Amati musakwatire munthu amene mungakhale naye koma simungakhale naye. Pa nthawi ina, mwina munamva choncho kwa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Komabe, patapita nthawi chinachake chinasintha. Mwina munaona kuti motowo ukuyamba kuchepa kapena munazindikira kuti simukugwirizana ndi mfundo zikuluzikulu za m’banja kapena kuti banja lanu lakhala loipa. Ngakhale zili choncho, zingakhale zovuta kuvomereza kuti ukwati wanu watha ngakhale pamene akukuyang’anani pamaso.
Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe zachititsa zimenezi n’chakuti takhala tikutengera maganizo akuti “mpaka imfa idzatilekanitse” moti kuvomereza mfundo yakuti mavuto a m’banja akuchulukirachulukira n’kovuta kwa anthu ambiri. Kusatchulanso kuti pali kusalana kwina kogwirizanitsidwa ndi chisudzulo ndipo lingaliro la kumanganso moyo kuyambira pachiyambi lingawonekere kukhala lotopetsa kwambiri kuposa kukhalabe m’banja losasangalala.
Kupatula apo, popeza banja lililonse limakumana ndi zovuta zake, zimakhala zovuta kudziwa ngati muli pachibwenzi chabwino chomwe chikudutsa muzovuta kapena muukwati wovuta womwe sungakonzedwe. Ndiye kodi mungadziwe bwanji kuti ukwati wanu watha? Tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni kuthetsa vuto lanu pokambirana ndi mlangizi komanso mphunzitsi wodziwa bwino ntchito za moyo Dr. Neelu Khanna , yemwe ndi katswiri pothana ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi zosowa zamaganizo ndi mikangano ya khalidwe la anthu, kusagwirizana kwa mabanja, ndi mabanja osagwira ntchito bwino.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
"Moyo wathu waukwati unayamba ngati maloto okongola. Tinkakondana kwambiri ndipo tinkathera maola ambiri tikukonza za moyo wathu wamtsogolo, koma panjira ina, mtunda unayamba kuchepa. Kuthetsa mavuto a ntchito, maudindo apakhomo, ndi kulera ana kunatilepheretsa ndipo tinalekana kwa zaka zambiri. Ngakhale kuti palibe zizindikiro zofiira monga nkhanza zapakhomo, chinyengo , kapena nkhani zokhulupirirana, si ukwati wachimwemwe panonso. Sindikuganiza kuti timagwirizana kapena ngati anthu omwe takhala. Kodi ukwati wanga watha?" Wowerenga wina wochokera ku Sandia, New Mexico, anafunsa.
Poyankha funsoli, Dr. Khanna akuti nkhani zing'onozing'ono zimatha kuyambitsa mkangano pakati pa okwatirana ngati sachita khama kuti agwiritse ntchito zing'onozing'ono zisanakhale kusiyana kosagwirizana. “Kuchokera ku kusoŵa kulankhulana ndi kusoŵa nthaŵi yabwino yochitira limodzi, kusiyana kooneka ngati kochepa kungaunjikane m’kupita kwa nthaŵi ndi kupangitsa ukwati kutha,” akufotokoza motero.
Ngakhale izi ndi chifukwa chodetsa nkhawa, musataye mtima mpaka palibe njira ina yotsalira. Ngakhale banja loyenda bwino limakhala ndi zokwera ndi zotsika, zovuta, ndi mavuto. Malingana ngati inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu mukuyesetsa kuthana ndi mavutowa ndikupeza njira yokhazikitsira mgwirizano wanu patsogolo pa china chilichonse, pali chiyembekezo. Komabe, ngati zizindikiro 12 izi kuti ukwati wanu ukulephereka, ingakhale nthawi yoti muone zomwe zili m'tsogolomu:
1. Kukhala ngati munthu wosakwatiwa
Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti ukwati wanu watha ndi chakuti inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu mukukhala ngati simunakwatirane. Izi zikutanthawuza kuti simumaganizira zomwe mwapanga nokha - kapena mmodzi wa inu satero - kukupangitsani kumva ngati ndinu wokwatiwa koma osakwatiwa. Zimenezi zingakhale zosungulumwa kwambiri.
Tsopano, izi sizikutanthauza kuti chifukwa chakuti mwakwatirana, muyenera kukhala ogwirizana nthawi zonse ndikuchita zonse pamodzi. Malo aumwini muubwenzi si abwino kokha komanso ndi ofunikira kuti mukhale ndi mgwirizano wabwino. Zimakupatsirani mwayi wokula monga munthu payekha ndipo zimakulitsa mgwirizano wanu waukwati. Komabe, pakufunika kukhala ndi mgwirizano pakati pa malo aumwini ndi ogawana, zochita za munthu payekha ndi zolumikizana, komanso nthawi yanga ndi nthawi yokhala limodzi.
Dr. Khanna akufotokoza kuti: “Kusakhalira limodzi nthawi yabwino kumapangitsa kuti anthu okwatirana azisiyana n’kuzolowera kusungulumwa kwawo.” Zimenezi zimachititsa kuti ayambe kukhumudwa komanso kusasangalala ndi moyo wawo wa m’banja. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, mumamasuka kwambiri ndi mtunda umenewu ndipo chimenecho ndi chizindikiro choonekeratu chakuti chifuno chopangitsa ukwati kuti chiyende bwino chafooka.
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2. Zolinga zanu zamtsogolo sizimaphatikizapo mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu
Mukudziwa bwanji kuti banja lanu latha? Kuti muyankhe funsoli, muyenera kudzifunsanso funso lina: Kodi mumaona mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu m’tsogolo? Mukamaganizira za moyo wanu wonse - kukalamba, kumanga nyumba yopuma pantchito, kukhala ndi cholinga cha zaka zisanu zikubwerazi za moyo wanu, kapena kungokonzekera tchuthi m'chaka chotsatira - kodi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akuwonetsa m'mapulani anu monga gawo lofunika kwambiri la moyo wanu? Kapena mulibe mphwayi ponena za kupezeka kwawo kapena kusakhalako kwawo?
Tsopano, tengani kamphindi kuti muganizire za moyo wanu wonse wopanda mnzanu. Tsekani maso anu ndikuwona ngati mwabwera kunyumba kumapeto kwa tsiku lalitali ndipo mnzanu salipo kuti akulandireni. Mumadzuka m'mawa ndipo mbali ina ya bedi ilibe kanthu. Salipo kuti akuvutitseni. Mwina, mumawatsanzikana ndipo simunawaonenso? Kodi lingaliro ili limakupwetekani kapena limakupangitsani kumva bwino? Ngati ndi lomaliza, ndiye kuti mwina mwakhala mukuganiza mozama za njira yotulukira. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomveka bwino zoti ukwati sungapulumutsidwe.
3. Simulinso ndi nsanje
Amati pamene pali chikondi, nsanje imatsatira . Ngakhale okwatirana athanzi amakumana ndi nsanje m'maubwenzi awo. Ngakhale palibe kukana kuti nsanje ikakula kwambiri ingakhale yoipa kwambiri komanso yowononga ubale wa okwatiranawo, imakhalapo pamlingo winawake m'maubwenzi ambiri achikondi komanso achikondi.
Choncho, ngati kuona mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akugwirizana ndi munthu amene angayambe kumukonda sikukuchititsani nsanje pang’ono, muyenera kuganizira kuti mwina simuli nayenso m’chikondi. Kupanda nsanje kotheratu ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomwe ukwati wanu ukutha.
4. Zosankha zazikulu zachuma popanda kukambirana
Mukakwatirana, miyoyo yanu imalumikizana. Chisankho chilichonse chomwe mupanga chimakhudza mnzanu osati inu nokha. Chifukwa chake, ndibwino kuti onse awiri azikambirana asanapange zisankho zazikulu, makamaka pankhani zokhudzana ndi chitetezo cha zachuma monga kupanga ndalama zambiri, kusintha ntchito, kusintha mapulani osungira ndalama, ndi zina zotero. Ngati aliyense wa inu nthawi zambiri amagula zinthu zazikulu popanda kufunsa wina, ndi chizindikiro chofiira chomwe simuyenera kunyalanyaza. Iyi ikhoza kukhala njira yosonyezera kuti munthuyo watuluka muubwenzi ngakhale atakhalabe m'banja.
Dr. Khanna akutero Dr. Khanna anati: Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kusakambirana nanu zosankha zazikulu zachuma - kapena mosemphanitsa - zimasonyeza kuti pali chinachake cholakwika mu ubale wanu. Choipa kwambiri, ngati zosankha zawo zachuma ziyamba kusokoneza moyo wanu, muyenera kulingalira za kuthekera kwakuti banja lanu silingakhalepo m'kupita kwanthawi.
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5. Maganizo osiyana pa nkhani ya ukwati
Ngakhale mutakhala pabanja kwa nthawi yayitali, chifukwa chimodzi chomwe ukwati wanu uli pamavuto ndichakuti inu ndi mnzanu muli ndi malingaliro osiyana pa zomwe ukwati wabwino uyenera kukhala. Kuchokera pa tanthauzo la kukwatira mpaka zinthu zofunika kwambiri paubwenzi, kuyambitsa banja, komanso momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito nthawi yanu kusamalira ubale wanu, pakhoza kukhala zinthu zambiri zomwe okwatirana sangagwirizane nazo.
Koma ngati muli patsamba lomwelo za zinthu zofunika ndipo simupeza maziko apakati, kusiyana kumeneku kumatha kusokoneza ubale wanu. Kusiyana kumeneku kukakulitsa phompho pakati panu kufikira kuti simufunanso kuyesa kupeza njira yothetsera kusiyana kwanuko, m’pamene mumadziwa kuti ukwati wanu watha.
Dr. Khanna anachenjeza motero Dr.
6. Nkhanza ndi mbendera yofiira yotsimikizika
Nkhanza zamtundu uliwonse ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zazikulu zaukwati wamavuto kapena ziyenera kukhala. Palibe chifukwa choti munthu apweteke mnzake, makamaka amene amati amamukonda. Kuponderezedwa kungawonekere m'njira zambiri:
- Kuzunzidwa kapena nkhanza zapakhomo
- Mawu achipongwe omwe akuphatikizapo kutchula mayina, kukuwa, ndi mantha,
- Nkhanza zamaganizo Zitha kukhala zochititsa manyazi dala kapena kunyoza mnzako mpaka kumuzembera, ndi kuyatsa gasi
- Nkhanza zogonana zomwe zimabweretsa kusamvera chilolezo kapena kukakamizidwa komanso kugonana mokakamizidwa
- Nkhanza zandalama ndi pamene wothandizana naye amadyera mnzake ndalama
Zonsezi ndi zifukwa zomveka zotuluka m'banja. Dr. Khanna anati: “Ubwenzi wankhanza ukhoza kuwononga kwambiri maganizo a wochitiridwa nkhanzayo ndipo ukhoza kuyambitsa mavuto ambiri a maganizo.” Ndipo nthaŵi zambiri, palibe uphungu waukwati kapena kugwira ntchito ndi dokotala wabwino koposa wabanja mungapezeko chithandizo chifukwa chakuti mnzake wochitiridwa nkhanzayo angakhale wosamva kusintha,” akutero Dr. Ngati mwachitiridwa nkhanza mwanjira ina iliyonse, musavutike mwakachetechete poyembekezera kuti zinthu zikhala bwino.
Mwayi wake, nkhanzazo zidzangowonjezereka m’kupita kwa nthaŵi. Muziika patsogolo ubwino wanu ndipo muziika maganizo anu pa kudziteteza m’malo mofunafuna njira zothetsera ukwati wanu. Dziwani kuti pali chithandizo chokuthandizani kuthana ndi mikhalidwe yotere.
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7. Mwaganizapo za chinyengo
Anthu omwe ali paubwenzi wabwino saganizira kwambiri za chinyengo. Inde, pakhoza kukhala nthawi zina pamene munthu angakopeke ndi wina kapena angayambe kukondana ndi munthu watsopano ali pabanja koma saganizira kwambiri za izi, makamaka kuchitapo kanthu. Ndipotu, muubwenzi wabwino, okwatirana amatha kuuzana zakukhosi ngati chinthu chamtunduwu chichitika pofuna kuwonetsetsa kuti zinthu zikuyenda bwino komanso kuti zinthu ziyende bwino.
Kumbali ina, pamene lingaliro la kukhala ndi munthu wina likuwoneka ngati kuthaŵa kotheratu ku kusokonekera kwa ukwati wanu, mungasiye kuleka kufunsa kuti, “Kodi ndi zizindikiro zotani kuti ukwati wanga watha?” Zolembazo zili pakhoma. Mutha kukhala pabanja ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu chifukwa cha zovuta zanu koma mtima wanu suli momwemo. Ngati lingaliro la kubera likuwoneka kukhala losangalatsa kuposa lowopsa, limasonyeza kupanda ulemu ndi chikondi. Ndipo ukwati sungathe kukhala popanda chikondi chenicheni, ulemu, ndi kusirira pakati pa inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu.
8. Kupewana
Ngati inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu nthawi zambiri mumayesetsa kupewa kukhala m’chipinda chimodzi kwa nthawi yaitali, ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro za kusasangalala m’banja. Mwina zovuta za ubale wanu zasokoneza kwambiri kulumikizana kwanu kotero kuti simungapezenso njira yokhalirana wina ndi mnzake. Kukambitsirana kulikonse kumasanduka mkangano, pamakhala kukangana kosalekeza ndi kutukwanana. Ndipo n’chifukwa chake kupeŵana wina ndi mnzake kumawoneka ngati njira yokhayo yosungitsira mtendere m’nyumba.
Ichi ndi chithunzithunzi cha mkhalidwe wa banja lanu ndipo zingakhale bwino kuti musayang'anenso kwina. Ngati kukhalira limodzi kwakhala cholemetsa chotere, mwina ndi bwino kufufuza chithandizo cha maanja kuti muthetse kusiyana kwanu. Ndipo ngati mwazindikira kale kuti chithandizo chamankhwala sichikugwira ntchito, zingakhale bwino kuti muvomereze kuti banja lanu likutha.
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9. Simumamutsegulira mnzako
Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ayenera kukhala munthu yekhayo amene muyenera kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka komanso omasuka kukhala naye. Kukhala wokhoza kulankhulana muubwenzi popanda mantha oweruzidwa n'kofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino m'banja. Zimasonyeza momwe mumamvera mumtima mwanu. Ngati mukuvutika kumasuka ndi mnzanu ndikumuuza zakukhosi kwanu, si bwino kuti banja lanu likhale losangalala.
“Kusoŵeka kwa kulankhulana kapena chiwopsezo m’chibwenzi kungayambike chifukwa cha mantha a kusamvetsetsana.” Ngati wokwatirana naye nthaŵi zonse afooketsa kapena kunyalanyaza malingaliro, nkhaŵa, ndi malingaliro a wina, m’kupita kwanthaŵi munthu amene akukulandiraniyo adzabwerera m’mbuyo.
10. Akulota zowapweteka;
N'zoona kuti tonse tinangokhalira kung'ung'udza kuti, "Mulungu, ndikuphani", nthawi ina chifukwa mnzathu ananena kapena kuchita chinachake kutithamangitsira khoma. Komabe, tilibe cholinga chotsatira. Imeneyi ndi njira chabe yotulutsira kukhumudwa, ndipo nthawiyo ikadutsa ndipo chilichonse chomwe chakhala chikutivutitsa chitathetsedwa, timamva chikondi ndi kupembedzera anzathu.
Komabe, mukakhala muukwati wosasangalatsa, maganizo oipa okhudza kuvulaza wina angakhale chitonthozo. Ndi chinthu chimodzi kunena mawu opweteka mumtima mwanu, ndi chinthu chinanso kumangoganiza kuti mnzanuyo akuvutika. Maloto otere ayenera kuwerengedwa ngati chizindikiro chakuti ukwati wanu watha.
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11. Kukhala ndi chibwenzi chokhudzidwa
Mukawona kuti mnzanu sakukukondani kapena sakusamalani ndipo zosowa zanu zamaganizo sizikukwaniritsidwa, mungayambe kumva kuti muli ndi vuto mkati. Mu mkhalidwe wotere, si zachilendo kufunafuna ubale wina kunja kwa ukwati wanu kuti mukwaniritse vuto limenelo. Mwina mnzanu, mnzanu wa kuntchito, kapena munthu wina wakale angakuthandizeni panthawi yovutayi ndipo mumadziona kuti mukumudalira kwambiri kuposa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu. Pamenepo pali njira yabwino kwambiri yopezera chibwenzi chamaganizo.
Mwamuna kapena mkazi akayamba chibwenzi ndikuyamba kuwononga nthawi ndi mphamvu zawo polimbikitsa mgwirizanowu m'malo mokonza ubale wawo womwe wawonongeka ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo, ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro 12 zomwe banja lanu latha. Ngakhale zitha kuwoneka ngati zopanda vuto chifukwa simunamiza mwaukadaulo, kutembenukira kwa munthu wachitatu kuti akwaniritse zosowa zanu zamalingaliro ndikowopsa kwambiri kuposa kusakhulupirika kwakuthupi. Ndi chizindikiro chakuti mgwirizano pakati pa inu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ukutaya phindu lake.
12. Kukondana mwakuthupi sikumakusangalatsani
Chikhumbo chofuna kukhala paubwenzi n’chofunika kwambiri kuti banja likhale labwino. Ngakhale kuti moyo wanu wogonana mutatha m'banja udzasintha zambiri pamagulu osiyanasiyana, kusowa kwathunthu kwa chikhumbo ndi mbendera yofiira. Nthawi zina, maanja amatha kudutsa magawo omwe kupsinjika kwa moyo kumapangitsa nthawi zapamtima kukhala kumbuyo. Zimenezi n’zachibadwa ndipo si chizindikiro chimodzi cha kutha kwa banja.
Komabe, ngati mutapeza kuti inu kapena mnzanuyo muli ndi libidos wathanzi komabe moyo wanu wogonana kulibe, ndiye kuti zolembazo ndizokongola kwambiri pakhoma. Dr. Khanna akufotokoza kuti kuchepa kwa ubwenzi wakuthupi kungachititse kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akhale wosasangalala, wokhumudwa, ndi kufunafuna chikhutiro kunja kwa banja.
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Zizindikiro Kuti Ukwati Wanu Watha Mafunso
Ngakhale mutadziwa kuti ukwati wanu watha, ulendo wochokera ku kukana kupita ku kuvomereza ukhoza kukhala wautali, wovuta. Ngati ngakhale zikugwirizana ndi zambiri mwa zizindikiro zochenjezazi, mukufunsabe, "Kodi ukwati wanga watha? Kodi palibe chiyembekezo chodzakhala ndi moyo?", Mwinanso kutenga zizindikiro zazifupi izi kuti banja lanu latha mafunso kungakuthandizeni kumvetsa bwino:
- Kodi inu ndi mnzanu mukuchitapo kanthu kuti muwongolere kulumikizana kwanu? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumamva okondwa poyembekeza kuwona / kukhala ndi mnzanu? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumaona kuti ndinu otetezeka m'banja mwanu? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumamukhulupirira mnzanuyo? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumayesetsa kukhala limodzi? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumakambirana za tsogolo lanu ndikukonzekera moyo wanu limodzi? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi kunyenga mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu kumawoneka kosatheka kwa inu? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mumakhutitsidwa pogonana muukwati wanu? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu amakupangitsani kumva kuti mumakondedwa? Inde / Ayi
- Kodi mukumva kukhutitsidwa m'maganizo m'banja lanu? Inde / Ayi
Ngati mwayankha ambiri mwa mafunso awa muzizindikiro izi kuti ukwati wanu watha mafunso mu ayi, tikunong'oneza bondo kunena kuti pali chiyembekezo chochepa cha tsogolo lanu ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wapano. Koma Hei, chimenecho sichinthu choyipa. Ndi bwino kuchoka pachibwenzi chomwe sichimakubweretseraninso chisangalalo kusiyana ndi kukhala ndikuvutika mwakachetechete ndikupangitsa moyo wa wina ndi mzake kukhala womvetsa chisoni panthawiyi. Ngati kukumana maso ndi maso ndi zizindikiro za banja losweka kwabweretsa sitepe pafupi ndi kuvomereza kosapeŵeka, muli panjira yoyenera.
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Ngakhale mutakhala muukwati wosweka , kuuthetsa ndikupitiriza kungakhale vuto lalikulu la maganizo. Muyenera kuthana ndi mavuto onse omwe amabwera chifukwa cha izi, yang'anani pa kuphunzira kudzikonda ndi kudzisamalira nokha ndikupezanso umunthu wanu kunja kwa ubale wanu. Ulendo uwu ukhoza kukhala wautali komanso wovuta ndipo ululu ndi nkhawa zomwe mumamva sizidzatha mwadzidzidzi, koma pang'onopang'ono, mudzapita patsogolo. Malangizo 5 othandizidwa ndi akatswiri awa okhudza kuthetsa ukwati wanu angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi vutoli:
1. Lolani kuti mukhale ndi chisoni mokwanira
Ukwati umene umatha ndi kutaya kwakukulu. Mosasamala kanthu za mavuto anu a m’banja, mudzapeza kuti mukulira imfa imeneyi, ndi kukumana ndi kamvuluvulu wamalingaliro, kuyambira pa chisoni mpaka ku mpumulo, mkwiyo, ngakhale liwongo. Kuti muchiritse ndi kupitilira, muyenera kudzilola kuti mumve malingaliro aliwonse omwe amabwera ndikumvetsa chisoni kutha kwa banja lanu.
Monga momwe zilili ndi kutayika kwina kulikonse, palibe njira yoyenera yochitira izi. Ndipo kupirira chisoni si njira yolunjika. Chomwe mungachite ndikukhala okoma mtima komanso oleza mtima ndi inu nokha. Kupatula nthawi yoganizira za momwe mukumvera kudzakubweretserani kumveka bwino komanso mtendere. Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, yemwe adapanga magawo asanu a chisoni , akugogomezera kuti "chisoni chiyenera kuwonedwa." Chifukwa chake, dalirani anzanu, abale anu, kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo kuti apeze malo otetezeka ogawana ululu wanu.
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2. Tsatirani dongosolo lanu lothandizira
Kutha kwa banja losweka kungakhale kovuta kwambiri ngati mutakhala nokha. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti musadzipatule panthawiyi, koma m'malo mwake mukhale ndi anthu omwe amakuderani nkhawa. "Mungathe ngakhale kulingalira kupanga "gulu lothandizira" la mabwenzi apamtima awiri kapena atatu kapena achibale omwe akuwona zovuta zanu pafupi.
3. Muziganizira kwambiri za kudzisamalira
Chimodzi mwa zinthu zovuta kwambiri za kutha kwa banja ndi kuti moyo monga mumadziwa kuti mulibe. Zochita zachizoloŵezi zomwe zinali mbali ya moyo wanu waukwati kulibe, ndipo izi zingakupangitseni kudzimva kuti ndinu ochotsedwa ndi otayika. Njira yabwino yothanirana ndi malingalirowa ndikukhazikitsa zizolowezi zatsopano zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala okhazikika panthawi yachisokonezo.
Kupanga chizolowezi chatsopano cha m'mawa kapena mwambo wotonthoza madzulo kungakupangitseni kumva kuti ndinu okhazikika. Kudzisamalira ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mudzipatse mphamvu pamaganizo panthawiyi, ndipo kungabwere m'njira zosiyanasiyana, monga:
- Kuyenda koyenda
- Kusinkhasinkha
- Kugona mokwanira
- Masewera olimbitsa thupi
- Kulemba
- Kukhazikitsa zolinga
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4. Dziwaninso kuti ndinu ndani
Kukhala pabanja kumatanthauza kugawana moyo wanu ndi munthu wina mwachikondi kwambiri moti mbali zina za umunthu wanu zimalumikizana. Ubwenzi umenewo ukatha, mungavutike kudziwa kuti ndinu ndani kunja kwa moyo wanu. Kodi mumakonda nyimbo za jazz kapena zinakukulirani chifukwa choti mnzanu wapamtima anazikonda? Kodi mukufuna mapilo anayi owonjezera pabedi panu kapena ndi chinthu chomwe munazolowera chifukwa mnzanu wapamtima anachikonda? Kodi Lachisanu liyenera kukhala usiku wa pizza ndi mowa kapena ndi mwambo kuyambira masiku oyambirira a ukwati wanu womwe munangouphunzira?
Mungapeze kuti mukuika mbali iliyonse ya umunthu wanu pa maikulosikopu. Mwina zimenezo n'zofunika kuti mudziŵenso umunthu wanu ndikulumikizananso ndi amene muli kunja kwa ubale umenewo. Muyenera kukhala ndi nthawi yoganiziranso zomwe mumakonda zakale, kufufuza zosangalatsa zatsopano, ndikuchita zinthu zomwe zingakuthandizeni kudzimva kuti ndinu nokha.
5. Tengani tsiku limodzi panthawi
Kodi mumatani mukatha ukwati wanu ? N'zosavuta. Musalole kuti muvutike ndi maganizo okhudza mmene moyo wanu udzakhalire panopa kapena ngati mudzakhala nokha. M'malo mwake, yang'anani pa kupirira tsiku limodzi, kuyendayenda ndi kuvomereza kusintha komwe kukubwerani.
"Ngati mukumva kuti mukulefuka, zingakuthandizeni kukhala ndi zolinga za tsiku ndi tsiku monga kuyimbira foni mnzanu, kuphika chakudya, kapena kuyeretsa mbali imodzi ya nyumba yanu. M'pofunikanso kukondwerera mapambano ang'onoang'ono m'njira, pamene akukutengerani pafupi kuti mutengenso ufulu wanu. Kupita patsogolo pang'ono, kosasinthasintha kungayambitse kusintha kwakukulu, "akutero Dr. Khanna.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Zizindikiro kuti ukwati watha zimakhala zovuta kuzizindikira chifukwa nthawi zambiri timanyalanyaza mbendera zofiira ngati chigamba chomwe chimatha.
- Kukhala ngati munthu wosakwatiwa, kusagwirizana m’maganizo ndi m’thupi, ndiponso kupeza chitonthozo pamene mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu palibe ndi zina mwa zizindikiro zoyamba kuti banja lili pamavuto.
- Kubera, kunama, kusalankhulana, ndi nkhanza ndi zizindikiro zina zochenjeza
- Sikuti ukwati uliwonse wamavuto sudzatha; kaya wanu akuyenera kukhala ndi mwayi wina zimadalira inu ndi mnzanu
Maganizo Final
Kuzindikira zizindikiro zakuti ukwati wanu watha sikophweka. Komabe, kaya izi zikutanthauza kuti ukwati wanu udzatha ndi chisudzulo kapena ayi zimadalira kuopsa kwa zizindikirozo. Ngati mavuto anu akadali m'zaka zoyambirira, yesetsani, pezani thandizo ndi chithandizo chofunikira - kaya kuchokera kwa achibale ndi abwenzi kapena kudzera mu uphungu - ndipo perekani mwayi wabwino wopulumuka ukwati wanu. Komabe, ngati mavuto anu akhala aakulu ndipo simukuona kuti ali ndi chiyembekezo chilichonse chothetsa mavutowo, dziwani kuti palibe vuto kuchoka. Muyenera kukhala osangalala, ndipo ngati chimwemwe chimenecho chili kunja kwa ukwati wanu, ndiye kuti chikhale choncho.
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