Amati musakwatire munthu amene mungakhale naye koma simungakhale naye. Pa nthawi ina, mwina munamva choncho kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Komabe, patapita nthawi chinachake chinasintha. Mwina munaona kuti motowo ukuyamba kuchepa kapena munazindikira kuti simukugwirizana ndi mfundo zikuluzikulu za m’banja kapena kuti banja lanu lakhala loipa. Ngakhale zili choncho, zingakhale zovuta kuvomereza kuti ukwati wanu watha ngakhale pamene akukuyang’anani pamaso.
Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe zachititsa zimenezi n’chakuti takhala tikutengera maganizo akuti “mpaka imfa idzatilekanitse” moti kuvomereza mfundo yakuti mavuto a m’banja akuchulukirachulukira n’kovuta kwa anthu ambiri. Kusatchulanso kuti pali kusalana kwina kogwirizanitsidwa ndi chisudzulo ndipo lingaliro la kumanganso moyo kuyambira pachiyambi lingawonekere kukhala lotopetsa kwambiri kuposa kukhalabe m’banja losasangalala.
Kupatula apo, popeza kuti mwamuna ndi mkazi aliyense amakumana ndi zovuta zambiri panjira, zingakhale zovuta kudziwa ngati muli paubwenzi wabwino kwambiri womwe ukukumana ndi mavuto kapena m'banja lamavuto lomwe silingatheke. Ndiye mumadziwa bwanji kuti ukwati wanu watha? Tabwera kuti tikuthandizeni kuchoka pamavuto anu polumikizana ndi mlangizi komanso wophunzitsira wovomerezeka Dr. Neelu Khanna, amene amadziŵa bwino za nkhani zokhuza zosoŵa za m’maganizo ndi mikangano ya makhalidwe a anthu, mikangano ya m’banja, ndi mabanja osokonekera.
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Tinkakondana kwambiri ndipo tinkathera maola ambiri tikukonzekera za moyo wathu wamtsogolo, koma mwanjira ina m'njira, mtunda unayamba kukwera. Kulimbana ndi zovuta za ntchito, ntchito zapakhomo, ndi kulera ana zinatilepheretsa ndipo tinasiyana m'kupita kwa zaka. ukathyali, kapena nkhani zokhulupirirana, si banja losangalalanso. Ine sindikuganiza kuti ife timagwirizana wina ndi mzake kapena monga anthu omwe takhala nawo. Kodi banja langa latha?" Wowerenga wochokera ku Sandia, New Mexico, anafunsa.
Poyankha funsoli, Dr. Khanna akuti nkhani zing'onozing'ono zimatha kuyambitsa mkangano pakati pa okwatirana ngati sachita khama kuti agwiritse ntchito zing'onozing'ono zisanakhale kusiyana kosagwirizana. “Kuchokera ku kusoŵa kulankhulana ndi kusoŵa nthaŵi yabwino yochitira limodzi, kusiyana kooneka ngati kochepa kungaunjikane m’kupita kwa nthaŵi ndi kupangitsa ukwati kutha,” akufotokoza motero.
Ngakhale izi ndi chifukwa chodetsa nkhawa, musataye mtima mpaka palibe njira ina yotsalira. Ngakhale banja loyenda bwino limakhala ndi zokwera ndi zotsika, zovuta, ndi mavuto. Malingana ngati inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu mukuyesetsa kuthana ndi mavutowa ndikupeza njira yokhazikitsira mgwirizano wanu patsogolo pa china chilichonse, pali chiyembekezo. Komabe, ngati zizindikiro 12 izi kuti ukwati wanu ukulephereka, ingakhale nthawi yoti muone zomwe zili m'tsogolomu:
1. Kukhala ngati munthu wosakwatiwa
Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti ukwati wanu watha ndi chakuti inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu mukukhala ngati simunakwatirane. Izi zikutanthawuza kuti simumaganizira zomwe mwapanga nokha - kapena mmodzi wa inu satero - kukupangitsani kumva ngati ndinu wokwatiwa koma osakwatiwa. Zimenezi zingakhale zosungulumwa kwambiri.
Tsopano, izi sizikutanthauza kuti chifukwa mwakwatiwa, muyenera kukhala olumikizana m'chiuno ndikuchita zonse pamodzi. Malo aumwini mu chiyanjano sizongokhala zathanzi komanso ndizofunikira kuti mulumikizane bwino. Zimakupatsirani mwayi wokula ngati munthu payekha komanso kukulitsa ubale wanu wabanja. Komabe, payenera kukhala mgwirizano pakati pa malo aumwini ndi ogawana, zokonda zapayekha ndi zophatikizana, ndi nthawi yanga komanso kuthera nthawi limodzi.
Dr. Khanna akufotokoza kuti: “Kusakhalira limodzi nthawi yabwino kumapangitsa kuti anthu okwatirana azisiyana n’kuzolowera kusungulumwa kwawo.” Zimenezi zimachititsa kuti ayambe kukhumudwa komanso kusasangalala ndi moyo wawo wa m’banja. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, mumamasuka kwambiri ndi mtunda umenewu ndipo chimenecho ndi chizindikiro choonekeratu chakuti chifuno chopangitsa ukwati kuti chiyende bwino chafooka.
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2. Zolinga zanu zamtsogolo sizimaphatikizapo mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu
Mukudziwa bwanji kuti banja lanu latha? Kuti muyankhe funsoli, muyenera kudzifunsanso funso lina: Kodi mumaona mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu m’tsogolo? Mukamaganizira za moyo wanu wonse - kukalamba, kumanga nyumba yopuma pantchito, kukhala ndi cholinga cha zaka zisanu zikubwerazi za moyo wanu, kapena kungokonzekera tchuthi m'chaka chotsatira - kodi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akuwonetsa m'mapulani anu monga gawo lofunika kwambiri la moyo wanu? Kapena mulibe mphwayi ponena za kupezeka kwawo kapena kusakhalako kwawo?
Tsopano, tengani kamphindi kulingalira moyo wanu wonse wopanda mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Tsekani maso anu ndikuchijambula: mumabwera kunyumba kumapeto kwa tsiku lalitali ndipo mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu palibenso kuti akupatseni moni. Mumadzuka m'mawa ndipo mbali ina ya bedi mulibe. Iwo sali pamenepo kuti azikangana pa inu. Mwina, mwawatsanzika osawawonanso? Kodi maganizo amenewa amakupwetekani kapena kukupatsani mpumulo? Ngati ndi yomaliza, ndiye kuti mwina mwakhala mukuganizira njira yotuluka nthawi yonseyi. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zoonekeratu zizindikiro kuti ukwati sungathe kupulumutsidwa.
3. Simulinso ndi nsanje
Amanena kuti chikondi chilipo, nsanje imatsata. Ngakhale okwatirana athanzi amakumana ndi nsanje muubwenzi wawo. Ngakhale kuti palibe amene angatsutse kuti nsanje ikakula, nsanje ikhoza kukhala yosautsa kwambiri komanso yowononga mgwirizano wa okwatirana, imakhalapo pamlingo wina mu maubwenzi apamtima.
Choncho, ngati kuona mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akugwirizana ndi munthu amene angayambe kumukonda sikukuchititsani nsanje pang’ono, muyenera kuganizira kuti mwina simuli nayenso m’chikondi. Kupanda nsanje kotheratu ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomwe ukwati wanu ukutha.
4. Zosankha zazikulu zachuma popanda kukambirana
Mukakwatirana, moyo wanu umakhala wolumikizana. Chisankho chilichonse chomwe mungapange chimakhudza okondedwa anu osati inu nokha. Ndipo kotero, ndizoyenera kuti onse awiri akambirane asanapange zisankho zazikulu, makamaka pankhani zokhudzana ndi chitetezo chachuma monga kupanga ndalama zambiri, kusintha ntchito, kusintha ndondomeko zosungira ndalama, ndi zina zotero. Ngati wina wa inu nthawi zambiri amagula zinthu zazikulu popanda kufunsa mnzake, ndi mbendera yofiira yomwe simuyenera kuinyalanyaza. Imeneyi ikhoza kukhala njira yofotokozera zomwe munthuyo ali nazo adatuluka mu ubale ngakhale apitiriza kukhalabe m’banja.
Dr. Khanna akutero Dr. Khanna anati: Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kusakambirana nanu zosankha zazikulu zachuma - kapena mosemphanitsa - zimasonyeza kuti pali chinachake cholakwika mu ubale wanu. Choipa kwambiri, ngati zosankha zawo zachuma ziyamba kusokoneza moyo wanu, muyenera kulingalira za kuthekera kwakuti banja lanu silingakhalepo m'kupita kwanthawi.
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5. Maganizo osiyana pa nkhani ya ukwati
Ngakhale mwakhala m'banja nthawi yayitali, chifukwa chimodzi ukwati wanu uli pamiyala n’chakuti inu ndi mnzanu muli ndi maganizo osiyana pa zimene ukwati wabwino uyenera kukhala. Kuchokera ku tanthauzo la kukwatiwa ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri paubwenzi, kuyambitsa banja, ndi momwe mungawonongere nthawi yolimbikitsa mgwirizano wanu, pangakhale zinthu zambiri zomwe okwatirana sangagwirizane.
Koma ngati muli patsamba lomwelo za zinthu zofunika ndipo simupeza maziko apakati, kusiyana kumeneku kumatha kusokoneza ubale wanu. Kusiyana kumeneku kukakulitsa phompho pakati panu kufikira kuti simufunanso kuyesa kupeza njira yothetsera kusiyana kwanuko, m’pamene mumadziwa kuti ukwati wanu watha.
Dr. Khanna anachenjeza motero Dr.
6. Nkhanza ndi mbendera yofiira yotsimikizika
Nkhanza zamtundu uliwonse ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu zaukwati wamavuto kapena ziyenera kukhala. Palibe chifukwa choti munthu apweteke mnzake, makamaka amene amati amamukonda. Kuponderezedwa kungawonekere m'njira zambiri:
- Kuzunzidwa kapena nkhanza zapakhomo
- Mawu achipongwe omwe akuphatikizapo kutchula mayina, kukuwa, ndi mantha,
- Nkhanza zamaganizo Zitha kukhala zochititsa manyazi dala kapena kunyoza mnzako mpaka kumuzembera, ndi kuyatsa gasi
- Nkhanza zogonana zomwe zimabweretsa kusamvera chilolezo kapena kukakamizidwa komanso kugonana mokakamizidwa
- Nkhanza zandalama ndi pamene wothandizana naye amadyera mnzake ndalama
Zonsezi ndi zifukwa zomveka zotuluka m'banja. Dr. Khanna anati: “Ubwenzi wankhanza ukhoza kuwononga kwambiri maganizo a wochitiridwa nkhanzayo ndipo ukhoza kuyambitsa mavuto ambiri a maganizo.” Ndipo nthaŵi zambiri, palibe uphungu waukwati kapena kugwira ntchito ndi dokotala wabwino koposa wabanja mungapezeko chithandizo chifukwa chakuti mnzake wochitiridwa nkhanzayo angakhale wosamva kusintha,” akutero Dr. Ngati mwachitiridwa nkhanza mwanjira ina iliyonse, musavutike mwakachetechete poyembekezera kuti zinthu zikhala bwino.
Mwayi wake, nkhanzazo zidzangowonjezereka m’kupita kwa nthaŵi. Muziika patsogolo ubwino wanu ndipo muziika maganizo anu pa kudziteteza m’malo mofunafuna njira zothetsera ukwati wanu. Dziwani kuti pali chithandizo chokuthandizani kuthana ndi mikhalidwe yotere.
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7. Mwaganizapo za chinyengo
Mabanja mu maubale abwino musamasangalatse makamaka malingaliro achinyengo. Inde, pangakhale nthaŵi zina pamene munthu angakopeke ndi munthu wina kapena angayambe kukopeka ndi wina watsopano ali m’banja koma samaika maganizo ake pa malingaliro ameneŵa, kucheperapo kuchitapo kanthu pa iwo. M'malo mwake, muubwenzi wabwino, okwatirana amatha kuululirana zakukhosi ngati izi zichitika pofuna kuwona mtima komanso kuchita zinthu mowonekera.
Kumbali ina, pamene lingaliro la kukhala ndi munthu wina likuwoneka ngati kuthaŵa kotheratu ku kusokonekera kwa ukwati wanu, mungasiye kuleka kufunsa kuti, “Kodi ndi zizindikiro zotani kuti ukwati wanga watha?” Zolembazo zili pakhoma. Mutha kukhala pabanja ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu chifukwa cha zovuta zanu koma mtima wanu suli momwemo. Ngati lingaliro la kubera likuwoneka kukhala losangalatsa kuposa lowopsa, limasonyeza kupanda ulemu ndi chikondi. Ndipo ukwati sungathe kukhala popanda chikondi chenicheni, ulemu, ndi kusirira pakati pa inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu.
8. Kupewana
Ngati inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu nthawi zambiri mumayesetsa kupewa kukhala m’chipinda chimodzi kwa nthawi yaitali, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za kusasangalala m’banja. Mwina zovuta za ubale wanu zasokoneza kwambiri kulumikizana kwanu kotero kuti simungapezenso njira yokhalirana wina ndi mnzake. Kukambitsirana kulikonse kumasanduka mkangano, pamakhala kukangana kosalekeza ndi kutukwanana. Ndipo n’chifukwa chake kupeŵana wina ndi mnzake kumawoneka ngati njira yokhayo yosungitsira mtendere m’nyumba.
Ichi ndi chithunzithunzi cha mkhalidwe wa banja lanu ndipo zingakhale bwino kuti musayang'anenso kwina. Ngati kukhalira limodzi kwakhala cholemetsa chotere, mwina ndi bwino kufufuza chithandizo cha maanja kuti muthetse kusiyana kwanu. Ndipo ngati mwazindikira kale kuti chithandizo chamankhwala sichikugwira ntchito, zingakhale bwino kuti muvomereze kuti banja lanu likutha.
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9. Simumamutsegulira mnzako
Mwamuna wanu akuyenera kukhala munthu amene muyenera kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka komanso omasuka kukhala pachiwopsezo. Kukhala wokhoza kulankhulana mu chiyanjano popanda kuopa chiweruzo n'kofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi moyo wathanzi m'banja. Zimasonyeza mmene ubwenzi wapamtima umakhalapo. Ngati mumavutika kumasuka kwa mnzanuyo ndi kumuuza zakukhosi kwanu, zonse sizili bwino m’paradaiso waukwati wanu.
“Kusoŵeka kwa kulankhulana kapena chiwopsezo m’chibwenzi kungayambike chifukwa cha mantha a kusamvetsetsana.” Ngati wokwatirana naye nthaŵi zonse afooketsa kapena kunyalanyaza malingaliro, nkhaŵa, ndi malingaliro a wina, m’kupita kwanthaŵi munthu amene akukulandiraniyo adzabwerera m’mbuyo.
10. Akulota zowapweteka;
N'zoona kuti tonse tinangokhalira kung'ung'udza kuti, "Mulungu, ndikuphani", nthawi ina chifukwa mnzathu ananena kapena kuchita chinachake kutithamangitsira khoma. Komabe, tilibe cholinga chotsatira. Imeneyi ndi njira chabe yotulutsira kukhumudwa, ndipo nthawiyo ikadutsa ndipo chilichonse chomwe chakhala chikutivutitsa chitathetsedwa, timamva chikondi ndi kupembedzera anzathu.
Komabe, mukakhala mumsampha wa ukwati woipa, malingaliro oipa ameneŵa okhudza kukhumudwitsa winayo angakhale magwero a chitonthozo. Ndi chinthu chimodzi kuchita nenani zowawa mutapsa mtima, n’kuthekanso kuti mumangokhalira kuganiza kuti mnzanuyo akuvulazidwa. Malingaliro oterowo ayenera kuŵerengedwa pakati pa zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti ukwati wanu watha.
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11. Kukhala ndi chibwenzi chokhudzidwa
Mukaona ngati wokondedwa wanu sakukupatsaninso kapena kusamala za inu ndipo zosowa zanu zamaganizo sizikukwaniritsidwa, mukhoza kuyamba kumva kuti mulibe kanthu. Zikatero, si zachilendo kupeza munthu wina amene sakugwirizana naye m’banja kuti athetse vutolo. Mwinamwake bwenzi, wantchito mnzako, kapena lawi lakale limakupatsani chichirikizo panthaŵi yovutayi ndipo mumadzipeza mukutsamira pa iwo koposa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Kumeneko pali tingachipeze powerenga Chinsinsi cha maganizo pakupanga.
Mwamuna kapena mkazi akayamba chibwenzi ndikuyamba kuwononga nthawi ndi mphamvu zawo polimbikitsa mgwirizanowu m'malo mokonza ubale wawo womwe wawonongeka ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo, ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro 12 zomwe banja lanu latha. Ngakhale zitha kuwoneka ngati zopanda vuto chifukwa simunamiza mwaukadaulo, kutembenukira kwa munthu wachitatu kuti akwaniritse zosowa zanu zamalingaliro ndikowopsa kwambiri kuposa kusakhulupirika kwakuthupi. Ndi chizindikiro chakuti mgwirizano pakati pa inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ukutaya phindu lake.
12. Kukondana mwakuthupi sikumakusangalatsani
Chikhumbo chofuna kukhala paubwenzi n’chofunika kwambiri kuti banja likhale labwino. Ngakhale kuti moyo wanu wogonana mutatha m'banja udzasintha zambiri pamagulu osiyanasiyana, kusowa kwathunthu kwa chikhumbo ndi mbendera yofiira. Nthawi zina, maanja amatha kudutsa magawo omwe kupsinjika kwa moyo kumapangitsa nthawi zapamtima kukhala kumbuyo. Zimenezi n’zachibadwa ndipo si chizindikiro chimodzi cha kutha kwa banja.
Komabe, ngati mutapeza kuti inu kapena mnzanuyo muli ndi libidos wathanzi komabe moyo wanu wogonana kulibe, ndiye kuti zolembazo ndizokongola kwambiri pakhoma. Dr. Khanna akufotokoza kuti kuchepa kwa ubwenzi wakuthupi kungachititse kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akhale wosasangalala, wokhumudwa, ndi kufunafuna chikhutiro kunja kwa banja.
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Zizindikiro Kuti Ukwati Wanu Watha Mafunso
Ngakhale mutadziwa kuti ukwati wanu watha, ulendo wochokera ku kukana kupita ku kuvomereza ukhoza kukhala wautali, wovuta. Ngati ngakhale zikugwirizana ndi zambiri mwa zizindikiro zochenjezazi, mukufunsabe, "Kodi ukwati wanga watha? Kodi palibe chiyembekezo chodzakhala ndi moyo?", Mwinanso kutenga zizindikiro zazifupi izi kuti banja lanu latha mafunso kungakuthandizeni kumvetsa bwino:
- Kodi inu ndi mnzanu mukuchitapo kanthu kuti muwongolere kulumikizana kwanu? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumamva okondwa poyembekeza kuwona / kukhala ndi mnzanu? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumaona kuti ndinu otetezeka m'banja mwanu? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumamukhulupirira mnzanuyo? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumayesetsa kukhala limodzi? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumakambirana za tsogolo lanu ndikukonzekera moyo wanu limodzi? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi kunyenga mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kumawoneka kosatheka kwa inu? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumakhutitsidwa pogonana muukwati wanu? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu amakupangitsani kumva kuti mumakondedwa? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mukumva kukhutitsidwa m'maganizo m'banja lanu? Inde / Ayi
Ngati mwayankha ambiri mwa mafunso awa muzizindikiro izi kuti ukwati wanu watha mafunso mu ayi, tikunong'oneza bondo kunena kuti pali chiyembekezo chochepa cha tsogolo lanu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wapano. Koma Hei, chimenecho sichinthu choyipa. Ndi bwino kuchoka pachibwenzi chomwe sichimakubweretseraninso chisangalalo kusiyana ndi kukhala ndikuvutika mwakachetechete ndikupangitsa moyo wa wina ndi mzake kukhala womvetsa chisoni panthawiyi. Ngati kukumana maso ndi maso ndi zizindikiro za banja losweka kwabweretsa sitepe pafupi ndi kuvomereza kosapeŵeka, muli panjira yoyenera.
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Ngakhale mutakhala mu a ukwati wosweka, kutha ndi kupita patsogolo kungakhale kosokoneza maganizo. Muyenera kuthana ndi zovuta zonse zomwe zinachitikira izi, kuyang'ana pa kuphunzira kudzikonda ndi kudzisamalira nokha ndikuyika ndalama pakuzindikiranso kuti ndinu ndani kunja kwa ubale wanu. Uwu ukhoza kukhala ulendo wautali, wotopetsa ndipo zowawa ndi kukwiya komwe mukumva sizidzatha nthawi imodzi, koma pang'onopang'ono, mudzapita patsogolo. Malangizo 5 awa othandizira kuthana ndi kutha kwaukwati angakuthandizeni kupirira:
1. Lolani kuti mukhale ndi chisoni mokwanira
Ukwati umene umatha ndi kutaya kwakukulu. Mosasamala kanthu za mavuto anu a m’banja, mudzapeza kuti mukulira imfa imeneyi, ndi kukumana ndi kamvuluvulu wamalingaliro, kuyambira pa chisoni mpaka ku mpumulo, mkwiyo, ngakhale liwongo. Kuti muchiritse ndi kupitilira, muyenera kudzilola kuti mumve malingaliro aliwonse omwe amabwera ndikumvetsa chisoni kutha kwa banja lanu.
Mofanana ndi kutayika kwina kulikonse, palibe njira yoyenera yochitira. Komanso kugwira ntchito mwachisoni si njira yofananira. Zomwe mungachite ndikukhala wachifundo komanso wodekha. Kupatula nthawi yoganizira zakukhosi kwanu kudzakuthandizani kumveketsa bwino komanso mwamtendere. Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, yemwe adapanga zisanu magawo a chisoni, likugogomezera kuti “chisoni chiyenera kuchitiridwa umboni.” Chifukwa chake, tsamirani anzanu, abale anu, kapena othandizira kuti mupeze malo otetezeka ogawana nawo ululu wanu.
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2. Tsatirani dongosolo lanu lothandizira
Kutha kwa banja losweka kungakhale kovuta kwambiri ngati mutakhala nokha. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti musadzipatule panthawiyi, koma m'malo mwake mukhale ndi anthu omwe amakuderani nkhawa. "Mungathe ngakhale kulingalira kupanga "gulu lothandizira" la mabwenzi apamtima awiri kapena atatu kapena achibale omwe akuwona zovuta zanu pafupi.
3. Muziganizira kwambiri za kudzisamalira
Chimodzi mwa zinthu zovuta kwambiri za kutha kwa banja ndi kuti moyo monga mumadziwa kuti mulibe. Zochita zachizoloŵezi zomwe zinali mbali ya moyo wanu waukwati kulibe, ndipo izi zingakupangitseni kudzimva kuti ndinu ochotsedwa ndi otayika. Njira yabwino yothanirana ndi malingalirowa ndikukhazikitsa zizolowezi zatsopano zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala okhazikika panthawi yachisokonezo.
Kupanga chizoloŵezi chatsopano cham'mawa kapena mwambo wamadzulo wodekha kungakupangitseni kuti mukhale okhazikika. Kudzisamalira Ndikofunikira kuti udzidyetse m'maganizo panthawi ino, ndipo ukhoza kubwera m'njira zosiyanasiyana, monga:
- Kuyenda koyenda
- Kusinkhasinkha
- Kugona mokwanira
- Masewera olimbitsa thupi
- Kulemba
- Kukhazikitsa zolinga
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4. Dziwaninso kuti ndinu ndani
Kukhala wokwatiwa kumatanthauza kugawana moyo wanu kwambiri ndi munthu wina kuti mbali zina zazomwe mumazidziwa zimalumikizana. Ubwenzi umenewo ukatha, mungavutike kudziwa kuti ndinu ndani. Kodi mumakonda kwambiri nyimbo za jazz kapena zidakula pa inu chifukwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu amazikonda? Kodi mukufuna mapilo 4 owonjezera oponyera pabedi panu kapena ndi zomwe mudazolowera chifukwa wokondedwa wanu adazikonda? Kodi Lachisanu liyenera kukhala usiku wa pizza ndi mowa kapena ndi mwambo kuyambira m'masiku oyambirira a ukwati wanu umene mwangolowetsamo?
Mutha kupeza kuyika mbali iliyonse ya umunthu wanu pansi pa microscope. Izi mwina ndizofunikira kuti mudziwenso dzina lanu komanso gwirizananso ndi zomwe inu muli kunja kwa ubale umenewo. Muyenera kuwononga nthawi ndikuwunikanso zomwe mumakonda, kuyang'ana zokonda zatsopano, ndikuchita zinthu zomwe zimakuthandizani kuti muzindikirenso kudzikonda kwanu.
5. Tengani tsiku limodzi panthawi
Kodi inu kulimbana ndi kutha kwa banja lanu? Zosavuta zimachita. Musalole kuti maganizo anu akhale ochuluka ponena za mmene moyo wanu udzakhalire panopa kapena ngati mudzakhala nokha. M'malo mwake, yang'anani pakudutsa tsiku limodzi pa nthawi, kuyang'ana ndi kuvomereza zosintha zomwe zikubwera.
"Ngati mukumva kuti mukulefuka, zingakuthandizeni kukhala ndi zolinga za tsiku ndi tsiku monga kuyimbira foni mnzanu, kuphika chakudya, kapena kuyeretsa mbali imodzi ya nyumba yanu. M'pofunikanso kukondwerera mapambano ang'onoang'ono m'njira, pamene akukutengerani pafupi kuti mutengenso ufulu wanu. Kupita patsogolo pang'ono, kosasinthasintha kungayambitse kusintha kwakukulu, "akutero Dr. Khanna.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Zizindikiro kuti ukwati watha zimakhala zovuta kuzizindikira chifukwa nthawi zambiri timanyalanyaza mbendera zofiira ngati chigamba chomwe chimatha.
- Kukhala ngati munthu wosakwatiwa, kusagwirizana m’maganizo ndi m’thupi, ndiponso kupeza chitonthozo pamene mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu palibe ndi zina mwa zizindikiro zoyamba kuti banja lili pamavuto.
- Kubera, kunama, kusalankhulana, ndi nkhanza ndi zizindikiro zina zochenjeza
- Sikuti ukwati uliwonse wamavuto sudzatha; kaya wanu akuyenera kukhala ndi mwayi wina zimadalira inu ndi mnzanu
Maganizo Final
Kuvomereza zizindikiro kuti ukwati wanu watha sikophweka. Komabe, kaya izi zikutanthauza kuti wanu kapena ayi ukwati udzatha m’chisudzulo zimadalira kuopsa kwa zizindikiro. Ngati nkhani zanu zikadali pachimake, yesetsani, pezani chithandizo chofunikira ndi chithandizo - kaya kuchokera kwa achibale ndi abwenzi kapena njira ya upangiri - ndikupatsanso banja lanu mwayi wopulumuka. Komabe, ngati nkhani zanu zakula ndipo simukuwona chiyembekezo choti zithetsedwe, dziwani kuti palibe vuto kuchokapo. Mukuyenera kukhala osangalala, ndipo ngati chimwemwecho chili kunja kwa ukwati wanu, zikhale choncho.
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