Kukhala ndi njira zothanirana ndi mikangano ndikofunikira kuti ubale uliwonse wanthawi yayitali ukhale wolimba. Zili choncho chifukwa anthu aŵiri amene ali ndi malingaliro, umunthu ndi malingaliro osiyana akakumana, pamakhala mikangano. Kusakhala okonzeka kuthana ndi kusiyana kumeneku kungapangitse mikangano yaubwenzi kukhala yovuta.
Zimenezi zikachitika, zinthu zikhoza kusokonekera mwamsanga, ndipo ubwenzi wanu ukhoza kutha. Izi zati, kukangana pakokha sikuli koyipa, bola ngati onse awiri ali okonzeka kugwira ntchito kuti akonze. Katswiri wina wa zamaganizo wa ku America Dr. Julier Gottman ananena mwachidule kuti: "Kusemphana maganizo ndi mwayi wophunzira kukonda anzathu bwino pakapita nthawi."
Tiyeni tiyesetse kupeza njira zothetsera mikangano muubwenzi ndi njira zothetsera mavuto kuti tikuthandizeni kuvomereza mbali yosasangalatsa komanso yosapeŵeka ya mgwirizano, ndi nzeru kuchokera kwa mlangizi komanso mphunzitsi wodziwa bwino ntchito za moyo Dr. Neelu Khanna , yemwe ndi katswiri pothana ndi mavuto okhudzana ndi zosowa zamaganizo ndi mikangano ya khalidwe la anthu, kusagwirizana kwa mabanja ndi mabanja osagwira ntchito bwino.
Nchiyani Chimayambitsa Mikangano mu Ubwenzi?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Mkangano waubwenzi ungabwere chifukwa cha zinthu zosiyanasiyana. Poyambirira, mitundu yonse ya mikangano mu maubwenzi achikondi ingawoneke mofanana. Onse awiri amadzipeza ali mbali zosiyana za nkhani ndipo zingakhale zovuta kuthetsa kusiyana kumeneku. Ndicho chifukwa chake zingakhale zovuta kuthetsa kusamvana muubwenzi pamene onse akumva mwamphamvu.
Komabe, ngati muyang'anitsitsa pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya mikangano mu maubwenzi, iliyonse ili ndi zoyambitsa zake ndi zifukwa zake. Musanafufuze njira zothetsera kusamvana m'maubwenzi, ndikofunika kupeza gwero la vuto. Malinga ndi Dr. Khanna, zotsatirazi ndi zinthu 6 zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano pakati pa maanja:
1. Kudzikonda ndizomwe zimayambitsa mikangano paubwenzi
"Ngati mufufuza zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano muubwenzi , kudzikonda kudzawoneka ngati chimodzi mwa zinthu zomwe zimayambitsa kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri, anthu amaganizira kwambiri zosowa zawo ndi zilakolako zawo kotero kuti amaiwala kuona momwe izi zimakhudzira okondedwa awo," akutero Dr. Khanna.
Mkangano ukhoza kubuka pakati pa maanja ngati m'modzi walephera kuyika mnzake pazosankha zofunika pamoyo. Kaya ndinu odzikonda muubwenzi kapena mnzanu, chizolowezi choyika zosowa zanu nthawi zonse patsogolo pa za SO kapena ubale wanu ukhoza kusokoneza mgwirizano wanu.
Mosasamala kanthu kuti izi zimachitika mosadziwa kapena mwadala, zimakhudza thanzi la ubale. Ngakhale kudziteteza ndikofunikira, kulephera kuika patsogolo ubale wanu kapena kusayika zofuna za mnzanu patsogolo pa zanu ndi chimodzi mwa zitsanzo za mikangano mu maubwenzi.
2. Kusalankhula bwino kungapangitse kusiyana kwakukulu
Mavuto olankhulana pakati pa okwatirana ndi ofala kwambiri. Pamene kudzikuza, malingaliro osathetsedwa, ndi mavuto akale ayamba, luso lofotokoza momwe mukumvera limayamba kusokonekera. "Kulankhulana kosayenera sikungokhudza zomwe mumanena kapena zomwe simumachita komanso momwe mumanenera. Kuthana ndi mikangano yaubwenzi kungakhale kovuta kwambiri ngati kulankhulana kukuyang'ana pa mikangano," akutero Dr. Khanna.
Pamene onse awiri afuna kutsimikizira kuti akunena zoona, kulankhulana kwabwino kumalephereka. Izi zimabweretsa kuchulukira kwa mikangano ndikukulitsa kusamvana mu ubale. Mukapanda kumvera okondedwa anu ndikumvetsetsa komwe akuchokera, ngakhale tinthu tating'onoting'ono kwambiri titha kuyambitsa mkangano pakati panu ndi anzanu.
3. Kusungirana chakukhosi kumadzetsa mikangano pakati pa okondedwa
Ngati m’modzi kapena onse aŵiri amakonda kukhumudwitsana kaŵirikaŵiri, kukhumudwa kumazika mizu. Munthu amene wavulazidwayo sangafotokoze zakukhosi kwake kwa wokondedwa wake momasuka koma amamva kusakhutira. Pamene malingalirowa ayamba kukula, okondedwa amatha kukhala kutali pakapita nthawi. Kuthetsa kusamvana kwa maanja kumakhala kosatheka pamene mikangano yawo ili yodzala ndi zowawa zozama za wina ndi mzake.
Maganizo oipa osathetsedwa amawonjezera mkwiyo m'banja kapena muubwenzi. Izi sizimangoyambitsa mikangano komanso zimapangitsa kuti kuthetsa kusamvana kukhale kovuta. Zimenezi zikachitika, chilakolako chokonza kusamvana muubwenzi kapena kuthetsa kusamvana chimatha.
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4. Kudzudzula nthawi zonse kumakulitsa mikangano paubwenzi
Palibe amene amakonda kunyozedwa nthawi zonse kapena kudzudzulidwa. Makamaka osati ndi mnzanu. Mkangano uyenera kuzika mizu muubwenzi umene anthu amadzudzulana ndi kufufuza zolakwa nthawi zonse. Pamene mnzako wina akuimba mlandu mnzakeyo ndi kuba ngongole chifukwa cha chitukuko chabwino, zimasokoneza ubalewo, "akufotokoza motero Dr. Khanna.
Kudzudzula ndi kukakamirana sikungangoyambitsa mikangano koma kungapangitsenso ngakhale njira zothetsa mikangano zomwe zakhala zikuyesedwa kwanthaŵi yaitali kukhala zosathandiza. Kuphwanya dongosololi ndi kuphunzira kudzudzula m'njira yabwino ndikofunikira kuti m'malo mwaubwenzi woyipa ukhale wabwino.
5. Kuyembekezera zinthu zosatheka kungayambitsenso mavuto m’paradaiso
Pafupifupi tonsefe takulira pamalingaliro akuti 'mwachimwemwe mpaka kalekale', 'kalonga wokongola' ndi 'ankhondo ovala zida zowala'. Malinga ndi Dr. Khanna, iwo omwe ali ndi malingaliro odabwitsawa mu maubwenzi awo akuluakulu amadziika okha pamavuto. Kuyika ziyembekezo zosayembekezereka kwa mnzako kapena kuyika malire apamwamba kwambiri pazolinga zaubwenzi kumabweretsa kukhumudwa.
Zimenezo zimakhala chifukwa chosalekeza cha mikangano ndi kusamvana muubwenzi. Komabe, si kulakwa kuyembekezera zinthu zina kuchokera kwa mnzanu. M'malo mwake, ziyembekezo zenizeni muubwenzi ndizofunikira kuti pakhale ubale wabwino. Okwatirana ayenera kusamalira ziyembekezo moyenera kuti zisasinthe kukhala gwero la kusamvana.
6. Katundu wakale amatha kuyambitsa mikangano muubwenzi
Dr. Khanna akunena kuti katundu wakale wa munthu akhoza kuwonekeranso mumitundu yosiyanasiyana ya mikangano mu maubwenzi. “Zokumana nazo zoipa m’maunansi akale, mmene analeredwera, zokumana nazo paubwana, kuzunzidwa ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wakale, makolo kapena abale, zonse zingayambukire unansi wamakono wa munthu.
Chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zakale za mikangano ya mabanja ndi nkhani zokhulupirirana zomwe zimayambitsidwa ndi anthu omwe adanyengedwa kale. Zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu zimalepheretsa munthuyo kudalira kwathunthu okondedwa ake. Kukayikira kapena mantha kuti wokondedwa wake wapano adzamuperekanso mwanjira yomweyo kumamupangitsa kuti ayambe kuimba mlandu ndi kuimba mlandu. Mosakayikira, izi zimayambitsa mikangano, ndewu, mikangano ndi mikangano zomwe zingawononge ubalewo.
Mitundu Ya Mikangano Mu Maubwenzi
Monga taonera, si mikangano yonse mu maubwenzi achikondi imapangidwa mofanana. Kuchuluka kwa zinthu zomwe zingayambitse mikangano mu maubwenzi ndizosiyana ndipo kukula kwa mikangano kumasiyana, malingana ndi zomwe zimayambitsa komanso thanzi la chiyanjano. Momwemonso, mitundu ya mikangano mu maubwenzi ingakhalenso yosiyana.
Kutengera zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano pakati pa anthu awiri, mikangano imatha kuwonekera m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Ngati onse awiri alephera kuthetsa kusamvana kwabwino mu maubwenzi, mikanganoyi imatha kukhala poizoni.
Kuti izi zisakuchitikireni, tiyeni tiwone mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya mikangano mu maubwenzi kuti muthe kuzindikira zovutazo ndikuzichotsa mumphukira:
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1. Kudzudzulidwa kosalekeza
Chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zofala kwambiri za mikangano mu maubwenzi ndi kudzudzulidwa kosalekeza ndi m'modzi kapena onse awiri. Mukamangokhalira kukankhira mnzanuyo, kuwauza zonse zomwe sizikusangalatsa za umunthu wake, kapena mosemphanitsa, zidzayatsa moto wachikondi ndi chikondi zomwe zidakubweretsani pamodzi poyamba.
Kupatula apo, kukhala mkazi wokonda kudandaula amene saganiza kuti mwamuna wake angachite chilichonse choyenera kapena mwamuna wosaganizira ena amene sangalephere kufotokoza zolakwa za mwamuna wake kumatanthauza kuti palibe ulemu pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ngati palibe chikondi, chikondi ndi ulemu, kusamvana muubwenzi kungakupangitseni kumva ngati muli pankhondo.
2. Kunyozana
Zina mwazinthu zomwe zingayambitse mikangano muubwenzi, kunyozedwa kumakhala pamwamba pa piramidi. Pamene mkangano pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi kapena zibwenzi ziŵiri ziyambika ndi katundu wa zosoŵa ndi zoyembekeza zosakwanira, kumawonekera mwa kunyozedwa. Simumaganiza kuti mnzanuyo ndi wabwino mokwanira chifukwa simunachire ku zowawa zomwe mwina adakubweretserani m'mbuyomu, ngakhale zazing'ono kapena zochepa.
Kuthetsa mikangano kwa okwatirana kumakhala vuto lalikulu chifukwa mikangano yawo ndi kusamvana kwawo sikungokhala nkhani yokhayo. Kusiyana kulikonse kwa malingaliro kumakhala mwayi wokambirana nkhani zonse zakale, zomwe zimakusiyani mukukangana komweko mobwerezabwereza.
3. Kudziteteza
Mtundu wina wofala wa mikangano muubwenzi umadziwika ndi kudziteteza. Mumawona ndewu ina mtsogolo ndipo mumadziwa kuti izi zikutanthauza kungoyambitsanso chisokonezo ndi kusunthana chala . Mnzanu asanakhale ndi mwayi woti akuimbeni mlandu, mumapeza chitetezo chonse ndikuyika udindo pa iye.
Kusemphana maganizo m'maubwenzi kumapangitsa okondedwa kutetezana ndikutembenukirana wina ndi mzake, ndi chizindikiro chodetsa nkhawa kuti mikangano yakula. Mumadziona ngati wozunzidwa, ndipo samalani kuti mupewe zotsatira zoipa za nkhondo inanso.
4. Kugwetsa miyala
Kukonza matabwa ndi chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zakale za mikangano muubwenzi. Pamene kusamvana muubwenzi kumakhala kofala kwambiri, ngakhale lingaliro loti muchitenso zomwezo likhoza kukutopetsani maganizo. Chifukwa chake, mumatseka mnzanu mwa kukana kulankhula naye ndikumuletsa kulankhula - komwe kumatchedwa stonewalling.
Lingaliro apa sikuti mutenge nthawi kuti mukhazikike mtima pansi kuti muthane nawo mwamtendere koma kuti mwadala mupweteke m'maganizo potsekereza mnzanu. Pamene mikangano mu maubwenzi okondana imayambitsa kugwa mwala, ndi chizindikiro chochenjeza cha kugwirizana kwasanduka koopsa. Pakati pa mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya mikangano mu maubwenzi, izi ndizovuta kwambiri kuthetsa.
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Magawo A Kusamvana
Mikangano yaubwenzi imayamba kale zizindikiro zoyamba za kusagwirizana zisanayambe. Ngakhale kuti magawowa a kusamvana paubwenzi sangakhale ofanana nthawi zonse, kuwamvetsetsa kungakuthandizeni kuzindikira zizindikiro zochenjeza msanga. Choncho, pangani njira zothetsera mikangano pakapita nthawi. Nawa magawo 5 ofunikira a kusamvana paubwenzi omwe muyenera kuwayang'anira:
1. Kusokonezeka kwamkati
Mumtima mwanu mumadziwa kuti pali vuto mu ubale wanu. Koma inu simunathe kuyika chala pa izo panobe. Vuto ngati sungathe kutchula vuto, sungathe kuchitapo kanthu kuti ulithane nalo. Ngakhale zili choncho, musanyalanyaze maganizo amenewa. Gwiritsani ntchito ngati chowongolera kuti muwonetsere ubale wanu.
2. Kupewa nkhani
M’kupita kwa nthawi zinthu zimene zili m’chibwenzi zimaonekera bwino. Pamenepa, okwatirana ambiri amapeŵa kukambitsirana zovuta za mavuto awo m’malo molimbana nawo monga gulu. Kutsuka nkhani pansi pa kapeti ndi njira yopanda zida zothanirana nazo. Imodzi yomwe imabwerera kumbuyo, pafupifupi nthawi zonse.
Kugwira ntchito yokonza kulumikizana muubwenzi kungalepheretse mavuto kukula ndikuchepetsa mavutowo akangoyamba kumene m'malo mowalola kuti ayambe kukula kwambiri.
3. Kuwona wokondedwa wanu ngati mdani
Kusathana ndi mikangano paubwenzi kumabweretsa zovuta komanso malingaliro oyipa. Umayamba kuona mnzanuyo ngati mdani. Ngakhale zing'onozing'ono zomwe zimasemphana maganizo zimatha kuphulika, ndipo mumayamba kutengerana wina ndi mzake kuchokera kumalo okwiyitsa, mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo. Panthawi imeneyi, mumayamba kumenyana komweko mobwerezabwereza popanda kuthetsa. Awa akhoza kukhala malo otopetsa kwambiri kukhalamo.
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4. Kufuna kutsimikiziridwa ndi ena
Ngati mkangano waubwenzi upitirira gawo lachitatu popanda kuthetsa, ukhoza kubweretsa kusagwirizana kwakukulu pakati pa okwatirana. Tsopano, mukuyamba kuonetsa zovala zanu zonyansa pagulu ndikupempha kuti mutsimikizire zomwe mwachita poyerekeza ndi mnzanuyo kuchokera kwa abale anu ndi anzanu. Inu kapena mnzanuyo mungayambe kugwiritsa ntchito makambirano achinsinsi kapena mikangano yodzudzulana pagulu. Zizolowezi zotere ndi chizindikiro chakuti mukukhala banja loipa.
5. Zizindikiro zaukali
Pa gawo lachisanu komanso lomaliza la mkangano waubwenzi, nkhanza zimalowa muubwenzi. Mkwiyo sikutanthauza chiwawa chenicheni. Ungagwere m'malo mwa kunyoza mpaka kukangana. Kukwiyirana kapena kungokhala chete, kunyoza mnzanu kapena kupsa mtima ndi mitundu yonse ya nkhanza yokha. Nthawi zina, nkhanza zimatha kuonekera ngati kupsa mtima.
8 Njira Zothetsera Mikangano Zomwe Mungayesere
Mikangano muubwenzi ingapangitse okwatirana kumva kuti akuukiridwa komanso akuopsezedwa. Ndizachibadwa kuchita zinthu modziteteza pazochitika zotere. Ngakhale okwatirana ambiri amakwanitsa kubwezana akamenyana , mavuto akuluakulu nthawi zambiri sathetsedwa. Nazi njira 8 zothandiza zothetsera mikangano zomwe mungayesere kukonza mavuto muubwenzi wanu ndikulumikizana bwino ndi mnzanu:
1. Bwezeraninso chidwi kuchokera kwa inu nokha kupita ku ubale
Momwe mungathetsere kusamvana muubwenzi pamene onse akumva mwamphamvu? Funso limeneli limakhudza maganizo a anthu okwatirana amene ali ndi maganizo otsutsana. "Choyamba apa ndikupumitsa maganizo anu. Longoletsani mphamvu zanu kuthetsa vuto lomwe lilipo m'malo mopweteka kapena mkwiyo womwe mungakhale nawo. Imodzi mwa njira zothandiza kwambiri zothetsera kusamvana kwa maanja ndi kusachitirana wina ndi mzake ngati adani," Dr. Khanna akutero.
Kusintha kwakung'ono kumeneku kumatha kukuthandizani kuti mudziyang'ane nokha ndi mnzanu ngati gulu komanso kusamvana kwanu ngati mdani wamba.
2. Gwiritsani ntchito kulankhulana kuti mutseke mipata pothana ndi kusamvana pa ubale
Mukudabwa kuti mumathetsa bwanji kusamvana paubwenzi? Dziwani kuti kugwiritsa ntchito kulumikizana ngati chida cholumikizira mipata ndikusakulitsa ndi gawo lofunikira kwambiri pakuchitapo kanthu. Nthawi zonse mukakumana ndi vuto, musagwiritse ntchito mawu anu kuyambitsa mikangano ndi mikangano. M’malo mwake, sankhani mosamala kuti mupeze mfundo yapakati yovomerezeka kwa onse awiri.
Dr. Khanna akuti, "M'malo mwa mawu monga 'mumachita izi nthawi zonse', 'ndinadziwa kuti munganene kuti' kapena 'chifukwa chiyani simukumvetsa kamodzi' ndi 'Ndimamva momwe mukumvera, koma ...' kapena 'Ndikudziwa kuti simuli omasuka. Nanga bwanji ife ...' Maubwenzi a nthawi yaitali kapena maukwati amafunikira kusagwirizana ndi kusintha. Pamene mukulolera kupereka zimenezo, nthawi zambiri mumabwezera mnzanuyo mwa kusintha maganizo anu kuposa kusabwezera." Nkhani imayankhidwa isanaphulike. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwa njira zothetsera mikangano zomwe pafupifupi nthawi zonse zimapanga chinyengo.
3. Onani kusamvana ngati mwayi
Nayi imodzi mwamawu abwino kwambiri otsutsana paubwenzi omwe muyenera kukhala nawo, "Pamapeto pa tsikulo, mutha kuyang'ana kwambiri zomwe zikukusokonezani kapena zomwe zikukupangitsani kukhala limodzi." Lingaliro logwiritsa ntchito mikangano ngati mwayi lakhazikika pamalingaliro awa pa maubwenzi. Mukasemphana maganizo ndi mnzanuyo, musagwiritse ntchito mphamvu zanu poyesa kupambana kapena kutsimikizira mfundo yanu.
"Palibe phindu popangitsa mnzanuyo kutaya mulimonse. Gwiritsani ntchito ngati mwayi womvetsetsa komwe inu nonse mumasiyana pamalingaliro anu ndi momwe mungagwirizanitse mfundo zanu zambiri. Simungapambane 100% ya nthawiyo koma padzakhala kupita patsogolo kotsimikizika. Muzochitika zomwe simungathe kuvomerezana ndi mnzanuyo, phunzirani kulemekeza maganizo awo ndikuvomereza kusiyana kwanu, "akutero Dr. Khanna.
Kuphunzira kulemekeza kusiyana kwanu ndi kuvomereza kusagwirizana pa nkhani zina ndi bankable kuthetsa mikangano mu ubwenzi pamene onse akumva mwamphamvu.
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4. Nthabwala ndi imodzi mwa njira zopanda umboni zothetsera kusamvana
Ngakhale maubwenzi abwino nthawi zina amakumana ndi mavuto. Izi zimachitika mukakumana ndi mavuto muubwenzi wanu kapena moyo wanu. Nthabwala zingakhale njira yabwino yothetsera mavuto muubwenzi ndikumasuka ku mikangano ndi kusagwirizana.
"Ngati mukumva kuti mkangano wina ukukulirakulira kapena kukulirakulira, gwiritsani ntchito nthabwala kuti muwononge ndikuchotsa. Yesani nthabwala yakale yamkati, yimbani nyimbo, fotokozani chikumbukiro chakale. Pamene mugwirana wina ndi mnzake muli tcheru, zimakhala zosavuta kugwirizana. Mwadzidzidzi, ngakhale mkangano waukulu kwambiri udzawoneka ngati wopanda pake," Dr. Khanna akupereka lingaliro.
5. Mafunso ndi ofunikira pakuthetsa kusamvana mu maubwenzi
Chabwino, osachepera, mafunso oyenera. Iyi ndi imodzi mwa njira zothetsera mikangano zomwe zingathandize kwambiri maanja omwe akuopa kuti kusiyana maganizo kungawononge ubale wawo. Fufuzani zakale zanu ndikudzifunsa mafunso oyenera kuti mupeze mavuto omwe sanathetsedwe omwe akuyambitsa mikangano.
"Ndi nthawi yanji yomwe ubale wanu unasintha kwambiri? Kodi panali vuto lalikulu? Kapena kodi pent up ya nkhani zazing'ono zinayambitsa kusweka? Kodi ubale wanu umabwezedwa ndi zikhulupiriro zina zochepetsera? Kodi mukufuna tsogolo lotani ndi mnzanuyo? Kodi mungamangire bwanji? Kufunsa mafunso ovuta ngati amenewa ndi imodzi mwa njira zomwe zayesedwa nthawi zambiri kuthetsa mikangano, "akutero Dr. Khanna.
Mafunso awa ndi ena mwa mafunso oti akuthandizeni kuyamba njira yodzifufuza. Komabe, onetsetsani kuti mwayamba kuchita izi ndi maganizo oyenera. Cholinga chake ndi kuthetsa mikangano osati kungosinthana mlandu.
6. Kodi mumathetsa bwanji kusamvana muubwenzi? Yambani ndi kuvomereza
Tonsefe tili ndi gawo lathu la zizolowezi, machitidwe ndi zizolowezi zosafunikira. Ngati mukufuna kuthetsa mikangano yosatha muubwenzi wanu, kuvomereza makhalidwe 'oipa' a mnzanu ndikofunikira. Ganizirani zomwe mumakonda pa iwo kapena momwe amakupangitsani kumva m'malo mwa zovuta ndi zizolowezi zomwe zimakuyendetsani khoma.
"Mukaphunzira kuvomereza kuti mnzanuyo ndi munthu wokhala ndi mphamvu ndi zofooka, makhalidwe abwino ndi oipa, mbali zosasangalatsa za umunthu wawo sizidzakuvutitsaninso. Monga choncho, mikangano yobwerezabwereza ponena za kusiya thaulo yonyowa pabedi kapena kuthera nthawi yochuluka pa foni idzakhala yosakhala nkhani, "akutero Dr. Khanna.
7. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, zindikirani machitidwe anu oipa
Mofanana ndi mnzanu, inunso muli ndi zofooka ndi zofooka zanu. Kugwira ntchito kuzindikira ndi kuyesa kuthetsa izo ndi imodzi mwa njira zofunika kwambiri zothetsera kusamvana mu maubwenzi.
Mukuyang'ana zitsanzo zingapo za mikangano kuti mumvetse mtundu wa mavuto omwe muyenera kuyesetsa kuthetsa? Taganizirani izi: Tiyerekeze kuti mumakonda kutseka chibwenzi chanu ndikuyamba kudzipatula mukakumana ndi mikangano. Chifukwa cha izi, mumakhala chete pankhondo iliyonse . Kusalankhulana, kumakwiyitsa kwambiri. Ndipo ngakhale mgwirizano waung'ono umasanduka ndewu yayitali.
Zikumveka bwino? Eya, nthawi ina mukadzakangana, yesetsani kuthetsa vutoli. Ngati simungathe kuyambitsa kukambirana, khalani omasuka pamene mnzanuyo ayesetsa.
8. Kukhululuka kuli chinsinsi chothetsera kusamvana mu maubwenzi
Kukangana kwanthawi yaitali ndi kusiyana kungayambitse kukhumudwa, kukwiya, kusakhulupirirana muubwenzi. Zowonjezereka ngati kukhulupirirana pakati pa abwenzi kumapambana. Zikatero, imodzi mwa njira zabwino zothetsera kusamvana ndi kukhululuka.
" Kukhululukirana muubwenzi kungathandize kwambiri kulimbitsa ubale wanu ngakhale mutakumana ndi zovuta ndi zabwino. Komabe, si chinthu chomwe chingapezeke mwadzidzidzi. Zimafunika kugwira ntchito mwakhama komanso khama kuti muvomereze zolakwa, kuyika mnzanu patsogolo ndikudzipereka kuti muonetsetse kuti zinthu zikuyenda bwino. Mukakwaniritsa, zotsatira zake zingakhale zodabwitsa pakuthetsa mikangano muubwenzi," akutero Dr. Khanna.
Ubale si wophweka. Amafuna kusamalidwa kosalekeza ndi kusamaliridwa. Ngakhale kuti pali zolakwika ndi zosiyana, maubwenzi ambiri ndi ofunika kuyesetsa. Choncho musanalole mgwirizano wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu kufota, perekani njira zothetsera kusamvana izi.
Ibibazo
Njira yabwino yothanirana ndi mikangano muubwenzi ndikukumbukira nthawi zonse kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo simuli adani koma gulu. Musalole kusiyana ndi mikangano kugawanitse inu.
Pofuna kuchepetsa mikangano muubwenzi, onse awiri ayenera kudzipereka kulimbikitsa kulankhulana kwabwino ndi kuthetsa nkhani zikayamba. Osasesa zinthu pansi pa kapeti kapena kumeza malingaliro anu pofuna kusunga mtendere ndi mgwirizano. Zizolowezi zimenezi zidzabweranso kudzakuvutitsani pambuyo pake.
Kukhululuka, kuvomereza, kuzindikira zolakwa zake, kulankhulana kwabwino, kugwira ntchito pamodzi, kuseka komanso kufunsa mafunso oyenera ndi zigawo zikuluzikulu za njira zothetsera kusamvana.
Njira yabwino yothetsera mikangano ndikulowa muubwenzi ndi slate yoyera - izi zikutanthauza kukonza katundu wanu wakale musanapange ma bond atsopano - ndikusunga momwemo posalola kuti zinthu zisamayende bwino.
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