Ndimadana ndi Mwamuna Wanga - Zifukwa 10 Zomwe Zingatheke Ndi Zomwe Mungachite Pa Izi

“Ndimadana ndi mwamuna wanga” — Osati ndendende chinthu chachikondi chonena za mwamuna amene munakwatirana naye. Inu munamunena iye ngati chikondi cha moyo wanu kamodzi. Anali munthu amene munamukonda kwambiri chifukwa analonjeza kuti akugwira dzanja lanu pamavuto ndi paonda. Anali munthu amene mumaganiza kuti simungakhale popanda. Komabe, penapake, maganizo amenewo anasintha. Mukamuyang'ana tsopano, mulibe chikondi m'maso mwanu. Pali chakukhosi kokha.

Mwachionekere, amenewo si malo abwino kukhalamo ndipo angakhale ndi zotsatirapo osati pa mkhalidwe wa banja lanu lokha komanso thanzi lanu ndi maganizo anu. Kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti mabanja opanda chimwemwe n’ngoipa mofanana ndi kusuta fodya. Kafukufukuyu akuwonetsa zotsatira za mtundu waukwati pautali wa moyo. Anthu amene ali m’mabanja osasangalala amafa msanga. Kafukufukuyu akhoza kukuwopsyezani koma osadandaula.

Tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni kuchoka pamavuto anu komanso momwe mungasinthire ndi zifukwa zina zomwe mungadane ndi mwamuna wanu komanso zomwe mungachite pokambirana ndi mphunzitsi waumoyo komanso kulingalira bwino. Pooja Priyamvada (wotsimikiziridwa mu Psychological and Mental Health First Aid kuchokera kwa John Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health ndi University of Sydney), yemwe amagwira ntchito yopereka uphungu pazinthu monga zibwenzi zakunja, kutha, kupatukana, chisoni, ndi kutayika.

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Kodi ndizothekanso kuti mudane ndi mwamuna wanu? Pooja anati: “Chabwino, chidani chimakula kwambiri. mikangano m'banja zomwe sizikuwoneka kuti sizikutha zingapangitse akazi ambiri kumva ngati amadana ndi amuna awo. Udani ungakhale mkhalidwe umene ulipo m’maukwati mmene nkhanza zamtundu uliwonse zimachitika.”

Choncho, si zachilendo kapena zachilendo kudana ndi mwamuna wanu. Ndipotu, munthu aliyense m’banja amadana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake nthawi ina. Mu Nanga Ine Bwanji?: Lekani Kudzikonda Kusokoneza Ubale Wanu, Jane Greer analemba kuti n’zosatheka kukhala ndi munthu popanda kukhumudwa kapena kukhumudwa ndi zochita zake. Ngati simungathe kusiya kunena kuti, “Ndimadana ndi mwamuna wanga”, lekani kudziimba mlandu. M'malo mwake, yang'anani zifukwa zomwe mukumvera motere kuti mudziwe zomwe muyenera kuchita kuti muthetse vutoli:

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1. Palibe kufanana muubwenzi 

Pooja anati: “Kulingana kungakhale chimodzi mwa zinthu zimene zimachititsa mkazi kukhala wosangalala m’banja, zimam’pangitsa kudzimva kuti amalemekezedwa ndi kukondedwa, zimam’pangitsa kuona kuti maganizo ake, maganizo ake, ndi maganizo ake n’zofunika komanso amawaganizira. 

Pakakhala kusalinganika kwa mphamvu kapena kulimbana ndi mphamvu mu ubale, zimatha kuyambitsa mavuto ambiri pakati pa okwatirana. Mutha kuyamba kukwiyira mnzanu ngati chibwenzicho sichikufanananso. Kodi ndinu nokha amene mumagwira ntchito zapakhomo? Kodi ndinu nokha amene mumasamalira ana? Kodi ndinu nokha amene mumalipira chilichonse? Ngati yankho la mafunso amenewa ndi inde, n’zosadabwitsa kuti mumanena kuti, “Ndimadana ndi mwamuna wanga”. 

2. Amakudzudzula ndikukunyoza 

Ngati mukufunsa kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani ndimadana ndi mwamuna wanga?", Izi zikhoza kukhala chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe zingatheke. Kudzudzula nthawi zonse m'banja kungakhale kowawa. Ngati wokondedwa wanu akupeza cholakwika ndi chilichonse chomwe mumachita - kaya zomwe mumasankha pamoyo wanu, zosankha zanu zatsiku ndi tsiku, komanso momwe mumavalira - zitha kukhala zokhumudwitsa komanso zopweteka kwambiri. Ngati simungathe kulilandira, nawa mayankho ake chochita mwamuna wako akakunyoza kapena amakudzudzulani nthawi zonse:

• Osabwezera. Diso kwa diso silingapange kukhala bwino. Kumudzudzula kumangowonjezera zinthu
• Lankhulani naye za izi mofatsa pamene maganizo ali bwino. Muuzeni ndemanga yake yakukhumudwitsani 
• Lankhulani naye. Mufunseni ngati pali chinachake chikumuvutitsa. Ngati sakukhutira ndi chibwenzicho, mufunseni kuti anene mosapita m’mbali 

3. Samayesa kuoneka bwino kwa inu 

Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zosasangalatsa za m'banja. Mukakhala m’banja kwa nthawi yaitali, n’zosavuta kuyamba kunyalanyazana. Ndipamene mumayamba kutengeka ndipo malingaliro oyipa monga kudana kapena kusakondana wina ndi mzake zimayamba kulowa mu ubale wanu. 

Sophia, wowerenga ku Minnesota, akuti izi ndi zomwe zamupangitsa kuti asakhale osangalala m'banja lake. Iye anati: “Ndimadana ndi mwamuna wanga komanso wanga ukwati ukundikhumudwitsa. Sasamalanso za maonekedwe ake. Sindikunena kuti ndimayembekezera kuti tsiku lililonse aziwoneka ngati katswiri wa kanema koma samayesetsa kuvala ndi kuoneka bwino pazochitika zapadera. Ndipo zimenezi zikusonyeza kuti wasiya kuyesetsa kuti ukwati wathu ukhale wabwino komanso wosangalatsa.”

4. Kugonana kwafika potopetsa

Pamene tinamufunsa Pooja ngati kugonana kotopetsa kungayambitse kupanda chimwemwe m’maubwenzi, iye anayankha kuti: “Inde.

Si chikondi ndi kukhulupirika kokha zimene zimasunga ukwati. Kugonana ndi kuthupi ndikofunikira chimodzimodzi. Ichi ndi chifukwa chake:

• Imakula kugwirizana maganizo m’banja pakati pa zibwenzi
• Zimatsimikizira kutalika kwa ubale 
• Zimakupangitsani kumva ngati mukufunabe, wokondedwa, ndi wofunidwa ndi mnzanuyo
• Zimachepetsa nkhawa ndi nkhawa

Ukwati wopanda kugonana umapangitsa kuti pakhale kusiyana pakati pa okwatirana. Ngati mukuona kuti inuyo ndi mwamuna wanu mukugonana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndipo zayamba kuoneka ngati ntchito yapakhomo, ndiye kuti n’chimodzi mwa zifukwa zimene mukuvutikira m’banja mwanu. 

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5. Adakunyengani

Ngati kusakhulupirika kwake m'mbuyomu ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe mudakali ndi malingaliro olakwika okhudza banjali, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kukambirana naye za izi. Muuzeni kuti simuli otetezeka, okwiya, okhumudwa, kapena china chilichonse chimene mukumva komanso kuti chakhudza mmene mukumvera. 

Ngati ali wolapa moona mtima pazochita zake ndipo akuyesetsa mwamphamvu kukuthandizani kuti mudutse malingaliro oyipa otsalawo ndipo inunso mukufuna kupereka mwayi wina ndikukupulumutsani. kumanganso ukwati wanu, Nazi njira zina zomwe mungayambitsirenso kukhulupirirana muubwenzi wanu:

• Tulutsani mkwiyo
• Yesetsani kukhululuka 
• Pewani kumangoganizira zakale 
• Ngati mwamuna wanu akuchita zonse zomwe angathe kuti akonze cholakwa chake, mpatseni mpata ndipo khalani womasuka kuti akule
• Yesetsani kuchita khama kuti ubwenzi wanu ukhale wolimba 

6. Akulimbana ndi kumwerekera kapena akuvutika maganizo 

Chizoloŵezi chingakhale chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe mumadana ndi mwamuna wanu. Kaya amakonda kumwa mowa, kutchova njuga, kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, zidzasokoneza banja lanu komanso moyo wanu. Mwachibadwa, zimakuchititsani kuona mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndi ubwenzi wanu ndi iye molakwika. 

Pooja akuti, "Chifukwa china chomwe mungadane ndi mwamuna wanu ndichoti akulimbana ndi vuto la kusinthasintha maganizo. Izi ndi zoona makamaka ngati matenda ake sanamuzindikire ndipo mukuganiza kuti amachita zinthu molakwika popanda chifukwa. M'mikhalidwe ngati imeneyi, m'pofunika kuchitapo kanthu mosamala. Kukwiya kwanu ndi kunyozedwa kwanu zidzangowononga kwambiri. Maubwenzi anu amafunikira kuyesedwa kwa iye nthawi zonse. "

7. Sadziwa tanthauzo la kunyengerera 

Ngati palibe kunyengererana pachibwenzi, okwatirana amapezeka kuti akusokonekera posachedwa. Ponena za nkhaniyi, katswiri wa zamaganizo Namrata Sharma m'mbuyomu adauza Bonobology, "Tikalankhula za thanzi komanso kulolerana mu chiyanjano, ziyenera kuvomerezedwa ndi onse amene ali muubwenziwo. Ngati m'modzi yekha ndi wonyengerera, ndiye kuti sizili bwino mwanjira iliyonse. Zikuwonetsa bwino momwe ubalewo ungakhalire woyipa. Chitsenderezo, katundu waubwenzi amakhala pa munthu mmodzi yekha.”

Izi ndi zomwe kusowa kwa mgwirizano muubwenzi kumawonekera:

• Wokondedwa wanu nthawi zonse amakhala ndi mawu omaliza, mosasamala kanthu za zomwe zikuchitika
• Mumadzipeza mukusokoneza mawu anu  
• Simumadzidalira pofotokoza zomwe mukuyembekezera, zomwe mukufuna komanso zomwe mukufuna  
• Mumapereka zambiri pamene mnzanuyo amatenga  

8. Iye ndi wodzikonda ndipo amangoganizira za iye yekha

Tonse titha kukhala odzikonda kamodzi pakapita nthawi. Mlingo wa kudzikonda ndi womwe uli wofunikira pano. Mwachitsanzo, ngati wakhala akukunyalanyazani chifukwa akuthamangitsa tsiku lofunika kwambiri kuntchito, si chifukwa chodera nkhawa. Ndipo ngati icho kapena china chonga icho chapangitsa inu kunena zinthu monga, “Mwamuna wanga amandipangitsa ine kuvutika maganizo” ndi “Ndimadana ndi mwamuna wanga”, mwinamwake muyenera kuyang’ana pa kukhazikitsa zoyembekeza zaubale wanu moyenerera.

Komabe, ngati satha kuwona china chilichonse kuposa iyeyo ndipo samakuganizirani, ndiye kuti ndi chimodzi mwazofunikira. zizindikiro za mwamuna wodzikonda, amene mungayambe kudana nawo ndi kudana nawo pakapita nthawi. Zizindikiro zina zochenjeza kuti mwamuna wanu azichita modzikonda muubwenzi ndi:

• Mwamuna wodzikonda amasankha yekha zochita
• Alibe chifundo ndi kukoma mtima kwenikweni
• Iye samasunga zolakwa zake
• Amakudzudzulani kwambiri ndipo amakuvutitsani 
• Wasiya kukuyamikani
• Nthawi yokha imene amakukondani ndi pamene akusowa chinachake kuchokera kwa inu  
• Iye samakumverani ndipo amakupangitsani inu kudzimva kukhala wosawoneka ndi wosamveka
• Iye samatsimikizira malingaliro anu, malingaliro, malingaliro, ndi malingaliro anu

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9. Ulemu supita mbali zonse ziwiri

Ulemu si nthawi zonse kuyankhula mwaulemu ndi kumvera wokondedwa wanu. Ulemu ndi kuvomereza kuti muli ndi munthu amene amakukondani. Ulemu ndi kuzindikira kuti malingaliro a munthuyu sayenera kunyalanyazidwa mwa kuwadzudzula, kuwachitira ulemu, kapena kuwanyoza. Mukamalemekeza wokondedwa wanu, mumavomereza ndi mtima wonse kuti ndi munthu wosiyana ndi inu komanso kuti simudzakakamiza zikhulupiriro ndi maganizo anu pa iwo zivute zitani. 

Kulankhula za zizindikiro za kusalemekeza mu ubale, a Reddit wosuta anati, “Ine ndikuganiza chizindikiro chobisika kwenikweni cha kusowa ulemu pachibwenzi akumakana zimene mukunena pokambirana m’njira yokopa kwambiri. Mutha kutsutsa koma yesani kukumbukira kuti momwe mumalankhulira ndi wokondedwa wanu kumapangitsa kuti anthu aziganiza kuti ndi zovomerezeka. Ngati ndinu amwano kapena onyoza, dziko lidzatengera. Ngati mumathandizira komanso mwaulemu, dziko lidzatengera. ” Ngati ndi mmene mumachitira m’banja mwanu, n’kwachibadwa kuti muzimva ngati mumadana ndi mwamuna wanu. 

10. Mwamuna wanu wakhala chotchinga pakati pa inu ndi maloto anu

Wokondedwa wanu nthawi zonse amayenera kukhala mzati wa mphamvu zanu. Ayenera kukuthandizani pazochita zanu zonse - zaumwini, zaukadaulo, zaluntha, kapena zauzimu. Mwamuna wothandiza zidzakukakamizani kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu. Iwo adzakhalapo kwa inu kupyola muzokwera ndi zotsika zanu zonse ndi kupambana kwanu konse ndi zolephera zanu. 

Nazi zina mwazizindikiro kuti mwamuna wanu sakugwirizana ndi maloto anu ndipo mwina ndi chifukwa chake mukunena kuti, “Ndimadana ndi mwamuna wanga”:

• Iye amachita chilichonse chimene angathe kuti akusokonezeni
• Iye saona kuti zolinga zanu n’zofunika 
• Sakupatsani upangiri uliwonse kapena kugawana malingaliro ake pazofuna zanu
• Amakupangitsani kuti mumadziganizire nokha
• Amakulepheretsani kutsatira maloto ndi zokhumba zanu pokupangitsani kumva ngati simungathe kuzikwaniritsa. 

Zizindikiro Zomwe Mumadana Nazo Mwamuna Wanu 

Mukangowona zizindikiro izi, zidzakhala zabwino kwa inu. Mukazindikira kuti mumadana ndi mwamuna wanu, mutha kumvetsetsa komwe nkhani zanu zambiri zikuchokera. Ngati simukudziwa chomwe chikuyambitsa kusowa chimwemwe m'banja mwanu, kulabadira zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti mumadana ndi mwamuna wanu kungathandize:

1. Mumangokhalira kumenyana naye

Mumasankha ndewu nthawi zonse komanso mwadala. Banja lirilonse liri ndi gawo lake la kusiyana koma izo sizimafunikira mikangano yosalekeza muubwenzi ndi kuyamba ndewu pa kanthu kalikonse. Ngati izi zakhala njira yanu yoyankhira, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomwe mumadana ndi mwamuna wanu. 

2. Umaganiza zomunyenga 

Ichi ndi chizindikiro china chodetsa nkhaŵa cha kusoŵa kwa ukwati. Moyo umakuponyerani mayesero tsiku lililonse. Zili pa inu ngati munthu kuti muyankhe mayesero amenewo kapena ayi. Komabe, kudana ndi mwamuna wanu kumapangitsa kukhala kosavuta kugonja ku ziyeso zimenezi. Ngati mumaganizira zosokera kapena mutakopeka ndi mwamuna wina mpaka kufika pongofuna kuchita zinthu mogwirizana ndi mmene mukumvera, mmene mumaonera mwamuna kapena mkazi wanuyo ndi chifukwa chachikulu chimene chimakuchititsani mantha. 

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3. Mukukhala ndi lingaliro lachisudzulo

"Ndimusudzule mwamuna wanga?" - Ngati ili ndi lingaliro lobwerezabwereza m'mutu mwanu, ndiye kuti ndi zodziwikiratu kuti simukusangalala. Musanachitepo kanthu mopupuluma, kambiranani ndi wachibale wodalirika ponena za malingaliro anu oipa ponena za mwamuna wanu. Zomverera zikatha, mudzakhala ndi lingaliro lovuta lavuto. Ndiye, mwinamwake, mungalankhule ndi mwamuna wanu za izo ndi kuona ngati ukwati wanu uli ndi tsogolo. 

4. Mwakhala wankhanza

Pooja anati: “Kuchitira nkhanza ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zimene umadana ndi mwamuna wako.” Ngati wasiya kukonda mwamuna wako, pali mwayi woti maganizo onse oipa amene umakhala nawo mumtima mwawo angaonekere mwa kutengeka maganizo. kuzunza. " 

Ngati mwachita nkhanza, ndi nthawi yoti muyime ndikuganizira zifukwa zomwe zikupangitsa kuti izi zisakhale zovuta m'maganizo ndi mumtima mwanu. Pezani njira zoti musalole kuti chidani chikulepheretseni. Ganizirani kufunafuna thandizo kuti mumvetsetse zomwe zikukuyambitsani ndikuwongolera momwe mungayankhire malingaliro anu kuti musawononge ubale wanu ndikusiya wokondedwa wanu akuvulazidwa.  

5. Umadana ndi kucheza naye 

Kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yabwino ndi imodzi mwa njira zopititsira patsogolo banja. Othandizana nawo amakhala ndi nthawi yochita zinthu wamba, kuchita zinthu zatsopano, kugawana nthawi zachikondi monga masiku ochezera, kapena kungopumula kumapeto kwa tsiku lalitali. Ndi nthawi yogawana iyi yomwe imalimbitsa mgwirizano wanu ndikukusungani pamodzi. Pamene simukufuna kuwononga ndalama nthawi yabwino ndi mnzanu, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro kuti ukwati wanu wagunda pamavuto. 

Zoyenera Kuchita Mukadana ndi Mwamuna Wanu 

Zinthu zina zikapanda kugwirizana ndi zofuna zanu ndipo ndiwe wekha amene umafika pogonja pa chinthu chilichonse, mukhoza kumva kuti mulibe mphamvu m’banja. N’zosadabwitsa kuti mwakhumudwa ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndipo mukuona kuti muli pachibwenzi.

Kukhumudwa kulikonse kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kungakuchititseni kudziona ngati wosatetezeka ponena za tsogolo la banja, chifukwa kuchokapo sikophweka nthawi zonse. Ndiponso kupitirizabe m’banja lomwe sikumabweretsera china chilichonse koma kusasangalala. Choncho, ngati mukufuna kupatsa banja lanu chithunzithunzi cha kupulumuka, muyenera kusintha momwe zinthu zilili. Nawa malangizo othandiza pazomwe mungachite mukada mwamuna wanu:

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1. Kambiranani moona mtima 

Musanalankhule ndi mwamuna wanu kapena munthu wina aliyense za nkhaniyi, dzifunseni kuti: Kodi ndimadana ndi mwamuna wanga, kapena ndimadana nazo zinthu zina zimene amachita? Mukhoza kudana ndi zina mwa makhalidwe ake. Mwachitsanzo, mungadane kuti amaona kuti ntchito yake kapena banja lake n’lofunika kuposa inu. Mutha kudana ndi momwe amakudzudzulani kapena momwe amakutsutsani Amakuponyani miyala pambuyo pa nkhondo. Komabe, kodi mumadana naye chifukwa chakuti mumamukonda kwambiri? Kodi mumadana naye chifukwa munakondana ndi munthu wina? 

Ndikofunikira kuthetsa izi musanalankhule "Ndimadana ndi mwamuna wanga". Zoyipa zake ndi zizolowezi zake zitha kukukwiyitsani koma zitha kugwiridwa ntchito mwakulankhulana bwino. Koma ngati mulibe chikondi chamtundu uliwonse kapena kudera nkhaŵa kwa iye, ndiye kuti mwina muli bwino kufunsa kuti, “Kodi ndisudzule mwamuna wanga?” 

2. Muziganizira kwambiri za kuyambiranso chibwenzicho 

Sonia, mkazi wapanyumba ndi wophika buledi wa ku San Francisco, anatilembera kuti: “Ndimadana ndi mwamuna wanga. Nkonyanyira kuganiza zothetsa ukwati ngakhale musanayese kupulumutsa chibwenzicho. Upatseni mwayi womaliza. Nazi zina mwa njira zomwe mungachitire yambitsanso chikondi m’banja:

• Muzikopana pafupipafupi. Gwiranani wina ndi mzake kwambiri. Bweretsani kusewera mu ubale wanu
• Khalani osatetezeka wina ndi mzake. Lankhulani zakukhosi kwanu
• Lankhulani m'zilankhulo zachikondi za wina ndi mnzake ndikuwonetsa chikondi chanu m'chinenero chomwe chinagwirizana ndi wokondedwa wanu komanso mosemphanitsa. 
• Pezani mpata kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yabwino limodzi. Pitani pamasiku a chakudya chamadzulo. Palibe mafoni am'manja, ndewu, komanso osalankhula za ana ndi ntchito
• Yesani pabedi. Funsani wina ndi mzake zomwe mukufuna kuchita

Pooja akuwonjezera kuti: “Pitirizani kulankhulana bwino. Ngati kwasiya, fufuzaninso njira zolankhulirana, ndi kuchita zinthu zimene munkachita m’magawo oyambirira a ukwati. 

3. Mulandireni monga momwe alili 

Ngati mukuganiza kuti mnzanuyo ayenera kukhala wangwiro m'mbali zonse za moyo ndi kukhala, mwina malingaliro anu okhudzana ndi maubwenzi ndi moyo, nthawi zambiri, ndizovuta kwambiri. Tonse ndife opanda ungwiro m’njira zathu. Tonse tili ndi zolakwa zathu. Chifukwa chakuti mnzanuyo ali ndi maganizo osiyana ndi inu kapena ali ndi makhalidwe ochepa omwe sagwirizana ndi umunthu wanu, sizikutanthauza kuti akulakwitsa. 

Pano pali chimodzi mwa zazikulu kwambiri malangizo omanga banja logwirizana: Muyenera kupangitsa mnzanuyo kumva kuti akuvomerezedwa ndi kukondedwa monga momwe alili. Muzimulemekeza. Lemekezani zikhulupiriro zake, mfundo zake, ndi nzeru zake. Muvomerezeni. Mpangitseni kuti azimva kuti ndi wovomerezeka. Yesani kuyang'ana zinthu mutavala nsapato zake kamodzi. Mwina mungayambe kumumvera chisoni. 

4. Muyamikireni pa zabwino zonse zimene amachita 

Muyamikireni akakuchitirani zinthu, ngakhale zazing’ono. Anakubweretserani kapu yamadzi osapempha? Muthokozeni. Khulupirirani kapena ayi, ndikuchita moganizira kwambiri. Wakugwira dzanja lako powoloka msewu? Kuteteza kwambiri komwe kumawonetsa momwe amakuganizirani.  

Pooja akuti, “Nthaŵi zina, kumanga ukwati wachimwemwe kwenikweni sikutanthauza kutenga maholide ndi maulendo okwera mtengo. Ndiko kuthera nthaŵi pamodzi pamodzi m’nyumba mwanu. Chisamaliro chabwino ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zimene anthu amalakalaka.

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5. Funsani thandizo la akatswiri 

Ngati inu ndi bwenzi lanu mwakakamira ndipo simukuwona njira yothetsera mavuto anu, ndi bwino kuyesa uphungu wa maanja pamene mukuyesera kumanganso banja lanu. Mlangizi wovomerezeka adzadziwa bwino kuthetsa mavuto onse ang'onoang'ono ndi aakulu. Katswiri yemwe ali ndi zilolezo atha kukuthandizani kuwongolera luso lanu loyankhulirana komanso adzakuthandizani kuyang'anira zomwe mukuyembekezera m'njira yabwino. Ku Bonobology, timapereka chithandizo chaukadaulo kudzera mwa athu gulu la chilolezod alangizi amene angakuthandizeni kuti muyambe njira yakuchira.

Kumbukirani kuti kale panali chikondi chochuluka pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu m'malo mwa chidani chomwe muli nacho pa iye lero. Ndi kulankhulana, khama, ndi chiyamikiro, mukhoza kusonkhezera nyonga pakati pa inu ndi mwamuna wanu. Musataye chiyembekezo pano, ndipo chofunika kwambiri, musagwirizane kwambiri ndi malingaliro oipa omwe mumawasungira. Khalani okonzeka kuyang'ana izi mopanda tsankho ngati mukufuna kukonza ubale wanu.  

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Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.