, komanso kupsinjika kumatha kukulepheretsani kudziyang'ana nokha monga momwe munachitira mudali osakwatiwa kapena kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mwamuna wanu. Ngakhale kukongola komanso kudziona kuti ndinu wofunika sikukhala kozama, momwe mumawonekera - komanso momwe mumadzionera nokha - zimakhudza kusintha kwa ubale wanu ndi mwamuna wanu.
Mwina simukuzindikira koma mwina mwapindula kulemera pambuyo paukwati kapena ma buns osokonekera ndi zovala zogonera zomwe mumakhala nazo zakhudza momwe mumadzikondera, ndipo mumadzimvera chisoni pathupi lanu. Izi ndizoyenera kumasulira momwe mumalumikizirana ndi mwamuna wanu. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuda nkhawa chifukwa mwamuna wanu sakufuna kugonana kapena kulumikizana nanu m'malingaliro, kuyika ndalama mu TLC kungathandize kusintha zinthu pakati panu.
3. Mumadandaula kwambiri ndikulankhula mochepa
Ndi Loweruka madzulo. Ana akugona. Mwasankha kumwa mowa kapena ziwiri. Ndipo muli ndi nthawi yolankhula. Mukukambirana chiyani? Muli bwanji wanu apongozi wakhala kwa inu? Mavuto ndi mikangano kuntchito? Kudandaula za momwe bwenzi liri patchuthi pamene inu muli mumsampha ndi maudindo?
Ngati ndi choncho, muli ndi yankho lakuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga wasiya kundikonda? Kuti musinthe zinthu ndi kukulitsanso chidwi chake, lingalirani zoyenda pansi ndikukambirana za nthawi zabwino zomwe mudakhala nazo limodzi nthawi ina nonse mukakhala ndi nthawi "ife". M'malo modandaula kuti moyo wanu wakhala wotopetsa, konzekerani tchuthi chanu china.
Funsani mwamuna wanu za momwe zinthu zikuyendera kuntchito. Mwina, phikani limodzi kapena kambiranani za chuma kapena kambiranani za geopolitics. Kapena, mukudziwa, m’malo modandaula kuti mwamuna wanu sakufuna kugonana, bwanji osatsogolera n’kunyengerera?
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4. Simuyamikira zinthu zimene amakuchitirani
N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna amasiya kukonda mkazi wake? Chifukwa chake chingakhale chophweka monga momwe amatopa ndikuyesera kuchita zomwe angathe koma osamva ngati kuyesetsa kwake kuli bwino. Anthu onse amafuna kuyamikiridwa nthawi ndi nthawi. Ngati mumanyoza mwamuna wanu chifukwa cha zinthu zomwe amalakwitsa koma osayamikira zomwe amakuchitirani, akhoza kusiya kuyesetsa. Ichi mwina ndichifukwa chake mukungodzifunsa kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga alibe chidwi ndi ine?"
Kuti mupewe kusoŵa chidwi kumeneku kuti zisakule mpaka kufika powononga ukwati wanu, fufuzani mozama ndi kuona ngati apa ndi pamene mwasoŵeka. Ngati ndi choncho, phunzirani kuchita yamikirani mwamuna wanu. Muthokozeni chifukwa chakupangitsa moyo wanu kukhala wosavuta m'njira zake. Mpatseni zolemba zingapo za 'zikomo' apa ndi apo.
Mayi wina wosudzulidwa posachedwa, yemwe adasiya mwamuna wake chifukwa chosasamala, adagawana zodandaula zake ndi Bonobology. Patatha zaka zingapo ali m’banja, mwamuna wake anasiya kuchita zinthu zazikulu zachikondi monga kumudabwitsa ndi mphatso zodula kapena maholide apamwamba koma izi sizinatanthauze kuti sanali kumusamala kapena kumukonda.
M'moyo wake watsopano wosakwatiwa, akuti amaphonya momwe mwamuna wake amada nkhawa nthawi zonse kaya atafika kunyumba kapena ayi. Amakumbukira mmene ankamukondera akakhala kuti sakupeza bwino kapenanso mmene ankamvera akamakwiya. Musanyalanyaze manja ang'onoang'ono chifukwa chakuti sakugwirizana ndi lingaliro lanu la kuyesetsa mu chiyanjano. Monga mukudziwira, kulimbitsa thupi kumeneku kungakhale chinsinsi chopangitsa kuti banja lanu likhale losangalala.
5. Nthawi zonse mumamunyoza
N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna amasiya kukonda mkazi wake? Kukangana kosalekeza muubwenzi kungakhale chifukwa. Ngati mwamuna wanu sachita zinthu mmene mukumuyembekezera, kumangokhalira kukakamirana sikungathandize kuti zinthu zisinthe. M'malo mwake, kutopa kuchita ndi a mkazi wovuta adzakukwiyitsani mwamuna wanu, ndipo angayambe kukucokerani. Tsopano, sitikunena kuti izi zikutanthauza kuti mwamuna wanu sayenera kugawana katundu wanu.
Koma m’malo momukakamiza kuti achite zinthu mwanjira inayake kapena panthaŵi inayake, pangani malo ndi malo okwanira m’banja mwanu kuti mum’tsogolere kuthandizira ukwatiwo m’njira imene akuona kuti n’koyenera. Osakakamiza mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kuti aganizire za momwe mukuyembekezera kuti zinthu zidzachitike, lolani kuti akuwonetseni lingaliro lake lothandizira m'banja. Tengani izo kuchokera pamenepo.
Zili bwino ngati iye ndi wophika wokonda kapena satha kusamba bwino mbale. Mwina, amaonetsetsa kuti azigwiritsa ntchito Lamlungu m'mawa kuti atsimikizire kuti muli ndi zonse zomwe mungafune kuti mudutse sabatayo bwino. Kotero, yamikirani izo. Ngati mukufunikira kubweretsa chisamaliro chake ku madera omwe akuyenera kugwirirapo ntchito, chitani momangirira. Apo ayi, mukhoza kuona zizindikiro za mwamuna alibe chidwi ndi mkazi. Mwachitsanzo, angapewe kulankhula nanu chifukwa akudziwa kuti mawu ena otukwana akubwera.
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6. Mumasangalala ndi ndalama zake pamaso pa abwenzi kapena achibale
N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna amasiya kukonda mkazi? Chifukwa chimodzi chodziwika bwino cha izi chikhoza kukhala chonyozeka muubwenzi. Ngati mupeputsa zolakwa ndi zolakwa za mnzanu pamaso pa ena, simungamunene konse chifukwa cha kusoweka kwa mgwirizano wamaganizo m'banja lanu. Kuuza mwamuna wanu zolakwa za mwamuna wanu pamaso pa anthu, ndiyeno kuchirikiza zimenezo ndi mawu onga akuti, “Sangalalani, ndi nthabwala chabe” kapena “Sindinatanthauze zimenezo” kungakhale kovulaza kwambiri ubwenzi wanu kuposa mmene mukuganizira.
Kuseka mwamasewera ndi chinthu chimodzi, kukhala wankhanza chifukwa cha kusatetezeka kwake. Zingakhale zochititsa manyazi kwa mwamuna wanu pamene mukumugwetsa pansi ndi kumunyoza pamaso pa mabwenzi kapena achibale. Kumuwombera motchipa kumangomupangitsa kuti akhale kutali ndi inu. Izi zidzamulepheretsanso kugawana nanu zofooka zake m'tsogolomu komanso adzatero kuwononga ubwenzi wa ukwati wanu. Kutalikirana kwamalingaliro kumeneku kungawonekere m'njira zambirimbiri.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati nthawi zambiri mumadabwa kuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga sakufuna kugonana nane?”, yankho lingakhale chifukwa chakuti amadziona kuti ndi wosalemekezedwa ndiponso wosafunika. Kuti mupulumutse ubale wanu, muyenera kuika ulemu patsogolo pa chiyanjano.
7. Zomwe mumaika patsogolo zasintha
Ana akhalidwe labwino, ovala bwino. Nyumba yokongola, yoyera komanso yaudongo. Keke mu uvuni. Misonkhano. Masiku omalizira. Kukwezeleza. Kuwongolera ntchito zapakhomo ndi zamaluso, komanso kukhala ndi moyo wabwino wantchito kungakhale kovutirapo. Komabe, ngati zinthu zimenezi zili zonse zimene mumaganiza ndi kuzilankhula, mungakhale mukukankhira mwamuna wanu kutali mosadziŵa.
Pamene muli pano mukudandaula kuti, “Mwamuna wanga safuna kukhala pachibwenzi ndi ine”, kapena kudabwa kuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga wasiya kundikonda?”, mwina, mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu amamvanso chisoni kwambiri chifukwa chosiya zinthu zofunika kwambiri pamoyo wanu. Moyo ndi wofuna kupanga bwino. Ukwati wanu ndi wofunika mofanana ndi ubwino wa ana. Mukungofunika kupeza yanu zinthu zofunika kwambiri kuti banja liziyenda bwino ndicholinga choti.
8. Nonse mukukhala ndi moyo wovutitsa wantchito
N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna amasiya kukonda mkazi wake? Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zake n’chakuti pofuna kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo zaukatswiri, okwatirana nthawi zambiri amakhala osamvana. Kuvuta kwa akatswiri kumatha kulowa m'nyumba mwanu ndikutengera moyo wanu. Kudzipereka pantchito nthawi zina kumatha kuposa malonjezo omwe mumalonjeza inuyo ndi okondedwa anu.
Malonjezo osakhazikika awa komanso ziyembekezo zosasinthika zitha kuwonjezera pakapita nthawi ndikuwononga ubale wanu ndi mnzanu. Kuti muthane ndi zovuta zotere, ndikofunikira kuti onse awiri azikhala oona mtima ndi kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake. Apo ayi, chiopsezo cha kutengeka padera ndi zenizeni.
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Tsopano popeza mwadziwa yankho la funso lakuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga sandikonda?”, dongosolo lotsatira la bizinesi likulingalira ngati n’zotheka kutsitsimutsanso unansi wanu ngakhale pamene ukwati ukuwoneka kuti wagunda pansi ndipo ngati ndi choncho, motani. Chabwino, choyamba uthenga wabwino: bola ngati pali chikondi ndi ulemu muubwenzi ndipo ukwati wanu sunawonongeke. poizoni, nkhanza, kapena kupusitsa, ndizotheka kuthetsa nkhani zanu.
Komabe, zidzatengera khama lokhazikika komanso cholinga champhamvu kuchokera kwa onse awiri kuti apeze njira yoti agwirizane. Musalole kuti maganizo onga akuti, “Mwamuna wanga safuna kukhala nane” kapena “Mwamuna wanga safuna kukhala pachibwenzi” kukufooketsani. M'malo mwake, sinthani malingaliro akuti, "Ndingapange bwanji kuti mwamuna wanga andifunenso?" Yesani malangizo awa kuti mukonze ubale wanu ndi mwamuna wanu:
1. Lankhulani ndi mwamuna wanu kuti adziwe vuto
Ngati mwamuna wanu wakhala kutali ndipo alibe chidwi ndi inu, musaganize kuti ndi chifukwa chakuti sakukhutira ndi moyo wanu wogonana ndikuyamba kufunafuna yankho, "Ndingasangalatse bwanji mwamuna wanga pabedi?" M’malo mwake, yesetsani kupeza gwero la nkhaniyo, ndipo njira yabwino koposa yochitira zimenezo ndiyo kulankhulana momasuka ndi mowona mtima ndi mwamuna wanu.
- Kodi akumva kuti muli mu banja losasangalala?
- Kodi akumva kuti sanamve?
- Kodi zosowa zake sizikukwaniritsidwa?
- Kodi wakwiya/wakhumudwa/wakhumudwa chifukwa cha zinazake?
Mukazindikira vuto lomwe likukankhira mwamuna wanu kutali ndi inu, mutha kuthana nalo bwino. Chifukwa chake, ngati mukuganiza momwe mungapangire mwamuna wanu kukhala ndi chidwi ndi inu, dongosolo loyamba la bizinesi ndikumvetsetsa momwe amaonera zinthu kudzera mukulankhulana momasuka.
2. Gwirani ntchito limodzi pazinthu zanu
Ndipange bwanji kuti mwamuna wanga andifune, mukudabwa? Eya, pamene mwadziŵa chimene chikuchititsa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kuti asakhalenso nanu, ndi bwino kuyesetsa kuthetsa vutolo. Muyenera kudumpha ndi mapazi onse awiri, kuyika ndalama muukwati wanu monga momwe munachitira mutangoyamba ulendowu, ndikugwira ntchito limodzi monga gulu. Kugwira ntchito mogwirizana kulinga ku cholinga chimodzi chopangitsa ukwati wanu kukhala wabwinoko kungathandize kulimbitsa ubale wanu ndi mwamuna wanu. M'kupita kwa nthawi, zidzathandiza kuchepetsa nkhawa monga "mwamuna wanga sandikopa".
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3. Ngati simukuyenda nokha, yesani chithandizo
Ngati zokambilana zimene mumacheza nazo zisanduka mikangano ndipo mukulephera kufotokoza chifukwa chimene mwamuna wanu sakufuniraninso chidwi, mwina uphungu waukwati angathandize. Pamene mlangizi waukwati wodziwa ntchito ali nawo, mudzatha kutchula mavutowo ndikuzindikira njira zolakwika zomwe nonse mukuwonetsa, ndipo mudzadziwa zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti muthetse vutoli.
Therapy imapereka malo otetezeka kuti akambirane mozama nkhani ndikuzithetsa motsogozedwa ndi akatswiri. Zina, ndithudi, zimadalira inu. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mukufuna thandizo kuti mupulumutse banja lanu, Upangiri wa upangiri wa Bonobology muli ndi inu kuchokera ku chitonthozo cha nyumba yanu.
4. Yesetsani kulimbitsa ubale wanu
Zizindikiro za mwamuna wosakondweretsedwa ndi mkazi zimatha kuipiraipira pakapita nthawi, ndipo kusowa kwake chidwi ndi inu ndi ubale kungawononge tsogolo lanu limodzi. Kuti muthe kupulumutsa ubale wanu, muyenera kuyambira pazoyambira ndikuyesetsa kulimbitsa ubale wanu. Ngati mwamuna wanu sakufuna, yesani kutsogolera ndi kumusonyeza mmene amakufunirani zabwino. Nazi zinthu zingapo zomwe mungayesere:
- Konzani mausiku amasiku, kuyambira kamodzi pa milungu iwiri iliyonse, ndiyeno pangani izi kukhala gawo la sabata
- Funsani mwamuna wanu kuti aziyenda pambuyo pa chakudya chamadzulo ndipo mugwiritse ntchito nthawiyi kukambirana za tsiku lanu
- Muziyesetsa kukhala ndi nthawi yokumbatirana ndi mwamuna wanu musanagone
- Khalani ndi chizolowezi chonena kuti 'zikomo', 'chonde', ndi 'ndimakukondani' nthawi zambiri
5. Yesani zinthu kuchipinda
Ngati kutha kwa mwamuna wanu kukuchititsani kulimbana ndi funso lakuti, “N’chifukwa chiyani mwamuna wanga sakufuna kugonana nane?”, yankho lingakhalenso m’kutengera nkhaniyo m’manja mwanu.
- Atsogolere kuchipinda
- Tulutsani zovala zamkati zachigololo zomwe zakhala zikusonkhanitsa fumbi kuyambira nthawi yaukwati (kapena gulani zogonana)
- Yesani yatsopano malo ogonana
- Yesani ndi zoseweretsa ndi zina
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- Mukudziwa kuti muyenera kutero mukayamba kuwona zizindikiro monga kuchepa kwa kulumikizana ndi kulumikizana kwamalingaliro, kunyalanyazidwa, kutayika kwaubwenzi, komanso kudzudzula kwakukulu ndi kuweruza.
- Kuyambira kudzimva kukhala wosamvedwa, wosayamikiridwa, ndi wosalemekezedwa mpaka kuzunziridwa kosalekeza ndi kusachitidwa kudziona kukhala chinthu chofunika kwambiri, pangakhale zifukwa zambiri zimene mwamuna angasiye kukondweretsedwa ndi mkazi wake.
- Mutha kukonza izi ndikutsitsimutsanso ubale wanu poyeserera kulankhulana momasuka, kuzindikira ndi kuthetsa vutolo, kufunafuna thandizo la akatswiri, ndikuyesetsa kulimbikitsa chikondi ndi kugonana.
Kuwona wokondedwa wanu akuchoka pang'onopang'ono kutali ndi inu ndi mtundu wa ululu umene umakupangitsani inu kulephera kusankha kusuntha kwina. Pamene chisokonezo chikugwirani mwamphamvu pa inu, musachite mantha kupempha thandizo. Kambiranani moona mtima ndi mnzanuyo, ndipo muwadziwitse kuti ndinu wokonzeka kupereka zonse zomwe zimafunika kuti muthe kukwera nawo mpaka kumapeto.
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Ine ndi mwamuna wanga takhala limodzi kwa zaka zoposa 25. Ndimaganizabe kuti ndiye mwamuna wogonana kwambiri yemwe ndidamuwonapopo ndipo ndi wamkulu kwa ine zaka 18. Nthawi zonse amatopa akachoka kuntchito. Amagwira ntchito molimbika. Koma ndimayesetsa kumudziwitsa tsiku ndi tsiku momwe ndimamuyamikirira komanso zonse zomwe amandichitira. Sindimagwira ntchito chifukwa amakonda kusamalidwa, ndimamuvula nsapato, ndikukonza mbale yake pa chakudya chamadzulo ndikumubweretsera chilichonse chomwe akufuna akamaonera TV. Ndimakonda kumusamalira, chifukwa amandiwononga. Chilichonse chomwe ndikufuna, ndimalandira. Tinali ndi nthawi yakutali kwambiri yolera ana athu, panalibe aliyense wokwanira kuti tifike kwa ife. koma tonse timagwira ntchito zapakhomo & kusamalira ana. Tsopano iwo akula & ndi ife basi kachiwiri. Nthawi zonse takhala tikudzipereka ku moyo wathu komanso banja lathu. Ndipo id kuchita chilichonse kuti amusangalatse, ndikuganiza kuti adzachitanso chimodzimodzi kwa ine. Takhala tikunena nthawi zonse pamene sitikupeza zomwe timafunikira.
Nthawi zonse ndikamva ngati ndikuchita zonse & sindipeza chilichonse, ndimayesetsa kukumbukira kusiya .. ndikudziyika ndekha mu nsapato yake ndikumverera komweko. Ndiye nthawi zambiri ndimachita manyazi chifukwa chodzimva choncho. Ndipo ndikamuuza momwe ndimamvera & zomwe ndidazindikira zikuwoneka kuti zikumupangitsanso, chifukwa ndidamuwona & momwe amamvera popanda iye kundiuza. Chifukwa chake nthawi iliyonse mukamamva ngati mukupereka zonse & osapeza chilichonse, khalani ndi nthawi yodziyika nokha, chifukwa amamvanso choncho. Ikhoza kupanga kusiyana kulikonse padziko lapansi.